CLEAN MAMA vs FLYLADY (Battle of the Cleaning Routines)

I tried both Clean mama and Flylady's cleaning routines for a week, and now in this video I will review both and decide which one I like better!
⬇️Click here to watch me try the CLEAN MAMA routine for one week:
• I Tried the Clean Mama...
⬇️Click here to watch me try the FLYLADY routine for one week:
• I Tried the Flylady Cl...

[@ThatAwkwardMom]

Who's cleaning routine do you like better, Cleanmama's or Flylady's?

[@jenniferreynolds3232]

I think I prefer a hybrid. Cleanmama's daily/weekly and Flylady's monthly zone cleaning. Keep it simple and get it done! :)

[@uke7084]

With 3 kids, one being a toddler, I like CleanMama routine. More straightforward, and my home does require daily tasks.

[@LorenMarieP]

Definitely FLY Lady. She is also so loving in her guidance!

[@lifeasweknowit530]

Clean mamma for me, I work 7am till 5pm no way could I do fly lady's routin in my 4 bedroom house and no way am I cleaning when I shower thats my only me time haha

[@lisaharvey4740]

Flylady

[@37shadowwolf15]

Either way I feel like both of these are ment for stay at home moms, would love a cleaning routine for people who are out of the house 40+ hours a week. Just gose to show that maintaining a home really is a full time job within itself

[@irishlizzie]

Check out The Secret Slob whose sister has made several videos, posted on Secret Slobs channel, using flylady as a working mom!

[@zannahhach179]

Fly lady definitely works when working. I just feel the days could be swapped around.

[@coffeetime777]

I would wake up make my bed, get dressed and do a load of laundry before I left for work. Most of the time I would get dinner prepped before I left. I did a lot of crockpot meals. Then when I got home I would finish the load of laundry, swish and swipe, then do the dishes after dinner, do one 15 minute chore, such as floors, dust, or clean the fridge out. Take my shower, set out my next day clothes, then go to bed. On my day off, I would clean one zone after the morning routine and change bedding. I hope this helps you out. It seems a lot, but most of my day off things took about an hour.

[@cathycoryell2351]

Apply the 15 minutes timer in the evening. I use the am, to make and pack lunches, and move laundry from washer to dryer , or fold, so I know that am already is. And, kids get something, most days as well. All are less than 15 minutes, once they know how to do it. First few weeks I do it with them, or watch them nearby, then they get annoyed and say "I know how to do this". And voila... you're raising a great human!

[@robinspear7895]

Flylady says her system can be used by anybody even full time working people.

[@christineanddean]

“Cleaning done imperfectly still blesses the family” is my go to. I just need to do it. It doesn’t need to be perfect, just done. I’ve found that spending an hour cleaning “imperfectly” every week keeps me way more on track than waiting until I have a full day to deep clean.

[@Kate_P]

Best shower cleaning tip I’ve ever found. Use one of the Vileda dish cleaning wands. Keep it in your shower filled with dish soap (I like dawn the best as I think it works the best on soap scum - do not put a chemical cleaner in here you do not want that in a steamy shower to breathe in!). Then a couple times a week when you are in the shower do a scrub down of your doors/walls. It’s super easy and keeps it sparkling clean. You might need to do a little work up front to get rid of any soap scum build up (which the Vileda sponge head it perfect for and doesn’t scratch your glass). But once you have it clean a quick scrub down a couple times a week keeps it so clean and it’s awesome. My glass shower doors had no more soap build up on them ever!

[@ThatAwkwardMom]

Great tip, thanks for sharing!

[@cor-cd8dt]

Thank you for such a great idea!

[@randihill3915]

I do this too! But I use a scotch dish scrubber, and I do dawn and vinegar in it. And then my kids(7 and 2) wash that tub and walls either as part of helping mom clean the bathroom or as play when they’re in the tub. They love it and once a week I do my own scrub of it getting whatever they’ve missed that week.

[@robinagaines6388]

@@randihill3915 I love incorporating children to help.

[@lunadepana]

Thank you! I have been looking for a shower cleaning hack for ages! Greetings from Germany.

[@JenniferValerie]

FlyLady for sure. And she has said in the past that one can spread the weekly home blessing over the week by doing one each day if that suits one's schedule better.

[@ThatAwkwardMom]

Oh cool! I didn't know that.

[@HappySunshineDay]

@@ThatAwkwardMom I also choose FlyLady. I've been working her system (preceded by S.H.E. Cards!) for 20 or more years. I want to share something you may have missed on her (yes, it's outdated) website. Under Shiny Sink 101, there is this "Note: Follow this procedure the first time you shine your sink. You do NOT need to follow this method every day. Just keep up the shine with a little window cleaner." So, once you perform the First Time Shiny Sink, your nightly routine will include a very much abbreviated version of maintaining that shine. I hope this helps :)

[@Carla-hl3fm]

Glad I saw this! I can’t do an hour like that, but I can split it up!

[@kathrynkij5979]

This video is a perfect example of why I like to take all my favorite parts out of the different plans and make my own that’s way perfect for me. And your video is so detailed, it’s perfect for making a list isolating all my favorite parts. 😄

[@ThatAwkwardMom]

Hey, nothing wrong with that! Got to do what works for you 👍

[@Rosannasfriend]

Me too, though I’m still more influenced by fly lady than the other people. It’s a combination of my own method and fly lady that I do. With a few tips from everybody else, including the awkward mom.

[@kathrynkij5979]

@@Rosannasfriend that’s so awesome! ❤️

[@wendyj.3858]

I've been a Flybaby for 5 years now and I'm company ready everyday! I don't freak out when the door bell rings anymore!

[@ThatAwkwardMom]

I love that!!! That's encouraging, thanks for sharing 🙂

[@staciashumway7806]

I’m a Flybaby of 20 years now, got me through a divorce, new marriage, combining households of 2 kids & 4 kids, then an additional child, very flexible routines that can be customized to your own needs!

[@wendyj.3858]

@@staciashumway7806 That's why I love Flylady too! You can't go wrong with it!

[@NikkiMA]

I've tried FlyLady and I found it to be so overwhelming that I quit almost immediately. I have used Clean Mama for years and it's so simple to follow. I just print out the free monthly calendar and check off the tasks as I go along. My house is almost always company ready thanks to Clean Mama!

[@ProgressOverPerfction]

CM appeals to me more because you’re actually able to do the daily and be done.

[@SarahH-rh2jx]

FlyLady is SO MUCH to keep track of. And don’t sign up for her emails…good god, you’ll be inundated 17 times a day with ads for her cloths and brooms or just like, random inane stuff. Apparently one of your daily tasks needs to be “delete every FlyLady email”.

[@rawcurls1]

@@SarahH-rh2jx I agree all the emails are too much. I felt very scatter-brained doing that system as well.

[@HereIAm247]

To each their own - different routines works better for different types of people. :) I am a big fan of flylady. I don't follow *all* her points, only the ones relevant to me. I find it super easy to costumize, once you figure out the system. And it keeps my house clean with very little effort - and my stress levels way down. But I don't subscribe to the emails either; I just read a thing or two in the app if I feel like it, and then follow the customized routine. :) Though I will say, decluttering/minimalism-ish, as well as good organisation makes it a lot easier to follow any cleaning routine. It seems like a lot, but honestly, it is not. Because most of the tasks takes no time, and a lot of them are basic things you need to do anyway. Morning - Check your calendar - Pull back sheets to the end of the bed (giving it time to 'air out' before I make it) - Get dressed to shoes (includes shower, of course) - Empty dishwasher - Brush teeth - Make bed - Take out trash (if it needs to) Afternoon - What's for dinner - Swish & Swipe (if needed) - Declutter or zone clean 15 minutes - Home blessing task of the day (I split mine over the week, instead of doing a full hour at once) Night - Check calendar and forecast - Lay out tomorrows clothes - Put things at launch pad - Quick tidy (I basically do a quick 'sweep' of every room, and put everything where it belongs. I do this instead of the hotspot. I focus on putting things back after use, so this doesn't take very long. I also have a decorative box, where I can dump stuff. This is my only hotspot now, and I have this on my home blessing tasks instead. But since I decluttered, everything have a home, and it rarely gets used.) - Shine sink (includes dishes, counters, etc.) - Wash face, brush teeth - Go to bed at a decent hour Home blessing - Vacuum - Dust, water plants - Mop floors - Clean mirrors and doors - Clean out handbag, or take care of paper clutter/magazines - Change sheets - Laundry

[@noth9617]

​@@SarahH-rh2jxthis made me laugh 😂 clean the emails she sends. Hilarious. Fly lady lost me when she said I need to clean the bedding in 10 minutes. I have 4 kids and dont share a room with my husband. It takes me 10 minutes to change each of the six beds and then I have to divide the washing up into 4 or more loads to get it all laundered. I definitely need clean mamas Saturday sheets day to clean the bedding. I'm lazy though I usually opt to change half the bedding each week and each bed gets done once a fortnite

[@LucianaGL]

I haven’t finished watching the video, and I already love the flylady, just because she motivates you to care for yourself so you can care for your home and others. And that’s great! 🥰

[@ThatAwkwardMom]

Yeah, she's a sweet woman!

[@happymamaof5803]

Honestly the concepts of “swish and swipe” and “housework done imperfectly still blesses your family” is making a HUGE difference in my home.

[@blup7]

FLY stands for Finally Love Yourself. This is a huge part of the FLYlady method. She has a free app that is super motivational as you tick off all the tasks you get done. It's more than cleaning your home, it's changing your mindset. When we were younger we may have had to do chores at home and hated them, but now it's your own home, and you can bless it any way you want. I love that you can drop the perfectionism. Ahhh such a relief. ♡ ❤️ ♡

[@mistyduke880]

I was into the FlyLady routine for several years when my kids were little. Even though I don’t stick to her plan consistently anymore, the tricks and habits I picked up were so helpful and I still use today. Making the bed, putting shoes on, and keeping the sink shiny are my favorites.

[@franhunne8929]

I think that is the wonderful thing about flylady. By getting you used to a schedule, you develop a routine and for tasks like chores routine is everything. You do it because it is what you do, at this time, in this place, under these circumstances. No excuses. After a while you do it without having to think too much about it, things become habits. Natural part of your life. And then they do not stress you out so much.

[@dawnchesbro4189]

Still don't understand why she wants you to wear your shoes indoor. It brings all the dirt and crud in from the outside. I prefer the Japanese method of removing shoes in the vestibule and wearing socks or house slippers indoors. It keeps my floors clean for longer.

[@franhunne8929]

@@dawnchesbro4189 I can partly relate to it, prefer slippers myself in my appartment, as I hate to scrub the floors. But I also see the benefits of being dressed to leave the house. Whenever I want to go shopping, I first have to change from jogging pants into a pair of jeans, then put on shoes. And then also think of all the things I want to take down with me - trash, recyclables, empty yoghurt glasses with a deposit on etc. It takes me ages to go out. If I already was dressed to leave any time, I'd be off simpler.

[@dawnchesbro4189]

@@franhunne8929 that's why I get fully dressed to go out, except the shoes, which stay by my front door. I use a shoe horn to easily slip into them and go out the door! I use a nice shoe rack to hold a variety of shoes, dependent on weather.

[@shawnaford5540]

@@dawnchesbro4189 I have designated indoor shoes, it was hard to get used to as traditionally we do not wear shoes in the house.

[@karsn8382]

This is a great video! I have been following Flylady for over 15 years and she has helped me keep my home clean and clutter free. I think a lot of people don’t understand that her entire philosophy is to Love Yourself (FLY-Finally Loving Yourself). She doesn’t want people to demand perfection from themselves or anyone else and her timer method is a very effective way to get things done, especially for me since I have some attention difficulties. I do Zone Cleaning but I follow my own schedule for that, and Flylady encourages you to make your routines work for you, but to also not expect perfection.

[@marysusa6985]

Flylady for the win! It's so nice and simple and since you're doing a little every day, you don't ever have to scrub because everything is relatively clean. Using a timer is a game changer for sure. Never knew it only takes 2 min to swish and swipe my toilet and vanity until I used a timer, and when I do it on a daily basis. My bathrooms are perpetually clean. It's amazingly simple.

[@santievandermerwe]

I have been a flybaby for more than a decade, though I customized my routines. I have fibromyalgia and the small do-able tasks help me to keep my home decent. When times are rough and I can't think properly I go back to my flylady lists. I also find that making my bed and shining my sink are nice bookends for my day.

[@ThatAwkwardMom]

I'm sorry you have to deal with that, it must be hard. Im glad that you found a routine that works for you 😊

[@franhunne8929]

I have never fully made it into a flybaby. But I have started my own routines because I see how small changes can make a big difference. I have Monday - Thursday trash that needs being taken out: Compostable on Monday, cat-litter box on Tuesday, the rest of trash on Wednesday - and recycle-able paper and plastic wrappings on Thursday (as that is the day those are collected). After making that a routine, I do not forget about it anymore. Each day I leave for work I take that bag and put it into the bin/out. And glass, if I have enough of it, I take out on Fridays. Nightly shining my sink? Not going to happen - but I wash up (being a single household with two cats it is not that much) each evening and that makes for a clean stove top and a clean counter next to that. Dishes and cutlery dry over night and I put them away in the morning. Saves on drying the dishes. A load of laundry each day of the week? As a single person? No way, that would be wasteful. But twice a week or even just once a week is a good approach. This way I even get the blankets on the couch and covering my duvets and those from the cats into the washing regularly. I still have to find a routine that works for me cleaning the floors and dusting. I am allergic against dust mite excrements - so it is very unpleasant for me and mostly I use a "do not disturb" approach ... but lately small spiders have found their way into my appartment. If I do not vacuum regularly I live in a huge spider web ... *shudders So the vacuum it is. Making my bed depends very much on where my cat decides to sleep ..

[@quynciwisdom4189]

I have fibromyalgia too! Definitely makes things more difficult. I think the way fly lady has things set up makes it more doable

[@wintercandyapple09]

Clean mama:neurotypical clean, fly lady: mental health heal

[@jeng6786]

That's probably why seeing her fly lady video things seemed more attainable. Especially because it's having you do things on the room you're already in.

[@irmgardpollmann3078]

Absolutely. The FLY lady system works with doing things and rewarding yourself, being kind to yourself, stopping to talk yourself down... It is really healing.

[@Jacqueline_R]

Exactly! ❤

[@kimberlycaritas]

I believe Flylady started out as someone who had suffered from very severe depression & her business began as a way to help people climb out of similar situations-she is absolutely the better choice in my mind for people struggling with mental health!

[@ThatOneLadyOverHere]

As someone with ADHD Clean Mama's routine seemed impossible to do in 40 min even if you already have a clean house and playing catch up sounded like torture. I like how FlyLady's has a time restraint for somethings. She just makes everything feel more flexible because it's about you not your house.

[@xStephism]

You’re wholesome, beautiful, and exactly what I’ve been missing in the content I consume. Thank you for adding the value that you do, it’s irreplaceable.

[@ThatAwkwardMom]

You're too kind, thank you 🥰

[@sherriwerner4163]

I totally agree. You are fun to watch.

[@michellem9444]

Honestly, as a work-outside-the-home mama with a teenager with LOTS of activities that cause me to not be home 12 hours a day, Clean Mama seems the most forgiving. I mean, afternoon routine? Hard to do when you're not at home. BUT, I've heard good things about The Secret Slob's breakdown of Flylady's routine, so I might check that out before I decide for sure. I do know that whatever system I choose, I won't be following it exactly. When the stars align and I get those occasionally rare evenings where my son and I both are free (and he's willing to spend time with me), I plan on taking that time off to revel in his company while he's still home! :)

[@irishlizzie]

Yes, Steph at the Secret Slob is a favorite of mine AND her sister has posted videos of a working mom using FlyLady.

[@michellem9444]

@@irishlizzie Yes, I've seen that one! I felt for her... her day was crazier than mine!

[@debbyalder4089]

Good for you Michelle! As well as “the secret slob”, Diane in Denmark also does fly lady … also simplified and she is so funny and kind!! ( I think they have even met each other!!). I have three kids all in their 20’s now and I also revel in their company! So it’s really modified for me and really only 60% of the time.

[@HereIAm247]

But I think that is actually the point with flylady - to customise it to your life, not follow another persons routine precisely. :) I moved around the tasks as well, removed the ones irrelevant to me, and added a few of my own. The original flylady made the system as a housewife - but it is just as easy to follow when you work, with a few adjustments.

[@Flowergirl222]

Ive been a working single mother, a working full time student, a working married mother, and a stay at home mom, and the key to peace is keeping the integrity of routines. If you’re overwhelmed, choose a simple morning and night routine and just make sure youre dishes are always done to begin with. Stick to bed and waking times no matter what and remember that you have time. It doesnt have to be done in a day. In just a couple months of acquiring simple habits and building on your routines you wont even recognize your life. As you get one habit down, add another good habit to your routines. It seems overwhelming at first but you can do it regardless of your circumstances and it will change everything for the better! Start small, even if its just one little change.

[@luisatoronto9664]

I totally agree with “getting ready for the day” to be motivated! My mom would always say that to me and I always thought it was a “waste of makeup” but now that I’m older, I realize it really does motivate me to get things done!

[@roni4720]

Yea. My mom is 78 years old and she wakes up and gets ready. She puts her best clothes ( she has a bunch of clothes), puts make up and says that you never know who is going to come to visit or if someone is going to pick her up to take her somewhere. You'll never see her "undone"

[@LeeAnneRMT]

When I do this my husband is all "where did you go today? Why so dressed up?" 🤣

[@gabs190]

Agree!! When I’m 💄 ready, my brain is ready to run errands 💪🏼 🏃‍♀️

[@anner4598]

I've tried both routines and I ended up blending them. The weekly home blessing hour with Fly Lady didn't work for me because stopping after 10 minutes left a lot of my house not done. When do you finish those tasks?? So now I do a task per day and then the zone cleaning and other aspects of Fly Lady's system. I also put an emphasis on dishes, instead of the shiny sink, as per A Slob Comes Clean (Dana K. White). Dana is probably my favorite of all 3. She speaks to my super slobbiness and I feel motivated by her 😊

[@marietjiesteyn8661]

Love Dana K. Dishes and Laundry is key.

[@Topaz_Estrella]

Yes, Dana K is the real winner

[@sarahp9300]

Same here. If i did only 10 mins of dusting etc it would leave a bunch of my home untouched.

[@LovesChild316]

Loved you video. I find it interesting to see new people discovering Flylady. I first found her in 2001. Once you've completely decluttered you can have the house ready for company within 15mins. It's an amazing feeling. One thing about her zones they run to the weeks of each month, not number of days. So the entrance is zone 1 from the 1st until the Sun of that week. Zone 2 - the kitchen is the first full week. Zone 3 - the bathrooms is the second full week. Zone 4 - the bedrooms is the last full week. Then zone 5 - the living areas is the last Monday until the end of the month. Some months you only have one day in the entrance or living areas but other months make this up. Occasionally you get a free day, use it as anti-procrastination or FLYing (Finally Loving Yourself).

[@margaretlovecchio8316]

Before trying either method, FlyLady’s prepare YOURSELF (dress, makeup, hair) had me at “Hello”, good to know the rest of her plan works great, too. Thank you!

[@gettintherejanice6216]

that's so funny because when I heard of fly lady forever ago dress to shoe I was like evil pure evil anyone forcing me to were shoes in my house need to be executed I may have been a overly dramatic teenager. but it took me along time to shake the idea that trying to get me to wear shoes in my house wasn't evil. it certainly doesn't feel like home or safe maybe you are more productive but its not how I want to live my life ever

[@margaretlovecchio8316]

@@gettintherejanice6216 I keep my shoes by the front door & wear non skid socks when I’m inside, not shoes, but am doing what I can to make the rest of it a habit

[@virginialeejones1834]

@@gettintherejanice6216 I don't like wearing shoes in the house. They come off at the door and I have slippers or "house shoes" that I wear inside. I haven't heard anyone refer to house shoes. I'm old, so maybe that's old-fashioned term.

[@supergran1000]

I've developed my own routine based on some of the principles of Flylady and others, but to suit me. Everyday I make the bed, do the dishes and laundry, wipe round the bathrooms (most days), and wipe down the kitchen. I tidy up as I go. Once a week I dust, do floors, a more thorough clean of bathrooms, and change sheets. This keeps my house more or less under control with very little effort. The more detailed cleaning I do when I have time or when I feel like it or when a task becomes glaringly obvious. I don't like the inflexibility of the zone cleaning schedules, but I am a huge advocate of decluttering. You can't clean around clutter. Once the clutter is under control, your house is so much easier to keep clean.

[@mistyrowe2480]

You actually converted me to Clean Mama after I watched your video. As a mom who works full time it is much more doable for me.

[@ThatAwkwardMom]

Good!! I hope it works for you 😊

[@lindavorce2055]

I use the flylady routine from "The Secret Slob". Steph has a great schedule and has cut down the fly lady to make it simple. The "She's in her April is coming out with a full planner with zone cleaning. I am waiting for her planner for next year. Thanks for the review.

[@ThatAwkwardMom]

I've watched Steph before! She does a great job simplifying the schedule. Thank you 😊 I'll have to look into her planner.

[@Romans828girl]

@@ThatAwkwardMom I think the planner that Linda mentioned was from Kimmie at She's In Her Apron. I think Linda was probably a victim of autocorrect here. At least, Kimmie does zone cleaning and is coming out with a planner. I haven't seen a planner on Steph's channel.

[@Sandyyyyyyyyyy]

@@Romans828girl I know Steph has her free printable worksheets for each zone. She has videos on them from a year or two ago. They're great

[@jacquelinejefferson1876]

Linda’s is disappointedly expensive, and it’s not a year it’s just a few months at a time. 🤷‍♀️

[@jacquelinejefferson1876]

I meant She’s in her Apron not Linda, sorry.

[@aititelocin]

Thanks for these three videos. I think a blend of the two systems is ideal. Also I’d modify the “load a day” of laundry to just making sure the laundry makes it into the laundry bag since we don’t have laundry in house and have to both leave the house as well as pay to do it.

[@gapeach51170]

I have followed Flylady for 20+ years. I fail some weeks ,but once you have her basic concepts down you can create a schedule that works for your house. "You can do anything for 15m" :)

[@ThatAwkwardMom]

Thanks for the encouragement 🙂

[@wendyduncan9084]

I’ve been Flybaby for over 20 years too. It was a huge perspective shift for me. Nothing ever got fully done while having 2 small boys and homeschooling. Then there were the comments like,” Well you’re home all day so you CAN clean all the time.” What??? Like children taught themselves and I had no life of meaning because I stayed home. Thus began my rebellion. So I took the guiding principle of care for yourself first. Do what you can as you can. Do it to completion. Later when I got a demanding out of the house job, I tried Clean Mama. I like her flexibility. I like that routine things seemed simpler. Some areas were totally ignored though. I need a dungeon day to tackle whatever has been most neglected during the week. During Christmas I work more than 50 hours a week. So I prioritize the 3 most important things. 1. Functional kitchen. 2. Clothes for work. 3. Deep rest. If those are the only things I can get done after a 12 hour day then ok. January is just around the corner and it’s all recoverable. The one Flylady thing I never got behind was the shoes. Lol

[@wendyduncan9084]

@@ThatAwkwardMom I just discovered you recently. You are so cute and funny. Exactly the kind of friend you want to live next door to. 💚

[@ThatAwkwardMom]

@@wendyduncan9084 Thanks Wendy ❤️

[@angeloverturff3826]

I've been utilizing FlyLady for the last 8 years. It works for me because I need my Routines, Habits of the Month, Zone Cleaning and my Daily Focus otherwise I'm just floundering around like an idiot. Good Video!

[@karlashmeedavlasta6365]

I set the timer to 10 minutes and work room by room/area. This keeps up a good level of cleanliness. After a while you might not even need the full ten minutes. If I am in a hurry, I reduce to 5 or 3 minutes per room. Still effective.

[@teresaelling-peacefulhome]

Ariel, well done!! This is the best CM vs. FL comparison on KZbin! I’m actually planning a new cleaning series and I was going to start with this very topic (my conclusion is the same by the way!) I am now going to skip this topic and refer people to your video!!

[@ThatAwkwardMom]

Wow, that is so kind of you. I'm honestly really touched, thank you 🥰 means a lot.

[@ruthwilliams3834]

I started with Flylady 2 weeks ago and I’m loving her system 👍 🙂 I’m not a young mom 💁‍♀️ I’m a retired senior citizen and your videos are so fun to watch 💓 I subscribed

[@annieno6848]

Major pro of clean mama is it’s easy to share chores with your partner. One person does the 5 daily, other does the weekly tasks (the sweep/mop/bathroom ones), and then switch the next week, and back and forth. Fly lady is so enmeshed with day to day life you can’t really trade it off to your partner.

[@chocklad9]

true

[@tanyabaker4809]

My just doesn't know how to clean a bathroom. We've been married for 30 years. 🤷😅

[@kurichai]

I've been using FlyLady for years off and on because, life. The no pressure, keep it simple approach is so encouraging. When you're a mom of three littles, it can seem like a lot, but using that timer ends up being very freeing.

[@BlackPearlMinistries]

I tried fly lady and got overwhelmed easily especially the zones. I just got the clean mamma planner and it seems much more straightforward.

[@ambert.3792]

i dont have the planner, and have just started comparing the two--but FOR REAL. the FL routine seems waaaaaay too serious and intense for me. good luck on yours! 💜

[@debbievermilyea4037]

FlyLady addresses depression and procrastination....the psychological reasons why we struggle with cleaning. I love FLYLADY. ❤😊❤

[@AFWif312]

2019 I was a solo parent to three under four and half while my husband was on a remote tour. I did have someone come clean my house twice to sometimes three times a month but I adapted the fifteen minutes rule QUICKLY being heavily sleep deprived. It also helped that when my girlfriends visited, they jumped right in and washed dishes or mopped my floors just to help me breathe. I still use the fifteen minutes rule to this day on cleaning during the week for daily tasks.

[@ThatAwkwardMom]

It's nice to have good friends like that!

[@karenl6246]

New subscriber here. I love your personality and sense of humor! I combine the best of both systems. I use the clean mama weekly schedule but set a timer each day (like fly lady) for 20 minutes. I aim to spend the first 10 minutes doing a quick once over (like the home blessing) and the last 10 I'll give a little extra TLC to whatever zone I'm in. I just broke my home into 4 zones and rotate them weekly. So for example, on my dusting day - I'll do a quick 10 min dust of the high traffic zones but then spend 10 minutes deep dusting in my zone. Keeps it simple and consistent without spending a lot of time or having to follow a checklist. 😅

[@sherryseher7736]

I like a BLEND of both plans . Flylady’s daily routine is fine, but the Weekly Home Blessing Hour is only meant to cover high traffic areas and not the whole house, according to Flylady Kat and Diane in Denmark, which leaves the bedrooms until Zone cleaning, just once a month , which seems silly to me ! If you have a lot of wooden floors, dry mopping can go very quickly throughout the house, but if you have a lot of carpet, vacuuming can take a lot longer than 10 minutes , even if you are not going under furniture to clean . ! Also, some people have much bigger houses and more rooms to be cleaned than Flylady , like Jen of “ How Jen Does It” , who breaks her house into 8 Zones . For weekly cleaning I prefer the Clean Mama task a day method, but do it in a Flylady fashion with a “ down the middle “ approach . I like fewer tasks to have to deal with on a daily basis, but also like a bit more quality outcome than a “ lick and a promise “ ! I do like the 15 minute Zone cleaning routines , but I complete a task if it goes past 15 minutes. I can’t stand to leave one baseboard undone if the rest have been cleaned and then have to wait another month to get back to it due to an artificial 15 minute constraint ! However, I do like the weekly scheduling of including some deeper cleaning tasks, along with the weekly cleaning in a Zone . Flylady’s calendar combination of Zones 1 and 5 in a week shortchanges some zones each month, if Zone 5 has extra rooms in it , so I have changed that by adding more Zone areas and take a full week in each one, ignoring the calendar . All in all, both systems have merit, but in the end they have to be adapted to suit YOU and your home !

[@sherryseher7736]

Oh and I am 76, so I prefer an easy pace and not a one hour cardiovascular cleaning workout ! Plus, I like to work on one type of a task at a time, covering a multiple of rooms, so that I don’t have to pull out the same type of cleaning tools every day , Clean Mama style . I do swish and swipe the two bathrooms on Monday, as well as dusting wall items in both bathrooms and then I also dust both bedrooms, since I already have out my feather duster or Swiffer duster. Tuesday is floors day in those same rooms , which then completes the back part of the house. I like the front part of the house to be clean for the weekend. Wednesday is dusting the front of the house. Thursday is doing the floors in the front areas( entry, living room, dining area, and sunroom) . Friday is a quick mopping of the kitchen floor . Laundry is done throughout the week, a load a day, as needed . About 30 minutes a week is added to whatever is the Zone of the week . Grocery shopping and errands happens as needed. Bill paying is often done on a Saturday . In general, I prefer guidelines that are adapted to my energy level and schedule and not to someone else’s rigid routines. There are only two of us living here , and the house does not get very dirty, so if some weeks are either crazy or really low energy, I stretch out the weekly cleaning into a second week , if that is what it takes, It all eventually gets done and it never looks cluttered or dirty . I recognize that people with young children or huge houses might need a different approach .

[@ThatAwkwardMom]

Yes I agree, It's going to be different for each person on what ends up working for them. I can tell you have put a lot of thought into this! I'm open to hearing any advice as I try to follow Flylady's routines myself. The weekly home blessing is actually my favorite part of Flylady, because then I can get it all over with in one day and relax for the rest of the week. But you're right, my upstairs gets totally neglected if I'm not keeping up on my zone cleaning. It's like I need a weekly home blessing for downstairs and upstairs lol. Thanks for sharing! 😊

[@AshleyFaulkner]

I do the fly lady system but I have been slacking on my cleaning systems the last couple months. Your videos have motivated me to restart my cleaning schedule. Especially since the next year is so close already.

[@ThatAwkwardMom]

Yay! I love to motivate. Remember, progress not perfection. I have to remind myself of that all the time.

[@penngheeney]

I would love to see this breakdown again, comparing Fly Lady with the Organised Mum/Mom system!

[@AJ_SouthernGal]

Flylady's Swish & Swipe routine was a game changer for me. Having a dirty bathroom was discouraging & deep cleaning it was too hard on my back, so a quick swish & swipe daily works. & she says the Weekly Home Blessing can be broken down to one blessing task a day, but for me doing it on Monday puts me in a healthier mindset. I tried Clean Mama a while, Flylady just works better for me as I have a busy work schedule, but both ladies rock & have great ideas for staying on top of your home.

[@gwenreed1848]

I just wanted to say how much I appreciate this video. I watched another comparison video right afterwards and felt like the lady couldn’t have really done FLYLady’s system just based on what she was saying. You could tell she was more partial to Clean Mama right away. Yours felt a bit more objective as you tried both systems pretty much the way the recommended and then drew your conclusion and made adjustments that worked better for you. The comments on the other reviewer were filled with FLYBaby commenters who explained what she had missed from FlyLady. CleanMama definitely has a prettier, more modern website, but Marla and that timer and 15-minute philosophy frees you up to live your life. Love that! Thanks for your videos. I’m enjoying and inspired by them. ❤️

[@MsNalder1]

Not the vehicle extended warranty call! 😂😂😂😂 I’m screaming lol! I’m not familiar with Clean Mama but I’m 4 days into fly lady and I absolutely love it! I love her spirit too she’s very relatable and caring. For my adhd brain I really need the detailed structure.

[@kathyrivas8547]

I love the fly lady system . she helped me develop cleaning habits such as swish and wipe. my bathroom are maintained cleaned. Also the laundry routine is awesome but make sure you put it away right away . I found out that folding and putting laundry away only took me 18 minutes .

[@ThatAwkwardMom]

I am still guilty of leaving laundry on the couch, I got to work on that lol I'm glad it worked for you!

[@sonipitts]

@@ThatAwkwardMom I solved that habit by making a habit of folding and sorting the laundry *as I take it out of the dryer.* As I empty the dryer, I fold each item, then loosely organize them into stacks on the washer top or counter so like items are together (i.e. kitchen items, bathroom items, each person's clothing, etc). They then get put into the basket in their groups for easier putting away - I can just take the basket around the house and put away each group of items as I come to that space, since they're all together. Doing it this way means everything is already folded and ready to put away when I leave the laundry area with it, and it takes the same or less time to do it this way than doing it as a separate task later, with the bonus of having eliminated the chance for procrastination. And since the laundry has all already been folded, it's not only quicker and easier to put away, it heavily discourages any tendency toward unloading the basket without putting it away and risk letting it get all messed up and having to refold it all over again.

[@BluegrassRoze]

Well… they both have positive and negative aspects for me. I’m disabled, so there’s no way I can physically do 10 minutes of different tasks for an hour. So for that, I do more of the “clean lady” routine. I focus on certain rooms or tasks on different days (vacuuming on Mondays, bathrooms on Tuesdays, etc.) and by the end of six days, my whole house is clean.

[@SteadfastTrailFarm]

Thanks! I can't decide!!! But I think I would do well with a timer!

[@cvmcclendon]

Great video! I've tried FlyLady off and on for years and never stuck with it because there are just SO many tasks to keep up with in a day. I've recently taken Slob Comes Clean and mixed it with Clean Mama... It's working so much better for me to focus on one task a day (plus of course the daily rituals).

[@mljs9245]

I find a combination of the two works best for me also. I like that Flylady includes things that need to be done in addition to cleaning. I apply the Clean mama routine to my zone of the week. It works for me. 🙂

[@bsal4160]

You did a fantastic job. I have loved Clean Mama for years but I have never made it to anything beyond the weekly tasks. I have the rhythm memorized and it's so easy! I also love her homemade cleaner recipes (free on her website and made from safe and healthy ingredients).

[@ThatAwkwardMom]

I've been meaning to make her nightly sink scrub!!

[@Ms_Tex]

I'm not a stay-at-home mom, I do not have children, and my husband and I both work irregular shifts and hours ... FlyLady spoke to me on one level, but her routines just did NOT fit into my life. Before I knew about Clean Mama, I took a lot of FlyLady's information and tailored it to my own situation -- my work schedule, my home layout and my family life -- and the routines I developed for myself look a lot like Clean Mama's. Another reason FlyLady wasn't for me is that I DO NOT -- EVER -- wear shoes in my house ... not even the Mr Rogers version of shoes in the house. Doing so leads my husband to believe HE can wear shoes in the house ... his dirty, nasty, been at work and outside messing with the animals shoes. It took me more than 15 years to break my husband of that habit, and I wasn't willing to undo my progress just for some lady on the internet.

[@mariacorretge6615]

Same here, Fly lady 's won my heart. I'm a working mum so only pockets of time to clean, and really really really hated spending my one day off a week doing a massive clean which is what I had been doing all my life...Really improved my lifestyle so far.

[@whatsheplanned]

I completely agree. I started with Clean Mama four or five years ago but once I found FlyLady, that was it for me. It just makes more sense and feels like less but still with great results.

[@ThatAwkwardMom]

Yeah, especially with the weekly home blessing! Makes the most dreaded tasks of the house seem simple (I hate sweeping and mopping 🙄) How long have you been doing Flylady's routine?

[@whatsheplanned]

@@ThatAwkwardMom Just about a year. I still have areas where I need to do more - hello laundry room, but it has made such a huge impact in my home and my life to be honest. So glad to have found your channel!

[@ThatAwkwardMom]

@@whatsheplanned That's so encouraging! I'm looking forward to learning more about the system as I continue doing it

[@SummaGirl1347]

If you are a linear thinker, Clean Mama works better. If you are a fuzzy thinker, and especially if you are suffering from, or recovering from, any major mental health issues, Fly Lady will probably work better for you because it offers more behavioral guidance, not just cleaning routines. Basically, Clean Mama is for list-makers who are already pretty organized and self-motivated. Fly Lady is for those who need a little more help to reach their goals.

[@ThatAwkwardMom]

That makes sense. Because I definitely need help 🙄🙄

[@SummaGirl1347]

@@ThatAwkwardMom Right? So do all of us! I mostly use Clean Mama but, what I love about Fly Lady is the help she gives to those of us whose major mental health issue is perfectionism. She has taught us that your house can be "clean enough" and that's okay. So liberating!

[@nurd87]

Yes this!! Flylady is for the ADDers or the "Side-tracked Home Executives" (SHEs) or the perfectionists who want to also have a life outside of cleaning. She has helped me through so many life transitions. I've been a flybaby for over 10 years now. It's more than a cleaning system. And the FLY stands for Finally Loving Yourself. She has a heart of gold (yes she can rant every now and then on her Lives but she's human and feels deeply.)

[@Pxzvamp33]

FLYLADY 100%! I found FlyLady back somewhere in the early 2000’s. Although I don’t follow her whole system all of the time, so many aspects of her routines remain a part of my daily life. I will always hold her above all others. Whenever things get out of control in my home, I just pull out my “Control Journal “ (Which she encourages us to make ourselves)and in no time I’m back on Track. FlyLady has lessons for Life. Plus I don’t have to fork out $58.

[@lisastevens3822]

Love Flylady! I was a sidetracked home executive, which is the precursor to Flylady. That’s how old I am! Having daily, weekly, monthly tasks makes life easier! Thanks for sharing.

[@ahhh4117]

Fly lady's routine is really great if you're neurodivergent, I have autism and self care/house cleaning take the same kind of effort, so including them in the same schedule is a no-brainer. I can't feel overwhelmed by tasks if I only have to do it for 10 minutes (looking at y'all with ADHD). I've been struggling to figure out a schedule that empowers me to live in a clean home (which is hard because a lot of people don't seem to consider that we too, can be adults with homes that need maintenance), and I think this is the schedule I've been looking for.

[@bcnotpc659]

Thank you FLY LADY FOR PASSING ON YOUR WISDOM!!! We needed you, I NEEDED you.

[@evasochocki5209]

I found a little book called No Hassle House Cleaning by Christina Spence. It's perfect for me because I just can't do deep cleaning tasks every day. This system has morning , afternoon, and evening cleaning segments and uses a timer like Flylady. The difference is that instead of doing monthly tasks every day, you have one day a week called " clean for all day", where you do several monthly tasks. I have a list of monthly tasks that I divide by 5, and each week I do the tasks for list 1, list 2 , or whatever week it is . This is much more efficient for me personally. Very similar to the Flylady.

[@maggiefindmusic]

This is a really good comparison, thank you! In the Fly lady system, each zone gets a week of the calendar month. In the example you gave, I guess the month started on a Friday. If it started on a Sunday, there would be a full 7 days for Zone 1 (and possibly zero days for Zone 5). 😊

[@michellehuggins3530]

Hi I find your down to earth genuine non judgemental attitude Surprising relatable, too and motivating.

[@kristinebeatty1576]

You are so heeelarious and helpful as well...and I agree...I am a huge fan of Fly Lady system...always helps me refocus and keeps me from being overwhelmed...always easy to jump in wherever I am at in process...thanks for being so delightful...God bless you and your family.

[@938quilt]

I love the blue tile walls in your kitchen- and the rug! blue is so calming and you have a lot of blue around your home!

[@JohnstonLife1]

Best 👏🏼 comparison 👏🏼 video 👏🏼 ever 👏🏼! Well done! Now I can finally decide. I choose......... Fly lady! 🧚‍♀️ Thanks! 🥰

[@ThatAwkwardMom]

Yes!!! I love that I helped you decide. Thank you~! We can cruise this thing together 🙃

[@DivingwithDee223]

I really do love your comparison video! 😁 I’ve watched maybe five or six of your videos so far and I’m definitely leaning towards fly lady. I have four kids and so getting things done quick in 15 minutes a day is a lot easier than spending an hour each day focusing on one area!

[@cathleenbott136]

I've tried both systems. Fly Lady always took longer than 15 minutes a day just for weekly tasks, and I can't schedule all my appts and errands on one day. The website is cluttered and overwhelming. I like the idea of Fly Lady so I may try the simpler version some others are recommending in comments. I do have morning, afternoon, and evening routines that have stuck. Clean Mama has amazing recipes for DIY cleaning recipes and her printables and website have a clean, peaceful feel. I feel like I clean more thoroughly breaking the work up by task rather than speed-cleaning once a week. Both have pros and cons and I think it's good to try both and see what's best for your needs and even combine elements of each.

[@ThatAwkwardMom]

I saw her recipe for her nightly sink scrub and I liked the idea of it, I plan on making myself a sink scrub using her recipe soon!! But I can see where Flylady's can feel more overwhelming. Clean Mama does have a simplicity to her routine which is nice. And her website sure is delightful!

[@joykinser3444]

Clean Mama for me. I am a teacher by day and I can't break my cleaning routine up throughout the day. Best way to keep your home clean- marrying someone with OCD. No inside pets, no shoes in the house, and pick up after yourself (including kids) as you go goes a long way.

[@martacapriola1340]

I’ve been following the Motivated Moms system for the last year and following a strict schedule has been beyond helpful - but I love the Fly Lady’s general attitude and it’s very intriguing! I know myself I need a stricter schedule, if I leave it up to me I’ll never do it 🤷‍♀️

[@ThatAwkwardMom]

I've heard of the motivated moms, but I haven't really looked into it. Does it cost money?

[@martacapriola1340]

@@ThatAwkwardMom Unfortunately it’s a paid membership, either monthly or annually. Gives you access to their app or printable schedules. They have some samples on their page to get any idea of what the schedule is like

[@ThatAwkwardMom]

@@martacapriola1340 that's probably why I don't hear about it too often. I'm glad it works for you though!

[@velvetplans5396]

@@ThatAwkwardMom I just looked into it and it's only $2/month or $20/year, waaaay more affordable than Clean Mama's membership plan!

[@ThatAwkwardMom]

@@velvetplans5396 oh not bad at all!

[@vixen1143]

Thanks for the video. I use to follow fly lady's routine 5 year ago but I moved county and by the time I'd settled in I never took it up again. Life's changed alot an I now have a 3 year old and a partner who are very messy. I constantly feel like I'm getting nowhere, overwhelmed by profection and like my days are on repeat. Seeing your comparison video has reminded me of fly ladys routine. How you don't have to do it all every day to keep the house together and inspired me to start her routines again. I like the fact that you compared it to clean mama because it reconfirmed to me that fly lady is the right fit for me. Funny how I forgot about her routines, apart form shine your sink which I never stopped doing 😄

[@madiantin]

This was a great series! Thank you! And I'm all about the flylady. Ain't perfect at it, even after all these years, but the timer really helps. I think, "I can do anything for 15 minutes" and "When that timer goes off I'm DONE and can feel really happy and accomplished. A little bit goes a long way. I feel like I'm taking care of my home and family...and then when I'm done I can sit down and knit and watch history videos. It's awesome. =D

[@joannwagner4940]

I started fly lady about 2 years ago and I am amazed how little time I need to clean now. I love it just wish I started it years ago when I was raising my kids. I did make 4 zones instead of five it's easier for me.

[@annaberg6505]

I love your seriousness and your humor.

[@katherinemhenry]

"Your city's cleaning service" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 this absolutely cracked me up!! So enjoying your videos @thatawkwardmom

[@emiliequesnel8661]

I’ve downloaded the fly lady app. I love how it’s helping me regain control of my house and getting rid of clutter (was pregnant with kiddos #2 and #3 two years in a row) although, having 3 young kids, I ended up adjusting things in a way that works better for me. I’m doing a mashup of clean mama and fly lady (without knowing clean mama lol)

[@mangowu3243]

We ended up doing some form of clean mama but with timers. I work full time outside the home and my partner works full time either from home or he's on business trips, so it's easier to share the housework this way :) We set up a google sheet and tick off whatever has been done, who did it and when. In the beginning we also noted how long it took and what we disliked the most, so now we try to divide things in a way that makes it both quicker and more pleasant to handle for both of us.

[@Ellaodi]

Im a cleanmama convert! Once a week done right is good. 10 mins halfass dusting and halfass vacuuming means youre moving wet dirt around your floors and theyll never be clean. Flylady is a great plan for ppl who are overwhelmed, but a generally clean house already can keep up with cleanmama easier

[@michelleb6395]

Laura, I agree, I can’t bring myself to mop a floor that hasn’t been swept first.

[@kristina881]

Probably going with flylady because I have the same issue- not lack of motivation or organization but simply spending too long of tasks so they can be done “thoroughly” but it takes so long- other important things like laundry and dishes and picking up inevitably get left behind. it doesn’t need to be perfect.. it’s just needs to be done.

[@rachelle6408]

I love flylady! She changed my life about 20 years ago!!!

[@andreagorham1985]

Thank you for this comparison I have used Fly Lady for at least five years now. I love that she breaks it all down into a scheduled system. Here’s what I don’t understand about Fly Lady, so I have tweaked it all these years: the weekly home blessing is to be done in your main parts of your home. If I did that every week none of the rest of my house would get dusted or vacuumed or mopped. So I have taken the weekly home blessing and I have divided it up into daily tasks Monday through Saturday - just like Clean Mama I see. Diane in Denmark is a big proponent of Fly Lady.

[@shekinawashington]

I watched ur clean mama video & not the flylady one, but then watched this & I agree that flylady seems to keep u abreast of all ur home cleaning tasks more evenly to have a consistently clean house

[@audreyvann5336]

The essence of Fly Lady is to take care of yourself and bless your family. A little each day adds up. I got overwhelmed with all the emails, but she is all about encouragement and taking baby steps. You don't have to jump in whole hog. I liked her decluttering tips as well. I did not come from a particularly clean home, and most tasks were taken care of when the kids were in bed and out of the way; so I never learned or practiced any cleaning skills or routine. I felt like Fly Lady's approach was about grace and holding your hand when you needed it.

[@qtluvBilly3]

I love FlyLady. Been following her since 2003. I've tried other systems, but I always go back to hers.

[@Pxzvamp33]

Yes, Yes, Yes! You get it. I always go back to her😊

[@heatherwoodrow3882]

I work and do the Fly Lady routine. I have her free app! I have adjusted the morning/afternoon/evening tasks to work with my schedule. I still get most of it done. I love that the goal is not homemaking perfection. It's just to be better than it was before you started. She also has tasks that improve your well being like drink your water and exercise and go to bed at a decent hour. It's not just a cleaning routine.

[@MeaganWillshon]

I love fly lady been doing it for years!

[@jamiefrasier1862]

OMG - I've watched so many of these trying to get a handle on how to do this. YOUR VIDEO IS GREAT- THANK YOU. Subscribed. You made it so easy to understand. Love the graphics- super helpful.

[@BloodsuckingLover]

I actually enjoy both, though clean mama has a point in doing specific areas during certain times, I also enjoy fly lady's version too. However my version is by room by room basis... I literally pick up trash, declutter, dust, sweep, vacuum, mop, make tidy and presentable and I'd love to burn an incense or put an oil defuser going in that room, take out the trash in that room and repeat in every room such as bedrooms, living, dining and bathroom, the kitchen and basement areas I struggle with the most though... I literally do this at least weekly, have to do the kitchen on seperate days because well it's a lot of work for me considering I live at home and my folks aren't exactly the cleanest...

[@j.chayo45]

This is my first time of hearing of either of them. Thank you for breaking it down! I say fly lady wins.(not hating on clean mama) she seems cool too. I do feel like I'm always cleaning because I'm always cooking. Never getting ahead. I will definitely try both methods. Dana K. White helped me a lot also.

[@Nerrrddi]

So happy that I found you! Your personality is amazing and you have amazing info! Hilarious too! Thank you so much for breaking FlyLady down. I found CleanMama to be frustrating but I think FlyLady would be perfect for my husband and I!

[@ThatAwkwardMom]

Thanks for the sweet comment 🥰 fly lady can be hard to get started with at first, but once you get in your groove it's a great routine that keeps your house clean!!

[@Nerrrddi]

@@ThatAwkwardMom for sure! I tried FlyLady 2 years ago and I got overwhelmed and never understood what to do. You explained it so well! Plus I found out that she finally had her app for Android users so it makes it even easier now! I can customize it and everything!

[@ThatAwkwardMom]

@@Nerrrddi yeah the app really does make things so much easier. I was a mess before it! Hope I can continue to help you 😊

[@steviebredeson2173]

I love FlyLady! I also remember my mom following her when I was a kid.

[@TheVelasquezFamily]

I am so obsessed with your videos. I can tell you put so much work into your videos! 💕

[@ThatAwkwardMom]

Thanks Wanna 🥰🥰

[@dicesof8]

I agree with those that say take what you like from each system and make your own.

[@Daughter_of_the_MostHigh]

😂😂😂😂 subscribing just for the laugh, loved that! “Nothing will happen” 😂😂😂😂

[@In_a_mode]

Helpful again. I'll try the Flylady routine, I think.

[@sophiejew]

Kind of depressing how no one can say how their boyfriend/husband helps out with the chores. People here are doing an amazing job at working full-time, having kids and keeping the house clean! I think when I find myself in a long-term relationship and we consider moving in together I will have to insist he either does his fair share or he chips in 50% for a cleaner 1-2 hours a week.

[@heatherandgorse6889]

You're so right. Cleaning, cooking, etc. are good for your mental health and are part of being an independent adult. Assuming men can't or shouldn't need to do these things, isn't doing them any favours... if anything, it's just patronising... Anyway! You make a good point (and having said that, my house is a state right now 🤣)

[@DesireeStiles]

There is no reason why your husband can’t help you check off the list… I know mine does! He helps with laundry, dishes and floors and will pitch in wherever needed

[@ForeverGodsGirl03]

I think it depends on different things. If both the husband and wife work then indeed the cleaning should be 50/50 but if only the husband works outside of the house and the wife is staying at home then the wife should do most of the cleaning because she's at home all day.

[@MV-tw9ku]

In a relationship you figure out what each other's preferences are. My husband doesn't do dishes, but he doesn't mind laundry. He also takes time to make the kids help, instead of just doing it, like I would. He kills bugs and plunges toilets, I pay bills and make appts. I cook most meals, but he makes dinner occasionally, and puts a lot of heart into it (and dirties every pot). He gets bothered by a cluttered coffee table sooner, so he cleans it off. Just remember you're on the same team. Being happy depends on appreciating each other.

[@tiffanylarson2104]

If you go more in-depth with flylady she talks about family members helping.

[@lissaharre]

First, your videos are amazing. I’m totally binge watching them rather than cleaning right now but I’m inspired. I can do this! I think Cleanmama is probably great for people who have their life together, they just need their home cleaner. Fly mama seems perfect for those who are totally overwhelmed to the point that you have brushing your teeth on the weekly list. 🤣 So I am starting Fly mama today!!! Teeth brushed, shoes on, go!

[@booklover0924]

I just discovered your channel today and i think this is the 4th one I’ve watched. Personally I like a hybrid of the 2. Like Flylady (Secret Slob dialed down version) daily and Clean Mana for the weekly tasks. If I swish/swipe most days alternating the swish (one bathroom) then Monday’s bathroom is basically the tub. I haven’t really gotten to the monthly but I’d probably go with Clean Mama. Thank you for the comparison.

[@ThatAwkwardMom]

You're welcome! Thanks for watching, I didn't realize the Secret Slob had an easier way of doing the routine. I'll have to watch her videos to see what she does! Jumping into the flylady routine all at once can feel like a lot. I haven't got it all down myself yet but I'm trying to keep up! I feel like I get a little better each day the more I practice. I'm glad you found what works for you. That's what matters, finding what works for you, cuz we're all different and so we're going to have different ways of doing things!

[@booklover0924]

@@ThatAwkwardMomyou’re welcome. She does she simplified the baby steps and has a practical printable. It’s definitely easier to follow and less overwhelming than Fly Lady. I’ve tried flying multiple times over the years and it is a lot. Definitely nothing is one size fits all for sure.

[@jessicaandersson6667]

Thank you for explaining both method, finally understood the flylady system! I have done The clean mama system but I like how you explained flylady, used to be very overwelming when I tried to read up on it. I am gonna start on flylady routine today and try it out and see what I think. But kinda like that you clean all house same every month and not for a hear like clan mama. Great job with these videos about the 2 systems! Thank you from a new subscriber to your channel❤️❤️❤️

[@ThatAwkwardMom]

Hi Jessica, thanks for taking the time to leave this kind comment 🙏 I'm really glad that it helped you and I plan on continuing to make videos on flylady's cleaning system. I hope it works as well for you as it has worked for me! I never knew I could fall in love with a cleaning routine as someone who hates cleaning lol but here I am! Let me know how it works for you 😊

[@jessicaandersson6667]

@@ThatAwkwardMom looking forward to see more FlyLady and other videos! ♥️

[@jessa4282]

Thank you for this!! I'm going back to work and trying to find a system that won't leave me feeling stressed and overwhelmed. I'm going to try both because they each have their pro's and con's. I like that the Clean Mama's one was written more simply for people that get super overwhelmed by long to-do lists, like myself, but I loved that the Fly Lady's system broke it down into blocks during the day.

[@curedgirlz]

this cracks me up...in a 5400 sq ft house ( 150 y/o all wood floors) with 4 dogs and me working from my home approx 14hrs a day and 2 days in a shop or craft fair a week...I'm lucky if I even know I have other rooms than my office/workshop...but...with all that said this does give me inspiration...a little bit a day does make a difference instead of doing it all at once...lol who am I kidding...looking for a cleaning lady...but I love how you keep it real and give the rest of us hope

[@lauriehancock3974]

I tried them both and chose Flylady as well! Great videos. Glad I found your channel

[@leticiacampos1044]

You saved my life. Your other video kept showing in my suggestions and at some point, I did watch it and boom! Everything changed. So, if you're ever feeling low and thinking you failed (we all have those days), keep in mind God used the algorithm to show me the strategy I had been aski g for in prayers: your flylady videos. Thank you!