CLOSET CLEANOUT | I've Got to Get Everything Out Before the Handyman Comes | My Decluttering Journey

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[@maryannhorner1900]

I knew it, Mira secretly writes smut in her spare time 🤣🤣🤣 yet another reason I love you so much!!!!

[@sallygombita]

I know, I'm dying to read it!

[@cm9355]

Yes!

[@monicadziuk5635]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

You guys are the best!

[@LadyoftheValley]

When I started my journey and was drowning in clutter, I had a backroom I put all my stuff in I was not ready to deal with. So I could clear out the rest of my house. When my entire house was clean and decluttered, I would take out one bag/box/pile at a time and sit in the living room relaxed and don't get so overwhelmed by the amount I had to declutter.

[@mackimmy]

“anxiety is a really crappy copilot” is a most excellent t-shirt slogan! well done on all the clutter clearing, friend mira! 👏🏻

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

Ooh, I'll add that to the list!

[@mrseliephant]

I was about to say the same thing! :)

[@susangrenier795]

Sounds like a novella about a handyman is in order! 😜

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

You have the best commentary. I love your ability to articulate your thoughts. I think there are quite a few people who totally relate to what you described in this video. I'm proud to call you friend.❤

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

Thank you so much! Right back at you!

[@LongbournLady]

Since I've been watching you it has become evident that you have a witty sense of humor and like plays on words and sarcastic quips. You are a collector of those sayings and thoughts with your pin collection and t shirts. Maybe when you are deciding what t-shirts to let go you could take a journal and record all of those funny sayings....so you get to keep them without the shirts? You have so many great ones!

[@dabneydee9109]

Or just take pictures of the shirts and then let them go.

[@annrae1597]

I watched a hoarder show once and they were very polite to the 2 people who lived there but they tested them..if a fire starts you only have a minute or so to get out of your house before the smoke gets you..they timed the 2 people to see if they could climb over their hoard and get out in a minute..then they blindfolded them because the smoke from a fire makes a room very dark..the people would of died in the smoke before the fire even got to them..the testers were very kind to the people and the people realised they were in jeopardy and then more willing to clean out some if their possessions.

[@Alex-dz2et]

Knowing what the problem is, isn’t the problem. Best quote yet. ❤

[@johnkelly9451]

Love that she said that. It's the truth. I feel the same way. Mira, thank you!

[@MsArtistwannabe]

I think you’re doing an amazing job. You’re being really consistent in this endeavor. I love your videos.

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

Thank you!

[@intherockies]

As a retired RN, I'm so sorry she made you feel that way. Nurses are just people and some are better then others in their bedside manner and communication skills. Nurses that have been through depression, anxiety or any mental health, or physical health issue, can usually empathize. Most people don't really understand until they have been through it themselves. Don't let the naysayers pull you down. Keep going Mira, clutter has absolutely nothing to do with a person's kind heart. This RN is proud of you and thinks you are a wonderful kind hearted person.

[@RoxanneR8375]

What a beautiful thing to say! Thank you!

[@suzanne529]

I want to say you have motivated me to start cleaning again. I don't have a lot of clutter or clothing, but laundry piles up and can sit for weeks. I had hired a house keeper but as you say the anxiety wasn't worth it, having her in the house, touching my stuff, lol. Anyway, I decided to try doing one goal at a time. I started with clearing the dining room table and the kitchen counters, then the bathroom and gave it a good scrub down. Then did the half bath, then swept up all the dog hair in the hall and kitchen. This took place over several days. It feels good, and my next goal is to vacuum the office and the living room. My husband has had cancer for several years, and my son was diagnosed last fall (he is an adult and lives in another state). I am just now seeing that depression and anxiety was the trigger for my lack of cleaning. You have been a terrific motivator! If Mira can do it, so can I! (Sorry to make this about me but you have helped me so much)

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

I'm so glad to hear I inspired you! That makes me so happy. Well done! On another note, I'm very sorry about the cancer diagnoses. Wishing your family the best.

[@suzanne529]

@@PeelingAwaytheClutter Thank you, everyone is doing well at the moment.

[@grateful5881]

Every word you said resonated deeply with me. No one has been in my home for over 2 yrs for the same reasons you stated. I know what I need to do. I know what I should do. I know how to do what I need to do. I know it would make me feel better to do what I need to do. Why won't I just do it? And no one who knows me would ever think this is how I live. Thankfully. I so enjoy your videos. But it is hearing what you say that makes me feel like I'm not a complete loser.

[@libbyecheverria730]

You can do it too! Just figure out one small thing you can do this week. You'll see that you can do it. Each small thing eventually adds up to noticeable change. You are completely valuable and you can live the way you want to. It's possible!

[@joy2own]

Those brakes really can set in. It's not an easy thing to overcome. Many days I'm right there with you, brakes on. I just tell myself to do ONE small thing. Often, once I start moving, I reflect and see how I feel... I almost always feel better about myself and the fact I did one thing to overcome those brakes. That leads to more movement. It takes a practiced mindset to talk to yourself about movement. Not tasks or the entire job, just one simple movement in one direction. Lots of love.

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

Hugs to you.

[@fifilemew7524]

Lots of hugs! I haven't let anyone in for a while either and it's so frustrating. I had some major health issues a couple years ago and couldn't do anything for a while and it just built up. My husband's kids (adults) aren't allowed over because I'm too embarrassed for them to see how we live. I want nothing more than to have a clean house and invite them over for dinner, but I don't know if I'll ever get there. We can keep trying, though!

[@H1ana2digital]

I can really relate to this. I have yearly inspections by the landlord which is anxiety inducing. I've had comments from them like: "you've got a lot of stuff!" and: "Well, if you want to live like this!" They seem to feel entitled to shame me in my own home. This video's really helped me, thanks!

[@ritatharp5238]

Oh Mirna I felt so bad for you being judged so harshly. I had to fight from being hospitalized for depression after my divorce. My husband left me for a 20 year younger woman and I couldn't compete with THAT. TWO years of deep dark doo-doo therapy to get past that. I missed a month of work and no one understood, I could NOT function at all and I mean at all. Nothing. Depression is like falling into a deep hole and you're trying to claw your way up with your finger nails.😮 Thank you for your honesty and truth, I understand more than you will ever know. 🤔 Shaming does make you feel unsafe, so true, so true. ❤

[@msc9950]

Gosh, I sure wish I’d known long ago that smiling cures depression!

[@dianehager8240]

I can't believe you don't smile,.I love your laugh it makes me smile.

[@melaniebalzer7806]

Team peeling sounds like a good term. I like it! Let´s team peel together.

[@Moonlight-nq4wy]

😀 I'm happy that you have a helper that you feel comfortable with. Also the school that is in need of shoes - that is perfect! You can feel good knowing your helping people that need them. Keep going Mira! 🎉👍💟😀🦋🐕

[@sflasaint811]

Having a reliable handyman is a big deal! Amazing going through all those boxes of clothes! I know that was daunting. Bless you!

[@torischroeder4211]

Do you even realize how fast you are accelerating through this now! 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤ Amazing! You seem to speed up and do more as I rewatch from the begining. Grief slows you down but doesnt stop you! Its wonderful!

[@alishatoleu4062]

I would say is break down the boxes as you go, that way you don’t have a box to put more stuff in.

[@garmstrong4872]

Mira, I am once again very touched by how well you describe exactly how you are feeling. I am even more impressed that you are willing to share it with us. I think you are doing a terrific job.

[@elizabethsaffioti1432]

I love all your videos! Three things I want to share with you: First, I love shoes, have way too many, and can’t give up any of them. So I understand your original decision to wait on the shoes. Second, when you pulled out the teal and gold skirt from the second box I was yelling, “Keep that! It’s so cute!” Were you able to hear me? Third, you are such a lovely, insightful person. ❤ Keep up the great work!

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

I was originally thinking I could let that skirt go, but then I thought, "It is pretty cute." So I must have heard you, LOL. Thank you so much for your kind comment!

[@more5347]

a few of us in my library knitting group have challenged each other to wear every single thing we own to knitting. every week, we show up in something we haven't worn for years in some instances. it's been really fun. we've added jewelry, shoes, hand bags, craft bags... some of us have lots, some have less, but we're making sure that if we own it, we're using it and not forgetting about it at the bottom of a drawer or back of a closet. one lady showed up in a sweater she had knit over 25 years ago, and it still looks fabulous.

[@debgamble8368]

I love this idea! The conversations around your outfits must be a hoot! 🥰

[@joanneentwistle7653]

I understand the anxiety with things, especially with clothes right now. I think I am mourning the loss of my slimmer younger self. Once the items are out of the house and at their new destination though, it is a big weight off my shoulders and I can breathe a sigh of relief.

[@carolynwardle6913]

You are doing so good! The decision you made to help yourself along the way is amazing. You did not throw up your hands and say “I cant🎉”…that is so monumental!

[@lauriepowell3959]

I use a gardening stool that can be flipped to be a stool and has “saddle bags” I can put my scissors, tape, marker in) or it can be turned over to be a kneeler with (the upside down legs as side rails so I can get up) I got it for the yard, but it has been a godsend for getting down and dirty decluttering. Because of back injury and balance problems, the big thing for me is to get someone to carry the donation boxes and bags to my car so I can drop them off. The guys on receiving dock at charities will unload for me. Sometimes I bring them a bag of candy bars as a thank you. 👍 Re: sorting papers I retired from teaching 3 years ago and have no idea why I thought I needed to keep boxes of lesson plans, junk papers, and (now out of date) books. I finally faced them recently and am so glad to get them out of the house. It was cathartic to say to myself that I released that time of my life and am moving on to my new life.

[@homeschoolteenswithjenny]

I've watched a number of organizers on YT say that it's best to either just clean or just declutter, but not try to combine them. So, I think you're doing great just getting it cleaned out.

[@hopefulheart77]

Loved that you donated shoes for school project. I donate my kids clothes and shoes that no longer fit to their schools. (Elementary, junior and senior high school) The nurses office hands out clothes and shoes to the kids for whatever reason the kids need a change of clothes or shoes and they are so grateful.

[@lorettalouvros207]

Hey Mira!! Just wanted to hop on and let you know how inspiring you are❤ Keep up the good work 👏👏👏 You blow my mind! Big Love❤❤❤

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

Thank you so much!

[@bethirwin7445]

Mira, clothing that doesn’t fit well needs to be released to someone it does fit (donate or threads). Take a picture for a memory reminder & celebrate you now have space for things that make you happy NOW. Love on Now Mira & her awesomeness. Past Mira is for remembering fondly, but Now Mira needs to be your focus. ❤

[@flipsforfun6116]

Nothing more motivating that wanting to help others. Great job Mira ❤️

[@debralaforest9274]

Great job Mira! Other commenters are correct, people may only see things from their own point of view. The firefighters only thing you are safe if you have easy access to all doors and windows, the home health aid only thinks you are safe if your environment is dust free and offers no hiding place for insects and spores, you feel you are safe if you have the things you love around you. As humans, we need to bridge those gaps and all share each other’s perspectives.

[@joycefernandezbaham8380]

My dad was a firefighter and he would tell us terrible stories of being unable to rescue some people from their homes. It always bothered him when he couldn’t help someone

[@joycefernandezbaham8380]

My dad was a firefighter and he would tell us terrible stories of being unable to rescue some people from their homes. It always bothered him when he couldn’t help someone

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

This is so true. Thank you for commenting.

[@donnahilton8924]

I liked "knowing what the problem is isn't the problem". ❤

[@youandmeandmultiplescleros402]

“Anxiety is a really crappy copilot “….You have such a way with words, Mira. No surprise that you’re a writer. 🩷

[@sallygombita]

I would rent my soul for a week or so to the devil if I could find a reliable, affordable handyman who knows what they're doing. You have found a unicorn, I'm jealous!

[@leannekirk74]

Mira I'm a nurse in New Zealand and I visit lots of homes in all sorts of states and I understand that a comment from me is not going to help one little bit. People are so embarrassed if their homes are messy, they apologise, they don't want me to come inside. They already know it's a problem. I try to make our interaction a positive one so that they'll feel a bit better in themselves for the rest of the day. People can leave us feeling anxious or down or they can leave us feeling uplifted. Particularly while you are needing oxygen you are at your lowest ebb. I continue to be amazed at your progress, you are just sticking with it even through the loss of your darling boy and your mum. I lost my beautiful 4 legged boy last year, and then my mum a few months later. It's a tough time. What a shame I live so far, as I just love doing laundry. If someone said to me that I needed to declutter my linen cupboard I would have a panic, but if they said I need to wash every item I would just get right onto it lol. I would love to help with your laundry. Love the photo of you and Bonnie, two beautiful souls!

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

Thank you so much for this lovely comment.

[@elizabethmccullough9607]

I was a homecare physical therapist and I was in many homes that had all kinds of issues but I know I don’t know what is going on with people. I focused on why I was there to help the person. No judgement. Once we knew each other we could attack the issues in front of us. Their goals were not the same as mine . Mutual respect. Not enough of that going on!!

[@RoxanneR8375]

Thank you for saying that. We really DON'T know what's going on with people.

[@user-fs6ou3fk9p]

You're doing a great job. I'm amazed at the progress you're making.

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

Thank you.

[@colinecleans]

You are such an inspiration! Good progress! 🩵💪

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

Thank you! You too!

[@maryalber7527]

Even if you are just going through the motions, it’s a step closer to your goal. Proud of you for keeping going even when you don’t want to

[@Mimi-dy6yf]

My goodness but you are so wise! Thank you so much for these videos. Proud to be “Team Peeling Away the Clutter”!!!!

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

Thank you so much!

[@JudyReilly-n3e]

You are very brave for putting yourself out there! Thank you for sharing wisdom and love.

[@rochellesiegel5199]

Good progress Mira! You are outgoing in your storytelling mode. Keep up the good work! The space, order, cleanliness & beauty you create in your physical environment will manifest in your emotional realm for sure. 😊 ❤

[@MissFlutterGirl]

“Anxiety is my Co pilot” YES I 100% agree with that.

[@RadCenter]

I can relate. I needed my landlord to come to my apartment for a plumbing issue last week, and I had to scramble to get the bathroom looking presentable. It wasn't cluttered; just dirty.

[@cheriland7461]

Dearest Mira, I want to say I am absolutely proud of you. 🎉 Another thing I want to say is that it may be helpful to you to vertically organize and hang your clothes instead of boxes and shelves with horizontal piles on top of each other. I find the horizontal way causes a lot of shifting and refolding after digging for what you're looking for. It also causes avalanches and mountains of things piled on top of each other. I suggest the clothing you sort through or keep to be hung up on hangers on clothing rods. That way, they are easily seen and pushed aside a few inches without falling. You can temporarily RENT clothing valet bars while you scale down and declutter. In case I'm not making myself clear, I'm talking about the rolling bar racks that are used in stores that hold clothing. I'm looking forward to your next video. Be blessed.

[@ritatharp5238]

My donation center will only take clothes on hangers.

[@saramacdonald846]

Oh I just love that you wrote a romance novella - that's awesome! Looking forward to the epic t-shirt sort through!

[@isabellerininger6249]

Cheers🎉Mira! You said many wonderfully true statements! Working for 10-15 minutes and taking a break can really keep us going for longer. It’s so helpful! And you are so right about judgement from outsiders not being helpful-I’ve often wanted to say “I know I’m depressed now that YOU told me-I had no clue!😆 “ I’ve learned so much in my adult years-how to actually be helpful without judgement is one of those things-and I wish everyone could learn this. Empathy is not as widespread/common a life skill as I thought in my younger years. You are making great progress Mira and I’m so proud of you! 🎉

[@phyllisdaum1213]

Here’s what worked for me in my overstuffed closet. 3 boxes, keep, no keep and maybe. I assure you my ‘maybe’ box filled up fast. I put away the definite yes, got rid of the no’s and resorted the maybe box. Eventually my yes store spot was full and then the maybe’s became no’s since I had already rejected definite yeses for this a few times. It was slow, painful and difficult but overall it worked for me…

[@glitterandpearls]

Shaming is bullying don’t listen to them or tell them “yes i have a cluttered house and so what? At least I have a cool youtube channel about it”😎💪🏼 Ps. Love how you have displayed your Captain America necklace 😊

[@CherylCoolidge]

Keep going. Your closet is looking good.

[@kingskid0312]

I think it’s ignorance on both sides. The person asking the questions wants better for you and you take on the feelings of being judged. You are doing a wonderful job. Keep up with it. ❤️❤️

[@AprilJohnson34]

I find it is always easier for me to get rid of stuff I don't need if it is going to a home... just throwing it in the trash makes me "feel" for the item and then I want to keep it just to make it feel wanted

[@LeeLeo-wp5dw]

Mira, you are doing wonderfully! Keep going. Can’t wait to see what the handyman does!!

[@beekwa]

Alright. I’m taking a couple things to the basement and bringing up something I know I want to donate. I’ve been procrastinating on it since Christmas.

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

Yay! You can do it!

[@sesshypuppysbff]

I hope you're doing well and that you're feeling accomplished. You've made so much progress in such a short and turbulent time. As far as the "have you thought about throwing things away" questions, I've found that having a trash can in every place that trash ends up is handy. I have a two bedroom apartment with my two girlfriends, and we have 3 large trash cans and 5 small ones, plus a recycle bin. It's so much easier to tackle trash a little bit at a time when it's already bagged and you've just got to consolidate and bring it out. Also I think you've got the right idea about the clothing. You've got so much that you love that is hiding away, and you've got to expose it to make decisions, and you're making better informed decisions on them when you look at all of it together. I think once you have the clothes all clean and sorted into categories, you'll be able to really make final decisions and pare down the collection into just enough that you've got space for. Keep on keeping on, you're doing a great job, this is such a HUGE project and you're truly making progress as fast as you can.

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

Thank you so much!

[@3of4sisters]

You did an amazing job "peeling away the clutter" from that closet! Good on you!

[@librarynan4610]

Wow, you have made it to the closet! Exciting! Congratulations!

[@patriciandcowgirl6044]

Awesome on the shoes and thank you for opening your home, life and sharing real life struggles. ! I love seeing the before and after. Looking forward to see you again.

[@coastalnana2766]

You're doing great!

[@rosebuddud0307]

New team member here. So inspired by you and your determination. I have anxiety too. I will speak with my case manager this afternoon regarding clearing away some of my clutter. I can't manage it alone because of my health but my case manager might be able to find someone who can help. I hadn't really thought I could tackle my clutter problems but you have inspired me. Thanks so much.

[@debrawichmann5152]

Glad to hear that someone is helping you with doing your laundry. 😊 When you get a box empty, break it down right away, being flat takes so much less space. Things donated to a church or salvation army are often used to help others in need...just might give you a better reason to donate. I wonder what that nurse would say now? You decluttered a lot of your house. People in certain jobs are obligated to make sure, in case of an emergency, that there is easy access to rooms used on a daily basis. Those people are NOT judging you, they are explaining to you what NEEDS to happen to make your home SAFE! That's how you need to look at your home...should something happen, can an emergency personal get to you easily. You've done such a wonderful job decluttering, and you seem to be keeping everything clear that you've already cleaned. You just keep doing what you're doing,❤ and soon you'll have the main rooms you live in done! 😊🎉❤

[@jenniferbaker5167]

"knowing what the problem is isn't the problem" is going to be my new saying. I have a loved one with a substance abuse issue and I have found my issues aren't that far away from his and that my struggle is just as hard. I love the shirt Bonnie made for you and the fact that she came over on her birthday to give it to you. I found you both at the same time and I am so glad I did. I feel like I am part of team Peeling Away now. I also had anxiety whenever we needed someone to come over the house to fix something. I would do a speed declutter just to move things and make it look presentable. It is such an awful feeling. I am so happy you found a good handy man that lets you be you. As always, thank you for sharing Mira!

[@goldfishsnake]

honestly I don't think hardly anyone would just throw out a box of their own stuff without looking through it, anxiety or not :) Take your time!

[@zeinebtoumi1858]

I love that you keep peeling away the clutter and i'm excited to see the closet after having the handyman over. Once you start putting clothes on hangers in the closet you will find a lot of space to keep decluttering .

[@melissalane-q7m]

You and the Inspector have given us another motivating video! Geez, I know all about the shame of even contemplating someone seeing the inside of my house. I put off replacing my stove for 2 years, because I didn’t want the delivery people to see how I live. Of course, every day of that 2 years I was telling myself that I’ll get this place cleaned up long enough for a new stove to be delivered. And of course, I always added, “I’ll spend the whole day cleaning Finally, 2 years later, I ordered the stove, and it was delivered into the chaotic disarray I call home. Anyway, in the past week, I finally sorted through all of the boxed stuff around my fireplace. 3 boxes of stuff are going to Goodwill. I just need to put the other things on empty shelves in the designated rooms. But, I lost focus and motivation. Hopefully, Mira’s video will inspire me to finish up. Then I just need to sweep and mop where the stuff was piled. Rambling on and on…. Ok, thank you for sharing with us your decluttering journey. Seeing your determination to keep working on your decluttering, knowing you’re pushing through emotions that I’m letting stop me, and watching you do it all with humor and grace, never fails to inspire me.

[@jillbacklund4660]

Mira! Once you get your closet fixed up, I'd love to see a video where you try out the container concept. Not sure if it'll work for you, but it would sure be nice to know laundry is under control!

[@intherockies]

Container concept is the way to go!

[@kmkackle9524]

Well done Mia every day peeling away keeps getting better and better on your journey 🎉🎉🎉

[@glendaw5221]

I would never be able to get rid of a box of clothes without looking in it! And I am no longer cluttered. I’m a little messy, but it’s taken me years to get rid of stuff! So I’m in that boat with you! I am helping several friends declutter using the little by little method. Obvious trash is our first attack. If it is debatable skip it. You are doing GREAT!!

[@dianaw9717]

You are doing so well! I know things are hard right now, but you have the right idea❤ Just like Dory says just keep peeling, just keep peeling, just keep peeling 🐟

[@cassyharrison3592]

I don't know if it's workable for you, but maybe when the clothes come back from being laundered, you could let yourself choose two or three items per pile of your very favorites, and see how that goes as far as having enough room in your closet when done. Of course it depends on the size of the piles you will be sorting through, too. Ultimately, it will be up to you, how you do it, and that's how it should be.

[@Anberel]

You have my sympathy. There’s absolutely times when it feels like people are not empathetic and it’s really recognizable compared to people who are approaching your situation with compassion. I try to remind myself that the way they act is about them and the way I react to them is about me. I realized that assuming I understand other people’s motivations and unspoken feelings was a coping mechanism from growing up with abusive parents. It’s taken me years to realize that heightened sense of other people’s intentions was false. I can’t read minds. I was telling myself stories based on past abuse to try to anticipate situations that might be scary or painful. Now unless someone verbally expresses a feeling, I try not to ascribe anything to what I might be perceiving from the way they’re speaking to me. It puts the burden on other people to be clear about their feelings and intentions and it saves me a lot of reactionary stress and anxiety. Right now it’s taking me a conscious effort to let those stories go, but I am hoping in the future it will be more automatic.

[@AmandaIsAwesome]

Mira you're doing such a great job! I can't wait to see your closet put together in a way that works for you!

[@bonnielovestuxedos7929]

Mira, you’re doing great. I think it’s really important to go through clothes, papers, items one at a time as you decide keep, donate, discard. For me the time saver and ease of “just get rid of the whole box” would soon be overcome with thoughts of “what was in there. Did I trash something important?” You should always honor your style, your need to do it your way…and keep those crafty times. Creativity is the song in your soul which keeps you singing. 😊

[@ritatharp5238]

I love that thought about creativity being good for your soul, so TRUE 💖

[@RoxanneR8375]

I think you are spot on for respecting your need to go through all your boxes. Knowing you haven't thrown out something important (or important to you) gives you a sense of safety. That sense of safety is ESSENTIAL. Otherwise the anxiety would build to a point where you would quit, just to get rid of the distress. You're doing great. You understand your emotional needs very well, and respect them. It's working well for you. Keep on keeping on!🥰❤️🧡💛💚💙💜👏

[@jemreandeau3583]

Hello Mira, I still love your laugh. You are making progress with your clean out, a little at a time and it’ll get done. ❤

[@sheilarowan8664]

Wow what a fantastic job you are doing remember baby steps that's all you need love your channel ❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@melaniewest3947]

You have done a great job. One bit at a time and then try your best to keep it tidy. We all have messy days

[@Atira_]

Yay! Wonderful work with the closet and all the clothes! 👚👖🧦 Love your videos as always!

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

Thank you!

[@fernbrisot325]

And yet another brilliant insight... "Knowing what the problem is, is not the problem." And I think setting smaller goals is the way to go. And having an actual checklist that can physically checked off can also be motivating. Even if the progress isn't visible, the checkmarks are. It will be exciting to see what you come up with in the closet redesign. Cheers!

[@faithdenis6746]

You look gorgeous in those jeans!

[@joy2own]

Mira, youre a writer! I wonder if I came across you back in the day online? Please remember those who say insensitive things are often without the gift of words and communication. I used to be able to write, but what comes out my mouth isn't nearly as pretty. Someone mentioned the whole taking pictures of items, and I personally have found this very helpful. I take photos of treasured items before I let them go. It has even evolved into me taking pictures of items when I'm SHOPPING! Let me tell you it made a world of difference in my antique and second hand shopping! I really enjoy going back and looking at all the stuff that I didn't bring home! ❤ PS absolutely LOVE your QUOTES! Definitely do something with those!

[@faithsmith7431]

Great job Mira. So happy your handyman is coming to makeover your closet. I have been gathering things to donate. I also spent yesterday and today cleaning my bedroom carpet, and walls where one of my recently rescued cats has urinated. Smells much better. Keep on keeping on Mira. You got this. Love and hugs my friend.

[@suzanne529]

She is an inspiration, isn't she?

[@tammytlc0218]

A suggestion for clothes, maybe look at it from the perspective of how many outfits can I wear. Maybe keep one outfit per day? Then donate to a women's shelter, helping others that are in need might help make it easier to let go. As there is a greater purpose for the clothes. Best wishes, whatever works for you.

[@MsArtistwannabe]

The home health aid might be a mandatory reporter. I’m sure her only concern is your safety. It is hard to manage a gurney in tight spaces should the need arise.

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

She did mention that, actually. But it wasn't so much what she said as her tone when she said it. I'm okay with people expressing concern but she was condescending about it. Thanks for commenting. I recognize that home health aids need to do their job.

[@MsArtistwannabe]

@@PeelingAwaytheClutter I’m sorry she was condescending. That’s never helpful. Just makes people feel bad.

[@LC-38338]

It is so true that it is all about how you say things and the tone of voice is SO important. I had an experience of requesting assistance and the person 's answer was NO but he did it in such a kind and respectful way that I left feeling good about the agency , feeling good about myself and feeling great about him personally. That was such an important life lesson for me that I became very aware as a healthcare professional, to watch my tone of voice and to take the time to say things in a caring manner.@@PeelingAwaytheClutter

[@janetsides901]

I always told my kids when they were teenagers,”it’s not what you’re saying that’s a problem,it’s how you are saying it “

[@LadyPelikan]

Or she might be like me. I wish everyone the best, and i try not to be judgemental, but when I open my mouth, it just comes out so wrong. 😢 I'm still thinking of things I said decades ago, that must have hurt.

[@judithwoomer7747]

Awesome job Mira! I wish I lived near you I would help you out anytime. No judgement here, that's for sure!!!! Now that the clothes are out of the boxes, does that make you feel better. You can get rid of the boxes now that you don't need them. Funny fact: I'm doing laundry while watching your video and my washer sounds like it wants to run away, hahahah! The home health person may not have been showing judgement, maybe just concern for your safety and not wanting you to fall. I had both total knee replacements and had home rehab, she was the sweetest girl. But, when she came to see me I did notice her looking around. I think they are trained. I worked in the home residential field for 12 years and we were mandated reporters of abuse, neglect or danger, etc. I don't know in your case, you may be right. Just letting you know there are good people out there willing to help! Keep up the awesome work Mira!!!🦋🦋❤❤🦋🦋❤❤🦋🦋❤❤🦋🦋❤❤

[@LittleLinz]

Something i’ve found helpful which you could contemplate for when you get to it is using the container method. Your closet, dresser etc is the container and i always think i can only keep what fits inside that space. Sadly, the closet is not the tardis!!! (It doesn’t get bigger when things go inside it!!!) so once you’ve washed it all be mindful that you can only keep what fits in that space.

[@amykay2781]

Mira you look fantastic! You are moving around more and kicking ass!

[@edieboudreau9637]

Yes. When others come in and judge what has occurred due to illness it makes it VERY DIFFICULT to go forward at all. If instead they asked, "can i help you go through any of this, THAT would be more helpful and might bypass some of the anxiety. I know that that mountain in the living room felt like going backwards and replaced that weight. Im glad you fought through that to the return of cleared space again instead of staying in the dark place. Sometimes motivation is extra Helpful. Having a place for others to get use from our no longer neededs is freeing, isn't it!

[@annamariabo8963]

I think a person coming in asking "have you considered throwing stuff away" may sometimes work their way up to asking "can I help?" I love decluttering, especially other peoples' stuff (less emotional attachment), but I can't very well walk into am apartment for the first time, look around and say "oh, may I declutter this". Asking whether the owner has considered decluttering might be a way to ask whether they might like help.

[@edieboudreau9637]

@@annamariabo8963 why not just ask. "How may I help today? I'm able to help in any way you like!" Is much less judgemental.

[@bluegrassgirl2972]

I get it when you spoke about the home health nurse, especially when immediately being discharged from the hospital. It is the home health nurse 's responsibility to make sure the patient/client to navigate safely through their home. It isn't intended to be judgemental but safety.

[@cherihendrix3076]

Hi Mira! I'm excited to see your video today. I can relate to your anxiety about people coming into your house. We can get out of this mess!

[@ChristianAnneSmith]

Happy to be a part of Team Peeling Away. ❤ You are doing such an amazing job. It is very inspiring to watch. That’s so exciting that your shoes will help so many people who need them.

[@karenrogers3685]

You have worked so hard at this clutter journey. I really applaud you. Again, I'm sorry for your losses. I hope you look around at what you have accomplished and it makes you happy and proud becuse you should be.

[@MsArtistwannabe]

I could never let a box go without going through everything. I need to know what’s in it.

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

Same for me.

[@rebeccaashton5390]

Mira, I was dying 😂 when you were gate keeper for Clay. I think he is enjoying himself. So proud of your tenacity. I have totes of clothes that I am sorting through and you give me the motivation I need to keep peeling away my clutter. Hugs to you and Clay.

[@deborahconley2009]

My daughter has the same issues and she said that burning the papers made her feel great relief

[@homeschoolteenswithjenny]

So good to hear from you! I can't wait to see what the handyman does with your closet!

[@ginas.1110]

Great job! Looking forward to seeing your new closet re-do. I'm the same way - knowing someone else can use my extra things really motivates me too.

[@graceh8866]

Mira you did a great job . I hope my suggestion didn’t give you anxiety. I truly was trying to help you out, I had no idea that would make you feel that way. I’m glad you did what you felt was good for you. Hey I love the Dr who shirt I’m glad you found that one. Please know that I am only suggesting solutions, that have worked for me in the past. I am really happy for you and wish you the best.💕💕💕💕💕

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

Please don't stop making suggestions! There's no way to know what will work and what won't. I really didn't stress about it, just tried on the idea so to speak, and then realized I need to do something else. I'm glad you're here. Thanks for commenting and for your support!

[@tijenhoca6371]

Hi Mira, I have waited for your video so loong)) I’m in Turkiye and we’re 7 hrs ahead of you. Its 2 am now, finally the video here, yey))

[@dianneperry2903]

My daughter, Son in law and 2 grandbabies live in Istanbul. We went twice last year and once in 2021.

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

Sorry about that. I was running late today. Hope you enjoy!

[@tijenhoca6371]

Its always worth the wait Mira, thank you. And I love longer videos btw. PS. Your clothes journey is amazing, cant get enough of it🫶@@PeelingAwaytheClutter

[@tijenhoca6371]

I always enjoy your videos Mira. Its an amazing progress in the house. You’re doing great🫶@@PeelingAwaytheClutter

[@DianeWood-ji3fh]

I am one of your bottle people, and today I did not see any of the bottles you pointed out, except for the one you were drinking from, and I was just being silly about the bottles.... my husband and I drink a lot of bottled water and we keep a trash can nearby us just for mashed water bottles... no harm intended... I think it is amazing how you keep your brain straight on which bag has which particular kind of clothes is in each bag. of course, I know I am older than you and may have some issues, with that.... and a writer I can very much believe you, I have no doubt about that at all... you speak quite capable to write.