Hate Cleaning?! I have some TRICKS to make you LOVE IT!!

[@elizabethsydnor5247]

Cas I love the way you admit your weaknesses rather than acting like you have everything altogether that is so refreshing

[@lisajoy9588]

My mother didn’t do any of the negative things like fussing at me or punishing me about being messy, thank goodness. I think the problem was that she was just naturally organized and things just seemed effortless for her. I on the other hand was scattered and everything seemed hard for me. I just couldn’t figure out how to do it like she did and always felt like a failure. Even though she was nothing but encouraging. I think that’s why I have always had a negative outlook on cleaning and organizing. Learning as an adult that I’m ADHD has helped me feel better about myself because I at least have sort of a Reason. You Cass, help me TREMENDOUSLY because you understand my crazy brain and give me tools to use to get myself together! I listen to you every single day and I am getting better. 🙂

[@marilyncarey7957]

This is my life EXACTLY. Thank you for putting it into words. Everybody in my life was born organised and had no idea why I didn’t just know how to do the stuff that was automatic for them or how to teach my ADD brain. I wasn’t diagnosed till I was 73 and they had all passed. Can’t have medx for medical reasons but I’m ‘slowly’ figuring out how to divide jobs into manageable short attention span chunks or categories and tackle one at a time.

[@HappyHarryX5]

Cass, One thing I’ve done recently is changed the dishwashing liquid to one with a different (nice) scent and tried a new wash cloth. It’s making it a novelty and changing it up. Had used the same sponges for 30+yrs as they’re the ones that the ex liked and I didn’t want to get told off for buying a useless sponge (for him). I feel like I’m reclaiming my kitchen.

[@thatswhatisaid8908]

I misread your comment about your ex as "a useless sponge like him" - oh, like MY ex, then!

[@HappyHarryX5]

@@thatswhatisaid8908 There are plenty of useless exes in the world, I certainly had one! May your post ex life be wonderful and full of your awesomeness!

[@joanneandrea7298]

I'm 3/4 of the way through the video but wanted to stop and comment on Cass's comment about reframing your thinking. I used to be a pack a day smoker. My life REVOLVED around smoking. I would purposely book flights in airports that had a smoking room (this was back in the day) so that my layover could include my smoking habit. When I decided to quit, I kept it to ONE day. I got through that first day, and I couldn't believe it. I was so proud of myself. Then I was excited to get one more day under my belt. By the time a week had gone by, there was no stopping me because I WAS ON A ROLL!! I quit smoking in 2005 and never went back. The point is, I reframed my thinking from something like 'omg this is going to be a huuuuge struggle!', to like, 'get one day under your belt... then try for one more day'. And then soon, the thought of keeping my "on a roll" growing was more important than dealing with the nicotine withdrawals. Reframing the thoughts.

[@leecotton3242]

Boy, this is such a help to me! Thank you very much. My grandma was a home ec major and you better believe she was quite intimidating to my mother … so much so that the latter never learned to cook or sew. Grandma even picked out and placed the furniture in our house. Mama had a cleaning lady. Whew. I was married for nearly 35 years and my husband enjoyed doing most of the housework - his mother had been a maid in England and she gave all her children good training. When he developed dementia and then passed in 2020, I had a whole lot of new-to-me skills to develop. I read lots of books, watched many videos and had several wonderful friends who helped me declutter and clean. I’ll admit it: I disliked housekeeping because 1) I felt I was utterly inept and 2) I was exhausting myself as a way to punish myself because my hubby died ‘way before his time. Over the past four years, I have become far more competent at various tasks and find ways to make them positive experiences. And my “mission statement” for several decades has been “I live my life as a work of art.” I have added this sentence: “I live my life in a way that would make my husband proud of me. Thank you for all the good you are doing for all of us.

[@pmholli54]

I got an F in neatness in the second grade. The consequence of having a messy desk was bringing home everything in my desk. It started with taking everything home one day, grew to a week then a month. It got to the point that I kept everything stuffed in my book bag. For decades I believed I was a neatness failure. First Dana, then you and Dawn have helped me so much. Finally something made sense. I will probably never be an A in neatness kind of person, but I’m probably a solid C. I no longer feel overwhelmed.

[@enlightenedDragon]

it takes a few passes to change the layers of thinking.

[@FriasFamily2018]

Pop8

[@SAC-j4m]

Thank you, Cass! This was so helpful and inspiring. I feel more confident that I will accomplish more BECAUSE I don't have to feel stressed; I can feel blessed that I have a house at all, and find gratitude in cleaning it!😊

[@denisewhitney5926]

I cleaned up after lunch while listening to your podcast! I'm with you. I now say, "I love a clean kitchen!!" vs "Ughhh. I hate cleaning the kitchen. I'll do it 'later'!" And "later used to be 3 or 5 days!!! 😱 So glad to have found Dana in 2017 and you and Dawn in 2021!!! Lol!! I hear Dana saying, "Just do the dishes" and Dawn, "5 minutes matters" and your tough love all the time! Thank you soooo much!!!

[@KJDogluv]

Same!!!

[@emacwakeup]

100% this. I love cleaning now. I love empty minimaslist places. Decluttering now gives me dopamine rather than dread. Mess actually stresses me out. I'm a totally different person to what I used to be. I somewhat love ironing now. I focus on how satisfying it is to see the wrinkles disappear and I no longer dread it.

[@obliograce3551]

I don't know if you read KZbin comments but, this is just to say thank you. I am aware of these ideas but I have struggled on and off throughout my life. Your story today was encouraging. I am at my core very artistic, and very organized. Guess which one wins most of the time, it isn't organization. And, that always diminishes my ability to create. For myself it was my childhood memories of being a boy raised by a feminist leaning mom and a good father who worked very long hours. My mom was great too however, she raised five boys and she refused to do any housework. I lived in clutter and in chaos. Fleas, roaches, and stuff piled everywhere is where my brain wanders to as "normal" from these childhood experiences. Later I learned how to keep order when I was in the military. Even as a boy I loved mowing lawns and properly edging sidewalks and cleaning up all the clippings for a beautiful, orderly result. One of the things I have had to learn is, how to clean on a regular basis? I never really saw it growing up, but it is natural for me to want to create orderly spaces. Taking small steps every day with a kitchen timer while remembering to not be bossed around by childhood memories was a good reminder. BTW, years ago I found a book called "The Clean Team". That was an important piece that perhaps you could also cover for those of us who have no idea how to clean (other than when in a crisis as when moving or when guests are coming over). Putting together a cleaning kit that makes sense is something that I continue to takes steps to figure out. For example an ostrich feather duster actually works really well for dusting. Who knew? Again, thank you.

[@brendacollinsdeeks7268]

My mother was a serious hoarder and blamed us as kids for the mess in the house. I hate the clutter in my house but struggle to organize my house in a way that makes it function effectively. I have ADHD so your videos are really helping me find my way through the fog and I truly appreciate what you are doing.

[@lauranewman564]

You are amazing! Compare yourself as a person who struggles with ADD with Cas, and/or or someone else you admire with ADD, like Penn Holderness, who has recently written a book about it. It's ok to love and respect your mother for the positive things in her persona, but do not accept blame for anything like the mess, or her feelings, or anything that happened when you were a child. Sometimes we (yes, we) admire our parents so much that we think if they blamed us for something that they must have been right! They weren't! As a 69 year old grandma, please don't think I was perfectly right all of the time! I'm definitely not. But I am right about this one thing: I have made mistakes. I try so hard to avoid putting pressure on my kids to be perfect, or assess blame for the mess. It's not your fault. What an amazing person you are to post your feelings here! What an amazing person you are to keep trying! Baby steps! ❤❤❤

[@natashalindner2059]

My joy is hearing your podcasts and getting work done at the same time. I have a lot of 'shoulds' but I am going to do it all for future me, so the bathroom looks pretty, the dishwasher is almost on, and the towels will be washed overnight. Tomorrow will be wonderful ❤❤❤❤

[@ck4429]

I found a lovely small wire basket (many use small trays) to store a bottle of hand soap and a bottle of dish soap by my kitchen sink. Even though I do like to store things out of sight, this one change helped me tremendously to not hesitate to wash my dishes. Someone else commented, but yes, find a dish soap you like -smell, feel, etc. I chose a free/clear as it's less harsh on my hands because I'm not very good about wearing gloves. Overall, wanting to make cleaning more efficient and a little pleasurable, is want has really stimulated my decluttering. It's far easier to wipe down your counters when there isn't much on them. (No need to pull out decor/storage containers to wipe under/behind them). Sweeping the carpets/floors is much simpler when you are not having to pick up items on the floor, or move decor/plants/storage bins out of your way. Cleaning my shower was one of my least favorite jobs. Last month after grumbling and sweating through the tough cleaning, it occurred to me to use the same mindset. I removed all bottles/soap from my shower, except for a single suction shelf containing my razor and bare minimum products. If I want to change products, I simply grab them from my closet before I get into the shower. LIFE CHANGING! When I'm done showering, it takes about 1 minute to use my towel to wipe down the shower/tub after each use. My shower looks brand spanking new. It's so easy because I don't have to move anything. Great videos Cass. I love your tough love episodes, too.

[@rebeccasundberg4092]

OMG Cass this is so spot on! Years ago I heard something similar around changing the term House Work to Home Caring. That when you are doing the dishes or hanging the washing to look at it as caring for those items rather than looking at it as a chore. Same thinking but different subject. 9 years ago we made the choice to homeschool our youngest two children. I was one of those parents that looked forward to them going to school everyday. Life was hard when they were home. I know I sound like a horrible parent. It was a tricky situation. I was worried how I was going to cope with them being home all the time. But my mind did change. It wasn't a purposeful change, it just happened. After a couple of weeks I realised that I wasn't dreading them being home. I was actually enjoying it.

[@marilyncarey7957]

I use the power ONLY! Reframe I HAVE to do one load of laundry a day to I ONLY have to do one load of laundry (today). Reframe I have to do the dishes to I ONLY have to do the dishes (in the sink not every dish I own). Reframe I have to do my taxes to I ONLY have to do my taxes (once a year). Reframe I have to put away every thing I use to I ONLY have to put away the thing (that’s in my hand right now). This is the best session you’ve done Cas, apart from the ADD ones.

[@ClutterbugPod]

These are all GREAT reframes!

[@adelepeteranec794]

This in addition to Cas’s podcast is GOLD!

[@Amaryllis-4U]

I love this! Going to use this strategy 🙂 Thank you for sharing 😊

[@barbking286]

Oh No, NO Santa!!!!! lol. Growing up, my two sisters and I had a Saturday 'Chore' list. It was up to us each week to decide/determine who would do what. Keeping our rooms tidy was a daily expectation. This process (we didn't understand at the time and as YES we did grumble) taught us such a great lesson that is so useful in our adult lives, to work together as a team and make good decisions based on our abilities. No phone calls, no going out or friends coming over until the list was complete. As we got older, we also had outdoor chores, mowing the lawn, raking leaves, taking out the garbage and shoveling the driveway.This gave us such a positive foundation that has served us all so well as we established our own homes & families. I raised my Son the same way as he now does with his three daughters. Another great Podcast. Always so informative.

[@denisehuang7037]

Amazing Cas! You’ve taken a seemingly confusing concept, broken it down into actionable steps to really make a big difference. Awareness, reframing and repetition! Thank you!

[@karenrich9092]

I am so glad you realize what your husband does for you. My husband loved to cook and made breakfast and dinner every Saturday. When you smelled his delicious dinner, you stopped what you were doing and ran right to the kitchen. He died nearly 7 years ago and I want to yell at women who don't realize how much their husbands do for them. As for cleaning, I realized how much better things look when the dishes, clutter, and laundry are gone. I also allow myself 1 pile in a chair (my landing pad) for my purse and items to take with me. Well, it's time to clean house. Im going to see how much I can get done in 2 hours.

[@elizabethsorensen7363]

I love your podcast. I look forward to a new one every week. I love your show hot mess house. Wish there were more seasons. Thank you for being so honest and kind. You are a gift to those around you.

[@k.j.d865]

Wow! I had to clean as punishment, never thought about it until now when you said it. LOVE the idea of 'reframing'

[@charwoodard]

Thank you Cas! Great pod cast!

[@annetteaughney9182]

Class, can I just say " I love you" not in a weird way! 😀 Your are one of the best podcasters to listen to, genuinely. This is what I needed to hear. Might have to repeat this video a few times! Love from Ireland🇮🇪

[@elisaroberts9463]

I always find your podcasts encouraging. Thank you!

[@karinapraxedesbarnett7155]

Cas, you are so good. I need to apply this thought process to exercising. I need to reframe “I hate exercising” to “I love feeling my body worked out”. I never thought this way. Will give it a try. Thank you.

[@darlahkelley9800]

❤Reframing my Brain when I'm driving 🚗 to not have road rage is a Big one for me. ❤ I clean & tidy my studio everyday.

[@johnangelformby106]

You are the best! Thank you for this…

[@kaitlinobrien243]

Vulnerable baby brain....... not dumb ❤. I love you ❤️

[@brendaspencer6691]

Very helpful way of thinking.

[@sharonzvonar149]

Hi Cas! I called the non-emergency line in Port Moody several years ago. A guy came in a truck in the middle of the night and said, no it's not gas, I think it's pot! Strong pot. In BC.🙂

[@marilyncarey7957]

Thank you! Instead of trying, and failing, to write a ‘grateful journal’ every night, I’m going to try ONLY writing three things “I” did well today,and be grateful for ME instead of others. 🥰🥰🥰. And I will ONLY do it for a week (and hope it turns into a habit). And ONLY put the journal away on the nightstand afterwards so I can find it tomorrow instead of putting it down on the bed and having it jab into my ribs in the night. 😍😍😍😍

[@leecotton3242]

That’s a great idea with the gratitude journal - I write ever morning, bu want to add this evening routine as well. Thanks!

[@heathereyles8909]

This is so good Cas. I have managed to change my women's lib resentment at cleaning and tidying, to, I'm doing it for me, because I just love a nice house. It now gives me pleasure, and is so stress relieving. It's a joy. You have done such a lot for me. Resentment has pretty much disappeared. At 74, I have totally reframed my brain through listening to you and your colleagues. I do have a cleaner once a fortnight, for two hours, for a basic swish through, but there is still daily stuff, deep cleaning, and decluttering, to do. I employed a cleaner to avoid that resentment, but now it's just a useful add on, as we have a large house with several floors and I have mobility issues. I feel so much happier about my house and my husband!! Many thanks. Xxxxxxxx

[@intuitive_duck]

I really appreciate you touching on the feeling of unfairness and being a woman feeling it. I like the mental exercise of reminding myself of all the positive things over just seeing the negative things.

[@enlightenedDragon]

would love for you to do a series on time management for those of us that need to "do it all" (with adhd) kids, cleaning, day job, side hustle. I haven't found how to use my adhd as a "superpower" yet. Here's hoping.

[@kakylong2]

Cas, Great podcast. I am retraining my dumb baby brain to not put it down, put it away. Great tips. 😊

[@lauranewman564]

Cas, I love this so much. I love you and I'm so proud of you for figuring all of this out before you're 69 like me. I'm not going to feel guilty that it's taken me so long. I'm pressing forward and moving on, as of now.

[@amy2284]

Cas I truly learn so much from your podcast not only about cleaning and organizing, but so much more. I learn about how to hack my mind to get what I want with my fitness and finances with the stuff you talk about .

[@Brogrl]

Thank you for taking the time to make these podcasts. You make me feel like I have a sister or someone who truly cares about “me”, the one who cooks the meals, does the dishes and then gets existential about everything like “what’s the point?”. The point is that (Lord willing) there is a future self who will be thankful for my present efforts. Thank you Clutterbug ❤🙏⭐️

[@sevahnmerian1299]

This is fabulous! What a thought-provoking habit-changing game plan for success!

[@ceciliecardwell6057]

This is amazing. It's so good I actually listened to it twice, notes taken the second time. Step 1 started. I really needed this today. Thank you for being the amazing Cass that you are ❤

[@kimdavies9364]

Loved this, thank you Cass!

[@stephanieblake4618]

This podcast is amazing. I am going to work hard at training my dumb baby brain. I have always enjoyed organizing. My big issue is letting go of things, stuff, that is now just overwhelming clutter that can't be organized. I just wrote down 4 items to change my dumb baby brain. I can't wait for this to my life & home. Thank you Cas

[@sabajabir2546]

Excellent mind conditioning. The best podcast about our psychology.

[@faaj3593]

thank god alhamdulillah i found your channel and this exact video! send lot of loves 💙💙 Thankyou very much!

[@Nithrade]

Er, I watched the video this evening, not cleaning but playing fishdom... Sorry 😁. Afterwards I went to the bathroom and on the way back to bed I thought about wanting a clean flat a few times, not how tidying/cleaning sucks. I wanted to return to bed, but I couldn't! I cleaned my kitchen counter, folded some paper bags from the latest food delivery, and some other little things. I was quite shocked how quickly that seemed to work. Haha. The most interesting thing now is, if it will work tomorrow too! Loved the topic. Will watch it again for sure! Thank you!

[@HappyHarryX5]

Woo hoo!!! Love it when something just falls into place. Well done.

[@HappyHarryX5]

I had trauma neutralizing therapy to stop feeling anxious in the kitchen. My Mum made me and my younger sister wash up each night and my sister would get angry at me every time so I started having impending doom each night. This was exacerbated by my ex husband who would get his hackles up if I was in the kitchen and he wanted a drink of water. I’d get a grunt and be ignored for days on end. Now I make up parodies stacking the dishwasher, dance or unstack the dishwasher while the microwave is on and have a movie on while cooking. I sit on the bench top if I want. My fridge and pantry aren’t crowded and I don’t need to have a spare of a spare food item or get in trouble for buying the wrong thing or asked to get something on special but a larger version of the same item is still cheaper so I get that and still get in trouble. I still hate cooking but am getting there.

[@lxraycatmaui2884]

Don't accept crap from anyone.....they can buy their own stuff....HONOR YOU. ❤ ✌️

[@HappyHarryX5]

@@lxraycatmaui2884 Thank you! It was a long lesson to learn as my Mum made me a people please like her so I didn’t know any better. It’s even harder when one lived in one of the hottest and remotest parts of the world in a mining town with the ex for 13yrs. I’m a recovering people pleaser and very happy to be so!

[@KJDogluv]

Your husband is abusing you

[@thesimplyspoiled1]

I needed to hear this today. Thank you! ❤

[@julie2904]

I think this one is going to help so much!!!

[@mckenzielynntozanwrites]

This was so incredibly helpful, Cas. I have so many of the same core beliefs as you, and I love how you reframed them. I also watched/listened to this one and a half times and folded three loads of laundry, so I don't have to do it tomorrow during an overloaded workday. ❤

[@Rosannasfriend]

You, that practical mom, and the awkward Mom have honestly changed my life. With you, it is your blog channel that has really helped me more than your actual channel. You have these gems that change the way I think and you just help me so well. Better than any psychiatrist. And it’s advised that could be used for so much more than just cleaning and tidying and decluttering. Just for your overall life.

[@tinahyatt1722]

I had a few negative experiences with my mom. God rest her soul, but one of the things that I have worked on undoing this year is that it can be done imperfect, and that's okay. My hubby is the same Cass. I need to try swapping my mindset of doing what your therapist recommended to you. I need to change my mindset on a lot of things

[@lisastiller1504]

thanks so much for this video/podcast; I have been teaching my family how to help clean the house by making positive statements: like "I need everyone to pick up any trash from the floor" or "Let's all dry the shower walls after showering, it helps keep the shower clean" etc

[@monacarr4297]

Oh my gosh! I love this and thank you. It isn’t new info for me, more of a reminder. I just love the way you explain it! Thank you! ❤

[@jejrstans]

I just replied to your email with this comment...The Train Your Brain podcast tips were some of the best you've ever shared! And you've shared some great stuff!! I'm looking forward to using these to change my mind about cleaning and other things I want to change my mind about in my life. Thanks!! ~J

[@mamabubu6505]

Great video ❤ & this shirt suits you, lovely look 🎉

[@kd33d]

Cass, Thank You for being so smart, and working through your shit; and so kind to share it with us, so we can work through ours. I watched this twice today, and added to my playlist to watch again❤

[@sarahsilvas3931]

Thank you! You have transformed my mind. I have been watching you for a couple of months and I'm so thankful.

[@bonnieinthespirit6373]

I’m learning!! Still. I need this . !!!

[@tracysmith6865]

You are awesome, Cas!

[@charlenemiles1706]

Love this advice!

[@hazellucas1663]

Thanks Cas, I really needed to hear this. I found it very helpful and I got a lot done while listening 😊.

[@tamara1773]

Thank you, Cass for this wonderful idea of reframing my thoughts my stupid baby brain gets stuck too

[@stephanied6711]

Changing my midset about cleaning and decluttering has helped me soo much it did take sometime to click in the brain tho

[@marilyncarey7957]

There is a cute kids book called ‘Don’t let the pigeon drive the bus.’ Now I keep thinking don’t let the pigeons baby brain drive the bus! Love it. That will be my new mantra. Ps, I have a very strange sense of humour - I’m learning to let it drive the bus (or the vacuum). Thank you.

[@trishferrer8209]

The answer to your question at 12:45 into the video is: All this cleaning, organizing, and decluttering (not in that order) feels excruciatingly BORING (making me feel wiggly and anxious inside. AND, I can never get "finished" before the next day comes, and it's getting messy again - or other areas are still messy.

[@annewright3486]

You’re the best. Thank you Cass!

[@kraykray4118]

Thank you Cas. You are a diamond 💎

[@kaymyers4766]

I have done laundry all day of extra bedding and clothes for my boys. I am planning on getting all of our regular bedding to get done tomorrow.

[@rachelogden1107]

I needed this video. Just put away some laundry that I've been dreading.

[@HappyHarryX5]

Woo hoo! I know what you mean. For some reason I’ll avoid washing up if there’s a really dirty pot or bread board to wash and have to remind myself why I’m putting it off.

[@Holliswoud]

Thank you for introducing me to my dumb baby brain 🙂, and giving me a starting place to begin working with it (me), so that we can _together_ achieve our (my) goals, and stop working at cross purposes. I appreciate you, and thanks again. 🙂💛

[@bonnieinthespirit6373]

Since I learned” Declutter”. I found FLYLADY . Bought her tools. I love weekly home blessing. I look clean. I use to do it daily. To get the happen to stick, ; now, I do yard work 15 mins at a time. Cut trees limbs for 15 mins. I started painting the deck in 15 min time frame. Then I painted my spare room . I did the walls in 15 min time frame. I don’t know 🤷‍♀️ why . But I like it . To work it for 15 mins at a time. So weird. I use to bust my butt working. I still do only 2 min to get me started . 5 mins. To it looking right. ( surface cleared). .. help, my spouse doesn’t like me. To clean. Sweep or mop the kitchen floor. To wash dishes. (3 plates. 3 bowls. 2 forks; 1 fry pan 1 pressure cooker ) so it takes a minute to wash. But he prefer the maid which is me to stop. I tried it . I get out of sorts .I get anxious to clear the counter. The floor looks dirty. The pets to be feed or their dishes need cleaning. Then I get behind. So I do 5x5 clean (2x) to get whole house in order. .

[@marilynndesilva7620]

When you said "woo woo, hippy dippy, crystal rubbing...." that's when I noticed the unicorn on the shelf behind you.😆 As an "essential-oil-huffing person" I can tell you that if you use the right formula they do work, although subtly, unlike toxic pharmaceuticals. I rub a calming oil on the soles of my feet at bedtime and it helps me sleep through the night.

[@RoxanneR8375]

Ohhhh please please please, tell me what calming oil you rub on your feet. I have a terrible time sleeping 😴😴😴😴. Haven't found anything that helps. 🥱🥱🥱🥱🥱💤💤💤💤💤

[@marilynndesilva7620]

@@RoxanneR8375 I use several different kinds of sleep aids and mix them up so my body doesn't get dependent on any one thing. CBD was a huge game changer when I discovered it several years ago. As with any medication, it's important to get it from a trusted source. Melatonin in small doses (no more than one mg) helps also. I use Vitanica Sleep Blend which has supportive herbs and vitamins combined with melatonin. The oil I rub on the soles of my feet is "Inner Peace" by Desert Essence. There are others that would be just as good or perhaps better, but I got it at a good price and am happy with it. Definitely turn off the computer, phone, TV, etc. well in advance of bedtime, and have the room as dark as you can get it. Sweet dreams, Roxanne!

[@marilynndesilva7620]

​@@RoxanneR8375 I posted a lengthy reply yesterday, but it has disappeared!?! I didn't include a link or anything I would consider controversial, so I don't know why youtube would remove it. So annoying and a waste of my time. I did mention C B D as a bedtime aid, but it's totally legal, and melatonin (small dose; bigger is not necessarily better), which should not raise any red flags. Anyway, the essential oil product is "Inner Peace" by Desert Essence. It's not the only relaxing essential oil, so you might try several until you find what's best for you. Good luck and sweet dreams.

[@RoxanneR8375]

@@marilynndesilva7620 Thanks, Marilyn! I have tried melatonin with no success. I'm not sure whether C B D would mix well with my meds, but I can ask my Dr. Inner Peace sounds promising. I will look for it. Many thanks! (I am posting this at 1:30 am, and I notice you just posted this 30 minutes ago. Are we both having trouble sleeping tonight?????? Hope we both can drift off soon! 🙂🙂🙂🙂🥱🥱🥱🥱🥱😴😴😴😴😴💤💤💤💤💤❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@dannyh9010]

I’m a guy and I learned a long time ago that no matter how small the project, unless I want to hunt for the tools where I might have set them down and constantly get a new pencil because I lost it, I have to wear a tool belt.

[@amandataub842]

When it comes to cleaning, I have to ask myself, "What can I do and how much can I do before I start hurting? How much pain can I put up with to get everything done that I want to get done?" So, yeah I feel lazy because I don't want to hurt or I have to measure how much pain I can deal with. And I feel guilty because my other half does so much more cleaning than I physically can do. I am grateful that he can mop and vacuum the house, as well as other heavy chores.

[@HappyHarryX5]

I thought you’d tell me how to handcuff the vacuum cleaner to one hand, pop some mopping shoes on my feet and staple a washing up sponge to my hand at 5am today! I’m concentrating on tidying at the moment as my brain isn’t going to the cleaning part yet. My ex obliterated my extreme cleaning habits 30+yrs ago by complaining that I couldn’t do anything right (aka his way) and I tried so hard to do it his way and it still wasn’t right. Taking one step at a time. It’s actually hard getting used to going from his hoarder’s decor to seeing the floor. As soon as I get anxious about seeing the floor, I do a Wonder Woman twirl and dance to reclaim the space. He didn’t want me to feel like I was worth space in the house and that is such a subtle but toxic anxiety that I’m dealing with. Even my bedding would be thrown off the bed if it went on his side. There’s so much to that baby brain training and re-training.

[@lyndi9082]

Don't give up! Write yourself love notes and tape them everywhere you will see them. I started spraying an invisible can of lysol to eliminate reoccuring memories of a painful past w an abusive ex. Determined to reclaim my own power; I'd start spraying away and say, "Be gone! You cannot enter my fabulous sense of well being. I love who I am!" .... it worked! The song 🎵"insane in the membrane... insane d'baby brain" 🤪

[@HappyHarryX5]

@@lyndi9082 So glad you’ve gotten out of that relationship. We all know they only pick on the wonderful, kind, funny people. In March the septic tank was full and that was the last of his poop leaving the house! I’m still laughing about that concept. I like the Lysol idea very much. I’m excited that worked, those memories are random. When I packed up my stuff as I thought we were selling the house, I put little love notes to myself in the tubs. I found a love heart on a piece of timber yesterday. I also bought decor for the first time and once I made sure it was okay, I packed it up hoping to forget about them until I opened the tub like a Christmas present. That worked too. I call people who tell me life is better afterwards divorce heroes that sit on my shoulder. Lyndi, you are now one of them, thank you so much. You are awesome!

[@suewright984]

I love that you dance! Banish that toxic partner. 😊

[@fianorian]

Cath has such a restful voice. Also, I dusted the living room whilst listening.

[@elizabethsydnor5247]

This is exactly what The Bible teaches about the power of our words.

[@Kate.g.]

I love it Cass 💛

[@ceceliachandler8761]

I grew up cleaning and organizing as a way to control things in my life and to keep my bipolar mother from screaming at me. Now I’m in my late 50’s and don’t feel that pressure. I worry that I’m at the other extreme. I keep my house ‘clean’ but I hate every minute of it. I don’t want to dust!

[@judithhardin2783]

My mother, an only child whose father died of tuberculosis when she was nine, and raised by a mother who grew up an orphan in a Catholic orphanage in Ireland under very strict rules, had no idea about normal childhood behaviors and abilities. I recall my mother’s constant criticism of me at age four that I couldn’t clean up my room and make my bed properly when I was four. My mother expected I could clean my messy room perfectly in thirty minutes. I’d sit in my room discouraged and overwhelmed. And I knew I couldn’t do it to her satisfaction. She had no parenting skills. It’s made me hate, even fear cleaning..and hating myself as a terrible person because I didn’t do well at housekeeping. It’s been years of watching videos like this and reading home-keeping and organization books that have helped me see all the messed up core beliefs that I had to get rid of. I’m much, much better at cleaning and managing my life. Oh…and my mother hated cleaning, herself. She had a secretarial job outside of the home and had a daily cleaning lady who came from 8 am to 4pm five days a week. She did little cleaning on weekends yet she’d just have a fit if by Sunday my room was a mess. So on Monday the maid cleaned my room. I left home at age 18 handicapped in housekeeping and organization skills.

[@NomadsLand-h3b]

Thank u

[@TiffanyShaffer-u3q]

Love your blouse! I want one.😊

[@SM-xn9pp]

I kept thinking this too!

[@reneebonafede530]

Aha moment reframe your mind if you spent $40 on an item one year ago and now you no longer use it you used it for 365 days at 11 cents a day you've gotten your money's worth .... donate🎉🎉🎉

[@karencollett1773]

Sent to room & couldn't come out until it was clean - even as a young child.

[@MsPhyllisCady]

Hey, oohhh! What's with the random insults? I'm over here meditating with my crystals, minding my business, tyvm.

[@TheLloydChannel]

Thank you for using "sub-conscious" correctly, instead of using "unconscious"! hahahahaha!

[@kensiblonde4203]

Everything ends up in a landfill eventually. Holding on only delays it. I now try not to buy anything that I don’t really really need.

[@PhoebesWorldProductions]

😊👍🏼

[@donnapullman1069]

What if your house is really dirty neglected even and one swipe is not going to do anything. What is a good plan ?

[@dannyh9010]

Hire a pro to clean the first time. It will be money well spent.

[@dawnburdick6602]

What's most important to you? I think a general tidy is a good start. Dishes to the kitchen. Trash in the can. Laundry in a basket. Set a timer for 5 or 10 or 15 minutes and see what you can do. You'll be amazed.

[@Jess-Gonzales]

I think my biggest problem that i realized was to be labeled or marked as THAT PERSON that likes...etc.. Let me explain. Whenever i would get into a hobby, activity, anything. My mom would kind of take it too far as a supporter.. Mom my favorite color is purple. Suddenly i come home from school, my room is painted purple, purple furniture purple decor.. the whole deal Do you want to try cheerleading? Sure, I'll try it 7 years old, i really enjoyed 1 or 2 cheerleading practices. Next thing you know, i get cheerleader themed jewelry for Christmas, decor, pom poms, oh look at the cheerleaders in this team! 🤦🏻‍♀️ Now as i am older i have never settled with an actual hobby, activity or anything, i never opened up to my parents with all the things i liked (unless it looked cool to me) where i wouldnt mind showing it off. If i enjoy for too long or it becomes uncomfortable, and i move on before i am afraid to be labeled as oh the cheerleader or girly girl cuz my fav color was light purple at some point. (Not that its not cool or good. I just didnt like the preppy style and fashion. In the end i have always been a geek/gamer) Sticks with you for life.. and it sucks

[@kaywilliams1065]

Dumb baby brain's driving the bus...😂😂😂😂

[@kaywilliams1065]

P.S. I am listening to the end, but the "dumb baby brain" is going to stick with me❤

[@lauranewman564]

❤❤❤

[@thecreativegramgram8592]

Cas have you read the nonanxious life. Jon Deloney?

[@thecreativegramgram8592]

Even better if you listen to it

[@qhaireeniqa7936]

ohhhh my goodness… I am stuck for a few days… I need motivation…

[@Wordsmatter4u]

you still 'feel' messy because you have not 'reframed' that mind set!!! change those words, change your thoughts...change your life!!

[@ReneeDennis-x8h]

Cass what ever happened with your Fire 🔥 Department stuff? 🚒 🚒 🚒

[@ClutterbugPod]

I have a video coming out on TUESDAY!!!

[@Vera-y8m]

My thoughts are this hurts, I am sore, if I lose my balance will fall yet again, I wish I was still strong enough to clean my house without landing in hospital yet again or I wish I could afford to pay for someone to do what needs to be done......! I used to love my home and that has changed because I have changed through getting older and becoming ill and becoming no longer capable. I still think people who can do something but don't do it is lazy. Unfortunately I have not been lazy nor am I lazy now but how I wish I was then I could simply buck my ideas up and get it done. ANY CLEVER IDEAS? I'M NOT HAVING MUCH LUCK WINNING THE POOLS OR THE LOTTO.

[@dawnburdick6602]

First. I'm sorry that you're in that spot. Don't hurt yourself. Do what you can safely. Small increments. Keep moving. Maybe sofa yoga?

[@MsPhyllisCady]

I have never had children of my own, but I had parents who were highly critical, strict, authoritarian, etc., so I am a ball of nerves at middle age, just trying to sort myself out. I need to know, though, do current parents ever listen to things like this and realize they should teach differently in the first place? As individuals. I know parenting generally has changed.

[@mariee.5912]

My house was extremely neat all the time and clean. I just wok too much and feel tired and have a few piles. Nothing crazy, but I just don't like it.

[@colleenember8717]

OMG. Nooooo my daughter heard what you said about Santa and now she doesnt believe anymore! Can we please get parental warnings on this type of thing? I never thought i would have to censor your channel from children!

[@llllllllllilillii]

More "think yourself thin" "law of attraction" bs.