CNA | On The Red Dot | S7 E11: Growing up in a super-sized family

On this episode of On The Red Dot, the Lim’s Bryan and Ambrosia are transiting into their early teenage years. Will their parents be able to handle their temper? At the Zainal’s, Izzah and Izzati question their stepfather’s parenting style. And for the oldest of nine siblings, Samantha Heng, things turn sour between her and her father.
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[@nadhirasultan6520]

im so damn impressed with izzah and izzati. so polite, can do housework, can cook, can take care of siblings and most importantly their manners towards their step father is amazing

[@yukilynx3526]

They should be allowed to reprimand their younger siblings (except the baby of course) when they do things wrong.

[@mmuhd]

@@yukilynx3526 Agree, the Malay stepfather is talking nonsense. Yucks!

[@napperforlife2020]

They should be kids, not having to be adults.

[@silverbells4732]

its all abt d upbringing by parents....

[@liliantan2379]

Big family is a major crime in small Singapore cos overpopulation is a very big mistake for the country.

[@dorischong2518]

Literally shocked to see the stepdad checking on her phone. There are many ways you can try to find out who the girls are mingling with usually, but invading their privacy isn't one of them.

[@strawbewwytea]

My mom also checks my phone

[@sxlllvxxaaa]

My mom checks mine

[@rissalynne]

I’m 12 but my mum doesn’t check my phone. She says she thinks it’s an invasion of privacy because I have a life of my own and no matter how hard it is for her I need to make my own mistakes.

[@Seeeaaan]

here is the way I see it. If you have a 10 year old child, I think its perfectly normal to check their phone to ensure they are using the internet right. Its really a matter of trust, if the child can prove himself to be trustworthy, I feel like it is best to give them their privacy. However if they can't be trusted, I think its best parents check on them once in a while to ensure they are not doing inappropriate things online.

[@Seeeaaan]

@Basketball Kitty im not defending the dad. In fact, I think that she should be given privacy. From how she behaves it seems like she could be trusted.

[@misslaptop8505]

Izzah's incredibly well-spoken and so polite.

[@aki_tomato_]

@Izza Karna 8:03 that "alamak banyak bunyi la ni org tua". 😅

[@fiona_25432_]

tbh i don't think the couple love their kids, i feel very bad for the girls, i feel proud that they can function normally

[@shuzler]

Crystal is so mature. Speaks well. I think she is more mature than her mum.

[@noahinfinityx553]

anyone has her ig HAHA

[@bengcheck3008]

@Darren sicko

[@bengcheck3008]

@Darren grow up

[@knitelore8461]

DAMN

[@cammyfeng4066]

Darren tch.

[@eisa5254]

I personally think Ambrosia is suffering from some personal/mental issue that she can't say out and hence this is her way of showing defense, a defensive mechanism she took to shield herself from showing her real thoughts. As the parents have many kids to look after, it's hard to pay 100% of their attention to each and every child. Izzati and Izzah's stepfather should stop and should not even be intruding into their privacy by looking at their phones. They are at a sensitive age and from what I see, they act and know better than the so-called step-father. Does the Mum even know what her husband is doing to the daughters?

[@aisyah4352]

In primary 6 Ambrosia only had 1 friend which was me (and no one liked her for some reason) and then we went separate ways since we are going to different school. Damn she change, from a shy quiet girl to a very loud girl

[@mralpaca21]

@@aisyah4352 u mean she had temper since last time??

[@LadySymphora]

Tbh, if I have half sibling or not. I will scold them. Stepfather of Izzah and Izzati, please seriously treat all your children equally.

[@fafafifufu]

True. If you can't accept your step daughters as your own. Then, do not commit in a relationship with someone who has children from the previous marriage! As a Muslim, he should realised that he is still accountable for the step daughters welfares and needs. It is a written rule that it is his responsibility to love and care his step daughters and biological children EQUALLY! He has obviously failed his duties and I do not blame the 2 girls if they did not extend their love and respect for the step dad as he is a failure himself!

[@LadySymphora]

SuperKnowledgeSponge your comment is so unnecessary.

[@mickayla1914]

yes, he clearly is biased towards his sons and you can really tell his stepdaughters are very uncomfortable around him.

[@knitelore8461]

i agree

[@n.5491]

Zainal is horrible hands down. Izzah and Izzati are so sweet i wish he could see how mature and amazing they are. I cant believe he has the audacity to say ‘i dont want them to feel they need to repay me’. THEY DON’T HAVE ANYTHING TO THANK YOU FOR.

[@Pushkin62]

Bryan Lim seems to be having some psychological and learning issues. He should receive some professional counselling. Ambrosia Lim needs close supervision. At the rate she is going in school, with multiple disciplinary infractions, she will grow up to be a delinquent and get into trouble with the law when she becomes an adult. Mr Zainal should respect the privacy of her step daughter. He has no right to check on her cellphone. He is also showing favouritism towards his own biological sons which is causing a rift between his step daughters and his sons.

[@damsie64]

Ikr. What does he mean by cannot scold younger siblings? If u dont scold maybe when they go to primary school they will fight with someone and u will have to scold rite? If u don't, he will think it's right and never learn will he will be in jail in the future.

[@damsie64]

Even my dad(biological) doesn't even touch my phone unless he needs to check something from the Internet when his phone is repairing or something

[@shiryuusama6725]

I understand his dad. He worries his daughter might mingle with those bad guys/girls and got lost in it. What he did is for his daughter's future.

[@timelapsesofsingapore5674]

I agree with what you said

[@tommyfield8449]

@@shiryuusama6725 totally agreed.for Bryan Lim,it best the parents confiscate his phone for a while,making sure he either study or help his mom like 'if you don't clean your room,no phone for you'. I am curious is all his children using data plan? Back in the days,i only have to depend on prepaid card & top up until i was 18 when i get my 1st data plan. Even at 18,i even burst the data & get overcharged. Mr Lim pampered his children too much.Sure maybe this his way of 'getting even with his children since he is always mostly overseas' but this is not the way. The mother has to be a little strict & uses your 1st & 2nd child as your negotiator between the children.

[@rawr8574]

crystal is so wise and mature. she appreciates her mother alot and she is very well-spoken.

[@fawkiouuugg]

Kenmaaa

[@wblotch3502]

yeah, check the phone some more. One day when your kids start to hide things from you, even the worst things in fear of you, that will be the day you realised you fail as a father. Stepfather or father does not matter, blood does not = family. It is what is in the heart. Can I just say that the stepfather is treating the girls like some prisoners rather than his own daughter? If he's afraid that the daughter might do some idk "bad things" then you educate them first la omg

[@wblotch3502]

and can I just say, to find someone who has to be christian? ARE YOU KIDDING ME. THIS WHAT ERA SIAK JESOS.

[@wlleong5005]

@@wblotch3502 i actually have a best friend who thinks she should marry a christian only as well, its almost the exact same situation.

[@AirynnAlysha]

William Lim TRUE AF man. mad respect for this comment.

[@hasyy151]

Cool speech now say it to stepfather

[@phoebepeonies]

@@wblotch3502 as a christian, there’s a reason for this belief and i hope you will respect it. and as a human, i feel that couples’ beliefs should be aligned for a better relationship

[@chris9879]

The way Bryan's parents talk to him are already very lenient. I was tasting the cane when I barely scraped through a subject.

[@liliantan2379]

Your parents are harsh and unbecoming.

[@chris9879]

@@liliantan2379I am from the time where teachers used canes and rulers when we misbehaved, so the cane is a norm for us.

[@Jobot109]

Tbh my friend got caning every time he did not get 90 above until my teacher stepped in

[@sereneneo9251]

I got caned in the past when i scored lesser than 80

[@cristalong1647]

If I dare get less than 70/100 for any subject in pri sch I will kena whack v hard alr... Now sec sch if I get below 60/100 I confirm die alr

[@ebonyloveivory]

Honestly, why is there a need for the stepfather to check the handphones? If they've done nothing wrong to warrant that check, it's just an invasion of privacy. If the girls are slacking behind on chores/ grades, breaking curfew and such, fair enough. But if they're generally well behaved, I don't see why he should do that. It'll cause a greater rift between them. Also, if you want to stick the two eldest with the babysitting and chores, you have to give them the liberty to discipline the younger ones too. Don't like it when they scold their step siblings? Parent them yourself.^^

[@peoplecallmeAdly]

Like a jealous boyfriend

[@ebonyloveivory]

@@peoplecallmeAdly Even a "jealous" boyfriend should not be doing that

[@jneyrichard6317]

Yup its really wear you out when you cannot scold your younger sibling when they misbehave ..it look like your outsider in the family..

[@jasminefonssus2243]

omar adli I think jealous boyfriend dares not to do this in front of the girlfriend cuz fear of losing her. But this father got no fear of losing his daughter (I could see this coming soo)

[@giornatadeliziosa]

Izzah and izzati are mature and polite! Wonderful young ladies. I hope their mother will step in more to parent them instead of letting their stepfather do it as he is clearly biased towards his own biological children.

[@fiona_25432_]

Stepfather doesn't look like he loves them

[@lindc1070]

Its creepy the way he is monitoring them

[@fiona_25432_]

@@lindc1070 I agree, that's some creepy parenting I would run away as soon as I turn 18 if I were them

[@cheryllium]

everyone who's planning to have kids, please think carefully before bringing a life into this world. Consider if you can provide to the child the best and ideal life you yourself would like. If you can't, it's kind of mean to bring a human into a world that's not good and you know it.

[@kla6371]

honestly the two daughters stepfather is terrible and a typical biased step father and kinda crosses the privacy line with their phones

[@catspurlee]

Izzah & Izzati are so precious 😭

[@miakaluckystar]

I hope their parents see the clips of what their children think of them and their relationships. As im an outsider i cant say much from just minutes of their entire lives.

[@laydieehannah]

The 2 stepdaughters make a better parent as compared to their stepfather/parents. The guy is not even the father; he's a stepfather. And he takes away their deserved privacy by checking their phone and gives them little to no authority to manage his own biological children? And he has that audacity to whine that the 2 stepdaughters arent close to him as compared to their biological father?! Lol i think the stepfather is better off in prison (literally to work) than being at home. Mom i think you better revise the parenting model at home 🤷‍♀️ ** EDIT: IM GETTING REPLIES EVEN IN 2020 FROM THOSE WHO DONT HAVE READING COMPREHENSION 🤦‍♀️ WHEN I MENTIONED "(LITERALLY TO WORK)", I WAS REFERRING TO THE FATHER'S FORMER JOB AS A PRISON OFFICER. SO BEFORE YAL REPLY TO MY COMMENT PERHAPS YAL NEED TO WATCH THE OTHER EPISODE FOR BETTER UNDERSTANDING. AND I AM NOT DELETING MY COMMENT JUST BECAUSE, SINCE I STAND BY MY OPINION. HAVE A NICE DAY.

[@iwybsnpcbtm7436]

Bad comment, there is different types of parenting in the whole world , you can state your point of view but you cant just criticise them so badly as it the whole video shows exactly what happens totally in the house

[@laydieehannah]

@@iwybsnpcbtm7436 The stepdad will have ALOT to prove against my comment if he aint guilty of whatever i mentioned. After i dropped this comment i thought maybe i could've judged him quite soon. But the episode following this proved i was more than nice 😇💁‍♀️ If you think my comment is baad and the stepdad's parenting aint that baad then it's your opinion. Not mine, not many of the comments i see in here. Im just here to be a voice for the stepdaughters based only on what ive watched, and i think it's solid enough. Doesnt matter to me what you think 🤷‍♀️💁‍♀️

[@deadaccbye.8036]

Girl tf is this comment you obviously don’t know what your talking about all parents check his phones and also I would be disappointed if my step kids aren’t close to me either and he deserves to be jail because he want to be close with his step kids

[@laydieehannah]

@@deadaccbye.8036 Girl/boy tf is your comment i obviously dont understand your grammar 🤷‍♀️ Not ALL parents check their children's phone. Even if the child is really a deliquent and there is a need to check his/her phone, a better way is to encourage him/her to share rather than coerce him/her to hand it over unwillingly. In fact if you can see with your very eyes, he also checked his step daughter's phone in an interrogation kind of manner. He hasn't properly bonded with them yet he did that. Maybe it looked overdramatised here but oh well it could jolly well be how this exactly looks like each time; idk 🤷‍♀️ I just felt awkward and uncomfortable watching in the stepdaughter's shoes myself. You have every right to be disappointed if your stepkids aren't close to you ONLY IF you have worked genuinely hard enough to earn their trust and love. In this episode + in my opinion, i didn't see how the stepdad did so 🤷‍♀️ "He deserves to be jail" = ??!! ^^^^ I mentioned that he is better off literally working in a prison cuz as mentioned in this ep or the previous one, he was working as a prison officer. Idk why you are taking my statement out of context 🤷‍♀️ I understand there is no perfect parenting model. As a viewer I'm just voicing out what I feel the parents might have overlooked and my comment is harsh towards the stepfather only cuz I feel he deserved a wake-up call. Your disagreement to my comment doesn't matter to me 💁‍♀️💁‍♀️💁‍♀️💁‍♀️

[@treelo11]

​@@laydieehannah You're right. His intentions are good because it's important to make sure his stepdaughters don't mix with the wrong crowd at her age, but he executes it so awkwardly it will only strain the relationship between them. She will learn how to keep secrets from him eventually. Izzah seems like a mature young lady who values her independence, so he should adapt his parenting method to respect that instead of using the usual interrogation techniques and treating her like a child. He should aim to be her confidant, so that she can speak freely about her friends and her feelings. If you detect something wrong in her thought process, gently guide her to a better method e.g. instead of getting home by 4, point out why it's better to be home early, so that she can understand your perspective as well. Forcing this information out is just going to make her feel all gross and icky inside. It's like another form of invasion of privacy. He needs to trust her and stop checking her phone all the damn time.

[@jasonwoo4370]

Wah seh if my father suddenly ask me for my phone i faster delete everything HAHAH

[@trevorrrrr]

Jason Woo same LOL

[@Wenny_the_WM]

Me too,anything about boys I just delete and sent them to myself

[@MM89180]

18:44 when the stepdad said they aren’t (allowed because they) don’t control the house. Then why the bloody molly are you letting them look after their younger siblings if you think they aren’t mature or responsible enough, or what I tell just stupid. If you think they are young enough to do certain thing then you know what why don’t you look after the younger ones and not feel like ripping your hair off. Izzati and Izzah have the right to teach their younger siblings what is right and what is wrong so long as it’s not severe.

[@ebonyloveivory]

Honestly!!! Like??? He himself admitted that he's more lenient with his own son. It goes to show how lax he is over his own biological children. He expects them to babysit but they can't discipline nor raise their voice at the younger ones? Did they see how he was behaving? Granted, it's just a couple of minutes peek into their lives but what happens when the parents aren't home? At that age, kids can be rather mischievous.

[@beezlebub9]

@Akulapar Bdh precisely, I couldn’t even leave my 8 year old son with my 2nd helper. They are quite solid girls.

[@beezlebub9]

@Akulapar Bdh yes and they are such hardworking, responsible girls.

[@heesbigheart]

I feel like Bryan' s parents are alr good , I had always feared of giving my parents my results because they would cane me , every time I get back my results I always hesitate because Ik what's coming next . my stomach always churn . there's really nothing for bryan to be scared of , I'm even worse

[@wongmarkel683]

My gosh her step dad checking her phone was way too far, it's all about trust and I don't think he should do that. If you want a closer relationship with your step daughter , give her space, respect her privacy, that's all

[@HeikiDaNaa]

Ambrosia used to be very sweet and polite towards people, I believe she still has it inside her.

[@vantescafe7140]

crystal is so pretty and nice owo

[@riolu8894]

taeasety agreed owo perfecT giRlfriend

[@lezannelim]

God Riolu yEs

[@muhammadzafeer8763]

ambrosia face look like kenna rabak by train with that attitide

[@ofareh]

@@muhammadzafeer8763 kena rabak by a train LMAOOOO

[@hhzy5748]

ya ikr i homestly would like her as a sister 🥺

[@hhzy5748]

okay can we just talk about crystal? she is so pretty and polite 🥺 she really loves her mother and i’m sure she will grow up to be a successful woman if she’s stilll ike this 🥰💗

[@zerogravityxz3754]

Can i just say cyrstal from the lim family is so pretty and sensible😊

[@miasaur3464]

ambrosia and bryan fighting is so funny lmao

[@George-yg9ir]

Being an older sibling, I can relate to the struggles Izzati and Izzah face. The younger siblings don’t listen to the older one at all. I’m saying this by experience.

[@renaawq8742]

Finished this video with so many frustrations. All the parents (and step parents) will learn so much from the comments section.. I guess I summed it up here.. 1. If you cannot afford to spend time on your kids individually, don't have a big family. Each child deserves their parents' unconditional love, but that is difficult when the family is big. 2. Ambriose should go proper counselling (not the school counselling) and change her attitude. She is experiencing something in her head most of us cannot see and understand and it must be tough on her too, just that nobody bothered to try to understand her. 3. Bryan just needs to work hard tbh, he's a good kid. Learn from eldest sis Crystal when he needs help and form a support system. 4. All the parents need to be consistent in their discipline methods. To the Lim father, I'm sorry but I honestly don't agree that Bryan should apologise when his sister picked the fight because it is not his fault. Asking both parties to apologize when one of them is not at fault will very likely lower his self-esteem. Make him feel comfortable when alone with the parents though. Build up emotional stability and security by spending more time with him and not put words into his mouth (like forcing him to promise) although we all mean good for him. Keep on encouraging Bryan and I'm sure he will find motivation and get far in life. He needs to find a goal to work towards. 5. To the Zainal family stepdad, and mom actually, respect your kids and treat them as your own, if not then don't expect them to treat you nicely too. Invading their privacy will not help any situation - in fact it is straining your relationship more. Getting to know who they are mingling with is just an excuse. You can trust them to mix with the right people, unless you're telling me you didn't teach that too. Also, if the older siblings cannot scold the younger ones when they misbehave, the younger ones will step on their heads and disrespect and disregard them. So what if they are all children? They don't need to respect one another? If you are the only one who can scold the family, then you are just a tyrant.

[@sloo6425]

one (step) parent is over controlling and always him him him rather than the daughters, while the other two parents are not disciplined or consistent themselves. As for the Rebellious kids, meh give them responsibilities or a reasonable outlet. We are all children, just a little older, as Jim Rohn would say.

[@coconut6622]

1st video Girl: ahcoo Dad: why ahcoo This video Mum:headache Dad:why headache

[@shorty5482]

i can say the family of 7 two of the children need to be strict with them espiscially the girl with mulitiple offense in school thats no way to lead this kind of attitude in the future

[@user-ve3lv6gh8k]

Izzah and Izzati should have the right to scold their step siblings if they don't have the right the sblings won't respect the older sblings and they would be so much better off wit their biological father

[@zhenyuhe1537]

22:10 “ If I cannot convince you ( to find a Christian boyfriend) , then I have failed you as a father “ WOW..... emotional blackmailing at its finest. Forcing your religious belief onto your daughter , and playing the “ I fail you as a father “ card . DAYUMMMMM SONNN. Same religion = same frequency FUYOLLL , MAD LOGIC. Enlighten me with your logic please.

[@liliantan2379]

Don't really accept that he is called "father" and not "daddy" since our GODFATHER 's "FATHER" glory be to LORD ABBA hallelujah hosanna in the highest of course amen.

[@kennethsoh9718]

@@mainesobari haha which bible you read? Since when does it say that

[@mainesobari]

@@kennethsoh9718 there's only one Bible but many versions

[@lem1185]

@Jodie Wong im not christian but im curious as to why he has to force his belief on his child

[@lem1185]

@Jodie Wong actually what is religion about? I dont have one so i dont know whats the meaning of it

[@redbeanbee8184]

I have 4 children myself and I think spending time as a family is important. But spending individual time with each of your children outside the house is equally important.

[@indeacia]

i agree w samantha, times have changed. throw away old mindsets.

[@zhenyuhe1537]

zan 22:10 “ If I cannot convince you ( to find a Christian boyfriend) , then I have failed you as a father “ WOW..... emotional blackmailing at its finest. Forcing your religious belief onto your daughter , and playing the “ I fail you as a father “ card . DAYUMMMMM SONNN. Same religion = same frequency FUYOLLL , MAD LOGIC.

[@liya7330]

Ya just coz someone isn’t of the same religion doesn’t mean they are bad.. if that was what her dad was tryna say. Isn’t it also like racism? Idk

[@sparklediamondawesomekids9320]

Izzah face look like she want to laugh everytime her step father talk to her

[@NurashikinBinteARahim]

the whole like "are you serious?"

[@shanice548]

wth that girl ahlian sia

[@hilmir]

stare what stare. later i whack you with this book ah! chao ah lian sia

[@trevorrrrr]

ya lor AH LIAN leh

[@thewordsmithstress]

I don't know why a mom would give her children's stepdad authority over them. It's *her* children, if their behaviour bothers her, she should be the one manning them, and not handed over to a step parent who should only play minimal and secondary goal. I wonder how the birth father feels about this, seeing that he still have a relationship with them. I'd be pissed mad if my children's step mom tries to "mother" them, I'm still alive, step parents should learn their place and stay there.

[@zach3985]

'raising their voices is different from scolding' -stepdad WAIT WHAT, U ALR SAID THAT IT'S DIFFERENT. IF U ARE BIASED BCUZ THEY AIN'T YOUR BIOLOGICAL KID, THEN JUST SAY LA, GIVE WHAT NOBLE REASONS. also, can I say how nice izzah and izzati are? they didn't even thinked about him being biased as the first reason uWu

[@liliantan2379]

Use "thought" instead of "thinked" you poor grammar failure.

[@ivanlimzg]

"My mother is kinder than my father" Not sure if its cos the mum gave up...

[@ladyofhalos]

She definitely didn’t. This mom has high EQ.

[@maggiechan33]

Izzah is SMART to stay in school after 3pm; this way she won't have deal with her CREEPY, CHAUVINISTIC stepfather, or take care of her BRATTY BROTHER. I hope she + Izzati, went to live with their REAL FATHER, whom seems to respect the girls.

[@goblin8467]

He’s a straight up misogynist under the guise of “protecting his female children”

[@tediyuli9520]

"honestly how to find siaaaaa"

[@betatuberaggy]

Sia Furler

[@RayPossibleGT]

@@betatuberaggy Yes.

[@lezannelim]

me at math

[@damsie64]

That’s me when I’m trying to do my math paper last year during my PSLE lel

[@edits_yikes7225]

@@damsie64 same

[@kyliesylvaine2000]

I am just so impressed by Crystal, Izzah and Izzati. They are all so polite

[@theunknwn9549]

Imagine having a nerf war with all your siblings

[@elizabethkang2447]

they’re kinda too lenient on bryan, don’t let him have the phone if he’s not gonna do anything... as parents, can also enforce discipline? idk, my family has 6 ppl and my parents really scolded us when needed and took away our phones when we were using it too much

[@jht3946]

exactly

[@aidahaidah9124]

When ur too lenient to your children, they can be rebellious esp when they cant get what they want. Their expectation n demand fr their parents will be higher. Discipline shd starts since they're toddler. Set in religious knowledge, social n civic education as much as u can coz it does helps wif their life. I hv 4 kids n all are 1.5yrs apart n all are well behaved n successful. Never once i had problem wif them. Parenting style n education is really important. Children see n follow what adults do.

[@oddfuturegoblins]

i respect Ethel solely on how she confronted Bryan about his bad grades. shouting at your kids because they failed their exams will never make them more motivated to study. talking to them calmly and showing them that it’s okay to not get full marks every single time is definitely the right thing to do. hats off to the mother 👍🏼

[@hilmir]

i think she is too soft. no need to scold or beat anyone, but she has lost her boundaries as a parent. she is negotiating and bargaining with a boy who does not want to study, doesnt enforce consequence, or teach him responsibility and discipline to put down his phone when it is time to but then expects him to do well academically? fat chance.

[@kyliesylvaine2000]

I hope my mom reads this

[@lindc1070]

She cant cope with so many kids. Ambrosia seems out of control too.

[@KhairiLah87]

izzah and izzaty are good daughters. it takes a lot of patience mashaallah.

[@ZZZZ-gp9kp]

Wah seriously give your daughter privacy can anot

[@eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee3377]

Your Bae Patrick Protective.

[@adamirshad3608]

i love how the zainals children are so matured

[@jessicadu6103]

“Can not scold younger siblings” defines a culture clash between Asian and American educations... it becomes a custom.

[@D-me-dream-smp]

Crystal seems more mature and sensible than her mother. Izzah and Izzati are such good girls but the stepfather is being quite unfair to them and favouring the younger children nor is he appreciating that they are growing up. I did think Samantha and her dads conversation about dating was good.

[@-l_leslie_l-6077]

8:43 takes off glasses because he can’t see😂😂

[@ilegitwandie2636]

Imagine everyday camera man just follows you everywhere you go, to school to home to everywhere. Jesus Christ man xD

[@steamedfishy]

My biological older sister scolds my siblings and I when we were younger whenever we misbehave and I feel like all four of us turned out to be fairly obedient and decent people. However, even after all the scolding we get from her, we can still be out of control at times so I cannot imagine not being able to scold your younger siblings but having your parents to still expect them to behave and respect the elders because I personally feel like that is not going to make ANY relationships better for anyone. i'm not a fan of "authority" but there should still be some form of RESPECT and TRUST to at least your older children (be it biological or not) to take care of your younger ones. It doesnt look like trust or respect from your stepdaughters anymore..... they look and sound like they have NO CHOICE. Your stepdaughters play such an important role in the family especially as the oldest two in the family because they have to be role models but if your younger children doesn't even learn to respect their older siblings, who are they suppose to look up to? This family doesnt need authority. They need TRUST and RESPECT from one another.

[@ohmingfeng9351]

22:31 like how your father daughter relationship didn’t work out

[@zhenyuhe1537]

Potayto Is Sweg 22:10 “ If I cannot convince you ( to find a Christian boyfriend) , then I have failed you as a father “ WOW..... emotional blackmailing at its finest. Forcing your religious belief onto your daughter , and playing the “ I fail you as a father “ card . DAYUMMMMM SONNN. Same religion = same frequency FUYOLLL , MAD LOGIC.

[@george-px6ko]

Zhenyu He uno reverse card

[@adree2839]

honestly my mum would’ve just taken my phone & snatched it. she wouldnt say anyth like ‘promise me you’d do better next term’ i think it’s better for her to take her son’s phone , i think he’d be able to focus better.

[@lixuannn0444]

9:32 hey hey hey that's wrong! When you do this, your child may feel that you don't trust them. You can get closer to her by talking more to her

[@RL-fj9jg]

crystal is such a good girl, wish i had her attitude when i was young

[@rasigadhanya8952]

After this I'm so thankful that my parents actually lets me have my privacy

[@y2.kay_]

Crystal and ambrosia barely look alike... Woah

[@sitinurfamiza4061]

Panas gile ak tgk stepdad izzah n izaati ni..how they face him everyday

[@stopbenedict2310]

Big family's are not always easy, there is good and bad just like any other family. A lot of mouths to feed and a lot of love all around

[@riolu8894]

10:35 lmao me and my siblings don’t fight, we fight we die, it’s called discipline, something you don’t have

[@viol4nte]

"I got more sisters... than my friends.." that's so sad :(

[@sparkysparkyboomman2185]

He's not saying he has less friends than sisters he saying that the has more sisters than any of his friends

[@liliantan2379]

Familial bond beats friendship cos blood is thicker than water.

[@viol4nte]

@@sparkysparkyboomman2185 OH IT MAKES SENSE- lol i was dumb nvm

[@palatinatecarolinablue2519]

For Samantha’s issue, interfaith relationship/marriage is quite common nowadays and yes, to find someone on the same frequency as you is important as well. However, I believe it still boils down to the couple themselves and they definitely need to talk about how they would like to raise their child before they step into marriage. Even though many would say people of different religion do not fit together but couples fall out for even the slightest matter. In this sense, why would religion matter so much? It’s really between you and your partner. If your love for each other can overcome everything, don’t be afraid. But if currently, it’s just one-sided love, you better don’t think too much about it. It’s for your own good, really.

[@zhenyuhe1537]

Palatinate Carolina Blue from personal experience , 90% of the people who tell their kids not to marry someone of opposite religions are Christians. I wonder why. So curious.

[@cynthiabianzon5408]

@@zhenyuhe1537 For someone who has grown in a Christian home and being a parent myself with grownup children, I would agree with Adam. Christian parents who honor God's written instruction not to be yoked with unbelievers are firm on this matter, specially Evangelicals (unless some who forsake the faith). The world system and its values like selfishness, pride, greed, lust that knows no bounds, idolatry, godlessness, etc. are rooted in an unbeliever's heart and opposes God. When a Christian son or daughter marries an unbeliever, he or she would be forced to conform to their spouse's values and so make a shipwreck of their faith, pulling their children down with them. We will all be facing our Judge on the Judgment Day, for what we have done on earth, good or bad. A fine Christian will work for his reward for the life he lived on earth. And God does not desire that any man should perish. He has issued the invitation to everyone. Jesus said, " Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you, and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart; and YOU SHALL FIND REST FOR YOUR SOULS, For My yoke is easy, and My load is light." (Matthew 11:28-30).

[@puregale]

@@cynthiabianzon5408 I lost you at Evanglicals

[@puregale]

Please come stone me to death

[@puregale]

I had a friend who was evangelical who almost wanted to punch my other friend to death when he dissed god. If God is ever so forgiving why does his believer want to kill him so please stone me to death even if I'm just a bystander.

[@paschall_7770]

Major props to Izzah & Izzati

[@01aisyahnur53]

Bryan: everyone in this family thinks she had anger management issues. Me: I think she just has a demon side boi-

[@Tom-qs3wj]

My biggest takeaway from this series is, don’t have a big family.

[@fullsun9453]

I can learn a thing or two from izzati and izzarah, they are so polite 🥰 and omg my dad doesn't even allow me to date at 16 HAHA, "textbook answer, 17."

[@RayrayTgh]

Nobody is perfect. Parents tbh are still learning how to be perfect cause they dont know.

[@ZedAnimates31]

RayrayTgh that’s interesting

[@nurulain7764]

Ambrosia is a jnr of mine in sec school and honestly i feel that she is proud of her having too much offence form and detention is fun most of us try to avoid going detention.Honestly whatever she did is totally trying to fit in the school also i can see the discomfort of her friends.

[@peko7446]

Brian is scared to talk to his parents when they don't even yell at him for not passing some subjects? He got it easy.

[@ramilbalanon3564]

Dad checking the phone reminds me like my IO LOL

[@kla6371]

ambrosia scares me honestly like how

[@syasyaindah1357]

I have 7 siblings including me. I can say one thing about having a big family is you dont really get 100% privacy. Other than that having alot of siblings is actually fun.

[@ZedAnimates31]

Syasya Indah wait do you also live in Singapore?

[@syasyaindah1357]

@@ZedAnimates31 yes !

[@sofya3033]

@@syasyaindah1357 omg same!!!!! Except i only live with three of them bc the rest alr in college,married and im the youngest at 11

[@johnguzman1987]

In the Philippines, having 7 children is considered a big family but definitely not super-sized family. 12 children and above are. I thought this is about obese families due to "super-sized".

[@joellelau2]

True, but this is Singapore. Having 2 siblings is already considered woah...

[@NothingMatter951]

Peenoise

[@shaoweizeng1297]

In China, more than 2 children considered Super sized

[@hilmir]

different context. this programme was made by singaporeans for singaporeans, so it was not made to cater to your sensibilities or how family is structured in your country...

[@nicolenuraishah4347]

John, “super-sized” does not only pertain to being an obese! It can be use in other form of description like population. This is a different country and they have a different concept of how family planning is. An approach appropriate for their citizens and country.

[@yeonjunie_kookie1404]

I can relate to the second daughter from the family of nine sooooo much. I am only 1 if 5 siblings, and I’m the second born aswell, I’m the only timid and introverted one and Istg sometimes my parents forget I’m even there cuz I don’t talk to them compared to my other siblings.

[@Gaby-ep9cc]

2:22 same kid .... same 😂

[@sug0i900]

When she said she have the reason to scold them I AGREE ON THAT, because the young one have to be disicipline well in order to be mature in the future

[@ellee2937]

Good documentary wish it was longer 😅

[@dreamygal7221]

Ethel is such a lenient mother!!!

[@feigao4438]

if these parents just showed a bit more love these families would be living a better life

[@yash-yp6ym]

Parents asking if can check your phone? Wowzers mine just steal it when i not looking

[@D1LF-L0V3R]

My aunt had three children but me, my two sister and my younger brother and my little cousin all moved in with her she had to take care of 8 kids all by herself she’s a strong woman

[@deadprankerandgamer9722]

The parents treat Bryan so good sia

[@acevictory3587]

I drink pokka green tea too Its splendid!

[@jeeeerrrrmmmm2778]

lol every singaporean oso got drink b4 one lah

[@ning8774]

it's your life and your parents might not be right sometimes. but make sure you are to ready to hold responsibility for your own mistake if you were to not heed their advice :-)

[@heesbigheart]

I'm really RELATABLE to a lot of them

[@jetterbang6394]

So pity of izzah and izaty... Be strong young girl....

[@zuhriahasano372]

The step father and their mother goes out together but lets her two eldest children to take care of the others which to me seems frequent. The mother seems to not care of her children's welfare much and a yesman to her new husband. They lack discussion. And for the son，I hope he doesn't grow up to be insolent. This step father should know his place. Seems like the reason why he got divorced in the first place because of his behaviour . Controlling, lack of privacy and intolerable. It's like her children have turn to maids. No wonder one of her child wanted to go back to her real father.

[@jakefromstatefarm7363]

I have more sisters than my friends Mood 😂😂

[@heesbigheart]

My parents check my phone a lot but in a more stricter way than izzahs parents

[@Jk-ov8fg]

Lmao ambrosia...can go be rempit d. She is so proud of her

[@vanessaives5546]

You leave me with my little sister? You leave me the right to be a part time parent which means I'm disciplining her! Don't have them watch these little kids if you don't expect them to scold especially when the kids are that young and hyper! He goes in their shit, calls it discipline yet is wholly against his blood children being disciplined? Screw that! I would feel so bad if I knew my step child was purposely staying late in school to stay away me!

[@Marcus-ru1ht]

Can I check your phone. NO. Don't even do that to your own biological kids.

[@lexyteo8542]

"The horse is riding us"

[@blankcuriosity...9750]

lmao im nearly 18 and my mom checks my phone spontaneously

[@m2cys]

I’m the same way when I’m showing my report card to my parents my mouth is always shut