Co-parents, but not romantic partners

[@findtom1]

If it works for them, good for them. The harsh commenters on this video should be concerned about bad/negligent parents, not people who aren't adhering to your idea of a "traditional" family.

[@sadiya6586]

I guess this is easier than adoption or they specifically wanted a baby and with their dna. Cute family though, they probably discussed the responsibilities of parenting more than most

[@notafeminist5948]

It might be better actually because you focus only on being a good parent not on being good spouse or good husband, takes off the pressure of being always amazing for your man. Other thing is you do not have to deal with the family in law, mother in law nightmare....

[@Peacefullife0404]

😂😂😂😂😂I love my mother so much I’m going to miss her

[@Siegfried5846]

Especially for guys who can't get girlfriends due to socially awkward personality, this is a godsend, since it keeps us from being lonely into old age. Especially if there's a way to have a big family this way, you'll be surrounded by love. That's why socially awkward men should focus on career in young age, and then team up with other socially awkward men to have many kids in old age.

[@Mallory-Malkovich]

Would that every child could have two financially stable, well educated parents.

[@TheYasmineFlower]

A child from a poor, single-parent household isn't automatically badly off. Sure, two parents, financial stability and good education is ideal. But most people's lives aren't ideal. We should be happy for those who are lucky enough to be born into such an ideal, and strive to support those who aren't without imposing our views of what their life should be like on them (aka without forcing them out of their own families and into unrelated two-parent households).

[@dennisahdaniel9573]

This is pretty much the same thing as old time traditional marriage before it became a romance based legal contract starting in the 18th century. Not a new or strange concept at all. It just seems strange and new right now because it's been so long since it was the norm. Before the 18th century, marriage was specifically for maintenance of wealth/family power and raising children with security. It had nothing to do with the parents loving each other romantically. This is simply a renewal of an old and mostly forgotten way of life.

[@yourchoice13]

THIS!!!!!! I had the same thought!! Only now this is a far more fair and equal setting for both partners to be in! They can still openly be themselves and live their truth rather than trying to play a role in a crusty system where it is only about presenting values which were predefined by society back in the days. And it really is for the love and desire to bring up a child as you said! I love this!

[@zhenghao123]

Its different because in this co-parenting arrangement, the woman as the legal single mom has full autonomy over herself, her body and her properties. The man is simply a co-parent that helps her out with her child. The agreement is also very flexible with two consenting adults that know what they are doing.

[@icyunvme2400]

@@zhenghao123 *their child

[@zhenghao123]

@@icyunvme2400 her child, in this arrangement the mom has the main guardianship and custody over her child as it should be. Fathers or secondary guardians should only took over the custody if the mom prove to be unsuitable to be a caretaker.

[@icyunvme2400]

@@zhenghao123 I know, but it’s his child too. Where I’m from the fathers and mothers have equal guardianship.

[@stuartspence9921]

Neat. Please keep covering fringe perspectives like this, CBC. "The research centre found most of the people pursuing this parental arrangement were single, well-educated and financially secure." Financially secure, well-educated parents... How unnatural!

[@grazielaalmeida8438]

I want to have a kid without marriage too, but both parents has to make themselves present for that kid.

[@winning3329]

If the man is not married to you then he has absolutely no obligation to you or your baby.

[@JRTO_]

me and my future spouse love each other platonically so we can have a stable house to raise our children and pets, and this was lovely to watch. We're waiting on uni and then she's going into the military so it gives us that security to be married, and while both of us are aromantic asexuals, we both want a lovely wedding and a life with each other in it.

[@sabbottart]

The Guardian UK newspaper just printed an article on platonic co- parenting but immediately closed the comment section because...? Label this what you wish, but this is a typical modern relationship.

[@sweetflower8]

Brilliant Idea. I love this

[@arxsyn]

fantastic! Life is full of difficult choices. Whatever works for you. Wish you all the best.

[@jmford1164]

I’ve considered taking this route. Kudos to them.

[@shanthelgaray3501]

That baby looks just like his daddy

[@MindYourOwn777]

If it works it works. Family is family. Two parent household is a normal thing regardless if there is no intimacy and no romance.

[@cassied8892]

good for the both of u.

[@vze21gwa]

This isn't new. It's no different than having a kid with your boyfriend.

[@winning3329]

Yeah and look how that turns out

[@misslambchop8690]

lovely family

[@LURKLORD92]

I'm not built for this new society

[@Mila-vc9dz]

Clearly not. Stop being so judgemental and narrow minded. That baby will most likely be a better person than you

[@Crypokeeper2275]

Mila 👍🏼

[@cruise2kx]

@@Mila-vc9dz Because your comment isn't judgmental.

[@verenant4567]

Hola

[@MasterofFace]

Edit: has the *story*

[@3089280288]

Someone is making money off this. Gentiles

[@Bluemarinegirl]

cute baby!

[@Grandus11]

kids in a split family grow up thinking this is the common norm, why would anyone want to have this kind of situation

[@TheYasmineFlower]

But kids in a split family often have their parents argue and fight. In a co-parenting situation that is handled well, there is no anger or disappointment between the parents. It's not the fact that the parents aren't together (ever or anymore), it's how the situation is handled that makes the difference to the child's wellbeing.

[@Grandus11]

I am sorry i just cant see paying 18 years to a woman who just wants my sperm, go to a sperm bank and get it i dont want to pay money for all those years to a womans biological clock.

[@ct5951]

@@Grandus11 Not everyone wants a child with a stranger and she wanted her child 2 have 2 parents!

[@Grandus11]

@@ct5951 she wanted and he will be paying for 18 years and what did he get out of it come on this is insane.

[@FreyaEinde]

Grandus11 I mean he gets to have a relationship with his son and be a parent....I guess that’s something.

[@auroraelliott825]

I love it!! Because.. I think that love dont works. 😊 👌... Not that I dont belive in love. But I lost the trust in the old Fashion Modell of a Family. 😊 This will be a Option for we.

[@grazielaalmeida8438]

I believe in couples that truly loves each other, they even put them above their own child, they sacrifice their personal wishes in order to don't hut each other, but these couples are rare, so I prefer to follow the path of co-parenting.

[@icyunvme2400]

@@grazielaalmeida8438 I could never put someone above my child😭

[@latoyasmith2602]

I love it

[@EliteXtasy]

I'd be okay with the concept of co-parenting if it involves raising an adopted child. This is just unnecessarily bringing more people into an already overcrowded world, where there are many children waiting for love and stability.

[@TheYasmineFlower]

No, there aren't that many children that need an adoption. Infant adoption doesn't cover children that need new homes, their mothers just need some support in a temporary crisis, and the father and/or other family members would also be fit caregivers for the child if it can't stay with it's mother or parents. International adoption does not cover children that need new homes in another country - most of them have families that just need some support (providing food for the children or medical care - a LOT of children are given into orphanages because their parents are desperate and don't know how else to provide these things), and almost all of them would do better if they could at least stay within their own countries and be cared for there. Foster care is where children are who could benefit from an adoption. However, most of those _also_ have families that want to raise them (parents and especially family members) and often are fit to do so or need just a bit of help to become fit. In addition, the children in foster care that _do_ need new homes are not babies or toddlers. And the vast majority of people who pursue adoption are only interested in those children that are too young to remember their origins (usually fresh from the womb is preferred). If you can have children by yourself, have them. Overpopulation doesn't get solved by people not having children anymore. In the so-called "first world" countries, birth rates have gone down by themselves because of access to contraceptives, abortions, medical care and an improved standard of living. In poorer countries, people who do not have access to those things often can't prevent pregnancies or abort them and have to rely on having children in order to be cared for in their old age, and have to have a number of children to ensure that at least one makes it to adulthood. Advocating adoption only leads to outsourcing reproduction. Overpopulation would still exist, and would likely only get worse. Have your own instead and find a way to support a child in a developing country (for example, by sponsoring their education) in order to contribute to improving the standards of living in less fortunate countries.

[@ct5951]

So adopt then! People have children everyday. Why are they any different?

[@MrAllallalla]

@@TheYasmineFlower you seem to really have thought about that and researched it. Well said!

[@TheYasmineFlower]

@@MrAllallalla Oh, thanks. Just for the records, I am not against adoption for people who really want to do that (who may not want to or can't have biological children, for instance). I just get irked when people act as though this one thing will be their part played to combat overpopulation. Adopting should be about loving that child, not about anything else.

[@estudobiblico]

Weird

[@cdale211989]

This video has me thinking of a scripture,1corinthians 7 that I just read the other day. It stated how it’s better to not marry than to have the troubles of marriage. I’m also thinking about how God is not the author of confusion . Is this platonic relationship theory wrong? It seems like it’s teetering on the verge of a disastrous situation. # I know unpopular opinion in todays society, but I’m just saying.

[@winning3329]

God wants people to get married before having children having children outside of marriage is a sin. Also the reason why marriages are not working is because men pick women base on appearance and nothing else and that's a recipe for disaster

[@MindYourOwn777]

I don't think so. A family is a family. Marriages in biblical times were arranged and there wasn't a concept of marrying for love. This is much of the same.

[@userman444]

Wrong...

[@LURKLORD92]

4:12 that's your fault you're old and you. Refused to fix things with your baby father like wtf

[@jawwad4020]

She never had a baby- what are u talking about?