Co-Workers Are NOT Your Friends - Understand Why

Co-Workers Are NOT Your Friends - Understand Why Colleagues are NOT friends. Only about 10 years ago hearing this would have been considered a joke to me, something not really credible, but this is what I’ve learnt after years of working in different organizations. I am sure that so many of us make this same mistake of confusing colleagues for friends at some point. The truth is that there are no real friends at work! Yes, being professional means being open and friendly, but it doesn’t mean that everyone is your friend.
Does that mean we can’t make friends at work? Not exactly! We might make friends in the workplace, BUT since the majority of us don’t know what are the boundaries that need to be set for a professional relationship, our potential friendships eventually backfire RIGHT BACK AT US! Yes we go to lunch with our colleagues, we exchange holiday greetings, we share the fun moments or jokes with them; but they STILL remain being people brought together by circumstances.
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[@myemmotion]

What has been your experience in building friendships at work? Did any of those "work friendships" last?

[@MarcosRodriguez-es4gz]

I lost one of my closest friends at work who turned out to be spreading lies about me and let others know she knew about my life, not cool and it's hard for me to get over this

[@applebomb4091]

workplace rule: no gossiping no complaining no triangle meaning complaining about someone to another person instead of confronting them and don't trust HR they are protecting the company not you.

[@matthewsmith2787]

I still am friends with somebody after 9 years at work

[@myemmotion]

@@MarcosRodriguez-es4gz Sorry you've been through that, as I said it's a lesson learnt, which will surely serve you well during the rest of your work experience.

[@myemmotion]

@@applebomb4091 I agree with all the points you've mentioned. Glad to see you around here! :)

[@joannatoth5848]

Yes, I have been betrayed, backstabbed, gossiped about, lied too, over and over! I have learned one thing your colleagues are not your friends!

[@lovesophia19]

Yeah all I did was helped them and told her once not to step my toe because she ruined my reputation. Now she talks behind me and make me feel awkward and uncomfortable

[@xmrchubbyx]

True. They’re all snitches

[@Defender78]

maybe direct coworkers, i've made reliable connections - not full fledged friendships - but good enough for the occasional movie night, outing for a beer, or shooting the breeze, or helping moving residences, so it's worked to an extent for me. But when i've been burned, it was my fault. IN my early 20s, i had issues and was unable to befriend people at school outsides of work, so i tried to befirend everyone at work, telling my life story, my likes and dislikes, every last joke and thought, and it backfired cuz i overextended myself and offended people by prying into their business.

[@brownhippy]

This can happen with "real" friends too.

[@sevrinaanastasia]

​@@Defender78 I'm 34 but had to let go of some toxic friends so I've been working to reestablish a social base. THIS is something I'm currently going through. It can be difficult to see other coworkers getting along so well and often feel like the odd one out, but I remind myself that work really isn't a place to make friends. All I can do is work on myself, be friendly with those who show the same and focus on my next steps. It was nice reading this. :)

[@user-yl2by7dk7c]

The key is developing the ability to identify toxic personalities and staying away from them.

[@myemmotion]

It usually takes time and we make the mistake of trusting people earlier on. But you are right, once the toxic personality is identified, keep the interaction to what is strictly necessary.

[@kmartin09021]

Sadly that's easier said than done. It takes a while. I have learned though, if they're going to talk about someone at the table, rest assured, you're next when you get up!

[@myemmotion]

@@kmartin09021 I absolutely agree. It’s complicated because the general athmosphere requires you to “fit in” to a certain point, but you can’t lower you guard when it comes to boundaries. And you are right, they will eventually speak about you too!

[@00calimon]

That takes time first! They often don’t reveal their true character until it’s too late! Forget red flags & just assume no one is worthy of your full trust/confidence.

[@carlswindelliv2701]

@@myemmotion I actually think fitting in was really bad for a lot of people in general cuz people are supposed to be risk takers with adventure not to box us in which is was this garbage with fitting in was all about!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@wendywalters784]

When you put coworkers in a coworker category and not friends category, your work day goes so much better. You have absolutely no expectation of them. They don't go home with you, you're not going to deal with them once you leave. Take nothing personal.

[@tshuntae9693]

🎉🎉🎉🎉I learned this the hard way

[@t-bone6467]

Bottom line. People suck. Keep private and stay professional or else you'll get screwed.

[@rhondawentzell6959]

Smaller workplaces with fewer people are the worst. Gossip spreads immediately. If you need solitude or mental rest, as on lunch breaks etc is difficult. Try to go take walks on lunch hours instead of hanging around in a staff lunch room.

[@leejay2418]

Good advice Rhonda! I need that break as well.

[@westernsellers9148]

Sit in your car like me 😂😂

[@kristin2491]

This !!!!!

[@nataliecampos1732]

Very RARELY is any coworker your friend.... I've learned this the hard way.

[@peggyheller2982]

Work relationships are complicated. It is hard to set boundaries with people who share the same goals and frustrations. Sooner or later you end up bonding over some frustration and suddenly instead of being the worker with a positive attitude, you’re part of a group of complainers.

[@starshot6785]

Gotta stay away from the complainers - too true. These people will erase any sense of positive improvement, any positive outlook that you choose to bring to your day.

[@al1976-v7m]

Also, i find it difficult to set boundaries with people who i spend with every day.

[@4862cjc]

To anyone who doubts the premise of this video, please heed my experience. Since I entered the full-time workforce 30 years ago, I have held five different jobs. Out of all of my hundreds of former co-workers, of which many I considered my friends, I am only friends with one of them.

[@thahzjj1]

It's rare to find a genuine friend in a coworker

[@daphne4983]

Of course! A job is about making money! You're competitors.

[@thahzjj1]

@@daphne4983 point proven

[@TheDoctor1225]

Unfortunately, now even things discussed "outside the office" can be used against you. I would say don't do it, period, with your coworkers.

[@jackooboy1]

Absolutely. Never drink more than two alcoholic beverages with colleagues.

[@matthewsmith2787]

I worked with my friend who was always nice, until one day he happily threw me under a bus to save his job ( hypothetically speaking) I was blamed.

[@myemmotion]

That's so frustrating but it's great that this person showed their true colors. Now you know how they operate and you won't make the same mistake again.

[@orrepgr2994]

I completely disconnected with my coworkers a few months ago. I had made the mistake of considering them more as friends, but was shown their true nature, where everything just came down to their selfish best interest What’s worse, one of them is the biggest gossiper, and he also changes facts around. I consider them good people, and perhaps not doing things on purpose. But they had definitely negatively affected me and cause me problems by talking about me to their superiors I feel a lot happier now that I have disconnected from them. Solely focused on work. I get my friendships and socializing outside of work now

[@myemmotion]

And you've done the right decisions. I also think they might not be bad people, it's just the competitive dynamics at work and the gossip is always damaging to how people behave. How long have you been "setting boundaries" for? Did you immediately notice a positive change?

[@gabrielarivera3777]

Similar thing happened to me and I’m doing the same. I’m keeping to myself completing my job for the day, go home, get paid at the end of the week.

[@myemmotion]

@@gabrielarivera3777 That's one of the main points of having a job after all. Not everyone is the same, but keeping your distance is helpful in the long run!

[@iris916]

Same here

[@myemmotion]

@@iris916 It happened even with those people which have been working together for over 30 years. Check out Bill’s comment on this video.

[@markstone7219]

Loved turning the letdowns and betrayal into a “gift”, a gift of finding out soon enough and not let them use me anymore.Some valuable advice here!

[@myemmotion]

Yes, instead of banging your head against the wall, just take this disappointment as a GIFT to you, so finally know where that person stands!

[@Ramen551]

I had same experience. Just learn from it

[@kentaroo.7759]

I don't see anyone at my job as friends. Never have, never will. I never hung out with them or went to one of their parties.

[@carolannaitken5812]

Someone once told me that if you say something negative about the company you work for assume you're telling everyone that works there. Stay positive, and if you really don't like where you work move on.

[@albertpd4994]

Coworkers and colleagues are there by chance. You shouldn't everexpect them to be your friends

[@myemmotion]

You shouldn't expect it but it might happen when the professional aspects of the relationship are well defined and respected!

[@albertpd4994]

@@myemmotion I think with years people get smarter and stop bringing their personal stuff to work

[@bluecat798]

I particularly dislike being expected to buy cards, birthday and Christmas presents for a random bunch of women (some of whom have tried to backstab me).

[@dianajames4717]

WE ACTUALLY STOPPED DOING THAT THANK GOD

[@Qwertyytrwq92]

A female boss at a bank wanted to sleep with me-I ignored her talk of "liking to cuddle when her husband is not home"... then she started dying her hair different colors etc-Thats when I knew it was time to go!

[@CassiE.86_]

She was trying to get your attention real bad lol

[@Qwertyytrwq92]

@@CassiE.86_ Im into love, not that-

[@daviddeparis3852]

You are right, it is better to stay neutral and professional

[@myemmotion]

I am really glad you think so!

[@albertpd4994]

that's what I was saying in my post

[@MAXBRAIN39]

You mean to be fake? Ok...Gotcha😅

[@KECOG]

I keep the attitude that I am there, as you said in your video, for a paycheck. IF I manage to gain a friendship, which I have on occasion, that is a good thing. Normally, though, when I leave a job, the friendships fade out after that.

[@myemmotion]

That's exactly the point. It's great not to be closed for possible future friendship, but always keeping in mind that these people are in your life due to circumstances. And as it happens in probably 99% of the cases, everyone moves on and these "friendships" become redundant.

[@klimtkahlo]

That only happens in the USA. I have worked in a few European countries and maintain friendships to this date ( 25 years later)

[@tvbuu]

@@klimtkahlo Because in the west the energy is more inauthentic. They are cutthroat here and do not care if you will be fed to the wolves.

[@angelfriend5211]

Yes‘ I‘ve been let down. I told someone something private, and she went straight to our boss and told her.

[@kranglord7764]

I let my co-workers know right from the get go, you ain't my friend. I'll have the odd after work drink or fraternize at the Christmas and Summer parties but weekends and public holiday day's are strictly MY time only. In a nutshell the first step is to draw the line with them

[@sindhujamalladi3171]

Thank you for such great tips!! Going to follow them and start afresh! :) co-workers are NOT your friends 1. do not overshare and have a filter for everything you share at work safe subjects- TV shows and movies avoid subjects- money (salary),price of car or something that you buy do not discuss relationships or your love life do not discuss family problems politics or religion career goals- especially if you are looking for another job. don't use work computer for hunting other jobs do not complain to your colleagues about your job do not mention about you partying somewhere everything you share could end up biting you in return discuss only with friends outside of your workplace If it's already too late, start applying filters now. This will keep you away from any drama with colleagues 2.taking disappointments and letdowns as a gift: Act with integrity towards your colleagues, even if it is not returned don't be emotional no matter what they do. If you get emotional, you give power to them over your well being. Take disappointments as an opportunity to find out how people operate. you know their reality and you will not trust them anymore and avoid them. It will improve tense situations and work quality If you are genuine and honest, doesn't mean you will get it back. everyone only looks for their personal growth. 3.Avoid having colleagues on social media create a separate page for colleagues only if it cant be avoided 4.stay away from gossip and drama anyone who is gossiping with you, will be gossiping about you too! Be careful with what you share. This gossip wont help you progress in your career and can only damage you laughing at gossip is also not a good idea. do not encourage in anyway if you want to vent, save it for outside the office If you stop engaging in gossip, people will stop talking about you It could help you be more productive learn to interact the right way 90% of them are not going to be your friends. But boundaries could give a chance at friendship at work.

[@myemmotion]

You are so welcome! I am loving how you've resumed the video! Hope these strategies help you at your job, best of luck and keep me updated!

[@amysimmons805]

so cool

[@myemmotion]

@@amysimmons805 I agree :)

[@butthole7699]

I would be friends with colleagues however due to the nature of the industry I’m in and the pressure to keep my job through my personal life I cannot be as it might affect the work situation itself

[@annalor2045]

I made the mistake thinking my co-workers were nice and friendly but I see it first hand last week. When all of them turned ugly really quick!

[@tomfooleryalert5094]

I've pretty much broken all of these rules with exception to my love life. I'm due to start a new role in a couple of weeks & will definitely follow this through 100%

[@myemmotion]

It's really easy to make these mistakes, we believe that people have similar intentions as ourselves, but when we eventually get burnt that's when we start putting two and two together. Some colleagues cannot be trusted and it's always better to keep the distance.

[@jessesarmiento1433]

You tell a coworker something and they will tell others, but it will be a different version. The version that will make you look bad and assanitate your character

[@lucidberrypro]

I was quiet, but everything I did was turned into an event. I practically got bullied out of bringing my small lunchbox to work because I'd get harassed over taking up space in an already over filled fridge. I can't get away from my coworkers because we have one small room we have to stay in until it's time for work (custodians), so I recently bought some headphones to give myself something else to focus on. I'm starting to watch anger management videos to calm myself down before going to work now.

[@theolamarshall-bernard]

Hope it gets better for you.

[@te9591]

I know that feeling of having to be forced to socialize in a small break room. One of my employers was a grocery store and they limited our breaks to that one room after a couple months, and you could never escape your gossipy/mediocre coworkers.

[@lucidberrypro]

@@theolamarshall-bernard Awe, thanks! I don't have a job now, so I guess it kind of worked out 😅. Lol

[@lucidberrypro]

@@te9591 Man, that's harsh. I hated being trapped in a room with the gossip, and the constant complaining. I was already disillusioned with the job, but I didn't wanna hear about every single day. Word. For. Word. It was funny noticing that the first few times, and then I started feeling irritated. Lmao

[@liiillllliiilllliilllliii9461]

@@lucidberryproYeah sorry you have to go through this hope everything’s gotten better for you best of luck

[@Sunshine-hb2tx]

I worked with a friend and things out really bad. we were friends outside of work and then when we started working together things changed then the gossip started. colleges are not your friends. keep things professional. keep your personal business at home. keep work professional friendly and do your job at your best.

[@marcycat]

Your co workers will throw you under the bus if they think they'll get a Brownie button for it.

[@myemmotion]

Depending on what kind of co-worker and person it is, but that’s possible.

[@ainsleyharriott2209]

Thank you for this. I’ve been in a new well paid job for a few months and have found the environment very toxic. It feels good to listen to this being talked about. I will actively look for a new job even if the pay is a bit less. It doesn’t feel good spending 40 hours a week with toxic lying 2 faced lazy irresponsible people.

[@myemmotion]

You are very welcome. What you've encountered at a new job isn't uncommon, when we try setting boundaries and respecting them, but we keep getting dragged into the toxicity of the environment, then it is a good idea to start looking for something else.

[@myemmotion]

Merry Christmas by the way!

[@rubbersidedown7041]

That last line or two said it all. Sounds familiar. It's frustrating when you want to be productive, but your coworkers act like they're hanging out at their house goofing off, acting childish, being loud, oversharing, NOT WORKING, etc. I call it a tea party. Jeez, many of the women can talk a lot! I'm mentally exhausted hearing them. It's like a big therapy session. The guys pretty much get their work done.

[@b-41subject57]

​@@rubbersidedown7041 i agree. The women at my job run their mouths often, and have personality traits of men. I stay Away from them when possible, and only talk when necessary. I keep learning the hard way that people suck, and I need to change that.

[@GabrielsTears]

Thank you Marat. I missed the live show but watched it later. You are right in everything you say. They are not friends and will use everything we say against us. Gray rock works too. I use it at work. I work with very toxic people.

[@myemmotion]

You are so welcome! It's a shame that you are surrounded by a toxic work environment, it takes a lot of guts and courage to keep doing what you do! Good that you've been successful using Grey Rock, I've been hearing some mixed opinions. Great seeing you around!

[@cyndeepokorny3413]

I was able to avoid gossip and stuff for 7 years at my job and then I met a really sick girl who basically collected everyone’s business and spread it. I didn’t see what was going on because I hadn’t been through it before. I met two cool coworkers through her but now I’m pretty much terrified to talk to anyone about anything surface level. I don’t ask and if they ask me I keep it so simple it sounds boring lol.

[@avaparreno76]

Inwas been bullied

[@SoulRider.222]

I have so few words to say "so well said". 24 years in the same company and it is getting so tough I had to watch some of your videos. This one is so true. Trust me. New sub!

[@positivethinking4464]

I also learned the lesson to keep my mouth shut at work

[@myemmotion]

Thank you very much for your kind feedback! 24 years in the same company means the job must have a lot of positive aspects too, so it might be worth "fighting" for those. And it's always a good time for setting boundaries! Hope things improve very soon, keep me posted!

[@myemmotion]

@@positivethinking4464 That's a huge step into the right direction, you should have noticed a difference already :)

[@amyb7823]

I know co workers ARENT your friends- due to competition for promotions and just general backstabbing but I always seem to forget this or WANT there to be a bond and shared kinship and so I either reveal too personal of information OR I place expectations upon people such as "how could they not invite me out with them, I thought we were friends!." Also being someone who's very sensitive in nature, this topic right here is something that is placing a lot of burden on my life. I need to really work this out.

[@ddennis2430]

I think it depends on the type of work. I have a lot of friends at work. Nobody is really interested in becoming a supervisor so there's nobody stabbing others in the back

[@fluffysox6072]

Make sure that you have enough going on outside of work. Join a club or a class and start meeting people. You soon won’t care about what your coworkers are doing because you have a life that’s keeping you otherwise occupied.

[@jjg8605]

You are 100 percent right! My old coworkers have been harassing me for 2 years now, they need to leave me alone now,

[@jjg8605]

dont talk or say a thing to them, they are criminals

[@positivethinking4464]

Just finished watching your Coworkers are not your friends video and youtube algorithm led me to this video. You explain everything very clear and in this longer video you are giving a view from a different angle, I now understand everything I've been doing wrong. Thank you for your help!

[@myemmotion]

The video and the livestream are meant to compliment each other. Glad you found some answers here too!

[@janr.1077]

I have several friends I made at work that I no longer work with. It is not even 5% of the people I have worked with already, but there are a few true, faithful friends to be made at work. On the other hand, I have had coworkers set me up for negative work experiences, so I do try keep my eyes open to my surroundings and be observant.

[@myemmotion]

I completely agree with you. It’s a small percentage of people which make a big difference. The friendship is still built with a lot of time, being too trustful since the first days backfires nearly always!

[@MộtMình_VẫnVui]

My favorite coworkers who don’t bother say “hi” nor talking to me. They ( and I) just come and work and do no harm /no gossip/ no jealousy towards me. ☮️

[@ellie2008ify]

This has been a fantastic chat. I have has a 30 year narcissistic coworker experience. I have grey rocked this person. She became a child. I felt sorry for her but was told not to allow myself to feel empathy.

[@myemmotion]

I am glad you found the chat useful. Were these 30 years of experience with the same or different co-workers?

[@ellie2008ify]

@@myemmotion Same coworker. It wasn't until two years ago I got wise. I suffered but learned from this experience. I am much stronger. No longer depressed. I do have to contend with the flying monkeys she left behind.

[@lalita2688]

@@ellie2008ify what are flying monkeys if I may ask? Going through this myself and I love my job

[@Ukrainian-woman-of-your-dreams]

A few past jobs that I have left permanently and do not ever want to go back... because of certain coworkers and managers who thought that they continue manipulating and mistreating me. Any job can be easy to do. But, the type of people that come with that job can be difficult. That is why it is so important to pick the right job for myself.

[@roifberthyijixuifuubgbv4cr655]

I agree you really really have to be guarded if they even ask you for a ride home you either have to say no or be very very low contact these people are not your friends they could care less about you and it's very Toxic I do feel out of place I'm with people that are much much older than me people who don't even speak to me it's very isolating and cold

[@myemmotion]

That's completely true, it does feel very isolating. It gets worse if people are not friendly in general, so being friendly with boundaries isn't an option anymore.

[@angelfriend5211]

I‘m still friends with a boy I met at school when I was seven. He was in my sister‘s class who‘s one year older than me. Now I‘m almost 62 and he‘s 63, and he‘s still one of my best friends. But I agree that it‘s extremely rare that a situational friendship remains a friendship after the situation is over. As far as work is concerned: I worked as a teacher at about 10 different schools over the years, but I only became friends and stayed friends with one co-worker, but even that has somehow fizzled out, and we don‘t really see each other anymore.

[@SuperKarineka]

Great message. Very important! Always be on guard. I learned this the hard way. Be kind and cordial but never trust your coworkers. You do not truly know them or what they are capable of. They are definitely not your friends. It's also helpful to remember all humans are fallible therefore you must lower your expectations. We are all responsible for our own behavior and will have to give an account to God. Put all your Trust in God alone!!!

[@jashawngaming2677]

💯

[@carlswindelliv2701]

I disagree why do we have to be kind to them ???? Why not just do ur work and ignore them

[@Angel-j8e]

Thankyou for this, l am going through a difficult time ar work and l have allowed it to affect my life outside of work but mainly my mental health. You can’t trust anyone at work.

[@greenlightwoody9988]

I thought I had the perfect job and schedule but I am so annoyed with group work.. I have no space every second of every minute and it sucks. I feel like I need my own space and peace of mind. The retirement and schedule is the only thing I care for. Am I the only one who cannot do extreme shoulder to shoulder social atmospheres that remind me of 5th grade politics.

[@lorineilson7529]

All of these tips that you are discussing not to share at work are things a coworker of mine talks about. Now I realize that she has no boundries.

[@bodhisattva2348]

I dont even call the them situational friends, I call them acquaintances, colleagues, co-workers or associates.

[@myemmotion]

I completely agree. What I meant is that if you really want to call them "friends", at most they can be called "situational friends". So in your case, you must have been careful maintaining boundaries at work, right?

[@anitpuran7235]

Yes, I have been betrayed by one of the work colleges. Regret sharing with him.

[@RiruKrypto_]

I thought one of my coworkers was a friend but once she got a higher position she bossed me around and I worked longer than her. It's just sad how the work environment just is.

[@myemmotion]

You'd be surprised to learn how many co-workers have this exact same modus operandi. They would benefit from "work friends" to get a role with more responsibility, once it's done, you are no longer "a friend".

[@RiruKrypto_]

@@myemmotion damn so it appears that my store manager is favoring her over all of us. Once my assistant manager left, she’s given that position that quickly became and it’s become clear to everyone that she is being favored than most of us and has access to everything. I worked there for almost a year now and need solid advice on what you think would be best for me? I enjoy working with all my other coworkers aside from her. I just think favoritism is terrible especially when we obviously know it’s been going on.

[@myemmotion]

@@RiruKrypto_ Favoritism indeed kills the team spirit and damages organization. The less emotionally involved we are, the easier our day to day is. Because in some places there will always be certain favoritims and certain amount of office politics!

[@AbominableDr.Phibes]

Hmm actually, I did make 2 friends from work! None of us works therevanymore but we're still really close friends and are there for eachother. So rarely, it might happen. :)

[@myemmotion]

Absolutely, and the best part is not sharing workplace anymore! I have also made a couple friends from work. They are indeed an exceptional gems!

[@MissKimmy777]

I have learned not to treat colleagues like friends. I’m also learning to have conversations in which do not jeopardize myself or bring anything in a negative light. I have a colleague who likes to trash talk people to each other and to the supervisor. It’s just learning to maintain a positive friendly professional relationship without revealing anything about yourself to them. They will lie about you, trash talk you, and not blink an eye. Which is sad.

[@angelasmyrl743]

Wish I knew this years ago. I am semi retired now, but wish I had set boundaries years ago. It's taken me 15 years to learn this information now. I hope who ever is young enough to learn this lesson will learn it right now. Thanks ❤️

[@lloydwaters1888]

So true. I meet the worst of humanity at every job I held in my lifetime. I would always ask God Why?

[@adamdixon2257]

This one guy I worked with wasn't getting a raise fast enough and he thought that if he threw me under the bus the boss would love him for it. Initially doing thing like leaving some pens on the desk or not talking to customers enough or in general very small errors was fine, but as time progressed he would tell the boss any little thing I did wrong. He never got the raise he wanted and quit 2 months later, but for those 2 months my life was kind of Hell. He had a lot of my hours cut because of how much "telling" he did on me. I still don't like my boss for not confronting me about these issues and just taking this guy's side on it

[@desislavamustakertcheva7231]

I found out this the hard way. I've been betrayed bully for 15 years in such a toxic environment that I'm still there and I'm planning to leave ❤ nothing is changing but I'm changing and I do not allow it today. People treat me that way and I really agree with absolutely truly believing everything he's saying is true because I went through that❤ Please don't make my mistake. And I paid the price going collapsing broken physically mentally spiritually from all that stress burned out people pleasing in the hospital. I took 2 years of disability and I woke up. And I see good co-workers leaving quitting and going through the same as me and looking for another job. Never work for a corporation nightmare. You're just a number replaceable. It's so sad😢

[@runachakra8892]

So many people have been so so cruel and selfish. Really horrible.

[@Silent_Shadow]

Had a coworker who I'm cool with say something today that showed me who he is. He was upset with another CW and I said, "well, go tell him". His response was "I'm not that kinda guy, I will say it behind his back, and smile at him". That made me rethink him and upset my stomach. I'm the say it to your face type and still stay civil.

[@greneellen8]

Most of the close friends I have in my life I met at work. I stayed in touch with them after I left, and the friendship continued to grow over the years.

[@johnniepegues305]

My coworkers are just that co-workers I don't come back from my weekend talking about my weekend I don't let them know nothing personal about me any paperwork if I'm gone or sick I don't bring statements to my actual job I take it down to Administration coworkers are messy and they feel obligated to know every ounce of your personal life you should always keep your personal life separate from your work life and that's exactly what I do

[@gessrinky9129]

Yes. Easy to forget in healthcare as you spend many hours together in vulnerable situations..you tell lots of stuff over the years. Found this out the hard way. I had a colleague whom I thought was a good friend. I invited her to my bachelorette party and she responded with “you don’t want me there” as a way to decline. It was very embarrassing.

[@PotterSpurn1]

Most friendships we make in life is a series of situational relationships involving personal bonding. I agree that we shouldn't overshare, but I don't think that real friendships appear out of nowhere. You either make them at school, university, work, social groups, sports clubs, church. All of these places you leave eventually. Where else do you make them? A true friendship will last a lot longer than the situation you share though, but the amount of time you see each other might diminish over time.

[@sophist1cated]

I learned this the hard way myself after i land my first corporation job. After i collect my experience in the work enviroment, i have developed a diffrent approach with my colleagues. Conversations are necessary, but only harmless topics. I only share a minimum of personal information which is not avoidable, but no deeper details, no talk about my problems, my hobbys, etc.pp., they know almost nothing about me. In total it is a balancing act.

[@LinhNgo-on2tv]

My "Coworker" left me with PTSD and lifelong disability. I will never be friend with a "coworker" ever again.

[@tvbuu]

All these things are reasons why I left the corporate world. Everyone is snakes, maybe like one or two genuinely cool people, then everyone else hates their jobs or lives.

[@amysimmons805]

Very well put! Great video Sorry I missed ur stream, I'll be there for the next one.

[@myemmotion]

Thank you very much! Look forward to seeing you again!

[@8ZakattacK9]

THANK YOU! Someone had to break it down for some people. I'm not there to chit chat about the ongoings of their lives when I get a chance to sit down and watch some TV on my break. I'm there to do a Job and get payed for it. I'm not a people person but that doesn't mean I can't make friends. I just don't care about the small stuff that doesn't affect my life.

[@inferno3080]

Great video really opened my eyes. Between friendliness, and friends.

[@g41133]

Such words of wisdom! Thank you! Wish I would've seen your videos sooner!

[@ekaterinays9485]

Agree in some extent. I think you can develop good friendship at the same company, when you work in different departments. From my personal experience, I have worked in the company when my future friend has joined our team. We have clicked straight away. She is now my best friend for last 7 years, however I have left that company 5 years ago, maybe it wouldn't be the case if I still be in the same team. Will never know.

[@anthonykeel1058]

People already should know if you expect to make friends at work you will only be disappointed There’s no loyalty and will simply throw you under the bus for their personal gain However, years ago (15 years) I made a good friend at work, now he’s my best friend and neither one of us work there. My current job, not one I would consider a friend

[@hulkwarrior]

I'm in a very difficult situation, as I have to sit next to someone in a work vehicle for a large portion of the day. I know every issue about this person, all their political, religious and financial issues. He thinks we are friends, I'm ready to quit because of him. I essentially already have, I show up, perform my tasks and want to leave as soon as able.

[@dorinnefacey6436]

Just discovered your channel today, excellent information, very very wise advise

[@myemmotion]

I am so glad to hear that. You are very welcome, wishing you best of luck and hope to see you around!

[@TheSunGoethDown]

I have 2 good friends that started out as coworkers. We were never in the same department and that was 30 years ago.

[@00000714ful]

over 30 years with the same company . the old days they were friends and were after retirement. but the last 15 years it did change. i am still friends with the old retires that are still alive but after the the late 90s i'm not friends with any of them . not sure why the change happened but it did.

[@myemmotion]

Were those colleagues you’ve worked directly with? It’s interesting how the dynamics of “staying in touch” mostly end up disappearing.

[@Sheisme120]

17:37 Good point! People’s news gets old so fast, people in general are forgetful.

[@bonfettucine6958]

I just speak when spoken to. No time for the fake games people play regardless of if it is at work. We don't get paid to play acting games with others at work

[@ivettearnaud2770]

Thank you so much for your advise, I am so thankful that I came across your channel.

[@audreyharris-randall5189]

Thank yo. This is the first Lesson I taught my children before they intered the work world. . My Father indoctrinated me with this I formation that you are telling others. Please keep up the great work.

[@SheyESO]

*Will you come into my parlor, says the spider to the fly.* A phrase used to describe a situation in which one person has been captivated by another person's charm and flattery, and when the latter is secretly harboring ill intentions towards the former. -

[@albertpd4994]

Can you make a video about identifying the toxic personalities at work?

[@myemmotion]

It's a good idea, I'll look into it.

[@idiotic1021]

I like my coworkers, I consider them “work friends”. They are good, honest and hardworking people and I wish them well.

[@nweditor875]

Very true I had to learn this one the hard way, I always look at them they are either your enemy or very good acquaintance.

[@jjg8605]

How can I stop old co-workers who are still illegally harassing me and working to destroy my life? They dont care about laws or any human rights. Please help!

[@claudiamm8658]

These videos are very helpful. Thanks for making them

[@myemmotion]

I am so glad to hear that you found them helpful. You are very welcome! Best of luck and hope to see you around!

[@alexe8996]

Yes i have been lied to so many times so my co workers are not my friends period.

[@saharagold]

Beware of the really nice 'smiling assassins' at work.

[@anthoniqueellis5626]

Great advice I learn to to focus at work better.

[@Nicool333]

Thank you for posting this.

[@Nina-vk5sl]

Hi like your program, I see your advice, I do so much trouble, with co- worker, they don’t leave me alone no matter what I do!!!

[@myemmotion]

What exactly are they doing? Have you tried speaking to them about it?

[@Paula-sw2tt]

Some of my former coworkers are now my friends. It may also be a bit different in the mental health field idk. I don't share secrets that I would want the entire office to know with a coworker. A quote that I like is "when someone shows you their true colors, don't try to repaint them". With clients in mental health you don't take what they say personally, it a great idea to do the same with coworkers. I also learned the hard way not to go out drinking with my colleagues, especially if they plan to get drunk and tell you something they will then remember they said and regret it in the morning.

[@unknownunkown4440]

I saw this video too late. 20 year teaching career. I got disabled housebound for life. I missed work. 3 coworkers called me, though we were friends, in few min I told them what happened, same to my boss...they were in a hurry. Never called me or talked to me again. I'm 15 min away from them. It hurts.

[@emmsummer7811]

It's never too late now you know that you shouldnt care about them really

[@GenXMafia]

Me too. 15 years at UPS in a reactive contingency department with the Airline side. We worked like an Army platoon under constant enemy fire. I loved the job and most of the people I worked with because you really had to depend on each other when the SHTF. I felt closer to them at times than I felt about those I was in the Army with. Anyway I got fired over some stupid minor bullshit. Once everyone called me to console me and get their curiosity fix I never heard from any of them again. Out of sight out of mind.

[@ddennis2430]

Well do you reach out to them?

[@emmsummer7811]

@@ddennis2430 I reached out to mine at first and there was little enthusiasm to keep in contact

[@emmsummer7811]

@@GenXMafia that's sad to be honest

[@robertlehane9955]

Yes, let down numerous times. Don't trust anyone in work.

[@josphatkigotho3841]

Nice to listen to this very educative and very true nobody in the work place is your friend.

[@Strongpoeticmind]

The more women in the office, the less it's about work. Women want to know from other Women. Are you married? Do you have kids and a family life? If one woman is too private, something is wrong with her.

[@GenXMafia]

Women destroyed the workplace. There, I said it. Because it’s true. Men and women can not and should not work together. Case in point. I worked for UPS Airlines as a flight crew scheduler. I loved the work but it was very stressful at times and difficult if you weren’t puzzle minded. Lots of women in our department. All day long if we weren’t busy it sounded like a hen house…constant noise, constant drama…about everything. Directly across from us was Aircraft Maintenance Coordinators. It was a union job comprised entirely of men. FOR FIFTEEN YEARS…day in and day out they sat over there and unless there was something going on with one of our airplanes it was stone cold silent over there…every single day, 24x7x365. It was heaven. We are witnessing the collapse of our society and feminism and women forced into our workplace was and still is a huge part of the problem. Prove me wrong. I dare ya to try.

[@leahjohnson9854]

@@GenXMafiaI couldn’t agree more. Women in the workplace are a big problem; they are the primary perpetrators of workplace drama and redundancy. They’re two-faced, hypocritical, disrespectful, spoiled, entitled, and don’t respect boundaries. For the life of them, they just cannot leave anyone alone and the basis of their ridiculous unfair negative unkind judgments they make about other people are based a lot more on their feelings and less on objective truth. I’m a woman and have worked with women my entire life. So, I know how they are.

[@ftakenouchi1464]

This is my take: yes there are toxic ppl out there and we shouldn’t trust ppl easily but also it’s important to NOT live in fear. The world is dark enough, nothing worse than be on constant guard thinking the darkest of humankind manifest at work. Trust your instinct, observe, wait, don’t expect “ friendship” but also don’t be so closed off that you lose the importance of showing compassion and kindness. Yes, it’s risky but sometimes taking a bit of calculated risk, being vulnerable is not always a bad thing. Be of service, networking always and most importantly, be yourself and be a light to those who are in need. Karma is always watching.

[@UnknowN-do2hp]

worked at costco over 16 years, i finally realized just now lol, they are not def your friends, but gotta work make money and get out thats all you can do

[@Yolduranduran]

I have made long life friends in almost every place I worked. 1-2 friends in each job. We keep in touch with happy and sad moments in our life.

[@ddennis2430]

I'm the same way, always come out of a job with atleast a couple friends. I mean people have their own families and lives, but we manage to stay in touch best we can

[@SuperImmortal24]

This is why I clock in and clock out.

[@haroldfridkis3536]

The best advice of all: you share absolutely NOTHING with your coworkers or staff. Just do your job, collect your paycheck and go home. That's it!