Cognitive Distortions #1: All-or-Nothing Thinking | Dr. Rami Nader

[@signewhite6654]

Thank you for pointing out that in relationships they are someone to be idolized or they seem like a monster . I need to find the gray in relationships. Thank you

[@DaveE99]

My problem having adhd is even if I know it’s black and white thinking, it totally feels like people respond to me a if I’m competent or not competent or as I’ve put it, “awesome or not awesome” Like I’m either setting records, or I’m that quirky guy in the office. And then the part that can really screw with you is say your pushing hard being curious and working hard af, and you still get the failure +judgment aka- fear of major failure + RSD and you hyper focus on trying not to make that mistake again while at the top of your game, and despite it costing me my job, years latter I still haven’t found that specific answer, I had to realize at some point that we don’t always learn what we thought we would learn from failure and it won’t alway make us feel the safest. But now I got to find a way to retrust the world and other people it feels like.

[@leigholding1397]

This is so ingrained in my personality. Ive always been this way i wouldn't known how to not do it. I do feel very limited in life and going after things seem impossible and i do tend to failure alot without learning from it.. oh there i go again.. screwing things up.. again.

[@tabithaormiston-smith590]

This really reminds me of my mother, who thought that if you weren't top of the class, getting first class honours or whatever, you were just No Good. And yes, she had a really miserable life.

[@kaydabot9368]

Just want to thank you for posting these videos for us. I am bipolar and am trying to come out of a depressive episode and they're helping a lot. 🙏

[@DrRamiNader]

I'm really pleased to hear that you have found the videos helpful. I'm also pleased to hear that you are coming out of a depressive episode and feeling better. Take care.

[@neyssajump5524]

Just watched this twice. Really good stuff. My therapist often tells me I have an "all or nothing mindset", but you helped me to learn how to question it. Love that tip of adding "and". But for me, the "and" needs to be flipped in some situations. "My kids never clean up after themselves, and they do love me, and I know they love me because they tell me so, are affectionate, etc".

[@DrRamiNader]

Hi Neyssa - glad you found the video helpful and thank you for sharing your observations and experiences.

[@gianavalero8014]

this changed my point of view on this so much! very healing. thank you.

[@DrRamiNader]

You're very welcome! Glad you found it helpful!

[@poyobunny8508]

Thank you, this helped a lot

[@DrRamiNader]

Glad it helped!

[@Gigi-dg9mu]

Thank you for the video

[@DrRamiNader]

You're very welcome. Glad you found it helpful!

[@Gemparkzz]

How do you look for the shades of grey while avoiding in confirmation bias?

[@DrRamiNader]

A person can consider multiple options and viewpoints without necessarily focusing just on information that confirms what they already believe. In fact, it's easier to avoid confirmation bias when considering shades of grey.

[@laronwilliams7127]

He’s good

[@sushs7991]

The interview scenario you told about has mental filter DISTORTION

[@bigarms4341]

great video thank you dr🙏🏻,

[@DrRamiNader]

You're welcome. Thanks for your support of the channel!

[@johnnyv673]

So helpful

[@DrRamiNader]

Glad you found it helpful.

[@jacekciesiokiewicz7582]

Good material 🙂

[@gileneusz]

This video is great, but I can’t see the toys on the background so it’s a total failure, but I’ll think more about it…

[@DrRamiNader]

Lol They are mostly pop figures and trinkets associated with some of my favorite TV shows😀

[@ziquaftynny9285]

What is the negative opposite of all or nothing thinking? I feel like I struggle to think in concrete terms because concepts feel like a blur in my mind.

[@DrRamiNader]

I'm sorry, but I don't understand the question.

[@giridharpavan1592]

only through yoga this is ascended, other methods are hopeless

[@DrRamiNader]

Glad yoga is helpful for you, but I don't agree that it is the only way to address this.

[@d3c3]

KZbin algorithm is awesome 👍

[@DrRamiNader]

I'm glad the algorithm helped you find the channel! Welcome and I hope you find the videos useful.

[@puffdee6403]

Hello doc remember me

[@DrRamiNader]

Sorry, I don't.

[@puffdee6403]

@@DrRamiNader I commented one of ur videos I have adhedonia by the way

[@DrRamiNader]

@@puffdee6403 Yes, now I remember. Sorry, but I get a lot of comments and try to respond to as many as I can. Thanks for watching the videos, your comments and support of the channel!

[@puffdee6403]

@@DrRamiNader I watch ur adhedonia video and took me 5 days to go up what advices can u give me again

[@FirstmaninRome]

I hear ya man, you can see some black and white thinking over my ccj channel lol i need to stop

[@andrewrai5752]

Depends! Sometimes in competition it is all or nothing! You are either first or not- Think about it? Everyone knows who the fastest runner is in the name of Usain Bolt, anyone know who the second best is? Everyone knows the name of the first person to climb everest, Edmund Hillary, anyone know the second person? You either get into Harvard or Yale or you don't . Nothing grey about it.

[@DrRamiNader]

That's correct. But does that mean that if someone can't run as fast as Usain Bolt, then they shouldn't run? Just because someone doesn't get into Harvard or Yale, that doesn't mean they end up in a crummy university. If a person lives their life thinking they always have to be the best at everything they do, they are going to live an unfufilling life of constant discontent.

[@johnolson6537]

@@DrRamiNader what andrew rai sayed this is so mean also. funny thing is I run 7 days a weak 6-9 miles most days. yet it just feels so good on my ressless legs. and my self asteam. I like this point also Dr.rami nader I often dont even try to do certen things in life nothing how much tired its going to make me and how much work it will take I cant or wont even take the first step. in most things in life I am far better then most people. at most things. but dear god dont ask me how to make tost. I will burn it and it will take to much work to learn how to make tost and put butter on it. I feel tired just thinking about it. so I have great weekness. and great streghts. my brother wonts me to be a MA fighter.. I am like why I am 41 years old. and why bother if I cant be number 1 the best in the world or a shot at it.

[@joulesabagel9417]

Mercedes Benz the Best or nothing 😂😅