Coke, Sobriety & Finding My Father - Kirk Norcross

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Menace to Sobriety

Menace to Sobriety

Күн бұрын

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@alunedmiston6027
@alunedmiston6027 2 жыл бұрын
Just want to say this might have saved my life, top lads for bringing this out, helped me and sure it’s helped a lot of other men young, middle age and elderly🙏
@menacetosobrietypodcast
@menacetosobrietypodcast 2 жыл бұрын
Wow thank you x
@georgematthews776
@georgematthews776 2 жыл бұрын
My mum used herion all my life and she died 2 years ago 🙁 since the funeral ive started the ❄️, heavily, i have no brothers or sisters and basically lost all my friends because i just chill at home 24/7, i dont think ill be the same ever again can cry all the time
@caseywatson9171
@caseywatson9171 2 жыл бұрын
@@georgematthews776 keep your head up mate use this video as a motivation that’s what what I’m gonna do
@georgematthews776
@georgematthews776 2 жыл бұрын
@@caseywatson9171 ❤️🙏
@jordss8802
@jordss8802 Жыл бұрын
I Love You Alun Edminston. YOU GOT THIS BRUVVA
@blackcloudtattooer9255
@blackcloudtattooer9255 6 ай бұрын
Remember this: addiction is giving up EVERYTHING for ONE THING. freedom is giving up ONE thing for EVERYTHING
@THEDISABLEDFERRET
@THEDISABLEDFERRET Жыл бұрын
I used to be in a bad place with coke myself. It lead to me losing my mrs and access to my two sons. And the way Kirk talks about his addiction with pain and regret is exactly how i feel. I threw my life away and was powerless to stop myself. I sniffed about 5 grand over a few months ajd at one was boshing up lines in toys r us toilets whilst Xmas shopping with my ex and child. Things I will always regret. I’m clean now for a good few years but it still haunts me. And I still can’t see my boys. 😢. Anyone reading this who struggles like I did… just know it can get better. You can get clean. There’s always hope.
@barneybaldwin2797
@barneybaldwin2797 Жыл бұрын
I wish you all the best fella 🙏
@THEDISABLEDFERRET
@THEDISABLEDFERRET Жыл бұрын
@@barneybaldwin2797 most appreciated friend. 👌 back on top nowadays. Anyone else who feels like I did. Just know, nothing is permanent. Things can and will get better ❤️
@Slick_Widdit
@Slick_Widdit Жыл бұрын
Heart goes out to you mate. Keep strong, you’ll see your boys again one day 🙏
@evasion2386
@evasion2386 4 ай бұрын
Forgive yourself ❤ Michelle from Ireland
@evasion2386
@evasion2386 4 ай бұрын
Or at least be willing to Forgive... it can take time.. you need yourself in this life.. if your turning on yourself when you need yourself the most it's self torture.. There is goodness in you.. remember your essence IS that goodness..
@ninastapley9354
@ninastapley9354 Жыл бұрын
It’s so important to hear working class men talking about addiction especially coke feel like it becomes so normalised This is so powerful! Thank you both for being so honest
@katiewoods7639
@katiewoods7639 Жыл бұрын
I remember Kirk on towie I used to think he was a player and so full of himself. This as really opened my eyes, what a nice genuine lad he really is. Looking at him, never would I think he's got anxiety or lived the way he did, not leaving his house getting off his head everyday. You just assume they are living the life of Riley, loving life but he really wasn't. He's a beautiful person and we'll done on getting sober and overcoming your addiction. What a bloke 💙
@menacetosobrietypodcast
@menacetosobrietypodcast Жыл бұрын
Glad you see things differently Katie. Appreciate your comment thank you ❤️
@cleereplasteringandbrickwork
@cleereplasteringandbrickwork Жыл бұрын
Listen, fellas I’m 447 days in my sobriety, this video has just made me realise this is still worth doin!! So thank you very much for that. I’ve subscribed keep em coming Dan 👊
@menacetosobrietypodcast
@menacetosobrietypodcast Жыл бұрын
Wow. Well done CBS! And thank you ❤️
@peterroche2842
@peterroche2842 Жыл бұрын
Today being my 6th day at my lost count of attempts at sobriety I really needed to see this. Thank you both for changing my life.
@badboybullterriers4104
@badboybullterriers4104 Жыл бұрын
Goto NA or CA do 90 in 90 get a sponsor start step work
@aaronporter8864
@aaronporter8864 Жыл бұрын
Keep going bro
@badboybullterriers4104
@badboybullterriers4104 Жыл бұрын
also go listen to someone with some clean time under his belt when i heard e was 36 days i nrly spat my food out, in recovery you need 6 months clean time to get voluntary work and 2 years clean time to give advice to addicts as someone who worked in rehabs and got headhunted to work in other rehabs i see Dapper laughs having a relapse in 0-18 months then taking it seriously.
@WSCØØTS
@WSCØØTS Жыл бұрын
Great podcast 👍
@lukeevans-bn4ki
@lukeevans-bn4ki Жыл бұрын
Good luck you’ve got this 💪💪💪
@politikking3340
@politikking3340 Жыл бұрын
Sincerely wish Kirk all the best, took a lot of bottle to open up but no doubt he has helped a lot of men just by telling his story.
@menacetosobrietypodcast
@menacetosobrietypodcast Жыл бұрын
Thank you for that mate ❤️
@sandrahoward5695
@sandrahoward5695 Жыл бұрын
I am the Mother of four boys, men actually aged 45-35. I really want to applaud Kirk for shining a light on addiction and encouraging men to be open and talk👏👏👏 and to all of you who have shared your feelings and thoughts👏👏👏❤️Respect! RIP Mick Norcross and Kirk everything your Dad thought about you, helping and advising you all led to that sad day. You stepped up man and your Dad was always and WILL ALWAYS be so proud of you. God bless🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
@Imfaaoo
@Imfaaoo 11 ай бұрын
You’re a bad mother if your kids are on pablosnow, you should have stopped breeding
@chapter6ix
@chapter6ix Жыл бұрын
48 days clean and sober today. Beautiful podcast. Thank you 🙏
@chapter6ix
@chapter6ix Жыл бұрын
@Craig Jones thank you brother 🙏🙏🙏
@chapter6ix
@chapter6ix Жыл бұрын
107 today Oi Oi 💪
@Imfaaoo
@Imfaaoo 11 ай бұрын
Only cos you got no money or friends to sort ya beak you nobody
@chapter6ix
@chapter6ix 11 ай бұрын
@@Imfaaoo anger comes from sadness, il pray for you pal
@Imfaaoo
@Imfaaoo 11 ай бұрын
@@chapter6ix thank you, I think I need it
@MrSampson87
@MrSampson87 2 жыл бұрын
This is the realest discussion I've ever heard on this, relatable on so many levels for times I've had years ago. MASSIVE respect for the honesty in this!
@menacetosobrietypodcast
@menacetosobrietypodcast 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching x
@stept8600
@stept8600 Жыл бұрын
This was a powerful chat. Im 28 male whos struggling with many of the challenges that both of you have overcome. Two weeks sober this year and this chat has given me the motivation I needed to push further. Thanks both of you
@speakupreality633
@speakupreality633 Жыл бұрын
What you have quit
@menacetosobrietypodcast
@menacetosobrietypodcast Жыл бұрын
keep going my guy x
@MrLuca18
@MrLuca18 Жыл бұрын
@@menacetosobrietypodcast Same here 16 days sober and clean of coke
@Ads4379
@Ads4379 Жыл бұрын
Stay strong 💪🏼
@badboybullterriers4104
@badboybullterriers4104 Жыл бұрын
You should do 90 in 90 get a sponser
@jl3423l4jsdf
@jl3423l4jsdf Жыл бұрын
48:12 Kirk opening up about finding his Dad after suicide, absolutely heart wrenching. So much respect for Kirk's strength to shed a tear or two but maintain composure 👊
@badboybullterriers4104
@badboybullterriers4104 Жыл бұрын
Yeah my dad tried to kill himself when i was 12/13, he was on the phone to the samiritans saying hede wired himself up to the electric and was about to flick the switch, then he flicked the switch i heard screams then silence i thought he was dead, in the morning i ran out the house as i was too scared to go in the front room and see a dead body and i went to school and didn't tell a soul, worst day of my life.
@proudtobeageordie9490
@proudtobeageordie9490 Жыл бұрын
@@badboybullterriers4104 hope your dad got the help he needed and hope that didn't effect you for to long 🥺❤️
@badboybullterriers4104
@badboybullterriers4104 Жыл бұрын
@@proudtobeageordie9490 well I'm on a recovery channel
@ciaradawson6258
@ciaradawson6258 Жыл бұрын
@@badboybullterriers4104❤
@jordanbeech12
@jordanbeech12 2 жыл бұрын
This was too short 😢. Everyone is trying to do podcasts now so when I first saw this I was like here we go. But this was really honest, raw and open. Not like other copycat podcast where they just ask the same questions we have heard a million times. Well done dappa. 👏 this was something fresh and relatable.
@menacetosobrietypodcast
@menacetosobrietypodcast 2 жыл бұрын
nice one 🙂
@ayatchafaqui
@ayatchafaqui 2 жыл бұрын
‘If you want what they’ve got, do what they’ve done’ love that !
@acrossthepond4792
@acrossthepond4792 Жыл бұрын
Your Dad was a fine man, Kirk. Keep on making him proud.
@menacetosobrietypodcast
@menacetosobrietypodcast Жыл бұрын
❤️
@antoniogambone6625
@antoniogambone6625 Жыл бұрын
​@@menacetosobrietypodcast dapper how did u stop all of it
@onyxlove3555
@onyxlove3555 2 жыл бұрын
Cheers lads I seriously needed this, 27 years old and I’ve wasted the last 10 years of my life on alcohol ,cocaine and sleeping pills. I’m trying to be a better man now that I have a little girl . Good luck on the podcast mate I’m already a big fan .
@sjackson6007
@sjackson6007 Жыл бұрын
I worked with Kirks dad a few years before he died - really nice guy. Must have been hard for Kirk to talk about but his dad would have been proud.
@menacetosobrietypodcast
@menacetosobrietypodcast Жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing mate ❤️
@montytrades6716
@montytrades6716 Жыл бұрын
this podcast is going to save a lot of people , im 27 days sober and I can relate to a lot of this , amazing work mate !
@menacetosobrietypodcast
@menacetosobrietypodcast Жыл бұрын
I hope so! Stay strong Monty mate. You got this 💪
@lawrencewhite1592
@lawrencewhite1592 8 ай бұрын
As someone diagnosed with adult ADD and having the same issues as both of you, trying to break out of it all, it's good to hear you both speak about everything in exactly the way my mind works, gunna have to make some big changes and think going sober is the only way, don't think just taming it down a bit will work, top work, cheers for making it seem normal
@danielwood3329
@danielwood3329 Жыл бұрын
Dapper, I've just got to say your podcast have come at the right time for me. I'm sober 70 days today. My low point I was 8 weeks sober and thought one beer would be okay within the hour. A 8th of gear was ordered, then 3 days in, and a 1000 pound down again laying in the bath and wanting too die that was my low point and know thing's had to change and today I've never felt happier I just want too say thinkyou
@geobtn6464
@geobtn6464 Жыл бұрын
Huge respect to Kirk, Takes alot to come online and be this honest, inspirational
@menacetosobrietypodcast
@menacetosobrietypodcast Жыл бұрын
Absolutely!
@lewishorsewell8852
@lewishorsewell8852 2 жыл бұрын
My Friend John meet Kirk at CA. He said he was a top lad. John is still fighting his demons unfortunately. Im in my 40s. My mother toke her own life, 10 years ago, I feel it made me stronger. Good luck Kirk, stay strong. Like you said "why my kids have air in their lungs so will I". Great first podcast keep up the good work.
@davecooper303
@davecooper303 9 ай бұрын
10 months sober today and the whole being present thing is spot on!! It sounds trivial but the feeling of being present with the people you love is a really powerfull feeling.
@jay-leeofficialcctv
@jay-leeofficialcctv Жыл бұрын
I love how both of you are talking about serious topics, but also make light of it by having jokes and also making it a laugh.
@menacetosobrietypodcast
@menacetosobrietypodcast Жыл бұрын
Just 2 blokes having a honest chat ❤️
@AlicePriceMusic
@AlicePriceMusic Жыл бұрын
I'm so glad you haven't quit thus channel. This is hands down the best sobriety channel out there. Mark my words when this picks up on the algorithm this channel will blow up. It is SO relatable especially for British people and the scope of different levels of addiction is SUCH an important topic. I know this will be helping people who badly struggle with drink/drugs but don't feel 'bad enough' to get help or quit. This will validate them and may help thousands. Keep this up xx
@kokotxa
@kokotxa Жыл бұрын
jesus this podcast hit me so damn hard. I found this episode exactly when I needed to find it. I'm in the thick of it at the moment, life starting to crumble around me, and hearing this story really helped take the edge off and give me a bit of hope. Thank you so much for this mate
@menacetosobrietypodcast
@menacetosobrietypodcast Жыл бұрын
Thank you❤️ Really glad it helped in that moment mate
@daledunne3536
@daledunne3536 Жыл бұрын
I’ve just come across this podcast… even when Kirk was on Towie he seemed like a bloke to lead by, but now he is definitely a bloke to lead by now. Truly inspirational
@bernadettedevoy2475
@bernadettedevoy2475 2 жыл бұрын
This was refreshing to listen to. I got 19 months clean after over 24 years of using.... I went to NA & really felt good .... Even started to look good... Lol .. Sadly I relapsed... Even with the info I learnt and the tools I knew how to use, I ended up picking up.. telling myself.. it'll just be a one off.. That was early November 2019... It's now 2023 & I swear I don't know where the last 3 years gave gone!!! Addiction doesn't discriminate, it gets hold of you and it'll make u become someone you don't even recognize!! Well it did to me & continues to torture me daily now!!! I NEED TO GET CLEAN AGAIN... Yet I don't think I'm " fully ready" to try again! There's a HUGE part of me that really wants to be in recovery again yet the smallest part of me is fighting myself daily telling myself I'm not worth it! In my heart I know I am worth recovery yet my poxy BRAIN (MY ADDICT PART OF ME) is winning by telling me I'm not gonna ever get clean again! Listening to this gave me that light in my tunnel that has re ignited my HOPE...(Hold On Pain Ends)... THANKS GUYS .. Plus it's powerful to listen to 2 MEN discuss this issue as society needs more of this... Kirk keep going and Daniel I look forward to getting my first day clean again sometime soon so u being 36 days is FRICKING AMAZING.... ONE DAY AT A TIME PEOPLE 🙏🙏🙏🙏
@menacetosobrietypodcast
@menacetosobrietypodcast 2 жыл бұрын
Thabk you for watching tho
@lisabryan7768
@lisabryan7768 2 жыл бұрын
Are you serious...BERNADETTE YOU ARE SO WORTH IT I PROMISE YOU, YOUR ALWAYS WORTH IT YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY SO...when yur ready you will know I'm sending you my love & positive thoughts I know your worth so much more than you think .YOU CAN & WILL SO THIS 💗💗💗
@nathaniel2300
@nathaniel2300 2 жыл бұрын
Different addiction for me but resonate with this comment so much
@WebbyBrum-fg6lf
@WebbyBrum-fg6lf Жыл бұрын
The only thing that makes me take it is drinking alcohol. I like a drink once a week but it always leads to sniff. I hate that I can’t just have a few pints.
@serenitystars8839
@serenitystars8839 Жыл бұрын
Just think…. All that money u spend buying or you may aswell set alight too. I also used to use until my 32 year old friend who was a occasional user died of a heart attack during a sesh. U pay £50-60 for a high that lasts half hour or so. It’s such a waste to feel good for such a short amount of time. Then it rules your life. I got clean through rehab and after 6 weeks of feeling BAD! So bad I never wanted to touch it again, but just a few weeks of feeling crap then u have control of ur life back, ur not putting urself at risk of dying everytime u sniff, u will have so much more money, u will have ur own family if u haven’t got one, if u have u will loose them if u carry on and loose everything in life, all for some dirty powder cut with god knows wat and a half hour high. I’ve seen it ruin so many life’s and friends loose EVERYTHING including their life. U have to be mentally as strong as possible and WANT to do it otherwise u won’t get clean. There is so much help out there, pls reach out and get help, your life will improve SO MUCH and u will look better, be richer, and be a much nicer better person. Good luck with it all
@WarlockFitness
@WarlockFitness 26 күн бұрын
Genuinely one of my favourite podcast I’ve ever seen. Kirk you was a legend in how honest you were. Really respect you. Big well done my man 🙏❤
@Drta170
@Drta170 Жыл бұрын
So brave of Kirk to speak about himself in such an honest way. Never cared for Towie or the lot, though I’m sure that this story will help others. Well done to both of you
@menacetosobrietypodcast
@menacetosobrietypodcast Жыл бұрын
Honesty is the only way with sobriety ❤️
@kurtisheadley3506
@kurtisheadley3506 Жыл бұрын
My story identical to dappers think Iv got ADHD wasn’t dependent but ever weekend I’d have something lost my fist baby mum because of it and nearly losing this one but I’m starting to climb the hill but dapper is the closed to my situation and it helps listening
@carolinebiddle265
@carolinebiddle265 Жыл бұрын
My heart goes out to you Kirk Norcross, I struggle with addiction without a loss of a parent, you're an inspiration
@andrewokeefe8118
@andrewokeefe8118 Жыл бұрын
As someone who is now coming up to 4 years clean and sober, I identify so much with all of this! Incredible, powerful, life saving podcast! Well done lads! ❤
@ra-on6gn
@ra-on6gn Жыл бұрын
Happy 4 years bro. I just passed 4 years on the 11th of January. What a fuckin journey it has been
@andrewokeefe8118
@andrewokeefe8118 Жыл бұрын
@@ra-on6gn congrats to you also mate! What a journey is right, also the best thing I’ve ever done! Glad to see people talking about it so honestly on here! Can only help! Glad your doing so well mate
@ra-on6gn
@ra-on6gn Жыл бұрын
@@andrewokeefe8118 since then I’ve started my own family. Have a two year old son that keeps me going. Still have my days of course but man it’s crazy how life works
@andrewokeefe8118
@andrewokeefe8118 Жыл бұрын
@@ra-on6gn that’s incredible, you should be so proud, and it’s amazing for your family to get the clean/sober version of you! It’s crazy how life gets so much better when we make that change to get better
@lbbeats5532
@lbbeats5532 Жыл бұрын
Everybody needs to see this. This could save and help so many people, it's proper relatable. Respect fellas, stay strong.
@NewAccount-yv3qr
@NewAccount-yv3qr Жыл бұрын
I lost my Dad around the same time as Kirk i understand that pain how difficult it is to pick your life to up after such trauma. Everytime i hear him speak about it i start sobbing. Massive respect for him turning his life around Hes taken a tragity and turned it into something amazing His dad would be smiling apon the man hes become. Well done Kirk.❤
@CME1994
@CME1994 Жыл бұрын
I just want to say to both of you thank you. The things both of you spoke about is identical to the unfortunate situation I find myself in. I’m 28 now and I realise it’s became a problem, affecting relationships with family, lost girlfriends, lost jobs, money issues. Being heavily depressed and having anxiety etc all because of that devils dandruff! I’m at the stage where I want to change my life; but it’s knowing how and getting the proper help that’s the hard part… So thanks to Kirk & Dapper for opening up and showing normal people that people like you guys also go through the same stuff. Seeing this gives me the motivation and hope that it is possible to beat this horrible addiction.
@marksmith5196
@marksmith5196 Жыл бұрын
Much respect to you brother. I’m in the same boat…the drug has ruined my life since I was 23, I’m 31 now and still trying to kick it. It’s such an awful addiction and one which has taken a huge toll on my mental health and life. This podcast really hit home how much it affects all of us cocaine addicts in the same way.
@CME1994
@CME1994 Жыл бұрын
@@marksmith5196 Definitely mate makes you feel a bit better knowing you ain’t alone. Sending you strength & love pal we’ve got this! 💪🏼
@richturner5477
@richturner5477 2 жыл бұрын
Amazing!! I totally agree with Kirk…you’re either born an addict or not. After spending most of my teens and early 20’s taking ever drug under the sun, then reaching 27 and packing it all in because I just brought a house so I had something else to focus on with renovation. Then 4 years ago going out on work nights out found myself hitting the packet again, then it went to every weekend, sticking my tongue into the empty bag before the next one came…to now been 10 days sober after secretly drinking and hiding from my wife and kids for over a year everyday. That podcast hit home and let me peak through doors I’d firmly shut. We can all do it, we just need to believe and love the person we are without it. Can’t wait for the next one.
@menacetosobrietypodcast
@menacetosobrietypodcast 2 жыл бұрын
self loves important xx
@emmajeacock242
@emmajeacock242 2 жыл бұрын
As a woman who knows men that have been in similar situations this was so enlightening and refreshing to watch. Well done to the both of you for being so brave. Lives will be saved by this ❤
@menacetosobrietypodcast
@menacetosobrietypodcast 2 жыл бұрын
i hope so. thankyou
@Podders1991
@Podders1991 Жыл бұрын
I have listened to 4 of these podcasts in 2 days. Never have I ever related to Someone like Daniel, I’ve tried for years to quit drinking and drugs and this is a breath of fresh air
@pinnacleangling
@pinnacleangling Жыл бұрын
Absolutely loved this. Never thought I had an addition in my late 20's but hearing what Kirk was doing and thinking about what I was doing its clear I did. Kirk was my favourite on TOWIE along with his old Man. Awesome to see him doing so well in life now. big love guys, and to those watching that are working on themselves.
@StephenLMW
@StephenLMW 11 ай бұрын
What a fantastic podcast Daniel, I’ve been a massive fan of yours since my secondary school days and I can honestly say right now not only have you become funnier now you’ve also become an all round better man, you and Kirk are proper gezzers who’ve been through the ringer and have come out clean on the other side with style, I salute you both for overcoming your demons you really are amazing people
@matthewsalter6822
@matthewsalter6822 2 жыл бұрын
A podcast like this is just so needed and so relatable
@ryanyapp6755
@ryanyapp6755 Жыл бұрын
I don't usually comment on videos but felt compelled to while watching this. I'm 29 minutes in and I have to admit that I had pre conceived ideas of both of these men that weren't particularly favourable. Ive got to say that it is very humbling to sit here and express gratitude at their openness and honesty. In AA we are taught to look for the similarities, not the differences and let me say now, I am more like these men than I am different judging by this half an hour. Huge respect to you both and you've gained a brother in arms. Wishing you both all the best in recovery and your lives.
@acerconticchio999
@acerconticchio999 Жыл бұрын
At times I pissed myself, at times I cried. Both of u should be so proud of yourselves that you are working through it, and you are now using your experience to help other people. Big love guys ❤
@menacetosobrietypodcast
@menacetosobrietypodcast Жыл бұрын
Appreciate that Scott. Thank you ❤️
@MissHannahGleave
@MissHannahGleave 6 ай бұрын
I lost my brother when he was 27( 2 years ago ) and I was 24 I can say he most likely did that thinking he was doing g people a favour? no one cares about me? having these thoughts in his head that CATEGORICALLY weren’t true. I can’t even make sense of my brother having these thoughts to this day we was caught very off guard. My brothers funeral ( I even hate saying that ) was PACKED. Over 300 people there and he took his life feeling ALONE or hopeless It breaks my heart to think. You’re not alone. People DO care. YOU NEED to open UP and F off feeling a burden. We were best friends me and my big brother he was 3 years older than me. Me and him went to eachother over EVERYTHING. HE WAS BASICALLY SOUND HAD MY BACK. The last week of my brother life (first time I ever did this)he was pissing me off for a silly reason looking back but I was giving him tough love. He was going through a little bit of a stressful time in his personal life to do with his relationship I thought he would benefit from me giving him tough love and no one had a clue he was suicidal oh my god he weren’t depressed on anti depressant or any sort he was the life of the party the one always smiling the back bone of our family good looking lad decent car had a girlfriend good job he was basically the light of the party everyone loved him. it was unbelievably shocking THE ONE TIME I DID THIS WITH THE TOUGH LOVE HE DONE THAT. I can’t get over losing my brother best friend confidant but it was left on not a great note and that was unusual for us. I’m saying this because I’ve learnt from that mistake and I hope I can help people with this and hopefully people don’t judge me because it’s very hard to cope with and get on with. Don’t leave things on a bad note because omg 😢😢 the pain. I feel guilt over that every day. It’s honestly genuinely hard to cope with. So if you haven’t seen the video with paddy the baddy it will always stick in my head what he said at the end of one of his fight he says I had to attend one of my good friends funeral this week and he took his life basically if you feel this shit pick the phone up. He went on to say WHY DIDNT HE CALL ME AND SPEAK TO ME? I would have happily took a phone call THAN ATTEND HIS FUNERAL. So yeah if I can add anything to this raw, honest, respectable conversation it is that. I ask my self questions every day. And I have NO answers. Please speak up if you feel suicidal and alone. I miss you so much Ryan as does everyone else you’ll never walk alone ❤
@lbacon9558
@lbacon9558 Жыл бұрын
Great chat thanks guys , I'm 697 days clean & sober myself, your honesty and straight talking made me laugh n cry , keep up the great work and thank you ❤️
@mattthomas3882
@mattthomas3882 Жыл бұрын
This is refreshing to have actual proper talks about it
@menacetosobrietypodcast
@menacetosobrietypodcast Жыл бұрын
Glad you found it refreshing Matt! Thank you 🙏
@mikedwyer5545
@mikedwyer5545 2 жыл бұрын
I'm sat watching this while I'm typing I'm 40 minutes in, and the only reason I wanted to watch was because I've always liked Dan and kirk as people and thought they were fucking brilliant. As I said I'm 40 minutes in and I'm in tears as I now realise that I myself have an addiction because of my childhood and the shit I've been through. Reflection is a mad thing. The experiences of both Dan and kirk are very similar to what I've been doing for years now I'm 32 and this started when I was around 19. I'm so glad I watched this because it's giving me the wake up call I've needed, new years was when I made a promise to myself that I'm going to sort my life out this year and stop taking coke every weekend, I now realise I need to stop it full stop. So Dan and Kirk thank you so much for this awakening I owe you both massively 💙
@johnseaton
@johnseaton Жыл бұрын
How are u doing mate?
@mikedwyer5545
@mikedwyer5545 Жыл бұрын
@John Seaton still going day 18 sober for me, never felt better physically, attended first #andysmanclub meeting yesterday and feel like that may be a helping hand for me. The true test will be the next time I'm out for a drink or in a situation where there's Charlie infant of me. Would like to believe I've got the willpower to say no but won't know till I'm confronted with the choice. Cheers for asking though pal 👍
@menacetosobrietypodcast
@menacetosobrietypodcast Жыл бұрын
hi mike , this comment really hit home mate, im glad it has connected with you
@user-up4ff8uu9w
@user-up4ff8uu9w 10 ай бұрын
​@mikedwyer5545 you've got this bro good luck on your journey 💪
@rockytaylor46
@rockytaylor46 Жыл бұрын
35:12 bang on right. Its 01:24 where i am right now, I'm watching this for inspiration to quit! I can relate so far, kind of gaining a little bit of hope too.
@leighcasey5861
@leighcasey5861 Жыл бұрын
This was fantastic! All us women can relate sooo much too, thank you to you both for been very open xx
@5taunch
@5taunch Жыл бұрын
Shall we get an 8th and a hotel loool
@juliewallace3018
@juliewallace3018 5 ай бұрын
Omg you two have made me cry made me laugh, you two are so inspiring, thank you xx
@bentaylor6785
@bentaylor6785 Жыл бұрын
Keep this series going dapper, it’s exactly what I need right now. Going to a CA meeting this week now💪🏻 time for change👌🏻
@timburdsey
@timburdsey Жыл бұрын
Good on you, Ben. You can do it. 👍🏻
@kelliedigby3588
@kelliedigby3588 Жыл бұрын
That 12th step is where it’s at. I have just had 13 months of sobriety but I gave it away free and willingly because my pride and ego came back. I’m sitting in a world of shame, self pity and I realise my higher power thought I needed to really admit defeat and surrender because I have no power over cocaine and all other mind altering substances. I have been back to meetings but I just cannot stop atm. I need my ego smashed finally and listening to this kind of podcast is keeping people alive in dark times. Thank you for your service ❤
@waynesilverman3048
@waynesilverman3048 Жыл бұрын
You take lsd as well ?-which is mind altering
@DeanRyan89
@DeanRyan89 2 жыл бұрын
I’m same age same manor more or less and involved in the same situation, I really needed a good ol’ couple of lemon squeezers to share this unfiltered story of the reality of addiction, it almost killed me last week ended up on Samaritans door step that’s how serious this demon can be, love to both of you for this and prayers to Kirk and his lovely Dad, we as young men have to share and keep the truth going to help others. I’m back on board and am now fighting my own, thanks!
@timburdsey
@timburdsey Жыл бұрын
Keep going, Dean. You’ve got this, mate. 👊🏻
@liamlloyd2836
@liamlloyd2836 Жыл бұрын
I’m sat listening to this now and replacing the drugs with gambling and the outcome/consequences are exactly the same. I have lost my family/kids and my life over this disgusting habit, you have really put things into perspective listening to you guys also suffering with addiction, onwards and upwards. I am now fighting and trying my hardest to get this back to normal but I think it’s gone to far this time, have really worrying thoughts going through my mind but the open conversation you have gives me that slight hope. Love it guys
@menacetosobrietypodcast
@menacetosobrietypodcast Жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing mate. And thank you for your kind words
@2WheelSam
@2WheelSam Жыл бұрын
48:35 broke my heart. Kirk you are so strong mate and well done on your journey and sharing your story.
@nathanminto4235
@nathanminto4235 Жыл бұрын
Watching this has saved me, I’m drunk tired and helpless. Thank you
@HGee420
@HGee420 Жыл бұрын
It’s refreshing to see fellow men talking about their addictions and mental health problems. Very relatable for me personally I’ve gone through a similar journey and I now volunteer to help others with their struggles, which is the most rewarding thing I’ve ever done. These podcasts are worth their weight in gold. Looking at the comments there’s a lot of men and women who can clearly relate to this. Even if one person benefits from watching this it’s priceless! Keep up the good work fellas! One Love ❤️
@Ace_Member
@Ace_Member Жыл бұрын
This podcast has made me realise that I have a massive problem and need to make a change for my daughters sake before she gets old enough to really understand today's the day I made my first step. Thank-you for this 🙏
@fortunist
@fortunist Жыл бұрын
2 years sober and this podcast was just whay i needed tonight! Much love from The Netherlands
@jopalmer1036
@jopalmer1036 11 ай бұрын
I just want to highlight how " special your work is here ". I lost my mum to suicide when I was 9 years old ( some 40 odd years ago, and if I am being honest with myself I have carried that around ever since to some extent ). Forums like this can only support our brothers and sisters going through trauma like you have spoken about. GOD bless u KIRK . And from an Essex boy living down under just look how far your message has travelled here. And what a mad road that A128 still continues to be.
@shannonbarnett6377
@shannonbarnett6377 Жыл бұрын
This is going to be unbelievably beneficial for people, Kirk is an amazing man for doing this❤
@JackP97Fif
@JackP97Fif Жыл бұрын
I can’t actually believe how relatable this was… Thoroughly enjoyed every single moment of that and every single bit hit home. Kirk’s story is so emotional and inspiring & Dapper you got me shedding a tear with that final little speech at the end! 😢😅 I’ve been going through this recently. I’m on Day 11 sober now though and positive about the future! Phenomenal podcast.
@harrybates2848
@harrybates2848 Жыл бұрын
Yes Dan quality mate. I’m 33 diagnosed with adhd last year and also a recovering coke addict. Just completed 3 months in rehab but still cross addict with other areas of my life. Been seeing a addiction psychologist and the correlation between adhd and addiction is crazy. I’ve learnt tons on it, be great to chat and share my experiences with you. Peace out.
@AdamGill-uy8lj
@AdamGill-uy8lj 11 ай бұрын
The most genuine confession ive heard from an addict! And ive watched/listened to hundreds. Kirk i can relate to everything you said,i was fixated on your story fron the moment you spoke. I don't know you or even heard of you but i want to say congratulations on your recovery and the best luck in maintaining it. Hopefully i can do the same in a few months when i go to rehab. Ive been an addict for 18 years, been trying to beat it (seriously)for about 5. Not managed it yet but im on the recovery path, i have a group today!. I have never commented on a single video in my life but felt i had to with this. Good luck with the podcast Dan, you also have my best wishes and luck with your recovery. As does anyone reading this that may be on a journey of recovery!! 🙏🤝🙏
@davidsparkle4401
@davidsparkle4401 Жыл бұрын
It's literally like hearing my past life the most honest relatable discussion on KZbin glad you boys are all good now 👍
@menacetosobrietypodcast
@menacetosobrietypodcast Жыл бұрын
Thank you David. Glad you found it relatable ❤️
@Invictus4318
@Invictus4318 Жыл бұрын
Epic podcast this was mate. Never heard of Kirk before but he seems like a great geezer. I grew up taking and abusing drugs from an early age and through all of my teens. Now a happy 27 year old father of 1 living a happy healthy life. Keep podcasts like this coming Dapper 👍🏼
@ASOA_STRENGTH
@ASOA_STRENGTH Жыл бұрын
To hear 2 "lads" talk so openly like this is amazing. More people need to hear this conversation chaps, I was doing everything you talk about (unfortunately not banging pornstars 😂), been clean now 4 years 3 months. Well done gents, keep going and keep talking - this will help so many others! 🙏
@marshallcarter5419
@marshallcarter5419 Жыл бұрын
Made me tear up this did lads, I feel exactly the same and have for a long time, been sat there thinking I’m gunna die and woke up in hospital, and I’ve just been diagnosed with adhd and learning about it too… it’s really made me feel abit different watching this and I’m going to get help. Thankyou. ❤️
@georginah9093
@georginah9093 2 жыл бұрын
So raw and real. Props to you both. I hope anyone who needs to see this, sees this and has hope. There is always light ❤️
@teamariastyle7622
@teamariastyle7622 Жыл бұрын
I agree fully with the notion of being lost. Thats why I have used drugs and alcohol because Im bored, bored with people and with life, living without a purpose. Slowly working on myself on finding my purpose. And dealing with childhood trauma that has also caused my addiction. All the best😍 love your pod!!👏🏼
@coachconorboxingfitness6831
@coachconorboxingfitness6831 Жыл бұрын
Loved listening to this, would be great to get Kirk on regularly through both of your journeys through sobriety ❤️
@menacetosobrietypodcast
@menacetosobrietypodcast Жыл бұрын
Glad you enjoyed it Con 🙏
@coachconorboxingfitness6831
@coachconorboxingfitness6831 Жыл бұрын
@@menacetosobrietypodcast actually pretty mad, I lost my Dad suddenly between my comment a couple weeks ago and your response. Looking back now your and Kirks words about losing your dads was information that I must have needed. Thanks 🥊
@danshizzle3000
@danshizzle3000 Жыл бұрын
One of the best interviews I’ve ever listened to.
@menacetosobrietypodcast
@menacetosobrietypodcast Жыл бұрын
Glad you enjoyed it Dan
@nicwelsh
@nicwelsh Жыл бұрын
I'm not an addict and rarely drink but what a powerful podcast. Credit to the both of you for coming out of the other side after what you've been through and now helping others. Hats off to Kirk, what a great mindset to have. Life is wonderful. At times extremely hard and upsetting at times but it's all worth it and we all (myself included) need to remember to appreciate it more. Great podcast both, really enjoyed it. EDIT: Also, I want to say how refreshing it is to have two "celebrities" opening up so much. Being classed as a Z list celebrity is always seen as a negative but how many A listers would be so raw and willing to open up so much? Give me you guys any day of the week.
@jaydon2021
@jaydon2021 Жыл бұрын
23years old feeling lost at this point in my life already, this podcast relates to me in every single way. I’m hoping to turn my life around, this video is giving me hope to change and recover. thankyou for the content it was very needed
@Memo420UK
@Memo420UK Жыл бұрын
Former addict, coming up two years. Kirk's story is very sad, I've never seen him before but I heard about his dad when it was in the papers. The smile on his face when he said how long hes been cleam says it all.
@jowilliams5996
@jowilliams5996 Жыл бұрын
Honestly this is one of the best podcasts I've watched I don't suffer with addiction personally but I would Honestly recommend anyone to watch this I applaud you both for being so open and honest and debunking any stereotyping about Men, addiction, emotions etc..
@menacetosobrietypodcast
@menacetosobrietypodcast Жыл бұрын
wow thank you !
@emmac7880
@emmac7880 Жыл бұрын
Amazing chat, I was diagnosed ADHD at 38 after many years of addiction and out of control craziness. 9 months sober now and its been a game changer, I know there's no going back now just forwards.
@markpugsley4612
@markpugsley4612 2 жыл бұрын
Never watched TOWIE so didn't even know this guy, but what a great lad! Well done Dapper on the podcast and the great work with the Facebook group.
@menacetosobrietypodcast
@menacetosobrietypodcast 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@jamiejoyce4411
@jamiejoyce4411 Жыл бұрын
“If you take teeth away from a lion. A lion don’t wanna hunt no more”. Hit hard man. Never watched something so inspiring well done lads keep it going your fathers will be proud
@sarahempson4769
@sarahempson4769 2 жыл бұрын
What a powerful podcast! RIP Mick ❤
@menacetosobrietypodcast
@menacetosobrietypodcast 2 жыл бұрын
❣ 🙌
@waynesilverman3048
@waynesilverman3048 Жыл бұрын
You can tell they are not comfortable but nice and open ,love the name Menace2 soberiety
@thequietone2962
@thequietone2962 Жыл бұрын
Real, honest & raw. Hats off to you two gents for opening up and showing your vulnerable side which really shows how strong you pair are. This interview alone will save a lot of lives. Respect.
@MattB27589
@MattB27589 Жыл бұрын
These are the best type of podcasts to do. People talking about their experience & how the have come out the other side. Credit to Kirk for 1.5 years sober. Keep it up son it’s a much better way of life 🙌🏽🙌🏽
@edspink6054
@edspink6054 Жыл бұрын
iv stumbled on this ,, i’m now homeless and been clean 2 weeks. this podcast i’m going you watch everyday to help me. i also have ADHD so this podcast is going to be my motivation ❤
@jasonreeves4955
@jasonreeves4955 Жыл бұрын
Love seeing guys early in recovery. Proper eager to talk and it’s a good platform to make people aware there is help out there and pointing out everyone has problems .
@menacetosobrietypodcast
@menacetosobrietypodcast Жыл бұрын
Sharing is really important
@jasonreeves4955
@jasonreeves4955 Жыл бұрын
@@menacetosobrietypodcast sharing and sharing the right stuff is important. I have learnt in recovery there is things to share at group level and things to share with loved ones. Not far of 5 years myself. One day at a time 👍🏼
@Zoe-yc3hp
@Zoe-yc3hp 2 жыл бұрын
Honestly ADHD has a huge thing to answer for when it comes to drugs in males ( from my experience) nearly everyone I’ve spoken to who’s partner/brother/cousin who has ADHD has some kind of addiction problem whether it’s drugs/alcohol/gambling etc my partner has ADHD has a bad addiction to smoke. It’s something todo with the brain not realising enough is enough. And before too long it’s an addiction. With ADHD it’s all or nothing. And sadly that includes the bad things. I’m so glad to see this podcast! Thank you guys! ❤
@menacetosobrietypodcast
@menacetosobrietypodcast Жыл бұрын
I am realising this more and more
@lwood898
@lwood898 Жыл бұрын
Thankyou - this was profound. I’m grateful. I’m a 38 year old woman with an alcoholic mother. It’s horrendous. I feel your pain. 😞
@remm5215
@remm5215 Жыл бұрын
this is going to help so many people, what a brave man ❤
@menacetosobrietypodcast
@menacetosobrietypodcast Жыл бұрын
Absolutely Rem!
@DrizzDevelopments
@DrizzDevelopments Жыл бұрын
Always liked Kirk and Mick on TOWIE and he’s been through the ringer and glad he’s out the other side. An inspiration and some wise words. Thank you!
@chrisgrove4265
@chrisgrove4265 Жыл бұрын
Great show guys 3 years sober here from drink and coke , had a couple of blips along the way but now feeling stronger and more determined than ever . I was convinced that the only way I would ever stop doing coke was a heart attack and die , I just couldn’t stop however hard I tried . When my problem finally came to light ( I had known for a couple of years I had a serious problem but friend and family never knew how bad ) the best thing I could ever do was honest and open conversations like this , it helps so much , just talking about it and remembering all the selfish things I used to do makes each day easier , we are all capable of beating these diseases 💪👊
@jemmao5368
@jemmao5368 Жыл бұрын
So raw , and relatable I’m 44 days sober 🙌🏼 brilliant podcast!
@dannyellam5985
@dannyellam5985 Жыл бұрын
Listened to this today in work literally loved EVERY second off it I went through a stage in my life where I was like Kirk I didn’t wanna be around anymore but now I’m healthy got myself a decent job decent home and I’m a dad and I wouldn’t change anything
@AKM0RTY7
@AKM0RTY7 Жыл бұрын
Incredible podcast, hats off to the both of you lads. You kept in real from start to finish, as funny as it was in parts it was ultimately incredibly moving and no doubt it will help thousands of young men including myself. Keep it up mate, you're smashing it!
@menacetosobrietypodcast
@menacetosobrietypodcast Жыл бұрын
that means alot x
@mdogg9135
@mdogg9135 Жыл бұрын
I've watched 3x of your podcasts now... These are by far the best content on YT, I relate to sooo much of the stuff spoken about... I've had my friends suicide in September, I'm an ex coke addict before emigrating to New Zealand. Now I'm planning to go sober from drink, partly due to these podcasts, just for the experience, and I feel like my drinking habits becoming worse... Thanks
@menacetosobrietypodcast
@menacetosobrietypodcast Жыл бұрын
Thank you mate
@mdogg9135
@mdogg9135 Жыл бұрын
@Menace to Sobriety No, thank you! Can't wait for the next one!
@jamesbruen3913
@jamesbruen3913 Жыл бұрын
Alot of this rings massively true. I have ADHD and would sesh to escape my own head. 1 year 2 days sober and best decision I've ever made. Cheers for the podcast
@reglentless1
@reglentless1 Жыл бұрын
I'm doing the same, but not out of it yet. Any advice mate?
@badboybullterriers4104
@badboybullterriers4104 Жыл бұрын
@@reglentless1 Yes do 90 in 90 find a sponsor start step work, and can counsel you free.
@conniethomas4753
@conniethomas4753 Ай бұрын
Super proud of these lads and their knowledge sharing took guts.
@MrAjh86
@MrAjh86 Жыл бұрын
Watching you two lads is like looking into a mirror. I was diagnosed with ADHD at 7, and struggled through numerous addictions over the years and many stories exactly the same as both of you. Especially the 5 days on 2 days off ratio of the sesh. So glad to be on the other side now. Good luck to you both on the continued sobriety 🥳
@chrischart
@chrischart Жыл бұрын
Real talk fellas. Props to Kirk for being so open considering what he's been through. This format of having a proper chat but with a few laughs is spot on.
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