COMING OUT - Advice & Tips | MtF transition

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[@julialavoie5195]

Can’t wait. I’m in that process, coming out slowly to people 1x1. You’re the first youtuber I watched when I was questioning. Thank you so much ♥️ You saved my life!

[@paulrodrigues5509]

Me too ❤

SENDING SO MUCH LOVE

[@paulrodrigues5509]

Great advice! We often forget one among the list, I would not fail to accept myself! Thanks for everything! ❤

[@bungiesnowflake]

The fact that you have to justify your existence when coming out makes me sad. Straight guy from Canada, live and let live. Be and let be. Ain't no way someone who's comfortable in their skin can tell someone else how they should feel, think or see themselves. Stay strong, keep the faith, all the best in 2021 . Love your channel !!!!!!!!!

[@petrasoderberg1143]

I came out to closest family and friends about 3 years ago, at the same time I applied to our medical system. I had to wait over 2 years in the waiting list before I got into the investigating phase of my gender dysphoria. Now 1 month after I got my transsexual diagnosis, I came out on social medias, that I'm a transgender woman. I've also lived over 6 months 100% as a woman 💞 looking forward now to HRT and all other treatments. You Matilda has inspired me so much, you are my Idol 💖

[@sofiaormbustad7467]

This came two days too late for me, lol. Basically I needed help from my sister and had to tell her, and after that she literary forced me to come out, either you tell them or I will for you (which well, is just so wrong in so many ways). It went good though and it feels fantastic, like I literaly felt like I went down 30 kilos in seconds, like the weight on my shoulders just disappeared. And everybody I have come out to has taken it good, some has been super like, my sister has really been a big sister for me the last days and been around me like a guarding angel these last days and has learnt me some girly stuffs. I have just been extremely lucky, but yeah, this ''girl'' is super tired and exhausted from all this, but will watch this after I have walked my dog. Sorry for the text wall. I love your channel, not only for the trans content, though that was why I started to watch it in the beginning, but also just your cute, swedish extrovertic atmosphere as well. (Also, sorry for bad english, I am native norwegian).

[@danyelPitmon]

I am so glad you have a protector in your older sister and that it all went so well congratulations now if she can help you with hairstyles and make up and helping you find your style and clothing

[@bob.ross330]

Jeg er amerikansk, og engelsken din er perfekt

[@Millehansen11]

so to follow your steps im a MTF transgender I live as a man for now but I can't wait to start transitioning to a woman. I have already come out to my best friend I have had been batteling with my sexuality since I was 13 I started to go in women underwear in secret at that age but I have been really scared to say it to anyone until now thanks to creators like you that have given me enough confidence in my self. now im 27 and are about to come out to my family

[@Ixarus6713]

Mtf here, I have made a whole f*cking slideshow. It's beautiful, and also so ugly, so basically perfect. Going to show it to my parents this weekend. Then tell my friends. (I don't want it getting out before I can tell them so I'll hold it till then just in case, though I trust my friends immensely, just need to wait to make sure I actually mean this.) This is one of the hardest things I've done. Wow. Congrats to everyone who's done this before or is doing this, you are so strong!

[@zoom2376]

How did it go ?

[@porsha1678]

Some great tips! Very useful information👍

[@ms.bunniesarecute2287]

Things are going crazy here in the states, but you look beautiful girl!

[@zophia596]

Thank you for that video, i already came out to my therapist but i feel like i have a long way to come before i will tell most important people in my life about me being trans. You are gorgeous btw and thanks again for giving me confidence, much love

[@tremereowen]

Most of what you say "resonates" with me and actually explains the unconcious reasons why I never transitioned, mostly financial indepence and social pressure. I hear you and it is like "go get it!", or sometimes I'd just rather cry. I still think I can't transition, I tried and even came out to some people. Most were welcoming, but ultimately I feel I should have kept it to myself, though it was so relieving at the moment, but if I was unsure about wether or not I would transition, it was not the best idea to be open about my gender related issues. Hope that helps too. You cast a ray of light for others. Please keep on doing what you do.

[@plundermonkey9559]

This advice has been really helpful. I've already come out to a couple of close friends but I'm really struggling to tell my mum even though I'm sure she'll be fine with it. Thank you for posting this.

[@yashshinde5078]

thanks a lot for advise it help me to come out now I am at first step hope so every thing will be fine

[@absolutelyminty7452]

I made the mistake of coming out to someone I couldn't trust and shouldn't have they'd been my friend since we were six basically inseparable and all they did was make me feel disgusting and ugly in my own self luckily this year I've managed to stand in my own two legs and restart coming out to people with only one or two being off with me but the vast majority being in my corner and supporting me and I couldn't be more thankful I honestly wish I found this video sooner I wish anyone that comes across this the best of luck and to remember your always loved 💚🫶

[@leisasreallyreal8815]

You Nailed it Mathilda, another good video. You gave important information and moved on, also the information you shared about Skillshare was helpful as well, thank you . Please keep up the good job Sis.

[@teentitans333]

I’ve been in closet for years mostly cause of culture of church me and family is in made me nervous and scared to come out . but finally feel confident enough to finally come out and these tips helped thanks

[@priusskipper]

Genuine and sound advice Mathilda. Thank you.

[@creativoscarousel6473]

My maternal family is not too accepting. Some cousins are open and non-judgmental. However, too many blood relatives -- aunts and uncles -- exhibit anti-trans and gay attitudes. They believe trans folks are playing dress-up; and that God will deliver gay people from their same-sex desires. I came out as bisexual about two years ago on social media (e.g., Facebook). My mother didn't ask for my permission; she outed me to our family. Yet, my relatives ignore my sexual fluidity, treating me cis heteronormatively. They used to probe about my girlfriend; that made me feel self-conscious and pressured to answer. They've spoken negatively about LGBTQ+ people in my presence; this occurred last year around this time. It's disrespectful to slander the rest of the LGBTQ community around one of its members. I affirmed myself as non-binary fewer than five months ago; I peeled back some layers. I discovered that I've existed on the trans spectrum for most of my life. My loved ones indoctrinated me to believe I couldn't be myself. I used to apologize for my uniqueness. Some people won't accept me, but I'm learning how. I now embrace myself as a woman. I prefer she/they pronouns. I prefer men. My desire is empowering. I'm proud of it. I am not narrow in my current preference; anything is possible. While I am attracted to different genders than my own, usually, I'm open to exploring. I'd love bonding with other people on the non-binary spectrum. Sometimes, I find women attractive. I am fluid and flexible, and beautiful. I am coming into myself. Being is not a choice; it is a beauty. I don't feel comfortable speaking to those relatives about my newfound identity and trans joy. I am emotionally growing. My mindset concerns progressing into my completeness. I deserve better, and life is not always easy. I'm aware of my triggers and motivations. I am worthy of love and acceptance. I don't need to argue with anyone about who I am. I am a beautiful, talented, and intelligent woman. Thank you!!

[@DarDarBinks1986]

Last time I was this early, the Minoan civilization still existed.

[@ileana2901]

how early am I?? Love you, Mathilda!

[@slowwound2656]

I just came out to my wife, kids, and my step-dad as transgender a few weeks ago. I've slowly told a few close friends. So far they're all very supportive. I am fortunate to have another family member that is also transgender. Also thank you for the videos they have really helped me and my wife out alot.

[@geojonny]

Thank you, Mathilda! Thank you so much!

[@ASTRA1564]

I'd be genuinely scared to come out in America right now. But great content as usual.

[@NickyTannock]

Thank you for the advice and tips! I'll certainly use them in the future when I come out to new people! I came out as nonbinary to my dad in August of last year, and he accepted me, but it was still a scary moment for me.

[@KrazySnakpod]

"Tell the person that you trust the most and will love you unconditionally" i have a problem

[@ianleaks1613]

Hi Matilda, great video..helpful advice and your gorgeous as always girl

[@kupillas-1638]

Hello! Loved it!

[@jasminegailey7510]

Wonderful advice and they are very helpful.

[@tiastus]

im i the only weird person that somethings save this videos up till you have some and then just have a marathon og goodness? have like 5 mathilda vids and two samantha lux save up just to have this hyggelig/trevlig day :)

[@HazyJester]

Slowly building my support group. Truly blessed I have a friend who is also mtf trans.

[@davgyyou1554]

Thanks mathilda! 💖✨ im am really scared to coming out to my family but just some of my friends already know, so i guess im doing right by telling them first xD hahah, i hope everything goes well, thanks a lot Mathilda, your videos are my world, they inspire me a lot💖✨

[@silibrasili3571]

thank you for your tipps

[@christianberglund7100]

Amazing as always ❤️👍🏻

[@rianmuldrow8524]

You make me feel good about me

[@karleecrowe7490]

Another great video, obviously✨🧚‍♀️✨

[@DirtbagLexi]

This is really helpful advice, it was one thing to come out as bi but due to relationships in my life I'm waiting to be sure that I'll be financially stable if I come out as trans and it doesn't go well. Fingers crossed that it goes well but it's still nerve wracking to think about. Hopefully it all goes well when I get the chance, maybe late 2023 or 2024.

[@idrankallthepaint9688]

Thanks your da best

[@surajhembram1172]

Thank u for ur advice

[@josemauriciorodriguezmarti3907]

I like on the video to the advice and tips for experience, you're so wonderful🥰💖💞👏✨

[@oliviagraceeason8850]

Lil late but I'm here💯❤️

[@beautifulagony2425]

damn, really smart advice! I was lucky, 'cause my friend told me: 'hey I gotta tell you something - I'm bisexual" and then I was like: "omg u won't believe it! me too" But even though u are mot that lucky, tell the closest person to you and remeber ur valid!

[@melodicempire698]

I haven't known im transgender long have a partner and kid I've told everyone your videos carm me down when I'm struggling don't stop making them

[@elainacollins3333]

Hey girl! Super quick in the word "Adobe" you're actually supposed to pronounce the "e" at the end 🤍 it sounds like "Ado-bee" 🥰 it's a Native American word that's a type of home building material like a super super hard clay :)

[@patrickchambers5999]

Adobe is made of straw and mud, much like what was mentioned in the Bible of the mud brick Egyptian slaves made. Funny that the software company adopted that name.

[@snagz7131]

You are so effing beautiful girl! So glad you came out baby...muah

[@xoll1571]

THANK. YOU. Edit: I’m out but I wanna ask if I can start wearing more feminine things (e.g. makeup)

[@SRBang0409]

I really love your top..you look beautiful today! 🖤

[@properunaa3924]

I think that I am a trans woman. The thing is that... the only hospital that can "diagnose you" (yes in my country you have to be diagnosed as trans before getting HRT) is over 200 miles away. I still havent come out to my mom.. and I dont know how to.

[@atomic9551]

Huh this sounds kinda easy I already feel bad very often so surely I can take this just as I can take it when I feel bad

[@rudymelo880]

It can be easier to come out in small ways at first. Maybe say that you like to do something feminine/masculine and then admit to more things as time goes on

[@Codyb4me]

I literally told my friends and their keep thinking its a joke.

[@titok49]

o wear a muslim Anaya hijab I don't have to worry about it I've been taking hormones for 12 years and I take patches after you recommended them...but its fun...I love your scooped neck blouse!!!

[@Girlsforever1982]

Hello Mathilda Obviously 🤗

[@clivematthews95]

♥️

[@danyelPitmon]

Please follow her advice I made the biggest mistake of all with my coming out I went and posted on Facebook first and my sister I had on there and we got into a big argument and fight and she did not and still today does not except or believe that I was transgender it caused nothing but problems and she disowned me

[@RemyDaRat-u4e]

Haiii i tagged you in tik tok!!!!

[@surajhembram1172]

You are totally right ,, only trans can understand a trans feeling more

[@emmanuelsoria3840]

I'm going to get srs surgery but i want to do it

[@love-ib5ir]

My farther don’t like lgbtq+. he always give hate speech when eating dinner at home. I’m transgender. But I absolutely can’t coming out.

[@JustKelsey]

the only people i know i cant come out to, my entire family. they're anti lgbt so, im getting hormones in secrecy. ill only be able to "come out" when i get my own place/leave the country. rough.

[@abysscrawlerz8648]

me who has literally not even a single friend, do not trusts anyone and lives in Russia:guess i'll die good vid by the way

[@natalieclark6027]

Are you psychic or something? I literally just came out to my family a couple days ago. I pretty much had done everything you mentioned. Thinking about coming out on fb.

[@dhirendrasamdhan7299]

hiya swty,ima bisexual top male wu i maried 2 n beautiful lady wu dnt knw i bisexual n i dnt eva wana tell her im bisexual coz she wil nt react well to dat,n we maried 4 10 yrs,n i say if it nt broke dnt fix it,much luv

[@emmanuelsoria3840]

Everyone else should know i have to become a woman get everyone's support on me and us

[@skylarbrooks5607]

My dad tried to kill me when I told him so I left

[@ronettemalone]

I am SO sorry to hear this. Hugs to you.

[@user-ut4tk4ph5z]

Sammeeeeee o7

[@charlesc252]

Just so beautiful woman

[@brainsaysgirl1952]

This is a good video, but one thing: Adobe is pronounced like "a dough bee".

[@newageopinions870]

I don't care either way what people want to be or feel they are. I have a question for you tho. Would you be okay with the entire world population if everyone was going or transgender. Again, please don't take offense to the question, I am just curious.

[@aliceelsadlf]

Is it hard to tell family as a transgender women?

[@aliceelsadlf]

How should i come out to my dad that im trasgender women

[@rokleroy8798]

Please please please please please please watch part two of my mom woke up from a coma do you know part two of my mom woke up from a coma is released now so please please Matilda obviously just watch it what do you know Matilda what’s

[@emmanuelsoria3840]

I want to become a woman

[@ronaldbobeck1026]

It is a damn shame that I am older then dirt . I would show you how a gentleman is suppose to treat a lady.

[@ellenroehl6022]

Amino

[@LunaticReason]

So introduction I identify as a Cis Male and believe in only two biological/genetic sexes (m/f) and that will always remain even after transitioning but feel that gender identity can be fluidly expressed or not at all. Anyways I have been struggling with my sexual orientation/identity. For the most part I present as a heterosexual but in reality I am gynosexual (Attraction to feminine expression regardless of sex assigned at birth). Being attracted to trans women. by some definition that would mean that I am gay and by my own belief that a trans woman is still biologically male. However I do not feel gay or identify as such. I recognize trans women based on their gender expression not their sex. I am not attracted to "men" per say. Gynosexuality feels so adjacent to Heterosexuality that I am questioning should I even bother coming out and yet I feel like I am hiding the full truth about myself. There is also the issue of identity politics within the lgbtq community due to Marxist influences. Because people think I am 100 straight that I am somewhat scorned for it. As the Straight cis male oppressor. secondly does my sexuality even matter in the grander scheme or is it just all "pride".

[@ladwigs]

Are you into Gaming much ?

[@elviskameron807]

I need boyfriend 💋💋💋💋💋💞💞💞💞