Coming out tips

[@johngarity4846]

"Being gay is the best thing that has happened to me." Thank you for saying that, Andrew! You continually remind me how lucky we are! And it's so cool of you to step up and offer this GREAT advice!!!

[@Nick-kf3io]

“Being gay is one of the best things that ever happened to me”, I would agree with that if I looked like you dude 😂😉

[@josethevegan8923]

Oh... I wonder why you say that. I bet there are plenty of gays ot gals that would date you.

[@Nick-kf3io]

JoseTheVegan Sis anytime I so much as say hi to the boys their response is typically to call the police 😂

[@danieldavis3035]

Honestly, I don't think this dude is gay. He's too masculine. tbh

[@benalemanstacey5658]

Thank you Andrew for your content to the queer scene. It definitely assisted me and am sure others too! Always keep your chin up mate too your a bloody legend in my books!

[@poop10692]

@@danieldavis3035 ? he’s had multiple boyfriends????

[@MrTentpegs]

I came out April of 2020. I'm 53. I'm going to my first gay bar later this month on my 54th birthday. If I can offer one small piece of advice, it would be don't wait like I did. Once you're in a safe and comfortable space just live your truth. Being ashamed of yourself (raised catholic. Yay religion. 🙄) your entire life can burden you with YEARS of regret. I lost so much time...

[@CharlesEvans1969]

Amén Kevin

[@x1pa]

I had a similar journey but managed to come out in early 40s. Religion can be corrosive. I understand the regret. My advice would be don't look back, but focus energy on "now" and enjoy living it. You've had, no doubt, many wins and accomplishments in the past. Just keep those -- and build on them as you move forward with being yourself.

[@joeberta368]

Blessings Kevin - the Lord loves WITHOUT CONDITION.

[@PipesPlayer1980]

Kevin, Being Catholic has nothing to do with coming out or not! I'm a devout Catholic, and I came out at 18. Don't blame religion for your fear of coming out!

[@MrTentpegs]

@@joeberta368 I appreciate the sentiment. May science grant you clear vision and a wonderful future.

[@akbizzle1]

I'm in my early to mid-30s and still closeted due to my current living situation. I don't feel confident enough in the people around me, who have expressed not so supportive views on homosexuality, that they will treat me the same way they do now. So I'm worried that if my living situation doesn't change, that I'll just stay in the closet for good. So yeah, coming out is sometimes difficult, to say the least.

[@luisnunes148]

I agree that, depending on what is at stake if coming out, sometimes the most reasonable choice is to not come out at all. Or, in my case, only to the few people you know will support u, u know u can trust such information and who you don't depend on for survival. That's the key word. I am a 22 yo college gay boy still in the closet, unemployed and dependent on my conservative religious parents, so I get u. I plan on maybe coming out once I live far away from them and have a job of my own that can sustain myself with enough stability. Maybe 2 years from now? Maybe 4, or 5? Who knows. In any case, u seem like a brave and cute guy, and I wish u the best, keep holding on!

[@marcblur9055]

It's completely okay to not come out yet if you feel the core group of people you need in your life are not going to be supportive. But that said, it might be helpful to really examine how much you need them in your life and whether or not coming out is going to drastically change how they view you. Some people talk a lot of sh*t because they don't know any gay people and base their comments on what their version of news feeds them. They change their tune when someone they like comes out. It may take time, but they do. Find the people who are going to be okay with you for who you are. I'm 50. When I started coming out, a few dropped me; I dropped others. In the long run, you don't gain anything by having to conform to other people's ideas and expectations of you. You be you. Take your time, but do what's best for you.

[@hunterkennedy4475]

How’s it going ?

[@akbizzle1]

@@luisnunes148 I really appreciate those words of encouragement. You're absolutely right about starting with friends and family that I trust the most. I feel like they would be very supportive and understanding of my situation, plus it would just feel good to tell people, you know!?! There's one BIG difference though, between you and I, that's stopping me, and I didn't explain it in my first comment. But anyway, the difference is that I am disabled. I am paralyzed from the neck down. Therefore, I depend on 24-hour care from certified nursing aides. Where I live, I really get along with everyone that cares for me, and when you are dependent on others, having that kind of close relationship, to me, is way more important than coming out. If I did finally come out to all of them, I already know that a lot of those close relationships would immediately change just because of the way a lot of these girls think of homosexuality. I mean, and I'm not even getting any REAL physical action. I'm just stuck in a predicament at the moment. But if I were you though, being 22 years old, having no disability or anything else, I would DEFINITELY have done things differently and come out as soon, and as young as possible. Because those are years that you won't get back. And trust me, when you are about to turn 36, like me, and you're still stuck in that damn closet, well, you're really gonna regret it. So my advice to you, if you're willing to take it, is to throw yourself out of the damn closet as fast as possible, and start enjoying your full life while you've got it. But anyway, thanks again for your reply and your kind words. Be safe out there in this crazy world

[@akbizzle1]

@@hunterkennedy4475 Sorry I didn't reply any sooner. I actually just got out of the hospital a couple days ago. I had spent the last 12 days or so in the ICU, recovering from about 3 different ailments that had hit me all at the same time. But anyway, I'm back where I live and feeling better as each day goes by. Like Luis, you too Marc gave me some pretty darn good advice, you know, some things to really think about. Like I told Luis though, the people I'm most worried about reacting negatively to me coming out, are people that I depend on around-the-clock, to provide top-notch care for me, considering my particular disability. So yeah, things are just a bit more delicate for me, that's all. I think I am finally going to take y'all's advice though and tell some of my close friends and family. Y'all take it easy, and thanks again Marc.

[@tayzonday]

Thank you for sharing 🙏🏽💪🏾👏🏽 ❤️

[@chadblakely6940]

Wooooah KZbin OG just commented on Andrews Video! Lol awesome!

[@allenn.1039]

@@chadblakely6940 Where did you see that KZbin responded to this video????!

[@chadblakely6940]

@@allenn.1039 Lol no not KZbin itself. I was talking about the guy that left the comment 😛 TayZonday. He's been on KZbin for ages 😂

[@allenn.1039]

@@chadblakely6940 Thanks Chad for clarifying that for me. I now understand what you were saying! 🤣

[@mikee4462]

Two days ago i came out to my grandma i almost fainted but i told myself be brave and whatever happens you'll be okay so, i did it and it actually went better than I thought. she said she respected me and that she wasn't gonna judge me.

[@jenniferlawrence9473]

The only thing my mom said was to read my bible. That god made Adam and Eve. That didn't go over well, lol.

[@mikee4462]

@@jenniferlawrence9473 lmao

[@JustMe-mp6vu]

Congratulations!! 🎊🎉👏💯

[@mikee4462]

@@JustMe-mp6vu thank you very much ❤️

[@RespectedGamer72]

I can't tell you how often I'm in public and see someone I think is attractive and go "I wish I knew if they were gay"

[@josethevegan8923]

Why don't you say something friendly n smile... introduce yourself! Compliment the shies or shirt... even a smile ir confidence they carry. JoseTheVegan on KZbin

[@IRGhost0]

@@Mohamed32el yeah but…. I didn’t know who william seed is and i’m gay… actually i recognize the face, i just didn’t know that’s his name.. he seems to be everywhere. I’m thinking i might just get a clip of the grindr notification sound and ask a potential gay guy if they know the sound.

[@Slade_banana]

Trust me go on local grinder if there on it they gay

[@chetanvinayak6799]

@@IRGhost0 hi my name is Chetan I am gay too hope you’re doing well

[@dragonclawz88]

I came across your videos last year, and they helped me accept who I was... Seeing someone who was so comfortable with themselves. I came out to my close family and friends soon after. Thank you for your stories and advice.

[@gary.joseph]

You know what makes you amazing, different and awesome? You have a clear, genuine, interest in sharing your life experiences and knowledge to help others. I really appreciate the inspirational content you choose to discuss while conveying it with kindness, love and support. Just keep being yourself and we'll keep loving you! :)

[@liamdufond9848]

Andrew speaks like a Doctor.

[@teammmx]

Mannn your office looks beautiful. I love that brick wall and the floors. So happy to see the progress! And as always, these types of videos change people’s lives. Thank you 💜

[@BobbyMilkTea]

Im closeted bi, living in a homophobic and religious house hold, in a country tht could sentence u 20yrs of time in jail for homosexuality. It does feel a bit lonely, but i managed to find friends to open myself a little bit, and find some people to look up to. Thanks Andrew!!!✨

[@neardeathjoy5536]

You are loved!

[@pppmanly]

Glad to hear you found some friends in which you can confide. 💙 I know it is not easy living in a religious / homophobic household and country.

[@patrickturner136]

Patience is key here, my friend. As Andrew said you have us who are online and you will find friends who love and support you. It may take time, but you can fill your life with those people. Take care of yourself and be careful. All my love 💗

[@Kamo766]

We love 💕 you 💜

[@RidgewayInMedia]

Andrew reminds you that safety is number one on on this journey. I hope that you've not posted under your real name 🤞

[@ThanhMaiOFFICIAL]

One day coming out wouldn’t be such a thing anymore and people can just be who they are without these labels 🙌💯🌈

[@rickm5271]

You are amazing Andrew! Your advice is sage and thoughtful. Thank you for this!

[@rem05033]

Great discussion, Andrew. I came out in 1980 to my parents first. We didn't have social media at the time. It was a face to face conversation. I first researched, to the extent that literature was available, at the public library. I found two books that were pro-Gay. I then called my high-school teacher, who I thought was Gay, but never asked. He was forthcoming and invited me to meet him and his partner for a conversation about being Gay. I guess I was very fortunate. Things seemed to line up the right way. My entire extended family accepted me for me. The coming out experience for me was as good as one could expect for the 80s. The only barrier was corporate America. I was firmly on the closet there. Things loosened up mid 90s. What interests me now is that the struggle is still real. Please keep up your good work. You are contributing more than you know. Thank you!

[@philspence3073]

I came out when I was 17 years old, but knew when I was around 10 . I didn't tell anyone for the longest time and then, when I was in year 13 (final year of highschool) I was approached by my mother who asked whether or not I was gay. I told her yes and then slowl built up the courage to talk to my father who accepted me.

[@DanH-VKern]

I was married have 2 kids. Divorced happened and did some real soul searching. I came out last year at 39.. I grew up in a religious family at the time while younger so was harder back in 90s. I am struggling but not rushing for a experience has helped me so far.. love your Videos much love

[@waters1427]

SAME HERE.... BUT I DID NOT GET A DIVORCE. I JUST TOLD HER AND IT WAS THE HARDEST THING IN MY ENTIRE LIFE, I EVER DID. MY CHOICE WAS TO LIE AND CHEAT OR BE HONEST WITH HER ,MY KIDS AND MYSELF, I CHOSE THE LATTER OF THE TWO. I COULDN'T LIE TO A GIRL THAT AND STILL IS MY BEST FRIEND SINCE WE WERE 14. BEING HONEST CAN BE VERY DIFFICULT, But in the long run, you will find out who are your true friends. Sorry about the caps!! Lol John

[@waters1427]

P.S we never got a divorce, but live separately and talk almost every day or we meet up for dinner. Best friend, still talk to her about issues.

[@DanH-VKern]

@@waters1427 that’s amazing! Happy for you

[@josephmillraney1061]

Andrew, I just love how you are so positive. You really make my day. Thanks! Looking forward to house update as well!

[@aisadal2521]

Aw sweet, talk about a great way to start off my Sunday morning ☺️

[@aswinter81]

Another tip: expect to re-find yourself after coming out. So, I became a bible-thumping Christian as all born-again Christians do I'm the beginning; this was in late high school and early college and I feel so bad about how strong I came across because I was newfound in Faith. So, years later when I came out as Gay, there's a very similar moment. You are finally free to BE Gay and you start looking at the culture and expressing yourself. At first, we can go toward the stereotypes and be "a lot" haha. Gay culture can be a lot, and expectations, pressures, and some stereotypes can be overwhelming. Expect it. Embrace it. And continually learn from it to be just who you really are NOW, who you are not, and work to be the Person you WANT to be. The scene on Love, Simon where he dreams of going to college ...kinda like that, haha 😂 Be the Gay you want to be 💖

[@tallactordude]

My conservative religious upbringing made it very difficult for me to accept my sexuality, and it took me many years to be able to come out to anyone (it didn’t help that society in general was quite negative toward anything but heterosexuality through the first 30 to 40 years of my life). I think your advice here is very sound, and I can add that it’s never too late to come out, and you certainly don’t have to do it all at once.

[@edgarnoboa132]

I love your content! I am from Ecuador, a really conservative country, and sadly the community here is really suppressed. Luckily, I also believe it gets easier with time, and although I have struggled a lot, it’s definitely worth it. Once again, thanks for sharing!!!!!

[@alexmattsson2090]

Andrew, thank you for being you and giving advice. I actually came out today and you have been a big influence and help!!! Keep on keeping on!!!

[@LenHealsU]

Excellently stated Andrew! I'm 73 and I've been coming out little by little to people since I was in my teens. Of course back then it was much more dangerous to do so, for a variety of reasons. In fact I've come out to more people in the past month than I have in the past several decades, in part due to your fantastic videos and others. My problem today is looking for a long term relationship. I look much younger than I am, probably because I'm very active (I still do hiking, mountain biking, swimming, camping and the outdoors, etc., as well as eating a mostly vegan very healthy diet with lots of anti-oxidants). If I post recent pics on the Match site, for example, viewers would probably think that my pics are not recent, when they really are. I even offer to video chat real time, but nobody accepts. They just look at the number 73 and move on.

[@IRGhost0]

Yeah, that’s just an unfortunate reality. Gay people these days are lucky (I’m in early 30s). It’s not hard for me to find a guy to be with, but I can understand and totally sympathize with someone older who would have a harder time, since the older guys are likely already all taken, and younger gays often don’t want to date older guys (myself included, I like guys my own age or maybe a bit younger). I’m so thankful I’m gay now where we have all these dating apps and social media to connect us, because I can not imagine how hard things were in previous generations. I’m glad you’ve been able to come out and live authentically, and I wish you success in finding someone.

[@LenHealsU]

@@IRGhost0 Thank you so much Mike for your good wishes!

[@LenHealsU]

@@IRGhost0 Thank you (again) Mike! Deeply appreciated! I may finally have found someone. We shall see.

[@IRGhost0]

@@LenHealsU that’s awesome!! Congratulations! Hoping for the best for you guys.

[@LenHealsU]

@@IRGhost0 Thank you Mike! And likewise for you too, either in looking for a loving relationship, or cementing and accentuating one that you may already have. :)

[@charlespillsbury5306]

I love everything you said about coming out. I am 75 and only 10 years ago I came out. Spent most of my life so so afraid what people would think about me, treat me if I came out. Became a Alcoholic because of so much stress and unhappiness . I am in AA and have 19 years. Came out to AA people and it felt great and excepted. Wish I was year age and could start over but happy to witness thanks to guys like you big LGBTQ gains.

[@JavierMartinez-fn6ol]

Seriously thanks Andrew. The first person I came out to was my cousin when I was 16. It’s taken me 9 years to finally tell someone else. That was my brother and his wife. They at first reacted positively. Until ignorance kicked in and they asked me questions that kind of hurt and my brother had mentioned something to his wife about me. He was worried that I shouldn’t sleep in the same bed as my little brother. Which especially hurt cause before it was fine. But now he knows I’m gay and that somehow also means I am a pervert. Idk it hurt and I know he just needs time to process but if my brothers first thoughts are those what would my parents say or sister ? I hope to come out to everyone that matters to me soon. This year soon. So thanks for this video! It’s coming at a great time. P.S. it’s also felt like I’ve had a friend through these years of me in closet. So thanks for all the videos and for just being you.

[@michaelwimmerabear9996]

One of the best advice videos I’ve seen and thanks for sharing. Especially the one about give people time to accept it. It’s often something we’ve struggled to accept in ourselves and we need to give others the same opportunity to get their head around our news. Late bloomer myself, only started dating 4 years ago when I was 39. Still not out, however did come out to my cousin over a year ago and she is an awesome support to me.

[@jjccgym]

Andrew! You’re doing a great job with that house. When I came out, I just wanted there were no secrets with me and my family. I’m not going to deny I was so scared to tell my dad, cause he was always the type of man that you don’t want to mess up with (cause of the tone of his voice when speaking). To my surprise, he was the one that made me feel the best. It’s been 18 years and I still can’t believe my dad was that cool and I missed all that as I was growing up. Now I can tell him “I Love You” with no fear and it feels fa#*”ing great. As I always say: when there’s love anything is posible.

[@marcblur9055]

If you're coming out in high school or college, and want to tell a friend, ask yourself if that friend is a gossip. One of the early people I came out to, because I just couldn't keep it to myself anymore, ended up telling way more people than I wanted to know at the time, just because she really couldn't function without having something juicy to say about others in an attempt to make herself interesting. There really wasn't much going on for her except for her ability to dish. Choose someone to tell that will keep your business your business.

[@twiggledowntown3564]

Great advice as always! A tip I would give to people is to confide in a good friend who won't judge them. Another great tip, like you mentioned is watching youtubers coming out stories and tips.

[@braehurst2797]

Thanks for all the hard work you do on your channel keep them coming

[@MacAdvisor]

I came out long before you were even a twinkle in your Dad's eye, just about ten years after Stonewall and I lived very far from Christopher Street, long before AIDS. My father had been a DI in the Marines, he was the local football coach, a very masculine guy. I was scared to death to tell my parents. I didn't do it until I was out of college (I greatly worried about losing there support). I took them out to dinner. I told them. They looked at each other, then back at me. Dad said, "We've known for years you were gay, didn't you know that?" Dad set me up on a blind date with one of his gay football players. You are absolutely right about not coming to people that can actively hurt you and don't feel receptive. Get a group of friends that love and support you and who you are. Yet nothing feels better than that feeling when you tell your parents and they say they love you just as you are. Not that they love you anyway, but they love you because of who you are. Been more than half a century and I've never felt more loved. What happened to your thumb?

[@Jirix]

Did you know the Christopher street was named after Christopher Hitchens?

[@MacAdvisor]

@@Jirix Er, No. According to Wikipedia, "Christopher Street is named after Charles Christopher Amos, the owner of the inherited estate which included the location of the street. Amos is also the namesake of nearby Charles Street, and of the former Amos Street, which is now West 10th Street."

[@Jirix]

@@MacAdvisor Sorry, my bad.

[@MacAdvisor]

@@Jirix Its OK, meant I tracked down the history. Thank you.

[@robertschwartz4810]

I never "CAME OUT" to my parents. Once my mother asked, "Bobby, why are all yours friends fairies"? My father said, "Shut up, Eva. Leave the kid alone". I will say, that as much as I like Andrew, I strongly disagree with his advice to tell just one or two people that you're gay if it's dangerous to do so.. A secret shared is a secret told. Once one person knows you've told everyone.

[@evharbaugh5417]

Although he didn't say so explicitly, I think when Andrew said that telling one or two people in your life, he meant to choose people you can trust that won't out you. However, I am glad that Andrew explained that telling parents (or others who may support you financially) who you think might be homophobic, needs to be very carefully considered.

[@robertschwartz4810]

@@evharbaugh5417 You never know whom you can trust. They can inadvertently let the secret out, share it with a trusted loved one, or decide to talk with the parents "for your own good."

[@robcashman4767]

That was a great video. I was 51 years old before I could even come out to myself. Once I came out to myself, I started coming out to other friends and family within a week.

[@paean109]

I am 58 years old and I have the same attitude that your brother has. I just do my own thing. I never felt the need to tell people I am gay. If someone asks, I will say yes. Everyone, including my parents, family and relatives, friends and coworkers, knows I am gay either through finding out from someone else or just figuring it out. It’s never been a big deal for anyone when they find out. I mean, if I am asked to a party and am allowed to bring a date and I show up with a guy, I think people will figure it out.

[@jackfntwist]

It's funny. When you're young, your sexuality is such an important part of life. It starts off all consuming. As you age, it progressively gets less and less an important factor of life, to the point that you don't even think about it.

[@thelifeofjuan4340]

Love your content andrew!!! Thank you for being an inspiration!

[@MrPwdennis]

Man, you have so much insight and good things to say. I appreciate you and your words of knowledge. I agree... if you don't trust someone, don't tell them. It only makes things worse for someone who only wants to be accepted and loved.

[@baobabs727]

Awesome video, Kids really need to hear your message. Inspirational and educational. And by the way your house looks amazing!

[@PipesPlayer1980]

His house looks like $hit!

[@baobabs727]

@@PipesPlayer1980 OMG what??

[@jlowe8556]

You are still so awesome. I love your perspective on certain subjects Mr Neighbors. Coming out is an individual experience and there are some who spout off running and telling the world without considering where some people come from by way of family and friends. It is important to be your authentic self, life is too short not to. My coming out was not met with a parade or negativity, but there were some underlying feelings that exist even til today with my family. But you have to love yourself at the end of the day and just live life well.

[@johnnail4595]

Great vlog, Andrew. So many topics very well put. Lots of love, John

[@lawrencelucas45]

I wish I had the recourses of today back when I was young. Thanks for being so open and helpful to the youth of today. Wish I had know someone like you when I was your age.

[@jesserubens]

Yes to the "exposed brick" wallpaper!

[@andrewgoesplaces]

funny but its actually half bricks!

[@julianuddin68]

Thank you so much for sharing me your tips on coming out Drew. None of my family, except my cousins, know that I’m bisexual. And it’s best for me to take lots of time to let my family know that I’m bi. Again, thanks for your tips ❤️❤️❤️

[@markjones95648]

That has got to be one of the most honest videos I think I've watched in a while. Your advise (tips) were spot on! It makes my heart feel good to know that there are some pretty special young men out there! Can't wait for the house update....you should have a virtual "house warming" party!!! Thanks again for the awesome content today. Be safe and be well! Shalom

[@Specificpickle]

Woop came out to my friend group and best friend this month. I found it easier to do once I told myself that even if the worst happened I am strong enough to get through it.

[@billhobartclairvoyantmedium]

Another great video Andrew! So glad you found meditation and journaling can be great too. ❤🙏❤

[@6.2vituch93]

Thank you for yet another great video. I wish I had the confidence that you have. Very inspiring.

[@thesands4963]

This is the kind of content that I like to see. Thanks Andrew :)

[@easymandarinwithjunjie8334]

This is very good. I already came out successfully after several months. All great and lucky that my friends and family are all supportive of who I am. Thanks Andrew for sharing this to help others. Heaps of love from Australia.

[@TheOracleofOsiris]

Hi Andrew, love your videos! You have such an amazing personality and great heart! For those who have the best experience coming out, I find to be very lucky, while others like myself had endure the bullying (verbal abuse and physical abuse) from people in and out of the home growing up. At 37, being gay hasn't been fun at all throughout the years. Being alienated by family, friends, the gay community. The gay community has been the worse with acceptance for fat shaming especially when I used to weigh 170 lbs, having tattoos, if you are not fit, have muscles, being toned, gays being size queens and so forth. I noticed if you don't fit into the standard of the typical gay male image you are not liked or interesting at all until they start realizing people like myself are the ones that would love them forever and be faithful and be good boyfriend material and not sleep around on them. I'm not saying everyone in the gay community acts this way but from my own experience and what I have dealt with when it comes from being shamed coming out it hasn't been a good experience for the time I been out.

[@stephendickerson9746]

You are so insightful. I wish you had been around when I came out years ago. I know this would have helped coming out earlier. Friends who love you are the best and will accept regardless of your sexual preference. Keep up the renovations and I am looking forward to more from you.

[@rom_talan1115]

Everything that you do for us matters, Andrew. It is appreciated more than you know.

[@davidsmith4610]

Andrew! Loved this video! We have all had our coming out moments…if things were equal, we wouldn’t even have to come out! Just guys, mom, dad, this is Fred my boyfriend!

[@cameronbell3250]

Your house is looking so good!! Love the brick

[@andrewvollo263]

Andrew. Love the video and you. Big fan for many years. One point I'd like to make regarding using the words CONFESS or ADMIT with respect to coming out. Never confess or admit to being gay. That language implies guilty of something. You are guilty of nothing. You are you and that's beautiful. Rather use the word DISCLOSE to tell someone that you are gay if you so choose. No shame. Simple fact. You are you and that's beautiful. Keep it all positive; to your point.

[@Kamo766]

Courage is not the absence of fear so I love you no matter what 💜

[@princeelewis8006]

Tc.

[@princeelewis8006]

Tc.

[@AntoniLuke1]

Andrew, Thanks for being so simply joyful! I know it's a persona but your personality does come out and your heartfelt advice and compassion comes through loud and clear. (PS. Also a fan of your dahlias)

[@dpnice7721]

I am one of the lucky ones who has never had to come out. I never thought I was out of the ordinary, I thought my feelings were natural so never hid them.

[@christopherhardesty-crouch1119]

One of the biggest things I can think of is this. When you come out, try your absolute hardest to make sure it is on your terms. Don't feel pressured to come out by anyone, whether that's your friends, your family, or even people like me on the Internet. Coming out is a crucial moment in your life, and if it's not on your terms, or you weren't ready, it won't be as wonderful as it should be.

[@bowed305]

That brick wall looks amazing. Great job on the room!

[@FINEDIAMOND]

Thank you so much for this awesome video Andrew! You are BEAUTIFUL and so inspirational to us! ❤❤❤

[@ayoubmextress65]

Omg i love you you helped so many with their journey

[@jamesl6639]

Your so thoughtful and I learned so much from this video . Andrew you are the mind beautiful. Peace be with you always !

[@greathornedowl3644]

Love you, Andrew 💖💖💖 So handsome. Love the office. What is needed? Bookshelves, art, decoration - contrasting paint or wallpaper.

[@JoeP44]

Great advice Andrew - as usual. Thanks for your continued honesty and authenticity and for being the inspiration that you are to so many people. Huge kudos to your family for showing yourself and your brother the unconditional love and support that everyone deserves. 🙌🏻 🏳️‍🌈♥️

[@Flanole]

I came out to two friends at separate times. It was so disappointing Their reaction was "Yeah, so." I was expecting this big dramatic moment instead it was a loving, accepting moment with each. The anticipation was worse than the actual event. Never came out to parents as one was a judgmental hypocrite so they didn't get to know. I knew enough to get through college in case I got cut off. And so it goes. Each person's trip takes a different path even through the destination is the same.

[@joshball9530]

Being a bisexual man I want say thank you for giving me the courage to come out to my friends & loved one

[@takeshi_zero3271]

Thanks for sharing your story. Andrew. My parents and friends could subliminally sense I'm not straight. I just don't know how to start to tell the important people of mine especially my parents, they expect grandchildren from me as an only son. I know I will disappoint them but I want to live my live too.

[@pppmanly]

Great advice all around, Andrew! 👍🏽👍🏽 I agree that people should come out in their own time and also shouldn't feel that they must come out. The only problem with that is we live in a world where people tend to assume that everyone is straight unless you are flamboyant or fit the LGBT stereotypes. As a result, they tend to relentlessly ask questions like "Are you seeing anyone?...What type of *girl* you like?...Why aren't you married yet?...When are you going to settle down?...", etc., which are all annoyingly based on the assumption that you are into the opposite sex. This then forces you into the position of either evading the question or lying, which takes a lot of energy to deal with over time.

[@bowed305]

Maybe people just need to learn to stop asking those questions and mind their own business? How do we make that stop? I get people caring about others, and I get that we have our curiosities, but we have got to stop thinking that people owe us information about their lives. It's no one's business until the person decides they want to share that information, if they ever do decide they want to share it.

[@pppmanly]

@@bowed305 I agree wholeheartedly, but a lot of people are just "naturally" inquisitive. What I am hoping for is that we will get to a stage where they'll ask "What type of *person* you like?" and stop assuming that everyone is (100%) straight. 🙄😃

[@chriscoleman5242]

I came out to my sister first we both cryed them she told me that I love you no matter what you are. I am now a happy person my family knows and they are accepting of me.

[@ericmatthews3024]

2 years ago i had a long time friend who came out (gay) to me. He has a good job. bought a house and lives with his two cats. Has activities and clubs he has joined over the years. HE has told me he doesn't want to date. (np there) gave him suggestions to join grindr to meet men. Yet i cautioned him to be careful. Some ppl can be snobs and rude. If they see something they dont like. Unfortunately i dont talk to that friend much. As i assume he is finding his own way. Best of luck to him.

[@darrenkoh2292]

Office looking as good as Andrew 😙

[@BraeFTW]

Thanks for making these type of videos again. Look at those guns 💪 Hope the house is going well Andrew.

[@dragonman6915]

I had a situation once where coming out from a place of anger was a good idea - A girl and 2 guys (the girl was OBSSESED with me) were following me while me and 2 friends were walking home and they wouldn't stop bothering me trying to get me to have sex with the girl, and so I told them after like 3 minutes of them trying "I'm not interesting because I'm gay, go away" and 1 of the guys and the girl literally stopped walking in shock. All 3 of them never bothered me again so that was a good idea for me. Of course be careful if something like this happens you may end up getting bullied for coming out - but it felt very good to tell them that and I still hadn't told many people at that point.

[@josethevegan8923]

I'm happy it came out ok for you!

[@michaelmetcalf2715]

Great advice and tips Andrew. Loving your new home. You really look happy 😊😊😊 Have a blessed Sunday bro.💪💪🌈🌈

[@scottmoorela1]

Why would anyone give this a thumbs down?? I don't get it. Thanks for sharing. :)

[@gilgamesh215]

I love u Andrew thank you for this honestly

[@Unpotted]

Andrew, this is great advice for young people. I wish I could give you two thumbs up. 😁 Thanks!

[@rickray1701]

It took me about 32 years from when I realized it (7 yo) and the internal harmony that I found for me was immense. The struggles are real and always possible, but authenticity is so healthy. Having said that, I knew I was on my own clock, and fear was a huge part of that, but I wish that I could have had that when I was much younger. Just for mental health at least.

[@gopimaxted5287]

Great advice & absolutely awesome video, I love it so much!! You’re my favourite person ever. I’m fucking love you so much, my boy Andrew 🌈🔥

[@Scipio0404]

Nice video! ❤️ Sadly a lot of people live in a country including myself (Hungary) where being gay is not really accepted.

[@joelmtz9815]

Really Thank You for these kind of videos, it really helps me dealing with my homophobic parents and hope your finger heal fast, and im exited to see more updates on your house and life.

[@reedsehon4881]

Excellent video. Where were you when I came out in the 80's? Thank you, Andrew.

[@mikebeck952]

Andrew you are the best

[@CBAKER637]

Andrew is so handsome 😍

[@Alterseven]

I am BI and definitely sucks (I am NOT confused since I have erections both for men and women). The sad part is that if you come out as BI, (some) girls will likely reject you. I don't know if anyone else finds himself in the same situation

[@BrysonBurgess2007]

Hello Everyone, so recently came out as Gay and it felt so good! But now I feel like I have to "Fit In" to the body stereotypes. What is your guy's options on that. Should I be worried about not "Fitting In" because I'm not the most Muscular or Skinny guy, or should I not be really worried about that kinda thing?

[@Skinnybitchanastasis]

Hiii! As a gay guy I’m the skinny badass and truly I’m 100% proud for who I am, so you don’t have to compare yourself to other gay people! You have just to be you and make yourself feel happy. So, you don’t have to be worried! Love yourself💗💗💗

[@BrysonBurgess2007]

@@Skinnybitchanastasis Thank You I needed that

[@troyleong7412]

You are sooooooooooo lucky you weren't given a hard time when you came out. My father was born in 1929 and my mother was born in 1936. Both thought being gay was SICK. I tried coming out twice to my Mom. The first time she brushed it off. The second time was horrible. She stopped talking to me for 3 or 4 weeks and it was killing me. So I actually talked myself out of it if you can believe that. I said to her....Mom we won't ever talk about this again. And we didn't. She passed away November 3rd 2021....and it was the hardest thing I've ever been through. She was my buddy. :(

[@alec1424]

PLEEEAASE!!!! Why are you always so cute?!! xo

[@LeCrenn]

Love the brick. Are you planning to paint a color on any of the walls?

[@gholosco1122]

I remember a little moment from when I still wished my feelings would go away. My little brother asked my mom "what does gay mean?", he'd probably heard it in school as an insult. My mom was clearly uncomfortable, but she explained in a very neutral way, "It's when a man falls in love with another man", and his immediate reaction was, "ok, but what's the bad thing about that?". It didn't even occur to him that somebody could be judged for that. That small piece of common sense from a child, without any prejudice from society, helped me a lot to understand that my problem was not being gay, it was bigots who wouldn't accept that. I'm pretty sure they didn't realize how important their conversation was to me, and I don't think they even remember it. But it mattered. I guess my point is, you never know how things you say might affect the people around you. So better take care.

[@VansSpartacus]

I like your smile, and youre quiet charming actually. You're so true, if we dont feel like coming out, then we dont have to. I'll never come out to anyone, and then its its totally fine. I think, i dont want to waste my time and other peoples time explaining them about my sexuality, which they will never even understand in the first place. Forget about explaining it to others when me, myself dont know why i was born gay. I knew i was gay when I was 5. And im 40, but i just live my life. Sometimes its better if you dont tell everything about you to other people. If they dont know us, then its their problem. They probably dont even know themselves in the first place, but they want to know about others. I wish there could be any scientific discovery if one could change their sexual orientation

[@Js2Jo]

Andrew, I wanna say your coming out story is really touch me on this video and I'm bisexual, used to live in the homophobic and religious household, so I'm proud of you for being gay!!

[@msperry50ca]

My experience parallels yours. I came out to myself at 15 and took 3 years adjusting and thinking about it before coming out to my family. I'm glad I'm gay. It has made me a better person. But we were lucky in a way....what about the folks that are not happy about being gay?

[@thevintagegypsy]

*~* Such a beautiful video Andrew *~* On my birthday as well thank you ever so much *~* Your born gay I always new I was since I was about 5 or 6 *~* But 8 months ago I finally came out *~* Wow how amazing it all was, I remember like it was yesterday even know I still feel as light as a feather *~* It feels amazing so thank you again Andrew *~* Blessings D

[@WilliamCLAnderson]

Where was this at the beginning of the month. I publicly came out on my Instagram on the 2nd of July! Have gotten a lot of support from family and friends! I posted what I put under the “coming out stories” in your discord! Love you Andrew!

[@jbourdon1]

Why we have to came out as gay and, straight guys no need to came out as straight’s? Andrew I get your point and understand you I don’t have to came out as gay because I born gay, being gay is not something to happen to you is something we are, not became.

[@johnmoon3848]

You're truly wonderful!! 💗

[@mikesawyer1336]

Nice.. Great advice I think. By the way 9k views and only 14 thumbs down. That's amazing.

[@triryche3]

If you're in a bad situation, don't come out unless you're financially independent.