Common Friendship Habits Of Abuse Survivors

[@KaitenKenbu]

I used to be the same way when I was younger but starting around 20 or so I really started having different levels of pals and closing my inner self off from more people than i would have previously and in doing so started to enjoy more casual events or interactions more. It may also have been that being out in the world I was interacting with more folk that I had been used to say in high school or church.

[@SuB-gy4rb]

There is a book out by Marisa Franco Phd called Platonic - It’s definitely helping me see my patterns and finally find some peace and friends.

[@ehrensjournal]

That's great, thank you for sharing this resource

[@mindkindmom]

This was really deep. I wish I'd known how to navigate people without expecting people to be all good or all bad. But as a trauma survivor I had no boundaries so went all in and was too much which always led to heartbreak.

[@kzy1457]

This is my day one on this channel and i feel so grateful for these insights. Theres not a lot of support around these issues for low income people who have more pressing issues to mention in pro bono therapy spaces or support spaces if they at all can afford the opportunity or a chance to get help, get information, and even tell someone about these issues unless it's a little too late. I wish so very much that similar information could be available to some people i know but in their regional languages because English is not always accessible. I pray for their safety and our creative minds to have come through so far. This feels like the blessing i needed today to make an incredible decision about being firm with someone about my safety and also potentially share it with aome of the folks in my support group.

[@stephenmacks23]

Thank you!

[@stephenmacks23]

No wonder some people prefer animals to people, people can be hard work!

[@thetopcat8946]

I identify with you about opening up too quickly...step by step and being balanced is important. I have a new life now. Had to start fresh. I had to get away for my own life sake..I wouldn't ever have been able to work there again. I'm very much keeping myself to myself atm. I have very few friends. I will get there slowly I know, but have to be very careful. I lives life too openly before. Yes I've learned to say no..and trying to discern if people are good or bad is a hard one. I hate being judgemental. I used to be to extroverted, but not now. It's all about balance and that's a hard one with cptsd. We have to be gentle and patient with ourselves. One step at a time

[@healing_1]

I read ur comments , it's really break my heart that at 53 u still carry the childhood trauma with you + the trauma u experienced as 48 it must be the hardest thing because it's not only what happened but your inner child get triggered. I hope u start therapy, starting by inner child work and EMDR therapy. U make realize that my childhood trauma that I am working on was maybe the reason why I put myself in same really dangerous situations that I could easily be violated again . I hope u heal and u find peace and happiness withing your heart

[@enigma750]

This is a really helpful episode. Thank you!

[@Cherr-ies-]

An incredible video but can anyone elaborate more on those healthy ways to love people. I literally end up either closing off and not sharing almost anything or I end the relationship altogether.

[@joannarockland6221]

Love you friend. You're totally correct

[@ehrensjournal]

Love you!

[@Yolohipsteryolo]

Thank you for talking about it in such detail. I really noticed the same patterns in myself and I'm slowly getting out of it. I'm not as far as you, but during the video I realized how far I have already come

[@irynagn]

I'm the same way 😢

[@mauilogic1679]

Well said, healing for many kind gracious typed people that who somehow found themselves discarded like a wrapper of some kind from what you had been lead to believe by such a soft slightly timid but bursting with a ton of juicy wonderfulness as soon as you went in for a 2nd big ole strong connected hug in where she stomped her foot down saying I love this guy!...as opposed the !st hug a few weeks earlier, which she had felt similar to a frozen cookie sheet that I was light to squeeze 4 not wishing to shatter her like a icycle!.....sensory issues I suppose , but not had really been in contact with or perceived her to be going thru then, really sent me spinning!...Any ways thank you! sharing your stories and changing perceptions, are answering some of the truckloads of q&a's I personally need answered for myself do to being a understanding understood understander, Keep smiling, it is felt thru the screen Aloha, 🍍gregarious