Common KonMari Obstacles & How To Overcome Them | Completing The KonMari Method

[@mjsmuddle9915]

I like the "would it spark joy if you have to clean it" criteria myself. I know it's worth keeping if I'd rather clean it regularly then get rid of it. That helped me get rid of a lot of "useful" things. :)

[@HowToGYST]

Ooh, that's a good one! Thanks for sharing. 🙂

[@sunbeamred8175]

Really good way of deciding, I've tried this thinking and always the item is of no value, monetary or sentimental.

[@janeblair2915]

I often ask myself "If this item was in the house of an ex boyfriend I didn't like, would I make the effort to get it back?" It works a treat 😂

[@theemarydee1610]

My daughter and grandson lived with me for 5 years. We were doing my annual “cut all my stuff in half” project. I raised my kids the same way. To the point...decision fatigue set in and the biggest fight we ever had was over where a pack of markers would find their home! Crazy!!! Decision Fatigue is real. Stop and take a break before anyone gets hurt.

[@petmomful2260]

Hey Laura, I had to tell you what happened! I have been watching your videos, and others, and I subscribed. I am 63, and have been decluttering, dejunking, minimalizing, reorganizing, and even some remodeling. I have also been shredding and recycling paperwork. This morning, I got up and my husband said his friend was coming over and he would just meet him in the garage. I looked around my clean, neat and tidy house, and said he should just invite him in for coffee. I washed my face, put on clothes, brushed my teeth, put on mascara, and welcomed this man into my house. I was proud of how it looked. There were no papers, or dishes, or shoes, or blankets, or anything lying anywhere. I had put it in order before I went to bed, but it really wasn't in disorder. I clean up as I go. We had a very nice visit. I think I may be getting my shit together!! Thanks for all your help! I am going to recommend your channel to my daughter, because she likes to watch videos about getting her shit together, too.

[@HowToGYST]

Oh, that's so wonderful to hear! Isn't it lovely when all your hard work pays off? When you get to a stage where you realise how much of an impact it's had on your life? I'm so excited for you!

[@anndoramorginson3493]

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[@1Lightdancer]

That is super, how wonderful to feel so comfortable with the state of your home! 💕

[@dnllmaurer1]

Good for you! That encourages me to get on with it. Being able to invite someone inside without much notice & feel put together is a big benefit. The new found ease & clarity are priceless! Thanks for sharing.

[@julieroberson237]

You go girl

[@LateBoomer1964]

To keep from cluttering you home again, apply the KonMari method to buying. Does it really spark joy for you? If not put it back on the shelf and move on down the isle. :)

[@MrAshtonone]

Linda Farneth - I have began implementing a low/no-buy method last year before I head of the KonMari method. I was acquiring too much in the way of cosmetics and clothing and not getting rid of anything. I started to get frustrated with myself for having bags of excess I did not really need. Some things went back and some were kept. I started thinking in store, do I really want this? why? do I really need this? do I have something similar already in my wardrobe or cosmetics collection, handbag collection? Yes, put it back I don't need it. If I was replacing an item - ran out of foundation or my black go to handbag needed to be replaced and I found an ideal fit for me in all manners (do I love the style, is the size right, can I get into it easily, can I open it fully, is the price good for the quality and will it last a long time) then it is a yes. This low / no-buy has helped me a lot since I think ahead (does it really make me happy and do I really need it). :) Lynn

[@plantedbasedman9845]

Amen

[@diahmegarezky8537]

@@MrAshtonone 👍👍

[@teresahaven9222]

I have gotten back to working on my bedroom again. 10 minutes minimum working on it, 30 minutes rest. I set timers. My health makes it difficult to move around much. But I am doing it!!!

[@MultiShooter7]

Extra Great Advice and Tips!! My mother always said, “Have a place for everything and put everything in its place.” She also said, “It’s easier to keep a house clean than it is to get it clean.” Throughout my adult life I have always “spring cleaned” my house twice a year. (Spring and Fall) I would declutter consistently, so I didn’t have to worry about being buried in stuff. Due to health issues, with family members and myself, I’ve not been able to keep my routine going for past five years. I feel like I am drowning in a sea of junk...lol I started “Kondoing” my house this week and already feel overwhelmed. I’m much older now and due to health issues, I cannot stand for long lengths of time. Your post has encouraged me to keep going, even if it is in small bits at a time. So glad to hear someone actually say take your time and rest in between. Three days and two go-away-bags later and my dresser and chest of drawers are complete! Yahoo!! (The drawers are ready for whatever hides in the closet, which is next on the list.)😁 Thanks again for sharing all of this wonderful wisdom! God bless you!😊

[@lenavogelsang7864]

a tip I learned from the flylady system when it comes to long days of decluttering... set a timer for 45 minutes of work. then take a 15 minute break for some act of self-care, like drinking some water or coffee, putting up your feet, a snack, whatever you need. then go back to 45 minutes of de-cluttering. these breaks make sure you can keep going for a long time.

[@Elemiriel]

I bet you could vary that based on your health and emotional state too... For myself I'd do 1 3/4 hours working with 15 min breaks on big category days (clothes, books, etc) but closer to the 45/15 rule for paperwork (lots of effort for me) or sentimental things (which I have yet to go through)

[@amara560]

I've tried this for Pomodori. I put on a playlist for the time I wanted to declutter/clean up and when the last song comes up I take a break. It's been working well :)

[@karenhill-seitz4866]

I can't work this way with a break. Once I stop...I'm done. So, for me, it's best to keep going for the amount of time Ive decided upon.

[@1Lightdancer]

Yes, I love setting a timer for 20 or more minutes, and then talking a little break. 20/10 is a good ratio for someone with physical or mental health challenges, and even doing "just a little" adds up!

[@charliemorris1942]

Do you use the Flylady system after you Kon Mari your house. That is what Im trying to do, it seems to be working well.

[@susanjohn6506]

A real "why did I not think of that?" moment with the subdividing categories idea. Makes much more sense to go through just skirts or just undies rather than all your clothes at once.

[@amandabeckendorf4366]

I got stuck once on what category to start next. I finally decided to clear our every storage/cleaning closet and each cabinet under my sinks (kitchen and bathroom.) Here I had all of cleaning products and all of my backups (batteries, lightbulbs, etc.) Spreading everything out on my dining room table, I gathered like things together and began getting rid of the excess. When I was done, I stopped keeping cleaning products under sinks and designated one place to those items. One bin of bathroom cleaners, and one bin of household cleaners. Now when I clean a space, I grab the appropriate product or bin and take it with me to the room I am cleaning. How I ended up having 3 or 4 winder bottles is lost on me. Now I have one. This left my very limited bathroom storage free to house things that were cluttering up the counter tops. My kitchen sink cabinet only houses dishwasher detergent, multipurpose spray, and my husband’s degreasing hand wash (he is a mechanic.) I realized my linen closet and utility closet (lightbulbs, batteries, tools) should be swapped because the size and depth of each space served the other category better. As good as purging my clothes felt, I was very surprised how accomplished I felt going through this category full of things that none of which spark joy. Joy was sparked in the completion of a job well done. And as a chronically messy person, I find great joy in knowing where I can find anything and everything because everything has a home and proper place.

[@melissasimock]

One thing that has really helped me, esp for the 'things I may want to use someday' category, is the 20/20 rule. This was brilliant in going thru art supplies! Can I replace this item for under $20, and in under 20 mins? I didn't stick specifically to the numbers, but that idea really helped me weed out things I had no attachment to, and no plans of using in the next 6 months or so. If I do ever have a need for those items, they are easily and cheaply replaceable. And not using up my precious energy and space in the meantime. Another concept I've found useful is the idea of curating. Letting go of the idea that I have to have 'all the things'. Having only the special things feels so much better. I don't need every DVD, esp ones I have no interest in actually watching again. I'd rather only keep the ones I love and use often. It works great for sets of things too. You have a set of markers, but only use 6 of the colours... YOU DO NOT HAVE TO KEEP THEM ALL JUST BECAUSE THEY CAME IN A SET! Same goes for paints or dishes or glasses, etc.

[@carysw8967]

I am about to declutter all craft things, I find your comments helpful to weed out the little things that I can just replace if I should want something.

[@melissasimock]

These concepts were really game changers for me! I'm happy you're finding it helpful too!

[@siscaudle8715]

I've always felt a little guilty about holding onto things but this makes sense. I live "out" and there are many things i could not replace in under 2 hours and i certainly would not want to make that trip for something under $20, so i hold onto them.

[@surlygale1082]

never heard of this rule: can it be replaced for under $20 and within 20 minutes. Brilliant option! I went through my makeup and got rid of eye shadows and lipsticks I'd be hanging onto because I occasionally wore the colours...thank you!

[@Beazers1]

Wow, thank you! This is just what I am about to deal with in my studio. :)

[@Modvegan]

Thanks so much for mentioning depression! I definitely have to remind myself not to throw out EVERYTHING, and I've heard the same from others 😁

[@meretriciousinsolent]

I get that too. I sometimes think i have to make myself live like a lonely hermit with a backpack of belongings also. No idea where it comes from.

[@howtodrawmangawithsetsaled6074]

Thank you so much for including the "does it spark joy" in the perspective of someone with depression. I think that was a big problem I had. Thanks for making this video. :)

[@piano.music88]

Konmari method, even in the smallest bit of use, is effective the most for realizing we do deserve to be surrounded with nice things and all without any guilt that comes with objects which spark no joy, but much stronger feelings of guilt, selfdeprecation and dissapointment, unwanted responsibility and etc. After very painful summer of decluttering both physically and mentally, i feel so much better knowing that everything around me makes me happy and evokes happy memories making it so much easier to have a good life on day to day basis. Not sure if that makes sense, but its the sort of process where i do feel as if I've given myself a permission to let go. And just be happy :)

[@closequartersmillerstyle6782]

I love these tips! Decluttering and tidying is so worth it. This may not fit in with this precise topic, but I was surprised to find I sometimes get a bit of an emotional hangover when I get rid of things. Maybe others experience this too. Hopefully if you anticipate that you'll be able to be more patient and compassionate with yourself, and take the time you need afterward!

[@pthaloblue100]

Your video was so helpful, especially the focus on how to navigate tidying up without upsetting family members. Thank you!

[@HowToGYST]

You're very welcome. 😁

[@marthasalter405]

Thumbs up on the library book rule. I had something similar growing up, I remember so clearly having to really evaluate my choices each week. Never too young to practice making decisions for yourself & build that discernment "muscle."

[@HowToGYST]

I should probably implement the rule for myself. 😂 #bookworm

[@meretriciousinsolent]

I need to apply this to my kindle library 😶

[@dawnwesterbeck5744]

I went through my clothes and realized if I only kept what gave me joy I would only have one pair of underwear left. Well can't afford a whole wardrobe so just paired down as much y I could. It still felt good.

[@mary-leslieholland7983]

Wonderful, thoughtful ideas! I want to add that, when I am struggling to let go of something, I remind myself that maybe I should "give someone else a chance" to use it - I have more than enough stuff already, and there may be someone who would enjoy or benefit from it, whatever it is - clothes, books, toys, shoes, kitchen tools........

[@themaggattack]

Taking photos & texting it! BRILLIANT!

[@HowToGYST]

Game changer!

[@o0Avalon0o]

I just started the method; I have a *literal mountain range* to go through, but this video has been extremely helpful. I actually got excited when I started folding & it worked.

[@HowToGYST]

Hurray! Well done!

[@o0Avalon0o]

@@HowToGYST What a kind & motivating message! Thanks for making it all so easy to understand.

[@debbiearchibald8667]

Hi, I just discovered your very helpful video. I've been wanting to declutter my stuff for a long time. I decided to start with my huge book collection which I don't have the space for. I just went through my books and got rid of 30-35 bags of books and I still have more to get rid of. I wouldn't want to throw them out as I believe someone else can benefit from them. That is why I contacted a local library who has two used book sales per year. I contacted the person in charge of this sale and asked if they have a volunteer with a car who could pick up my books as a donation to their sale which is coming up at the beginning of April. I don't have a car so it would be difficult for me to bring the books bag by bag via bus. To my delight a volunteer was available! He came by two days ago to take all my bags away. The rest of my books that I don't want I will be donating to another used book sale that the university I work for has once a year. A volunteer will be picking my books up in April. A little bit at a time!! Thank you!

[@merrivideo]

I only have control of my own bedroom and started declutering a year ago. A couple days ago I realized that I have enough space for all my things, including those that have been posted for selling. I'm very happy about it. I decluter periodically still and I will recommend to others to consider that they will need time to give a new purpose to those things they are getting rid of: where to donate, where to take the recycling, where to post and sell. Otherwise, you will keep your clutter for too long.

[@HowToGYST]

Yes, I completely agree! Actually physically getting rid of the stuff can take so much longer than the decluttering process itself. So important to have an "exit strategy".

[@dawnmariebooher3269]

I started teaching my now 8y daughter the KonMari method when she was 5y. We do it pretty often with clothing and toys especially when I notice she's not wearing or playing with many items. She immediately got it. I wish I had known this method my whole life as my own mama was a major hoarder. But once I learned this method it's so easy and natural.

[@DuluthTW]

Fantastic suggestions all, but especially to take pictures of the CLOSED bags or boxes of discard items so you don't have sentimental remorse. Thanks for sharing!

[@HowToGYST]

I learned that one the hard way. 😉

[@samicollins1058]

This was the most helpful video about the Kon Marie method. Thank you!

[@HowToGYST]

You're very welcome. Thanks for your lovely comment. 😁

[@Lashlove16]

Greatest advise !!!! I celebrated my one year anniversary in August completing the Kon Marie method.... I am soooo happy . - i did go through my things many more times getting rid of additional stuff . Many items I kept like shampoo or lotions . I just stop buying new stuff and I finally am at the end of using up items . - my room is never more then 10 minutes to clean - everyday I took stuff to goodwill daily as it’s only a few miles away and it felt soooo good . - kept some items as so I can see if i will use it in the next season . - paper was the hardest for me It’s truly life changing and liberating and I feel sooo much better and don’t miss a thing . I am now cleaning up my digital devices like phone and laptop

[@HowToGYST]

Great job! I’m trying to work through digital stuff too. How long did it take you in total to complete the Method, do you remember?

[@Lashlove16]

How to Get Your Shit Together 2 weeks to go through it ...I spent a few hours a day ... once I got into it , I became addicted. The digital I am doing a little everyday... it’s really annoying to be honest . My eyes start hurting .

[@HowToGYST]

Yes, digital it definitely difficult. 2 weeks for the physical stuff is very impressive though. Well done!

[@Lashlove16]

How to Get Your Shit Together thank you After 20 years of living in chaos and always stressing out when guests arrive I needed to end it your videos are definitely encouraging and I enjoy them . Little 10-15 Min of decluttering helps too . Paper is scary ... I had to go in several stages of it . A helpiful hint is to have a shredder and I would have breaks of shredding and it felt sooooo good getting rid of it . I now can find what I need much faster

[@SuzySylvania]

This is a wonderful video to keep me going on my life-long struggle with too much stuff! I just sorted a whole bunch of sewing supplies that I used as a costume maker (haven't done it for several years...no plans of ding it again. EVER!). I have a whole black bag full of perfectly good trim (some are vintage and worth money on Ebay). I was so proud to be getting rid of 99% of it! But then I got cold feet! What if my granddaughters want to make a craft? What if I decide to get back into costuming? I don't want to stick it in the attic though. I have 14 large bins of fabric in my basement that I need to go through and just GET RID of! When I finally do this, I know I will feel pangs of regret, but I hope I will feel more of a sense of relief than regret. It is like shedding myself of a former ME to make room for the NEW ME! A painter!

[@alyshaandersen8759]

I have watched a dozen of these types of videos and I have to say yours was the first that followed the method. You got to the point and didn’t waste my time on all the fluffy stuff. Gave the awesome facts, spoke timely and full disclosure! I can’t wait to watch more of your videos. Thank you!! You’ve inspired me to really dive in!

[@itsalwayshalloweenexceptwh5118]

I did fashion school over 15 years ago, and although I didn't end up working in fashion I do have a historical/vintage/alternative fashion hobby and a lot of clothes as a result. Because I have so many clothes every piece has to earn its presence in my closets (yes, plural). If I encounter something that I still like and fits me well but haven't worn in a long time I challenge myself to build a few outfits (by combining it with other existing pieces) with that piece in it and to actually wear those outfits within a certain time frame. If I can't build the outfits because I don't have enough stuff that goes well with it, then I ask myself if this piece is worth it to make/buy things to match. This also works as a reminder not to buy/make things I have no matching things for. I either buy/make something I have no matching things for along side with other stuff that does match it. For example when making a new main piece (dress/skirt) I make a matching accessory at the same time. If I can build the outfit without making/buying new things, and I don't end up wearing it anyway, then I start asking myself why I didn't wear it. My mainstream fashion items are not precious to me at all and I also haven't spent much money on them either (thrift or hand-me-downs) so they are really easy for me to deal with when that closet needs decluttering. If there's a hole it goes into the textile recycling. If I haven't worn it in a year but it's still in a good condition it goes to the charity/thrift shop. I have become very picky with what I keep when I receive hand-me-downs. Sometimes I just know I won't be wearing it because of the texture of the fabric. My mother always questions me "but it looks like a decent shirt, better than some of the things you have" but I've learned that when I cave into that pressure I still don't end up wearing it. The only "someday" mainstream items I keep are bras and bathing suits because they are expensive and I wouldn't buy them second hand. I do accept them as hand-me-downs though. If I lose weight I just thrift new clothes, so I don't have a stash of "someday" main pieces.

[@HowToGYST]

Yes, it's really important to tune into our own wants and needs. I really love your thrifty approach.

[@amsteensberg1653]

Thanks a million Laura, for a real-world version of simplifying. I am a materialist.... And at the same time addicted to 'tiny home' vids on KZbin 😉!!... Sorting out cupboards and closets.... Getting all the stuff out in a pile, and putting it back in.. The scary thing is, that when I have put "things that I actually use" back in, so it looks nice and orderly, I turn around and 50 pct of the pile is still there!!!🙄 I also think it is an issue that so many of us have stuff that belongs to a life that is ' potential ', instead of the life we actually live..... I.e. Plates and cutlery for 24, for that great formal dinner that we would never entertain, the clothes that once fitted, things that most of all are showpieces to impress guests.. ( what kind of guests? Your true friends couldn't care less). Shopping... the bargains, that always make you buy 3 instead of one... bulks of food dying slowly in the cupboards.... Well, call me Sisyphus....

[@granjmy]

I think we are related. You remind me of myself. :)

[@mandy22f]

I'm not doing the Kon Marie method but i do get a lot of inspiration from it and it helped me a lot to get rid of stuff that was just taking up space. My husband is one of those people that thinks he's very tidy and totally gets the Kon Marie method, but in the end is the messiest of all and his way of tidying is chucking all the chargers and cables in a big bag and stuffing it somewhere in a dark corner of the house! Hahaha! :p

[@liselottenilsen408]

5.33 You talking g to your 3- year old daughter, reminded me of how I should talk to myself! "Break the stuff down to very small caregories, so I'm not overwhelmed", " start with the stuff I "play" with the least, and explain why it's important and where the stuff will go" "be patient, it takes a few times before I let go"..😄 Thank you for a very inspiring video!

[@beckywszalek726]

Are you an ASD specialist? Girl you should be!!! A LOT of gold here for those with Aspergers.

[@HowToGYST]

I'm not. I wouldn't even know where to begin. But I'm delighted it's proving helpful. 😁

[@chimbob67]

I keep a decluttering "journal" that I write in, as well as a checklist. When I feel sad that I didn't make enough progress to check something off the list, I get satisfaction from writing about all the things I did do that day to declutter. The same is true for when I make to-do lists. I add on the things I did and check them off.

[@HowToGYST]

Love that idea! Also great just to read back over and see how much progress you've already made, even if you did nothing else that day.

[@vych2001]

This is the most practical and realistic thoughts on decluttering I've seen and read so far, and gives me the courage to start. Thank you so much! Speaking of nostalgia .... I do miss the black leather jacket I got rid of years ago ....

[@catfish9539]

Where have you been all my life?!! On a particularly wet and windy day I was hoping to be super motivated to do some clearing seeing I have just put up my Christmas decorations over more clutter! Instead I find myself sitting by the fire, drinking coffee watching the stormy Atlantic Ocean and scrolling KZbin!! So now come to my bedroom with me right now and look at my tops and tshirt shelf. I'm suddenly remotivated to go through them!!

[@karenhill-seitz4866]

I'm stunned and overwhelmed by the garage. I keep things thinking I will have a garage sale and that has kept the items in the garage for three years. No garage sale has been attempted. No time for that. So.reluctantly, I've decided that perhaps I just need to donate all of these "really good" items and be done.

[@HowToGYST]

Believe me when I say you'll feel SO much better when it's done. You're saving yourself a LOT of time and frustration, and doing a great deed to help others. 🙂

[@tnbella7]

Spring is coming. Do it. When you see all the stuff in the back of your, you run to Good Will and then walk back into an empty garage, you will be astounded. And if you haven’t looked for anything in that pile of stuff, you don’t need it. And with the really good items, those can brighten someone else’s life.

[@to1620]

Did you know that you can also pay somebody else to host a garage sale for you? I did this with my neighbor, whereby I included all my saleable stuff into their garage sale, and then split the earnings with them. It was a great solution for helping me to get rid of stuff!

[@oliviaginsbourg6541]

I spent years bringing stuff in and then chucking it out then 2 years ago go I was told I would have brain surgery so I decided I would leave things in order in case I either died or came back handicapped none of this happened as I enjoy a new life and I cherish every moment I took up my drumming lessons again started learning ukulele and harmonica and these things really count for me no stuff will ever replace the music for me

[@annakochkin7693]

Hi! Great advice about a big box and to "pre-konmari"))) Thank you)

[@keyisme1356]

Hit the head on the nail! Paper and closets feel like no progress because I can't see it! I'm still tripping over the mess I CAN see! That's why I've mostly skipped paper. That, and, for me, paper is one of my hardest categories. But I have completed about 80% of your Kon Marie checklist! I guess I left all my hardest categories for last. I started 8 months ago.

[@michellemcmiken8952]

You talking about your husband sounds like you're talking about mine. Wow. I hope that whole, 'they'll follow eventually' *clings to hope* will work... You're a legend!

[@RitaLynn1964]

Thank you for posting this video. I have watched a few others about de_cluttering and most of them are of young and energetic women with big fancy homes who are physically able to do a de-clutter of a room in a day. Well I can't. I am in my 50's, live alone and have had numerous health issues that have really slowed me down. Unfortunately my home home has suffered as well. I just haven't kept up with the cleaning like I used to do. And it has been so depressing and upsetting to see my home in this condition as I always had a clean and comfortable home. Family is of no help at all. They have no problem telling me what I need to do though.

[@keyisme1356]

RITA BOYLES Hugs. Family shouldn't tell you what to do; they should say nothing or offer to help. You know what you want to do. You do it at your speed.

[@marysu4]

RITA BOYLES I hear you on this! I am almost 70, I've lived in my house for nearly 35 years, raised my family here, worked full time most of those years, and have lived here alone for the last 15 years. This past year my body has been giving me problems like I have never had and I just can't do what I used to. When other people help you they do things like put all your candles at a height they can easily reach but my 5' self needs a ladder! I would like help but I don't want the conflict. It's baby steps for me! I divide each room into quarters and tackle what I can only in that quarter. In some rooms it's easier than others obviously! I refuse to spend all my time cleaning over creative pursuits. I offer things that I don't want to family before I get rid of them so no arguing later. Slow and steady wins the race!

[@chellybabyme]

Marysu Bennett the quarters advice is great. Thank you. I understand about people "helping". I don't know why it's so hard for many to understand that help is what a person needs, not what another person wants them to need.

[@April4YHWH]

I’m in my 50’s, just had MAJOR back surgery three months ago and have suffered chronic Lyme Disease for 20 years that mostly affects my joints and muscles, but my memory is also affected. My partner is capable but is not currently on the KonMari train (but I suspect he will initiate his own KonMari journey after witnessing what I accomplish, so I am aware I am setting the example). My approach will be to ask for his help with the heavy lifting and do everything else myself. If I didn’t have in-house help, I would’ve called on someone to drag bags and other items out to my truck after I filled them. Knowing how slow I am and how capable I am not, my mindset is to approach the tasks with a lot of patience and self-forgiveness (I tend to have pity parties, lamenting my lost abilities) and keep my eye on the goal. The life I envision is attainable and I know how easy it is to always focus on what I’ve lost instead of I still have. So, by approaching my efforts with an attitude of gratitude, I anticipate that my physical self will benefit as well.

[@rosemaryus-ct6151]

@@chellybabyme i tell people that the difference between helping and interfering is that people ask for one. this is especially helpful when well meaning people do what THEY want and then get upset and say, but i was just trying to HELP. please ASK, how can i help?

[@MHTormentosa]

Hi, Laura. I felt very identified when you spoke of your non-Konmarie konvert husband. I started with the method after moving together, and it helped me to realize that my main problem, for which I can not finish organizing my office, is not related to being a disorderly person, but with several emotional obstacles of my own. Now, I am going through a stage of mourning, which is why the method is at times liberating and at times overwhelming. However, it allowed me to talk with my husband about what the disorder and the burden it makes me feel, and finally we will begin the last stage of organization together. I really felt very contained and inspired with your words. They were exactly what I needed at the exact moment. thank you very much for sharing your experience.

[@annaberg6505]

"Slow and gently is the way to win the race if you cant sprint." So true.

[@lisabarr6004]

Hi from 🇨🇦 thank u for another inspiring video and the free printables . Wishing you and your family health and happiness🙏🏼

[@HowToGYST]

Thank you so much. I really appreciate that. 💖

[@christinawhite9256]

Definitely finding a home for items we want to keep because we will use them is so important! My next big declutter is in my formal dining room, which is behind closed doors and in drawers of my large buffet, and then my china cabinet. Most of the items in these places, I have not used in years, some items I was gifted and don’t like, and won’t ever use again. It’s all going. What I use is in a matching armoire that is becoming disorganized due to the amount of items that will be immensely easier to be seen after emptying the aforementioned furniture!!! It’s a beautiful dining room, and I will love it more after the decluttering and reorganizing. Thank you for the video!💕

[@שירהויינשטיין]

Starting w my clothes seems itll b the HARDEST ,as I have a hard time in this area getting rid of stuff!...?!

[@forestbathing4443]

I have done the KonMari method 3x in 5 years or so. I always get a bit stuck on the kimono because I live at my elderly fathers (90) and to get rid of family mementos is VeryHard. My mother had knickknacks, my father doesn’t but has a lot of books and papers. This is the first video I watched of yours and it is VeryHelpful. I also have PTSD/depression and at times just want to throw away Everything. But I love to have things organized and clean so Thanks Much for the inspiration to keep going!

[@carriegee1610]

I have only recently found your channel and I have to say I love your videos. The way you explain things is brilliant and so real. If I feel disheartened or lack motivation, I watch one of your videos! Thank you 😘😁

[@elainae8366]

I just discovered your channel today (starting with this one) which is 2 years after & gonna use it as for my 2020 startup! Thank you so much

[@HowToGYST]

Hurray! Best of luck!

[@cojun1974]

that was just amazing - to hear you address so many of my doubts and issues . that really helped me a lot in my process, thanks!

[@l0uann3]

Thanks. My house was a mess during the first days of Konmari method. Overwhelming.

[@HowToGYST]

As with so many things, I think it has to get worse before it gets better. 😉 How far along are you now?

[@l0uann3]

How to Get Your Shit Together 😊house is slowly getting tidier now. Love my kitchen and pantry. Got everything sorted out. Thanks

[@AalyaSenai]

Your list is a LIFESAVER!!!! It makes it so much more manageable!!!

[@ohthankg-dforthebourgeoisi9800]

I found the Konmari method works best for more of the final pass after the onion method. Peeling layers of all the obvious stuff away first and the fine tune your categories with by Konmari-ing.

[@vvelvettearss]

i think i can relate to this. i started off all ambitious and like a machine but after several weeks im flagging because i didnt plan well and it is ONE room, with a sh*t ton of stuff i simply dont want/need now. Im glad she said its never stated how hard getting rid of things is. I did well for a while but couldnt keep up the energy because all i tihnk about is tidying and im getting sick of it (i dont mean that in a disdainful way) just ive reached my limit but what i'm learning is, you change as you go through it, the process changes you, your plans change, they dont always stay the same, emotions are temporary, attachment sometimes doesnt last and is sometimes there for a reason its just one just LEARNING curve especially for a newcomer to this like myself. I'm quite proud of myself i have managed to organise and get rid of items without a car but yes its the fine tuning now and it went from planning and disposing, made a very thorough list of a boxful that helped a lot, to decorating the walls because i was starting to feel depressed by the emptiness and now im just kind of burned out but snapped and discarded LOADS of things i was previously attached to lol It really is one big LEARNING experience so we just need to take time with it and be open as we go

[@manitaadhikari8942]

My biggest struggle " I don't know what to do with the stuff after declutter. I can't found any donation center in our city and all my decluttered items are staying with me even after 1 month. I just feel like I don't want to do this anymore". My husband is very supportive though he is not in the game, he never argues with me about decluttering things from home but I am very careful while decluttering his stuff. He is very much attached with his mom, who passed away this winter and I take special time to take care of his mom goods which was handed to him. Thank you for your tips

[@flossiesmommydoggo77]

Just found you & love how your messages are all short, sweet, & to the point, with useful examples. No long intro about what the person is going to be telling us (in 10 min. time...), why everyone should listen to her, how understanding she is, & other general comments made to (in her own mind, I guess...🙄) make her look like the most fabulous guru on earth, as I find so many other bloggers/vloggers do. 😆 I’ve already learned from you in just a few videos, & you’ve definitely given me food for thought. Thank you!

[@davidwellman287]

I’ve just discovered this method a few days ago and am now looking at my spaces and am feeling a bit of resistance to start. However, also just discovered your channel and it is very good. It was your folding video that got me to subscribe.

[@faithrada]

I love the idea of Before and After pictures. Brilliant! : )

[@HowToGYST]

I wish I always remembered to take them but sometimes I just dive into a project. But I take them anytime I think of it, and it really helps me see how much progress I've made (especially when it feels like I've barely made any at all).

[@loistanglao4126]

Hey Laura! Thank you so much for this. I have been doing the KonMari method for about a year now, and I was just starting to feel hopeless because it seemed like no one was cooperating with me. These things are exactly what I needed to hear.

[@papermason]

KM method is very time consuming, but worth it. I went through the method twice. I don't add any ceremony to this method, but it does make me think about how much I need. You're very wise. You have the right to decide for a young child -- people who have a problem with that, well, it's their problem.

[@BlahBlah-sz4ne]

I have been decluttering bit by bit for over a year now and made a lot of progress over the 2018 holiday season. I have started watching decluttering videos like this as motivation and often find myself stopping part way through to dash off and do another drawer or cupboard. Or thinking of an item I did not declutter and should have. I keep one place in my coat cupboard where I stash random decluttered things so it becomes an ongoing and evolving process I am not sure will ever be finished. Two days ago I opened a kitchen cupboard and asked myself - why do I have that - which ended up with another box of items to donate. I have only just subscribed and find your approach refreshingly practical and flexible. I will never be a minimalist but am much happier even with my partial declutter status.

[@gapeach51170]

I love the concept of the KonMari method but I work full time outside the home and I know I don't want to spend my weekends doing each category or pulling out too much that I can't get done before bedtime... combining a little Flylady and Marie Kondo - I use Flylady's- declutter 15m per day in the "zone" you are working on. I use an empty rubber maid bin. I go into the zone I am working in that week and I pick a cabinet, drawer, flat surface (what ever I decide on for that day) and I empty the chosen space into the bin. I usually go sit in front of the tv while I go through each thing. I use Marie's advice - "does it bring me joy" or if it's a hard decision for me I ask myself 2 questions: 1. "Can I find a useful purpose for this item that I can start implementing today" or 2. " if I knew something horrible was going to happen to all my belongings and someone told me I had 30 minutes to get anything out of my house I didn't want destroyed - would I choose this item?" Those 2 questions put the item into prospective for me and helps with the final decision. I am not trying to promote another method on your channel but Flylady is a great source after you have decluttered to come up with routines and plans to keep your space tidy. Thanks for the content. Great information!

[@HowToGYST]

Yes, I'm familiar with FlyLady, and I know many of my subscribers use and love her system. =) Looks like you're putting it to great use too!

[@dia9491]

Love this video. My husband and I have been working the Konmari method for two weeks. He has a hard time with joy vs I have to have it, eg socks, underwear, etc. He has no attachment to them other than them being a necessity. So he worries on his side that he isn't doing it right. I told him that he should just keep what he needed and if the elastic was worn out in socks that that was a clear way of knowing he could let go. I was worried he was going to get rid of all his socks lol In the end, and we've been working clothes for two weeks now we are almost finished with our closet. We needed a better seasonal storage system for out of season clothing. One thing I worry about is bulk buying. We buy certain toiletries in bulk to save money but also we have three bathrooms to stock. So I'm not sure if Konmari can cover these things like toothpaste, extra toothbrushes, soaps, etc. Right now I use a messy spare closet but I'd like to figure this out if you or anyone else has advice on this situation. I feel like buying in bulk, might not go with konmari but I have too or I'm going to the store too often to buy the same things over and over.

[@theoffkeydiva]

Several large charities in my home town will pick up donations. I definitely calling the organisation you'll be donating to to see if that's a service they offer. I just had to label the bags and put them on the curb

[@HowToGYST]

Yes, definitely a great service, and eliminates any excuses for not getting rid of stuff almost immediately.

[@evelynvongizycki1017]

Salvation Army picks up by where I live

[@EzAnderson]

Can’t thumbs up this enough 👌🏻 great advice.

[@HowToGYST]

Thanks so much, Esther. 😁

[@milenkata22]

Thank you for this video! My obstacle is with the rule “sort by category”. It’s not that I have too much stuff, but rather I don’t have enough space to put it all from one category in one place. So I end up having shoes in the hallway and in a shoe drawer; books in more than one library, glassware in more than one cupboard and in different rooms. I feel like things are scattered all over the place..

[@mandy18573]

start in sub categories - wow super advice also! helps me a lot as well.

[@cathealey1]

I did end up taking photos of the children's books I had saved "for my children, someday." It actually helped me say goodbye, as I knew I could get them when they're needed...you know, when I have actual children!

[@HowToGYST]

Ah, the dreaded "I might need it someday". A bit of a curse. Snapping pictures is a big help though. Or writing a list. Nice work! 🙂

[@brynl-k4118]

I love the fact that all of the obstacles you mentioned we're basically the order I was thinking them in as you addressed them. Thank you for making things way more realistic. It can get kind of stressful and give you anxiety sometimes, so these tips were great. Thank you for your videos.

[@itsalwayshalloweenexceptwh5118]

The difficulty with "spark joy" is that it gives me trouble with sentimental items. So I ask myself "does this fit in the image of my ideal future life?" instead. I used to have a hard time getting rid of very old agendas/planners when I had decorated them so nicely. Old wallets I also had trouble getting rid of.

[@HowToGYST]

That's a great question! I struggle with old planners too.

[@missartsyful]

These tips are amazing! I especially loved the komono advice!

[@laramarszewski-reeves8505]

By a drink n snacks do you mean vodka n chocolates?? 😉

[@HowToGYST]

I don't drink alcohol or eat chocolate but if they're what get you through, go for it. Just don't operate any heavy machinery or handle sharp objects. 😉😂

[@MissHappiness36]

Lara Reeves 😆👌🏻

[@ericnorthman4846]

TGANKS FOR THE VERY HELOFUL TIPS. AND TO THOSE PEOPLE WHO CRITISIZED YOU FOR DOING THE SAME WITH THE KIDS STUFF - THEY ARE THE ONES WHO HAVE "TOY" ROOMS WHERE THERE ARE PILES OF STUFF AND THE KIDS DO NOT KNOW WHAT THEY HAVE - SO APPRECIATION IS GONE. THAT'S SOMETHING TO TEACH!

[@ellenstam-mulder3002]

so true, i did it that way too. I think he is now ready to really participate. he can let things go now. I found that I could no longer do my hobbies because of rheumatism it was very difficult to get rid of it. But in these three years I have improved so much in thinking and what I and my husband thought about it. That made my husband think. we have come a long way. And I want to do konmarie again. I like it and now we finally want to give everything a place in a smaller home. I am quite stagnant. i am a bee (clutterbug).

[@dzymslizzy3641]

My main problem seems to be that too many things bring my joy/happiness/contentment/whatever term you want to substitute...LOL And it isn't about not having the passion or interest in the craft/hobby/or what have you, but just that I'm not good at prioritizing my time, plus I am a recent widow, and coming off several years of being sole caretaker, and just not having any time I felt I could be out of earshot in my studio. Now, I'm kind of depressed, so I'm hoping to get back into my crafts/scrapbooking/photography, etc...in the hopes it will be therapeutic, so I'm not tossing any of that stuff yet. As to the sub-categories: great idea! I started with all the clothes in my closet; the drawers came later. Still working on another set of drawers. My office is my biggest bugaboo; and that's both a room and a category all rolled into one. It IS office space; the contents are all office-related, but it is a disorganized mess. My hubby used to say that if I took something to the office "for safekeeping," that it went into a black hole, never to be seen again. Sigh. Thumbs up on your ideas!

[@שירהויינשטיין]

And thanks for your tips.They ansered some of my questions!

[@Nicole-yi2lo]

This video is sooooo helpFULL! I haven't tackled Kon Mari for anything, but I have the motivation now thanks to your suggestion of taking before/after photos and photos of the stuff leaving. Thank you!!

[@roxanaspinelli6382]

Thanks for the advice. The Pre-Konmari. Great. This motivates me to start.

[@Jennifer-rv9sb]

Wonderful video ! EXCELLENT!!! Bravo !!! 👏🏽

[@rekhasbasappa2116]

Thank you! You just helped me read my mind.

[@SimplyJoyful]

So much good information here !!! Thank You So Much for the Detailed List for KonMari !!! I know it will work so much better for me to be broken down into sub categories !!!

[@HowToGYST]

You're so very welcome. Only took me a few weeks to put together. 😂 So I'm always delighted when I hear that someone's actually using it. Best of luck with the Method!

[@SimplyJoyful]

Your List Is So Logical !!! I Love it !

[@HowToGYST]

It was a labour of love.

[@k.l.8804]

Hi! Great advice, great video! Went over to your blog post about Swedish death cleaning too but couldn't find any comment section so hope its ok I comment it here? I've heard it being mentioned before & one aspect of death cleaning I think many people forget is not just what would bring my loved ones joy, but also, what do I & do I not want them to see! My diaries for example. Are they interesting reflections or sources of family history? Or just emotional rantings that not even I want to read again, ever? So what am I ok or comfortable with others to read when I'm gone and what not. Also, if you want a special trinket to be passed on down the generations, perhaps you should declutter all useless trinkets/baubes so your valuable thing doesnt get confused with & thrown aeay with the trinkets.

[@Lashlove16]

K. L. I love what you wrote ... declutter useless stuff so your loved ones can easily find the good stuff ... regarding your diaries ... I had difficulty with that ... I ended up getting rid of most of it .

[@HowToGYST]

Great advice, especially about getting rid of the useless stuff so the true gems shine. I’d definitely have trouble with diaries though. I like to read back over mine, but I’m not sure I’d want anyone else to. It’s a pickle!

[@Elemiriel]

@ HTGYST just put on the cover "boring rantings of little importance" and that should solve the problem lol

[@debbiemueller7067]

I imagine it would take too much time for most folks, but on the diary front - maybe scan them and just keep digital copies. You’ll still be able to go back and read them, but it’s unlikely any family member will pore through your digital files after you’re gone, especially if you keep them in a password-protected place. Of course, you’d need to remember the password if you ever want to read through them again! Also, it does open up the possibility of hackers getting to the info, so if you plan on running for public office, maybe don’t try my idea.

[@samm-dj4zz]

@@Lashlove16 I have someone I trust who swore to burn the journals unread after I die

[@ntr10me]

I'm ashamed to admit how tremendously useful I found this. It means I was clearly swimming upstream backwards with only my thumbs. Thank you ^_^

[@HowToGYST]

Aw, I'm delighted you found it helpful. 😁

[@mirjamlimburg9040]

Very motivating the way you deal with the obstructions everybody has to deal with. Thank you for giving us so much advise. I have one advise too, and that is how to keep it clean and no clutter to restart... Don’t buy anything that you not really need. That is the reason we have so much stuff. I am one of them and trying very hard to not buy . So don’t look for things that are nice etc. it is very tempting to push the button for buying. And more important the resources of the earth can’t handle what we are consuming. It is now we have to come in action otherwise it is to late. Thank you, bye Mirjam

[@kaberroneill94]

Give yourself permission to work outside of, or ignore, certain categories. For example, I'm a total bibliophile. I have a lot of books. I have a guideline - I have a To Be Read shelves and Keep shelves. To go from TBR to Keep I ask myself after I read it, "will I re-read this?" If the answer is yes, it gets Kept. But I have a lot more Kept books than Marie Kondo suggests. I'm okay with that because they give me joy to look at.

[@nancytesta-meyer5408]

I agree with doing a "KonMari Prep" to free up sorting space, as well as make the easier decisions. I did separate shared items into bins so that other family members could still decide (after I didn't want it)--the decision is then the family members' with less conflict.

[@whatdoyoulivefor735]

FINALLY! A decent video about the KM Method. Been trudging through all the sub par ones currently cluttering YT. I'm going to do a pre-KM Method tidy/purge, as things have reached dire straights here! Thanks for the tip, gonna watch all your video on this subject 👍 👍

[@HowToGYST]

Aw, thanks so much. The early ones are pretty bad though. Ha ha. Best of luck with your pre-KMing. Stick with it!

[@whatdoyoulivefor735]

@@HowToGYST Thanks! Excited to start this journey with you as my guide.

[@HowToGYST]

Remember to take 'before' pictures. Sometimes, when you're right in the thick of it, you'll want to give up because you'll feel like you're not making any progress. But have a look at your 'before' pictures and you'll realise how far you've come.

[@IamNG8]

yup stuck in komono :) for a long time now...

[@petawarrenschannel8035]

I like the konmari method for folding clothes I fitted heaps into an 88 litre storage container if you view my most recent video from my channel you will see just how much stuff I still have to sort out

[@belindacarter6872]

You have a voice like the good witch, Glenda

[@nighatnaqi6797]

Good to know someone else finds her voice weird & kind of trembling.Sorry dont want to be mean but its different

[@brookewood5523]

Haha! It does! And I like it!

[@illaia]

It sounds Irish. I love the accent!

[@SindyKaraoke]

I am usually annoyed by "not so perfect" voices, but these advice were sooo healing at the stressful beginning of my KM journey, that she's forgiven

[@davidwellman287]

Find her voice soothing.

[@adinashaina9977]

Thank you for this! I have been decluttering my life and... UGH! YEAH! The obstacles are truly within a soul. I agree with the chuck the garbage and junk you don't want don't need can't use immediately. And the losers in the same space as you who simply refuse to get onboard with the cleaning and clearing.... I can't get on with them. That crap they bring in on the daily yet never pick up... SMH. They need their own rat hole for their garbage and not one bit is to come into the conjoined areas. I enjoy peace. And peace begins in the eye. . . of the beholder.

[@DanceswithDustBunnies]

I think your box idea for the mess is similar to what I do. I treat a table stacked with shit as a category. Get rid of trash first, then things I don't want, then cart what doesn't belong to the room where it does, to be dealt with later.

[@hii324-n4n]

You are so awesome. I love to watch your videos!! Thank you.

[@crystalanderson5901]

You have great ideas! Thank you for breaking down all of the issues!

[@kathiefleming2830]

this particular post was very helpful to get your mind around the Konmari method. thanks

[@HowToGYST]

You're very welcome. 🙂 Are you starting the process?

[@vivianevans4956]

What makes you such an expert!!!

[@HowToGYST]

The fact that I've actually done it. ;)

[@MildredCady]

Just found your channel while looking for declutter and organization ideas. Thank you!

[@jamcc4467]

Such FANTASTIC tips!! Was worth every moment. Thank y9u for sharing your invaluable advice!!!!

[@jobmelo3239]

Muito encorajador!! Muito obrigada! 🥰

[@HowToGYST]

De nada. 🙂

[@lumay1966]

Like you, I did my first round in Sept-Nov 2014, and I arranged donation pickups as the items started piling up. In the U.S., we have the Vietnam Vets Organization, and they will pick up donation items. You have to arrange for donation and pickup of larger items, but it makes it so easy to get the stuff out of the house.

[@HowToGYST]

It's definitely worth doing if someone nearby will collect. Sadly, it's not really a big thing in Ireland.