Common Med Student Mistake | Ready for Baby #2 ?!

[@fatimaa1418]

Hi Jenny, I just thought I would share my parents' story of having kids and med school/residency. So my mom was in medical school and my dad was doing his residency when they had my two siblings and I (all three of us have a 2 yr age difference). Growing up I never had an issues with feeling lonely while my parents worked long hours and were on-call because I had my siblings. My parents also made it a point to attend our school functions and spend quality time with us so everything worked out just fine. Im just amazed at how my mother and father handled going through med school and taking care of 3 kids!!!! God bless them ♡

[@drjennale]

That is amazing!! I really needed this. Thank you ❤️

[@ViolinMD]

Hi Jenny! Glad you had such a great vaca - wow talk of another baby!! Eek exciting... I’m selfish and would love to see you with another adorable baby, but at the same time I’m already in awe of your time management skills and don’t know how you do it!! Hope you have a great derm rotation! ❤️

[@drjennale]

I think we all amaze each other! Like how did you even have time to film and edit your last video?!

[@ViolinMD]

haha yeah it did feel like an extra call shift last night... I was up so late editing 😂

[@drjennale]

Me too ... but I have another night shift tonight so I though I’d stay up late sleep in. Didn’t end of sleeping in 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@ViolinMD]

ahhhh classic! my plan is to sleep in tomorrow.. but i don't have a little one to stop me!! haha

[@zeuszeus5292]

Violin MD Just finished watching one of your videos! 😂

[@chadrichards4681]

I have four kids and am in med school. My thoughts are this, don't feel guilty thinking you aren't giving your kid enough attention. If you have siblings you'll probably remember how so much of what you learn growing up comes from the relationship you have with your brothers and sisters. It's healthy for kids to have independence and they'll love you all the more when you're around.

[@comoelitamelendez8467]

Chad Richards Nice to hear from another non traditional! Plan on making a vlog covering this. I am not in Med School yet, have to complete a Post Bacc to get more Sciences. I took a lot of Math because I was originally a Math major before switching to Accounting for the sake of graduating faster. Realized I hate Accounting as a job and wanted to pursue what always wanted to do, Medicine. I thought having kids was pretty much a no go for med school but realized it didn’t have to be. God bless!

[@sbllewellyn]

Oh goodness, I’m a mother, and I’m 30 years old, and I’ve been in school since my daughter was 2. I was also a single mother up until 4 years ago. I’ve been in the position where I’ve worked 2 jobs while going to school, and now I’m working full time and going through a very demanding full time nursing program. I have also felt so incredibly guilty that I’m not spending enough time with my child, and I also have put off having another child that we all want so badly. I’m going to say this; it’s normal to feel guilty, but remember why you are doing what you’re doing. You are setting a wonderful example for your child/children. I’m also going to say that there is never a right time to have a child. You have to do what feels right for you and your family. You’re doing a wonderful job, and I have to remind myself constantly that I’m doing all of this work for my daughter and my families future, and I’m loving her. That’s what you’re doing. You’re being a good mom. Stay strong, we will get through this and it will be incredibly worth it.

[@DavidHindin]

Love these videos, Jenny. And shout out to the "approximate, don't strangulate" mantra! We still say that in surgery residency, too :) Hope you got to have some downtime with your family this wknd - amazed at how you guys manage it all.

[@laibakhan3769]

Am i the only one that follows Jenn lee, strive to fit, jane and jady and violin med!?

[@Memoriasxvida]

They are my faves!

[@laibakhan3769]

LoveSeoul i know!! I get so inspire by all of them!! By any chance are u an army?

[@royjohnson9043]

no

[@Memoriasxvida]

I am an ELF mainly, but I do love BTS SOOOO MUCH! Or do you mean like literal army? lol I'm not in the army xD

[@laibakhan3769]

LoveSeoul Nope i didnt mean a real army soldiers😅 the army of the bts is what i meant! Bt i wonder what soldiers would do on youtube that to on a doctors video😂🤔

[@sazizi3570]

I like how you talked about something so real. I feel like most people in grad school/ residency that I follow on youtube never talk about these things, so I feel alone in wanting to have a demanding job and a family at the same time. Really, the way you manage life is so awe inspiring. About your dilemma- Personally, I'm the second child of five. My first older sister is 4 years older, and my closest younger brother is 5 years younger. I never have felt that I wasn't close to them because of our age gap. I don't think that is something that you have to worry about. If you are ready for another child now, I say go for it. If not, then you can wait awhile. I think you'll be fine either way.

[@trinigl]

Hi Jenny Firstly, I love your channel I don't typically comment on videos but I wanted to give you some positive feedback on the baby venture. I am currently on baby number three, he is two weeks old, my older kids Diana and Zac are 14 and 11 respectfully. I am a premed student and full time Nurse and officer with the USAF. I want to say I was fearful of a large age gap since D and Zac are so close in age 2yrs and 8mths apart and my current son Jackson is clearly much further from them but they love their little brother so much and spend so much time with him that I forget how big of a gap there is. As you know working and having a newborn is tough but when it happens no matter when it does your such a confident person and Wyatt is such a great baby he will love his new sibling now matter what the age difference is. I can see they will be super close siblings especially from watching his interaction with the little girl in this video. He was so patient and seemed to enjoy being around her. Best of luck to you and I am sure the new addition will come at the right time for you and your family.

[@justarandomperson33]

So my only sibling, my brother, is 5 years older than me and we've always been best friends. Maybe that's not normal cause people do always seem surprised that we actually like each other, but I wouldn't change the age difference at all. When I say "always been best friends" I literally mean that we have pictures of me days old laying on the couch with my brother, pictures of me 2 years old laying in my brothers race-car bed with him reading to me, and we also played wiffle ball together legit every single day for as long as I can remember. We're 23 and 28 now, I live alone in NYC and he lives with his wife in Seattle, and we're still really close even though we live totally different lives. So many people think that being close in age is what makes siblings close but I really don't think that's true at all.

[@drjennale]

Reading this just made me so happy! Thank you for sharing ❤️

[@c3hanvinmotion435]

My mom had my lil sister when I was 12yrs old...I'm now 35 and she's 23 and we've always been close. I hated when my mom would make me babysit her though but I guess that's why we're so close till this day.

[@carlyemings7481]

Thanks for talking about this! I’m planning on getting married this year, and we’ve talked about having kids and don’t know when we would have them with me being in med school and then being in residency later! I did have one physician tell me that residency can be an okay time to have a baby, so long as you’re in a family friendly residency where hopefully you can take some maternity leave. It sounds like you do have a pretty family friendly residency if there are several residents who are having children right now too :).

[@drmedemilie]

I think you answered your own question! There is never the right time but you want it in your heart so go for it! And the guilt about not spending enough time or pay enough attention in Wyatt won’t change if he is 1 or 5.

[@TheOliviaNicole]

My mom had me and my sister Sophie 13 months apart and worked full time as an MRI Technologist by herself as a single mom. She would work 80 hours pregnant with my sister while i was in the care of my grandmother and aunts. she still worked her regular 80 hour+ work week while also being on call after giving birth to Sophie and for a huge chunk of my early life but i still remember her being there for me and my sister. She tended to us both and i think me and my sister only being a year apart made things easier as far as entertaining and spending time with us. I know you might want it to be the perfect situation but honestly growing up and with my mom being at work i was able to keep myself busy and entertained with my sister all the time since we could play together and do the same things. So i know you’re thinking about going through your residency pregnant, but if Wyatt’s best interest is at hand, i recommend having a baby before he turns 3 so that he can have someone to play with while you’re working and he won’t seem so alone to you. It worked out fine for me and my sister and our family dynamic is perfect and we’re in college now. so at first it’ll be kinda hard but it’ll be worth it in the long run. You can do it momma!

[@caitlynhill1234]

I know this is late but my brother is 3 years younger than me and we are very close but not so close we are on top of each other. It was nice to have a few years in school by myself then go to high school my last year together. I'm pretty sure we will do undergrad at the same school for a year or two. I had a single mom who's a nurse and we are very close and have a good relationship even though she worked all the time. She feels a lot of guilt about it but we both turned out just fine. Don't stress too much about it you will have a family full of love!

[@l.thomas2591]

My siblings and I are 9 and 11 years older than me. It was weird growing up, because it always felt like we had two different sets of parents with how much had changed in the 10 years between us. I usually felt like my siblings were closer to each other than they were to me, but as adults, we’ve gotten closer. I always wished that I had had a sibling closer to my age, but my parents were about 40 when I was born, so they were done having kids.

[@brandystar100]

You should wait until he's like 2 to try for another one, always remember you can always have a career but you cannot get back your child bearing years, you will make a great decision either way.

[@aliciamcknight5946]

I have a 2.5 year old and a 10 month old. They are 22 months apart. It definitely is a lot of work but there are some things that almost seem easier. The baby will play with the toddler a bit and it’s amazing to see them love on each other. Everything you’re feeling is totally normal. I felt guilty for being pregnant and not having the energy to keep up with my toddler, I felt guilty about taking time away from one to give to the other and I felt like I couldn’t love another child as much as I loved my first but as soon as my son was born all of those worries went away. My daughter is so so happy to have a little brother and now I wish I could go back and tell myself not to worry.

[@drjennale]

❤️❤️❤️ thank you so much! I feel like I’m just a worrier in generally but being a mom has intensified it x100

[@amyap785]

Mine are also 22 months apart, but are now 4 and almost 6! And it is just right. They are buddies!! I had high risk pregnancies and worked full time and pumped for a year with both. You learn as you go along, and I am close to the both of them. My sibs are 5 and 7 years younger, and they are closer to one another. I miss my kids’ infant and toddler days - it goes by so fast! Now my son reads at bedtime to ME!!!

[@shaunanorthup7698]

I'm in a very similar boat! My daughter is 2, and my husband would LOVE to have another, but I'm not sure if I'm ready. I'm applying to medical school this summer, and I'm currently doing a masters program, so there's anxiety lot going on. I feel many of the same fears and hesitancies you do, especially considering that getting stuff done while pregnant can be a nightmare at times., let alone doing everything pregnant AND with a toddler! Then I feel selfish for not wanting one because it would be harder on me, but then I rationalize that I wouldn't have time to spend with each child. The back and forth never ends. I also ended up with postpartum ocd/anxiety, and it was terrifying and debilitating, so I'm afraid of going through all of that again. Ugh, it is definitely not an easy decision.

[@dianaabbas3]

Hi Jenny, I dont know if this is helpful or not, but im a younger sibling of 5 and just wanted to let you know im extremely close and best friends with my siblings (both brothers and sisters) who 4 years older than me and more! I actually love that they are older than me because I get to learn so much from them! I guess what im trying to say is my advice would be to just do it again whenever youre ready, a 3 or 4 year age gap is not too much, tbh seems like just the perfect amount!

[@1234happysmile]

Hi Jenny! Those are very thoughtful things to consider when having another baby! But I think that Wyatt would not have a lesser quality sibling bond simply because of an age gap of 4 years or such. It's all about how they're raised at the get-go (for ex, when Wyatt is participating in games or activities such as yoga or music lessons, he could learn to include his younger sibling (regardless of whether it's a boy or girl) and I still think they would have a splendid time!) And in terms of best friendship, siblings that learn to respect and love one another very often grow up to be best friends forever, especially when high school or university comes around. I do think it is possible to be best friends with somone that is even several years older than us, I've definitely seen it happen 😉. Love you and cutey little Wyatt ❤️. And I'm sure that regardless of whatever decision you make, you'll succeed at it!

[@dancingwiththedocs134]

I can't say I know what it's like being a new resident and having kids, but with three kids of my own that are about two years apart, I like that they are close in age. However, you will give most of yourself to them and not get a lot of time to yourself for a little bit. lol! It wasn't too terrible because I knew they needed me, but there were times when I didn't think I could go another day. BUT I took it one day at a time and found ways to have down time, even if it was only five minutes. lol! Having a husband that helps you, though, I imagine is tremendously helpful. :)

[@jertricerena9174]

I am also a student and I struggle with this as well. My son is almost 2 and between work and school, I feel so guilty. I often times feel like I don't give him enough time. I totally understand. I am the only girl of 4 children. My older 2 brothers and I are 4 years a part and we are close, of course we had little sibling spats but I feel that's normal. My youngest brother and I are 6 years a part and still just as close.The decision is ultimately yours. Do what makes you content because that will ultimately determine your kids happiness. If I do know anything is that women are totally super heros 😊

[@lvnjden4ever]

I have 4 kids, my first 3 are each 6 years apart, my last 2 are 17 months apart (15, 9, 3, 1 1/2). The two toddlers are definitely best friends, but the balance can be hard at first. My older ones don’t really get a long because they are in different phases in their lives. I worked two jobs for my last two pregnancies (which was essentially like being pregnant for two years straight lol) and it was tiring but doable. I miscarried a few months ago and it was really difficult, we had thought we were done and were surprised to be expecting again and then devastated by the loss. We are trying for another at this time. There really will never be “a good time” but I believe things always work themselves out.

[@gigileon25]

Hi Jenny! I’m a mom of two. 4 year age gap between them, a boy and a girl. I can honestly say, I sometimes regret waiting so long to have baby #2 (our son). The age gap alone, makes my attention more towards my son than my daughter because My son was the youngest and needed to be fed, changed and what not. My daughter Kaylee, being 4 at the time.... needed not as much. I am in school for radiography so it is hard to manage both school and mom duties but I don’t think there is ever a good time. Life is too short and time flies, and in the end things always work out Xoxoxox

[@cicelypflieger8919]

My situation is somewhat opposite but perhaps relatable. My husband and I have 2 girls, aged 8 and 4 years old. We are both Pre-Med students with former careers in EMS. I've mostly stayed at home and been a student while they've been little. They are 4 years apart but play very well together. Occasionally they clash because of being on different age based behaviors but the oldest is very understanding. At these ages they have very similar interests and share all their toys. My advice is have a second child when you and your body feels ready..don't rush it for silly reasons because mentally and emotionally you need to be ready for the second one AND you WILL know because all the sudden you will just be ready. At least you got medical school done already. And no there's never a perfect time when matching up a career with children...there's pros and cons to every situation. You'll make the right decision!

[@xFree2Partii51]

I have three siblings. My oldest sister and youngest sister (5 years apart) love each other but the relationship is definitely different than the rest of ours. I’m the third child and I’m very close to all of my siblings, even with my oldest one who is 3.5 years older than me. We hangout all the time and always have, even when I was a weird middle schooler and she was in high school. My older brother is about 1.5 years older than me and we are also super close, and my younger sister is 1.5 years younger and we are best friends. I’m a huge advocate for having your kids close in age, because we are all so close and it doesn’t feel weird to hangout with all of them because we aren’t in very different stages of our lives!!

[@perez1708]

Ha! Let me know when you figure it out. ;P Nursing student here. I'm in a similar situation as you (when you planned for baby Wyatt). You are not alone! I have the exact same fears, feelings, emotions as you do. My husband and I are very career driven yet we both want kiddos. It's a difficult choice any way you slice it, however, I do think the fact we are both in the medical field may be useful when issues with childcare come up. I recently came across a video by ZdoggMD and it was a mother's day edition (I think it's about a year or so old). It discussed the disparity that women working in healthcare face. While it didn't reduce any of my fears/feelings it made me more sure in my decision. It gave me ideas on how to tackle the Choice.

[@yo8islate]

My brother is 9 years older than me and my sister is 5 years older and we're all very close with each other. I personally don't think it's necessarily the age gap that affects the relationship or closeness but rather just always having spent lots of time together growing up (whether this was my parent's "forcing" us or not :p) So I personally don't think the age gap should be as big an issue as whether you are personally ready. I realize having a baby anytime during residency will be a struggle, so I think it should be based on your mental preparedness for the physical and emotional changes at this specific time. This is just my opinion, but no matter what just know that you are doing great! (Mom guilt is real!)

[@pipermeloche7915]

My brother and I have an 11 years age gap and we are best friends! Don't worry about the age gap being too large, I feel like it eliminated the need for jealousy between us when we were younger. Whatever feels right to you will be great!

[@anniehall2737]

This is obviously just my perspective but my younger sibling and I are about four years apart and we've always gotten along great.

[@lalala36710]

My sister is 9 years older than me. That wasn't intentional (my sister comes from my moms previous marriage but she was raised in the same household with me, rather than with her dad). We were definitely not close growing up lol. But when I got into high school and we became friends and now we have a good relationship! I personally would like to have my kids closer in age so that they have someone to grow up with because it was kinda lonely being the only kid in the house at the age of 9, but kids farther apart in age can still have good relationships even if it takes a little longer!

[@xolalvar20xo]

I have 2 kids myself and on the path to medical school and I had always thought about having my kids after I was done. BUT then life happened lol & I have a 6yr old and a 1yr old. I hope once I get into Medical school this year I can manage like you. I believe children are blessings and if it happens it happens. Love your videos you’re such an inspiration to me. 💕☺️👏🏼

[@angelayang5183]

Having siblings is amazing when growing up! Even if you don’t have a lot of time to take care of them they will have each other. In the end it’s up to you to see if you choose to work and have two kids at the same time or choose to save most of your time outside of your career for Wyatt. Either way here’s some internet support hehehe :) and hello Wyatt!!

[@love_nyc_]

Maybe wait till you finish your residency and when life slows down a bit , have two kids close in age then? That way you can concentrate on your son now and in the future when you have more time, have more babies. I grew up as the only child and I wouldn't trade it for anything. I'm sure Wyatt would love having all your attention now for a few years and then get siblings down the line.

[@drjennale]

I can’t imaging having more than two kids lol but it’s nice to hear only child life is good too! Stan and I have siblings very close in age so we don’t really know any other view of growing up

[@lookingforsure]

Sibling love is not really about the age gap but the upbringing. Teach wyatt to care for and love the next baby and they'll get along just fine.

[@samaphilip196]

i was planning on having my first baby after finishing my third year of pharmacy school since my last year is all about rotation i think you should definitely have your second and yes i agree on the age 2 years between each child is the best thing!!

[@drjennale]

That’s mean I need to start trying soon! 😅

[@75Dlozano]

Something is always going to come up. Making it never the perfect timing for another baby. But Stan being at home is a huge help. Hope you decide for baby #2 soon!!!! Good luck 👍

[@jaimeOZ]

I’m a mom of 2. Boy then girl. They are 2 years and 8 months apart. Perfect age gap for us. My son was potty trained before my daughter came but they are super close and have a lot of fun together. 3 years apart in school which I think is good so they are together but have some space. They are 4 and 6 now and I have loved the age gap the entire time.

[@abigailangel5475]

Hi Jenny! I personally am an only child and although I had a great childhood I would have loved to have the opportunity to grow up with siblings. My fiance, however, has 2 brothers close in age and one that is 11 years younger than him. I do think they all get along nicely but I do find that the three older ones have more in common due to their age gap. I think it's important to give Wyatt a sibling he can share his life with and although it might be hard for you because you are so busy, your family is forever and I'm sure you will be happy with your decision down the road. Either way, I'm sure you and Stan will decide what is best for your family.

[@erleneolson7064]

Hey Jenny love the video. If it helps I babysat 2 kids for a while n they are 3 years apart n still close. Relationships for a sister n brother will be different then a brother brother relationship. Also don’t feel bad about parenting, you’re doing well because ur baby is happy and healthy and feels loved. You’re the super woman, never forget

[@sibongileseale1977]

The opening kills me "He's a he's so cute awwww" hahaha Jane is adorable!

[@741Frankie]

My little sister and I are four years apart and she is my best friend. Ever since she was born we have been obsessed with each other so don’t worry. She’s 13 and I’m 17 and we’re still so close it’s crazy people think we’re twins. Follow your heart

[@balletd11]

Hello Jenny! I was wondering if you could do a video with tips for studying for the MCAT? In particular the physics and ochem section :( lol

[@jordyniwalker]

Love the music that's in the background of the video. I used it in a video a couple weeks ago too!

[@Grant4274]

Hi Jenny! I love your videos! I was just wondering, are you teaching Wyatt Vietnamese? Thanks for the videos! They’re getting me through studying for the MCAT :)

[@234lollypolly]

loved the clinical tips section thanks a lot!!

[@xlalaladida]

Beautiful video. I trust that you will figure it out and either way you will make a wonderful parent.

[@thomaslapsley8145]

I have a question, I shop at a store called Sunrise Japanese Supermarket on 41st street in NYC and there is this petite woman, I guess around thirty years old women that I always talk to that works there and I have known her for around two years. We are friends. When I first started going there her face was clear then it started to break out in a acne form type butterfly rash and hasn't changed in over a year. I got upset when some people said she had herpes and then some people said she had Lupus. I asked her if she had any other symptoms and she said no. I ruled out Lupus. I think that herpes is out also. The acne form never suppressed. I think it's diet/environment related. I don't want to lose her friendship. I only see her when I go to this store around five times a week but, feel she is one of the few friends I have made since I moved to New York City. I think she doesn't go to a doctor for lab work. I don't know what it possible is and I don't know how to approach her. She has answered my questions on symptoms without offense and really is a very beautiful woman except for this acne form on her face. It looks like a Malar rash but, it isn't lupus and there is no rashes any where else on her body. Dermatology is real tricky to me but, I do like it and find it amazing on how so many illnesses are determined from Dermatology.

[@Sweetie17276]

I have a brother who is three years younger than me and growing up the age difference was too bad. I have a lot of great memories of playing with him

[@danielle9074]

Don't trouble your mind about a 4 year age gap being too much, if you decide you need more time. My sibling group (3 of us) is all four years apart- it wasn't by design, just happenstance My mom didn't get pregnant as soon as she expected the second time, and kept the trend going. We were in different life stages growing up, but we were still close. Bigger age gaps are kind of cool because there isn't so much comparison and rivalry. We each had our own identity. And now, that we're adults, I don't feel any age difference, we're just friends...wouldn't change it. Plus, I remember my sister being born, and that's really special to me.

[@kakiexo1423]

Regards to having another child with such a demanding job they're so many pros & cons. You will chose wisely either way but I believe family is important. They grow so quick like you said so why not take the leap & see where it takes you.

[@baileypatton9730]

My older sister and I are 13 years apart and my younger brother and I are less than 3 years apart. I'm closer to my sister than I am to my brother. Being close in age doesn't necessarily mean that they will be friends or even like each other lol. I would think realistically about it and go from there. 🙂

[@2OrdinaryGuys]

Great video! I’m a student vlogger on the way to university to study paramedic science. I’m looking at your channel and taking inspiration from this! Thank you.

[@NinaR1738]

Awww Jane is sooo adorable. Jane and Wyatt should take some photos together 😀

[@drjennale]

They have some on Wyatt’s instagram @lebillingsfamily

[@holisticchiclife9434]

Hey Jenny! What is your opinion on spa microdermabrasion, and microdermabrasion creams that you can use at home?

[@lindybosse8842]

Omg I wonder if I’ve ever been your patient! I totally go to SV hospital and SR Clinics!

[@brendasanchez5982]

My brother and I are close of age but we don't really have a bond where as a couple of my friends have siblings of 4 or more years apart and they having amazing relationships. It really depends for each family. How many more years do you have left of residency? Maybe wait towards the end of your residency like you waited during your 4th year of med school. Even if you decide to have another baby, I am sure things will work out and fall into place.

[@ohhlillersss8728]

HI Jenny! You are always inspiring!! I always watch you videos because I also wanna have a family and I feel like your friends are right. There is never a correct time to have a child but if that is what your heart wants, then you guys will make it work. As long as you guys love and try to spend as much time with you children it will work! Good luck with your decision!! And my question for you is... If you wax for a long period of time is that bad for the skin? I currently use European Wax because I hate shaving. How does waxing affect you skin? and does it make it saggy over time? (rumors I've heard of) Thank you soon much and you are amazing!!

[@yvonnechueh]

Please dont think if they're 3-4 years apart they wouldnt be able to play with each other- gender also has nothing to do with it. My younger brother is 3.5 years younger than me and he's my best friend!

[@KevinBlackKBlack2595]

I think with any thing in the world it may be hard but I'm Shure there are other Dr families who have done it and its not imposable. Also u need to do what works for u and your family because in the end what works for other people may or may not work for your family.

[@robertdavis7701]

Hi Jenny love your videos, I just wanted to say thanks for all the tips and facts about medicine. I am not in med school or anything like that but I plan on having a career in medicine and you help a lot with facts about medicine and also time management. Thx!

[@astephiesteph]

I’m a 31 year old special education teacher with a 2 year old, soon to be mom of 2. 😳I’ve been teaching for 7 years. I have reached the point where I want to take the MCAT and apply to med school within the next 3 years. I have a biology degree and a masters in education. Do you have any advice for managing med school as a mom. My husband is supportive but he is not completely on board because of the time commitment. Do you have any advice for managing it all or putting my husbands fears at ease.

[@ReclusiveMountainMan]

Whatever you guys decide, I'm sure you'll make the right choice. My wife and I chose to have just one. We enjoy each moment with Baby B. Keep us posted!

[@thaiscarvalho4022]

Hi Jenny. First, I want to say I love your videos. Second, I would like to share my experience with kids closed in age. This will be long....sorry. I have two sons who are 18 months apart. I got pregnant of my second when my first was 10 months. I currently work full time and go to school part time (pre-med). I believe this is a very personal choice since you and your husband know better than anyone how much time and support you will have. But, this is what I have to say about my experience. First, if you decide to go ahead and do it, I would say it will be easier on you of Wyatt is not breastfeeding anymore. I know some mom's breastfeed two babies, but I honestly didn't want to add to the natural jealousy that comes with a sibling. Plus, breastfeeding is a bonding time and I wanted to have that solely for the new baby. Plus, once I got pregnant of the second, my milk supply cut to a third or less. Second, it was hard to adjust innicially. My oldest was 18 months when my second was born. So, he still needed a lot of attention. I felt i didnt focus on the new baby as much as I wanted it did with my first. It's like the newborn phase of my second was a flash that went by very quickly with not much concrete memories. Third, make sure you do the same things with your second (pictures, videos, growth chart, etc) as you did with the first. We tend to not do as much with the second because they are the second, but it is important to do it. With two young kids, I have much less time to myself. In the beginning, I did get exhausted a lot. I was out of work for 4 months. When I came back to work, it was another adjustment time. It was very hard at times, especially when I was by myself and they both started to cry for different reasons. Or when I have a test coming up. The awesome part of it is that, now they are older (3 years old and 20 months) they play all the time, and fight. It's very cute to see how their relationship grows and how they enjoy each other's company. I'm not going to lie, it is a lot of work. But it is easing it out as they get more independent. Please let me know if you would like more specifics of it. I hope this helps :)

[@thaiscarvalho4022]

I forgot to add : My sister and I are 11 months apart and we had an amazing time growing up. Being so close in age, we shared friends, hanged out together, fought like cats and dogs. But she is still one of the people I trust the most. The experience I had played an important role in our decision to have the boys close in age. Keep in mind that being siblings doesn't necessarily mean they will like each other. The close age helps them to have common interests, though.

[@RohanPatel16]

Hey Jenny! Do you have any links on places where we can buy a suturing kit with practice pad that you personally recommend? I don't have any kits, and I'm starting rotations in a few months, so I wanted to be proactive after Step 1 to just get some of my psychomotor skills down early so I can rock some of my suturing skills! I know there are a lot out there, so I wanted to see what you found is the best (for the right price if possible as well). Thanks!!

[@susetgonzalez7349]

Yes during med school I know you definitely can’t work but I mean during undergrad

[@drjennale]

I work in a histology lab as a technician.

[@sydneypenrose9573]

Hi Jenny! Love your videos😊 If it helps, my brother and I are three years apart. We were always very close growing up-it really wasn't too large of a gap💁🏻 I agree with you though-if the age difference is over three years, siblings generally have a tougher time relating to each other.

[@elaineacero6315]

Love your videos. They’re always the perfect combo of medicine and family life. I think you guys are doing an awesome. You would be surprised but 3 year gap is actually really good. At least for us it was. Then I’ve heard others have them closer together and they totally rocked it. I feel you would definitely make the time. Although I know it’s crazy busy. Thanks for sharing mama💕💕💕💕

[@MyNameisDianaa]

God...I just love your videos! You're always so honest. I feel like Im your real life friend. You're an amazing mom! Im a pharmacy and future med student( at least i hope so) and you're my inspiration. Thank you for all the time and effort you put in these videos, I really apreciate it. 😊

[@traciprovins3221]

I vote to have another while you know you are able to if you want a sibling close to Wyatt’s age!! Although I don’t know how old you are lol. I’m 31, an OMS-1 and would love so much just to be able to work 1 into medical school or residency!! Wyatt always makes my day 😍 Oh thought I’d add that my brother and I are 4 years apart and it pretty much feels like I don’t have a brother because we are so different. But my mom had 8 miscarriages and we had a sister pass away very young so she is happy with the 2 she has!

[@somethingsmatter]

I think you should go for about a 2,5-3 year age gap. By then, Wyatt will be in preschool and much more independent. You could also take off a bit more time so that you can still spend time with both children. And I think part of the reason why you weren't able to look after Jane and Wyatt simultaenously was that they aren't used to being together all the time! Sibilings will be different.

[@brittanyfarias5211]

HI..IM NOT IN ANY KIND OF MEDICAL FIELD..BUT JUST WANNA SAY I REALLY ENJOY UR VLOGS&THE MEDICAL TIP BOUT THE CORRECT WAY TO STITCH SKIN WAS SO HELPFUL..LIKE I FEEL PREPARED..SO THANKS& GOOD LUCK WIT BABY DECISIONS✌🏻👍👏🏻👌🏼

[@susetgonzalez7349]

Hey Jenny, I wanted to know we’re you working while doing your pre med? Also were you living at home with parent or on campus/off campus?

[@drjennale]

I didn’t work while in medical school because school itself was a full time job. I stayed in an apartment while my parents live in another state. Most students take out loans to cover all expenses.

[@amixeblu]

A second child will take a lot off of your hands. Only children fully claim you, whereas when there's a sibling, they entertain themselves pretty much (with supervision of course). It's going to be rough the first few years, but then it will get easier, whereas with an only child they are always going to need your attention more.

[@genevali9787]

as you've mentioned you're afraid you're not giving wyatt enough attention and I've found that even though my parents would plan time to spend with each kid they ended up spending way more time they thought they would on one kid, at the expense of their health. When we were younger it was about taking care of our basic functions like feeding but when we got older it was about getting help with schoolwork and extracurriculars, which I think requires about the same amount of time, but ultimately I think it comes down to the kid because each kid is different and some are more independent than others and maybe you won't have to spend as much time. And there's no guarantee that siblings get along that well as my dad's five siblings (age gap of 1.5-2 years; lots of fighting when they were younger, now they are adults lots of passive-aggressiveness on who is better) could attest...

[@incognitos4342]

I personally don't think there is a need of another baby . He can be happy even without a sister or a brother . Plus he can have frnz and ppl around him for his childhood and he'll grow up in no time and be a big boy in 5-6 years . Imo focus on residency Just my opinion

[@drjennale]

I think it’s because Stan and I both had siblings really close in age and we loved our childhood and how we grew up. But just having Wyatt is fine with me too

[@hankgreenswife]

Hey Jenny! Random question: do you ever regret getting your belly button pierced? Has it changed at all since the baby?

[@drjennale]

Yes because mine was ripped and re-pierced way before baby. And so I have a keloid there. But I just have crazy stretch marks so I don’t think I’ll ever show my bellybutton ever again 😅

[@mirandazaragoza5204]

Do you know if a change of diet like going vegan affects skin negatively?

[@fatoumatakindydiallo2857]

Hi, I'm allergic to many skin care product. And I have I dry a dry skin specialty in winter. My skin is is very sensitive and when I try a new body oil, I get some reaction, special on my face because of the i only use dexeryl cream on my face. And other cream to the rest of body. How can find out what time of chemical in the products I'm allergic to? From a fan and Nurse student who lives in Norway 😍

[@drjennale]

Most of the time people are allergic to the fragrance in products. The dermatologist I’m with always recommends the brand “vanicream” for “free and clear” for people with sensitive skin.

[@fatoumatakindydiallo2857]

Thank you, I will try the vanicream.

[@Thatguy-yi1rx]

Your sutures are nicely done I’m impressed

[@katelynsturdivant6521]

A dermatologist came to our class and told us that we shouldn't be using moisturizer because we are too young (med school age) and our skin doesn't need it. What is your opinion on this?

[@drjennale]

I think everyone’s skin is different. So to generalize and say that all young people shouldn’t use moisturizer I think is a mistake.

[@gabbyrathtavarez]

It will be challenging regardless of age gaps bc you will have a newborn and Wyatt. But Wyatt will gradually become independent. If you only want two kids, I say three years.Think about it: when one is a freshman in school, the other will be a junior. Or when he's 8, baby #2 could be 5. yrs old. It's not that big of a gap. I think one year is too quick because it will be hard for YOU. Those are just my thoughts.

[@gabbyrathtavarez]

plus, I think family medicine residency is three years long (correct me if I'm wrong pls), so It would be less stressful for you since you would be done with residence.

[@drjennale]

My only concern is that when I’m trying to get a “real job” no one will want to hire someone who is planning to have a baby that first year and take maternity leave 😅 the struggle

[@freyabuison2215]

i think u should have a second child. my brother and i are a year apart and when we were younger we would fight a lot but rn we have a great relationship. we do many things together and having a sibling definitely makes things less lonely. i have a cousin who hated being an only child and eventually had a sibling 7 years younger than her. while she loved her sibling she wasnt as close to her due to the age gap

[@drjennale]

One of my biggest fears!!

[@MsReeses97]

love your videos. I look up to you!

[@Memoriasxvida]

Personally, I feel like you should have another baby because he/she would be close Wyatt's age. I'm a twin and my sister and I are inseparable, but if you ask me about my other sisters who are 10 and 6 years apart respectively, we are not as close. I know I'm a twin and we are the same age, but I honestly wouldn't have gotten through some tough times without her. Also, I have 2 nieces and a nephew. My niece is 15 and my nephew is 13 and my youngest niece is 7 and the 15 and 13 year old are inseparable, they are best friends, but the 7 year old they see her as if she's too young for them. They have different interests and play in different ways. They don't really like to hang out with her, which is why I'm always reprimanding them lol

[@hettiesmith1836]

Where did you get the thing you’re suturing on?

[@drjennale]

It was part of a nexplanon training kit lol but if you’re looking for fake skin, I know there are some you can buy off amazon or you can try making some yourself! I’m sure there are KZbin tutorials out there

[@thesarasiablack]

I’m with Stan but I also feel you Jenny I feel I want you to have another baby not trying to be weird subscriber it just would be nice to see you have a baby again I just feel you do the mother role and job role very amazing even if we do see as much but I feel as you should do want your heart desire.

[@iwannaquit6200]

Yay!! Welcome back!

[@aishaanderson1081]

Hi Jenny, you should check out @lauralacquer! She is much more active on instagram, but is a young mother of three in a dermatology residency and is super inspirational when it comes to balancing it all! She also goes in depth answering questions about about her family and time management, while also giving super helpful tips/tricks on her blog alittlebitoflacquer.blogspot.com/ ! Hope this helps and can't wait to see your family grow, love you so much!

[@jsuisjo]

Jane looks like you!

[@drjennale]

My sister and I look a lot alike! Lol

[@evolutionofshyanne5917]

Me and my brother are 3 yrs(2 yrs 4 months) apart and we hang out nd watch tv together, talk about stuff we can't parents, its #don'ttellourparents lol

[@drjennale]

I would round down, you are closer to 2 years in age lol

[@boojames4424]

Intro so cute❤❤

[@thenyel1]

What does the husband do for a living?

[@thenyel1]

Chariona Grace hey I agree with you on almost everything. It'll be silly considering how demanding the medical field is to be having children without being somewhat financially stable. Last note, in conversations try not to reduce a topic to an individual perspective live saying "as a black women." That tends to reduce the amount of ppl that can relate and chime in on the topic you're bringing up. Try keeping things more general, more inclusive that way.

[@sunniwells26]

Another amazing video hun. Your such a beautiful and amazing wife, mother and Dr. I love how you juggle everything in your life so well and still look just a pretty. Thanks for making my Saturday even better

[@sparklypinkleopard26]

I was going to say the same :) that was such a sweet comment btw :)

[@pingpongpingpong0518]

whats ur specialty? i thought u are doing emergency medicine:)) ILY AND YOUR FAMILY SO CUTE

[@courtneymaudena-pelkey9343]

when it comes down to it family is more important than any career! i say build your family:) you wont regret it but you may regret not having another child close in age to Wyatt

[@comoelitamelendez8467]

Hailey Blake That’s what we did! Had our children, got married and bought a house. Well, not entirely in that order. I am now 29 and leaving Tax Accounting to pursue Medicine, specifically General Surgery. Our two youngest are 3 1/2 years apart, and it’s actually not that bad. I say if she wants, wait until he’s around 2 1/2. That gives her approximately 2 years more of completion of her specialty program. Not sure which PG she’s in. It can be done if you have a supportive partner! 💕😉

[@incognitos4342]

❤

[@lilsamantha1]

U know what they say.. one kid is okay, two kids is like 20. Took that from keeping up with the Kardashian lol

[@dragonking5767]

I truly feel that having another child will be beautiful struggle because I personally was closer to my friends close in age than my sister and I who are 7 yrs apart and I don't think you should wait if you do plan on having a child in the future just have faith in your kids and Stan that you guys will make it through I see so much of my possible future watching your story and your career and family are what I seek in the future as well

[@drjennale]

Ya! My brother is 10 years younger as compared to my sister who is 1.5 years younger. The love is always there but the dynamic of the relationship is different. I’m more of a mom to my brother when he needs more of a friend.

[@simdeol8765]

go for baby #2 cause its so great to have a sibling close in age, my sister and I are 3 years apart and always used to bicker because of the difference

[@drjennale]

Stan and I both have siblings 1.5 years apart! We both love it.

[@simdeol8765]

Jenny Le I guess the age gap seems less when you are older but as kids it’s everything. My brother and I are 12 years apart and very close :)

[@drjennale]

I have a brother who is 10 years younger. I feel more like a mother to him. Lol