Confronting Domestic Violence Abusers Face-To-Face | VICE on HBO (Bonus)

[@welcome159ify]

Grew up in a violent home where we’ve had the cops come over a few times; I’m sorry, but domestic violence should never be decriminalized. The impact that it has on its victims is too grand.

[@ykMMD]

Right? I get where she's coming from, but yeah no. That's a really bad idea.

[@kananiseven]

And its just flat out wrong.

[@livewithmeterandnomeasureb1679]

Its already hard to get someone to leave you alone unless you leave the state. The law really isnt on the one being abused side. (If the person has means they can follow you further too.)

[@adrukova1407]

Decriminalizing it will only create more v!ctims cause of no consequences for the abvser. I agree they should get rehab in prison but not walk free.

[@carolyndamish1601]

Seriously I’m watching this lol wtf ??? Do NOT decriminalize domestic violence ? Wtffffffff. Damn

[@momofmany9954]

My husband was raised in a home with Domestic Violence and Alcoholic "FatherS". My husband has never raised his hand to me.😡 Being raised in a shitty environment is NOT an excuse to become a shitty human being. You always have a choice between right and wrong.

[@adwaitab.3622]

Real men and women don't abuse. Well said🙏🙏

[@dettyf5587]

As a dv survivor. This is sick. I’m hurt and disgusted another woman would think advocate for this.

[@jasminefrichtl806]

Many people developed complex post tramatic stress disorder from trauma & can go into a psychosis & think their back were they are being abused & become violent & grew up being hit so they think its not wrong cuz that is a they know they are brain washed also the subcounsous once it learns something it dont want to change until it the consousness tells the subconsous its safe to change but most abusers are tought by bad media like dare devil movie he stalks a women fights her even until she gives him her name and he doesent go to jail they end up together, Sexist religions government that want men leas sympathetic so they are war ready a sexist speech giver came to my High school in 90s so these men do need these education classes & women need to know the red flag signs & gabby petito foundation trying to get d.v. education in schools i feel though these men do need jail time & education cuz my dad had to take d.v. classes & anger management & he never change statistically most of them dont cuz they are so brain washed to be male narcassistic controllers with ego & male entitlement issues. I was severely abused went to counceling but couldent get ride of my PTSD until I did hypnotism to reverse all the abusive brain washing my family did cuz my subconsousness was stuck on flight or fight mode ESP. Cuz for yrs my family was secretly stocking me & lying to people in my life & scaring them to isolate me but now that I know I wont let them know who my friends are or were I live changing my name & i haft to do the hypnotism long term just once doesent work but it is helping with the triggers many people use hypnotism to stop smoking cuz studys show that oce someone learns something long enough even what food they eat the subcounsous often is stuborn to change that habit I d I agree that a jail record makea it hard for them to find work which makes them likely to go back to old ways maybe they can do jail time & if they take the class & graduate from It then they can gwt the d.v. thing off their record

[@jamilaghazi8119]

@@dettyf5587 I think you mistook her comment. She isn't advocating for it. She's against it.

[@professr9343]

Same with me

[@starcherry6814]

Really man? I find it a bit hard to believe that they didn't know how their victims felt about their violence. They're crying on the floor after a 'beatdown' delivered by you, you think they feel good?

[@warmcloud2218]

They only care when its another woman being abused by another man then they wana act like they are a hero to another victim meanwhile they are beating their woman with no remorse. SURVIVOR here!

[@hi_pinky22]

Right

[@jasminekyren7184]

Said perfectly

[@michalamoodie8632]

Some of them have never copped a beating themselves so they dont know what it feels like, thats why you many times hear good non violent men say that men who are violent towards women need a good beating. Some people are violent because theyve been around and endured too much violence their violence is usually more reactive to stress than it is used as a tool to manipulate and control as is the case with instrumental violence.

[@happyd1479]

Right!

[@itsalwaysteatime3803]

Abusers are not victims!! They need to be in prison! You didn't hear your victims screaming and crying and begging you to stop... These men are master manipulaters and liars!

[@MeganKirk-mg9ho]

Yes they are

[@DELILAHMCDONALD-1987]

Amen

[@nataliebjarnason6571]

Both can be true at the same time, violence is cyclical

[@richardogura949]

I think it’s important to understand why the abuser did what they did. In some cases, someone has an anger problem, and when things escalate to a certain point, they’re not really in control. Domestic abuse is a wide ranging. It’s not just everyone giving their woman to beat down. Obviously those people are monsters. But there are also some people who reached their boiling point and thenhit or slap when they feel like there’s nothing else they can do. It’s still not right, but it’s not equivalent to a person who’s beating his wife mercilessly

[@MyDoodad]

Violence is violence. If you beat someone and mentally submit them, man or woman, you need serious help.

[@Ronniemc1999]

Depends on the context

[@justarandomstranger2U]

I reckon they need to be whipped until there's no flesh on the back. Let them taste their own medicine

[@kissme1518]

Further investigation is always needed on how violence is incited.

[@alman8908]

@@Ronniemc1999 no

[@Ronniemc1999]

@@alman8908 yes obviously you’ve never actually gone out in real world because some dudes are asking to get their ass beat. You’d know that if you’d ever been to a bar or party lol.

[@willh8682]

Points were made, but I personally think abusers still need prison time.

[@balance.of.the.sexesequali5914]

One reason I don't believe Women claiming abuse is that the man have nothing to gain

[@JacksonBegleymusicguy]

You can put them in prison all you want. They're still going to keep doing it even after they get out. They need to actually be de-programmed. Putting them in jail won't do shit.

[@jd3587]

Will H thing about abusers is they beat people because they think its cool

[@lilyfenster7408]

these abusers ARE getting prison time. she's literally at a prison. but just locking them away with other violent men for a few years and then letting them back on the street with no attempt made to change their pattern of behavior does no good to anybody - if anything, it will only exacerbate the attitudes that caused them to be abusive in the first place. they need to go to prison so they can realize there are consequences to their actions, but they also need help to change the way they think about women and relationships - otherwise, they'll just be more careful next time.

[@Feber2001]

Agreed.

[@darkkiss7247]

It's never ok to hit your partner. Better to just walk away. You always have a choice.

[@rachelkmeck]

I think if your conditioned where violence is normal and verbal abuse is normal I dont think that woman or individual has a choice in hell. They need so many other tools they werent equipped with that others take for granted. Confidence, self worth, stable parents or family to fall back on or lean on for support. If you have nothing else or know nothing besides the 'love' that is hitting or whatever else your dealing with will stay until your personal line is crossed where leaving is better than staying.

[@rachelkmeck]

Thats why women are always blamed because people see it as well leave you could of left. So many women are murdered after leaving an abusive partner as well.

[@chapawapa9736]

It's hard to walk away when they chase you down and punch you to the ground...... I'm out of that relationship now. Thank God

[@hdzmiriam]

you just solved domestic violence, wow... why people didn't think of this before? #duh

[@kolurose2062]

exactly

[@choctawsweets]

this sounds like a good program but, it's still assault so there still needs to be jail time.

[@catieq5270]

Alexis Ebahotubbi definitely!

[@kaylawilliams1085]

They are in jail taking this class

[@MildredBonkers]

The crux of Leigh Goodmark's argument is that jail time alone doesn't work. As you can see, these programs are operating within the penal institution. At any rate, just because something is wrong doesn't necessarily mean it should be made illegal. And just because something is illegal doesn't mean that it is necessarily wrong. She's also saying that much domestic violence - as well as many other "crimes" - is committed not because the person is necessarily bad, but because there are often extenuating circumstances that led a person to take a wrong turn somewhere. Personally, I have a battery conviction for trying to pry myself away from an officer who had come up from behind me and put me into a headlock - essentially it was self defense. I'm not a bad person. I'm self aware and very moral. But it ruined my life and 8 years later, I'm still suffering the repercussions of it. Mine was a simple battery. But someone made an error on my court documents - my police record says battery, my court documents said domestic battery - a difference of one number in the coding. I did not know of the error until I finally petitioned to have my record sealed. They told me I would be unable to because a charge of domestic battery is so severe, it stays there forever. Luckily, I was able to correct the error and seal my record. In my opinion, that's a bit too harsh for a domestic battery charge. In the end, reform is possible in most cases. And I'm so excited by this woman's research and the work of this organization. Our prisons are overcrowded and our legislation is a mess. Any nudge to make changes towards understanding the individual operates separately from the system is a great move.

[@MOTORCYCLES-ANDGUNS]

Alexis Ebahotubbi SAME WITH WOMEN. EQUAL RIGHTS REMEMBER.

[@itsrainingsomewhere6142]

You missed the whole point.

[@princesslilchief8282]

Those inmates are NOT listening to that lady, they just wanted to come out of their jailcells for a little while & be on TV....

[@Itshillaryyyy]

Lol exactly

[@LearnAsYouGo.]

The tattooed guy scared me when he said “see I told you & ass whoopings”. He didn’t seem to care at all.

[@beepbopboop7727]

They are learning better ways of abusing from her story.

[@VikramNYal]

😂

[@LindaMerchant-bq2hp]

​@@LearnAsYouGo.I notice that too no sorry bone in his body

[@Charlotte-wd4bq]

The guy that abused me (hit and raped) had no history of family abuse and was not a marginalized person socially and had no history of any sort of abusive past, he had a lovely childhood and a bright future. Sometimes people are just bad through and through. Hopefully these programs will help those who genuinely don't want to be that person anymore and want help. Good luck and I hope that everyone finds peace.

[@lolaispure4296]

I agree. Sometimes people are JUST bad.

[@krystingrant6292]

Same with my abuser

[@thedesensitizedsympathizer5307]

I know this sounds dark but If I could tell that when a newborn is born and they were born evil, I'd just end then then and there.

[@migueljuarez6788]

@@thedesensitizedsympathizer5307 oh we got a baby killer right here

[@newflower8974]

🙏🏽

[@karaleenails]

Decriminalize domestic violence? Is she out of her mind?!? Sh*t escalates to homicide!! That lady should be locked up for stupidity!! No man OR woman should hit eachother, period! Anyone suffering in a domestic violent situation should seek help and GET OUT! I am lucky I’m alive!

[@nitalightell336]

I wish I could find a place to go.. I feel so worthless and hopeless 💔😭

[@aviewtokill08]

@@nitalightell336 don't lose hope! Getting out is the best thing you can do for yourself and there are people who can and will help you. 💓

[@outsidersongs2682]

I agree - her attitude disgusts me and that's as a leftie who speaks out for rehab in prisons. Getting perps of DV into prisons on long sentences is absolutely essential. Its often the only way victims can get away. Also, as you say, it so often ends in murder and victims who get away can life in daily terror, needing panic buttons. They need to be in prison. They can have rehab in prison but they need to be in prison. Decriminalising DV just tells victims that what they are enduring doesnt matter. Also, victims often cannot report the abuse until they trust that the perp will be jailed and cannot wreak their revenge on them for telling.

[@mshinasherman7914]

I was put in a coma, I have CTE, and he hurt me every time. Now, no prison, no! Muy thai kick hurts!

[@adrukova1407]

I agree it'll definitely make the problem worse.

[@imanik4148]

Do not decriminalize domestic violence EVER. This “program” should be for only the first year then send them to prison idc idc

[@jewelsselflovegoddess8085]

💯

[@diabloakland]

They always wanna find a way to get away with hurting us. It’s not okay with me i want my abusers in prison and to of their time.

[@Fandar]

@@crusthawk2749 Any man who strikes a woman should just die.

[@Fandar]

@@crusthawk2749 why would you get a girlfriend just to abuse her??

[@Fandar]

@Arnie Quintero kilalmyn like you and john howard69er

[@Acord718]

Sometimes it's not always the physical that hurts but also the mental abuse.

[@Fingerscrossedout]

It's proven that mental abuse is actually more traumatizing than physical. Because bruises heal but the mental health can if untreated never heal..

[@sharpaycutie2]

Alot of women would be mad about that cuz they'd be put on BLAST!!

[@adwaitab.3622]

@@sharpaycutie2 why men don't emotionally abuse? I thought both and women are capable of being toxic

[@the54thfloor47]

One is as bad as the other. IMO.

[@the54thfloor47]

@@Fingerscrossedout you don’t think having someone that “loves” you beating your @$$ isn’t also emotional abuse? If you don’t. Smdh

[@itsniyademi]

talking isn’t enough. sometimes prison isn’t enough. my grandmother was killed by her 2nd abusive partner. back in the 80’s, domestic violence wasn’t taken seriously. but i wish he would have been stopped.

[@balance.of.the.sexesequali5914]

One I don't believe Women claiming abuse is Men have nothing to gain. It's saying men vendictive or MRAs just hate Women. But she gives statistics 80% of are Women but just says vast majority . Something vague. The statistics don't support her views. Plus looking at behaviors. Like a slap and being told your nothing with out her domestic abuse and violence is when men act like women

[@Ultimate_Onyx]

@@balance.of.the.sexesequali5914 what are you trying to get at, you people are sick and have no type of empathy for ongoing issues like this.

[@mariapaulapulgarin]

I'm so sorry about this, that's terrible and should never happen

[@alessa7013]

I'm so sorry 😢.......

[@krystingrant6292]

My condolences 🥺

[@strawberrypancakes2438]

This is why I'm staying single. Too risky.

[@Lauri2014]

To bad there is no mandatory DV abuser registry...

[@balance.of.the.sexesequali5914]

She say 80% are Women. But just says vast majority to say herderal sexual relationships

[@cubbiesmith4505]

Yes especially abuse over years again and again by the same abusers.

[@justamum9893]

My Reservation definitely needs a DV Abuser registry.

[@HoneyDubey23]

They have it in the UK

[@0000lola0000]

GREAT IDEA ! Ask for one. Petition for one. Protest for one. Vote for one. Or we'll keep living in the world we accept. 👩‍🎤 RISE UP ! ♀️

[@outsidersongs2682]

Getting these abusers prosecuted and into prison is often the only thing that makes it possible to escape them. Prison sentences for DV save lives. It must always be a crime and perps need to be removed from society.

[@happygolucky9004]

Agreed! Rehabilitation programs should not be a replacement for a prison sentence.

[@courtneywestbrook304]

I don't agree with decriminalization that's telling them it's okay for them to hurt women/men

[@themaccabees5628]

Courtney Westbrook I believe in seperation and therapy by law but I don’t believe the law should get too involved with this stuff because at the end of the day it’s sovereign relationship

[@atchanih]

I don't think this is decriminalization. It still is criminal. But it's also important to point out that these men needs to change, to change their behavior, that it's not okay to be violent, and violent can take many forms. These people already in prison. It's important that if they ever get released, they won't repeat their bad behavior

[@literaryloser1]

@ all the comments saying what about the women who abuse and the professor saying 85% of domestic violence victims are women in heterosexual relationships. This leaves 15% for men or same gendered relationships. So they're not saying this is exclusively men who do the abuse but they are the majority which is why it makes more sense to develop programs and change policy around them.

[@Cenobyte40k]

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Domestic_violence_against_men#Gender_symmetry Except that study after study says it's close to equal. Beyond that, why develop a sexist program? Why are you OK with leaving even a small number of victoms without help based on sexism?

[@Cenobyte40k]

@Annie O I have never and will never understand why women act like the world is all men all the time and they are just along for the ride. It's clearly untrue and suggests that woman are completely powerless to affect the world. The sexism of lowered expectations is no better when it's done to minorities. Meanwhile you underplay or just outright ignore the abuse of men, suggesting instead that they should be more able to take and that it's not as big of a deal. This sexism is that of assumed responsibility and authority.

[@Sp1n1985]

@@Cenobyte40k because men are awesome, and they love being in our world we built for them to be comfortable enough to grant us a temporary hole to fill. But they so solipsistic they think now that it's cozy it's owed to them to rule.

[@Sp1n1985]

@Annie O men standards were developed by nature until civilization and men became literate and we've not lived in a world that follows mans law but men. Women who didn't want to live in a man's world could have freely gone out into the wilderness and create their own Queendom

[@nedkogenov5530]

@Annie O 1:School shooters don't represent all men, they are just the minortity. 2:When a man commits a crime, the media talks about it, when a woman commits a crime, the media ignores it,so OFCOURSE men are expected to be more violent. 3:Men are more likely to commit suicide because of WOMEN that ruin their lives by cheatimg on them 4:Women are more likely to kill their child Is this enough? Because i can now keep on going with the privileges that women have and men don't

[@God.sDaughter]

Some of those criminals don’t care. You can See in thejr faces like, “What the hell is this for?”

[@kellynorvell5714]

Yes.... you are right. They all look like BORN LOSERS to me.

[@kingduckdodo6672]

@@kellynorvell5714 That is discriminatory. Some of them go it from childhood experiences and trauma. No one is born loser. Some of them needed chance. I think your the loser here.

[@jackielehman8945]

Some look like they are possibly triggered, not bored.

[@thefavoritemom7423]

Fr my child’s father included 🥴

[@jasonsteinfeld9493]

Naa I see a lot of empathy and realization in their eyes

[@kimmanning2913]

The dumbest thing you can do is hit a woman repeatedly then tell her she's crazy for turning you in. Something you learn in counseling on your journey to wholeness without abuse.

[@mellajoe]

It’s called gaslighting

[@jennifertaylor2593]

It’s the cruelest thing, gaslighting and trying to mess with someone’s mind to break them.

[@daryna94]

I'm sorry I don't believe these men

[@cc3184]

Decriminalizing domestic violence ?? GTFO. Once they are violent with an intimate partner there is little chance that they will never do it again. Do most people get this way do due to experienceling abuse or trauma themselves? Yes but once the damage is done it's almost better to take these people off the face of the earth. Notice how these offenders said victims not victim ?

[@2Bad4YOUuu]

Yea, exactly. It's like trying to rehabilitate a sex offender or serial killer. Maybe after 1 and ONLY 1 mistake ... But not someone who just does this S#!+ willy nilly "That's my whole M.O." B.S.

[@tiffanydajci8695]

Blaming unemployment or certain other aspects that cause domestic abuse is really disgusting

[@BettieBoo]

They are not saying it causes domestic violence, but does make it worse. Research shows that.

[@addisonstar141]

Beyond..😒

[@kaylaleave]

@@BettieBooonce an abuser always an abuser.

[@thisgirlisoverit]

@@BettieBooOh okay, this explains why doctors, business owners, blue collar workers, teachers etc . can abuse 🫠

[@nrosi7493]

Men can be manipulators i went through domestic violence and he literally would beat me and push my mind to the point where i cnt take no more to get a reaction then he would try to show everyone when i was angry or upset and be like look its her not me Its really hard when you have a man like that its dangerous because you can go through the domestic violence and be blamed at the same time i went into depression and now suffer from aniexty

[@shante70sb]

Oh my God, my ex was the same way? He would say things and do things to get a reaction outta me and when I can't take more and give him that reaction he wouy paint me as the villian. And say I provoke him to put hands on me. I had to get away. I remember when he beat me at a park no one was around, but he was bold, afterwards I started running just so happens a college police was passing by and flag them down told what happened he told the police I was crazy and on medication and flipped out on him. And that I forgot to take it. Knowing I'm not on medication for mental illness or nothing, knowing what he did. But I was the bad guy. But I'm just saying how manipulative, and vindictive abusiver can be. Accused me of cheating when I wasn't he would fight for that. Throwing me against walls etc. It was bad.

[@newnotification30]

Did you ever stop to think why you can make such a horrible choice in picking a person and now that same choice perpetrated your suffering

[@bonjourtristesse9433]

They call me Alf Way to blame the victim, as if people can’t conceal their nature until your lives are intertwined physically, mentally and socioeconomically. By the looks of it she clearly got out of it, so support her! Many don’t get out.

[@weezemiller6329]

Sounds like narcissistic personality disorder

[@creator2149]

exactly true, especially about being provoked and emotionally abused so much that you kind of lose it and act a little irrational, and then, they say, LOOK LOOK at her how crazy she is acting. But, all the abuse is done when nobody is around. The reaction of the daily abuse is what the abuser uses as proof that you are the crazy one. They are douche bags.

[@Josie3387]

Abusers are already not responsible for their actions according to them. Having a program that treat them like victims will make things worst.

[@Sarachouska]

It's more a help to change behavour than telling they are victim.

[@Josie3387]

@@Sarachouska People like them do not feel like they are wrong in the first place and you can't change what you don't acknowledge.

[@a_real_one2000]

Hello Hart if there is a program that helps them acknowledge actions, change & have empathy for their victims what’s the problem? Prison should be a punishment/rehabilitation place that fosters behavior change. So those released don’t create new victims.

[@daydrmnation]

Yes. Coming to terms with abuse means taking responsibility for YOUR actions. I don't care if your dad abused you and that's your reason for continuing to abuse someone, it HAS to stop somewhere and that means SOMEONE taking responsibility for THEIR actions.

[@cloudyns]

They need to understand that nothing justifies beating a woman. That all their bullshit excuses don't justify anything. Even if she cheated, if she yelled at them, if she didn't cook dinner, etc. Nothing justifies laying a hand on women. Once they accept that they are wrong is when can change. Hearing their bullshit stories about their past is useless they are not victims they need to know that it doesn't matter. Once they learn they are wrong and take responsibility is when they can change and learn to use words instead of violence.

[@XpurlX]

As a survivor, I can say I was living in a loop! I tried to appear as normal as I could , full time avoiding escalation! Tried for my kid’s to the best mom I could be. And the real devastation is that I thought it was all my mistake, I felt i didn’t try hard enough! Why I said the things dat agitated him, why I was a sloppy housekeeper, why I didn’t cook nicer food, things like that. My mind was in overdrive all the time, to keep it all together! The day I almost died after a beating and was hospitalised for some time. Social service came and said If I was not able to keep my children safe I would lose my children, because of that I found the braveness to go to a save-house. Where I started all over again, with nothing else than the clothes on our backs. My youngest was only 6 months old! It’s the best thing I ever have done! But man don’t underestimate the fear that comes with that decision. Only when my kids became adults I was at ease again! So do not judge a woman in this situation! It’s the abuser that is betraying the love aspect of the relationship!

[@youngsavagefury7138]

Well I am man that was abused by a woman I was raped and abused by a woman

[@livewithmeterandnomeasureb1679]

Was yours a narciisist. Mine was.

[@awg7068]

They want you to believe that they have no control, there’s no such thing as avoiding escalation.

[@H-youtube7]

It's hard not to be brutalised by it, or to crack, sounds like you held on by whatever means you could. I feel you when you say you could only feel at ease when your children were adults.

[@JazzyJ96771]

All this is mainly happening because half of the men are psychopaths or sociopaths and the other half, have completely no idea how to *properly* express themselves, without anger and violence, that's the only language some men know. I blame their parents and peers.

[@expandhealthinc.1887]

💯💯💯

[@redropshawty]

so perfectly said.

[@thedesensitizedsympathizer5307]

Well to be fair. Our ancestors were very sexist and saw women as lesser humans. So NO WONDER there are men like this. It's I'm our genes. Yeah, we could break it but fornsome men, it's hardwired in their helix

[@lielastrong2026]

That’s a myth, many psychologists who work with men in batterer programs agree that mental illness is very rarely the cause of domestic abuse. Take Ukrainian for example, their National statistics on domestic violence are reported at nearly 45% of the total population. It’s a majority of women who are the victims of these crimes, meaning most women in the Ukrainian suffer violence in their intimate relationships. This shows we are dealing with a problem in society, not a fringe group of bad apples.

[@Jademoonx]

Blame themselves please. They always use that pathetic excuse.

[@ErikaLindberg]

Some good comments in this comment section, but mostly I just get terrified reading comments on KZbin. Scary seeing so many men express their hatred towards women in one place. What about the men? Yes, *what about the men?* Stand up, speak your issue, organise, and I'll stand right behind you to support your cause as long as there isn't misogyny seeping through your words.

[@stripymccatpuss]

Would you like a "safe space" so reading isn't scary ? We could put some fluffy unicorn toys and crayons there if that would help.

[@on2wheels378]

They're all 'incels.'

[@jashanestone]

@@stripymccatpuss 👈 it's always one douchebag in a bunch. Never mind him. He's seen his pops step on his mom's neck on his way out the door, and haven't been seen since 🤷🏿‍♂️

[@aw9389]

Hurdur misogyny

[@AllisonLinner]

That was a very level-headed, fair, and true statement. I'll too 100% stand behind you in any way I can.

[@thehoneyeffect]

Narcissists/sociopaths/ psychopaths all don’t have empathy and they don’t change so… This is cosmetic

[@balance.of.the.sexesequali5914]

What do men have to gain from physically abusing Women. Do have imagine what it's like to told your nothing with out her. Imagine or remember. That's mother's raise their son to respect women their nothing with out them

[@cubbiesmith4505]

Cowards. What gets me x husband stay out all night drink , smoke crack with crack ho, at crack addict alcoholic male buddies, they come home walk in while I sleep pull the covers off me punching me kicking screaming, saying I'm cheating do everything he was out doing and I'm home sleeping resting to go to work the next day, and he didn't work in a pie factory these type men r narcissistic personality insanity.

[@nedkogenov5530]

@@cubbiesmith4505 And now what? You hate all men?

[@kreativeprojekt1345]

The question still remains, are there women who are Narcissists/sociopaths/psychopaths and get away with everything without accountability? Do woman always have empathy? Any human can have the dark triad.

[@Armipotens]

This program will most likely work with those individuals who aren’t phsycotics. But those who are may slip through the cracks and re abuse. I agree 100% that DV is a men’s problem that needs to be changed and fixed by men. Empathy is seen as a weakness in the men’s world

[@janetmcginn907]

A “rehabilitated” abuser is still going home to a victim. The cycle will just continue. If the victim sticks up to their abuser, then the abuse will more likely occur.

[@jasonsteinfeld9493]

Not after this rehab

[@7dirty72]

@@jasonsteinfeld9493 they aint taking that rehab seriously

[@rhondahoward8025]

These men may have also spent their childhood in a household with similar violence, and grew up believing that it was normal. So it's a cycle of abuse.

[@Mimi-cq4bg]

I grew up in a home full of alcoholics. I don't drink. Because I decided to break the cycle. The cycle is not a script: people have a choice.

[@rhondahoward8025]

@@Mimi-cq4bg That’s true too but it’s complicated.

[@grimmcorvid5713]

@@rhondahoward8025 it isnt. If you beat your parner you dont EVER deserve to live happily. You desrve to suffer and remember that they now have trauma FOREVER.

[@rhondahoward8025]

@@grimmcorvid5713 Not once did I ever condone the behavior.

[@Kerrviii]

There's NO EXCUSE.

[@PinkCakesandTea]

Most of these dudes will never change and the one with the throat tattoo seems really proud of himself.

[@jayjay1443]

Send domestic abusers to programs where they get the crap beat out of them for the rest of their lives.

[@jamesedward550]

I have two sisters and if either ever experienced physical domestic violence my number one priority would be seeking physical revenge on the perpetrator. Keep these cowards in prison

[@Talesguru2]

The woman from Maryland is Vile!!!! Wanting to decriminalize domestic violence just because felonious abusers won’t get a chance in life?!?!*spits on floor* They had plenty of chances to control themselves.

[@KTBroadcasting]

While I understand what she's saying about addressing the cause of becoming abusive, BUT that is true of ALL crime. There are always reasons, past trauma, childhood issues, mental health, etc. And it ALL needs to be addressed, but DECRIMINALIZED?! Absolutely not. Our 'justice system' is flawed and absolutely needs to be more restorative and less punitive, but to say that it should no longer be categorized as a crime is ludicrous.

[@BeeBlot]

💯🎯

[@tijeraslack3]

Definitely needs to be more restorative.

[@adrukova1407]

Absolutely agree with you there! This is insane.

[@beautifulspirit2973]

I’ve been a victim of DV and believe me the mental abuse is just as bad. It’s ALL about power and control. They never take responsibility for the horrific treatment they dish out. EVERYTHING is your fault even being arrested despite constantly breaking the law.

[@JesusSaves7810]

Did he get arrested ? Is he still in jail now?

[@beautifulspirit2973]

@@JesusSaves7810 He was prosecuted

[@beautifulspirit2973]

@NoSaltJustPepperBae He used to mock me when I cried to the point I had several breakdowns

[@lorianglon2499]

No abuser will EVER change. ....... EVER!!!

[@nickharley2344]

Not true. But if a man is harming you leave him

[@lorianglon2499]

ABSOLUTELY!!!!! I would NEVER hurt a living being. BUT..... BUT.... I TRULY believe that a man or woman that abuses their partner or their child, can learn the skills not to hurt the one they love. I could talk ALL day about that. I feel that all souls have the ability to be a person that others feel safe around but even after one suffers an ass beaten by someone that says "I love you and I'm sorry. I never meant to hurt you and I won't do it again".... they would have to prove they have learned skills to overcome the hurt and anger that they feel to make them hurt others. If someone pisses you off enough to hurt them then maybe a person needs to "check" why they feel this way. Don't get me wrong ..... the ONLY way I would beat the shit out of someone is if they hurt my child. But to do it just because ...... no... no... I don't feel its right AT ALL.... but the largest percentage of people that abuse others ... is a learned behavior. I feel for those and hope they can learn to control it.... one has to #1 acknowledge the wrong, #2 get help, and #3 implement the skills in their daily lives. Thanks for asking for asking me Nick Harley. I'm always up for the subject... on the abuser's side or the survivors side. Both sides have a storey of why?

[@lorianglon2499]

@Nick Harley and I must add that a learned behavior will always be there .... sort of like looking both ways before you cross the road so that you dont get hit by a car.... that is something you are taught if you get my meaning..... No person is born with the "I'm going to beat the shit out of everyone I love from here on out" attitude. Think about that. But .... you can chose with a strong enough will to not hurt someone, to stop. So think about this..... if someone in a public place walked up to you and said "I don't like the way you talk" and they punch you right in the face.... would you accept that or call law enforcement, or hit them back? Or when a survivor is just sick of being put down, called a effin' piece of shit or kicked in the ribs..... what if that same person just is sick of taking that crap an fights back?.... Is is different..... even if it is just "one" time. What gives a person the right to hurt another?

[@danihelledraklyn8602]

some people are just bad people and are unable to change and become a better person. But I would NEVER trust someone who was violent towards their loved ones, whether they are reformed or not.

[@queenmcnair5053]

True that is so true

[@annesayoung781]

These men will NEVER change!!!! I don't trust them period!!!

[@blackjet7040]

As a woman I would never raise my hand to a man! but in defense yes I will defend myself no I’m not excusing women abusers but there shouldn’t be a laying on of hands in the first place.

[@jasondyrkacz8270]

Chivalry is for ladies, not laydees. There's a difference.

[@blackjet7040]

Jason Dyrkacz so what exactly are you saying

[@BigWiltonWilt]

Exactly

[@browneyes2100]

Hear what he said "once I could smack you and you didn't defend yourself or leave the ass whoopings would start" Ladies if a man hits you clock him upside the head with what ever you find the first time and leave & never come back. Love yourself.

[@Fandar]

There needs to be more punishment delivered to abusive men, not less. A man should never hit a woman, especially his girlfriend/wife. Why would you get with a woman just to abuse her?

[@air2091]

The thing is that you aren’t solving anything by punishing. We need to change the way we see things because this actually works

[@air2091]

@Yeet stop assuming that the man is always in the right, it’s simply bs

[@Lovelyminidonuts]

Abuser hits a woman People : don't do that Abuser gets treatment to be a better person People : don't do that. I honestly don't like people at all

[@shantrina1279]

I hear you

[@kitteekittee4010]

They need treatment i strongly believe that

[@pinkgal206]

CHASS FREEMAN shut up

[@soubifan700]

Recidivism is money in America. Why try to change things when prisons and corporations are making money . I completely agree with your statement. So many things could get better if there were more resources and help. Not to justify abuse at all, but if there is help, then why isn't it happening to stop it?

[@dishingoutls8137]

CHASS FREEMAN There is definitely a lot of hypocritical people.

[@LovelyFlyShy]

Sitting here with a black eye surfing the web and KZbin trying to figure out what is wrong with me & why I continuously give in to the abuser in my life. It’s sickening. Even worse we have 2 kids together and he screws with my head about staying together for them. When I don’t want to be with him. I can’t speak my mind without him lashing out and hitting me. Choking me. Throwing things at me. Breaking my property, trying to make a show in front of the neighbors being all loud and it gets worse. I know I’m much more powerful than what I give myself credit. But at times I just don’t know what to do.

[@Icy_Tho]

He is also an narcissist

[@MimiAngel-sw9eq]

I know this was posted 2 years ago but I was just surfing the web on how to make it though writing my victims impact statement …. Came across this .. just got a weird sensation wanted to reach out I pray you are well and I’m hoping you saved yourself from being disregarded mentally emotionally and physically. We matter especially as mothers my love goes out to you hope all is well ❤

[@SweetSkies478]

Probably because u were blatantly manipulated, gaslight, and bullied by ur perpetrator into firmly believing that u have absolutely no control over the physical, psychological and/or sexual abuse u endured, much less the ability to improve ur current situation.

[@alyssajones4368]

Damn. Makes me blessed to be single. People are looney these days.

[@hannag6546]

Word...we out here talking and treating ourselves nicely 🤣🤣

[@hunterurban5465]

As a victim, this is disgusting.

[@quickmaff9349]

Shiiiit if I found out somebody was beating my mom or sister there’d be hell to pay.

[@kitteekittee4010]

Thank you

[@HB-ey2dk]

Yeah but what do you do when said sister then gets PISSED at you, takes her abusers side then stops talking to you and goes right back to him, over and over again? Unfortunately that's very common.

[@anjali8409]

Or my brother or dad

[@keiwasimpson3516]

I wish there were more people like you

[@ic3812]

QuickMaff Then his family/friends will come by looking for you. Violence begets violence!

[@clarehalacy9266]

I think there’s a way to hold these people accountable and attempt to rehabilitate them without decriminalizing domestic violence. I believe most people can be changed and can heal but I also know that some of these men are just plain bad and can never be changed. Incarceration isn’t the best option for everyone but in the same way, rehab is not possible for some and there are some people who just shouldn’t have access to the general public. There should be reform but I think decriminalization is a horrendous idea. I think the benefits of it that they are talking about can be achieved in other ways.

[@1swerdna]

I agree. Assault is a crime, whether it happens to a stranger or within the family.

[@lsabael0.281]

Clare Halacy please run for Congress

[@cjazzhn]

Clare Halacy I am definitely for rehabilitation. My abuser has kids, not with me, but they’re grown and almost grown. I don’t, honestly want to keep him away from them. I would love nothing more for him to turn his attention away from me and back to his kids. But he won’t. His mother raised one and the other ones mom is raising her. His attention is on me and the local counties arent taking this serious. The state the abuse I FINALLY came forward with isn’t extraditing him for missing court for the incident. At this point he’s been arrested twice for stalking. Burned my car and all of my clothes and everything I owned AFTER I left most everything leavin him. Gone. I want him to do jail for the damages. To me. To my things. You go to jail for fighting, serve some over this. Do rehab. Be a better man for the next woman cuz I’m so done but I WANT him to be the man I fell in love with.

[@pressftopayrespects6325]

Rehab works on everyone, just different methods of it. It’s a little naive and pretty harmful to think that there are some people who couldn’t be rehabilitated.

[@julesmpc1314]

only severe consequences of long term encarceration, without parrol, may have any effect on these violent men. Period. They are not 5 year old children...pet talk is useless. And yeas...once convicted their lives on the outside will be worse...thats the point: life consequences for those who cause life time trauma.

[@08kemitc]

jugy I agree and this is coming from a woman whose been in a abusive relationship. My ex husband comes from an abusive culture where at the age of 10 his mother stabbed him with a machete cause he wouldn’t go to school. Now I don’t use this as an excuse for his actions HOWEVER he too was a victim of abuse. And I believe the behavior he learned can be changed it depends on him whether he wants to do it or not.

[@businesslady7840]

First time a guy hit me, I end up going to jail but the judge dismissed the charges due to the circumstance. The first time a guy hit me , I took off my heels and tore his ass up with my sitellos and started throwing everything, I thought would kill his ass without actually killing his ass. He ran to the neighbor's house and call the police. Today he still have a scar on his face from the lamp I hit him over the head with. To this day he still calls me a crazy bitc..🤨 but rumors are, he has never hit a woman again that anyone know of.

[@anovosedlik]

I just survived another beating a few minutes ago. My partner has gone through these programs twice. Nothing changed. He is, however, terrified of prison. I think he deserves prison solely cuz he did so much damage that I WAS THE ONE IN A prison. I was the one beaten so hard that I could not walk.

[@Emerson-jq8ej]

What's wrong with you? Why are you with him? What a shame.🤔

[@1chicagoqueennae]

I love you!! You are beautiful Strong Smart and will have peace in your life!!! I pray for your safety Queen!🙌🏾🙏🏾💙 You got this!💯 Keep being Awesome!🤗😘💙❤️

[@1chicagoqueennae]

​@@Emerson-jq8ejstfu

[@1chicagoqueennae]

❗

[@sweetfa9116]

All of those men are saying what we want to hear..... rehabilitation leads to freedom that's all they would care about. As a survivor myself I believe that it's all bullshit and you'd think if they were capable of feeling any empathy or compassion it would be when their victims are screaming and begging them to just stop or when they see the aftermath of their actions, instead they just tell you to go clean and pretty yourself up. It's so much deeper than what they have said here they are going of bullshit statistics when they need to punish these men for their crimes against women. Jail time!! That's it. You can not rehabilitate people like this. They are preditors. They must pay otherwise the women the victim gets no justice and half the time they only get a slap on the bloody hand anyway

[@linomacho9983]

2:49 she's got the point

[@rhondahoward8025]

But then you have the abusers who know how to put a spectacular "public" face and seem perfectly charming and acceptable to outsiders. It's only behind closed doors where the horns come out. So they can pretend to be reformed, but go right back to abusing.

[@the54thfloor47]

Restorative justice? She ever had her @$$ beat? Head injuries/concussions to the extent they called seizures? Bet not.

[@E-99x]

I have to say, you should NOT remove jail time. A lot of the time they re-offend even with therapy. They need jail time, therapy, and when they are out they need jobs, training in workplace sexual harrassment, work volunteering, and programs with helping others. But without jail time, there’s no consequence/place for them to think of their crimes without quiet.

[@maryksmith8947]

I don't believe a single word these men are saying, once an abuser always an abuser

[@NikkiHendersonchildofGod]

I don't disagree with the concept of restorative justice, especially with an 85% success rate....but decriminalizing domestic violence. Uh no. That's a big fat negative. Says your sorry and learn why you did it and you go out and live your life while your victim puts the pieces of theirs back together. Absolutely not.

[@lbds954]

Domestic abuse should not be decriminalised. My older brother was raised in a good home by the same loving mother as myself, with every opportunity I had, but it didn't stop him from beating me up almost every single day until I finally moved out and escaped from it all. During that time, and in the time that's passed since then too, he has repeatedly been let off the hook, both by other family members and by the law... and he has never, ever gotten any better. The fact that he has never been truly punished for the violence he happily inflicts on other people is a huge part of the reason he's still a dangerous person today. Domestic abuse is assault. It's often attempted murder. Sometimes it *is* murder. To decriminalise that is not only stupid, but it's a huge insult to all the victims who have survived and and deserve justice for what they have been through.

[@NikkiHendersonchildofGod]

Decriminalize domestic violence?! Bish please. Abusers need prison time and their victims need counseling to get mentally where they need to be to get the hell out

[@HI_Royalty]

"and then the ass whoppins would escalate.." #No

[@advocacynaccountablity]

Domestic violence is absolutely a Men's issue, and we need programs and societal pressures in place to give struggling men tools to handle their anger and myopic self-centeredness so that conflict is dealt with maturely and with support. That said, I don't agree with decriminalizing domestic abuse.

[@dishingoutls8137]

I have witnessed a man hitting a woman more than a few times, and I can tell you the reason. Men and women are more different when it comes to patience. Women can jabber and jabber all day long. Men don't have the mental capacity for that. That's why they snap when an argument goes on too long. They have less capacity for arguing. And another thing, is I've noticed when women see he's getting a little aggressive they tend to stir shit up more by continuing the argument or start throwing things in his face that he might be sensitive about. Which ultimately leads him to snap. I'm not saying it's right, but I'm not stupid either. A lot of women seriously know how to push a man's buttons, especially with throwing sensitive things in his face and not stopping the argument. So basically in the simplest way. Men have a less capacity for constant arguing. That's also why you often times hear men say their wife is nagging them. Its because women can generally go hours and hours with fighting. Men, not so much before it gets physical. Also women don't know how to stop arguing when they see he gets aggressive. I'm not stupid. Women are not innocent just because they're physically weaker. It's just how our brains are wired. That's why this feminism is POISONOUS to people. Thinking we're all the exact same, and men and women are no different. The biggest difference when it comes to these domestic violence is TESTOSTERONE. IF YOU SEE HE'S GETTING AGGRESSIVE, STOP PUSHING HIS BUTTONS!!!!! IM NOT DEFENDING ABUSERS. IM SPITTIN FACTZ.

[@bigfatfish4148]

DishingOut Ls umm no men have the mental capacity to handle arguments it’s just that most of the time they’ve came home from a long work day and they’re tired and just want to relax then she starts arguing and it builds up like you said

[@TT-xz5sy]

@@dishingoutls8137 so when I come home from work and my husbands starts nagging me about something, can I then shoot him cause my job annoyed me?

[@lielastrong2026]

Another myth, it’s not about anger, it’s about control and oppression. This is about women’s rights and equality, how our culture tolerates many behaviors and ideas that lead to the notion women should/could be exploited and abused.

[@lielastrong2026]

@@dishingoutls8137 Misconception. Many abusers claim the loss of control of their actions, yet studies show these abusers have the same rates of mental stability as the normal population. Abusers demonstrate very clearly they are able to resist their temper and violence when people are watching, in other areas of their intimate and professional lives. Abusers would like us to believe that once the doors of their homes are closed they are experiencing something that is so extraordinarily difficult, it justifies their use of coercion and violence against their partner. There is no justification. Difficulty arises in every aspect of our lives, how we choose to deal with that difficulty depends on our values, habits and education. Men who use violence against women believe it is acceptable, this is the message they often learn from society.

[@kenzer1614]

Violence is never the answer, just walk away and seek help.

[@brandnewbeauty4244]

They need to all rot in jail. I can’t stand women beaters. They don’t get better

[@anquinetteduncan]

I been through a lot I don’t even know know why men treat women really bad

[@miaredding1554]

I gave noticed two things Ruth abusers. Most of them saw their mothers abused and/ or their mothers frequently allowed “boyfriends” to abuse them. They really hating women . 🙏🙏🙏💔💔💔

[@Therealdonaldtrumpusa]

To control them. Sense of entitlement.

[@LadyofSharlot]

Control and power

[@ericaholmes1542]

Create a mandatory domestic violence registry and then we can talk.

[@juanleopoldobalsevich-prie5140]

Yes. Let it not be erasable, ever. But include also any rehab actions taken by the abuser. Social service. Repair to society. Open a charity to help DV victims. Do something. Some guys just have the violence gene. Not much can be done about them. But some others know they made a mistake and want to change.

[@katrolinka89]

@@juanleopoldobalsevich-prie5140 exactly - unpaid, unpraised service. just like girls are taught to act.

[@briellehunter7233]

This guy I know once punched the mother of his daughter in front of his kid. She left him. His next girlfriend he kicked her butt, she fell face first getting mouth and teeth full of grass. She died of an overdose. The next woman came to my house because I called her saying I caught him with her bracelet and took it without him noticing. It looked sentimental and I wanted to return it. When she arrived she had a black eye and said he drugged her than robbed everything after giving her a blackeye. Than there was me. He stomped on my face. None of us did anything. Fear is real.

[@jayjay1443]

Abusers don't care about their victim. They may rescue someone else from abuse (only to use that as a ploy to abuse) but they will still abuse their own partner in a relationship

[@Anon18694]

Ive seen death many times the last 6 years. I got used to it. When there was a gun against my head or knife against my throat, I just started smiling.. like all I could think was "oke wel here we go again". Even my fear was gone, I felt nothing anymore. People will not change. Woman or child beaters will always keep continue their behaviour. Sometimes it may look like they've changed but theyre just better in hiding that behaviour a little longer.

[@adamnitz9519]

k well ur leaving out all the abuse against men u say that matters but u dont rlly think so when u say women want to be "equal" all u describe is the want to be a protected class

[@jee7504]

Don’t call yourself a man if you abuse women.

[@jee7504]

@Yeet 🤢

[@jee7504]

@Yeet no dear, if you are strong you don’t fight weak ppl , it’s called abuse.

[@jormungandr7527]

I grew up in a house full of domestic violence. I carry many scars from it too. But never would I EVER put my hands on the people I love.

[@shh480]

I actually don't really care about abusers. Pls lock them away until they die.

[@SharayaMW]

I agree. It is most certainly a men's issue.

[@ZoneZero-sm9jv]

This dude sitting there all proper with his hands folded. trying to look professional, while covered in tattoos and using the terms "ass whoopins" is too much. I'm sure these men are willing to say whatever they have to say to avoid incarceration, the same way they charm a woman into a relationship and then abuse her, often repeating the cycle. Psychopathic tendencies and narcissism and known to be very, very hard to cure. I'm all for restorative justice and real rehabilitation, but limit their freedoms until they are truly healed and have done the work to make amends.

[@lamoskgr]

I understand that rehabilitation is important but I think they should be held accountable for their actions and they should be incarcerated. It would be so unfair for a victim to see their partner free after a rehabilitation program. There are many rehabilitation programs that don't have any effect.

[@employed18yearold48]

If you hit someone your respect and feelings are going to be conditional.

[@lal.6984]

I think this is a good idea, I do think these men need psychological help.

[@feralLove]

I'm glad this program is available for incarcerated men. Much respect to the lady survivor of domestic abuse for educating these men on the lived experience of what it's like to have been abusef by an intimate partner. The fellow inmate interviewed was schooled for sure!

[@dharmabumpoetess]

Trying to change these people is impossible sometimes. Narcissists. Psychopaths. Sociopaths. They cant change. They wont change.

[@marcinsadowski9694]

Shrooms and LSD should be legalized and used in therapy in my opinion

[@thisgirlisoverit]

@@marcinsadowski9694Your new age hippie nonsense won’t change the fact that cluster B personality disorders rarely change.

[@TheLawandLifeinFlorida]

Domestic violence transcends all socio-economic boundries.

[@suziecheeseman3760]

Did she just say decriminalise domestic violence? Restorative justice has clearly had a real impact on recidivism accordingly to the RSVP program, but offenders still need to be made accountable.

[@sistahlamb]

This video lost me at “decriminalizing domestic violence”.

[@carmenl163]

5:00 "I'm starting to see that empathy is part of who I authentically am." This sums it up. If you are treated like sh*t all your life, you lose the ability to be a human. It's ironic that people need to go to prison to become humans again. I think this program is amazing!

[@cruzan8183]

I don't think that these men can be rehabilitated. These men are driven by how they think . Many abusers think that they have a right to abuse women. They talk a good talk when they're trying to get out of prison but they are the same guys. Many abusers are narcissists. You cannot fix a narcissist.

[@naijaaprincess]

I am in an abusive relationship now, he gave me a horrible STD, abuses me physically and mentally....he treated me so gooood at first, amazing then switched and does not care. He knew I had no money and family to go to when we first started dating and took advantage of that.

[@prettyalchemist8017]

That’s what they look for no income and no family.

[@danielmorales578]

This is very informative. PLEASE continue reporting on this important topic!

[@marleymarshall4572]

domestic violence abusers are cowards who do so because it makes them feel powerful

[@tiffanydajci8695]

I don’t care what anyone says these men DO NOT CHANGE I spend 11 years and nothing changed

[@arbitrarylib]

Men don't listen to ration and reason. They aren't hearing women. If these domestic abusers don't decide to change they have to put them in prison and give them the same treatment until they see it for themselves.

[@kaylahoward4671]

Chin checkin wow 💜 to all victims and survivors You're not alone I've know I've been there I've been through it

[@Swnsasy]

What's wrong with both? Jail and then have programs like this? Hitting to put someone down or to control, they need help and punishment for what they did. Normally they have gone through it while growing up. They need help and punishment in my book.. Both the woman and the man needs help. She needs to understand that one hit means GO! PERIOD!

[@Akamekun]

Swnsasy _ domestic violence is a very complex issue. It can take many forms and often times, it can be hard for a woman to leave. Also, the most dangerous time for a domestic violence victim is the time after they leave the relationship as the abuser tries to gain back control over them. Often times, the physical abuse is coupled with emotional abuse designed to force the victim to stay. That's why you hear some victims say that their abusers told them that their families don't love them anymore and that the abuser is the only one looking out for them. They usually take advantage of the trust they worked to build with the victim to hold them hostage. They even use children to keep the victim in line. Or may force to victim to become pregnant so the victim always has to deal with them, even if they do eventually leave. I do want to say too, that sometimes the victim may stay because in some way, they think they deserve it. They may have had a troubled childhood, or gone through something that deeply hurt them, and don't believe that they deserve to be loved and taken care of. So they do know the situation isn't right, but they don't believe they truly deserve to be happy. But I agree, both prison and therapy is needed. But also, we need to rethink how we raise boys to always default to anger and aggressiveness and also how they view women. Boys need to learn that empathy isn't just exclusively for girls and women and that women are their equals. And yes, there are women that need to learn the same as even my female ass knows that women have a propensity to be cruel and awful as well. Sadly, not a lot of women get that and so cross so many lines that they wouldn't let a guy cross with them.

[@Swnsasy]

@@Akamekun My education is Forensic Psychology, I know all about the issues with this.. The most dangerous time is ALWAYS when leaving..

[@tshayemussa3498]

Why aren't you confronting women who abuse men? Why is this only for male inmates who beat their girlfriends? 70 percent of female domestic violence victims initiated the assualt and got hit back

[@eaglemgtow2789]

Absolutely

[@adamgrace7976]

So teach empathy?

[@alessa7013]

Restorative justice my ass. And there is absolutely no excuse for hitting and abusive behavior. I don't understand the down play of DV but if a person randomly beats up another it's assault and jail.

[@herbalvisionz6091]

"This is not a women's issue. It's a men's issue. It's just short-sighted not to look at the person who's causing the problem to deal with the problem and I think we'll really start to see now what the potential for restorative justice is." love this

[@vanessaramirez9870]

They never change this people .

[@jeaninepetty4923]

I have one thing to say: THEY NEVER CHANGE IF YOU WANT TO PROTECT WOMEN KEEP THE ABUSERS IN PRISON, GIVE DRUG ADDICTS TREATMENT

[@warmcloud2218]

They should go to jail whether or not the woman presses charges.

[@jeaninepetty4923]

@@warmcloud2218 Hell yeah

[@alicial4449]

I want to say that the attorney advocating for decriminalizing domestic abuse is an idiot… but I feel that is an insult to true idiots that flit about amongst us.

[@TheRealCantaraBella]

Ummm, I thought an ass whoopin' was a beating. Lord this guy had more levels than anyone deserved