Conversation About Addiction with Gabor Maté and Arold Langeveld

[@Justin.pisani]

If a pill comes out that extend your life with another 100 years, Gabor Mate should definetely be first in line. The world needs him!

[@mial2781]

Gabor Maté. His insights are simple, brilliant and clear. A gift to humankind.

[@BarbaraMackenzie]

I love the deeply wise approach that Gabor Mate brings. This talk about addictions speaks directly to the impact, depth and quality of our connections. When our environment is emotionally challenged and people feel an attachment-void, it impacts the spiritual elements and calibrates the "addiction" compass which is set on a scale to deny or inspire. It's all about attachment.

[@Lai185]

"All the problems are psychological all the solutions are spiritual"

[@chriskeogh8857]

+Dagan Vickers so right my friend it is the power of love

[@epiphanyx3705]

Dagan Vickers profound...or all problems are material and all solutions are spiritual.

[@johnjakle943]

Don't tell that to AA Clancy imislund hitler dictator who abuses people from his podium

[@zacharywolfe7529]

Does Gabor Mate explain solutions to repression and pain

[@adamwestbury7928]

I would say that the solution is healing. You can call that spiritual but it's healing.

[@juliapilgrim6074]

Feeling loved, nourished and understood after viewing this and other Gabor videos. The books will be next.

[@nelgrace1969]

Oh Julia your comment is beautiful and it's exactly how I feel about Dr Gabor Mate. Only discovered this gift to humanity 6 weeks ago. Already had such a profound effect on me and how I respond to life and the people I love and cherish.

[@johngallagher72]

The struggle isn't yours alone . Many of us are side by side in fellowship and love . ❤

[@ansapphiregael8]

simply brilliant. a friend directed me to this healing man and I am so glad to hear sombody else speak a language I had always known but felt unrealised within my networks.

[@stellaryogaarts3265]

This Dr is the closest thing to divine truth here on earth that I have ever seen ! God Bless him 🙏

[@yourenough3]

This man is amazing. Love his compassion and his dedicated work. Thank you!!

[@yourenough3]

Yes! Drug addicts shouldnt be treated as criminals. They should NOT be punished. They are hurting HUMAN BEINGS!!! Self soothing is what their doing - 10000% true. They didnt wake up one day and so when i grow up i want to be a iv drug user or a crack addict etc etc. They were abused. Now lets throw them in prison and throw away the key! That is so messed up!! Cruel!

[@dhardy6654]

Im 13 months sober and in recovery due to AA, 3 sponcers and their help in working the 12 steps, rehab, 3 theripists and about 600+ meetings. Every thing this French guy says about the addiction was my life right from being a baby like he says. I hope he can explain us to normal people so they can understand us and we can all love each other....it was slavery for me and now im free for the 1st time.

[@poppybean7807]

D hardy so happy for you Iam 38 years free x 🙏 love it x

[@dhardy6654]

@@poppybean7807 thank-you. Now it's been 28 months. Things just keep getting better and better.

[@adamwestbury7928]

I hope you are still doing well and HEALING!!. Check out Peter Levine and Jeff Brown

[@dhardy6654]

@@adamwestbury7928 I'm doing well, 45 months now in recovery

[@Aluminata]

I would say - never become complacent. Addictions are loyal partners.

[@Dreamseeker911]

One of the best things out there! This should be shared

[@mokamo23]

his insights are incredibly profound. they apply to everyone.

[@marynatani7300]

Survivor of complex trauma w/ multiple perpetrators - 2 years clean. Ty Gabor Mate

[@350pauli]

Bravo! Listening to this I feel has changed my life, I couldn't understand the reason why my impulses where imbedded in me in the first place ... It all makes perfect sense now and I feel like I can breath again ... I am so thankful for your understanding and great works ... Thanks for introducing myself to me and letting me know I haven't changed

[@jerzyulicki-rek9796]

Excellent. From my experience addiction is always escape. From pain:physical or emotional ,from being force to make decisions.. from facing the responsibility.. Jerzy

[@johngallagher72]

Usually the addiction stems form a lack of connection. A lack of connection from community or yourself where you try to find that temporary relief from your negative emotions.

[@karencampbell2410]

I always knew this deep down but when I got clean this information wasn’t around but I always felt there was a strong link between trauma and addiction

[@melissayoung345]

Wow he is intelligent. And I have learned so much in two days. About my addition and childhood development.

[@inscrutable67]

Really enjoy Gabor's talks

[@jjstork65]

Excellent view. Makes a lot of sense. Shows were society is at and the problems of the western world

[@carlaraimer718]

🙏💜🙏 thank you Dr mate

[@4422michael]

This guy is brilliant.

[@ivanmarkovic1309]

Beautiful talk.

[@ilyachigrin4334]

as always amazing and illuminating

[@FishbowlSoulSwimming]

Wow what an insightful talk. He confirmed many things that I've intuited over the years in both myself and others.

[@flochartingham2333]

Dude- you are too lost.

[@fleitukas]

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[@robinsmall7269]

It speaks to our childhood trauma,!

[@jamesdocherty6484]

If you look at the process that helps an addict heal and into recovery. "Emotional availability, connection, healthy attatchment, expression of emotions, stress management etc." Then surely if that same process was fully integrated into your early life then you would have secure attatchment and would not need to recover anything in adulthood. You would be a fully connected human being with a healthy sense of self. No need to fill that hole in the soul with outside solutions.

[@7billion281]

Life changing! Thank you! 🐣

[@hotlady3200]

This is so right its ridiculous

[@flochartingham2333]

"Recovery" isn't a doable objective for everyone. It isn't really knowable whether or not a person is in a worse situation due to sustained drug use. First attempts at recovery are often failed. It almost seems better to have planned relapse. AA essentially sets people up for failure by making a promise that with enough time in AA, a person "recoil as if from a hot flame" when offered alcohol. Just because someone recoils one day doesn't mean they might not crave alcohol the next. Why not just approach it from the perspective that an alcoholic will always want another drink and they, BY THEIR OWN POWER, make it through that time of craving to another day when they won't have cravings as much. For someone who is actually determined to abstain from addictive substances I think the thing to do is ask this simple question: "If I have my substance of choice, will I remember better what I liked about it!?" Since the answer is inevitably "yes" in the same stroke they would have to admit that using again will make their recovery more difficult. If there is something to recover in "recovery" it is having pleasure doing something other than the addictive behavior. The rest will fall into place however it will. Some things sooner than others and even some things better than they might had been otherwise because they can be appreciated better.

[@NM50555]

Interviewer: So do these thing (addiction) just happen to people? Dr. G: did u not here ANYTHING I so elequintly broke down in my opening speech?

[@juanaguilera1000]

Es muy bueno, gracias

[@atiqrahman7289]

Addiction is very common. Having addiction for a short period of time is ok---- as long as human being learns to get out of addiction behavior eventually , getting to be mature eventually.

[@wdennise]

i want to thank Gabor mother for giving birth to this amazing man ,,thank you for being born ,,

[@davidcunningham2984]

The reason people look on addicts with contempt is what Jung called the shadow. They are not allowed to accept the addict in themselves. They are not allowed to acknowledge that given the same circumstances they too would be addicts. It is very much a dualistic view. It separates individuals. It gives one a false sense of superiority.

[@atiqrahman7289]

His statement that all addictions are due to childhood incidents----- Adverse Childhood Events ---- A C E----A C E Score is high among those who are addicts.

[@johngallagher72]

So he was abounded at 1 and that was his childhood trauma that caused him to foster a shopping addiction. ...fascinating ..I could see it happening. Our ..(insert childhood trauma) created an unbearable suffering that we seek to sooth the pain through (insert addictive behaviour) . Fascinating stuff really. If anyone is interested in keeping the conversation going comment below and I'll share mine and the addictive behaviour it led to

[@wdennise]

im prompted to connect with you

[@jennyquezada9644]

Childhood Emotional Neglect

[@makaylahollywood3677]

My aunt, a physicist, magna cum laude, died of cancer in 1968 said, "Do I have to die for everyone to get along?" I think of this as a way to live.

[@kbeetles]

What is a "lovely upbringing"? He is talking about meaningful human engagement and interactions and not about lovely upbringing.....

[@donbakerseattle]

he has described what that means - that when the child has the attention of the parents and is felt cared for. Same for addicts, he says they need help and compassion, not punishment.

[@LauraVolpintesta]

In tarot the symbol/ archetype/ energy of the Devil card is addiction/ slavery. It’s really the worst card in the deck. This aspect of the human experience is universal and … something to remain vigilant against falling into and overcoming.

[@epiphanyx3705]

WE ARE ALL ADDICTS. THE SUBSTANCE/MATERIAL IS IRRELEVANT.

[@jetjet642]

Please add closed caption. Im hearing impaired, and would love to follow

[@scienceandnonduality]

@jet jet Dear Jet jet. This video was uploaded in 2014 before youtube created the CC feature and we have hundreds of videos uploaded before that feature was instated. My apologies. Please know we are looking for ways to fix this issue.

[@assist2sellkeystonerealty247]

[@chriskeogh8857]

doc you are needed in IRELAND A S A P

[@LeaChristineMartin]

How do i MLA cite this source

[@carrieoff]

How did you?

[@ramicollo]

what's opinion about physical withdrawal?

[@vibinwpsilocybin1424]

walter white & tony soprano need a sit down with Dr. Maté

[@TheKingArabia]

Great man, disappointing audience. :(

[@SebastianTaeggi]

So it's all about not having been loved as a child? Hmmmm... not so simple, I'd say. What about the millions of addicts who had a perfectly normal or even lovely upbringing? I am more in tune with Paul Heddermann's approach - everyone of us is addicted to the same thing, which is what we call the self. It's the primary cause of pain in everyone's life. Address that addiction, and the rest will follow.

[@Samrushtonblight]

Amen to that.

[@megashira1]

Having a perfectly "normal" or even "lovely" upbringing still does not correlate to one being loved as a child. I'd say Mates' pretty spot on here. "All you need is love"

[@PuntedKitten]

It is not anywhere near as simple as you think. There is the latest in neurology to support his lecture. Try to imagine what a child would become if it was just locked in a cage and never talked to or cared for. How would you expect that child to develop? The brain develops in relationship to the environment around it. Children have irreducible emotional needs to become fully functional in the world.

[@phaecesmars871]

***** I don't think anybody here is denying that an abusive childhood significantly increases the likelihood of addiction later in life. But that's not the same as saying all addiction is a result of an abusive childhood. Why is it inconceivable that people can develop addictive tendencies in reaction to abuse/neglect that occurs in their adult life or in adolescence? Maybe not every addiction can be understood in terms of early childhood trauma, this shouldn't be a particularly controversial thought, it's just a matter of being open-minded in one's approach to understanding addiction. The ideas that Dr. Maté discusses remain just as valuable if we concede this point, addiction still has to do with self-medication, coping with loss, etc., even in cases where the addiction has virtually nothing to do with the addict's childhood.

[@SebastianTaeggi]

Addiction has to do with coping with the sense of separation, with the belief "I am small and separate and everything is so threatening to my survival". The cure to that is not to blame others (parents or whoever) but to undergo a psychic change, deflate one's ego and stop taking one's self seriously - maybe even to realise that the self doesn't have an independent existence. Blaming one's parents and carrying a resentment doesn't work. It perpetuates the existence of the injustice done by the parents. Change what you can - yourself, not what you can't - your parents. It works. It worked here.

[@joannemyors9353]

Hi all

[@RamSadeh]

I listened to you so much and this one sentence here- "Even the victims of the nazi's are capable of being nazis".. That just totally shut me off. Because it is untrue. Totally Horrifically Untrue!

[@MIAMIBOY61]

+Bar Mayerovitcz Nazis murdered people (Jews) that was the fact. Now, if you go to a jail in today's Israel you will find many Israelites/Jews in prison. If you find what put them in jail you will find among other reasons murder (victims being Israelites/Jews themselves, adults, kids). So, indeed, Jews can become Nazis in the deepest sense of the word (just as any other person who commits murder). Don't try to make Jews like angels, they are just as potentially good/bad as humans can be, they are just normal people. Of course, all depending on what kind of childhood a person had. Regards from Mexico City.

[@MIAMIBOY61]

Bar Mayerovitcz Hello Bar, two points I want to say: first, I understand what you mean. Now, when one person murders another he is literally exterminating the victim, and the pretext can be as simple as just for being a fan from a different football team and NO other reason. If one million people want to exterminate one million others or if one person wants to murder another that is proportionately the same, actually it is exactly the same: 1 million assassins for 1 million victims = 1 assassin for 1 victim. So, in essence it is indeed the same to exterminate someone and murder someone. Point two: I hope you had listened to the entire video of Dr. Maté. If you didn't like his specific comment, pass it on, and finish the video, listening with a lot of attention everything Dr. Maté says, because it is very important what he explains in the video, he exposes the root of the human/social problem. It is very important for this world to have people who understand the root of the human/social problem. You will be able to do a lot of good if you assimilate what Dr. Maté is explaining in the video. I respectfully even recommend to you that you see this video for a second time to fully capture the wisdom of every word (I am doing that). Regards from Mexico!

[@davidnflowers]

It seems to me gabor mate wasn't talking about the Jewish people in general, but about those were working to Exterminate those folks in Gaza, i.e., Zionists

[@paulmoose979]

Look at the policies in Israel towards the Palestinians. Yes, even Jews are capable of being Nazis.

[@undertheriverstone]

This comment did not age well

[@Aluminata]

When they don't get bonding from parents they become psychpaths.

[@Paseosinperro]

In Facebook people "like" you :)

[@johnjakle943]

My addiction comes from childhood trauma and loss-not genetic brain disease as AA says.(Clancy of the pacific group is a hitler)

[@aberussell6448]

One thing i disagree with is opiate are not addictive ...if youve ever seen someone withdrawing from heroin its clear there isa physical addiction that comes with regular use

[@dnllmaurer1]

The meanings of addiction & withdrawal are completely different. Basically: 1) Addiction, relates to the inescapable craving or urge to use the substance. 2) Withdrawal, relates to the experience of stopping the substance after extended, steady use. Hope this is helpful.

[@Elizabethd69]

I don't know what Gabor means when he says he loves the 12 steps but he has a problem with the 12 step movement, I don't understand what he means.

[@moonmissy]

Elizabethd69 He means that he liked some aspects of it such as steps in surrendering will, taking inventory and supportive AA community.. he didn’t like the identification with being an Addict, the behaviours can stop which means people shouldn’t identity with the behaviours, especially harmful ones. Behaviours doesn’t define someone’s identity.. they are much much more than that.

[@roberth7921]

brilliant talk. but seriously this platform and its "things just happen" kind of slogan is confusingly unhelpful.

[@AnAn-wp5rk]

Love Gabor. But the other guy breathing is way too loud!

[@JTNZ333]

"It just happens". Determinism is a destructive way of looking at life. "It's out of our control, it's all pre-determined" is what he is saying. Deterministics use that as an excuse to do immoral things as, 'it just happens'.

[@tinaturley2500]

LOVE marijuana....comfort....pleasure....healing....escapism....contemplation....freeing....👀💜

[@jaquelinepaul7384]

Wrong Vancouver lady

[@jaquelinepaul7384]

I could listen to gabor all day He just amazing. He is like a warm soft hug🤩🤩🥰 I can't believe this was 8 years ago. One thing is I am glad to not have to hear that other guy breathe into the mic any longer Oh my God it was driving me insane

[@atiqrahman7289]

Do not know if it is that simple ---- that all addictions are due to advese childhood incidents. Do not believe it is true. " Adverse Childhood Events" ----- what are those ?? And what can an individual practitioner do about Adverse Childhood Events. Thes A C E scores---- how much reliable are these scores.

[@lallyoisin]

So how do you raise a child? I can't see how it's possible to answer all of a child's needs without completely neglecting the self as a parent. The child's needs are endless it would seem and if the parents needs are neglected this too passes on to the child in negative ways. Vicious circle. Most creative behaviour comes from traumatised children. Is our goal to cease all things creative. Pain inspires. Tough love makes tough adults. The variety of personalities are due to epigenetics. Greatness comes from epigenetics. Collateral damage being you get a hitler every once n a while.. His dad was a dipso but so was Einstein's. We can't all aim at average! The bully can cause the Conor mc gregor and the mick tyson. Negative criticism can cause the Michael Jordans. Child abuse can cause caring parents. Isn't it the human quest to put as much of a mix out there as possible? Trauma + addiction caused the gabor mate to come into fruition. It's a necessary part of our development as a species.

[@derycktrahair8108]

Oisin Lally, I don't fully understand your argument, but it sounds like 'Parental Darwinism' & that increases diversity. Surely that is good for Society. Pity about the spoilt kids who don't learn boundaries & manners; they seem to grow up cause problems for those around them. A smack on the legs taught me respect for traffic. I'm still alive. Discipline (CONSISTENT & with LOVE ) seems to be the way to engender RESPECT. Brutality = NO. I get where you're coming from. Thanks for sharing those ideas. All the best & respect to you.

[@lallyoisin]

@@derycktrahair8108 spoilt kids demand higher standards. They have expectations. People with merit won't get offered a raise. Spoilt adults demand a raise and usually get it. To me there's as much a need for the nasty architype as there is good one!!

[@vytamyns81]

I could listen to Gabor all day, but as a person with ADD, the bald dutchman's heavy breathing was very distracting...so was his awkwardness in general come to think of it...

[@dawidczerniak5177]

Creepy audience... I don’t get why they laugh at the times they do sometimes

[@abukassam]

You call this a convesation but what I see is that one speaker is unable to tolerate anyone's voice but his own. I would have loved to hear from Langeveld but he is rudely sidelined in the name of "ADHD" of Mate. Gross then, with hindsight on your organization's ignorance of trauma, iit's still worse now.

[@patmoore7868]

Alcoholism is not necessarily a pain reliever

[@patmoore7868]

These people complicate this stuff.