Gabor Maté: Pain as the Root of Addiction

[@sevenstaramat]

No one in the audience applauded when Gabor mentioned that power and success are addictions that cause harm in the world. Yet he is right.

[@raphaelmoraczewski1106]

Dr Arno Gruen a psychologist explains it very well the rage and destructive will to power, a book titled betrayal of the self fear of autonomy in men and women, I'm sure Dr mate has read it.

[@youejtube7692]

I think that's maybe because many or most of them were thinking about whether that is the case with themselves, "Hmmn, am I actually addicted to power and success in business?".

[@zeewhat]

true

[@kathryngannon485]

Dr Mate' did a podcast with Russell Brand discussing this.

[@bait3027]

Probably because we admire that trait. What could be more American than power

[@crwdavis]

I was sexually abused by a neighbor and suffer from attachment issues when I was very young. My Mom always said I was such a good baby, always sitting in my crib all day long and play with my cars, didn't fuss or make a noise. Now today, at 42 I suffer from years of alcohol and drug abuse, I seek escorts, ruined my marriage, a horrible role model for my three children. Thank you Dr. Mate for bringing my attachment issues to light, I finally feel like I can overcome my issues and hopefully, God willing, repair my marriage with time and be the Man my beautiful wife deserves.

[@janarose8135]

‘The greatest gift parents can give their children, is their own happiness’ ❤️

[@emelysterback747]

Very true

[@timewithgod6473]

Wow I needed to see this now

[@yogyaize]

I want to add the word Time.

[@nivri9325]

I heard that before and it never sounded more real then to hear it from someone that really ment it . Wow.....thank you ......for writing that . I will try to show my kids more love and affection and will share my parents knowledge everytime this subject comes up.

[@jamie.777]

And I am changing, I was so blind...... this was what causes adhd and addiction ... selfish adults warp and destroy young beautiful minds

[@kaziras342]

My parent's response to me telling them I was sexually abused by a neighbor when I was 6 for three years was "You must have enjoyed it or you wouldn't have kept going around there". I was 18 when I told them and I went away and threw up. Their response was worse than the abuse.

[@taniamondesir]

😥🤯 so sorry

[@jeweltee69]

I’m so sorry! It’s no wonder you didn’t tell them! The same thing happened to a friend of mine molested by her step father at the age of 7 To 12 I believe and her mother called it an affair, and still does. Her mother was also sexually abused by family. Your response was valid and normal and makes me wonder if they too were abused themselves.

[@KatieKamala]

So sorry for your pain. Please try working with a somatic release therapist or NLP to let go of the trauma out of your body. Then lots of forgiveness work for letting go of your the treatment by your parents. God Bless.

[@enolacarter4945]

So sorry! Many parents ate so self minded. Shame they can put the blame on the child. They just don’t want to face it.

[@kaziras342]

@@KatieKamala Thank you. I have been doing some online meditative music and it's helping a lot. I loved my parents but hated them at the same time if that makes sense.

[@jacob1030]

Mate is the real deal. Wish I had met him when I was on the streets. So lost. Now I found recovery.

[@seliat2750]

That is so good to read. I wish you all the luck in the world and lots of happiness.

[@barbarakretson4140]

Yes! He's so amazing once all this ridiculous prophet based s*** show is over and we have a world not based on actually creating trauma and profiting on the outcomes of the man-made created intentional trauma we will have a beautiful approach to health Care both physical spiritual and emotional listening to him makes me feel so much better about myself thank God I found a way to medicate myself through this horror show and based on my trauma and just the trauma of being in a dysfunctionally set up society, I was basically healthy and properly reacting by becoming a so called addict to find my way through this hell bravo Dr Mate

[@maplesadventures2084]

Good on you, stay strong x

[@jenniferjack4346]

Pray for me Ms Rowan. I'm hanging in. Lots of extra stuff at the moment. After covid started getting handled we had actual(heavy) snowfall!! I live in Texas on the gulf coast.... No power, or work for a week. I wish i could meet him too. He's badly needed in my neck of the woods. The entire county here is struggling. Love to you madear! I'll be praying for you as well, starting now. Don't usually comment things like This....just felt called to, love to you sister.

[@fightington]

there is a book called Integral recovery by John Dupuy It could easily transform the entire field for the best

[@lilyhempt515]

Thank you for this video. My partner is in prison for being addicted to drugs. Our daughter hasn’t seen her father for 5 years now because he has been locked away. He had to steal food to survive from 5 years old onward, because his parents were drug dealers and addicted as well. Then he was bounced around in foster homes where he was severely abused. Then at the age of 18 his fiancé at the time was killed and he was severely injured in a tragic car accident. Nobody helped him through all those years, he found ways to survive and cope using drugs and then after all that they called him a criminal and put him in prison. Our lives have been stolen because we as a society have criminalized drug use instead of helping people with their pain. My daughter and I have had to scrape by without him for five years and we’ve been homeless twice. I had a nervous break down. It hurts so much I don’t know how to bear it. He’s still in prison and there’s nothing I can do.

[@strawberrywine3780]

People like these men are actual angels. Those who have made their way out of hell yet continue to go back for those who haven’t made it out yet. I am so thankful that these men have a platform. Thank you for your compassion, understanding and generosity. You’ve made me realize I’m not alone nor am I a bad person for the way I tried to kill my sadness. 🤍🤍 wishing you all infinite love and blessings

[@angels0auras]

Beautiful ❤

[@carolinechouings6515]

Great comment x

[@karanfield4229]

22 years of opiate addiction and THIS is the first time i have been captivated by addiction specialists. I usually shy away from the dry tedious yawn inducing speeches. This makes sense. U have absolutely inspired me. Thanku thanku thanku.

[@bigfoottreehugger12213]

It sure feels good when you hear someone treating the abused like human beings 😊

[@talulatree5297]

Yes, I agree. I found this last night while drinking. It explained so much. I'm listening again this morning in case I missed something. May your journey get easier.🤗

[@Rezparviz]

It is what it is . I take opiates and it’s the only thing that helps my PTSD. Without opiates I would have killer myself a long time ago

[@jrasmuss719]

@@Rezparviz me too

[@NiSiochainGanSaoirse]

I know your pain sister. I suffer the same. Well either die to get high or free ourselves and fly, but one way or another we won't end this thing alive.

[@Digidi4]

it takes a lot of balls to open up like that in front of people thank you guys

[@jcforshaw8221]

A family member is a alcoholic after watching this video and reading Dr Mate s books I began to understand the pain of the addiction. When I changed my behaviour to one of compassion and understanding the family member began to take control of their drinking. It was magical to witness. Family dynamics improved all round especially for their children. Thank you so much again and God bless you all xx 😘 ❤ 💕

[@andreavanda4722]

That's great! However it doesn't always happen that way.

[@missamychan]

"You cannot punish pain out of people." - Joe Polish, wow. mic drop.

[@janycebrown4071]

I wish that addiction was treated with more care and compation 😢

[@aprilphillips9222]

So true

[@janie88ful]

SOOOO DRAMATIC AND TRUE. LOVED IT 😊❤️

[@barbarasmith6005]

That should be common sense, not a revelation.

[@graceg19799]

I love that. My mom called it tough love and it only made me feel more alone and unloved.

[@Neelysmusic]

I am a therapist and this lecture was more valuable than the trainings or classes I've attended. I also deal with it personally on many levels. Thank you so much this. Your words need to be heard by all. You are doing valuable work!

[@camirose3009]

How can we help this man be heard on a global level !? This breakthrough analogy is nothing less then the Whole Truth and what we need now more than Ever.

[@lnln3656]

Share everywhere!

[@user-cy4vw1qj9m]

I was married to a alcoholic who cheated on me many times I ended up a wreck with mental health issues needless to say marriage broke down but as a family we r angry

[@janycebrown4071]

Your addiction was an attempt to solve a problem.... AMEN TO THAT 👌

[@Tina-di4lx]

I’m recovered 18 years now. Thank goodness for Dr Gabour 🇨🇦

[@jasmineramsey8692]

I use to shoot up in a bush or cemetary in the winter. I relate to this more than anything. I been sober for almost 2 years. Im trying to heal and this video has given me so direction on how to do that. I wanna read his book

[@theliftexpert]

You are an amazing and very unique person, continue to embrace yourself with love ❤️ & compassion and congratulations on your sobriety.

[@37kingspublishing80]

Good going..

[@vera5242]

Embrace yourself an stay sober 💪

[@pumbaapig]

I hope you're okay. I understand being addicted. Still currently to alcohol. Watching these videos has helped me however understand addiction better than I ever could on my own.

[@lynnromenesko3140]

I had a depressed & stressed mother due to my abusive father. Her suffering became my suffering as a young child. I had no one to talk about my pain & it was not able to discharge. It all makes sense now why i have ADD as well as a food/sugar addiction. Food was love that i wasn't receiving in my environment. It was an early adaptation to protect me from stress.I love Dr. Gabor. He is helping our world to understand that addiction, ADD, Anxiety comes from pain.

[@MathiasManser]

I wish everyone in the world would watch this and actually understand the depth of this talk!

[@karanfield4229]

Love is what we need. Love. Children, adults. This is absolutely captivating. Im an opiate addict for 22 yrs. You have got my attention. Thanku. Love from New Zealand

[@cd6356]

Hi same here for 12jears,now sober for 12months,but so still fighting against it,trying to heal my inner child,yes Love is what we need💞💪🙏greetings from Belgium

[@brookelittle5483]

Good luck, Karan. I’m a recovering heroin addict. I have 2 years and 2 months clean. The human connection I found in the recovery community absolutely saved and changed me forever. Recovery is so possible and worth it. Ask for help - find someone who has the kind of recovery you want and ask them what they did - then DO WHAT THEY DID WITHOUT LETTING YOURSELF ASK WHY OR HOW. You can’t fix your sick mind with your sick mind. You are in my heart ❤️

[@adamsanchezjr]

Absolutely right....if I could rule the world u know I love u all

[@mollypinto4666]

Brillantly articulated. Thank you. I'm a mother of a recovering drug addict

[@vera5242]

Wishing you both all the best for your recovery 🤗

[@beckystopford7352]

"You cannot punish the pain out of people"......... 🙏🙏🙏💯💯💯💯💯

[@devanggraini111]

I will never get tired of listening to Dr. Gabor Mate! Thank you. Love that he emphasize on treating the trauma instead of the behavior only.

[@thereasalewis3942]

You just nailed the problem with society. It's not the drugs, but the reason why we use drugs. Thank You for taking the time to understand and solve this issue. I pray that your words find some important people and slowly change the world. 😇

[@BF-xc2sk]

Gabor makes everything seems so easy to understand. He got this special talent for detangling any complex issue.

[@psycherevival2105]

I love Dr Mate and his philosophy, but it’s so much easier said than done. Have you ever tried to love an addict ? Protecting ourselves from hurt is a natural response to threatening circumstances.

[@davidroberts4248]

The secret is to see above them. Find out what happened to them. Dont look at your pain look at theirs. It's hard But we have the Grace in us alot more than we know.

[@RonWesterbeek]

Maybe so , but we could try to love the addicts we are ? 🌱

[@twodogs3868]

It depends on what you and Dr. Mate mean by, "love". I think in the most practical sense it's about love through acceptance, which lends respect to those who suffers society's scarlet letter.

[@shansational1803]

@@davidroberts4248 If you're denying your own pain in order to remain in/function in a hostile environment, 'grace' is hardly the first word I'd choose. Mate has another book called "When the Body Says No" and I'm curious what kinds of physical ailments a suggestion like yours could develop into. Both individuals' feelings and needs need to be taken into equal consideration for truly effective resolution or you're just stowing trauma away in another victim.

[@jackiehammond705]

I am one of three sister that was molested by father. Two sisters lived in fear , I on other hand did opposite (flight ) non of us turn to drugs . I lived my best life ,maybe driven by circumstances. God Bless you Dr Mate always interested in everything you have to say !

[@sugarsmacks79]

I was molested by my uncle in unspeakable ways from 5-8yrs old. He killed himself when I confronted him as an adult. I thought it was my fault. I have to self medicate to escape the pain. I'm glad ur outcome was diff. I still have flashbacks and nightmares panic attacks and a heavy heart. I fight it everyday.

[@strawberrywine3780]

I’m so sorry this happened to you. You are both so brave for speaking out against your abusers. I know this was not an easy task and I am so proud of you. I wish I could give you both a big hug. Wishing you all the healing, infinite love and blessings.

[@janycebrown4071]

I am one of three sisters. I am the youngest sister. When I was 9 my 17 year old sister went to our Mom and told her that our dad was sexually abusing her , her whole life! Me and my other sister don't know, or remember him doing that to us, but I think that he did. I have been fighting an opioid addiction for about 20 years, I am recovering and not using anymore. My sisters are doing ok, but we are all pretty messed up. When my mom found out she attemted suicide, and she suffered with depression and six more attempts on her life. Healing is hard when you are looked down upon, and mental health is not taken seriously. I hope that you are doing well 🙏❣️

[@janycebrown4071]

@@sugarsmacks79 I hope that you can recover from what happened to you! I am also someone who self medicated and I can relate to you. Stay safe and be well ❤️

[@gwennk4962]

@@sugarsmacks79 That's hard. Hard to understand how anyone can hurt a child. You know intellectually that it is not your fault. You know, your uncle probably would have killed himself anyway. Whether you confronted him or not. He was living in his own hell with the choices that he made in his life. He did that. Not you. His darkness touched you but it didn't destroy you. You survived something that no child should ever have to experience. Let that give you the resilience to thrive instead of just survive. 🫂

[@jaynick8933]

Wow!! Dr. Mate is ON POINT!!!! He talks about what it’s like to actually BE A HUMAN being!!!

[@almagirimai8931]

Excellent discussion. Dr Mate is the most compassionate, humble, helpful person. Thank you for this and for uploading the video in full.

[@doyleclanperth]

True. And the book is Life changing. Hopefully will be policy changing too. I'm looking forward to these "early childhood PTSD connections" to illness and addictions becoming mainstream. The Body Keeps the Score, It Didn't Start With You, The Boy raised LIKE a Dog and Attachment, Dirty Genes. Ties these topics together nicely, for starters.

[@katearnold6296]

Thank you so much for this extremely thoughtful and emotionally intelligent discussion.

[@bethelightofyourownhealing]

Mate has a way of describing this issue with peace and awareness. He helps so many of us with his words, depth and energy.

[@emilydrew6030]

This talk is pure gold. I really wish it had a different title so more people might be drawn to it. It’s speaks about so much more than addiction advice. It actually addresses most of the worlds issues and why we suffer

[@imwrong...7669]

The whole of the west is suffering from anxiety and addiction we are so separated from the family unit and spirit

[@benawake4eva273]

No truer words! And it's all been done by design. Divide and conquer. Destroy the family unit. A Tavistock house specialty. A mere 60 years has almost seen the "They " victorious. But it ain't over yet. 🤺🤺🤺🤺🥴😇

[@zeewhat]

true!

[@vickichance3164]

@@benawake4eva273 I really like your Spirit!❤️

[@vernie7882]

@@benawake4eva273 I was gonna ask you who’s ”they” but then I read your name Ben ”Woke” and started laughing hard. :D

[@aeondecker9210]

What if you have no family

[@katherinemoorhead338]

OMG. Life changing. God takes the junk of our lives and makes the beautiful art. Gabor, you are a Phoenix that has risen from the ashes.

[@sisterresister2532]

I had to pause just 1/3 of way. This is the clearest talk I have heard yet of Gabor. He is telling my story. No, I wasn't born in Budapest, the details are different. But as 3rd born girl (in 4 years, with 2 major moves) to parents who didn't want me. A redeeming asset I might could've had was to be a boy. Rejected. Neglected? Very. And left on my own to cope w/abusive bullying by 2 older sisters. I was on my own at 13, legally emancipated at 14. Cuz my bleeding ulcer needed medical care. Even w/35+ years of 12 step work & a couple good therapists, this past year-home alone & very isolated & quiet, I have re-experienced trauma of not being wanted. As an RN- I know that every deep wound must be debrided. It will heal. But all the gunk has to go, and must be kept clean. I am healing deeper. Thank you for this talk.🙏

[@TennesseeZee]

All of my childhood friends are gone from overdoses and I’ve overdoses multiple times. I am so glad to see all the comments of people starting to truly understand this issue and not agreeing with the proven failure of the war on drugs criminalizing victims. That’s all it’s doing is making everything worse for the addict getting no help and when they hit the legal system it gets even worse. It’s time we look at the facts the war on drugs needs to end and decriminalize all drug use and possession charges and use all that money it’s going to save for real help and not throwing us into the prison system alongside rape and murderers. It will never work throwing people in jail.

[@BarbaraMerryGeng]

I’m so thankful to find Dr Mate’s lectures here on you tube. It’s really helping me to process some issues I’ve been carrying around for a very long time. 🥋

[@geraldalbert8657]

Game of Earth I'm encouraged to write this article for most of the human race. The human race as I know it, doesn't know their own power and how great that power is and for sure they don't know how to use this loving power, while temporally living on Earth. As love is the fuel for power. I'm encouraged to write this article for most of the human race, because I know that most Humans don't know their own perfection. This article, I hope, will teach as many as possible to use their power to create a better and happier life while they live here on Earth. Truth is the fuel for happiness. It is not hard to understand what I say. However, it is very hard to believe it. For those that do, their lives will change as God's truth is the fuel for Happiness. When people believe in their perfection, their truth, long enough, they will totally neutralize Earth's illusions that have played on their thinking, thus compromising their creations. That will end. Again truth is the fuel for Happiness. When humans understand their (role) mission on earth, dealing with life here on earth, their lives will become easier. Know, when you understand Earth fully, you then believe in something and against nothing. My words (Gerald Albert) are easy to understand and some, very hard to believe. But that is normal. Earth is easier and easier to understand as we move to the truth of life. This article my help. New insight to thinking. This can be fun. I'll e-mail it to you -- go to -- [e-mail]

[@bait3027]

I can’t even keep count of how many brilliant moments of enlightenment in one video.

[@jadevanvoss2399]

I have so much respect for Dr. Gabor. He is really trying to help people without the grandiose and the need to exploit. He is sharing his wisdom to help damaged souls.

[@erikaalisauskaite7697]

I have addiction for comforting myself with food & overspending!! At least those 2 I'm admit & aware of. I think is my reaction to oppression, stress, rejection, sadness...

[@jefdby]

me too. Hugs!

[@Success4u247]

YESTERDAYS PAIN! IS TODAYS LESSONS .TO DAYS LESSONS , ARE TOMORROWS BLESSING.

[@Leonardoh4h]

THANK YOU, Joe. I'm an addict in recovery and for sure, the little yet instrumental steps thus far have been thanks to Dr. Maté. Anyone struggling with addiction: you are worth it and you can heal, at your own pace and time. Solidarity.

[@Zenoithegreek]

Two wonderful and compassionate men.

[@susanurban6343]

Being human is the hardest thing we'll ever do. It is time that we learn to accept this and support one another in a whole new humanity. I have worked in this depth psychology for my whole life. I am thrilled that Dr. Gabor and others, are at long last bringing these basic Truths to the forefront. Thank you so very much!

[@blissfulbaboon]

Wow, some real genuine humans telling it like it is, with some real understanding!Now that's RARE as we have been barbaricly demonizing addicts for a long time and it's time that changed.Thank you both ...The world needs to be educated on all you have spoken of here.Very important discussion

[@NiSiochainGanSaoirse]

I'm sadly a heroin addict of over 22 years, and a person in pain for damn near 34 years of my 40 years on earth. My pain has been punished for 22 years, and all its ever served to achieve is to isolate me, desteoy any positive traits I once had, and left me chronically lonely, thoroughly dejected, and lost to the joys of this world. And then we get abuse constantly... Constantly reinforcing our isolation, Further obliterating any remaining vestiges of self worth, Utterly breaking our spirit. Imagine how intense the feelings of "why bother" are amongst the addict community... Its heartbreaking. The world really does need to alter its approach to treatment of addiction and addicts.

[@trudytru8224]

Joe what a great man sharing your experience so openly to help others

[@吳家慧-m6r]

To help, share and inspire. Thanks Joe

[@halwarner3326]

The world's best addiction specialist. At a minimum amongst the best.

[@thedesertsage6556]

Thank you sir for all of your work. I cried after watching this, we carry so much of societies resentments on our shoulders it takes all that I have in order to not let that weight crush me.

[@prussianmillionaire5055]

This is great.thank you.ive been sober and therapy almost 38 years.badly very badly abused all forms from infancy.i am writing book of my life.i just found you and subscribed.

[@mariangrimsdell1112]

😢 Hope you get the compassion and healing that you deserve so much , sending you 💕 and 🙏 🦋🌈💕

[@a.a.1958]

Addiction gives people relief from pain, escape from pain, control over pain. Addiction is not the problem. The problem is pain. This is an environment that was created so we can practice overcoming pain. The pain here is the opposite of what there is in eternity/any of the alternate existances. This environment ALLOWS us to learn to deal/manage/live well inspite all of the pain. It is possible for every single one person to work against pain and become a benefactor in the world. The problem is that we have become so ADDICTED TO PAIN, that we need it to "feel" alive, because we are affraid of death/not exist. So we subconsciously as a society become experts at creating pain, so we can feel alive, we don't like pain but we have becomed a society who NEEDS pain. The real problem is pain and the solution is in our hands. War, hunger, poverty, racism, hate towards immigrants, rape, taking from one another, child abuse ect...we have become better than nature at creating pain. How do we overcome pain? By becoming more whom we really are (Spirit). The capacities is our individual Spirits are kindness, patience, charity, understanding, virtue, and all the things one would think are angelic or belong to another existance and we are affraid of becoming Spirit because that would make us "dead", but that unconciuos belief is not true. Becoming and figuring out how to be more whom we really are (Spirit) will make us more alive, eternally alive starting from here and now. IT IS TIME TO HEAL THE WHOLE FAMILY (WORLD FAMILY) SYSTEM.

[@sharonbothwell1654]

I am an addict & I don't know how to stop, I want to learn to heal, I love Dr Gabor Mate. Please help, I am running out time!!! Thank you

[@kaziras342]

@@sharonbothwell1654 Me to.

[@allleymed0123]

@@sharonbothwell1654 you are not alone

[@maryshaffer8474]

Our written religious books are about the trauma of humans. It's our gateway to God.

[@SuperMrHiggins]

To the above two people, I would suggest finding a support group (Personally, I dislike 12 steps. It works for some people and it hurts many. Feel free to try it and if it doesn't work KNOW there are many alternatives.) Check out harm reduction. I hear you Sharon, it's like being caught in the bottom of a ravine that's filling up with water. Deal with it myself, started using again in November after a few years and it's been rocky, trying to reframe a lot of my experience.

[@KarineTKnudsen]

Dr. Maté is amazing. I love him so much for the work he is doing. I wish every doctor (and person) had his insights on human emotions, trauma, escaping from pain that causes addictions. The world needs a lot of healing - in the right way.

[@ricksmith5088]

I just came across Dr. Mate last night and I've already started really looking inside myself trying to dig up all the pain I've buried deep down so I didn't have to deal with it. So for 30+ years I've repressed my emotions (because men shouldn't talk about our feelings and so on) so I could help anyone that needs it around me in anyway. For so long I've put anyone and everyone even complete strangers feeling and needs ahead of my own. So much so that I still to this day use the psychology and sociology in high school to help countless people with their issues. It absolutely amazed me last night after I heard this great man explain addiction and trauma, that I came to realize that I've told myself for so long that my feelings and wants are not as important as the people around me. And other people had a much worse life than myself so why should I be hurt by my past. The greatest words I've ever heard come from a doctor besides hearing them say it's a healthy baby boy 3 different times.

[@gailtscherrig1905]

Right at the end he mentions. no-one held us. Who now is going to hold us if not God? This was an utterly brilliant topic and good participation from the honest people in the audience.

[@aprililes8355]

Omg he sure is!! You feel like you could tell him anything without judgement and being stereotyped. Feeling the empathy and compassion he exudes is so sincere and undeniably healing in itself!!! I absolutely love this men and for all the work he does regarding addiction and the suffering of humanity!! ❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@danaworsley3921]

This is so true. Out of pain people search for a way to cope and this holds a light to the reason of addiction and why it is so prevalent in today’s society. As a struggling addict I know this pain and want to learn to cope differently and this truly helped me understand myself...

[@lynnemorse3986]

Amazing men sharing their souls understanding what addiction is ❤. Thank you for your truth and your wisdom 🙏 🙌 ✨.

[@barnes29510]

Thank you for turning me onto Dr. Gabor Mate again. 🙌 He's 100% right. When I was a young kid and had a tooth removed. I didn't become addicted to the opiate. It was much later in life that I found comfort in opiates. I've told people this example for years now. Another thing, a person is formed in the home. Where they spend the 1st part of their life.

[@DeeloGoodquest]

I have so much compassion for my perpetrator. That makes me feel good that I've come that far.

[@Laughter_is_the_Best_Medicine]

I have been depressed this week. This has helped me understand my pain.

[@bigfoottreehugger12213]

When whatever atrocity is not acknowledged by a loved one that’s worse than the atrocity you went through so healing doesn’t know where to begin unfortunately at least that the way I feel anyway 😔

[@bestrongandloveyourself2370]

27:34 thank you for this wonderful advice! I was irrational and delusional and only caused more pain to people I wanted to help. Non-judgement, compassion, acceptance of reality are very important 💖💖💖

[@vaishalivaidya7978]

Such a wholehearted and open conversation...Just love to hear Dr.Mate...Wish there were more people like him around.Would love to.meet him.some day👍.Blessed are the people who get to hear him

[@skydiver5081]

This was a great interview. It helped me realize that I'm directing my anger against myself which in turn helped me to resolve this issue. Thank you very much Dr. Maté and Joe!

[@gilliet1]

Add to dictate= addiction : you add power to let it dictate you , this is the essence of addiction , it is YOU that gives it power . may love be our guide, love to all that is

[@ottovaughnjr.9282]

Lol Now I'm addicted to mate's lectures/talks...

[@Collaborologist]

Let's all heal together...

[@Pii1968]

Sam Hahn amen om ❤

[@davidroberts4248]

Amen

[@skydiver5081]

Amen

[@xw6475]

Dr Mate is true mentor. i love listening to his talks, makes me grow so much as person and understand myself. Thank you so much for this talk

[@el-seq3032]

Bad time to cut the guy off when he was opening up about being molested as a kid, however I love listening to Gabor (I spent over 27 years addicted to Subutex/ methadone and never been able to handle the weeks of pain from quitting these "cures"). I have brain injuries from overdosing and struggle with attention/ memory loss. First saw Gabor on Zeitgeist Addendum and in my opinion he's the most informed, no bullshit speaker I've heard speak on the topic. Very cool guy.

[@doingme8384]

Hey friend. Did you kick the substances?? Or are you still on the methadone and/or subs??

[@galemiller7422]

Halfway through this and I love with this doctor I wish there were more like him 🙏💕🙏

[@dawnm3697]

This one of the most profound interviews I’ve listened to on you tube. Thank you both for your ability to share with clarity and intention, the knowledge gained through the integration of your experiences and pursuits. ❤️🙏🏼

[@lnln3656]

Well said

[@jacquelynljohnson8887]

This was given to me by God. I just turned the TV on and it was almost over. I had to stop my cast tv and then search for the site. I listened to the whole speak. This man is PHENOMENALLY BRILLIANT. I listen to Jordon PETERSEN. Another BRILLIANT & PHENOMENAL MAN. KEEP 'EM COMING, JOE. THANK YOU! GOS BLESS YOU.

[@TomTom-df9ph]

Just love Gabor Mate. He’s a brilliant expert on so many problems.

[@thevivianarose6472]

Absolutely wonderful. I am so very grateful for this program and for both Dr. Gabor Mate and Joe Polish, their integrity and true substance which allows them to be true and "vulnerable", a word that has undertones of "weakness", but in this context it is one of the hallmarks of the greatest strength, such that many people never get to develop, at any age. Thank You so much.

[@TOM-vz8us]

Great talk! I'd like to add, though, that the huge increase in anxiety and other mental illness has to do with the way they are diagnosed. Behaviors that were considered normal in the past, such as a 9 year old not being able to sit still in class, are now called symptoms of mental disorders that have to be medicated. The medications then change these behaviors from temporary problems to lifelong chronic illnesses. So, more mentally ill people exist now (in the US, at least) because the criteria is looser and the treatment is harmful.

[@happycook6737]

It is NOT about "sitting still" in the class. I'm a teacher. It is about executive functioning of the brain. Children with ADDs often exhibit a wide variety of difficulties that significantly impede learning, organization, planning ability, self regulation, impulse control, and social skills. It is NOT about sitting still as that is now rarely required in today's fast moving, learner defined, highly interactive classrooms. Kids with ADHD are easily identified by peers, teachers, and observers. With proper treatment such as behavior modification, coaching, and sometimes medication people with ADDs can achieve their goals educationally and socially.

[@2msvalkyrie529]

Exactly . The medical profession must take a large share of the blame. Not least for abnegating responsibility for diagnosis and allowing ' patients ' to self declare as suffering from ADHD/ PTSD / Eating disorder / Body dismorphia Bi - polar etc, etc. or whichever malaise they just read about in magazine or seen on Oprah. Presumably they dare not contradict the patient for fear of expensive law suit ?

[@raphaelmoraczewski1106]

Our socialization process that we pass on from parent to child living in a pseudo reality is the cause for all this. Dr. Arno Gruen betrayal of the self and the fear of autonomy in men and women, explain how this works

[@doc2help]

As a doctor who treats many pain patients, I have never had one made significantly better by blaming the doctors, nurses and the other ‘professioanals’ yet those who did not realize it had happened seemed to be better for understanding how and why it had happened.

[@mariangrimsdell1112]

Raphael Moraczewski I used to think I was disadvantaged because my Mum was ill and I being the eldest had to take care of my four siblings , therefore missing out on an education, uni etc, but looking back I now realise I was extremely lucky because I am a free thinker with remarkable gifts of perception making more money than I ever dreamed of, if I had been conditioned by “ education “ I could never have developed the skills I now have.

[@sulaybalde4673]

This guy Joe polish is the strongest Man. He mastered his past and fears so good that he speaks about it so openly without any problem.

[@joanressel6568]

Wow, Thank you I am the Mother of a Recovering Addict ....hit the nail on the head on so many levels... Finally someone said it...I hope to start working in the Recovery field to change the face of the recovering person to help to change the dynamic of the rehabs...Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤️🙏

[@lizfrancis6202]

I have very strong negative emotions towards my perpetrator, I don't want to see them, I don't want to hear them call my name. I pray for healing because I know this can not be good for me.

[@TheThora17]

Dr Gabor Matè is brilliant

[@lionsskyblue442]

this Gabor guy is good, isn't he like he's the real deal

[@blissfulbaboon]

Yes.He rings 👍true.Genuine

[@lb1798]

I read his book "When The Body Says No" about stress and chronic illness...Dr Maté is GOOD!!!

[@darlenegarcia9385]

EXACTLY....part of the solution first i agree is dealing with the trauma. Getting to the root of why the addict became an addict in the first place.

[@darlingprincess6705]

Joe, you were trafficked! What you described is child sex trafficking. I'm so sorry this happened to you! Thank you so much for sharing this. So encouraging. Talking honestly is inexplicably difficult.

[@abdimojo8794]

😱😱😱😱😱😱 This is has been lingering the back of my head. Like something isn't right.

[@woundedchildstory3172]

This is such a needed voice. There’s been too much shame behind these issues.

[@lesleyrhind3377]

Gabor looks fab for his age . He really is god send . Thanks to you both for doing this

[@francine7663]

Brilliant conversation which illuminates and dispels myths about addictions! Important insights about TRAUMA, loss, and lack of attachment in childhood. Must watch through til the end!!

[@RaoulDukeSr]

I could listen to Dr.Mate forever..and will.

[@renatarobin6935]

Thanks to him I learned how to forgive and understand. I became human

[@johnayala2540]

2 rational approach to deal with an addicted loved ones. 1. I love you but I can't be with you. 2. I love you and I'm going to stay with you and support your rehabilitation. Irrational and wrong approach is to try to change the addict by coercion, threats or manipulation. Molester was also a victim when they were younger and thats why they should be shown some compassion and understanding. But it's ok to have a justifiable anger for the molester.

[@jaxketpocket7147]

The part about family coming together to Say thank you for being the sensitive one and let’s come together and end the addiction by creating a space and common communication of love and support to end the cycle. This is something I can take home to my family that has suffered. Thank you for this talk a seed has landed 🙏❤️

[@ginatarro2552]

Wow!! This is mind blowing. Thank u. The world needs to hear this.. 😊🙏THANK U

[@yahuahschild5851]

Mine is KZbin but I feel like that is okay because I learn a lot of knowledge here and I also get the humor, compassion, etc... It is better than alcohol which I was addicted to for 30 years! When I gave my life over to my Heavenly Father I was able to leave that horrible addiction at His feet also nicotine at the same time! I believe these awful addictions came about from severe abuse all my life till this new relationship gave me peace, self-esteem, and confidence!

[@chasethecat3839]

Joe - incredibly wonderful, helpful and life changing. TY for finding, introducing, & hosting this insightful human and for asking him all the right questions on behalf of your audience

[@jenniferc.2514]

✨Empathetic Compassion✨ Is the continuity of the human race's successful healing & existence on Earth!

[@elisae5658]

Dr Mate rocks...

[@Leonardoh4h]

Yes!!! We are lucky to be alive and witness his teachings. Solidarity.

[@NiSiochainGanSaoirse]

But I SMOKE rocks, and I live listening to him. He gives me hope, and to a hopeless junkie, that glimmer of hope is like a laser beam directly into heaven... There's a way out of this trap! There's actually a f**kin' way OUT of this sh1t!!!

[@ididntrealize]

I love it when people come up with such parsimonious replies to toxic culturalism. I've seen so many people sucked deeper and deeper into addiction because of how poorly managed it is in our culture. I don't think Gabor has 100% (and I doubt he believes this either), but it certainly addresses alternative answers, and concisely blows them out of the water. Thank you much for the honesty, and the interview Joe!

[@jamie.777]

What a beautiful and loving mind..

[@crazymerkz]

As enterpreneurs you have a unique opportunity to involve children in your work, or spend time with your children when it is important. I think that it was exactly the right place to talk about such topics.

[@sarahwalker7547]

This is a talk everyone should listen to. Thank you so much

[@virgosoul]

Thank you Joe for putting all this on and for putting yourself out here

[@around_the_world2360]

This conversation is needed so much for the world 🌎. Recovery is a beautiful 💙🖤🤍 thing😌.

[@tylerhelmuth6289]

So good, thanks for posting this Joe. We so harshly criticize others for the things we hate about ourselves. I loved the line about looking at ourselves with compassionate curiosity.

[@FreeSpirit47]

The most common substance addiction which nearly everyone accepts. If you watch a person who can't function very well in the morning until they have had 1 - 2 cups of coffee, that's substance addiction. I saw this as a child, never picked up the addiction. My addiction, if it can be classified as an addiction, is helping others. Another is to create beautiful art with my hands.

[@jwh8228]

The best video I have ever watched one youtube. Dr. Mate could change the US for ever if the right people would listen.

[@kathykonkle1097]

I said the same thing out loud to myself when it finished. Saved it to watch over and over.

[@bait3027]

Hell yeah!

[@sherylmac40]

I've never met anyone who can express his views on addiction quite like Gabor. He's amazing insight into addiction , Dundee Scotland needs Gabor , we have the Highest "drug related deaths" in the UK! The system here makes to much money from prescribing methadone , Dundees answer to any drug misuse , then you'll be lucky to see a drug worker. I've been clean of opiates for 5yrs now. It doesn't stop me caring about all the ppl left behind.

[@montagraph818]

While I respect his compassion and work, I also think it's too easy to jump to the conclusion that addicts aren't to blame for any part of their addiction and jail and the legal system's involvement is a ridiculous concept. I agree the laws in almost all countries aren't appropriate for the aim of reducing addiction, but that shouldn't be equated with addicts not needing consequences. As an addict myself it does me no good simply to believe that my addiction wasn't my fault, it's more complicated than that because once I knew I had a problem I was responsible for deciding whether or not it's something I wanted to change. Recovery doesn't work if an addict doesn't want to recover. Some people throw away all savings and get worn down by sending loved ones to rehab after rehab without determining if it's something they want or are even close to considering. If I hadn't had consequences it may have been too late for me (i.e. overdose, dying while DWI, etc.) to even consider whether or not I was an addict and alcoholic because I may have died before I got a result other than what I intended from getting high or drunk. It also took additional consequences once I believed I was an addict to consider whether or not I was truly powerless over my addictions. I'm referring to powerlessness in terms of still believing that it's as simple as just stopping when I want it enough. I know for myself, and many addicts I've talked to, we'll keep using even after we know what we are and no longer wanted to be that thing unless something changes. Addicts do, however, have the power to say I need help and then start to seek that help from others until they are strong enough to utilize coping strategies (whether those strategies include a program, social activities, or individual coping skills) one day at a time, consecutively, without giving in to the addiction. Some people can decide to seek recovery when the consequences are more simple, like losing friends or making a fool of themselves. For some people, unfortunately, it takes an arrest to accept they aren't the one controlling the substance and that it's the substance in control. Sadly, many die before they make a choice to change or realize what's happening to them.