THIS Brought Us Out of a Rough Patch in Marriage

[@Lauren-z9g]

Was me and my husband for many years until the last two years. He ended up having two double lung tyrants plants.. I ended up taking care of him when he was in and out of any hospital and let me tell you.. I felt so angry all these years for many reasonable desires he had but when I had to take care of him I prayed and told God.. I need.. joy and love and patience… He .. gave… me… just that. I wish I’d prayed for wisdom and understanding beforefore he was so sick but… I praise God.. He and He alone took me to a place I needed to be for him and when he died 6 months ago.. I didn’t suffer.. I knew I’d done what I’d lead me to do. He gave me the grace to give him when he didn’t deserve it but I also didn’t deserve a savior dying on a cross for me. He is a Holy.. loving and a God ful of undress grace.

[@hallievonkaenel738]

Finally relatable christian marriage content on KZbin

[@laurap9403]

One thing that helps in my marriage is that, even when we aren’t getting along or at odds, we still are committed to certain daily affection’. So, for example, even when I’m mad at my husband, I still give him a kiss when he gets home, I still make his dinner and serve him his plate, etc. I may not do it with a smile and joy haha but I still do it. What this does for us, is that it still keeps us connected even when we aren’t getting along.

[@danaarmour707]

Same 😊

[@vvdelgado17]

The fact that Lisa made a promise to her boys that she would never marry again if John ever died is so amazing!! ❤ John you are SO LUCKY

[@Michael-t9k]

Ha I hope God won't test her on it.

[@Mn_comics]

That's just dumb. I would never make that promise.

[@marleneholloway7775]

I would as my first marriage was a complete failure, DV..for many years...

[@mchristr]

Sacredness doesn't reside in a particular union but rather in the meaning of marriage. Mature, adult children would love to see the surviving parent with a godly companion.

[@dnmccurry]

Thank you for being so vulnerable. We just celebrated our 41st. We are currently in a challenging season. I’m praying, worshipping, and trying above all to listen. I’ve been walking with the Lord for 44 years. Again, thank you

[@callmerush.y.b]

Such perfect timing. Please pray for our fully redeemed restored blessed better than ever marriage ! Because right now it is a nightmare.

[@kazelgrande5806]

I rebuke that spirit of disunity and I speak life and freedom over your marriage and home in the mighty name of Jesus! 🔥❤️

[@callmerush.y.b]

@@kazelgrande5806 thank you sister♡♡♡

[@Jesuslovesyou0316]

God loves you so! John 3:16✝️

[@rjsantics7156]

Same here 😢

[@travelwithsouthernchick5112]

Marriage is a beautiful thing but God has to be in everything! Married for 14 years and it will be ups and downs and sometimes we just disconnect from marriage because of stress, work and other issues but we must seek God for help

[@kellinswifekimmy]

My husband and I cannot wait to lead “The Story of Marriage” life group starting next Friday! Please Pray for us and those attending. Mahalo!!

[@kelliered4530]

Just married 22 yrs yesterday marriage is broken just roomates no communication he doesnt want to pray go to church with me or read bible very alone

[@JenniferG-jm4rh]

By 6 years, mine had a 2 week online affair, by 13 years, an affair that got him fired from his job. And then after that, no more spiritual connection AT ALL.

[@wb5408]

I agree that God cares about both--happy and holy, but there was a time in my life when I really NEEDED to hear that it wasn't about happy, it was about holy because my marriage was a nightmare, and because of that, other people offered the worldly advice that, "Well, if you're not happy, you should leave, because you deserve to be happy." I think there are seasons that we need to stay, even though we're not happy, because we desire God more than we desire our selfish desires. I'm there right now!

[@ludwinaliezelmupeti8004]

Amen. So good.

[@lindaa5412]

Stubborn = prideful= sinful Humility and forgiveness are needed. It's not an easy conversation but truth about how you really feel starts to open a pathway.

[@andredutoit8830]

THANK YOU for sharing. Marriage is a covenant and a covenant requires commitment. John is right. Marriage involves 3 people. Much love xxx

[@rjsantics7156]

This morning i considered Christian Marriage Counseling. My Marriage of 7 years needs help. Urgently. Im admitting this for the first time. I pray this podcast will be the start of the Counseling we need. 😢💔 Love from China 🇨🇳 ❤️

[@kathy888]

Great! I just found this. Also watced Lisa's one on sex. Think that is the best talk/biblical and practical wisdom on the subject, also realting to what you tell your teens. Please watch, and hang in there! Victory can be yours!

[@rjsantics7156]

@kathy888 Amen 🙌🏽

[@jackiebejo2404]

This helped me so much I wanted to leave my husband but God is saying no so I know it’s worth it to stay!

[@crmannino3781]

Same for me

[@lauren705]

10:55 "We make the decision to love and then feelings follow"

[@4missionworld]

30 yrs married & appreciate this!

[@kurthartwell9511]

Love this. Great teaching. My wife and I have our own saying to remind us that we are different but we make each other better and offset our faults/imperfections. We say “HOME TEAM” .

[@thaniaxo]

“Becoming one takes time “ This ! It takes time and it’s hard ! May God find grace for our marriages ! Marriages matter ! Godly Marriages Matter !!!

[@hopehilstad369]

I am crying because of your honesty towards God and each other. I feel so happy and relieved to hear you both speak. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. With love ❤️

[@thando_rath]

Thank you sooo much for this. As a couple in our early 30s we really need godly guidance like this❤ Please do share more (on the next one) on what Ps John mentioned about putting God first but not mistaking that for putting church first? How do we serve the Lord passionately in the church without ending up compromising our marriages and building our households

[@bethany9563]

Learning so much!!!! ❤😍 Married almost a year and had our first babygirl. Can’t wait to apply these beautiful virtues in my relationship with God and my husband. What a perspective change. Thank you guys for being my adoptive youtube parents!

[@melissak9627]

I would love to hear more about how John was able to treat Lisa as if she was perfect. I find this the most challenging. Also would love prayer for my marriage too as we are both stubborn and it feels like a nightmare at times. Thank you for what you both do for Marriages ❤

[@yazminalcantaracastillo5781]

This is sooo good! All of it! I’ve been binging on your videos Lisa and today this one came up on my feed and I have to say ALL of the videos have been ministering to me deeply!!! Thank you so much for your faithfulness and obedience to this ministry.

[@jenjen5348]

Gosh you guys are so similar - you both are very understanding of each others personalities and have accepted that and loved each other by choice. Thank you Jesus ❤

[@jose-anneleclair7561]

Great dialogue! I find your honesty refreshing & I pray Holy Spirit continues to guide us in our marriage.

[@JenBricker1]

Thank you SO much for your continued obedience and openness! You have no idea how much help you both are! You are true role models in the Kingdom! 👑💪🏼🙏🏼

[@SheSharpNotFlat]

This was an incredible episode. Thank you for your wisdom and transparency.

[@leeshc5952]

I am not married but I enjoyed this conversation and found it helpful. I’m glad for this conversation and it came at a great time as I have a family member I instantly thought of to share this with. ❤

[@maryanne8452]

I love your podcasts and appreciate the Godly wisdom that you share. I would like to respectfully ask that you both work harder to stop interrupting each other and talking over one another. If you're going to teach about Godly marriages, then you need to exhibit healthy communication skills. One of the greatest forms of love we can offer another person is to listen to them to understand and stop listening to them to respond. When you continually interrupt and talk over another person, you are not listening to understand, and you are not respecting them in your communication. This is a main contributor to unhealthy and unsuccessful marriages because people do not feel heard and understood. Again, I share this respectfully from a heart that is very grateful for your teachings.

[@sweetnessgyamboe4897]

Love & appreciate this ❤️.. usually happens with strong willed couples and to the audience it really sounds chaotic but am sure they’ve worked on it & hv some form of understanding

[@andreakennedy3623]

I agree with this insight for the very reason that I struggle with this in my own marriage. It is a deep-seated area of concern that needs immediate attention between two strong-willed people in order to crush the habit of rudeness in communication. It becomes dis-honoring when we don't give the other person a chance to express their thoughts without interrupting them, even when we don't agree. Jumping in to correct them or add our two cents , over time, produces 2 porcupines that can't get close because they have learned to be on guard. We can be speaking the truth, but if it isn't heard, what's the point?

[@maryanne8452]

@andreakennedy3623 VERY well said, and I couldn't agree more! I pray that you continue to develop healthy communication skills and habits in your marriage and that in so doing, you experience greater understanding and deeper connection with each other! Amen!

[@deborahallen4169]

I personally think their interruptions are done in a healthy, respectful way. They are very respectful of what the other has to say, and have no criticisms of each other in any way. Their corrections of each other are done very little and in a very respectful way.

[@maryanne8452]

@deborahallen4169 If you study anything at all about healthy communication, you will immediately learn that interrupting is never acceptable. When you interrupt, you are telling someone that what you have to say is more important than what they are saying. So, to suggest that their interruptions are healthy and respectful is an oxymoron.

[@healthopotomus]

Such a beautiful episode. And I was just reading Malachi 1-2, so wow! Perfect timing. I'm not married but I'm praying to be one day. This is great for singles to hear as well if you're asking God to prepare you for marriage. Thank you!

[@jerickatbaez]

Thank you so much . I needed to hear this coming from restoration in my marriage .I’m still going through my husband ignoring me.

[@TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle]

WOW!!! What a testimony of keeping in step with the Holy Spirit.

[@GregBoot]

so good John and Lisa, marriage matters and we need to talk about it more so many marriages are struggling. Thanks for your honesty and openness . We need to stay loyal and not shut off our hearts to each other. We love you guys keep spreading the truth

[@deannachilton5416]

Lisa is such an anointed preacher!

[@juliesmith9822]

Bless both of you! Thank you for your transparent and real discipleship! Amen

[@naomiprins7990]

The story of the godly woman is so amazing! That must have been so hard, but that is so inspiring! Thank you this was a great podcast 🥳

[@LaiseniaSorovi-od3fu]

Thankyou for sharing your experiences. Your podcasts have helped me serve my husband better and also view things from God's perspective. I appreciate you both very much.

[@marilynbosma2352]

Thank you for sharing your struggle and admitting being stubborn. I can relate!! And I respect you more because you were vulnerable. Thank you for caring enough about marriage to have this conversation.

[@rebeccapopp61]

16:05 I wish they would not interrupt each other. This is valuable information, pauses would aide and lessen the intensity.

[@Hannahshibu]

This is such a NOW Word! Thank you for this

[@elizabethbogert4730]

Can you do another video on marriage? A continuation of this conversation? The ladies story you spoke about was a wow..I needed this so bad..This is great conversation about looking to Jesus and knowing him..

[@TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle]

Yes. Love is a choice, not a feeling. The feeling will follow the actions.

[@TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle]

There are a lot that feeds the wrong thing. We guard our hearts and minds by guarding our conversations.

[@elevateyourthoughts]

Please keep posting these marriage ones, the advice is so helpful. God bless you both for sharing the good truth❤

[@bethany9563]

Btw, yall are both so adorable together! So passionate about the Lord, loving telling the same stories, both keeping it real!

[@BunnyWatson-k1w]

At 11:20. Love is action, not feelings. I watched a film called "Fireproof Your Marriage" many years back. It helped in my relationship with doing things for her regardless whether she noticed, said thank you, or I got payback in return. You just did those things out of duty. And it helped a lot.

[@karenmarie2833]

Outstanding!!! So full of God's true word and love for marriage! Love you both, Karen from Ohio! Echo...Perfect timing. Married 34 years.

[@Marie_Garwood]

What a powerful conversation! Thank you for sharing!

[@conversationswithjohnandlisa]

Thanks for listening!

[@veronikabown5138]

So power full: i cant base hoy I treat you of in hoy you treat me

[@kyriannnamdi6882]

What a beautiful conversation, I learned a lot today about marriage.

[@lyaumu8941]

I Loved this. I think im at a point in this marriage where im ready to submit to Holy Spirits leading. My husband Loves me and i Love him. It will get better because i have seen the real him by the grace of God. I recieve grace. The same grace that lady Elsa recieved.

[@mikemichellemeskel7935]

I just love y’all and thank God for your lives in Him! Thankful for these conversations that bring so much encouragement and hope. 🕊️🙏🏼♥️ thank you, Jesus.

[@LifeWithAlliDaily]

Hello Family 👋🏾💜 We are always inspired by you ONE 😊 We love the MessengerX and did THE STORY OF MARRIAGE this spring 2024 with our small group!! It was awesome!! #LifeWithAlliDaily 💜

[@cathystewart1670]

I thank you for your honesty. I love you both.

[@michelletuel4123]

John and Lisa thank you for your transparency so others can be encouraged. ❤

[@tina-ec7ce]

I love listening to you guys that our live watching your interactions together about it gives me encouragement to realize I have more empower in my marriage than sometimes I feel I think I do, I think you for the messenger X I just went and downloaded it and I’m excited to see what all that has to offer. God bless you both and thank you for your obedience, your time and your love Tina from Ohio

[@carlaricks9143]

THANKS GUYS 😊😊

[@TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle]

Praise Jesus. ❤ Love conversations with John and Lisa

[@SarahWiede-s9k]

Thank you for your transparency. It brings light and hope.

[@andreahenderson7935]

I love you guys. Thank you for still being together. Praise the Lord!

[@jaimerhodes2512]

I needed to hear this today. Thank you. 🙏

[@EliseVivienneFashion]

Loved this episode. I cannot tell you how beneficial your stories and marriage has been to my husband and I this past year. We are so grateful for you being open and sharing. Thank you!

[@TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle]

WOW: I’ll need to visit that scripture. Loyal is such a POWERFUL word and different from faithful

[@roseholm1611]

Both interrupt each other, it would be a blessing if they didn’t 😳

[@malloryhagberg2347]

Makes it hard to watch.

[@kovacdavid]

Yeah, I also wondered... but then I accepted it's probably the Italian heritage and it's how they roll.

[@malloryhagberg2347]

@@kovacdavid I’m Italian and my family doesn’t interrupt like this 😉

[@kovacdavid]

@@malloryhagberg2347 I had to rationalize somehow :D

[@ingridferg9779]

5 Min in, I can't watch it if they keep on talking on top of each other. But some couples do that when they've been married long. This is a conversation, not a podcast. And the constant, yeah, yeah is annoying. But maybe that's a cultural thing? I dunno. I'm not American, so maybe it's a cultural thing.

[@tinabaugh2187]

Thank you so much for your honesty, this was so needed!

[@carriehaflich5604]

I agree I'm living a nightmare. I've be married 20 years I love the Lord I go to church and my husband goes 1st a month 🙏

[@dollah04]

Thank you, I needed to hear this

[@Shelton.live.]

LOVE THIS! THANK YOU, AND I LOVE THAT YALL ARE SPEAKING LIFE INTO MARRIAGES TODAY!

[@pattyjuel2739]

THIS WAS AWESOME ... LOVE YOU ... GUYS

[@misscoy05ify]

The Lord gave me this verse this morning!! I am in a battle for our marriage! Is 43:14-28 Mal 2:11-17 Matt 5:27-30 1 Cor 6:18

[@JesusIScalling777]

Wonderful message! I really enjoyed this. Love you both.

[@nickmorrison5422]

Thank you guys so much. Love you both!

[@Bholt2024]

My marriage is a dry land right now. I see no hope, I have no joy I feel like the worst mistake I made

[@quallawingerter4434]

I unfortunately understand exactly where you are at! I'm going to go to prayer as well! God bless you🙏

[@ViktoriyaChuprov]

Remember the enemy wants to steal your joy. Show it in his face and be joyfully despite the circumstances!

[@IsaacSchmucker-x5h]

My heart goes out to you all and I’m praying for you

[@Patience_Grace]

Don't give up! It's gets better!!

[@bebamorales1000]

I keep hanging into my marriage because i believe God brought out of the Egyptian mentality. After 42 year of ups and downs and now two grown up sons. My only struggle is that I am not myself at HOME!!! not being able to express my faith speak about my Lord! etc, etc, . I sometimes feel double face. Happy bold and on fire for God's matters. Yes I am in this season where we live and act like room mates, nothing profound on how to improve our relationship. I invite him to a marriage event to my church. I know he's hurt-ed and abuse. I have being praying for him since I became a christian in 2006. Anyways there I say to myself "keep trusting God that he does his job and I keep staying" without looking into my "wants". Anyways, I guess I keep waiting & believing. Pray for us please! M&M There is always hope in God, he's good always, and I am his daughter and my oldest son is His Son. We believe that his promises of salvation are true because as for me and my house we will serve the Lord. Amen!

[@AM-dm1pl]

Yes. This made me cry. I've felt so discouraged. My husband and I got married young. 14 years and 3 kids later, he decided to cheat on me. In divorce process now. So sad.

[@cbrumigin4107]

Marriages matter...Amen

[@marleenkerri2408]

I love your podcasts! thank you for sharing your lives, so ours can be better ♥

[@christareed2716]

Excellent content.

[@veronica.aztxco]

So encouraging, thank you so much 💖🥹

[@TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle]

It does sound like it doesn’t matter if you are happy. Marriage should make you both happy and Holy

[@lorraine3525]

Thankful Timely and Thoughtful

[@Mombott]

Thank for this episode

[@TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle]

I love Lisa two-fold explanation of marriage

[@legendson5567]

Timely. I'm not married yet but this helps. Thank you.

[@cherisantini5779]

Thanks for this.. so good!! ❤

[@OlvOyl4383]

What do you do when your husband isn’t leading the way God has called him to do. I’ve prayed for his heart mind and spirit for the last 4 years surrendering him to God and I’m getting exhausted being the leader when I’m supposed to be the helper.

[@sylviakaweela3072]

Oh how I feel you on this!

[@protytechi]

To be "one -in-three" its a choice and process. Do not give up -I tell to myself.

[@belindabadenhorst812]

Merging of souls, makes me think about the Trinity. Three distinct Beings, yet 100% in agreement, and ONE. (Hope this makes sense)

[@janiemalina6283]

❤Thank-You for sharing❤️🙏🤗!!!

[@SingaporeUkuleleRevival]

Thanks for sharing

[@jessyjonas4988]

42 years😮 Congratulations 🎉

[@judyvanschalkwyk6504]

A secure man who knows who he is in Christ can say what John said to Lisa. So mature.

[@lesavanderbie4144]

I would love feedback from John and Lisa about where single Christians in their 50-60's can meet another committed Christian to marry?? The dating world is so lacking in mature, spiritually healthy possible partners. Thank you!

[@laurajoyful5207]

Beautiful couple ❤

[@terrygarrett4318]

Awesome! Hey John and Lisa this was Amazing! The Couple you referred to where the wife was providing care for seniors....do they have a website or Social Media platforms....I'm currently writing a business plan to open a Christian residential assisted living home for seniors in Columbia SC.

[@daniellegeho1642]

Can't wait for part 2.

[@PracticalChristianWarfare]

I wish people would read the Amplified version. It reads much differently in this case 'cover your garment (wife) in violence' and 'men who do such ' don't have a remnant of the (Holy) spirit in them'. This reads as if it is a case of violence against wives.

[@cc82JesusisKing]

My husband and I are hanging from a threat literally. Animosity, offenses, bitterness, indifference, apathy. We are both believers for 11 years. He believes he is right where I believe i am right. Nothing gets better. Im in prayer seeking guidance from the Lord yet no response. Im desperate 😢

[@flusterbunny_scribbles]

For wives there is a promise: be meek and submissive and respect your man and you may win his heart. It’s so hard to swallow your pride when he had wronged you in so many ways but to be willing to serve with a smile is a rare and powerful way to melt a man’s heart. No he doesn’t deserve it but that’s exactly the point. He’s got a think coming and it may just turn everything around

[@sayo2354]

20 years wed but not “one”. We are in a business arrangement. Divorce is not what either of us will do because we keep our covenants and we know we would never do that to our kids. But both of us being Christians, serving others in our home weekly, being married to a stranger for 2 decades is tricky. But Jesus died alone on a cross so I can be in any situation alone with the hope of Heaven and the souls we created to know Christ and be there with me someday in eternity. Its worth it comparatively speaking.

[@jotcham1688]

So sorry you’re going through that

[@toliveischrist3330]

Your kids know more than you think.

[@chrisharris2367]

You two are beautiful together Nice

[@remainpeaceful7464]

Thank you