Relationship Q&A: Dating, Marriage, Divorce, & More

[@conversationswithjohnandlisa]

Hi Friends! We love to hear from you. Comment what you would like to hear us discuss in future episodes!

[@Ilyjesus02]

I think forgiveness is what we need to hear and learn in this time.

[@mattg6743]

Gen 2: 22. and He (God) brought her to the Man. Allow God to bring her to you

[@sweetyrai6476]

Hi John n Lisa! . I'm from India 🇮🇳. And i love listening to both of ur sermons, but this podcast has been such a blessing. I'm single and dating, I was so confused with many questions saying to the Lord pls choose for me! Ur conversation has helped me. Thank u ❤

[@BrennanCornelius]

Is this the right Chip Judd video series that Lisa mentions at 29:35? I had a little trouble finding it. kzbin.info/aero/PLXLGp49SVLn-o711Z8YSxkIROy15ZptFo&si=q38qaJWV8w65IkVN

[@aestheticiantrishmccarty1317]

video ideas: Balancing a busy schedule as a full time working mom who is being called into ministry. I think it is very possible The Lord will ask me to leave my current work which is going to be hard because I absolutely love what I do...I have decided I have to ultimately do what the Lord says though.... in the mean time, advice to us working moms who want to put Jesus first. I drink a lot of coffee already ;-P

[@tinarajan9886]

I'm arrange married to the love of my life. My parents brought the proposal to me, the first time I spoke to him, I knew he was the one God chose for me. Before this proposal, I always prayed to the Lord to bring me the one He has for me. So yes, arrange marriages are beautiful and I also agree God always has the best for us. Such a beautiful conversation, John and Lisa.

[@leeshc5952]

Wow! This hit home in the beginning. I’m single, 40 and waiting on the Lord to provide a husband and hopefully, family of my own. It’s caused a lot of internal stuff and I need to start living life again. The Lord will provide in His time.

[@javiermejia2716]

Not spiritually sinc with your partner? Well this happened to me and I saw my wife seeking the Lord which lead to me feeling convicted. It has been an amazing journey to get to know God.

[@Lifeasrina]

“I woulda broken a window” cracks me up 🤣

[@rossyThompson7]

I’m a newlywed and i come to watch your videos for advice on how to navigate this new adventure, i don’t have many Godly people in my side of the family and it can be hard sometimes not being able to go to your mom or a close friend because you know what kind of advice they will give you, and because their foundation is not based on the word of God. And i thank you for sharing your wisdom!🙏🏼

[@conversationswithjohnandlisa]

Thank you for your comment. We are so thankful this channel has been a gift for you.

[@paulwilliams3617]

I hope you are in a dynamic church that preaches Jesus 🙏

[@mariagellibert5233]

For the longest time I felt like a sinner who couldn’t be better than her past, I feel much less lonely knowing Lisa has made mistakes and still could save people for Jesus. Thank you for you. After many mistakes, loosing it all and God saving my life, I am now married to a wonderful man who’s also lost it all. Together we rediscovered life and love through Christ. I’m a new Christian coming from Ecuadorian Catholicism (lol) and all your podcast have been life changing, another gift from God.

[@stevesawyer6377]

I had turned and run from God for over 20 years. I finally got down and prayed to God to show me the woman he wanted in my life for the rest of my life while admitting I wasn't sure if He was real. He led me to a woman working at the same job driving big trucks. We are coming up on our 35th anniversary, and Thank God daily

[@JG-4real]

This was for me... I was praying earlier yesterday about this exact issue. I feel that I'm the spiritual leader in my home and I have been having trouble with the way I view my husband. I just finished reading The Awe of God for the past 40 days with John and I have grown tremendously in my walk. I asked my husband to read with me but he didn't fully commit to it. I began to feel hopeless that he would ever be the spiritual head of our home & I caught myself thinking negative thoughts about him. I stopped myself and immediately began praying for him. Hours later, you guys post this video. It really helped to know that I'm not alone and hearing the advice from both of you. I feel at peace knowing the Holy Spirit is going to move in his life and that you fuys helped give me confirmation.Thank you, and God bless your family. You all are truly a blessing to the world. ❤

[@HappygirllovehannahBradshaw]

God is my seeking for him to find him. The advice of put yourself out there is so legit❤

[@shereceblue3236]

Wait we need to take a deep breath after the story of the lady sleeping on the porch ! Selah moment Lisa before the next question 🤣 😂 have to process that type of love and obedience lol!

[@corkvids99]

That story about Polly 😮😢 rocked me. Wow.

[@ricbon9581]

Well I got divorced at 40 currently 42, thank The Lord he swooped in and was there for me he took care of me during my divorce, my wife left me for another man, we have 3 kids. Long story short I have try dating but I feel like it’s not my time yet things I have to work on but I thank God that he’s been faithful and this time I’m relying on him to bring my next spouse if He chooses.

[@JaredReall]

In this position currently. One kid though. Hard road.

[@daughterofthemosthigh3366]

If your marriage was a first marriage for you and for your former spouse, the two of you are in covenant. The one flesh covenant is for life. Your job now is to pray for her and hopefully restore her to the Lord.

[@daughterofthemosthigh3366]

Remarriage is adultery. Infidelity, abuse, abandonment do not break the covenant. Only death breaks the covenant. The other behaviors violate the covenants. Our churches are full of adulterous unions. Our churches do not teach God’s word regarding the one flesh covenant

[@betterimagephoto]

Why should he be shunned for life for her unfaithfulness. She broke the Covenant. Why should he have to suffer in loneliness and not remarry? Titus 3:10-11 Warn a divisive person once, and then warn them a second time. After that, have nothing to do with them. 11 You may be sure that such people are warped and sinful; they are self-condemned.​@@daughterofthemosthigh3366

[@TheYorkster]

John be looking like a convict in that orange jumper. 😂😂

[@JasonBear-on8sy]

That's funny. I thought the same thing😂😂😂

[@masterkaneki3018]

NAH BRO HE GOT THAT GOKU FIT

[@uviwemburwana323]

I love you John and Lisa you're doing amazing work for the kingdom of GOD ❤❤

[@annabanzon313]

Lisa cracks me up in this video lol

[@ksnow4105]

Nooooooo I don't want this episode to end!! These go soo quickly. I am hungry for more of your wisdom in knowing Gods truth on these matters. Especially if the divorced couple due to unfaithfulness, with one a believer and the other one not, can the believing divorcee re-marry or is that still classed as committing adultery?

[@eleanordenston8056]

Thank you so much for the accessible, non-judgemental ways you explain these topics. Dating within the confines of church can sometimes feel like there’s a lot of pressure being applied by people external to the couple in the relationship! You’re absolutely right that couples should be equally yoked in their love for Jesus ahead of their love for one another and at the end of the day, we’re answerable to God alone for our conduct and how we treat one another. Blessings to you both for your valuable leadership to steward young believers - from New Zealand 🥝

[@katierogne2022]

Dear Mr. Bevere, Your commitment to fully leaning on the everlasting patience and kindness of God is truly evident. From the limited vantage point I can see, your actions are certainly evidence of your deep commitment to following Jesus. Praise God He rose again! And dearest Lisa, thank you for sharing your zealously passionate and fiery - Italian..? (🤔) thoughts with such enthusiasm and confidence. It sure helps me to put things into perspective whenever I hear you speak. What an interesting life you two must lead in honor of the Lord. Thank you both for dedicating your lives to lifting His name high. All glory belongs to Him! ✝️

[@InfinitePawsShop]

Subscribed! 27 year old single woman. Absorbing ALL of this great info. Thank you🤍😊

[@Moloko8334]

God is working in and through you both. Thank you, and may God bless you.

[@nuriasilva8970]

I love hearing about Smith wigglesworth wife’s story! It inspires me…

[@dadandmoms7054]

These conversations are so helpful. *kudos to both John and Lisa* You both are amazing! Keep up the great work! Please read the following with all the divine love possible. I have deep compassion and empathy for all married people in this epoch of time. Not trying to be divisive, however, it seems like men who believe that being a Spiritual Leader of their home is defined by getting to have the final say and/or the final decision in all matters are perpetuating an ancient problem. There is no BIBLICAL back-up in terms of chapter and verse to support such a dominance in the homes. Men and women truly have equal human worth and dignity. No wife should be forced to act like a "quiet mouse" when it comes to making decisions with her husband. With all due honor, a husband is not doing his wife some favor by merely listening to her just to override his wife's feelings and ideas in the final stages of planning at the table. Does that make sense? *tone of reverence and serenity* I'm not condemning anyone. Suffice it to say, it needs to be JESUS who always gets the final say/decision in all matters of life, especially in marriages. Collaborating and coming to a final choice as a marital team is essential. Simply put, men and women are better together. We can all choose to be right with our LIVING REDEEMER. It is truly not a toxic competition. Married couples need to be in one spirit, in one mind, and in one accord at all times through the empowerment of the HOLY SPIRIT. *Prayers up for everyone* My heart is that this helps you in a meaningful, lasting way. Oh, Wow...I sure miss the days of the big rallies at the Promise Keepers' Events! Chivalry will never be dead. Men, who are saved, want to protect women and children and follow the LORD'S principles for happy homes. Thanks for everything you do. GOD bless you and your priceless, gorgeous family!~Love you all with the love of our Thrice-HOLY GOD forever, ^Dr. Lady S.

[@kellyhanson4462]

My husband abandoned our marriage over a year ago due to an affair. I've been growing immensely in my walk with the Lord and have been praying daily for my husband.

[@JaredReall]

🙏 my wife has done the same. Lifting you up.

[@wrinthiak3431]

I lift you both in prayer🙏 My husband left the marriage 3 years ago and God has and continues to sustain me. He has shown me how broken both my ex and I were and though there was a presentation of a Godly life, neither of us was who or what God designed. I have repented for the wrong I knowingly and unknowingly did, and I pray that my ex does the same.

[@jennifermujeni5048]

You inspire me pastor John and Pastor Lisa, your podcast is very inspiring and Christ like transforming, keep doing what your doing.

[@debbieluce259]

Hi John and Lisa! I just wanted to say that I love, love, love this podcast. THANK YOU so much for your obedience to the Lord, to continually bring so much wisdom and clarity to our lives. This particular podcast really hit home for me. You clarified a burning question that has been in my heart for a very long time. Although I thought I knew the answer, this podcast 100% clarified it for me, bringing such a peace and freedom to my heart and spirit!!! Can’t wait for second part.🙏🏼♥️🙏🏼

[@biggistar2635]

❤ so clarifying. 🎉

[@marinatojaga7075]

God bless you,love you both❤🙏🏻

[@JohnMorcos]

This is John from Egypt. I love your podcasts and I share them with friends. Thank you for the godly wisdom. Please do more episodes about character.

[@ashleyforbus3189]

Love you guys! I first watched John on Rhema's 50th Campmeeting! I really enjoyed his messaged and have been listening to him. My Pastor attended Rhema has well and I trust those who follow God and Rev Kenneth E. Hagin. I'm a recent newlywed with my Pastor's son! 8 years ago I stepped out of jail and into my home church ❤ I could have never dreamed up what God has done in my life. But even after being saved for years before getting to know my husband... I didn't realize the baggage I was still carrying. That baggage ended our engagement in 2021. God revealed to me as my Counselor things from my childhood and father how it's effected my relationship with God and my partner! It was so freeing. After that I asked God to reconcile our relationship even if we weren't supposed to be together. Well, now he is husband! God is is good and tender! The challenge I had to stay at my home church was most challenging but I knew I would be out of the will of God. I enjoy your guys marriage advice because I need all of that goodness! Thank you John and Lisa ❤

[@aestheticiantrishmccarty1317]

patiently waiting for part 2, I keep checking 😄

[@KrazyCookii3]

Soooooo awesomeeeeee I love this it’s such a nice thing to see two real people that love God and love each other and you can actually see the lord flourish in the way that they speak love you guys and thank you for your knowledge you guys are great 😊

[@laureejanexo5138]

Thank you SO much John and Lisa for your love - for God, for each other, and all of us! It’s such an inspiration to see the consistency and faithfulness of your ministry - and the wisdom you have gleaned. We have shared MessengerX with my ladies group at church and we are looking at doing the “renew” course this term! Lives will be changed; and I’m so grateful for you both X Big love from Australia ❤

[@bridgetmensah8514]

Love this

[@Ilyjesus02]

I am so blessed that I found both of you. I am the wife in question 3 and when you talked about it I started crying. I have been struggling with my marriage and I dont have any accountability. We live alone and don't really have anyone to trust with our marriage even with our family. I feel like they won't understand. I pray my husband will start walking in God’s word and be who God wants him to do. I am doing my best to follow God. To submit to my husband and respect him even he hasnt changed yet. I am so blessed to see your kids too following God. That’s my prayer that my whole family willl serve the Lord and our kid/s will see the authentic faith in us.

[@tihanioliveira]

I’m the spiritual leader in my household 😭 it’s been so hard! I’m 37wks pregnant. Please pray for me to receive strength and peace in Jesus name 🙏🏽

[@JP-ll8iy]

I needed to hear this. Thank you God. 🙏

[@aprilwood1184]

Thank you.

[@sallylara1102]

I absolutely love this! May the Lord continue to bless you with love & biblical wisdom in Christ Jesus name Amen 🙏🏽

[@favouradis]

I love you guys! I pray that God continues to bless you both in Jesus's Name Amen 🙏❤️💚😊

[@aprilwood1184]

The standard is The Word of God. So true

[@fedeliah4279]

Thank you both for this episode I am going through a divorce at the moment being Christians both! So devastating for me as I am the one being divorced after 33 good years of marriage God bless you both for the work you are doing ❤️

[@joflynn242]

How are you today?

[@naledidinale2651]

Really appreciate your honesty Lisa & John 💙

[@njabulomhlungu4088]

Really love your Godly insight, really an eye opener, God is so Good , thank you for the wisdom you share, cant help but giggle and be in Awe of the truth in your conversations, wont stop liking and sharing, committed to providing truth to all those around me, thank you Ps John&Lisa thank you for you God fearing truths and Wisdom you both true deciples of Christ❤🙏🙌💯

[@mikegastmusic]

These are such a blessing! Thank you for sharing so humbly and being so Spirit-led.

[@dagman85]

Thanks for this Q&A! I don't know if your next set of questions is already recorded or not, but in case it isn't I'll repeat a question I posted on a different episode recently: Based on Jesus' words in Mark 10:11-12, should single people only look for a potential spouse among other single people who have never been married, so that they wouldn't be causing a divorced person to commit adultery in marrying them? (In this episode you made a great case for why people should often fight to stay married and avoid divorce, but I'm thinking of a scenario where the potential spouse has already gotten divorced at some point in the past.)

[@daughterofthemosthigh3366]

A person can marry another single person or a widowed person. One can also marry a divorced person if the divorce was ending in adulterous union. Because our churches do not teach God‘s truth regarding the one flesh covenant people may enter into a marriage thinking that marrying a divorced person is OK. Then they learn later on that this is adultery and end the adulterous union. This is the only divorced person that can marry again. John and Lisa did not address this important issue in their podcast. Adultery will take a person to hell and it’s so dangerous. In the old testament those in adultery were stoned to death! We must see adultery the same way God does.

[@jilllingenfelter4682]

I got saved at age 4/5 years old. And I grew up in a very very very Godly home :) And I’m super thankful to have amazing Godly parents who are always on fire for God:) And I also have 2 Godly sisters. And I’m the oldest of two:) And I’m also a single Godly aunty of three amazing Godly nephews :) And I absolutely love encouraging their walk with Jesus. And their love for Jesus keeps my fire for Jesus going :) And I’m also in full time church ministry life at my church I’m a Volunteer leader for Champions Club for special needs kids:) And I absolutely absolutely absolutely love it so so much. And I absolutely love these amazing Godly podcasts. And I absolutely look forward to listening to them. And using the information in my own life. And I’m also extremely single permanently divorced from my first husband/ now ex husband. And Jesus has always been my Everything. And that will never ever change:) And Yes I absolutely absolutely absolutely love Jesus more than my ex husband @ConversationsWithJohnandLisaBevere

[@daughterofthemosthigh3366]

This is so wonderful to read! John and Lisa did not share biblical truth regarding covenant spouses. If your marriage was a first marriage for you and your husband the two of you remain in covenant till death. Only death breaks the one flesh covenant. Remarriage is adultery. First Corinthians 7 verse 11 states that we are to reconcile or remain single. There are so many adulterous remarriages in the church because our churches do not teach the word of God in this area. John and Lisa do not seem to understand the one flesh covenant and did not teach it in this podcast.

[@brendapayne9198]

Love the questions format. Also, John looks like he was in a star trek episode. 😂❤God bless

[@HisMajestysonNservant]

I was locked up once and read breaking the spirit of intimidation and I remember I was praying after I read the book and I don't know if it was a angel or God but my cell got bright and It was sudden very very terrifying but a holy fear kinda forgot the whole experience until I put this on( sad right) but God is worthy to be feared....

[@prayingwithkaren5874]

This is always good

[@clairemafu3371]

Thank you, John and Lisa, for the KZbin conversation. Full of wise counsel and always directed by Scripture. I love that you're both real and transparent.God bless you 🙏🏾💖

[@melintcbs]

Thank you!

[@NBnNC]

I’m with Lisa - I would’ve broken the window 😆 to get into MY house, smh. But I guess that’s not how u win souls 🙄

[@lydianakamanya7696]

Same here 😂

[@mikegastmusic]

These talks are fantastic! I've been following you for years.

[@FunmiOdedoyin]

I just love John & Lisa! ❤❤

[@kathyd485]

Thank for your podcast...I am a widow and would ask for prayer

[@IvyNelson-ur9eo]

When you said if I was single I would not act how I thought they wanted me to act but just be myself… that hit me and I’m 8 years into my marriage, in a fresh, exciting beautiful season but sometimes I struggle with being myself rather than trying to be myself, I also love that Lisa said do they really like the real me or the false me that I used to protect the real me

[@niveniamoses]

this is so beautiful. I was starting this lent season which coincided with valentines, setting aside the Lent season to pray over my relationships and single hood. thank you for such a good discussion.

[@CrystalRocksThis]

Thanks so much for this podcast! Especially this episode. There had been unfaithfulness on both ends with my marriage, and God has restored that, and we both forgave eachother. I am still working to be a reflection of Jesus to my husband to bring him to the Lord, but I really think that God has a bigger plan for this marriage than I even believed. I married my husband out of obligation, and that was hard to overcome. It's a daily process.

[@jackiemedina5681]

Please keep going! I was sad to see that you guys ran out of time :( Thank you guys for putting out this God centered advice! Looking forward to growing more with God with theses videos :)

[@conversationswithjohnandlisa]

Part 2 coming soon!! :)

[@ZADCAR1]

John and Lisa, could you help give understanding and insight into how to overcome challenges marriages face in today's environment? Dealing with things like falling out of love with your partner, differences, different directions, helping each other in God, money management, sex, communication, forgiveness, joy, and healthy living. Thanks

[@conversationswithjohnandlisa]

Thank you for your comment! We love hearing from you!

[@daughterofthemosthigh3366]

The best thing the two of you can ever do is make Jesus the Lord of your marriage. Submit yourselves to the leader ship of the Holy Spirit and be led by him. We must nurture our marriage to keep it alive and well watered.

[@JaredReall]

Divorce is ripping me apart. Even if I have biblical bounds. It’s literally ripping me apart inside. Thanks for your talk on this.

[@daughterofthemosthigh3366]

I am sorry you are hurting so badly. There are no biblical grounds for divorce. We can divorce in this realm but spiritually we are still in our one flesh covenant. Only death breaks the covenant. The covenant marriage is a first marriage for both husband and wife. Remarriage is always adultery and will take one to hell.

[@In2theLight]

There are no Biblical grounds for divorce. The Bible speaks of separation and seems to allow for this for a time, but never divorce or remarriage.

[@askab.771]

May God strengthen you during this difficult period in your life. 🙏

[@immaculatenyakoe8469]

My prayers for you. Going through the same

[@livetodaybrown5846]

I love this ❤so helpful

[@tendss]

Wow wow wow 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@sandrademann4569]

Thankyou for this message .

[@womenofthebible7683]

I love your conversations! Thank you for taking the time to share your wisdom! You both are such an encouragement and I consider you both my spiritual parents❤

[@conversationswithjohnandlisa]

Thank you for your comment. We love hearing from you all!

[@Michael-t9k]

Am posting this here because God's ways his thoughts are not ours and his ways higher. Lord unbox us breath on us. Revive us .

[@RedSpringsDelivered]

Thank you for your message! I am a recent follower of this channel and all your messages are amazing. This specific message is an answered prayer as I have been considering divorce. I asked the Lord to show me if I should leave or not. I am going to stay and keep working on it/fighting for it.

[@conversationswithjohnandlisa]

Welcome to the channel! We are so thankful you are here :)

[@rjlbabbc]

this is really helpful!! Thank you!

[@christinawalkinglove888]

Thank you. 💞

[@conversationswithjohnandlisa]

Our pleasure!

[@yeniferdiazlinero2481]

Jhon e Lisa vocês são um casal incrível, amo como Deus moldeo suas vidas são um exemplo gostou muito de todo o material que vocês compartilham, me abençoa.

[@angelakelly9910]

Any advice on emotional affairs? 🙏🏼💔

[@daughterofthemosthigh3366]

The first step is to try to work with your spouse. If your spouse is unwilling to be warned and corrected, you can go to the church leaders. This is biblical advice. You can separate from your spouse to awaken him to the truth of what he’s doing. Separations are very helpful in that way.

[@alexnjogu549]

Very edifying, i love you guys

[@mariahfowler48]

As a survivor of domestic violence- I’m glad you mentioned abuse however I feel like your comments are incomplete and uninformed. Brushing verbal abuse off and name-calling by saying “you need to just go on a mission trip” is very careless advice. Physical danger or violence should not be the bench mark on if a marriage relationship is abusive or not. My physical bruises healed a long time ago, but the emotional, verbal mental trauma and abuse from what my ex husband said to me, have had a far lasting effect than anything he did physically. 1 in 3 women inside the church will experience domestic abuse and violence- so maybe the divorce rate is so high not because people are “giving up too easy.” But maybe they are fighting for their safety and have no other choice but to leave and get divorced. Just a thought.

[@Gr8dazeahead]

100% TRUE

[@sanukfaninPA]

True.

[@jmthomas29]

I finally found the strength to walk away after 38 years of an emotionally, spiritually and financially abusive marriage. I was taught to be a good Christian wife who stays and prays. It doesn't always work that way.

[@JenniferG-jm4rh]

Yep. Many love throwing around "God hates divorce." And my personal favorite, "70-80% of women file because they're not happy and so that they will get cash and prizes." As if it's a game show. I WISH I had gotten a lot in my divorce. I had to leave with almost nothing.

[@jacquelinebaldwin7566]

Me and my children were emotionally abused for decades. Including bullying, belittling and financial abuse. There is so much more that i don't want to share here.. I stayed until i discovered marital betrayal. I even tried to go through marriage counseling. It has been 8 years since we fled our home. It waa the most difficult thing i have gone through. I focused on following Jesus and He has healed me. I finally feel like i am in a good place to entertain dating. Jesus will always be my focus. The biggest mistakevi made in my 25 year marriage was putting my husband before Jesus. I pray for my formee husband everydsy .

[@bernadettedebeer2992]

Im nearly 20yrs divorced and single but with Jesus for 12yrs. And in this 12yrs in the small town the Lord has made a way for me, only Jesus Himself is my companion. Wouldn't know how to start dating if it would happen in my life again.😅😅😅

[@paolapadilla9801]

This is so good ! Thank you for the encouragement and teaching guys !🌸

[@JustMe-wc5zn]

I have to disagree with "God has our spouse chosen," I've learned from a very wise #BishopMylesMunroe that God equips us to choose our own spouse. He jokingly says, "God dont want to be blamed if, for some reason, it didn't work out!" There is more to his explanation, but it's worth looking up all his marriage sermans. Lots of great info in this discussion.

[@kelseycaldwell3396]

I need to know where Lisa got her shirt 😅😆

[@akferren1]

Hated being married.. divorce was a blessing and I’m happy now

[@ruthreyes5854]

Ty for sharing your wisdom !

[@Naseefa1985]

The story of the husband locking the wife out the house and the wife's response in the morning is a pure example of what it means to walk with the lord and letting him guide her. If the lord wasn't truly guiding the wife, a divorce would have been the answer. Now I do have to say, what the husband did is the epitome of what abuse is. And most likely an abusive husband don't just act badly once, I'm pretty sure he had a history of abuse. I wouldn't recommend anyone to misconstrued this example to think they have to stick around with a husband or wife that is abusive and cruel. A lot of women face death daily because they stick around and continue to be kind to horrible men 😞.

[@Nia-f2l]

My parents used to do this to me.

[@annabanzon313]

I think maybe do an ep about hope for godly partners or future spouse because we just date or marry according to life circumstances. Turning water into wine lol

[@esmeraldamo19]

Thank you so much for this message. It touched every area I was needing help with.

[@Kingdom.Fighters]

Stumbled across your channel from listening to John bevere channel and I love it keep up the good work!❤

[@CALEB-hu2yv]

I am truly blessed ang thankful that the Lord led me finding your podcast. Both of you are truly a blessing and I praise God of the wisdom which the Lord gave you through profound teachings and discussions about everyday life of a believer🙌🙏🏼 However, I do have a question for today's episode and its kindda basic though😅 Do we Bible-believing Christians really have to celebrate Valentines Day? I thought its a Catholic thing since its related to St. Valentine?😅 But I do believe that love is somethig to celebrate about since we basically are conceived through God's perfect love for us🥰💞. Hope to hear your thoughts on this...Thank you and God bless you both🙌🙏🏼

[@Stephanie-di7qy]

You are correct Valentines day is demonic. If you look at its origins its complete Satanic and pagan. So many Christians are stuck in Babylon/Egypt. They have no clue bc so many "Christians " don't do their research. If only people who truly follow Yeshua they will do deep reflection and not follow the traditions of this world. Good catch about the holiday. And actually all the holidays that the gregorian calendar are pagan and demonic. Look up all the origins of New Years, St Patrick's, Easter, Mothers Day, Father's Day, 4th of July, Halloween, Thanksgiving, & Christmas....trust me look it up .

[@thegrigas6708]

Love you both

[@lolasen1206]

What about emotional affair? Does that count?

[@janedereus8979]

Hi John & Lisa. Should we pursue or stay in a dating relationship with someone who has different denominational views? E.g. i am pentecostal and the man I'm dating is seventh day adventist. I struggle with our different theologies, but i also find it difficult to move on as i do feel that i am supposed to be here.

[@lounaclerge7170]

I know this was awhile ago but I came across your comment and wanted to share my thoughts. I grew up seventh day Adventist but I now attend a Pentecostal church so I have some experience with both sides of the spectrum. The foundations of the SDA church was built on a false prophet by the name of Ellen g white. The doctrines seemingly align with the Word of God but they are heresy and false doctrine. I think many denominational or theological differences can work but when the core of a religion is not aligned with the inherent Word of God it just is unequally yoked. Most importantly, ask The Holy Spirit to keep revealing to you if this person is meant to be in your life and in what capacity. He knows all things and his plans and ways are much greater than ours. I hope this helped and above me or anyone’s advice , go to the one who knows you more than anyone ever will; Jesus

[@lynnfilion9786]

Living in abuse even when one is praying for their spouse, may not work out. God literally pulled me out of a marriage due to his hard heart and the massive abuse. Divorce is not easy.

[@pinkpanambi]

I went through the same thing. Divorce has not been easy... I feel it has been the hardest years of my life, the loneliest I've ever felt, and the most I've struggled alone in life. Ex is still persecuting me 4 years later after divorce, I'm tired of doing it alone and having to fight this man even after years of divorced, all alone😭 I don't understand why God allows him to keep persecuting me, and to have me fight alone against him ( I have NO family here, or close friends or partner either) These years I'll always remember as the most hard in my life. I would still never go back and stay with him. I don't regret divorcing. I tried the best I could to save our marriage but it takes 2. This man was hurting every inch of my soul and still keeps after me

[@MarieFilion]

I am sorry to hear the pain you have gone through. Get away from him. Mine stocked me and created a lot of havoc. I moved. It was the best decision I ever made. If you can put a restraining order on him, do. Find a supportive church. I went to DivorceCare, which helped me find people who had gone through some of the same things. God has a good plan for you. Hang in there and get really close to Him. @@pinkpanambi

[@ZADCAR1]

Hello John and Lisa. Shout out from Trinbago, a twin island in the West Indies. I enjoyed the topic you guys touched on today. It was fascinating. Dating should only be between an unmarried man and an unmarried woman who is grounded in God's word, is mature or of the age of marriage, and is working or has the means to support each other. Marriage can only be between a Man and a Woman. God recognises marriages in all religions. Marriage is from the beginning of creation and is to emulate the relationship between Jesus Christ and his Church. Divorce was never planned. Moses created divorce and Jesus mentioned that it was created because of the hardness of their hearts, male and female. Jesus went on to say that the only ground or reason for divorce was adultery. When any one of the covenanted parties has sexual intercourse with someone other than the partner, the partner can request separation. But, Jesus encouraged them that divorce was never intended. Being unequally yoked relates to all couples. Saved or unsaved. Married or unmarried. This is a warning from Brother Paul about how you decide your mate. This is also not a reason for divorce. Relationships go through phases, and let's say a husband hits his wife 2 times in a marriage, or a wife ill-treats and disrespects her husband, is that reason for divorce? No. People change with time and divorce is used as an emergency escape should things go south when the marriage covenant is NEVER to have an escape clause. If one party insist on leaving, then you allow them to leave, but remarriage is prohibited. The choice in a marriage is up to the Holy Spirit. We must never condemn. Marriage is not a bondage. Marriage is the 1st institution of God and man. Divorce is separation and against the heart and will of God. Can a man or woman divorce their feet if they keep bouncing into things and causing pain? No. Or can they divorce their nose because it is too big? No

[@juanitalantz9453]

When you’ve tried prayer and your husband gets worse, becomes physically abusive while already being mentally abusive for most of the relationship and uses the wife for his own benefit causing her to sin to get his wants, then do you still believe that God wouldn’t bless the separation of that contract? I’ve now been divorced for four years now, away from him going on five years this April. I can tell you God does because I prayed for God to get me out of that marriage. I was trapped. Through the divorce, I ended up having to fight for my children from the state because of my ex. I prayed. God helped me keep my children and saved them from their Dad’s darkness. He is an addict still to this day and lost all parental rights in our battle against the state. God doesn’t want a person to be treated that way. He wants us to be in an environment where we can be able to worship Him and do His will. It took God, support from others and myself almost 4 years to heal everything in me, especially my heart, back to being able to love others as we are meant to according to God.

[@priscillasoni8204]

How do we deal with unfaithfulness in a marriage.

[@In2theLight]

Forgive. Try and start again. Adultery is not the unforgivable sin.

[@meagandekkar6377]

Get a divorce! If he or she committed adultery once he or she will do it again. I was in the military and dealt with emotional and physical abuse as well as his pornography addiction. When he committed adultery the first time I forgave my now ex-husband only to find that he continued to cheat and finally left me for another woman. I count it as peace.

[@queenlynette2205]

I have a question on divorce and remarriage. Voodie Baucham has stated that you cannot get remarried if your spouse is still alive. The late Charles Stanley believed that as well and didn’t get remarried bc his ex wife was still alive. Why does your interpretation of adultery from what Jesus said differ?

[@marnevantonder83]

Great episode Lisa and John. Just feel more context is needed around divorce. It's not as clear-cut and should be understood in the context of Matthew and to who it was told. This should not be used as an exit for anyone who falls in marriage.

[@joflynn242]

My husband abandoned me. He also moved to a different state. We're 1300 miles apart. No communication. The Lord has said to me that, "I will restore your marriage." It's been 9 YEARS now. Neither my husband or I have filed for divorce. I know it's by God's hand alone. The Fear of KNOWING/GOING AGAINST what God has spoken to me, stops my flesh from acting out. In this 9 years the transformation of myself has been nothing short of miraculous! EVEN IF, God doesn't restore, my hope is STILL in HIM ALONE. ♡

[@peacelovejoyandhappiness]

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[@eternallyblessed588]

Not in the case of unrepentant adultery, but in the case of casual divorce, I would say that's the epitome of living in unrepentant sin. Divorce should never be the solution to a troubled marriage for the Christian. That's not the heart of our Father . If someone divorces their spouse, without adultery being the case, they are choosing to live everyday in unrepentant sin and choosing to hurt not only God, but others. That's not our calling.

[@bradleymckee7272]

How do I become mature I’m 17 and I can feel the call of God on my life, but I don’t know what it is and I don’t speak in tounges I don’t think I’ve heard the Holy Spirit even though I have put my full heart into and I don’t want to doubt, yet it comes. The battle within me is hard fought.

[@sandyhardy3419]

This is a tough season but you are on the right path !!! Music is my key to worship ….find your “praise passion” & grab onto the trane of his robe …praying for you ❤

[@She-Ra-db7eg]

Please please I beg you, please pray for me. I am being attacked by the enemy ruthlessly in all areas of my life. I am exhausted and weary from doing spiritual warfare and I'm calling for help. I've endured so much persecution and the only thing I have left after so much loss is my dog and husband. Today my dog just suddenly out the blue had a seizure or stroke and she can't walk or move right now. We don't know if it's neurological. My dog means everything to me, she is my only friend and family I have left. Please pray with me. Please pray that the Lord will make a way for us and for healing and recovery for my dog. I don't have anyone to pray with me. Please. I've never begged for anything but I'm begging now for your prayers. Please keep us in your prayers.

[@lesliesamples4495]

Abuse is not ok, ever. Condoning that is wrong.

[@aneber1811]

Did they? I just listened and I was listening very closely. I thought they addressed it well, as someone in a destructive/ abusive marriage. Doesn’t mean I couldn’t miss something, or heard it differently. What stood out to you?

[@lesliesamples4495]

@@aneber1811 well when she said excessive abuse was not ok. Any abuse is not ok.

[@lesliesamples4495]

@@aneber1811 it just when someone with a messed up mindset and belief system is scared from trama from physical or mental abuse. Then they hear something like that and think oh it’s not ok for me to leave because then I’m just an adulterer in Gods eyes. That’s just so sad and so hard and it’s so hard to change your perspective or lense someone sees from. I love them, but I just don’t think that’s right or sounds right from someone who is being abused.

[@aneber1811]

⁠@@lesliesamples4495 I noticed that as well. Personally, I thought the longer the conversation went, the more they addressed some nuances. What do you think? I am so sorry you’re in the thick of it 😰 do you have support and resources if you need to leave your home? Knowing my options helped me feel safer in my own situation. I’m praying for you to heal beautifully with the Lord but also for you to be safe. Praying you will witness whoever is abusing you change by God’s transforming grace.

[@lesliesamples4495]

@@aneber1811 I am out of it and have been, but the mental war of it is still hard especially when you have kids. Plus the guilt of feeling like God will always be mad at you and then you hear this is just triggers things.