Could Being Dumped Be A Blessing?

[@wandasantillo1678]

I am so much happier without my ex. I can now say the break up was a blessing because I want to be with someone who wants to be with me.

[@sshuteandrew]

Wanda Santillo Yes, chasing an ex and feeling rejected and walking on eggshells is no way to love or live. I’m letting go and letting God! I’m so tired of his depression and rejection!! Looking to forward to better people and things to come!

[@margomazzeo1680]

@@sshuteandrew It will come to you..💝🎈

[@bambam9315]

...who wants to be with you unconditionally...

[@deiavcarvalho]

@@sshuteandrew hi Summer. I got the same problem. My husband and me whatever small fight we have, he got depressive, he always step back, isolate himself and rejected me about weeks ahead. I'm tired of it. How the things going about you?

[@MatthewPlatz]

Well done, Wanda! Wish you only happiness!

[@seanj11421]

Be with someone that wants to be with you as much as you want to be with them..

[@duniael4156]

But when do you know that? Because often the first year, 2 years are so beautiful

[@ghiec.8353]

I was teary eyed😢 when Coach Lee said focus on your family. On people who will not break up on you. 2 months after break up. One month no contact. I used to watch videos on how to get your ex back but now found myself looking for videos on how to move on. Thank you Coach Lee! Feel talking to a friend everytime I watch you. 😢

[@swativirdi3020]

Stay strong ❤ hope all is fine now?? Did u guys get back??

[@ghiec.8353]

@@swativirdi3020 no but he reached out last March, on the exact date the day we met in person. I did not reply. That was the last time he reached out as of to date

[@swativirdi3020]

@@ghiec.8353 so you've moved on... good to hear that. ❤

[@binoddavidminj9646]

Me too want to move on And open my heart again to new possibilities Give my 100% to that person that they deserve

[@EX0t1C]

In this same situation lol, i think everyone starts doing that. How r u doing a year later?

[@jambogb]

It's so nice to know I am NOT the only one going through this shitty time in my life 💖 ❤BE STRONG EVERYONE!❤

[@jaysilver5219]

It really sucks but were going to be great after this ..time time time

[@dianeh1162]

I'm still sad. Being dumped makes you feel empty. In the long run, he did me a favor. I lost him and he lost me.

[@barbarariley3488]

I like what you said."I lost him and he lost me". Right he lost you you were not the only one who lost . Good luck.

[@kagamitaiga9167]

update?

[@SupaHacks]

I like this video because he’s not trying to sell his program, but instead he’s trying to help us heal.

[@harnden8166]

Agreed

[@jcm5604]

I’ve never heard a human being so tuned in and sharp in their thought process like this coach lee.....this guy is amazing!!!

[@keithnorton1966]

This Man is really smart. This is definitely his best one yet, the realest one yet

[@sshuteandrew]

Truth!! Working on oneself, trying to get your ex, strategies, plans, no contact, how to approach and when, eggshells...SO much effort!!! No relationship should be like this!! Let go and let God!! Preach it!! Be strong everyone! Better things to come💗

[@highcurrent1125]

Stacey, I appreciate your optimism and *faith* in the future. You are giving heart felt hope to people, thanks...

[@sshuteandrew]

HighCurrent11 Thank you 💗 Best wishes on your journey 🙏🏻

[@fennel18]

Working on yourself and learning skills should be a life long mission though @stacey s

[@Genes1s___]

_ BUDDHA _ I feel you brother, I’m in the same boat. But I do believe the tables WILL turn... because they lost someone who would never give up on them. And that’s going to be really hard to replace.

[@Genes1s___]

_ BUDDHA _ I’m in the same boat bro. She reached out after 31 days and I’m currently in 2 weeks NC as well. Don’t look back keep moving forward!

[@iraira9111]

When they assure you “I won’t survive if something happens to you” and then dump you for another one while you were going through depression - smashes you completely. One day you are the center of the universe for them, and then with the snap of a finger - they “love her like no one before”, and you’ become an empty sound for them. Awesome

[@kkhdeir1256]

What a kind, genuine, caring, loving human being this man is. Gratitude coach..

[@kathyglass2922]

After listening to all these videos of coach, my ex is looking less and less desirable to me. It was really good advice to go out and be with friends, again and again. To do things with friends. To focus on cleaning and decorating my house, exercising, dressing up, focusing on growing my career, meeting new people in my field, people who want to help, and visiting new places. One hour ago, I was upset and missing the past, and now, for whatever reason, I'm feeling free. I can't believe it. That is amazing. I hope this feeling stays and I wish it for each and everyone of you. Now when I hear coach say, "I'll help you get your ex back," I think. "No, please. I don't want him back" He hasn't texted or called for 2 weeks, and unless he is dead, or in the hospital and someone has his phone, or he is kidnapped, there is no acceptable reason for not staying in contact with me. And to hear Coach says that my ex thinks he is better than me? Sorry! My ex is delusional, then. And your ex is delusional, too, if they think they are better than you, because you are a loyal, caring person. That is worth more than all the gold in the world.

[@thegearman]

That's the thing. Each day of no contact you start to not want them again.

[@ahmog]

Getting dumped by a toxic girlfriend is a Blessing! I'm not the Jerk. I'm good.

[@williamheinsinger7390]

She is someone ELSE'S Problem now ,be glad 👍

[@erosvera9945]

William Heinsinger hahaha so f true

[@danielacanto6164]

hi I just wanna say I agree with that shirt sentice. how my ex was with me and his behavior issues he too can b someone else's problem 😊

[@margomazzeo1680]

Let someone else do the dirty work..

[@martamanno22]

as sad and disgraceful as it may sound I shall admit to myself and to Coach Lee Community now that I have the chance: yes, it was problematic yes, it was disfunctional yes, it was on different pages as bad as you may want things and you start seeing life through rose-coloured glasses even when the reality tells you othrrwise the dumper finally realized: he could not use you any longer he could not make you live in his lie he was not up to your standards (and/or expectations) yes, it has been a blessing yes, it was a burden (I was living in boundage, sickness, dependency, compromising, etc.) yes, I learned the lesson the hard way and I am even thankful to my husband and send him blessing, love and mercy he actually set me free and I do not have to settle for less nor for a mediocre life I am strong I am focused I am worthy

[@mzj-gc9ic]

Just found out my EX was cheating on me with the neighbor, his problem now...

[@Moore18jp]

I dated a bipolar depressed guy.. which I mistakenly tried to help and "save" him . But it was draining my energy daily and affecting my health. He walked out on me and it truly felt like a blessing from the skies, my life is now stress free and strangely I don't miss him at all.

[@angelique1508]

Im so guilty of painting the past all rosy. In my saner moments, I'm relieved it's over and hope he doesn't call. Then I get these CRAZY days, where he's all I think about.

[@mollymc]

Update?

[@marcvslicinivscrassvs7536]

Yes, it can. After getting dumped, I decided to finally, truly confront my insecurities. Life's been much better since now that I don't need a person in my life to give me value.

[@AmberMcQuiston]

I remember watching this video a couple weeks after my breakup, and I could barely stomach it because I was in such denial and grief. All I could think about was getting my ex boyfriend back. I'm watching this now 3 months post breakup and this is a very important video. I'm getting closer to moving on every day. Still a process though.

[@USMCGUY2020]

Im going through a breakup right now and its hell i want her back to much. Did you ever get back with your ex? And if not did you find someone else?

[@AmberMcQuiston]

@@USMCGUY2020 We were broken up for 6 months... He started texting me periodically around the 4 month mark... And he reached out month 6, and asked if we could get back together and try a FWB thing. I was still in love with him, so I didn't care. I figured if we started seeing each other again, it would eventually evolve back into a real relationship... Which it did... However, he broke up with me AGAIN after just 2 months. It's now 6 months later... He didn't contact me on my birthday a month ago (which I thought he would if he still thought about me). I have since started seeing other people and am starting to be interested in someone else. My ex and I were in a toxic relationship that had a foundation of amazing, passionate sex...not genuine compatibility. He and I were absolutely not a good match... That's all I'm gonna say. You're gonna have to have your own personal journey with this.

[@mollymc]

Update? How are you doing now

[@AmberMcQuiston]

@@mollymc We eventually got back together after 9 months apart… And he literally just broke up with me again a couple days ago after we had been back together for 6 months. Good times. I’m atleast not an emotional mess this time. Just feels like a pattern.

[@mollymc]

@@AmberMcQuiston so sorry to hear that thank you for the update sending you lots of love and very happy you're doing better this time around!

[@antoniogonzalez9939]

I just wanted to thank you. I'm currently in no contact with my ex. It's so damn hard not to pick up the phone and call her or text her. Every time I get the urge to contact her, I watch one of your videos instead. It helps a lot. So thank you.

[@millennialpodcast1438]

I hope u stay strong ... I also lost the love of my life she was she best thing happened to me but yeah.. no cheating but she dumber me because we had our Problems , Depression childhood trauma, arguing and not mature enough (20&22) and it was doomed to be failed.. but the love was so truly.. she is texting with someone new now after a month of the break up.. it kills my soul and my will for life .. She sad it's nothing really serious but it can happen

[@millennialpodcast1438]

I hope u stay strong ... I also lost the love of my life she was she best thing happened to me but yeah.. no cheating but she dumber me because we had our Problems , Depression childhood trauma, arguing and not mature enough (20&22) and it was doomed to be failed.. but the love was so truly.. she is texting with someone new now after a month of the break up.. it kills my soul and my will for life .. She sad it's nothing really serious but it can happen

[@jaysilver5219]

It gets easier you will instantly regret it if do call or send that text..trust me

[@chrisbryant2283]

Yes it is sir coach Lee it always is a blessing. After 6 months of NC I finally woke up and didnt even miss her sir and straight away just deleted her number. Straight after I saw her on my facebook feed and she was looking pretty nice and I even said "Damn you go lady" almost as if it was some random lady who was not my Ex sir! For the first time it didnt affect me and I feel really happy Sir Coach Lee. I am living my life in a much better way and I actually want to thank her for breaking up with me! Yes sir this also sounds crazy to me. I dont even care if she has someone or not because my life is finally complete. Will she come back sometime in the future? Only the universe knows but I am still happy. update: I have been improving my english skills. How is it now? Thank you so much Sir Coach Lee Sir. I salute you!

[@sshuteandrew]

Chris Bryant Good for you!!! And your English is great!! I’m an English teacher so that means something coming from me!! 👍🎉💙

[@benjaminhdavidson5603]

Stop saying sir all the time hes not been knighted by the Queen

[@uh-lee-sha5319]

@@benjaminhdavidson5603 lol

[@brandonohara4122]

@@benjaminhdavidson5603 lol

[@rootedrotor525]

This is the best advice. It ended for a reason. Its broken. Move it on and put it behind you. Believe me - I KNOW!!

[@gnnaal]

What makes you an exceptional Coach is you like to give positive/uplifting/optimistic advice after mentioning something that isn't easy to hear. For example, when you said "keep your mind open, maybe them leaving was a good thing" but you still advised to not give up on getting your ex back, just simply keep an open mind. Allow the possibility of you two never talking again. Positives to a negative situation. Thank you for giving meaningful and sentimental advice.

[@djay00009]

This is exactly what I will do . Bye bye ex . I gotta live my life , achieve my goals and do whatever I want to ;) . Thank you my ex . You taught me a lot and I am in a better place than I was in the past . I still love you but I'll let it go . We could have been married . Had kids, live a great life but you didn't deserve someone who loved you unconditionally . Take care of yourself. Thank you Coach Lee .

[@wandayarbrough]

This is 100 percent correct. It is a blessing. My life has gotten better ever since. If they have a addiction or other problems that are more important than you are. It will always come first. You never will. So finding someone that can put you first is a blessing. But putting yourself first is the best thing you can do for yourself. Wish them the best and let go and move on.

[@michaelsmooth1]

This is the best video from Coach Lee, because if you think about it if someone can leave you and not be willing to work it out with you no matter what, then maybe you're better off ! Because don't you want someone in your life that can stay by your side through thick and thin ? I'm so grateful for the break up now because I finally realize my ex is only looking out for herself. Why would I want someone like that ? It's interesting but she's still trying to get me back now but only on her terms. Nope I'm good thank you so much for showing me who you really are ! Definitely a blessing 🙏🏻

[@buntingsmith]

This is the video I’ve been avoiding, but after 2 weeks of “no contact” my mind is certainly open to watching it. Thank you x

[@narutonerd0001]

You feel like a family member to me, I was crying all the way through because I really hold your opinions in a high regard and I trust them the most. I also feel comfortable letting my vulnerabliltiies show where I imagine that you're giving me a talk to make me stronger, so yes today is waterworks

[@RealCoachLee]

I’m so sorry for your pain. Try to remind yourself that you only have to take things one minute at a time. No one can make you do more than that. Slow things down. Nothing has to happen right now in order for you to be with him again. Just stay right here in this moment with me and don’t run away from it to the future. Just stay right here in this moment and feel how much easier it is. When you feel your thoughts stray, bring them back. Slow your breathing down and feel yourself in slow motion. Make sense?

[@kathyglass2922]

@@RealCoachLee yay coach!!!

[@toshlahy]

I hate this video because there’s so many hard truths in it that I need to accept. Most of my pain is loss and there’s no way around that.

[@marcvslicinivscrassvs7536]

Yes! It forces you to work on aspects of yourself that you may have been to complacent to tackle. Just don't work on these things for the person who dumped you. Do it for yourself and when the time is right you'll enjoy a better relationship with a new person.

[@PianoMan4Life1982]

Thanks Lee. After a lot of push and pull in my mind I have decided to give up. I have been doing no contact anyways but got a false sense of hope when she told me she misses me and thought about me all the time. She is dating someone else though and I have to accept that and live my life.

[@teresaolofson1377]

this man Coach Lee is about the only person i have faith in right now as i wish to build faith in myself

[@tinkertailorsoldiersailor1346]

I really like coach Lee as he does talk alot of sense and does not encourage game playing. I just want to say one thing to all the people who have suffered or are suffering from a breakup. I have been through 4 very difficult breakups. Each breakup was crippling. In my youth and absence of understanding laws of attraction I made huge mistakes like begging pleasing chasing etc. Only to look desperate and low value. But folks all I can say is I was able to replace each and every single ex. Now I am in a long term relationship with someone and it's a very healthy relationship. Looking back I want to convey one message. No one is worth your energy. If they don't want you, give them a dignified 'goodbye.' Move on to the next one. There will always be someone else. Learn from every failed relationship so that when you do meet the right person you will not be making mistakes and you can maintain a healthy relationship.

[@mollymc]

Did any of your exes ever try to get back together?

[@cherrybacon5154]

I used to think time and time again that when my Ex let me down with his promises regarding this or that, it was the end of the world. Its my Birthday tomorrow, and I was looking forward to having a good day with his help, but he's bailed out on me again and is going to treat his mates instead, saying we're done because I stand up to him. My original plan was to spend the day with my Son and his Son, not having much money, but still being with two of my precious people. After being dumped again, I feel I have a lot to be grateful for. I have my family, my security and I'm alive. All the aspects of no contact help me to see things and build confidence. Pick myself up, dust myself off and carry on. Thanks Coach. Cherry 🍒.

[@Froggy-qe1dg]

I’m going trough the same right now. Tomorrow is my birthday and we had plans of spending it camping or just the two of us because of money. But he left me again just a week before my birthday because I also stood up to him , but I have my family my nieces that makes me happy and after days of thinking that maybe i did wrong I’m finally thinking this might of been a blessing

[@Bianca-yt7pd]

I listened to this four years ago when I was heartbroken. I listened to this many times. Four years later I have accomplished so much that would have never happened had we got back together. It was hard, but it was so much better for me.

[@gabbymontoya2085]

Cried tremendously after this video.. he is right.. you have to let go .

[@andrewmarkson7882]

What a beautifully encouraging story. This video was just what I needed to feel better about my ex leaving me after being together almost two years, relocating with me, and then blindsiding me by leaving with no sign of having been unhappy or conflicted. Lee is right; I'm so much better off than to be with someone who keeps all her thoughts and feelings to herself. I also find it refreshing how many people in these comments mention God. He rescued me from a situation that wasn't good for me or my faith.

[@carmensmith1453]

Hello Andrew yes God works mysterious ways perhaps to loose my ex might be a blessing he's been so horrible w me ...I was kind to him ...hope u ok

[@Finally4Christ]

I'm really afraid that no one will love me like he did. I left a loveless marriage of 17 yrs and was single for 3yrs before meeting James. He was wonderful and for the first time in my life I really fell in love. I never thought it would happen for me but it did. It was the happiest I can ever remember being in my life. I'm so thankful for the time I had with him.

[@caroline3206]

This gives me hope. I'm happy you're happy.

[@carolloraine223]

I say...stay SINGLE. You'll live longer! 💖💖💖

[@ifyify6073]

Yep you so right & there's a but

[@Amctothemoon]

Abs you’ll be richer

[@jasonarokiaraj9817]

I think you should still go on dates with other women but still re-attract your ex.

[@silvana11221122]

how many times have i avoided this video ... i should have listened before now.... to become stronger. thank you Coach Lee

[@JetDriver1111]

Just wanted to say thanks Lee. You are helping me get through this terrible time. I was blinded sided by my girlfriend the other day. I came home to an empty house and a note on the table. You are hands down the best coach out there !!! I have been in a lot of relationships and I usually help others with theirs but this time I needed some help and understanding. Your expertise and kind nature has probably helped thousands of people and I am one of them. I would like to send you some money directly to you. I don't do the online thing. I've been hacked and lost a few thousand before. Let me know how to get it to you. GOD bless you. You're a lifesaver in a bad time for me !! You're the best !!! Listen to him people !! He is dead on !!!

[@badgaldidi3352]

JetDriver1111 I just can’t believe people do this to an other human being

[@margomazzeo1680]

@@badgaldidi3352 Hard to believe..yet Karma will visit them sooner or later..trust me..

[@brandonohara4122]

@@badgaldidi3352 ya what a way to leave someone. A note and empty house. Wow, unbelievable.

[@badgaldidi3352]

@@margomazzeo1680 Definitely!

[@scottmartin1688]

My ex is a big time alcoholic and is extremely insecure and over sensitive. She would break up with me for all kinds of crazy reasons and then I would let her cool down and then get back together with her. She is a nice person but a nut job and I tried to "fix her" and help her beat the booze to no avail. I now have a new GF and she is crazy about me and it is truly a two way relationship without the drama. She is a blessing. So hang in there folks...when one door closes a better one will open up.

[@bguy86]

Scott Martin she’s a narc bro ! Let that one go and move on

[@jeremyfowler2169]

Dude I hear that. My ex drank like a fish. Insecure, borderline bi-polor. Maybe narcissist. Broke up with me for stupid shit and had a dude two weeks after. I’m kinda glad she’s gone.

[@bguy86]

Jeremy Fowler Yah sounds just like my ex ! And I believe my ex could be a narc cause she tried to rub shit in my face about this new guy and spies on my Facebook

[@jeremyfowler2169]

Brandon Guy mine blocked me on all social shit. She also threw it in my face that she was dating “a great guy” and to move on to “ have a good life”.

[@bguy86]

Jeremy Fowler she’ll unblock you soon , put your money on it ! She’s also stalking your Facebook and getting word off it from a mutual friend . Mine says all that but still stalks my Facebook through a mutual friend

[@wwbenee]

Sometimes your ex really was / is a wonderful person that invested so much in the relationship and you can only look at yourself for ruining it. And that's the hardest to deal with.

[@_camy_]

wwbenee yup.

[@_camy_]

wwbenee the mistakes I made were absolutely avoidable and the train wreck from the first mistake led to many more and I couldn’t stop the snowball effect. I became emotionally unavailable and needy at the same time.

[@jrysandy5681]

Yes I can’t stop blaming myself for destroying it and I lost a good person.

[@Sarai0901]

Yes me too, he was a good man, dedicated, compassionate, honest, and i ruined it because i was so clingy and needy, never had a guy like him (my past relationships were pretty bad) so i guess my fear of losing him became overwhelming, but now i know that i cannot keep somebody in a cage, so when he broke up with me, i just accepted it and im trying to move on and work on myself

[@Sarai0901]

@B H thank you, I know that now

[@eleojay401]

I was in a two year relationship that was good, but I knew very early on that I went into the relationship just because I was lonely. We never argued, we loved each others company, and really cared for one another, but something didnt feel right. When she dumped me, I was really devestated for 3-4 months after, but I knew deep inside that she ending it was the best thing for both of us. I loved her more like a friend, and it had been like that from the beginning. She fell in love with me, but I did not fall in love with her. There wasnt really any passion sexually, and I felt I was trapped in something unsatisfying. I knew her breaking up with me was a blessing in disguise, but for some reason I tried to get her back, even though I knew she wasnt the right one for me. After about 4 month of alot of tears and stress, I finally understood it was the best thing that has happened to me, because I learned so much about myself and relationships that has changed my life in so many ways. Most important thing Ive learned was "never say yes to a relationship because of lonelyness". Get to know the other well, take your time, and be very clear about if the person in front of you will meet your needs.

[@katemoore2660]

I feel the same way. My ex dumped me one month ago. I knew he wasn’t right for me but still loved him and felt like I couldn’t dump him. I hate to be alone. I have been hoping he’d get in touch but it wouldn’t be right. He had so many red flags that I ignored. I have so much love to give. I was with him 3 1/2 years. He wanted to move in but I have two children and didn’t want him too. I didn’t think he was reliable or responsible. I would have been looking after him like a mother not an equal partner.

[@irinab.pavlikovska3465]

This is a really really sad if a good person does not meet your needs… What kind of needs? What are those needs a good person cannot meet especially if you uave already started a relationship so there was some kind of attraction? Aren’t you chasing some kind of “perfect match” person?

[@orlyb90]

This message made me cry while I was walking on the treadmill. Thank you so much. God bless.

[@nicolechemla4627]

Bless you dear Coach.. often during so many breakups on his part, so many silence periods and him abusing my love for him, I used to think I could be much healthier, even happier without him... and here you are, supporting me! I praise the Lord for you being there just now for me, and for making me realize that I haven't lost it.. In fact, entertaining this idea on your behalf is giving me such peace of mind.. so much strength and for once - after 40 years of endurance and miscalculations, misunderstandings and blaming myself, at long last I feel relieved. For the first time, I even feel the right to even dump the guy!! He had caused so much pain over the years.. so much that I almost lost my mind, my sanity! Crying so much for not having the guts to leave him right there and, especially, for loving him more than I loved myself. The humiliation was killing me over and over again.. and now I am Free at last! Thank you Coach! There's no one like you, really! ❤❤❤

[@marcoaurelioa.4394]

I lack the words to convey how much I admire you, your knowledge, your expertise, your insights, your empathy. You've been getting me through the possibly worst period of my life. If I hadn't found you I don't know where my dignity and mental sanity would be by now. Thanks from Italy man, from the deepest of my heart.

[@auruminsanity1600]

I like listening to you to learn about relationships although I don 't want my ex back. (7 months of NC) but I'm feeling so good with myself now because I realised how miserable I was in that relationship. Thank you.

[@margomazzeo1680]

Its Goodbye to misery..insecurity..and narcissistic abuse tactics..

[@veralindqvist3944]

Thank you Coach Lee for this video. Going through a breakup really put things in perspective. I realized I took my family and friends for granted because I devoted all my time and energy to him. I’m still sad and a small part of me wants him back (even though he cheated on me), but I love myself more. I deserve better than that kind of treatment.

[@mollymc]

How are you doing now?

[@LG-vh2gs]

My last relationship was a covert narcissist. It was painful but it was a good riddance. Relationship with a Narc is doomed to fail.

[@jannlewandowski5540]

I've been there. 5 years with a narc. Left him years ago..

[@OluDJustAnotherMakeupAddict]

Exactly what I needed to help me go strong!

[@bigadventur]

Your beautiful ! Life will get better ! That's what I keep telling myself.

[@user-bt2pv9sy9i]

Being dumped by the guy who wanted me to be his mistress. After 2 months of no contact I have written a goodbye-letter. Just to say" thank you" for all good and wishing him the best. I said that want to date single man only. Lost him but saved my self respect.

[@ginger96963]

Why would you be in that situation to start? You have some self work to do if you thought he’d leave her for you or if that’s what you wanted.

[@kimsikorski5691]

I will say one thing about you is that you actually give advice and actually let people know why their ex did this or said that where most people that talk about relationships whether it's trying to get them back they actually never tell you much of anything. They just talk around in circles and you are just as dumb founded as you were before you watched the video. I think you will go far with your channel, just keep doing what you are doing and not change to the ones I talked about above and you will go far my friend, very far. God bless.💕

[@shaunfazli1600]

Great thanks. My ex was not ready to change within herself so it was so blessing for me to let go my emotional attachment. I moved on now and now my focus is on myself.

[@chaymaaadel1728]

A short answer to the video's question is "Definitely Yes!"

[@glamasaurus]

I vacillate between missing them and knowing they did do me a favor. The relationship near the end was a mess and I couldn't love them into working on it or fixing things because that's just not how people work. I may be sad because I miss someone I thought I knew but I'm more sad that they didn't even see the value in me when they had me.

[@cherrybacon5154]

I put everything and anything into the relationship with my Ex and when it ended I felt everything come crashing down. Then bit by bit, day by day I'm beginning to feel more positive about myself and my life than what I did when I was with him! Cherry 🍒

[@brianjacobs8839]

I am slowly realizing that her dumping me was a blessing. The day when it happened (via email) was two days before my birthday. I was destroyed but it's been a slow recovery. My profile pic is one of hope. Hoping that a special woman will come into my life and we'll have dates like looking at stars. Have a great life each and everyone.

[@danielacanto6164]

ya for me it's been like 7 months or so and learning everyday more and more to let go and focused on now growing and being stronger then my ex. u know that's it's his loss. not mine. in the 4, years together and living together he never truly showed he loved me or supported me in anything. I suffer with difficultys in my life and he never wanted any part if it. it's a blessing for me cause I know in the abuse as well I endured from him and heartache he gave me that I will meet someone 1000% more better for my life. and will b truly happy. I know dint deserve anyone to treat me badly. especially by someone u thought u could trust and gave ur heart too.

[@Jakecaseyy]

once someone says goodbye give them time leave them alone but if they date somone else move tf on never look back thier trash to you

[@GOLTEB]

After on no contact I've regained my self respect and control then my ex made contact, at that moment I've realized I'm better off on my own. Thank you coach, you have no idea how many of us use your videos to have direction after being dumped.

[@aylahjaelisrael1331]

I truly understand your perspective about my break up being a possible blessing. The answer is yes it really could be. Thank you for “shining” this light in another direction so I may get the most understanding from this life changing event I deal with every day until it no longer pains me..Awesome video..Thanks

[@RealCoachLee]

I'm glad to hear it helped Jackie. Please subscribe to my channel!

[@VideosVonDennis]

This is the only honest guy with knowledge when it comes to this topic. Helped me through tough times.

[@Amctothemoon]

The problem with allot at people is that they are in denial , when they was in the relationship I guarantee you they thought about leaving their partner on several occasions , some thing wasn’t right , they give off signals and their ex picked up on them , made then miserable , they got what’s called manipulated dumping , their ex probably picked up on things they did , got pissed off and did things to piss them off to force it to finish, now it’s ended there feeling insecure and lonely, well tuff , you messed up get over it and move on

[@jajahMantes]

Hmm slightly correct

[@membering]

Coach, I'm tired of things not killing me and only making me stronger. 😏

[@nobody-hr1lo]

Same here...though even with all that pain and wasted time, money and energy, I must confess I'm happy to still stay alive to keep standing to fight and die another day.

[@IndependentView7]

More than a week ago she asked me for space (blind sided). This is not the first time she does this, but I can't do this anymore after 5.5 years of relationship. I need to value myself and move on. Yes, I'm hurting. It's a blessing I was able to watch and analyze your video. I really needed this. Bottom line, I was an asset to her to care for her two children, she's a widow. One sided relationship, I can't think of a way she ever did something extraordinary for me. Bottom line I love her more than she did. God bless everyone.

[@MrArchitect3]

Coach i love your videos. I became obsessed with your videos on how to get the woman i gave all my heart to back. But for christ sake i gave it all to someone who all of a sudden after 2,5 years decided she doesn't see a future, was tired, want something different in her life, and i want back a person who dumped me, caused me tremendous pain without even speaking to me about this, didn't want to invest in me, wasn't accepting me. I fell so pathetic and i am so mad at my self

[@RealCoachLee]

Pankon, I’m very sorry you are going through this. I’ve been there. I truly wish you the best.

[@MrArchitect3]

@@RealCoachLee Let's see if the NC will do anything. Thanks coach

[@jessecunard6544]

I don't want my future ex-wife back. I now know her true self. I now believe I was blessed that she left. Thanks

[@Tony-dh]

I knew my ex was a bit toxic but in the final discard she showed me how toxic she was. I dont think i would even want her back now.

[@jessecunard6544]

@@Tony-dh I'm now divorced and haven't seen her in almost 2 year's

[@adaptercrash]

Seeing as I'm practically retired, they are forced into 9 hour applied work week groundhogs day over and over, living alone in an over priced rental suite in some crappy suburb where people die all the time and her asking me forever.

[@admorgz]

Great video, life is very very short. If someone doesn't want you. Just let them go.

[@dnlperth8243]

Coach Lee nails it every time no matter what the subject. Thankyou Coach Lee for opening my mind to another perspective on my situation. 3 months since I was dumped by the girl I was going to propose to this coming January on a cruise ship. I had only moved into her place 10 weeks prior to the dumping. Maybe I've been looking at this whole thing the wrong way around. Thankyou Coach Lee 🙏

[@thomaswilliams801]

Thanks for your help,am on a no contact since 4th of April,and would remain no contact until I hear from my ex girlfriend,am moving on,am seeing someone now and everything is going good. My ex is still in my mind, but I will not dump my new girlfriend for her,even though am still in pain,forward ever backward never.when a woman dumped you for another guy you should never go back to her.there are billions of women in this planet.

[@DigDugDubbs]

I’ve wanted to tell her that this is the hardest thing I’ve had to go through in my life. That I didn’t deserve to be treated the way she treated me in the end. I’ve been in NC for almost 8 weeks hoping to get something more from her than a happy birthday text(why?), replied thanks. Maybe this is a blessing in disguise, maybe something great is just around the corner… maybe it can still be her… But now I know why some people say they are over the option of reconciling now in your comments sections. You spoke directly to my soul and you uncorked a bottle of pain and trauma I’ve been filling since this happened on 1/1/22. I deserve that person who stays through all the ups and downs, not just the easy parts. It’s a choice, and one I’ll have to think more about now if ever given the option between the two. Thank you for broadening my perspective Coach Lee.

[@BaseballnCrypto]

Freeeedom never felt so good ❤

[@NathanCabs]

Damn it. This is the most painful video so far because it's 100% true.

[@sarahsousa2504]

My God! lol... I was crying like crazy and then, all of a sudden, Coach Lee raises a cup of a super coffee! ... It made me laugh. It was good. And it was also good when you said "I'm still here". It is aching.

[@Bossjennyb]

Thank you with all of my heart ♥️ I need to watch this every day during NC and continue to heal and care for me. xo

[@voltigeur]

Just found out today that my ex is likely in a rebound relationship... just less than 4 weeks after she initiated the breakup. I feel lost. Finding this video gives me comfort. Maybe it's really a blessing in disguise. Thank you Coach Lee

[@terezavalencia2908]

Truth is they are a rebound or odds are it wont work because they never fully healed althought they may think they are

[@francoisouadeba6346]

I totally agree with you I been looking for a company store to open my company for 2 years without success, and after 3 days of breakup with my Ex I got the place exactly what I was looking for 🤗🤗🤗 and now things are going very very good. I have no regret of losing her, I just felt disappointed of what she done to me, because I didn’t expect that from her, but in reality breaking up can be blessings if you just take the sadness that they brought to your life and transform it to a positive energy to work on yourself and become a better person

[@Domtronic]

The way I see it I dont want to be with someone that can leave. So I dont see why I should use your techniques to get her back. I want the person I thought she was back, but that person does not exist. I would rather meet a new woman that is loyal.

[@shidow5035]

it's so painful, that you did everything, but nothing works...

[@HolisticMotion]

41 days post breakup. Finally ready to hear this. Been on 1 days already. Have another tomorrow. Life will go where is does, they will either be your future, or the lesson for it. Take the rose tinted glasses off. Y’all had more problems than you want to admit.

[@justbreathe_]

Thank you for this. It’s so amazing to see that you aren’t taking advantage of heartbroken people. You want to help but you are honest that it may not happen for everyone.

[@anthonygonzalez4142]

Coach Lee is awesome, I've been married 19yrs and my wife just left me without explanation. On father's day we have 3 boys together. 20 ,19 and 7 yrs and I am crushed!

[@veraj5468]

I think this is probably a healthier way to go. Trying to convince someone why you’re the right candidate is futile. My friend was looking for a way out and made the smallest thing a reason. So... it was thematic and unpleasant.

[@cyndemaegentapa467]

Thank you for this Coach! This is So encouraging and comforting to hear. And Yes, when a Break up does happen, It hurts, But Maybe that Relationship has already served its purpose in your life. Just be thankful for the happy times and the lessons we learned.

[@shayakghosal9992]

Exactly Coach Lee, As much as it hurts to be away from my partner, her words, attitude and constant insult, it made me realize how for granted I used to take those persons who actually cared for me, and what things actually work for me when it comes to deciding a person whom I prefer to be with. I had never realized that these actually matter to me until I found myself to be irritated and frustrated when this person used to do things like those. Also it was an eye openner to taking certain things less seriously or have a lesser expectation from anyone except myself..... After all I can only make the desired changes by investing in myself, but can't expect anyone else to care for my choices and priorities and make them understand unless they really want to from within.

[@pmdal]

Dumped 20 days ago.....what a blessing!No Contact is forever

[@jannlewandowski5540]

When I look back, I believe the break up was the best thing for the both of us, especially ME! Thanks Coach Lee!

[@Sevoflurane2014]

This sounds dumb but my breakup WAS a blessing no doubt and I still want my ex back. Because this break up prompted me to FIX my issues, focus on myself and started goiig to church more and got baptized! I have a whole new focus and if my ex comes back they will see a whole new person. Have to put in Gods hands.

[@lucashiggins6203]

Thanks Lee After being cheated on lied too and discarded like trash I’ve finally moved on. It’s funny when I first didn’t know all that she did (November) I watched all your videos and some numerous times! I wanted her back so bad!!!It’s now March (4 months later) and after she came over last night (last time) It’s over. She still is with that guy she cheated on me with but still every week or so would text/call etc and hover around me.....then after a few days she would insist on us not communicating anymore! This happened a few times over a few months and I’ve finally found out she is still with the man she moved on with(rebound-cheating whatever) and just seemed to use me for our break up(all the emotions) she would cry, yell how mad she was, how disappointed she was we didn’t work etc......also she threw out how she missed me-part of her wanted me back-talked about our memories. It was sick! I’m not sure if she was narcissistic or just flat out using me?? Either way she’s a mess and I told her I’m moving on. I deserve someone that wants me as bad as I want them! Thanks again Lee your videos are the best!!!

[@WHAMaTRON]

As the days go bye I’m starting to think I don’t want her back now and no contact is going to stay that way.

[@bmorebutterfly5259]

After 4 years this video is still so relevant.

[@surfkat59]

Coach: You are a BLESSING. Your videos lift me up. My ex of 12 years kicked me out over a silly text message I was supposed to use to relay to her friends and family about the status of her masectomy 2 months ago. I pleaded with her at the hospital that I NEVER got that text from her. I really never did. But she refused to hear it. 2 weeks later she boots me out. All of our friends including my family members were in shock that she did that. I cried for weeks. I pain daily for my return home to her. Funny thing is that we STILL have stayed in touch 2 weeks afterwards. Very little texting/no contact. I even house sat with our dog for 4 days! Makes no sense. Our convesations in person have been civil. I'm shocked. I know I am not being used. Its not her nature to do that. Im still on her FB page and our pictures are still up on FB and Instagram. My question: What does this all mean? That she just needs space and time in the meanwhile? I pray that she takes me back and find a resolution.

[@RealCoachLee]

She sounds terribly immature to do that to you. I would say that since you two were together for 12 years that this is/was a marriage-like relationship. I have free a mini-course on saving a marriage (or marriage-like relationship) that I suggest you get at myexbackcoach.com/hope-for-marriages-in-crisis/

[@theicewolf714]

Out of the hours and hours Watching all your videos as therapy for me helped me through my darkest hours of loss amd sadness of her . Prepping myself to enter NC because I knew the breakup was coming ... your videos helped me prepare amd lessened my anxiety daily listening to uou on my commute back amd forth from work to home where we shared . It was till this video that I had the realization that I was not happy either trying to make her happy , she was soooo much work to make happy and no matter how hard I tried she still wasn't happy personally and professionally , I now know that it was a blessing for me that she initiated the break up and I can truly rebuild and do me and not be exhausted mentally amd physically trying to meet her unachievable high expectations could be very meet , she will see what life is like without me and what I brought to her life. If NC WORKS FOR US. I'm not even sure i want her back to go back to being unhappy myself trying to please her. I do love her. 3 years living together bit I think it's the loss of her I miss but I know this will be a blessing for me to put me 1st. Cheers LEE

[@bsexboy]

update?

[@BlackAdder1970]

It can be a blessing because after the loss the dumper can really see what they have lost and won't want to lose it ever again. This time they will be so grateful that you agreed to take them back. Most of the time the relationship is stronger than ever before!! The Love can be the deepest it's ever been. Speaking from experience as long as the relationship was mostly good overall, and it was long term, your chances are great. I've seen that people have divorced and came back to get her after 7 years and were remarried.

[@Ariun97]

Robert Grant God will bless you beyond your wildest dream. Stay strong, positive and keep moving on. About your ex wife life will teach her sooner or later and she will get what she deserves

[@Dune-Turq]

Seems like your mind is taking with you.....the way he speaks. God I’m glad I found his videos. This videos works like medicine to me.

[@CapsFan]

I miss my ex, but I feel as though it was a blessing. It’s been a month and a half, almost two months - we don’t hate each other, and who knows, maybe there’s a possibility she’ll miss me and we’ll work on things in the future. The break up has made me grow as a person and helped me to see my flaws, and shortcomings. I don’t think her and my relationship would ever be the best it could be without this happening. I was stuck in my ways, complacent and she took the nice things I did for her for granted. She’s working on herself, when we do talk she seems a lot more grateful of the little things and I’ve learned to man up, take care of myself, put less value on money and more value on the people who love me.

[@AliceBrazilLlamas]

It has been a blessing and you have been a blessing to me, Coach Lee. I will always be thankful to you. You helped me learn to value and love myself. Keep on doing what you are doing, because you are helping heal so many lost souls out there in world. Love you always Coach Lee!

[@Sadandlow-ql7sx]

I love this advice! I listen only to this guy and Kels Coaching on here, as they are so knowledgeable - They have literally got me through my heartbreak :)