Yea, well, umm I can't reflect on past heartbreaks because this was my first relationship and my first heartbreak...and I'm not in my teens or 20s...anyway I'm learning a lot goung thru this but it does hurt like hell...these you tube coaches and therapists are helping ne get thru it.

I Love your videos Sir my self in a breakup with my Husband it's 4 years now with no contact

This makes me so sad😭😭😭

You had a purpose in life to help us all. Thx coach.

I didn’t let him go like you said. I found your videos too late😢 Even after I found them there was a lot of other mixed info on the internet and its hard to know what is right for your own situation so I tried to stay in contact with him and tried various ways to “re-attract” him and talk to him which didn’t work. I am finally in no contact and have ignored his breadcrumbs for months. His last breadcrumb was a week ago he said he wanted to know how I am doing but that doesn’t sound like he wants me in his life or wants to talk to me. It sounds like he is just curious what I am doing so I didn’t reply. It sucks because I want to talk to him but I don’t want to be breadcrumbed anymore and feel rejected again. If he ever wants to talk to me again he should try harder

I know I'm screwed and I know your videos are for breakups of only a few months but here I am looking for hope over a breakup of 2 years no contact while she's with another guy 🙃🙃😂😂

I think when people worry if their ex will forget about them they don’t really mean it literally. Obviously your ex isn’t going to forget about you. People don’t forget anyone they seriously dated or past jobs or trips they went on etc. I think the real worry is that our ex will forget the love we had and good times we shared, but the reality is they already chose to ignore those things and break up with you and they basically chose to not have you in their life anymore. They can’t forget the relationship but they decided they don’t want it anymore

It’s so hard. Only 2 days into no contact but the way we ended things was so weird. She still has pics of us on our Facebook and she has a bunch of my stuff, she is even. Keeping the stuffed animals and ring I gave her why hasn’t she just texted me man. I just wanna know that she wants to try again during this 90 day break type period and I would do so much for her. We were each others person…I was there for her for everything I stayed up late at night when she couldn’t sleep because of nightmares and now I’m the one haunted by nightmares of her.

7:20 spot on....Thats the stage im in ...Shes in the driving seat...Im blocked on everything and made the mistake of running around after her..

Coach Lee.... You are the best!!

If she is still using my Hulu and I’m still using her Max account is it still no contact? I haven’t talked to her in almost a 3 weeks (I did like a post, but I regret that)

broken up because of issues from my side, I pleaded for a month to involve her family in the break up as well, which made the situation worse, even involving her friends in it. we had a great relationship for 4 years, but in the last few months, I pulled away, I apologised for everything, but I am not sure she will come back. I've been in no contact for 4 days. She always says you won't do that with your next girl friend. and was crying on the phone

What does it mean when we've already been really close on our 3 dates after no contact and then suddenly he tells me "he's not really into dating right now. He doesn't have the emotional energy for that right now". I know he's been very busy lately but I feel stuck now. What are my chances? Should I give him space and do no contact again?

Should I apply this with an DA?! No contact helps but after they start coming back around the process starts over again

After 10 years and living together for 7 she monkey branched me and left overnight. It's been 15 months and we occasionally talk and I saw her for the first time since she left a few days ago. I have been thinking about her constantly since the day she left. I treated her very well. I supported her. I'm 65 now and beyond depressed. I'd take her back in a heartbeat and I'm sure she knows that. Thank you for your teachings Lee. I have been watching your vids constantly. The pain just won't end for me.

Today she reached out, after I hung out with a friend of ours. She was mad, saying I was trying to take him away from her, because when we were together I was jealous of him and made fun of him, and then I changed, I became a better person and realised what a wonderful man he is, and we became close. She was angry, we talked about the relationship, it was like she was only remembering the bad stuff, not even one good memory. That broke my heart, made me understand that there's no hope at all, so now I'm not watching Lee's videos to get her back, but to get over her, because she will never come back, and I am hurting like hell

@RealCoachLee, my ex reached out after almost 2 weeks of no contact, but when I suggested to meet she said it was too soon for her and that she would prefer to meet later when things are more settled down. I replied that I was OK with that. Did I do wrong in replying this way? I feel that she now thinks that there is no consequences for the breakup anymore because she knows I would be willing to meet later. What should I have done in this situation?

What if you’re legally married and pregnant and they leave you for a misunderstanding. So you’ve gone NC. What to do then ? Because I was calling and texting him for the first few days and he wasn’t responding to anything and after a week I stopped completely and disappeared.

No contact, no going back ever.

Mu ex accusing me of cheating and sends his friends to harrased me …

we live together so how can i ignore him

i cried every night for weeks. once i stopped he started loving me again and came back. but is that really love when they are like this when u cry

Today marks 2 months of no contact and he’s with someone new now. We broke up a long time ago but still had a very on off situation so i was unable to detach from him . Is this considered a rebound or he actually moved on?

Married, still living together and with 3 kids. He broke it off 6 weeks ago. I begged, apologized and cried, nothing helped. We were still intimate and I stopped cause it would get my hopes up and it would end up hurting my feelings and feeling used. I was making lots of changes and being so much more positive and he would call me while at work, he would make comments of jealousy when going to the gym but hasn’t initiated to get back together and it gets frustrating. What should do I do? Keep showing him my changes? Or go no contact? I wish he can just talk to me and fix things.

She is a lot younger than me and I tried my best to treat her well and I tried not to make past mistakes I did when I was in her age. It made me really happy that she was happy with me. The level of connection was smth I never experienced in my entire life since day 1. Against all my nature I tried to change myself. even tried to give up smoking because she wanted to create a family with me. I even started to postpone my work life etc for her. A very long story short everything fell apart wich started from the tinniest stupidest thing ( dishes were not washed well enough and so on) and in the end it was a total and complete lost of respect…. After 20times trying to leave her and never going through with it in the end I stoned my heart and did it….Nobody can actually write (at least not me) what I really feel for her but I just can say I am already 4 months in no contact and I still feel the need to cry from time to time. Everyday I think of her…I saw forever in her eyes. What kills me the most is that she already had lost her love for me in her heart and was keeping me hooked just to take her revenge on me and play…. Thnx to anybody that has the time and patience to read this. May the force be with you all!

One week we break up.. he reach me out but.. I won’t answer his calls. I know he just checking on me.. didn’t say he want to comeback with me..🥹🥹

He ghosted me 7 months ago after 6 years of toxic abuse...I did all the wrong actions of calling, texting even writing letter..begging telling him..poor my heart out...all along he was seeing someone. Told me he wants ti see where it goes with the new girl..totally suck to my stomach..he's heartless..he's not good for me...I hate this pain and rejection. .the betrayal..it's his MO..I have to follow through on no contact starting today..I deserve alot better..I have to invest time in reinventing me.

I have chased and begged her for a week after the break up, and after this week i stop chasing, does the no contact still work?

Like if you want Coach Lee to make a video on anxious/avoidant trap

Moving on for good is the best strategy if it has been more than 6 months and they didn’t even care to go counseling or reconcile

I admire the way Coach Lee explains things. Great job Lee.

Do I still have a chance? We have a mutual friend in common, and she's willing to meet me at a party, well dwell in the same room with me at a party, but she said she doesn't trust me, or have a desire to be friends with me anymore do I still have a chance with these principles? I've been in contact for two months so far.

Been a week, woke up today and reached out 😪😪

Thanks!

Coach. What would you recommend in relation to paying the mortgage when she has left the marital house? I can afford it but have insisted that she still pays her half as she is a co owner of the mortgage and home. She will not engage in counselling. I don’t want to be taken financial advantage of but she seems happy for me to deal with the full financial burden. She has finally engaged in some conversation about it but I’m now worried that I might ruin my chances even more. Should I pay or insist that she still pays?

Problem for me is, i think my ex was already ready to lose me due to long distance and wanting to end it 2 months earlier than she did 😢

I guess I need to give this a shot

I’m struggling with un friending off of Facebook. 3 weeks no contact so far. Any advice on that??💕 I’ve not posted a thing. And have not looked at his Instagram AND deleted my app but still have the account.

It's been almost two years. I'm looking at the actions speak louder than we words idea and realize that somehow I have to move on and get over it.

Follow everything Coach Lee says❤

This is a great video

I’m glad you are better. My life is better because of you Coach Lee, I am grateful for your help

I’m 52 days into no contact, and it’s not even like I’m worried about breaking it because I’m not, I’m waiting for her to reach out! But low-key I wish I had no hope because then I could just move on! But things like she still has us in a relationship on Facebook, she still has our pictures up on Facebook is giving me hope whether it’s false or not is irrelevant! If she took those things down, I would take that as it’s over and move on

Ill take "things i didnt expect to see on a Wednesday for $100 Alex"

If after 3 weeks of NC she all of a sudden starts removing me on a few social medias but not all, is that her in the snooping stage?

I think she hates me now as i said some nasty sruff so yeah im blocked and doomed ?

We are 3 weeks NC and she just unfriended me on fb and removed me as a follower on TikTok but still has me on Instagram… and still follows me on TikTok…she barely uses Facebook…have I lost her now?

He explains his to much love ,but when I reached there he could not reach to my living place.

Suppose he comes I will not believe on him.

I know his inner feeling, what type of relation he wants. I am not so anxious, so I am silent. Don't worry message or call I will not send him.