Couple Entrepreneurs: Pursue my passion or support my partner's dream?| Fridays with Tab and Chance

Welcome to Fridays with Tab and Chance! Today we are discussing a question we received about balancing time and support between an entrepreneur couple. Let's get into it!
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[@LowkeyMikeyyy]

Chance brought up the point I was thinking, “I shouldn’t have to believe in your dream to not support it.” If you’re a true partner just SUPPORT. Show up like you would want them to for your own dreamssss! Idk why that concept is like foreign language to people. 😂

[@Chaepion]

So true

[@mdooms76]

One word...SELFISHNESS. Or they could be jealous secretly not wanting you to outdo them.

[@LifeWellLit]

Ya'll are really out here doing 1-on-1 ministry. This is such a blessing!

[@leandraroche5756]

didn't they get me together.. God is that Good

[@Jesus.SaVeS77]

Thanks for info. I'm gonna try 2 stay awake & watch now I'm home & free. But Soo 🥱🥱😴

[@LifeWellLit]

@@leandraroche5756 yes He is! Wishing your family much abundance and success!

[@alexishunt4336]

Okkayy,

[@selahveee]

no fr

[@RoLee705]

I think the fear for women for a long time is, “if I put in the work for this man and then he abandons me entirely, how do I pick myself up? But especially…HOW DO I KEEP that from happening?”

[@RoLee705]

@@afisanaa does she have any advice on what to do and not do? Were there any yellow or red flags she ignored? Or was she lied to so well and/or it was such a simple thing, she didn’t expect it at all? Did she worry he would do this? What’s his/her life like now?

[@taraclark3656]

Put your faith and trust in God and NOT the man because man is subject to failure (he will never be perfect)... but God NEVER fails!! Be encouraged. 🙏🏽💜

[@RoLee705]

@@taraclark3656 thanks for trying to help, but unfortunately it doesn’t really. What does that mean “put your faith in God”? We need clear answers. Obviously certain things are too specific to speak on and there’s a point where you just have to do your best with your experience, but I’m looking for if there’s any concrete terms to consider to better prepare.

[@Ms.Frazier]

Don't do it. Ppl switch up on you real quick once they get they're stuff. Red flags are never acknowledge what you contributed, undermine your support or goals, don't help or put down your goals, their confidence is on 1000, they know everything and treat you like you're lazy or stupid etc. Focus on you.

[@RoLee705]

@@Ms.Frazier this is how I feel.

[@aneshaburgess207]

Financial constraints may be the issue...but support in moral support, cheerleader, listening ear, shoulder to lean on or cry on.... motivator....sounding board....voice of reason.... so many ways

[@fontellajohnson]

Chance I know you are busy with basketball, but why can't you start producing music, I remember Tab and you said you used to have a studio at home a long time ago.😊😊

[@alexishunt4336]

Fridays with Tab and Chance are the best ❤ i havent watched cable tv in a while bc of these type of podcast. Thank yall for being authentic and honest, its a breath of fresh air.

[@kanariankindred]

I love how they responded to this question because not everyone is meant to run a business

[@seanroche6076]

I really enjoyed the conversation that led to a well needed conversation with my wife. Leandra and I appreciate you taking her question.

[@Mimi25291]

Support can look like being their accountability partner and that’s a beautiful thing for both parties and you achieve goals faster when being held accountable

[@valeriedorsey7527]

I know that it's cliche,but it's so true, that teamwork makes the dream work. I agree 💯 with what you all said. That's what my husband and I always did. We were a team, and provided whatever support to each other that was needed at the time, and we bothe understood our roles and responsibilities. You have to have the conversation. It can never be selfish or one-sided. Both of you have to be on the same page. It'll make accomplishing your goals much easier. The mindset should always be what's best for us, rather than, what's best for me.

[@PhinaLuv]

I think it's important for couples to know your in this together, it doesn't matter who goes first and your not in competition with one another. Knowing the motivation behind what your doing is important for both people. If you meet an entrepreneur as an entrepreneur you want to really have conversations about coming together and what that looks like. And uf you have to sacrifice your business the other partner needs to be very sensitive to that and learn how to navigate that grief with their partner as some identify with what they do and are afraid of feeling lost in sauce. It's not easy but communication is everything and being on one accord and keeping your word with each other. ❤

[@sommerstylesboutique]

I agree 😊

[@fontellajohnson]

Tab and Chance you are the perfect couple to address this topic, thanks for sharing

[@sweetoneo5]

So many good things said in this conversation! How you can give support, want vs need for support, counting your partners time as your own(whew, that was a powerful and articulate way to express that perspective). But the main thing I noticed, in a way I hadn't consciously before, is the way you gave each other time and space to express your thoughts, not interjecting or interupting; and I'm not saying either one of those as a negative. It speaks to your ability to listen deeply and absorb, which is something I've been working on. I know my behavior stems from self doubt and worthiness/fear of judgement issues. It was so beneficial for me to see how to do that practice, and glad I noticed it in this episode.

[@AwordwithAngel]

I haven't listened to the message, yet. I was scrolling and simply wanted to stop and acknowledge the fact that you two make a beautiful married couple. Physically and spiritually. May God continue to bless y'all's union together. 🙏🏾💜

[@tammybrown7256]

Sometimes support can show up in other aspects of your partner's dream such as increasing the financial revenue in their dreams. There are a number of ways to be supportive of your spouse's dreams.

[@carolynlong8701]

Yes because support needs to be financially emotionally and spiritually from your spouse 🙏🏾and know that every day is not going to be a good day. Just being there for support. My husband started a business 2001 and I have been there since the beginning ❤🙏🏾it can work out for your family. The Lord has blessed our family 🙌🏿😇

[@lmonet511]

When two people get married with their own… it’s so hard. Blessed but hard to mesh and blend the “business” part of things. We just stay in our own lane until we figure it out. 😂

[@wegotthis247]

Such a wonderful affirmation of what support is. Keep supporting your partner’s dreams - both dreams!!!

[@TeenaGonzalez-id7tw]

Omg I started a spice blend business and you guys answered so many questions and statements that me and my husband just needed to hear. Thank you so much.

[@leandraroche5756]

Glad I wasn't alone💕

[@niquiecross6764]

The Progression Of Chance's Involement Is So Amazing! I Look Fwd To The Show To See Yalls Loving Interactions.

[@yvonnewilliams8800]

I love their responses. They always illuminate the subject.

[@cnat6133]

Im sorry I did not get to send my comments earlier. But Chance, I have successfully coached a few couples on this. And the balance, and success did come thru as Tab alluded to: view it as 1 ship that needs to survive choppy waters through the journey to the destination. 2 new ventures can pull a good couple apart. Financially evaluate, even with outside expert advice, and do 1 to its strength, then you can both and the 1st business can support the 2nd business. Oh, as im writing, Tab n Chance are getting there.

[@MegaMizzdiva1]

I want that camouflage Shirt! I love it ♥️I am loving “Jesus Be Knowin”

[@justgetitDLC]

The man always goes first. That’s how I’ve been raised and my parents have been happily married for 32 years.

[@angelicamichelle827]

Very good topic. I think a couple things though that in my opinion are extremely common problems that most struggle with. One, we have to be honest in saying that a huge problem is that probably most of the business ideas and dreams that people pursue don’t actually happen. They don’t usually succeed. Sometimes they do, but let’s me honest, that’s where its starts to hurt when you’ve had multiple failed pursuits that have taken money, time, sacrifice, and cause great dissappointment. It’s all a different hindsight, when it actually works!!! :) Secondly, what about if the breadwinner is the one with dreams and ambitions that are risky in their own right? The other that looks to that partner to provide finances, maybe they have the kids or other responsibilities, and then they are someone forced to sacrifice these years of failed missions. To me, that’s where families really get stressed. Having dreams or far our ideas today with how expensive things are is harder than ever. Praise God though! Sorry for the long paragraph. Ha

[@scrickmore]

I learned early on that I needed the security of a paycheck coming in every two weeks etc, so I chose not to pursue a career in real estate, which I thought I wanted. For me, it was the best decision I made and allowed me to set my goals in a different direction and achieve a successful career in “Corporate America”. Being comfortable realizing a change in direction is needed and supported makes all the difference in one’s ability to succeed at their dreams.

[@quilabill]

2:59 y’all both look so refreshed and definitely glowing! Tab, I love your hair and your skin is so pretty

[@corrimac5547]

I’m new here and first off you two have beautiful energy that kept me here in the first few seconds! Very light and genuine. Secondly, my partner and I have two small children and are both entrepreneurs. We’ve had difficulty navigating this exact topic so thank you for providing this insight!

[@leandraroche5756]

My Topic🎉🎉🎉thank you

[@leandraroche5756]

You answered it several ways

[@leandraroche5756]

I didn't know it was my topic for real I thought it was a coincidence, but you all nailed it. Owning a salon for 20 plus years has been our greatest commitment, but You are sooo right with counting his time. I WANT him to devote majority of his time to the salon, because I DO count the hours in the day and how they are divided. But, I don't Need him there as much as I Want him there.. love that Point✅. He has supported the major of the obligations for 25 years but it is his season to grow his web business and I can 100% support that (being that he is my Web developer.) I will Tag you guys. Thank you so Much.. We Listen faithfully that's how I was posting 30 seconds after you posted, before listening..🤩😍

[@Backpack16]

Tab, is Chance, coming out with a instrumental piece, with his beats? He was looking real serious, in the intro😊

[@youlandab5812]

We still have Fallas Paredes in Texas & and yes, name brand complete outfits, affordable prices 🎉😊

[@busybeez88]

PREACH! Working on your business is 24/7🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@marshabowens9253]

Well now happy Fridays with you both. Tab& Chance❤️💙❤️💙❤️💙❤️💙

[@vernettarudd5895]

Well said Tab and Chance I enjoyed the video .keep doing what you doing. ❤❤y'all stay in love 🥰💯💯💯🙋‍♀️

[@nenerenee5672]

I really love y'all and the honest topics, also the transparency of every response. I'm 38 and this tab and chance is always a breath of fresh air to my ears.

[@praiseemmanuel1092]

Tab girl, I hear you, Fallas Pardees Mexican Store Ventura CA. Year 1998 was our family store also❤ and yes I held the grocery, clothing, bills ❤😂

[@towandaallen314]

You know we love you guys, many don't understand or not in the mind set where you guys are, you guys are a team, many are not, either don't know or don't know how to work together to make the dream happen, thanks for sharing, being the best, stay blessed and keep shining! Let's go! 👩‍👩‍👧‍👦👩‍👩‍👧‍👦👩‍👩‍👧‍👦👩‍👩‍👧‍👦👩‍👩‍👧‍👦👩‍👩‍👧‍👦👩‍👩‍👧‍👦

[@gerriaviles8865]

Great conversation, love your t-shirts! I enjoyed every bit of this, much needed support and understanding your role is significant! Thankyou for this💖💓❤🙂

[@CB-gl5xn]

The transparency is so valuable and needed! Thank you for giving us the different scenarios and things to think about.

[@morganbstyles]

We have Fallas Parades here in Houston too and I use to love it! They don’t have them too much anymore like they use to, but I loved this interview! Support goes a long way!

[@vanitylapree5197]

Tab was like he paid the mortgage/rent and the other bills and was like I paid the light bill , remind me of what Tyler Perry said lol 😂 I caught that Tab 😉😂

[@spiderwhispers]

😂

[@mosue3200]

Wonderful conversation! Great perspective from both of you! Thank you Tab and Chance! 👏👏

[@quilabill]

1:00 y’all gotta start free styling at this point !! 🔥love love y’all energy and consistency!

[@ib96crayons]

Hey Family, I thought Uncle Chance wanted to produce music. I recall him having a music studio in the early days. I can still hear him lowkey drop a beat, and Choyce has an ear for music as well. So Entertainment is a real thing within your family....I'm looking forward to seeing where Quest talent will emerging.

[@carolbowman-thomas1183]

You two just dont know how much you bless with this ministry of life.

[@PYTU]

When the opportunity presents you take it as long as it's positive without selling your soul to get ahead.

[@Tephiffany]

Whew, such a beautiful real and needed conversation!

[@Meelie30]

Very good video. I like playing the videos as I fold up my sheets or do some type of housework. Supporting each other is what a relationship should be about. So much love in these videos!

[@Lovethyneighbor35]

Chance is bossy but he be spittin some real gems! Tab n Chance was definitely brought together by God but put the work in to stay and maintain.

[@Nezziekay]

I love yall openess to us af!

[@kathrynarmstrong-julien896]

I definitely needed to hear this. As always thank you for sharing. Much respect, luv y’all 🤗🤗

[@taraclark3656]

Love the shirts guys!! 💜💚

[@crystaldixon7776]

Very good conversation. One of my takeaways, there were more than one, you have to do what works for your family and relationship. I have to remember that and not compare to others. They can be an example but each couple has to define what works for them.

[@retromomma8720]

This uplifted my spirit... thank you both so much!! 💜

[@berlyemagee962]

❤ Loving Chance's T-Shirt!!! An 808 Tab, is a bass system that was created long before Chance was in the Studio.😅😊😊😊❤❤❤

[@latoyasunshine8271]

Loving you guys 💛

[@EvilmenshallPERISH]

Jesus be Knowin...I love the shirts and Amen.

[@Jesus.SaVeS77]

Gdeve.@@EvilmenshallPERISH I was say'n samething. I was wonder'n if that's all the mesg. on Tab & Chance's 👕.

[@bettyharmon3550]

Donna out here Donna'ing

[@MarlonNJulie]

This was a right on time message, we just had this conversation.

[@Sagepage818]

Tab .......Preach !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! "God gave you the vision" Facts!!!!!

[@rosalindnelson4950]

Great topic! Always give you something to think about and laugh. Also love the t-shirts. Will they be available for purchase soon?

[@brina-ly3nq]

Wow. This was sound advice. Thank you! 😊

[@pleasantinspiredapparel]

Thank you for this great message and you all are such an inspiration 💜🙏🏾

[@patriciashort7908]

My Favorite Queen and King, The Brown ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@miyoniab]

Y'all sound just like me and my husband. He's the major breadwinner that has always supported me, and I'm the dreamer who always had a job to support him and the household.

[@melissawalker2130]

Thank you both. Good points! I have another perspective on matters. God bless 🙌 ❤

[@MSJAY26]

This was a great one!!! Very relatable for me n hubby. Thank you for advice.

[@yordanosyohannes8054]

Im enjoy listening to yall its so insightful and informative. I've learned alot from watching your videos every week keep pushing God bless ❤

[@taneil408]

Sound and wise advice ❤!!

[@maryjomckay3163]

Teamwork really does make the dream work!

[@Chaepion]

I like those shirts! 🙌🏾

[@chantelejones2004]

Sooooo good!!

[@Natural_Nuturer]

Yep! Do it all with the goal of the family in mind.

[@nonyab916]

I assume she meant that it would financially challenging for two people to pursue entrepreneurship at the same time. Somebody has to provide the financial stability and benefits is what I think she was trying to get at with her question.

[@leandraroche5756]

Absolutely challenging. Eat, live, and sleep faith.😅

[@jriley810]

Great conversation ❤

[@minervadouglas7576]

Good stuff right here

[@mireillem3150]

Tab is wearing Ovi The Avocado 😂

[@marshathompson9580]

Chance all into the theme music😂 "The bass ain't hittin, like that 808"😂😂

[@cynthiahatley6315]

Love the t-shirts Team Brown

[@sonyacollins6646]

May God continue to Bless y’all Forever

[@iTzBigbink]

Support has to be defined as well (time, efforts, and even something as simple as words due to Love languages are important). The conversation beforehand must be clear and thorough.

[@sheliaroberson3799]

Proverbs31 . Tab already knew what to do. Chance understood what manhood and responsibility but he believed in Tab. Men focus and keep there head down. He has sacrificed and now he’s reap the rewards !!

[@juliawatkins3405]

Lovin Lovin Lovin the Jesus Be Knowin T's...💒🙌🏾🕊️

[@carolynlong8701]

Love those T-shirt 😊

[@SyvilleJosephine]

Not decree and declare and switch beats! Tab is quick on the draw boy! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@tykeshac4086]

Amazing And 👏 Inspiring Advice Tab And Advice ❤❤❤❤🙏🙏🙌

[@karen5912]

Very Good!

[@tboykin13tb]

❤ Yall!!!! 😊

[@skyaimproductions]

Yes Fallas Paredes (spell check) was the bargain shopping spot🤣🤣 My mom shopped there all the time…then I shopped there for my son’s school uniform 🤣🤣

[@meheretsharp9824]

I remember that store Tab I bought a few things from there here in Houston, but of course they closed down a while back.

[@vickie-son164]

Well said 👏

[@godivabaker6622]

I need those shirts.

[@ZaniyaPaige]

Fallas parades was our go to omg lol we had that in Houston too.

[@marshathompson9580]

Not "Declare n decree" Taaaab!😂😂😂

[@Gte34566]

I love yall

[@Shan-eq8no]

Thanks Chance!!! But you Always do both. Children or others involved or not!!!

[@anthea5107]

I love you both. I recently learned,, pray for God to show you how to love your spouse. When you do not feel loved by your spouse remember what Jesus Christ taught us, what reward is it to only love those who love you. It is a greater reward to love those who do not love you. Read your Holy Bible for confirmation. REWARD from Love. God bless you both ❤.

[@lisahays9226]

chance been his bag with the intro song lately lol... love how he argues for a year about not adding something then self consciously he adds it lol

[@connikhiapowell8224]

Boom like an 808! 😂 Come on Tab!

[@marymyatt3004]

LOVE Y'ALL 💖🖤ROCK

[@TheJawn_G]

Yes 8:40 ❤