Court Marriage Process in India | My Experience | Special Marriage Act

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[@aishbhatt]

I am married don’t intend to get married again. my husband is wondering why am I watching this video😂

[@SatshyaTharien]

Haha! 😂❤️

[@mrphantom3305]

Hahaha same here

[@mrphantom3305]

No harm in fantasising a fictional situation 😂

[@chandninawani1061]

😂😂😂

[@hindujavani]

🤣🤣🤣

[@balakuntalamsridhar5789]

My wife and I got married under the Special Marriages Act in 1974. We belonged to the same religion and our parents were witnesses. I would have expected the process to be more user friendly given all the changes over five decades. Unfortunately, the bureaucracy still makes it so challenging. The bureaucrats should be trained to be more courteous and encouraging of couples who are idealistic in that they are willing to think and act beyond their narrow walls of religion and ostentatious weddings. We do not want zealots and busybodies interfering with most personal of life's decisions. We have a long way to go.

[@user-bw8yn3zr1s]

nothing is more true

[@LegalDoc08]

*special Marriage Act, 1954

[@a-z0-9-e-w-n-s-U]

​@@LegalDoc08😂

[@reginageorgetownuni]

Completely agreed on this

[@9119annie]

My husband and I got married in Special Marriage Act. We are both hindus but since we didn't plan on having any hindu ritual marriage, just a simple court marriage and a reception we had to opt for Special Marriage Act. We actually didnt have to go through all this hassle. We just went to a marriage registrar office one day and submitted everything and she took care of the rest. Then just one day we did the actual signing of the documents and its done. Received our marriage certificate within 1week via post.😀

[@dishaahluwalia8957]

Hi, I just wanted to know what sort of certificate u got?. Mine is a print out without any letter head just signatures and with title

[@sakshijadhav5798]

I guess it didn't take that long because it wasn't inter religious marriage.

[@sanjay4841]

How much did the whole process cost?

[@ssam7384]

If you are a woman then this is the most stupid decision of your life. You have no idea the kind of rights women have in matters of inheritance, custody and divorce under Hindu Marriage Act

[@lisanyugenhascancer6332]

Hello how can I do this?

[@hansiparam7960]

Our marriage was solemnized by both hindu n christian rituals. We registered under this act. But it was in rural Tamilnadu as my husband's relatives arranged for everything. But when I went to sign, the registrar started making fuss that my parents also had to be there. They even took me separately to advice that love marriage doesn't work and i should go back to parents. My parents had taken a lot of leaves for both ceremonies and pre wedding, post wedding rituals and couldn't be there for registration. I had to show wedding pics, videos of my husband with my parents cutting cake and finally show my dad's passport proof and a call to get the registrar sign. Whew! It's difficult even if both sides are willing. That was 11 years ago!

[@SatshyaTharien]

Oh gosh! How disappointing that the officials came to give you “personal advice” 😅

[@gmaxi360]

How did you arrive at the religious rituals you would be following in your lives and what religion your children follow?

[@nikusingh191]

@@SatshyaTharien He gave good advice.

[@yadavmayu7]

Hello, didn't know someone went through the same trouble a me. Me and my husband are both Hindus and we got married as per Tamil rituals in temple. But guess what, I am Maharashtrian and even with the wedding card, photos and temple receipt were we got married the registrar was not satisfied. Registrar asked for both my parents to be there. Only my mom had come with me as my dad is no more, after which he asked for my dads death certificate to prove that no one objecting our marriage. This was all despite my in laws and my mother being present. 😓. But we could finally get it registered.

[@MK-lh3xd]

@@yadavmayu7 that is good due diligence on the part of the registrar.

[@Mandamus-q6w]

Being an advocate I can confirm you explained it very well. Also the starting part where you mentioned how different religions have different marriage laws. Yes, in India there are few fields where religious personal laws are into force like the marriage, property inheritance and some land reforms and that's why the current govt is focusing on implementing uniform civil code i.e. one law across country that will cater all religions and sectors of people to ensure uniformity in process and low red tapism and remove the requirement of personal laws wherever possible under article 44 of the constitution. A nice way to educate your audience and promote court marriages as it is the most sensible thing. Just do a court marriage and maybe if you want throw a reception for all the fams and frnds. Also congratulations :)

[@SatshyaTharien]

Thank you :)

[@gmaxi360]

Current government is far right and it intends to insert majoritarian policies as u iform

[@saumyapandey2372]

​@@gmaxi360LoL they aren't far right, if you don't know the meaning of far right search it. They're right leaning with socialist policies.

[@gmaxi360]

@@saumyapandey2372 I know what I am talking about, I don't intend to learn from you

[@KejriwalBhakt]

​@@gmaxi360Tell me you are stupid without telling me you are.

[@hugedolphin4585]

it's crazy how you look on videos and how you look without the purple hair showing and without the glasses and everything :00 AND CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

[@SatshyaTharien]

Hahah thank you! :) it’s a full incognito mode haha

[@meghanapragna1299]

My mother and father got married this way. And very few people know about this special married act! Although I knew a lot about how it works I loved seeing your video! Because in movies they make registered marriages seem very simple..

[@SatshyaTharien]

Thank you so much :) yes there’s a lot more to it than just showing up at court haha

[@samyukthabhuvi7018]

@@SatshyaTharien mam i got a msg from ur telegram and join and get lucky prize bla bla

[@stephen6644]

​@@SatshyaTharien your christain???

[@natsmukherjee]

I also got married by special marriage act. But my experience was different.. we signed a notice and and after 3 months of giving the notice we got married to a registers office.. which went very smooth..

[@SatshyaTharien]

Oh nice - interesting that you had a 3 month window 😄

[@natsmukherjee]

@@SatshyaTharien I married 6 years ago so maybe the rules has changed. Or may be it varies from state to state I don't know.

[@gmaxi360]

@@natsmukherjee The religious demographics of our country mean that the majority community in different states is different. Any socio political Majoritarian radical group can use this notice board and the private information of inter religious couples to harrass them and this is happening irrespective of the identity of the Majoritarian group in question. I have seen people circulating pictures of these notices on Twitter, Facebook tagging extremist organizations and calling for stopping the wedding.Therefore we need to be more nuanced and make the system easier for all inter religious couples by weeding out such steps which expose consenting adults in front of radical extremist groups. Also the reason she didn't face any such harassment was because the socio political community in majority in Delhi didn't have any issue with the fact that a women of other faith was marrying into a favorable faith. All right wingers view women as transactional entity in such matters.

[@nikusingh191]

Must be a mullah...

[@exmuslim7241]

@@gmaxi360 Hi leftist.. Again the slaves come to defend their masters

[@pravin9803]

Very informative video, done in a easy-to-understand way, without any legal terms. Loved it. And wish you a very happy married life.

[@SatshyaTharien]

Thank you 😊

[@ghufransharif3605]

In 2015 I was a witness for a register marriage of my close friend and got a good reward of beatings by bride's dad and brothers,😂 Today they have a wonderful married life.

[@SatshyaTharien]

Haah 😂

[@indrijeetkumar8364]

You should have burnt Quran and leave Islam before marrying her to console her parents that she won't be converted later on? Quran and Islam prohibit a muslim man/girl from marrying a Hindu.

[@amrithaashok2468]

Wow! Surprisingly it is not this cumbersome in Bangalore ❤ it was quite smooth for me, just a few hours to file the application and another few hours to get married. Also we had a 60 day window after the 30 day’s notice. Just sharing in case anyone needs! Cheers to people who decide on having a legal marriage!! It’s simple and very very light on your pocket (we spent Rs. 100)❤️❤️😊😊

[@amayakak530]

Do we get to select our date to get married ?

[@amrithaashok2468]

@@amayakak530 yes absolutely! You can do it anytime between the 30-60 day window

[@stephen6644]

​@@amrithaashok2468 nee araya kalayanam kayiche chekante per para??

[@SatshyaTharien]

That’s amazing! I’m so happy for you :)

[@abhinavsingh2757]

Do the witnesses have to be local bangalore?? Or anyone will do?

[@kajalkhatri1034]

I had no idea it blows my mind how difficult the process is especially when your details are put out for everyone to see i wanted to suprise my partner with a court marriage but i will have to drop it for now

[@SatshyaTharien]

Haha I don’t think you can surprise anyone with a court marriage since you will need both your documents and presence in person 😄 but it’s not too difficult a process :)

[@gmaxi360]

The religious demographics of our country mean that the majority community in different states is different. Any socio political Majoritarian radical group can use this notice board and the private information of inter religious couples to harrass them and this is happening irrespective of the identity of the Majoritarian group in question. I have seen people circulating pictures of these notices on Twitter, Facebook tagging extremist organizations and calling for stopping the wedding.Therefore we need to be more nuanced and make the system easier for all inter religious couples by weeding out such steps which expose consenting adults in front of radical extremist groups. Also the reason she didn't face any such harassment was because the socio political community in majority in Delhi didn't have any issue with the fact that a women of other faith was marrying into a favorable faith. All right wingers view women as transactional entity in such matters.

[@MK-lh3xd]

Even in traditional weddings invites are sent to people with the details. Wedding is not just a deal between two people, it is a social institution. Your family, relatives, friends need to know about your marriage.

[@gmaxi360]

@@MK-lh3xd wedding is a deal between two people in case of special marriage act marriage. In the document only the signature of the couple and two witness are present. Indian laws don't need consent of family members for wedding. Also parents don't own the individual liberty and autonomy of their adult children. Just like all adults decide the future of the nation by voting, similarly adults decide their own future by chosing whom to marry. This right isn't owned by parents or relatives.

[@MK-lh3xd]

@@gmaxi360 I didn't comment on autonomy. I was reacting to people saying it is a private matter.

[@MystqStar]

The video just cements my decision to never get married 😂 Jokes apart, the display of private information publicly is indeed scary, and this video is indeed very informative... especially for inter-religious couples .. Also, congratulations!!

[@Crazysummerdays]

There was a law passed that it’s not required to be published on a notice board but unfortunately the law is not followed and they are still doing the same old procedure.

[@MystqStar]

@@Crazysummerdays well that sucks!!!

[@vamsikrishna3855]

@@MystqStarwell most parents accept after some nagging if couples from different faiths. The only exception is Muslims. They still live under the rock. Unfortunately.

[@dOVERanalyst]

​@@Crazysummerdays It is anywhich way published on their public website so that first wives can save their life and young girls can be saved of scams.

[@rara-wg3qs]

Privacy in today's world is just an illusion... If this seems scary to you, then all the apps taking your consent to obtain personal info is like a 100x more scary

[@Christinacruise.]

Wishing you and your husband nothing but love and happiness. Stay blessed! I hope and pray that someday ppl who don’t have the courage to get the “inter religion”marriage done get the required coz honestly… it’s called living life only if it’s with the one you love !

[@SatshyaTharien]

Thank you 😊

[@deepikabalasubramanian5424]

I am hindu and my husband is a Muslim.We got married under this Act in the presence of both of our parents.We didn't have any issue .

[@VikasHarami-up8cv]

Because women is a Hindu that’s why no issue although if the boy would have been Hindu and girl muslim then massacre would have happened by the peaceful community…..so it’s a shame to Hindu community that our female women are leaving Hinduism.

[@piaarajput11]

How did you do this? Did your 30 days notice publish?

[@Sundayshavers]

​@@piaarajput11 Hlo pia ji H r u Everything is fine at your side and Their parents doesn't have prblm Thats why notice ki jarurat hi nhi pari

[@piaarajput11]

@@Sundayshavers Hello... I am fine.. e They are from which state where notice is not required? Is it upto them to not publish the notice?

[@Sundayshavers]

@@piaarajput11 Thnks for rply pia Mam But I think for court marriage or special marriage act ke liye application file toh karni hi parti hogi koi bhi state ho phir woh notice nikaalte hi hoge 30 to 45 days ka But yaaha unke parents hi agreed the both sides toh doesn't matter of notice then So how is ur life going on pia Mam U r studying or doing job

[@Suraj-Verma_]

Happy married life mam... you are the bridge between North and South because you are teaching us south Indian words.

[@prekshasharma2951]

Also, the biggest difference is that this notice clause is only for inter faith couples as per the Special Marriage Act - so it is quite discouraging and dangerous for a lot of couples!!!

[@SatshyaTharien]

Yeah! I hope that is removed soon

[@gmaxi360]

It is meant to act as a deterrent only. Very unfortunate to see this step. . The religious demographics of our country mean that the majority community in different states is different. Any socio political Majoritarian radical group can use this notice board and the private information of inter religious couples to harrass them and this is happening irrespective of the identity of the Majoritarian group in question. I have seen people circulating pictures of these notices on Twitter, Facebook tagging extremist organizations and calling for stopping the wedding.Therefore we need to be more nuanced and make the system easier for all inter religious couples by weeding out such steps which expose consenting adults in front of radical extremist groups. Also the reason she didn't face any such harassment was because the socio political community in majority in Delhi didn't have any issue with the fact that a women of other faith was marrying into a favorable faith. All right wingers view women as transactional entity in such matters.

[@gmaxi360]

@@SatshyaTharien great to see that despite not being personally affected by the invasion of privacy here you raised this issue

[@nikusingh191]

May you get a Mullah

[@gmaxi360]

@@nikusingh191 abe jealous kyo ho raha hai be. Khud mehnat kar, padhai likhai kro

[@poofytocurly_tales7553]

Would be interesting to see a video on how you handle the religious differences within your marriage. Thank you for all the marriage content 😊

[@shreysom2060]

Yeah that' the main thing

[@mukil371]

Hindu man can marry anyone, the people who cry love jihad when hindu girl marries or goes with non hindu men will cherish when the guy is hindu and girl is non hindu.

[@SatshyaTharien]

Thank you 😄 I don’t think I’m ready to share that publicly since it involves details of someone else’s personal faith. Overall though I’d say the most important thing is to discuss everything ‘no matter how uncomfortable before you decide to get married, so you are both on the same page :)

[@mukil371]

@@SatshyaTharien Hindus won't have any problem when the guy is Hindu and the girl from non Hindu religion. Problem of moral policing occurs only when it's Hindu girl with non Hindu man. You definitely know this since you're a Mangalorean.

[@anujpramanik1819]

@@mukil371 Is there any point to discussing this here? Do you know them personally enough to understand whether they have a problem or not? Why do people feel the need to drag politics into everything.

[@gpparama]

God bless both of you forever, Prayers for a happy married life.நல்லதே வரும்.

[@kashishzaidi2982]

Still can't believe you're married! Congratulations ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@SatshyaTharien]

Thank you! 😄

[@babloovasu]

How did you guys convince your parents or how did you manage to save the ordeal of convincing your parents and others to do this smart wedding plan instead of the tradition drum-roll thing . I know it depends on persons and family types , but yeah it would be helpful If you could share some light on that too .TIA.

[@SatshyaTharien]

Since we belong to different religions, this was the only way we could’ve gotten legally married in india so we had to do it anyway hehe :) but if you’re both from the same religion and want to avoid ceremonies I guess have a conversation with parents about why you don’t want to do it and want a simple thing instead :)

[@julyarvide]

@@SatshyaTharien I went to india to get married and requested special marriage, despite of it the lawyer made a different process and now we are just realizing, not sure how to solve it, could you share the contact of a good lawyer please?

[@shashikanthm3290]

Congrats @Satshya! Wish you a happy Wedded life!💫

[@SatshyaTharien]

thank you :)

[@steffy007]

Thanks Chechi for this...i always wondered how it's done court marriage about this specific Act...i learnt something new today

[@SatshyaTharien]

I’m glad :)

[@Elizabeth0512]

Hi Satshya, Congratulations. I have a question, when giving the notice, it is mandatory that both parties needs to be there? My fiance is from Ireland and it might be easier if the notice can be given by me alone or if not would this be possible through a lawyer??

[@SatshyaTharien]

Hi Elizabeth! Yes both parties need to be there because they need to verify your identity in person along with your documents :) but you can still double check with a lawyer

[@moumitasantra9039]

Hi...find the marraige registration ofc at your locality and rest of the formalities the register took care....ideally both parties dont need to be present when giving notice but bfr giving notice if your fiance is not Indian but a foreign citizen they hv to be living in d country for a minimum 30 days. So i guess if ur fiance is a foreign citizen he has to be present I got married in dec under the special marraige act in West Bengal....the process was not that cumbersome...my husband is a US citizen....he just needed his driver's certificate, passport, visa n birth certificate... and i needed adhar card, age proof, n also 2 passport size photograph

[@Elizabeth0512]

@@moumitasantra9039 thanks alot for your response

[@ss17746]

​@@Elizabeth0512 : How was your experience? I am in same situation where we both live outside India and we are Indian

[@shrutichouhan6762]

​@@moumitasantra9039 Hi, can you tell me more about the process in WB? I'm planning to get married and my fiance lives in US as well

[@SanjayKumar-kb7mq]

This was very informative and equally interesting to watch! 🥰 Loved it 👍

[@akhileshmachiraju1521]

Love is sacred according to Puranas, Abhimanyu's story and many of Lord Krishna's deeds are good examples of this. However, our last few previous generations considered it as sacrilegious. My only advice for Loving couples is to value their promises and don't ruin other bonds in the process. We are lucky to be born in India where family takes care of us while sacrificing their happiness. Remember that both our life partner and our parents are our responsibility and no reason can be given to escape from it.

[@nisargpandya2909]

Thanks for the informative video and congratulations to both of you 🎉 I'm planning to get married to my gf through SMA this year 🥰

[@believer-fcaeth]

Which religion does she belong to

[@SatshyaTharien]

Congratulations to you 😄

[@nikusingh191]

May you get a Mullah who does the Halala

[@surabhimishra-xp8uw]

@@believer-fcaeth muslim😂

[@priyadharshinim6607]

Wishing you both a Happy Married Life and thanks for this informative video.

[@SatshyaTharien]

Thank you 😄

[@bodaddy6771]

accept islam now or be ready @@SatshyaTharien

[@mamtataneja1471]

Congratulations. Wish you a very happy married life and successful career.

[@SatshyaTharien]

Thank you so much 😄😄

[@nikusingh191]

It will fail without question.

[@punamlakra8892]

Hey Satshya..really felt happy after watching this video of yours. Really got a ray of hope to marry the man I love. I am a christian and my bf is south indian hindu. I saw u had 3 types of marriage- court marriage hindu wedding and christian wedding. Can u please share ur experience on how u convinced ur parents and church for Interfaith marriage as my parents are completely against our relationship. And how do you manage mixing both the religion and culture to avoid any conflicts☺☺

[@Kathakathan11]

Congratulations to both of you 🎉 I am actually watching this for general information, thank you for sharing the process. Pata nahi future mein jarurat hogi bhi ya nahi. 😂

[@SatshyaTharien]

Hahah thank you 😊

[@gmaxi360]

The religious demographics of our country mean that the majority community in different states is different. Any socio political Majoritarian radical group can use this notice board and the private information of inter religious couples to harrass them and this is happening irrespective of the identity of the Majoritarian group in question. I have seen people circulating pictures of these notices on Twitter, Facebook tagging extremist organizations and calling for stopping the wedding.Therefore we need to be more nuanced and make the system easier for all inter religious couples by weeding out such steps which expose consenting adults in front of radical extremist groups. Also the reason she didn't face any such harassment was because the socio political community in majority in Delhi didn't have any issue with the fact that a women of other faith was marrying into a favorable faith. All right wingers view women as transactional entity in such matters.

[@Dhruv-Malik]

After watching this video i feel the traditional wedding is easier😂 anyway congratulations

[@gmaxi360]

But that isn't the option for couples of different faiths where they wish to retain their original religion post wedding as well

[@shiprajoshi2618]

Yes the best!

[@mathsreasoninglove3336]

@@gmaxi360 you are right Nagaraju of hydrabad lost his life because of that

[@gmaxi360]

@@mathsreasoninglove3336 you are right, and he wasn't the only one who lsot his life to the patriarchy of society which perceives its honor to be limited to the womb of women of that particular society. And when i say society I mean caste based society or religion based society. Whether it was nagaraju, or it was arbaz mulla of belagavi, karnataka who was beheaded on railway tracks. They were victims of honor killings, just like thousands of such caste based killings that happen every year in cases of inter caste marriages. Ultimately it is the role of the society to read Indian laws and come out of caveman era mentality

[@NArchean]

This is more easier, you just need an experienced and good lawyer.

[@shaikh4695]

It is a very easy and strict process in kerala. Step 1 : Register your details online Step 2 : Submit the application printout and relevent documents with witness. Step 3 : Register office will put a notice with photo. Step 4 : if no objection came, we can register the marriage after 30 days and before 90 days from the date of first application date. Eazyyy.....

[@SatshyaTharien]

Nice! Glad to know it’s so clear there

[@HeavenRacer422]

How can it differ from state to state? SMA 1954 and all other personal laws are union Government act.

[@sashaaery]

Hi Satshya, Thank you for this video, it is very helpful. I just wanted to clarify one thing regarding the witnesses. Not sure if I missed in the video. But do we have to take the witnesses both the time, first during the registration and then again during the day of declaration (after 30days) ? or it is only on the declaration and signature day that we have to take them with us? Thanks

[@SatshyaTharien]

Hi hi! No just the second time, that is on the day you are registering the marriage

[@SatshyaTharien]

Sorry, to confirm, not during application, but marriage registration (after 30 day period)

[@shreyasingh3689]

Thank you for this excellent video! You answered all my questions which I couldn’t find answers to when reading the rules online. Congratulations and thanks!

[@SatshyaTharien]

Woohoo I’m glad, and congrats :)

[@beingmomandbeyondpodcast]

It is an very interesting topic and loved the way you spoke about it ❤

[@adoumidriss6226]

Thank you Satshya it is very informative for me as foreigner who wish to marry in India

[@kutty35]

I wish every Indian parent would be as positive as yours for court marriages. It would save a lot of hassle, money and pressure. ❤ thanks for the video about your experience

[@SatshyaTharien]

Thank you 😊

[@20shourya]

Hey Satshya, congratulations! And good on you for going down the court marriage route. I have seen family members living through stress for years thanks to the exorbitant costs involved. I live overseas so being aware of the 30 day notice period (sounds like public shaming almost :) ) will come in handy when we decide to get married. Thank you for a very detailed video!

[@blackshadow3508]

The 14 year olds watching this 👁👄👁

[@ankitadhar3501]

Still a good thing ...atleast they are learning something which may help in their future ...or just a general knowledge

[@shashankkumar12]

Very very congratulations mama ❤🎉.. Maine bhi socha tha special marriage act ka use krunga lekin usko mana nhi paya 😅😔... Aapki marriage video dekh ke acha lga bhot ❤

[@SatshyaTharien]

Thank you 😊

[@varsh7430]

I love all ur videos 💕 even tho I'm still 19 and not getting married I watched the whole video 😄 I just love the way u talk 🥰❤

[@SatshyaTharien]

Haha aaw thank you so much! 🤗🤗

[@user-et3vr4zj5d]

Thank you so much for this video! Bless you

[@SatshyaTharien]

Thank you 😄

[@myexperimentsbyafzal3764]

Im a muslim and i married a Hindu girl through the Special Marriage Act of 1954. Its been 4 years.. Living happily along with my parents...

[@blackshadow3508]

Were her parents cool w it?

[@Aman-hm6cw]

G -hadi

[@whatevertrends3627]

I dont have any problem with you marrying a hindu girl but bro muslims change their partners religion which very is cunning and selfish

[@surabhimishra-xp8uw]

lol you must have converted her so plz sont mention hindu here

[@indrijeetkumar8364]

Did you burn Quran and leave Islam before marrying her? Quran and Islam prohibit you.

[@Nihu6]

Note:- No one will send notice to your parental address. The notice will remain hanging on the notice board of the District Court for 30 days. So calm down guys.

[@SatshyaTharien]

Yup, spot on

[@prabandhas1984]

Recently we tried to register in Chennai(its our work location) But they have rejected as we belong to different state i.e Andhra Pradesh They said as per Aadhar address we need to register in that place. My doubt is we can register any where in Andhra or only in hometown of either of our address? Can anyone explain me on this pleaseee

[@KratikaK-j9c]

This is such an informative video. Kuddos to you for sharing this and the cons that you shared, how little scary it is to share your personal detail in the public domain. You are absolutely right about this and I hope this system gets more comfortable for the applicants. Bdw congratulations you❤ wishing you a very happy married life❤ all the blessings to you❤❤

[@SatshyaTharien]

Thank you so much 😊

[@sowmyamahesh9263]

Hey this video is really helpful… Thank you for making it so detailed❤

[@SatshyaTharien]

🤗🤗

[@ssingh3409]

Love you for thisssss! I wanted an insight on this soo bad

[@SatshyaTharien]

🤗🤗🤗

[@SumanthLazarus]

My wish is to have a very simple marriage and super, duper Bollywood 25th Anniversary 🥳

[@SatshyaTharien]

Haha amazing 😂

[@Roe-hj2lx]

I'm planning to do this too cause I don't want unnecessary drama coming from the relatives and also save money to buy a house or something.

[@sonamgoyal9616]

Hi sonam here jitna easy btaya apne itna easy nhi h uttrakhand se bht muskil h ajkl special marriage act mai ...kuki yha bht jyda hindu muslim marriages hoti thi pehle but abhi kuch time se nhi ho pa rahi h legally process se bhi

[@SatshyaTharien]

Hone chahiye kyunki yeh samvidhaan mai likha hai ki yeh law hai

[@shubhamgondalia]

Congratulations on the Wedding!😃

[@SatshyaTharien]

Thamk you! 😄

[@yousufparveez786]

Thank you for making such an informative video i got to know so many things which i didn’t know In sha Allah i am going to marry under this act. i am also from mangalore

[@SatshyaTharien]

I’m glad it was of help!

[@aishashikhawat9123]

I have lost all interest of getting married after this 😂😂

[@shailasingh5684]

I believe in court marriage as the procedure is simple and also a woman is more secure and yes it consume less time too.🎉🎉

[@shinodbm]

Congratulations ❤ The notice board display thing is so scary - similar to banns being read out in church but much more public. Q - do you think it would have been different based on the city you chose? Maybe Mangalore might have been different?

[@SatshyaTharien]

Thank you :) yeah I know! Atleast in church it’s among a community of people you know, but in a public space it’s quite scary 😟 regarding the second part - I don’t know, I’d like to think that all government offices are neutral & don’t make things difficult for people under the SMA. But it can be nerve wracking if one has for example, run away and trying to get married

[@gmaxi360]

The religious demographics of our country mean that the majority community in different states is different. The socio political power in the hands of for example the muslim community in srinagar would be very different from that in shimla just because of their percentage of population. Similarly the socio political power of a religious community xyz by virtue of their demography will be very different in meghalaya compared to say that in delhi because of their percentage in these states. Any socio political Majoritarian radical group can use this notice board and the private information of inter religious couples to harrass them and this is happening irrespective of the identity of the Majoritarian group in question. Therefore we need to be more nuanced and make the system easier for all inter religious couples by weeding out such steps which expose consenting adults in front of radical extremist groups. There are pictures of these notices circulated on twitter, Facebook tagging various right wing organizations calling for stopping these weddings between consenting adults. People need to speak out about this problematic step as it limits the free choice and privacy of adults.

[@gmaxi360]

@@SatshyaTharien well said and it was good to see you speaking out despite personally not being affected by this invasion of privacy. Also the fact that you had your parents as witness made it easier. That other man had to spend 25k because his wedding was the more "revolutionary" If I can say so. Just because of the socio political climate of the nation. Very unfortunate to see this. Hopefully this step will be eliminated sometime in future, I have seen so many pictures being circulated by radical people on social media of these notices calling for stopping the wedding between consenting adults.

[@NArchean]

Its same for everyone. SMA is applicable for all India.

[@ku3455]

Such a positive outlook. I have always wanted a very simple and minimalistic wedding. Thanks for the info

[@SatshyaTharien]

Thank you 😊

[@khushikumari-me1bd]

As a law student and you being a person married under special marriage act. I genuinely wanted to know about the caste of child.... If we are married under the sepcial marriage act.... And a child is born out of it... They are called as a legitimate child but how is it decided that which caste the child will be inheriting ? And will they have a right to claim reservations in a case where the mother is ST and father is general ?

[@progressivelife7517]

I want to know too ?

[@CometFire2010]

Not a lawyer but I've heard that child usually inherits from Father's category by default.

[@mukil371]

@sathsyas kid definitely follow Hinduism, that's how it works.

[@Bratwurstboy]

@@CometFire2010 exactly

[@aditianupam9675]

Father's caste

[@LS-znpt0]

Personally,i don't like court marriage but m happy for u , always keep smile.

[@giftysaji9517]

Me literally watching this video on the day of my wedding.😅

[@nikusingh191]

May you get a Mullah

[@blackshadow3508]

@@nikusingh191 Dude mocking others isn't a Hindu thing too, Humara Naam mat kharab kar yar tu apne Gusse me

[@SatshyaTharien]

Hahaha 😂 congrats!!

[@rajeshravi9702]

Thanks a lot, much needed info at the moment

[@TheSabaSaudagar]

My n my spouses addresses were being circulated on various hatsApp groups of my community and I had randomly people coming to stop the marriage at odd hours . This happened to me in a city like mumbai being born n brought up here.. wonder what must be happening to ppl especially women in other smaller towns n cities .

[@SatshyaTharien]

Oh gosh that’s horrible!! I hope they end that system soon

[@realfactor1854]

Saba r u muslim and spouse from other religion or opposite?

[@aartisingh4015]

Hello Satshya.. i have a question.. i saw this video and then stumbled upon your outfits video.. I want to get married to my Christian boyfriend but my understanding was there will be difficulty in doing hindu and Christian wedding ceremonies.. hence i have been thinking about going for special marriage act.. however from your content i could understand that you got court marriage and then followed up with church and hindu wedding rituals.. is this an easy thing to do ? Does the church and priests allowed it.. did you face any challenges or it was all good because we were already legally married. Thank you in advance ❤

[@Bombae_girl]

Any couple can get them registered under the Special Marriage Act 1954…you just need to follow certain regulations which you have stated in this video…

[@gmaxi360]

The religious demographics of our country mean that the majority community in different states is different. Any socio political Majoritarian radical group can use this notice board and the private information of inter religious couples to harrass them and this is happening irrespective of the identity of the Majoritarian group in question. I have seen people circulating pictures of these notices on Twitter, Facebook tagging extremist organizations and calling for stopping the wedding.Therefore we need to be more nuanced and make the system easier for all inter religious couples by weeding out such steps which expose consenting adults in front of radical extremist groups. Also the reason she didn't face any such harassment was because the socio political community in majority in Delhi didn't have any issue with the fact that a women of other faith was marrying into a favorable faith. All right wingers view women as transactional entity in such matters.

[@ashishtonger]

I am married why I watch entire video just because you're simply explained

[@bunny_vibes_16]

Hi..I have been married in both Hindu and Muslim cultures of marriage..can i apply for special marriage act..and is there any problem for that

[@learnjee1473]

Wow great how did you convince your parents?

[@SatshyaTharien]

Yes you can - because legally you are not considered married until you have your marriage certificate (this is applicable to all people)

[@tharabhai1794]

​@@learnjee1473they never got convinced

[@shibbarman8638]

Its a nice information, very simple and familiar, I have a question please help me. Is there compulsory to be present on the wedding day in the court both of parties parents as witness?

[@rachealsharma8547]

I think it’s important to acknowledge and respect each other’s religions and backgrounds and to follow atleast the ritualistic part of the ceremony because marriage isn’t only between two individuals but between two families. Such shortcuts seem hassle free but I don’t it selfish. One must respect and acknowledge each other’s cultural roots. It’s a different matter if a person can’t afford such a marriage but I’ve seen even very poor people happily conducting small events . The rest are simply excuses.

[@SatshyaTharien]

to each their own :) whatever works best for you!

[@TabooTalz]

You started the comment with the words "I think" which is ultimately the most important part, it's only what YOU think 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@rajhapriya6289]

I can understand how much you went through. In my case, his family wants to do nikah and my family is disappointed by their needs and place. We want to be together, it's seven years of being in a relationship

[@bhanuprakash-vz9rr]

married to a guy from Islam??? trust me mam a lot problems you gonna face cultural wise in future :(

[@Sundayshavers]

Hlo rajha Mam H r u If u both are financially strong then wats the prblm take ur bold decision U r in 7 yrs relationship Simply do court marriage and then give simple reception to ur near ones

[@shruthysharma3181]

What are the procedure if ur spouse is from a different national??.. I'm from uk (i dont have any relatives or adhar card in india) and my boyfriend is an indian...do we have to register the marriage in both uk and india????

[@NArchean]

No, you can register it at either place.

[@shruthysharma3181]

@@NArchean thankyou so much........

[@satyeshtiwari]

@@shruthysharma3181 but your name is hindu name

[@shruthysharma3181]

@@satyeshtiwari lol...yh I'm hindu...but i was born in uk and my parents are from srilanka..so technically I'm not an indian or have any relatives in india unfortunately😔💗

[@satyeshtiwari]

@@shruthysharma3181 but Sharma is a north Indian surname and srilanka follow buddhism religion

[@spss2575]

Nice 🎉😊 and congratulations 👏🏻 But I have one question 😊 is there any exchange of 💍? Thanks

[@yogi9420]

After watching this video i have decided never to get married 😭

[@jignavadher1586]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@arfatbagwan48]

😂

[@factpills5607]

I am Hindu and my bf is Christian, he is a great human being and we have decided that I will never convert, both of us are financially established and our families are supportive. Should I move forward with this relationship??

[@vatsalsharma4061]

Discuss about religion of your children prior to marriage

[@blue_butterfly436]

😊 fantastic as a agnostic I will suggest you to discuss the religion of the child in advance from the church you are gonna marry .

[@VikasHarami-up8cv]

I think you shouldn’t marry interfaith. Hear me out first, marriage and family is an institution wherein you grow with your family as well so, point being each faith teaches certain things distinct from each other and preaches to live according to that principles so Hindu and Christian faiths are different hence, teachings different so, a good pool of Hindu men are also available for marriage as well go date Hindu man because at least punishment is severe if something wrong is done by him but under special marriage act the men can easily get away by saying this is the way things happen in our religion so choose responsibly.

[@Therapisttocore]

How many years does one have to be in the city to get it registered there?

[@rushabhpawar7185]

Just 30 days in the city

[@pankajkarmakar7782]

😬😬😢😢❤ Arre dil toot gaya mera.. 1 week se aapke video dekh raha tha random.. You are super cute and lovely but abhi aap married ho... 😬😬 Good content sister.. 😢😢hueee3eeeee

[@suhasinibv1240]

11:44 The SDM said, "Easy!"

[@SatshyaTharien]

Haha! 😂

[@mishu_km]

Your voice sounds so much like Deepika Padukone!

[@Binu_Ramachandran]

Live in together 🙌

[@SatshyaTharien]

Haha to each his own 😄😄

[@Binu_Ramachandran]

on their personality and confidence on their relationship 👐

[@shaikmansoorilahi7397]

Literally this happens in every government office all over India if we go without a broker

[@abhishek201ification]

This is not a hate comment. But I can never imagine a marriage like this. It's just gonna be dark and cold.

[@shsi5246]

Just exposes your backwardness even though you think you are in the right direction in life

[@yomamasohot6411]

"This is not a hate comment" proceeds to make a hate comment.

[@josephramban9281]

It's alright bro. These are all opinions. There is no right or wrong. You have every right to hold your opinion.

[@Rahulnagar-rz1rw]

Haa yrr shaadi insaan ki zindagi ka yaadgaar lamha hoti hai isse acche se karna chahiye rituals ki sath toh boht accha lagta hai

[@Lasha901]

@@shsi5246 So doing something like this indicates you are forward is it? A marriage is not to prove your forward or backward thinking but to ensure lifelong companionship. Most of these SMA marriages break off anyway so I don't even understand how that has anything to do with progressiveness 😂

[@DineshGupta-eo8xj]

Atleast disclose to whom you got married so that such people can stand guided

[@SatshyaTharien]

what does that even mean?

[@mukil371]

As you said lynching or moral policing happens only when the girl is hindu, but in your case you're a victory to them .

[@pratikshatiwari7011]

She didn't mentioned Hindu or anything. Also forceful mental manipulation after marriage is quite common

[@mukil371]

@@pratikshatiwari7011 Lynching is very common when hindu girls goes or marry with non hindu men, but lynching or moral policing won't happen when the guy is hindu and the girl is non hindu.

[@Kathakathan11]

@@mukil371 dude where are you, so ma y Hindu girls have married in south to Christian guys, in Goa and Konkan, I have seen many’s such marriages, forget about lynching, we have drinking competition bro. Atleast in fishing community.

[@Kathakathan11]

@@mukil371 if lynching is so common, give me the numbers. 😂😂😂

[@mukil371]

@@Kathakathan11 just look at Sathsya's hometown very recently moral policing happened, Hindus openly put banners about love jihad etcc. This is only because hindu girls marrying outside religion it won't happen if a hindu guy marries or love non hindu girls. You guys don't hide your hypocrite faces by saying we allow hindu girls to marry anyone of their choice, in reality it's not the case.

[@doobydoba]

Thank you for explaning it so well. And I agree with you, your details being disclosed on a board publically seems very unsettling. I understand the reasoning for it but to me, it seems scary.

[@SatshyaTharien]

Yes, same!!

[@sashajenyl5301]

Congratulations ❤️ and you resemble Kat Dennings the American actress 😅

[@SatshyaTharien]

Haha, thank you! 😄😄

[@healermusic4734]

You are Married😢. My heart almost stopped

[@PhotonShower]

Polygamy is not allowed in india.?..says who?

[@andy8357]

It's only allowed in Muslims marriage act.

[@PhotonShower]

@@andy8357 no in hinduism also its dort of allowed .that is the police can not file a case unless the women complain.if they are ok everything is ok

[@ez20mscool]

​@@PhotonShowerIt's like saying there is a law for rape, but if the victim is not complaining then it's allowed. What a logic bro. Now relate this logic to your Hindu marriage act allowing polygamy. Does it make sense now ?

[@PhotonShower]

@@ez20mscool im talking about polygamy with consenting wives..have you heard about the legendary dancer raja reddy

[@ez20mscool]

@@PhotonShower ohh you're soo missing the point. In your previous comment you said that in Hinduism it is allowed. But Hindu marriage act does not allow polygamy. If the wife does not complain then how would the authority know about it. If my house is burgled and if I don't file an FIR do you think police will come and help me ? So hence burglery is allowed in India if one do not complain.

[@MrunaliniPatil98]

Explained so beautifully 😊

[@Sundayshavers]

Hlo mrunalini Mam H r u Everything is fine U also give share market classes Want to know

[@snehayelandur9818]

Hi dear thank you so much for the video i wanted to know was there any cross questions asked because of different faith marriage ? And how did you deal with the lawyer ?

[@SatshyaTharien]

Hi! I didn’t employ a lawyer, but they usually don’t cross question they just help you sort your document & applications. And no, nobody asked us anything intrusive questions or did anything to make us feel uncomfortable

[@snehayelandur9818]

Thank you dear ❤️

[@snehayelandur9818]

Sorry another question if we were to get married with Hindu rituals and at the church is it still mandatory for 30 day waiting period ? For the court marriage

[@SatshyaTharien]

@@snehayelandur9818 no worries :) yes - the court marriage process is independent of whatever else ceremony/program you have. So a 30 day waiting period is mandatory

[@snehayelandur9818]

@@SatshyaTharien thank you so much dear that is very helpful for us to plan out lots of love ❤️

[@j_james1302]

I would like to get married to my bf who is from a different religion. His side family is supportive but my parents are totally against it. I was thinking of marrying under SMA but the only thing I'm worried about is the notice that is sent to our address which can cause issues from my parent's side. Is there any suggestions to avoid it?

[@SatshyaTharien]

The notice won’t be sent to your home address, it will be sent to your district magistrate’s office where they will display it on the notice board for 30 days.

[@mathsreasoninglove3336]

Mam my college female friend want to marry a pig which live in farm near to college is it possible?? Through court marriage? The girl is highly educated and woke liberal group...i m from dehli girl is from kerla studying in Delhi University political science student...how can I help her?

[@samuels1212]

i think she'd be more happy without your help

[@mathsreasoninglove3336]

@@samuels1212 her parents are against her

[@gmaxi360]

@@mathsreasoninglove3336 she is an adult, no other person owns her personal liberty apart from she herself as an individual. Not even her parents.

[@abhijeetkumar2204]

@@gmaxi360 same apply on your sister?

[@gmaxi360]

@@abhijeetkumar2204 the Indian laws are applicable on all Indian citizens including my sister. No brother or father owns the civil rights of the adult women of his family. These are factual statements.

[@aryanjpg]

bruh I'm just 20 why am I watching this at 3am

[@ashokjk7669]

first of all, congratulations on getting married. 😃..... I was wondering if you knew the man who you stated who married a Muslim woman while being a hindu. that he spent 25k for the process by hiring the lawyer i too want the same lawyer😅

[@rajendrabawa660]

Marrying Muslim isn't easy. Muslim have very different laws like Muslim girls can't marry non-muslim and blah blah things.

[@moumitasantra9039]

@@rajendrabawa660 that's why you get married under special marraige act....even to be legally married under the hindu marriage act both parties have to be hindus....inter-faith marraiges cant take place under personal marraige laws n that's why the special marrage act came into existence

[@TELUGU666]

​@@moumitasantra9039 sister a girl or boy can marry any religion but Islam prohibits muslim girls especially to other religions girl's family members will consider girl is di*d but Islam allows other religion girls to marry muslim boys if girls get converted to Islam hypocrisy at its best

[@moumitasantra9039]

@@TELUGU666 i am not talkinh about the cultural/spcietal aspect...i was just saying the marraige acts under which a hindu and muslim can get married without either one changing their religion....and whatever be the religion both the bride and groom needs to be of the same religion to be married under personal marraige act....and to get married under soecial marraige act you dont neccesarily need a lawyer....

[@Allah_is_gay]

@@moumitasantra9039 is your spouse in USA Indian origin or a caucasian?

[@sudhanshukandpal]

Hi Satshya, a holistic video on the entire process. It was really informative. Thanks. I have a query! Could you please let me know how to book slots to give the notice (1st appointment)? I am planning for a marriage under the Special Marriage Act and I was told by the SDM Office in New Delhi that it is automatically a system generated date after we submit our application on the e-District Delhi government website.

[@SatshyaTharien]

Hi hi! From what I remember we went to the SDM office for the 1st time 1-2 days after submitting the application online. I don’t think you need a slot to go apply for the marriage registration but best to go within 3-4 days of submitting online application

[@sudhanshukandpal]

Hi Satshya, thanks for the information. The website allows to choose the slot of any day within 10 days of submission of application.

[@truth0106]

Christianity says Jesus is the only way for salvation Islam says Shahada/kalma(azan,use for conversion to islam and core ideology) : la ilaha illallah muhammdur Rasulullah Meaning : There is no god worthy of worship except Allah and Muhammed is his slave and messenger This both statement are created to form a special category or tribe and thus are political..... Abrahamic religion are political ideology....... Islam is a Institution ..... Christianity is a Institution....but in Hindusim/Sanatan...you yourself are the Institution...that is you are Atman....and you should follow Dharma of your Atman.....

[@tharabhai1794]

She isn't interested in conversion And don't spoil hindus image by acting like Muslims who dying for conversions Let these cheap dirty things remain with orthodox muslims and Jews ..... We humans can survive without religion Aur ha geeta padhne ke liye hindu hona jaruri nai hai

[@truth0106]

@@tharabhai1794 pappu

[@kajorimukherjee6919]

Congratulations! 💐❤️ 🎉👏

[@truth0106]

Islam and Christianity are religion (Abrahamic ) Hindusim is not a religion......it is Dharma....... we should understand and respect our roots.....it would be difficult for some people.....but it is the Truth.......we should all live and die for Bharat Mata....not for Allah and Jesus....hope you understand the importance of being Indian and not being from middle east culture/religion like Islam and Christianity......

[@shsi5246]

Bharat Mata is just another imagination like abraham

[@truth0106]

@@shsi5246 So does any Constitution.......but Sons of Bharta Mata has defended Bharat by giving their lives whereas Son/followers of Allah/Muhammed or Jesus have expanded their territories in the name of religion and killed so many people.......India should uphold its Indic Tradition but other people do in Jerusalem or in Europe is their problem...... we know what we did in past and what they did in past.....

[@gmaxi360]

@@truth0106 abe jaa na yaha se. Ye jagah tere jaiso ke liye nhi hai. Jaa dihaadi, jaa apne liye dinner ka roti kama jaake. Kyu bakaiti kr tha yaha

[@truth0106]

@@gmaxi360 hogaya tera gandu Nikal ab

[@gmaxi360]

@@truth0106 mai to special marriage act ka awareness spread kr rha hu, mera nhi hua ab tak. Tu jaa kahi aur mai nhi jaa rha

[@sumonaghosh3525]

Do they ask you to perform any rituals? If both are hindu but belong to different state then also special marriage act is valid?

[@SatshyaTharien]

No rituals (you’re free to do your own later on) but this is a legal process so no ritual is involved. And yes even if both belong to same religion but you want to do court marriage, it is possible 👍🏽

[@chiragverma-fk1gt]

Hello, Really nice video and useful content for Court Marriage procedure. We are about to do our Court Marriage with Special Marriage Act 1984 in Delhi, but little curious about getting the exact format for Affidavit which you guys submitted to SDM. possible to share the affidavit photo by hiding your personal details over email or some place else ? Thanks

[@gmaxi360]

Wat is religion of wife

[@SatshyaTharien]

Hi, I believe I have shared the format of the affidavit in the video. In any case, all SDM office notice boards have a sample format of the affidavits as well

[@shwetamishra_209]

I have a question... Is it important that both the partners need to stay together for a few years and do we need proof for it? Like residential agreement having both the partners' names or anything? Or staying nearby is mandatory? Is it possible that the documents of both the partners (residential or any school certificate etc.) may belong to different states and can they get married despite of having different addresses in their documents? And another question is do both the partners need to bring 3 or more witnesses from either side? Or just 3 witnesses in total would be fine?

[@SatshyaTharien]

@@shwetamishra_209 hi - you don’t have to prove partners are staying in the same place and it’s totally fine to have different residential addresses / belong to different states. All 3 witnesses are only required on the final day

[@SatshyaTharien]

*sorry 3 witnesses in total only

[@shwetamishra_209]

@@SatshyaTharien thank you so much dear🤍 actually my parent (mom) isn't agreeing with our marriage... She knows about the relationship since the beginning and we both belong to the same religion but different castes (I'm from upper caste and he's from lower caste) and my mom likes him and says he's a good guy but lower caste hai... Mai shaadi nhi hone de skti... Now staying for so long together... I'm not getting into all this and planning to have a court marriage... Thank you so much for your help... Means a lot to me🤍✨

[@Ben.Philip.Panicker]

Its impossible to pull two bulls with an unequal yoke. You both should have equal beliefs on something or someone that keeps you pursuing on for life. If you both have different beliefs, both will fall. And this marriage will fail.

[@gmaxi360]

Abe jaa na yahase. Everyone is a human

[@ra71.]

bitchless?

[@mastkalandar3200]

How about both agree to be good humans and place humanity before anything else? So sorry your own marriage failed.

[@Ben.Philip.Panicker]

@activa 125 okay that's true, but you can't trust humans, you need to put your faith on someone or something of higher power.

[@tharabhai1794]

​@@mastkalandar3200best idea Become athiest