Why ,You're Bisexual

[@Courtney-Jai]

What's videos on bisexuality do you want to see ?

[@PokhrajRoy.]

You should Collab with Jamie and Shaaba reacting to Bisexual Memes.

[@rey6044]

I think it would be cool a video for what is NOT bisexual Or just go in more details about every kind of bisexuality

[@javibarba5444]

I would like to know how was the introduction of your straight couple in the queer world? And if she has suffered some comments from people because of you. 6 months ago I told my couple Im bi and in the beginning she didn't accept it very well but now she has accepted. But its still a secret for the rest.

[@Angelareadsalot]

I had always considered myself a straight female (always enjoyed dating men) until I found myself attracted to another girl in college. I consulted the Kinsey Scale and fell under 1-2 and was hella confused. Over the years I’ve occasionally been really attracted to a woman, but mostly attracted to men. I thought maybe I was just bi-curious, because in the 90s, bisexuality just wasn’t a legitimate thing in my world, and there was no representation in media whatsoever. My family was also very homophobic, so I didn’t feel comfortable exploring when I was younger. Now in my 40s, I’m finally realizing, and shows like Heartstopper and this video kind of confirmed for me that…yeah, I definitely fall somewhere within the bisexual sphere, and definitely the LGBTQ+ umbrella, bc one thing I know for sure is that I am absolutely not 100% straight. Yeesh, you think it would be easier to figure out! Love your videos.

[@Courtney-Jai]

Well it's takes time some a little more then others but accepting and being happy is the most important thing I'm glad my videos could help and I'm glad heartstopper could to.

[@Courtney-Jai]

Hope everyone likes the new style next few videos are gonna be great i can feel it

[@irenesantonja1010]

I appreciate that you mention that we are always developing and sexuality is fluid because I always labelled myself as straight, but with the years and becoming more mature I feel that a relationship is more than sex and i could have a conexión with a woman, fall in love and feel attracted to her because I love her if that makes sense, but I don't consider myself bi because I'm not attracted to women in general. We are always evolving. Also my issue with the Kinsley Scale is that some of the questions tell you if you find women attractive so I got a 1 or 2 I think. It might be utopic but I wish we lived in a world where we didn't need labels and we could just be with whoever we wanted.

[@Courtney-Jai]

In truth you don't need a label if you don't want use one just do what makes you happy

[@bishbosh4815]

I find it ironic that at the same time people are saying we shouldn't have any labels people are coming up with infinite new labels to describe themselves with

[@HarvestLockwood]

Thank you so much for saying that being bisexual doesn't mean that you have be attracted to basically everyone. I want to say I lean more towards a 1 or 2 on the Kinsey scale but I still see myself as bisexual, absolutely. A few years ago, I used to identify as "straight, but girls are hot sometimes." It took me a while to figure out what that actually meant and for me to feel comfortable identifying as bi.

[@DADDYART1]

I am an absolute 6. I like that you have finally taught me exactly what the Kensey scale is. I always knew about it. I had a rough idea what it is. But, now I truly understand it.

[@Courtney-Jai]

Thats great thats exactly what I wanted this video to achieve

[@johnlondonbimeetup7961]

I've always struggled to remember which end is which - this video helps I think, also not seen the X column there before... The Kinsey scale is a little limiting in some ways, being only a single snapshot and doesn't demonstrate that people can shift over time, that attraction can be different for different types of attraction (though Courtney does show that romantic/sexual attractions can be different, an idea which came more out of asexual/aromantic communities and is known as the split attraction model - and has been applied to bisexuality to provide a concept for maybe romantic attraction being one orientation and sexual attraction a different one, as far as someone knows at that time anyway).

[@johnlondonbimeetup7961]

Could do a video on the Klein grid and why it was invented (and even that can't possibly include as many axis of bi identities and time etc. as there are, really)

[@MaxxGritti]

No video about the new Heartstopper trailer? 😢

[@GerardPare]

I took the test and I fall in the middle

[@Super_Mario128]

I’d be a definite 6 on the kinsey scale Courtney.

[@Courtney-Jai]

In all honesty I think its abit outdated there's alot of stuff that goes into further detail this was just a good place to start but 0-6 we are all a family that has to look out for one another

[@Super_Mario128]

@@Courtney-Jai very true indeed Courtney.

[@rey6044]

I'm soooo confused with my sexulity i've been crying out of exhaustion almost every night i want someone to help me😫😫

[@Courtney-Jai]

Maybe this video might I cover alot in it and if you have any questions after I'd happy to try give you some answers

[@rey6044]

@@Courtney-Jai i really hope so and thank you so much❤️❤️

[@johnlondonbimeetup7961]

Rey, you don't have to figure it out now! You don't even have to label it. Most people I know who are bisexual* go through that questioning because of the ubiquitous level of biphobia in society that most of us have grown up with. Theres some recent good non-fiction books about bisexuality like Jen Winston's one, Lo Shearing's Bi the Way, one by Dr. Julia Shaw, and Meg-John Barker has a number of good books about queerness and life being non-binary in general. * thats quite a few of my friends, and lots and lots of people in my large bi community social group I run - yes those groups exist, look up one near you if you think meeting lots of other bi people might help figure it out, or look for online bi groups; or of course there are LGBT groups but not all of them are as accepting of bisexuality all the time and can be biphobic and try to force bi people to either not be there or to identify as gay/lesbian instead - but mostly they're much better than that, just might be a few less-accepting people at some events sometimes if its an average group, hence why I run my own bi group (pansexual/other m-spec identities welcome too)

[@Gordonfreemanplayzz736]

Am not

[@jaspajones7045]

Disgusting

[@Courtney-Jai]

@jaspajones7045 you're the one who chose to watch , says a lot more about you.

[@PokhrajRoy.]

LIVING for The Big Book of Bisexuality. Also, the way you prepped stuff made me realise we want to see more DIY Content.

[@gilly_axolotl]

Trying to figure out my sexuality while also being on the ace spectrum was a journey. Always interpreted crush vibes on girls as friendship. Didn't help that I'm masc attracted, which not as many women out of 😅

[@Courtney-Jai]

Its can be difficult but sharing our stories is how we learn to accept one another

[@khr..leah.]

When I was in 4th grade I remember messaging you and you helped me come out to my family. I’m about to be a freshman in highschool soon and I’m fully out and accepted. So I want to thank you for being part of my journey and helping me, even if you don’t remember.

[@JackieRossLavender]

Incredible video, Courtney. Gave me Casey Neistat vibes at times for sure. New format is 🔥

[@Courtney-Jai]

Hes a big inspiration along side some other creators , but I also wanted to inject more of my personality into my videos showing aspects of my life like me being an engineer.

[@OLDS98]

Courtney you really put some time into this video and into the graphics and the information shared into the video. You clearly thought all of this out as well. This will lead to more efforts. You take care sir.

[@CodeytheArtist]

Definitely a 2 on the scale, Bi-romatic Demisexual right here and you explained it perfectly! Struggled with my sexuality for years before I decided to just drop all my walls and be happy with who I am. Loved this video!

[@Courtney-Jai]

That makes me very glad you enjoyed it 😀

[@PokhrajRoy.]

So happy to witness your return to KZbin! 👏🏽

[@GerardPare]

Awesome job. I fall on 3 on the Kinsey Scale. You do a great job representing bisexuality. Thank you

[@salemoh9759]

Hi...Courtney i have a friend and she came to my as Bi out...first i gave her a big hug...second i told her from your channel

[@Courtney-Jai]

Thats amazing tell her congrats from me ❤️

[@GerardPare]

Great video. I took the kinsey scale test. I fall in the middle

[@rey6044]

I'm a girl i've been in relationships with both girls and guys I like both bodies and feel romantically attracted to them.but it's only in theory😂 when i actually start going out with someone it's like i don't feel the thing that i supposed to felt with them both romantically and sexually and it just cofuses me because i defentelly have crushes both genders

[@rey6044]

Sometimes i feel like i'm asexual but i'm not sure I feel like maybe if i knkw someone for so long maybe 2 years or something and then i start to go out with them i would actually enjoy the romantic and sexual stuff but again i don't know I love being single and it's like i'm the best version of me when i am single but i don't that's because i'm Ace or i never met the right person

[@being_myself]

Hey! Maybe you are lithromantic or frayromantic or demiromantic. These are the first labels that came to my mind when I read your comment. If you are interested in specific labels you could do some research about aroace spectrum and its microlabels (But I'm not trying to put a label on you, it's your choice and you are the only one who can do it ❤)

[@bi_twix]

Not KZbin showing an ad after this video that starts with "Women want a man, so why dont they want you?...." Yeah I guess they're all gay😂

[@Courtney-Jai]

Perfect irony lol 😆

[@mikemcmullin149]

I attended BiCon in 1999 held at Harvard University. I thought with an acknowledgement from EGALE that Bi-invisibility was on its way to a well deserved grave. I'm 65 years old and I went through the exact same doubt and confusion, that you went through so many decades later means we still have work to do. BTW I recommend Frtiz Klien Psychiatrist as a resource he's authored a number of books with studies and talking with bisexuals.

[@paultidd9332]

Loved the new style, presentation and research. Well explained and out over.

[@Courtney-Jai]

I'm really happy you liked this will be the style now going forward I just means videos will be every few weeks rather then every week but I'm so much more excited to film this way. Makes me very proud of the outcome.

[@anonymously2570]

1000th view-

[@Courtney-Jai]

You get this virtual cookie 🍪 enjoy 😉

[@williamcaley-lightingandso870]

Thank you soooooo much for the video! 💓💜💙

[@Courtney-Jai]

Thank you so much for watching 😀

[@Idrick-fu7sz]

For some reason I am confession all on ur channel ,I just gettin it out ,love is more than sex,even though I love the pleasure wat am I , I am a man who like women an men I got a stronger attraction for a homosexual and I am a bottom so I am gay,even though I like women gay is gay

[@isakrynell8771]

That mid way point on the Kinsey scale is more of the centre of an orbit for me.

[@Courtney-Jai]

And that's fine to I feel like sexuality can be very fluid depending on the individual

[@isakrynell8771]

@@Courtney-Jai It’s the bi-cycle.

[@isakrynell8771]

@@Courtney-Jai As I bisexual man I would also like to thank you for the wonderful work you are doing, Courtney. It such amazing representation and it has helped me personally, as I’m sure it has helped many many others, in coming to terms with my sexuality. So from the bottom of my hart, thank you.

[@KingDomfaithlifecoaching]

OMG! I LOVED the video! Like literally, LOVED it!!

[@Courtney-Jai]

Thank you I put alot of passion into it literally the whole shed bit took me about 5 hours to film to get 15 seconds of footage which is crazy

[@KingDomfaithlifecoaching]

@@Courtney-Jai oh man, I believe you 🤦🏾‍♂️. I'm just getting started in the whole video editing scene. It's a lot! But your passion really shines through! Color me gleefully impressed 🤗

[@bonedoily]

i love you with my life courtney , you completely help people❤️

[@CollinMichaelOfficial]

He baaaaack

[@Courtney-Jai]

Return of the mac playing in the background haha

[@DannyRayqu]

No, I am gay, but thanks for being supportive anyway xp

[@bishbosh4815]

Wait till he's finished the video! 😂

[@DannyRayqu]

@@bishbosh4815 all right I'll wait 🤔

[@Courtney-Jai]

@@DannyRayqu the video is there to show there's other labels within bisexuality

[@DannyRayqu]

​@@Courtney-Jai amazing video funny empigj I recently did the Kansley scale and got a 6, but just wanted to say that your videos have helped get over the stigma over bisexuality and help me understand others so thank you and love your hair btw

[@Courtney-Jai]

@DannyRayqu thank you and I'm really happy you liked it

[@gopimaxted5287]

Great video. Courtney 👍🏻

[@JonahUK]

George Michael did an interview many years ago (I think it was with Michael Parkinson) which opened my eyes a lot to sexuality. He said that he felt that his sexuality was very likely bisexual as he'd always been attracted to, and enjoyed sex with both men and women, but he identified as gay because he'd only ever developed deep feelings, emotional attachments, and fallen in love with men.

[@binghamguevara6814]

Then he can’t label himself gay, he was bi.

[@JonahUK]

@@binghamguevara6814 He can't label himself as anything now, he died in 2016.

[@bishbosh4815]

I knew it!

[@Courtney-Jai]

Well I'm glad someone did haha

[@leehartlee2970]

I went through the exact same thing, as a woman, since I was a teenager. My favorite things to say about it, somewhat tongue in cheek: Being bi, I always have a date on Saturday night. And that I am half gay, half straight. Thank you for the videos!

[@Courtney-Jai]

Really happy you liked it ☺️

[@sunnycheeks101]

I'm a bi who has been 2 on the Kinsey scale

[@Courtney-Jai]

Yeah, everyone is different. I think sometimes sexuality can be to specified, but who we are now will be completely different to who we are in 10,20 even 30 years.

[@Idrick-fu7sz]

Question I am attractive to feminate men an I am a bottom an I gay r bi I had sexy with women but I love dudes more

[@Courtney-Jai]

Thats less of question more of statement, if your attracted to men and women then yeah your bi but if you can't see yourself having relations with a women or being in a relationship with a women then I would say you lean more towards being gay but bi doesn't necessarily mean that your attracted to just men and women there are a plethora of gender it just means your attracted to more then 1.

[@Idrick-fu7sz]

@@Courtney-Jai ok here is the deal I love homosexuals gay men I love for them to be on top of me wat that makes me I love getting hammered by gay men who not into women wat that make me

[@sirloppythe3rd]

Nah I'm Bi-curious. 😭

[@Courtney-Jai]

You do you as long as your happy thats what really matters

[@one-seventh]

Wow! That is a word that I hadn't known that describes me! Been gay for 46 years. But increasingly bi-curious!

[@Othmaun]

Well well well...

[@Courtney-Jai]

Not sure how to interpret this 🤔

[@Othmaun]

@@Courtney-Jai well well well

[@pimpomit]

No

[@Courtney-Jai]

Great input

[@cynthiajones4332]

Truly I say to you, whoever hears my word (Jesus) and believes him who sent me (God) has eternal life. He does not come into judgment, but has passed from death to life.John 5:24 Are people born gay? Do people choose to commit adultery/fornicate or are they born with a tendency to sin? Please think about it. Repent/believe or you will not inherit the kingdom of God. Out of love Jesus died for you live 4 him.

[@Courtney-Jai]

Truly I say to you Jesus wouldn't want you fear monger, for you to pass judgment on me must give you alot of pride and that's against your religion maybe stop watching queer content and start focusing on actually helping people .

[@MrKitrid]

I don't get you Christians. You 've already weeded out the sanctioning of slavery and stoning of unruly children from the Bible. Why is it so difficult to do the same with the homophobia? it's only a few lines, anyway.

[@Idrick-fu7sz]

The word gay and wat I was told it mean and who they supposed to be ,or was all a lie , now I got to erase it from my mind I love the feeling of being gay now wat I am confuse about is who too be with I just want one partner , since I told u who I am a start i glad I ran across u I am learning a lot .