These Are The Weaknesses That Destroy Men | Courtney Ryan

[@siowmingfeng1925]

1) chasing girls 2) no purpose 3) lack of discipline/action 4) alcohol/partying 5) instant gratification hopefully this helps you guys:)

[@wynonasbigbrowndragon6121]

For those in a rush, I encourage you to come back later and watch the whole thing for more depth. But if you're on your way to a brunch date and need Courtney's advice in a serious hurry, good luck, and here's the summary of those 5 weaknesses to avoid on said date: 1) Chasing girls 2) Not having a purpose 3) Lack of discipline/action (having a purpose isn't very good without the follow-through) 4) Excessive alcohol/partying 5) Instant gratification You might be in a hurry, but at the very least, drop our girl a thumbs up. She's doing important stuff for us, guys. Show your gratitude.

[@CourtneyRyan]

You’re so kind, thank you my friend!

[@wynonasbigbrowndragon6121]

@@CourtneyRyan Thank you! You are not only restoring hope that there are women out there who appreciate the right stuff, you're also teaching us all how to be our best and sexiest versions of ourselves to win those women over.

[@tfkvng3187]

She's doing God's work actually 👍

[@carlosverde-datingtips7001]

I agree with you - HumanChangeSkeptic! Fellas - you just need to make yourself the Prize that women want to pursue! Reverse their roles on them! You can be the Prize instead of her being the Prize… if your learn how to play your cards right. It’s got to always be “two steps forward, one back”, meaning… you give her attention, then take it away - and let her miss it, and see if she tries to reach out to you… it has to be a two way street, or else it’s not going to work. Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips

[@TomFox1]

And u are loved timestamps buddy!

[@williammorris3815]

I have been married for over 30 years. My wife and I are best friends. After listening to the difficulties in today’s world between men and woman, my wife and I shake our heads in disbelief. We know we are very fortunate. Then again we have a very old school marriage and it has worked thus far. Good luck folks. This young lady is giving Golden advice.

[@ImFredoJr]

Thanks! Mr. Morris!

[@terencem723]

My son is 22. That generation is doom. As a parent/Dad I hate like hell to say this.

[@johnmininger7472]

@@terencem723 - I've been married for 29 years now. While certainly I have concerns about the current generation, there are several things that have me encouraged. I have two daughters and while I was fairly driven when I was young, they are better people than I was at their age. For the record, my oldest daughter is 20 and has been in a committed relationship for a few years now. My daughter and her boyfriend are both in college, goal oriented and have purpose. Both of my daughters have always had a healthy perspective on relationships and dating.

[@thechannel1098]

Romans 10:9 That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.

[@80HD8]

Why are you watching dating advice from a beautiful woman in her 20's if you've been married for 30 years? Oh, never mind, I just answered my own question.

[@habsom1406]

All the 25 year olds that I ever encountered, never had this level of maturity and wisdom, Courtney you're wise beyond your years!

[@gardengrower7633]

This is why she'll have 20,000,000 viewers and become a billionaire then she'll say Teddy who? Lol

[@SpaceWizard33]

Never make someone your top priority when all you are to them is an option. Focus on yourself kings.

[@CourtneyRyan]

Exactly!

[@carlosverde-datingtips7001]

Right on - Alexander! Fellas - you just need to make yourself the Prize that women want to pursue! Reverse their roles on them! You can be the Prize instead of her being the Prize… if your learn how to play your cards right. It’s got to always be “two steps forward, one back”, meaning… you give her attention, then take it away - and let her miss it, and see if she tries to reach out to you… it has to be a two way street, or else it’s not going to work. Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips

[@HuggableLoveablePlushies]

And don’t forget this: 👑

[@davidhunt9143]

I made that mistake for 10 years and left with nothing but destroyed credit. Don't be me.

[@gardengrower7633]

Dhar Mann said that

[@leebishop7591]

Also speaking as an older man, just kno as u grow you'll probably go thru a variety of changes. Location, sets of friends, personal/mental/physical obstacles. Just don't be afraid to try new things. If you're in your 20s, 30s, 40s; it's never too late. Your purpose will change from 18 to 50. Just do it.

[@ultrabidoof]

This video was literally a brutal slap to the face 😂 I rather hear it now than suffering consecuences later. This kind of wake-up call is constantly needed in our lives; great content as always Courtney. 👌

[@CourtneyRyan]

Haha I only say it because I care! Thank you for being here ❤️

[@jesse_campbell]

"He who has a *why* to live can bear almost any how." Friedrich Nietzsche

[@humr2346]

the best person to quote :D

[@ersturdevant2831]

That Nietzsche, always the life of the party...

[@ImperatorTheodosius]

"Nietzsche is dead."

[@KingoftheJuice18]

@@ImperatorTheodosius That's true, but why is it relevant?

[@theblueadventurer615]

Yet he never got a girl, so it's not so smart, is it?

[@josephtemple1667]

Five years ago I became a gym rat and gave up alcohol completely. Best decision I ever made! Went from close to 300 pounds to a lean & muscular 175 (with a six pack). Not only do I get approached instead of the other way around, I've also noticed an increase in my business as well. Clients respect the fact that you're healthy and have turned your life around and will reward you with more business because you have established a greater trust.

[@WheresWaldo05]

Your physique has nothing to do with women approaching you lol. I'm 6'6", 190 and athletic and toned. I'm the prototypical all American handsome man. I'm 38 and have yet to be approached by a single woman!!

[@megalodon1726]

At 6'6", 190 lbs is too skinny to get women to approach you. Put on 20-35 lbs of muscle.

[@theblueadventurer615]

Plus you're too tall.

[@WheresWaldo05]

@@megalodon1726 LMAO!!! Nah. Anyone else 6'6" is just out of shape and has too much body fat. I'm in the minority and extremely fit and healthy. What every man should strive to be. Plus I'm a long distance runner so I'm not gonna pack on extra weight and make my running harder. Ever watched pro basketball? The NBA? You have any clue how many pro basketball players are my exact height and weight? Im sure these athletes and even the ones not rich yet and in college are having crazy trouble getting women arent they? Again.... LMAO. You just can't make up these kinds of comments. But seriously. The truth is women don't approach. Not in Minnesota. They are either too stuck up or too shy.

[@megalodon1726]

@@WheresWaldo05 Nobody in the NBA is 6'6" tall and under 195 lbs except maybe one rookie. At that height, almost all are 210 lbs or more.

[@redheadfan1]

I just had my rock bottom moment with alcohol a couple days ago. Did my research and talked with a doctor on how to properly and safely detox then started the process. I've also been contemplating ever since how much alcohol has controlled my life. It's never too late to start getting my life back.

[@mikekumar9308]

Lol were you drunk when you made your name

[@mikekumar9308]

Be lucky your not brendas got a baby

[@redheadfan1]

@@mikekumar9308 It's an inside joke with my friends, add an N to the name and all the "bad" things I say. My friends started calling me Bad Brenda.

[@ckelly19841]

Becoming more disciplined was a huge improvement for me. When my mom passed away, my world fell apart. I sulked for a little, but saw it wasn't getting me anywhere. I started to adopt more discipline in my life to fight against the world that treated me like shit. It might not be the most healthy rationale for doing so, but I started adopting a mindset of a "Special Forces" operator i.e. SEAL. Everyday I wake up, I know that the universe doesn't care whether I succeed or not. People I know and don't know may try to make my day difficult, miserable, pick your adjective. That being said, I know that if I remain diligent in what I want and don't get distracted by "instant gratifications", I'll reach my goal faster than if I was without purpose and partying excessively. Chasing girls was never my thing, but I also managed to meet all the crazy ones, mean ones, and those that weren't worth my time.

[@oyebandedoyinsolar1112]

Thanks a lot man. My mom died a week ago and it’s been extremely difficult

[@ckelly19841]

@@oyebandedoyinsolar1112 Know that all your feelings are valid. Talk to a grief counselor and see what else her death has brought to the surface. Life won't be the same from here. My heartfelt condolences as well.

[@socloseagain4298]

Dude I'm in a similar position, I've been into this girl at work for quite some time and honestly after I watched alot of Courtney's videos about Signs if a girl likes you, they mostly checked. However when I finally had the courage to ask her out it turned out she doesnt even wanna go out for a casual cup of coffee with me becouse we have about 10 years age gap?! Like it never even crossed my mind becouse I personally didn't see this as an issue until that moment that could be a reason she wouldnt wanna go out with me, (im the younger one).

[@Lee-jw2ii]

There is a reason you gentleman love your mother so much. Look for similar characteristics in the women that you allow into your life. Congratulations on having a great mother. Condolences for your loss.

[@forestMog]

@@socloseagain4298 She may be afraid of the age gap because of a variety of fears in society. Before we were married my late wife asked my grandfather if being 13 years older might be a problem. ‘Not if you let it’. She followed his advice and gave me the best 50 years of my life. Just ask her to follow her heart.

[@Dgz121]

One of the main reasons why I love & follow your advice is because you are a very effective communicator. You're really good at articulating your thoughts & what your trying to convey in a very naturalistic way which makes it easy for us guys to understand. Your channel has actually helped me with my confidence a lot & I really appreciate everything you are doing for us, thank you!

[@CourtneyRyan]

This is so wonderful to read, thank you so much for the kind words. Glad to hear it’s helping and happy to have you here. Wishing you the very best! ❤️🥰

[@isaacborunda2465]

Content is great. Not many females have solid sincere content. Only the few, Like YOU, will help. Thanks again Courtney, God bless older sister!

[@CourtneyRyan]

Thank you, Isaac! Happy you’re here ☺️

[@rajaasifzamanawan5710]

Hey, your Instagram not working 🤔 user not found!

[@DB-sd3cw]

@@rajaasifzamanawan5710 u weird bruh

[@CourtneyRyan]

@@rajaasifzamanawan5710 I fixed it! Thank you!

[@jessecarlson9529]

Courtney’s. Being a hypocrite though I’ve worked all year on improving this and the girl still don’t want me😩

[@allanmoreno3080]

Our dependency on screens is no accident. It is by design. We cannot escape it until we realize we are trapped. They're not called "cell" phones for nothing. Great advice. Kudos.

[@tomm8582]

the older I get the more disciplined I've become; it brings me joy. I have been guided and have received much help. You are in my circle of teachers Courtney. Thank you.

[@brianf961]

I just want to say, your content has helped me immensely over this last year. I recently shaved my head because of hair loss and was having a hard time, but by watching your videos I’ve come to be much more confident in who I am. Keep it up and you’ve made it to my list of KZbinrs where I like the video before watching, so congrats!

[@Aywusgod]

You pull off the bald look great if that is you in the profile pic, not many can do that. Keep it up

[@brianf961]

@@Aywusgod thanks so much!

[@JackYM78]

What you are saying Courtney is 100% correct! What I am about to say is not trying to find excuses but you left out depression. Depression is killing and alot of people suffers that without even knowing it. They often think they lack motivation or just feel lazy but in reality it could be serious symptoms of depression and you need to go and check it out. For example earlier in your life you've had lots of energy and you feel you wanna do this and that and wanna achieve this and that and suddenly one day you wake up one morning you have no energy left in your body, you just wanna go back to sleep, you stop caring for anything and you just feel tired. Then you start to feel comfortable and wanna be left alone etc and this pattern starts to repeat more and more each day. Be aware, don't mix up the feeling of laziness with being depressed, they are 2 totally different thing and many misunderstand that. Please seek help if you suspect this before it's too latte, it might come to the point you don't even care about seeking help and that's when you'll lock yourself up in a room and just wanna play video games. Depression is self deletion over the long run because being depressed you don't have even motivation to have self discipline. Regardless great video Courtney Ryan, you have my full support and your channel is great! Many men and woman are suffering from depression and the tips you gave in this video won't even help to some degree and that's why they need to be aware and go even further to the next step to seek professional help. It might not that you don't have motivation or self discipline, you might be that you have depression!

[@markusguadalupe2461]

finally someone who gets it, I learned not waiting and chasing the hard way shortly after I turned eighteen, gonna be twenty soon but after finding this channel recently I've learned to be less hard on myself because Courtney actually understands some of the concepts and explains them to us better than the majority of other channels structured like this.

[@ams914]

You learned that at 18? Wow. Good job.

[@Takeitlightly6]

I love how you match furniture to wall color and your outfit. Smart woman you are.

[@nathaeladalyah9681]

This is like the 20th video I've watched by you, and so far I love it the most

[@danishzahidrajput754]

5 weakness that destroy men 1. Stop chasing just make yourself better and right girl will come 2. No goal/purpose in life. Take your time and figure your purpose. Do what make your happy. Try different things before settle on one. 3. Lack of discipline & action link with no purpose. "You are what you do" "action speak louder then words" 4. Alochol and party. Little bit fun is okay kept it in moderation. Control this part of life. It can be addiction. Alochol cause bad decisions. 5. Instant gratification: desire to experience fulfilment or pleasure without delay. We easily bore. We never stop to be thank you for what we have always wanted more. "Good things come to those who wait"

[@needmorecowbell6895]

The common thread through all of these suggestions is the willingness to endure suffering. To be better, better at anything, you have to learn to love how tough it is to accomplish anything of value.

[@Saurles]

"No purpose", boy that is something I'm struggling with right now. I just turned 54, and since my mother got sick last year then passed in late January, I've been thinking "what's the point?" I just discovered Courtney a couple days ago, and she has given me the idea that I need to work on being a better me; learning to love myself and how to approach life with a positive attitude. I know most of the videos are about relationships with girls, but they can also be applied to everyday life.

[@andyadams5640]

I've seen a couple of your videos pop up on my suggestions. I'm glad I started watching. I like how you give not just dating advice, but good advice in general. Nor enough men are working on themselves, and it's showing.

[@timothyhails359]

How wonderful and refreshing it is to hear a young person repudiate modern instant gratificatious behaviour , and the hedonism at any price that so many people are into now ,young and old.

[@falconridge6206]

Courtney is on spot with this. Most men are around their middle twenties before their brain connects. Listen and take this advice especially if your are still in you teens.

[@RyonLION]

The points Courtney has made are spot-on. I'm primarily an introvert at heart. I've watched guys enter the death spiral of instant gratification, excessive partying and drinking, and of course, chasing girls to have sex. In my opinion, a lot of these problems arise out of a lack of discipline and having a meaningful purpose in life. Divert your energy back into your goals. Become selective in your company, invest time in people and activities that are worthwhile. Begin to develop and harness your skillset to form a sort of financial freedom. At this point in life, everything will start to make sense and become more clear.

[@centpushups]

Should look up the marshmallow test. A study on instant gratification

[@davidn.527]

I've experienced all these weaknesses. No matter how hard I try to move past them, I often falling back into the same path.

[@salamancacox]

This is actually more than sound advice. Might just be the single most beneficial video for all young guys out there right now.

[@bobmorgan5636]

I see your points wrt ambition, discipline and goals..my wife passed from cancer almost 4 years ago...I'm just now getting those back. Thank you

[@PRdude]

I remember catching a lot of flak for not "chasing" girls when I was younger. It's nice to know that I had the right idea all along.

[@CourtneyRyan]

You got it 👍🏼

[@fischersfritz468]

I did not chase the girls. Therefore I stayed single for my whole life. This alternative isn't that good either

[@andrebaxter4023]

@@fischersfritz468 , context is key. When Courtney says not to chase girls, she means to not pedestalize them. Also to not get involved with a girl that's not that into you. Don't be clingy. It's definitely a good thing to follow your purpose AND have an active dating life/be in a committed relationship.

[@anticom6099]

@@fischersfritz468 did you improve yourself and your life to the point where women would be attracted to you, and put yourself into places where they would be able to meet and get to know you?

[@fischersfritz468]

@@anticom6099 do you know the metaphor "the carrot and the stick"? Good education, good income, suitable body, very tall, many hobbies (diving, fishing, hiking, photography). It is never enough to even pass the first check from any woman. (I never made it to a second date , only a few first dates from online dating). The carrot is still here. Luckily I'm past the children age with 42. The carrot receded a bit recently.

[@BluePhotoMedia]

“If drinking alcohol causes you to make bad decisions, well maybe don’t drink “ 😂 that’s awesome Courtney. Love your videos! I think you give great advice, don’t hedge on it, own it! Some people might not like it but you’re spot on.

[@andyhinds542]

I have made the big mistake of "settling" with someone without finding out about them first. Settling is a bad idea for both parties. Learn about yourself, being your own person is so important. A bad relationship can take that all away.

[@teistebrito4936]

This was a BRILLIANT video indeed.Im 43 and I see a lot of young men in their 20 without purpose and discipline , and that's quite sad.Young men need good mentors and examples these days.Thanks for your videos , they're great remainders.

[@truenorthaffirmations7049]

A disciplined aim, hitting targets is held in esteem, stay strong men

[@MrCanadiansingh]

Well, as a human being there are many weaknesses but some weaknesses are very destructive for human beings. If you get into the habit of relying on others, it will stay with you for the rest of your life and will continue to cause harm. This habit prevents man from progressing. Because 1- Knowledge of others can never shape your future 2- The crutches of others can never be your support۔ Most of the guys gets trapped in this decease and get damaged.

[@CourtneyRyan]

Very true! 🙌🏼

[@DB-sd3cw]

Dang you said a lot without saying anything

[@howardhornbuckle3337]

Chasing happens, I’ve really learned that not chasing women is key. When you learn this it’s very powerful. Great information.

[@barrytelesford5265]

im 37 and finally getting that point

[@edyedison8201]

Okay Courtney, it is not that you convinced many of us, it is that you open our eyes. Thank you.

[@freneticov-viii5983]

Wow, you carry yourself very well for someone that's my age. Glad there is women like you out here helping out people.

[@Sw4ggB055]

Dang, I needed this. I'm 22 and really feel like I have no goals in life anymore, no purpose. I did about a year ago, but I found out the career I wanted wasn't what I was expecting. This video was the motivation I needed to get back out there and try again. Thanks Courtney 👍

[@SpaceCityCards2012]

It is never too late to change a career.

[@rodb4523]

Keep trying new things

[@Ophanim1000]

Just focus on improving every aspect of your life and your mind and body in a balanced way. You have no time to feel bad if you're busy.

[@Ophanim1000]

Do the things in life that you enjoy and try doing news things to broaden your range of experiences.

[@chanceyeomans4115]

Taking risks smartly is the key to success 🔑

[@kevinmalone3210]

Very good pep talk. You hit on some good 👍 points here. Time keeps moving forward for everyone. It is important to live life with fulfillment by reaching goals, and getting what one wants out of life. Easier said than done, but better to live a fulfilled life, by working for it, then end up old and unfulfilled. Other bad traits, weaknesses: Laziness, Fear, Procrastination, Addictions, Making excuses, rationalizations Complaining, lack of gratitude, Finding fault with others, instead of seeing your own faults and working to improve them. Thank you sister Courtney, you have a pleasant personality.

[@denniscwalina6897]

We appreciate you Courtney. Great advise. It's nice to hear these things from a woman's perspective.

[@thomassalazar3215]

I can tell you that not only do mature women get turned off from this list but mature men as well (as far as friendships go). I find myself having a hard time wanting to hang around other guys that are still struggling in these areas. As the old saying goes: “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with”. Quality content Courtney.

[@Nah-ah]

Really enjoyed this video! Everyone can relate to it. I personally found that having a real purpose in life grounds you that discipline isn’t that hard to master… Off days and slow days are gonna happen but bc you have real purpose, you bounce back pretty quick! Just what I’ve observed in my own life. Great tips! Thanks, Courtney! 🌻

[@mrbill2600]

The best thing that men can do is never give a woman (outside your immediate circle) a compliment or second look ... Look right through them as if they are non-existent, as a man this gives you the power.

[@ams914]

Bill, that's a great way to never meet a woman. You can show interest without being a simp. Complements are fine, just don't gush or go overboard. Strike up a conversation with no expectations, and try to connect on a human level. After dating for a while a lot of these "rules" don't matter anymore. Women have incredible red-flag detectors, and many men set them off for good reason. That hurts, but it's the truth. I've been there. Neediness, being overeager, even too much vulnerability too soon can be a big mistake. You need to be comfortable with yourself, living a life that you want to live. They then get to come along for the ride, which doesn't mean they don't have their own lives obviously, but optics-wise, that's what needs to be done.

[@deadcell4837]

I semi agree. As mentioned, you need to show some degree of interest if you want to attract a woman in the real world. I do think think though that its important to NEVER give women attention on social media, especially likes/ comments on photos. Girls will think of you as a simp if you gush over them on facebook/ insta.

[@kevinward3088]

I am around twice your age , and commend you for giving such sage & wise advice. You are 100% correct. Overcoming 2 & 3 are especially important for achieving a decent life , regardless of whether you choose to date , or not , as in my own case. Women like you , Courtney are exceedingly rare. Also I am a single dad , my focus is getting 2 & 3 back on the correct track , and showing my teen daughter the way forward.

[@nickfararis411]

Foucasd aim patience accomplished Thank you courtney no doubt we are all take our efforts off the most important things to do that will takes us to next better level

[@crayfish7542]

In the section on " Lack of Discipline " she mentions [ to the effect of ] " Sleeping in too late ! The Decision on When to Get Up, is made the night before !

[@monkeytrollhunter]

This year has been great for me and I'm so grateful 1. Graduated from a highly ranked university (especially in the major regarding my profession) 2. Started a job at a fortune ranked corporation 3. I lost weight by disciplined diet, started gaining strength and muscles by going to the gym 4. I have my own place and live comfortably with job security and a stable income I want to have more hobbies, have friends, and hopefully have a relationship sometime in the near future. I'm trying not to rush it. I also want to thrive in my career although I'm an insignificant piece in a gigantic machine as I just started out.

[@Alan-rw3ez]

Don’t worry about the corporate ladder, also don’t find identity in how you make your money.

[@monkeytrollhunter]

@@Alan-rw3ez True, I should be confident/have self-esteem regardless of how much money I make as long as I'm doing my best/meaningful/productive life

[@patrickorourke41]

There is a HUGE difference between chasing and pursuing. Chasing is an act of desperation. Pursuing is something confident men do. If you focus on your mission & purpose, the woman of your dreams will eventually come to you.

[@24SparrowJack]

nah not true at all the woman of your dream will always go to that complete cunt, and your mind will just eventually brainwash you into thinking the woman your with is the one even though she isn;t hence why 90% of married men are unhappy and go out and cheat, best way you either get lucky get that woman of your dreams or just stay single save thousands of dollars and be your own self

[@WheresWaldo05]

Confident blah blah blah blah blah. I'm so sick and tired of this word being used. Confidence is the most over rated trait there is.

[@stevec3526]

Yes, chasing is an act of desperation. Married now but when I was single I stayed on purpose, talked with a lot of people, because I was an introvert, and I kept my eyes open. I am now a mild extrovert.

[@tompeters5903]

There is a huge difference. The difference is whether the woman finds the man attractive or not just like every other interaction between single men and women

[@brandonjoseph3422]

You’re the mother that many men never had. Thank you

[@Ironman4u]

When you HELP OTHERS FIRST...then...You help... Yourself!!!

[@zetristan4525]

Very wise, and simply humble.

[@jl34903]

Solid/sound advice, women are an offender for #1 too. What it really is, for both genders, is seeking fulfillment from outside of yourself in a person to make YOU happy or YOU satisfied or YOU fulfilled. But the more healthy approach is finding things within yourself that make you happy, satisfied, or fulfilled and sharing that with others. And if you find someone who aligns with your values you can journey along together in this life whether it’s a friend, coworker, or lover. A lot of the things you mentioned were things to fill the “void”. Just meditate or connect with your higher power and face your fears/emotions and work to overcome them.

[@kolbydjones5871]

Deep!! Love it Courtney, thank you!! Having purpose is like the rutter of our ship. Without it, we're tossed about on the sea not going anywhere.

[@CourtneyRyan]

🙌🏼 thank you, my friend!

[@dhlong1697]

I love this and am also embarrassed that so few men have fathers who have already taught them all this wisdom. My guess is that you are as great a listener to men as a talker to men. Much respect, ma'am!

[@erogarojoedareno4454]

One weakness is when it is too good to be true, it definitely is. Learned it in college and tested and paid the price for it. Lesson learned.

[@Fbfordays]

1 weakness is being pushed by others in the direction they want you go to rather than knowing what you want. *im not sure if you made this because of what youv'e heard recently but i notice that things tend to seem like they spread fast when you make genuine changes and things tend to seem slow and take forever if your ungenuine and not into it 100%.

[@M4d5ki11zY0]

Great point about alcohol. I've been doing sober october with some friends and its been a great challenge to find things to do that don't center on alcohol (and it's a little harder than I'd like). Ideas: go on a hike, see a movie/play, go to a haunted house/attraction!

[@barrytelesford5265]

do a project that will make you some money. and it will capture you interest

[@IAmTheRawls]

Courtney, do a video on the five strengths of men. This video was pretty good. Number one was the first that came to mine. I always said this “Don’t chase after girls. Let the right ones chase after you.”

[@CourtneyRyan]

🙌🏼❤️

[@ulfen69]

My favorite word in english for now: ”Bamboozled”. 🙂 Learning a new thing every day. I🇸🇪 PS. I am also listening and learning what Courteney says.

[@satyakidesarkar6777]

Our big sis is back with a great content again ❤️

[@yogeshpanwar3201]

You are my age, but i think i wouldn’t mind calling you big sis. I never worked on developing my character as a child and i am a very skilled people pleaser. Thank you for making this content for us, the ones who have lost their ways. To guide us back..

[@rmbrett01]

This is the first of your videos I've ever watched; what a wonderful thing to pop up in my feed first thing this morning -- thank you!

[@jericoba]

I'm suffering from serious depression since many years and no woman out there is going to vibe with that. I have A LOT of work to do. It sucks to be alone in that but it's my rope to climb. Hope it's not too long.

[@howardhornbuckle3337]

Most of the things you mentioned I’m aware of and it’s good to hear you talk about them. It reinforces so much. Thank you Courtney. 😊

[@jamesrokosky4265]

First comment ever on a KZbin video: Excellent message.... fantastic to see this straight between the eyes content from a young, but obviously mature and tuned in, creator. Well done and well said.

[@CourtneyRyan]

Thank you, James 😊

[@mrpb506]

You are one smart lady! I loved every last point you made and I honestly sincerely hope a ton of guys watch this video, take notes, and take action. Everything you said was on point! And as a guy I salute you for speaking nothing but pure facts and really being a woman that teaches guys how to be better. Thanks for being awesome!

[@fredhanna3769]

This was good. Thank you. You are in my top 4 commentators. Quick and straight to the point. I personally would like to know more about what's in a woman's head, how she thinks.

[@adm.petercowell9573]

Wow!!! you are just 25? Where did all this wisdom come from? Having watched several of your uploads I find myself uplifted to know someone of your generation has such a good head on her shoulders. Thank you for your content. Even us old-farts get a lot out of your commentary.

[@vijayiyer4987]

In the last 5 years, i've cut down on my drinking significantly. I was never an alcoholic, but when I used to drink, I used to binge. I also used to mix drinks, which accelerates the speed of intoxication. When I moved back to the netherlands, I had an experience that I blacked out while cycling, and fell of my bike. If I had hit my head on the cyclepath, I could have been seriously hurt. That was a wake up call, and i've reduced my drinking drastically since then.

[@DIDDLOTIC]

Although this might not be the kind of content you normally make, the hint you gave towards how you've seen alcohol destroy men and the personal experiences you've had could make for a very informative video that could help countless people with the concept of moderation. Love the vids by the way!

[@sourishathavale5564]

Courtney’s content quality is improving with every video! So helpful and insightful! Thanks a lot!

[@CourtneyRyan]

❤️🙌🏼

[@Michael-vc2cs]

Amen! Everyone needs to watch this!

[@naina9807]

Great tips for men AND women!

[@KennyG881]

My problem is mostly the "no purpose" and "lack of discipline/action". When I was a teenager, my goals were to go get through school/college/etc, find a job where I can financially support myself, and move out of my parents' house. At that time, I really thought those were some ambitious goals. I thought I wasn't going to able to accomplish them until I was in my 30s. To my complete and utter surprise, I managed to complete all those goals when I was 22. Found a good job a few months after college and moved to a new area. So at the point, I was like "Ok, I accomplished every goal I set for myself. Now what do I do?" I spent so much time and effort on accomplishing my original goals that I kind of forgot how to want anything else. So I just spent the next 8 years basically just waking up, going to work to pay my bills, coming home, hanging around for a few hours, then going to bed. No social life, no dating life, nothing. I'm 30 now, and I still have no idea what I'm doing. I'm not really living, I'm just existing. I'm not really interested in anything, so finding new hobbies is very difficult. The hobbies/interests I had when I was younger aren't really popular in the area I moved in, so those aren't really an option. I feel like if I try new hobbies, I would probably be doing it just for the sake of trying to be more interesting (or least less boring). It's hard to feel fulfilled when you have no interests. With all that in mind, I just sort of lack the motivation to try anything just because it just feels like there's no solution. I just continue to exist because honestly (and sadly) it's all I know.

[@joelzimmerman2462]

Thank you Courtney! If you were my daughter, I would be proud of you for this content. As a person, in a highly respected and well compensated job, people often comment that they would have loved to do what I do. My response is, always, “what stopped you?”. I get various reasons, but the underlying reason is that it takes too much focus, self discipline, and self sacrifice to get there. As one my ex-Vietnam Vet mentors once told me, “what you’re doing today ain’t going to get you to where you “claim” to want to go!” So… I did the “grind”, in my 20’s, focused on my career, trying to being the best that I could be, in my profession, and avoided being lured away by vvomen’s goals. So…, know whether you are willing to make the sacrifices to achieve your goals, and evaluate your partners ability to be on board with your dream. My view on life is “be good to all others”. Respect others, regardless of their education, I know vo-tech students that are multi-millionaires, whom are honest, very hard working, and yet are disrespected by social women and social media.

[@backyardrailroader]

To have self purpose and discipline of your choice. Not what other people THINK you should do (unless you ask them for help with the matter.) And instant gratification is a problem with everyone. One other thing. When something is not working, and you are continuing to do it because others are telling you to keep doing it, be persistent and patient, and no matter what you do or how long you do it...I am talking about months or years....and you are not getting results. You have stand on your own two feet and say ENOUGH!

[@jackchristianspaltholz6510]

Thanks Courtney, your one of the realest ones out there. I’ve learned a ton from your vids.

[@vijayiyer4987]

Point 1 : most men learn to focus on the right women for them as they get older.

[@josephblunt5987]

My goodness, Courtney! You are only 25 y/o but very wise beyond your years. I am 64 and still learning. Thanks for your advice and help! 😁

[@TheHornet1fan]

Actually of all the topics you have covered about dating dos don't etc etc this is the most encouraging, because its something I can and do aspire to. Thank you for your words of encouragement and guidance.

[@fleetingfootnotes9133]

At least one of the best and most important video's this year.

[@Travitanium]

It's my first sober October, and it's amazing.

[@annonymouslibertairian9120]

4 months drug and alcohol free. All other aspects of my life fell into place. I am in better shape. I am making new friends. My finances are in better order and I am starting to invest. I just look healthier. Getting rid of the booze is the biggest (and maybe hardest) bit of self improvememt you can make. Single without plans on changing it, but if I was interested in relationships my options seem to have drastically improved with number and quality of prospects.

[@shootjase]

i think mental health and the lack of access to it (whether its financial, personal or social) is the root of some, if not most of these issues we face. theres thousands, probably millions living with conditions undiagnosed that probably causes or contributes to their lack of motivation, sense of attachment, short attention span, etc. Anyways, great video, as always. Touchy subject but you handled it with much sensitivity and tact.

[@sethwinegar]

Wow, self discipline and instant gratification is definitely something I can work on. Self control is such a strength and a lifetime skill. This is absolutely one of your best videos. Thanks for sharing.

[@vivajay]

“Be what you want to attract”…Gonna be a lot of Courtney Ryan’s out there

[@rubenvazquez2996]

Even if you're only 25, Courtney, I feel1 you like my older sister (whom I never had) giving me good advice. Thanks a lot again. You're helping us quite a lot with your contents. May God bless you

[@WheresWaldo05]

She's 25. Unmarried. With barely any life experience. The last person I'd ever listen to. Clearly the man doesn't want to wife her up after 3 years of being together. That really says something. What's he waiting for?? If she was so great she'd be all locked down a long time ago!

[@rubenvazquez2996]

@@WheresWaldo05 Wow, please, calm down. Look, there are some people who become mature earlier than others. See, whether she is married or not, or whether they plan to, it is only their business, not ours, and in any case someone's civil status doesn't change even a bit their worthiness, understand not even a bit. Please, listen to you, and from what space you are talking, it is not a constructive/positive critic which you're making, realize! You may be going through a hard time, I could understand that, but dumping your frustration here won't change your situation for better, not even slightly. And see, when you listen to someone, if you are actively listening, you will be able to grasp the quality of the message that person is conveying; and while there may - of course - be some aspects of her speech which may be subject to different nuances, the overall message Courtney is conveying is - at the very least - close to impeccable in regard to the understanding of the functioning of human psychology applied to man-woman relationships. Cheers, buddy.

[@tonybony5805]

Im 55 people are shocked when I tell em , they say I look 30 ish . I dont smoke drink chase , or seek instant gratification . Courtney speaks the truth dont pursue a woman because of her physical beauty she should have an inner beauty that you can feel.

[@tommyhamilton907]

I feel like these points really go both ways. Especially with trying to find a good quality partner in life. Tweak a few things and seems to be the weakness everyone struggles with.

[@pentagonoenllamas]

Being a reliable, monogamous, family-oriented or couple-oriented guy is the main weakness that destroys men's probability to land a relationship.

[@garygreen3638]

Compared to being an "Alpha", play boy or a fuck boy, I disagree

[@dilbertjunkmail]

Reliable monogamous family oriented can become a prison to men if there little is no support from partner. However, I received a family that included me in their reunions, had beautiful children that were successful, stable and gave me grandchildren. I got to meet some of my wife's wonderful fishing and hunting men with some of the best fish frys I've ever been part of at the beach. So except for the dying wife cancer part, it's been a good life going with the monogamous family thing. Good Luck to the test of you guys because I think I'd rather deal with the cancer riddled wife than the horrible wohmen that are out there Now.

[@catherinewhisenand5678]

Hope u get a good one

[@mahmoudsalameh190]

i have been watching your videos for a long time ... and i would like to say that you and the women who think in this positive way are the medicine of this world and societies everywhere ... youre amazing person with great personality ... may god bless you 🙏🏻💗

[@bryanadams5091]

Great stuff as always. Always pushing us in a positive healthy way. Wise beyond your years...

[@christopherrich6105]

Good point about people who don't do what they say. Don't drink!

[@rolandmisa7365]

1. chasing girls / stop chasing 2. no purpose / have some sort of goals 3. Lack of discipline and action 4. Alcohol and partying ( do it moderately ) 5. Instant gratification / good things come to those who wait

[@venturecapitalist6611]

Great content. Ms. Ryan's confidence in general makes her very attractive to listen to. IF there were no video and just audio her words would still resonate with power and force. I want to invest in her brand now.

[@ianbrown5955]

Some of us know this. But it's good to hear it being taught. Young men really need to pay attention to this. Take some time to work on you. Increase, or find ways to increase you financial status. Work on your health with exercise and good nutrition. Work on your mind with positivity and loving yourself. These things will attract the right people to you and make you successful. Having gone through a devastating loss through divorce, and keeping on track with recovery by self improvement was "key" to becoming an attractive, self confident and loving person. Even at my age you can further improve yourself. You have to be whole if you want to attract good things into your life. Always take the oportunity to step back, analyze, and see where you can improve; then take action.

[@Tim_G_Bennett]

Damn, I'm doing better then I thought. The biggest issue I have now is finding someone to share life with, due to lots of childhood trauma I never chased any girls, now I'm middle aged and have next to no relationship experience. It's not much fun either. I've spent the last 8 years working on my mental health so it's getting there. I do feel like I'm a long way behind though, but I try not to think about that bit. I'm rebuilding my house now almost done with 3 years of working on it and next is planting a forest for someone to build a boat in 400 years. Great video, I've seen all those weaknesses wreck lives.