This Is Why So Many People Are Chronically Single

[@LeeEverett1]

Men are chronically single, not women. Women can get a relationship literally ANY time she chooses, it's entirely up to her when she decides to be single or not. Too many women today have outpriced themselves out of the dating scene since they all want that perfect top tier man and will disqualify you for the slightest thing due to entitlement. Men aren't the ones doing this. That clip at the beginning perfectly describes what men go through where we're the ones trying to initiate a second date to see her again, and she's just playing games due to all the other guys she can pick from.

[@x-man5056]

There are many women who can't buy a date. Most of the rest are not dating who they want. It's delusion mixed with ego = constant dissatisfaction. Both men and women want to date 'up' instead of 'over'. Where the problem lies.

[@albertwesker8883]

Facts

[@SamuelJ888]

"Men are chronically single, not women." If the worlds pop is 50/50 male/female, assuming you are talking about hetero, how is that possible?

[@AlphaCentauri-b2o]

Women do not even know what singlehood really is. When a woman says she's single what she means is she's still looking for her man. The guys who she's sleeping around and the guys on her friendzone who are waiting for their turn do not count for her.

[@pharkle35]

Not quite accurate; women control sex, and men control relationships. Think about it and let it sink.

[@AngelofJustice412]

Just another modern woman complaining about being pumped and dumped by Chad, nothing new to see here really

[@CookieMonster-we1in]

Completely agree

[@Zendokai]

Indeed. I have noticed they complain about the problems that they themselves create....

[@pharkle35]

Nailed it. Who cares about these modern women? Men who are just coming into the real world and keep getting destroyed by these modern women are dedicating their most fertile and youthful years to building their wealth and learning the value of having their mental peace and tranquility. Message to these young men: Stand your ground and develop lifelong friendships. I am 48 and divorced; I rebuilt my wealth in 5 years after the divorce to retire with a diamond nest egg within the next 5 years. My younger brothers do not give in to the manipulations of these women. If they don't treat you like a king, then just pump and dump.

[@killswitchfate]

yeah her annoying attempt to pretend this is a flawed market because of equal contributions from both sexes gives her a blind spot to the truth.

[@Racko.]

Its funny because they dont realize theyʼre the ones who created this culture in dating

[@chengliu872]

I completely disagree with abundance thing. That is something that affects women almost exclusively, almost no man is being swarmed with dates, online or otherwise. Most guys are so desperate that they will take pretty much whatever they can get.

[@LARULES100]

You got to famous,very popular or really good looking as a man to get women online to message you first

[@riseup902]

I think a lot of guys would but then a lot of guys are indeed waking up as well.

[@CUCABURRAAustralia]

Indeed. Unless you are in the top 1% of men in terms of appearance and personality. Sad when you reflect on that imo

[@MasticinaAkicta]

I agree with you. For a men getting a date is really hard. Even one date. Most men are just invisible. And that is just how it is.

[@carlose6010]

​@@MasticinaAkicta That's why we just work on ourselves first. Imo.

[@Metatarsus0]

As someone who enthusiastically plans dates, my experience has been the inverse: Women don't follow through. I give dates, times, places, accommodate schedules, try to pick fun places/events, sometimes I even spend money beforehand (like for a 'make dinner' date), *THEY SAY OKAY*...and I just get stood up and ghosted. It's happened so many times over the last couple years that it's quite demoralizing. What's worse is that the women who show the most interest in me are already in a relationship or just want something casual. A lot of these women are not serious and I don't take any of their "men don't plan dates anymore" talk seriously either.

[@albertwesker8883]

That's usually because she made date plans with 5 people and at the last minute chose her best option. When women flake its becase someone offered them a better option ( in her eyes).

[@SamuelJ888]

Curious how are you meeting these women?

[@garypierce7380]

Yeah, save all that planning for later. Like Courtney says, go on a simple coffee date or something that doesn't require a lot of expense or commitment. Save that fancy stuff for a girl you know is serious. If she doesn't agree to something safe and easy, you know she's not worth your time.

[@Gaming_Antics]

These days women just want to go on dates for fun and slept with Chad, they have no intention of being in a serious relationship until they can no longer slept with Chad. If they sleep with a regular guy is just to string them along or get something expensive from them. My cousin has been dating a single mom for 5 months and she hasn’t slept with him yet nor let him know that she’s been married before with a kid. The family knows, but don’t want to tell him, because he’s stubborn and doesn’t want the family to get involved. She’s trying to marry him to stay in the US.

[@Metatarsus0]

@@SamuelJ888 Mostly dating apps and some IRL.

[@EricMoore790]

Woman: "He sipped his drink not the right way, it's over!"

[@LeeEverett1]

Woman: Oh my God he has an android! ICKKKK

[@CookieMonster-we1in]

You’re good friends, dont worry about it, shes a walking ickk. Her true form will come out in her 30’s. Lets grab some beers and talk to more classy ladies

[@matts3932]

He didn’t use organic lemon in his iced tea! RED FLAG!

[@nathansawicky6333]

​@@LeeEverett1 literally been told that multiple times

[@Robodude_0528]

Woman: Oh my god, he treats me well, is attentive and actually gives a shit! Abandon ship!

[@dh12.]

If a woman is interested in you, it will be obvious. If not, just forget about her. Never chase a woman. If you do, she will look at you as an OPTION.

[@AgentDoubleOSeven77]

Remember fellas, no matter how expensive her taste is, there’s always a 🥷 hitting for free

[@Grand_Edict]

A lot of men have a hard time accepting that and still think they can convince a woman to like them Attraction is non negotiable

[@jaymann5180]

The thing is, attraction can take time to build. Unfortunately people think they have options (which they do), but realize they are not good options.

[@salvadorsandoval3740]

Amen brother.

[@ostenhuberkarle4586]

Let me paint you a picture: this woman is absolutely beautiful and she knows that. Therefore, she does have tons of guys chasing after her. Why does this happen to her anyway? Because she ALWAYS goes for the guys who also have tons of options and therefore don't want to settle for her. To go out then and complain that there are "no more committing men" out there is laughable.

[@Zendokai]

You definitely hit the nail on the head. It's not just women that are attractive like her doing it, even average women are chasing the top 20% of men now also.

[@pharkle35]

90 -120 days before the vanity effect fades away. Then her true self will reveal and men will run for the hills with full gear on to disappear.

[@zacklong9258]

Stop simping, dear lord.

[@pugbuddykachoo]

I think you missed the point. She is expressing a desire to see him (whoever he may be) again and getting stonewalled. There's no indication that he has "tons of options" or is a 1%er or that she is chasing someone like that. Only that it's frustrating to be treated so poorly, with no real explanation, when she shows interest.

[@theroadtomastery123]

@@Zendokai Exactly, and it wasn't like that maybe five years ago, I definitely noticed the same.

[@riseup902]

I do want a relationship with someone but I've reached a point where if she doesn't reciprocate then I just move on in a split second. Don't waste your time with someone you have to keep second guessing on.

[@mrgonzalez8838]

Or they reciprocate but then ghost Lots of people practicing their acting skills out there

[@__Shun]

@@mrgonzalez8838 fr its crazy

[@467076]

If I get the "I'll let you know" I'm like, "aight I'm out." I was working 50-60 hrs. a week and doing school full time and could still make time and for women to give that vague excuse, I'll dip out. No need to waste each others time.

[@Elementalism]

This is the right approach. If they commit to letting you know, make them follow through on it or walk. Too many men will wait a couple days then hit her up. This shows neediness.

[@CptWesker07]

Us men have checked out. We like our peace!

[@CallMeVexed]

Are you sure? Why are you watching /this/ video?

[@SuperBadwilly]

@@CallMeVexed because some of us don't thrive in the incel bubble and are interested by other people's take on dating culture.

[@CallMeVexed]

@@SuperBadwilly as long as you know your answer, man. Being lied to sucks, double so when you do it to yourself.

[@scott8934]

@@CallMeVexedim with OP on the peace. I’m here because of her husband Teddy, and originally Courtney did fragrance blind reviews. Teddy knows his watches.

[@grahamcollins2350]

​@@CallMeVexedopposition research

[@rolando7907]

I stay single because I’m tired of getting rejected.

[@hotpockets69]

Just be gay bro

[@secondone3249]

If that's you in your pfp, i'll just say that a single picture is worth a thousand words (ur sub5 unfortunately, but there's some potential. I'll start off by saying getting lean is a must, and not sure if that'd be a guarantee)

[@DutchMaster2025]

@@secondone3249just put the fries in the bag, bro He didn’t ask for your opinion. That’s his decision

[@MotorheadForever7]

​@@DutchMaster2025 what the hell does that even mean?? Cringe.

[@rolando7907]

@ I know I’m ugly, but not that ugly.

[@SuperBadwilly]

Being single by choice to cultivate the completion of personal development goals has been quite nice in the last year.

[@edgaremilio768]

Self improvement is Masturbation 😊

[@fluzzerr]

You're not single by choice. The truth is, no one’s showing any interest, so you choose to act like it's your choice and not theirs. You never see handsome men being "single by choice".

[@SuperBadwilly]

@fluzzerr The truth is I show no interest. Maybe learn to understand what was said before opting for an idiotic opinion.

[@fluzzerr]

@@SuperBadwilly Of course bro 😂

[@naffox4259]

I agree what a stupid thing to say. I know plenty of good looking guys single by choice so they can focus on growing/goals

[@MarkPlace-wb5xg]

Most of this just stems from the reality there is a massive market mismatch in which average women are only interested in very above average men. So it's a lot of wheel spinning and most guys would be better to focus on other aspects of life. Running around hoping to catch a woman that is throwing in the towel on finding someone she actually wants is just asking to end up in a situation in which you're being financially exploited.

[@LeeEverett1]

Facts. You've literally got single moms out there who are slightly overweight thinking they deserve a top tier 6'2 fit dude who makes good money

[@oceanhedonist265]

💯 truth!

[@salvadorsandoval3740]

Your absolutely right blame social media and shows like “The bachelor” literally that show revolves around ONE DUDE taking on TWENTY CHICKS and him choosing which he likes best.

[@r3volution685]

Summation - video from the perspective of a conventionally attractive woman who finds the hottest man she can find and can’t get him to date her.

[@kschrop]

Give a woman multiple social media & dating app outlets and there's a 1% chance she stays loyal.. This is reality unfortunately

[@pharkle35]

In 1998, Apple was on the brink of going bankrupt; their stock was at $3-$4. Bill Gates invested $150 million in Apple to bail them out. Three years later, Apple released the iPod that was specifically designed and marketed to women. That led to the beginning of the era of the electronic revolution. Apple built on that success and released the iPhone in 2007, which led to the social media revolution. Which gender is the biggest user of social media? No prize for guessing. 25 years from the release of the first iPhone, you will see the majority of women will be single, bitter, alcoholic cat ladies bar hopping to scratch that itch. If you don't want to believe me, just do the data analysis of what women are purchasing online and getting delivered as gift-wrapped items. Hint: Who is the biggest online retailer? Hint #2 --> Nowadays it comes with Li batteries. Data science and analytics are awesome. 🤫🤫🤐🤐

[@renemontenegro6143]

Living overseas like a king has opened my eyes to these wetern women. No, thank you, Ryan

[@DavidZ4-gg3dm]

Where did you move from & to?

[@VL1975]

@@DavidZ4-gg3dm Montenegro. Says it in his name. lol

[@VL1975]

Ya...eastern European woman are probably easier to date.

[@DavidZ4-gg3dm]

@@VL1975 How do we know that's not his surname?

[@MrMultiHerbatnik]

@@VL1975 you know that mean Black mountain?

[@jeffreyferreira3811]

Men are chronically single because women aren't interested, and this tends to be the case regardless of how high quality the men are, in my experience. At the end of the day, a man can improve himself and put himself out there but it's luck of the draw if/when he finds a woman who is into him.

[@Cee_Eff]

That's been my experience exactly. After well over a decade, my number finally came up. Now I have to make sure that the resentments built up over decades of rejections despite putting my best foot forward don't ruin what I have now.

[@Robodude_0528]

@@Cee_EffThis is something I struggle with. I’ve had so many negative experiences, my fear is it might make me permanently resentful. Still haven’t met an permanent romance tho

[@Mancer1980]

There’s only endless options for women. I tried online dating for almost two years and the amount of work it took to land a date was tremendous. I consider myself an above average looking guy and the ONLY women who didn’t ghost me and actually wanted a second date were significantly below me in the looks department.

[@dgwaters]

I tried online dating for SEVEN years and I only got as far as two phone conversations. At least women responded to you.

[@Mancer1980]

@@dgwatersthat’s a complete waste, especially if you were paying for it. Have you read Corey Wayne’s book? Leveling up your social skills is hugely important before you do any online dating.

[@HonestyOverEverything]

​@Mancer1980 Cory Wayne is legit. There's also a LOT of channels with good advice. As far as game, us guys shouldn't have much of an excuse. The issue is applying it

[@Mancer1980]

@ doesn’t matter if you’re dealing with trash women

[@__Shun]

@@dgwaters i tried for about a year about 200+ matches on overal sites and only 3 dates and the most intestereted one that called at midnight day before to change the time to 2hrs later,stood me up while on the phone on the bus..waste of time

[@GGA90]

I find it hard to believe that she experienced that situation. She's very attractive, and many women are single by choice. They may prefer to pursue relationships with men who don't want commitment.

[@Ponchoed]

She keeps rolling the dice trying the find the exact perfect dream man. Too quick to discard matches and chase an ideal that doesn't exist.

[@StuntmanDanHemi]

I mean usually those "2 roles same person" clips are just satire lol. However, there is more and more dudes growing significantly more intolerant when it comes to women and their BS and i am one of them, i don't care how hot she is, or how easy she puts out, the moment i notice a significant redflag thats when i drop them. Maybe at this point i know better, or maybe my patience has been cut that short by now, but her looks really take a back seat when there is something wrong with her

[@secondone3249]

Lower third looks a bit odd, but nonetheless she's decent looking (5.5-6/10 at the most).

[@ostenhuberkarle4586]

@@secondone3249 Good lord. If she is a 5.5 I wanna see your 9s and 10s.

[@LeeEverett1]

Nah the role is reversed she's the one dodging the guy

[@ajtaylor8750]

People seem terrified of committing to plans or another person, almost as if they believe they're being trapped. Sorry that someone just wants you to follow through after having a good time on a first date. Merry Christmas Courtney! 🎄

[@BheeOrgh]

"almost as if they believe they're being trapped" into more funded free meals and entertainment, meanwhile she is not obligated to be reciprocal in any form or fashion. Why not invest that money? Better yet, I have an investment that may yield better return than a q vague or empty "Thank You" from a disingenuous 1 - 2 hour interaction. 🤪🤑😝

[@CourtneyRyan]

Amen. Merry Christmas to you! 🥰

[@waltermiller6601]

A lot of women see taking initiative or making plans as “clingy,” “desperate” or “to available”

[@jandy1128]

If you are interested in a girl, you are clingy and desperate, thats just how they work, if she doesnt want you, you are this. If she does, you will be charming, kind, caring and persistent.

[@swirekster]

Honestly at this point why bother playing all these games. I repaired a home while waiting for girl online to make up her mind and after like year she obviously said no. Now im chilling in my nicely made home and you know what. Im perfectly fine. I go home from my work and i don't have to constantly worry about anything. No mind games. No drama. No fear that other person is plotting something or having tantrums over petty shit coz they saw some celebrity online doing the same.

[@ianjohnson5752]

Just had something happen to me where I was completely upfront with a woman about what my intentions were. The whole reason I asked for her number was to plan a date, I told her this. She did so willingly with what I thought was enthusiasm.....But then she flaked on me super quickly. Had a date and time at a casual coffee shop I know and everything. I feel like she maybe got intimated because I was so honest with what I was wanting. She should have told me she wasn't interested in me. Instead of acting like she liked me back, to somehow get me to leave her alone? These games are getting old.

[@garypierce7380]

You saved a lot of time.

[@Ohem1]

This happened to me a few months ago. We were texting, and I suggested a date, but then she flaked. That or I was being catfished.

[@DavidZMH]

Communication is always key and honesty. If you want to see me, see me. If not, don’t. The middle is very indecisive and annoying.

[@TheWinterfox10]

I really don't understand the indecisiveness. Wasting time in general is strange to me. It would be one thing if they knew they wanted to keep the door open, but just didn't have enough stability in life to invest in more of a connection. But it's not that. These people have a ton of stability in life they just can't be bothered to make up their mind. It's so crazy.

[@sebby211]

Hi Courtney, I just turned 61 yesterday and today this will be my first time going out on a date with a women. I’m hoping your tips are effective. I know i’m late in life, but better than never.

[@paulv2394]

Lady Ryan is VERY intelligent with a good measure of wisdom. I've followed her for quite some time.

[@CookienatorF1]

Good luck!

[@DDD11239]

​@@paulv2394 Define "intelligent." She seems to be stating common sense. She isn't giving a mathematical lecture.

[@mormegil84]

Good luck! Hope it goes well.

[@nickburkhardt8553]

They usually ghost you after a couple of days

[@brettbeyer73]

The problem that I keep running into, is the unresponsiveness in texting. I will text a paragraph, she will text a sentence. I will text a sentence, she will text a word or two.

[@LeeEverett1]

It sounds crazy to say but don't text paragraphs to women they don't respond to it well from men.

[@jayjaqwan9163]

I've had that happen too many times before.

[@Asana25]

At-least you've made it that far. I usually get blocked (which is the usual experience a sub5 would get)

[@xrfa7422]

What's wrong with phone calls?

[@brettbeyer73]

@xrfa7422 I don't know the etiquette for that any more.

[@Cee_Eff]

Discuss this: 1. Fear of being yet again another foodie call 2. Being shamed and berated for standing up to a foodie call 3. The flaking that comes with not putting up with games Now you can see why minimal effort is made

[@ON_Telle.gram_Misscourtneyryan]

Wish you merry Christmas, I got something special for you Above. 🎉

[@joelbellJB]

4:20 why? Why should we continue to put in effort when the other half doesn’t reciprocate? It’s not the men! How many times do we have to say this!?

[@briantopham3884]

I feel this, it’s good to see that other people are experiencing this. It’s had be questioning myself, like am I oblivious? Was I picking up on “vibes” that weren’t actually there. It’s a weird head game. I think it’s important to remember sometimes you’re not the problem, sometimes what you don’t know or see is the trauma others are dealing with and healing from and it doesn’t have anything to do with how funny and charming you are or how good the chemistry is. If the other person isn’t in the right place to connect on that level it’s not going to go anywhere.

[@__Shun]

like why even go on a date at that point

[@Dr-Alexander-The-Great]

Merry Christmas Courtney My ex girlfriend yelled at me, you haven’t listened to a single thing I said What a strange way to start a conversation

[@jmel23515]

I’ll chime in as an occasional binger on your videos. 41 yo m, no dates since just before covid, and only 4 (all first) dates since my only relationship back in 2011 ended. I’ve only had one year (age 24) with more than one girl I went on a date with. I workout, train martial arts, play 2 instruments, have a good education, I’ve made close to if not over 6 for a decade, own a nice house and have a few other talents women tend to enjoy. I’m also average height, reasonably fit, and have thick head of hair, so none of the usual things women worry about, though some don’t see 5’10” as tall enough (even some of the sub 5’ women). Yet I’ve probably been shot down >200 times since my last date. I’ve only had 1 “yes” from someone I knew well and it was comically positive and adorable to the point I wish I recorded her reaction, yet, she ghosted without explanation. I’ve tried the online thing, was a member of match, eharmony, and ok cupid for 6 months each, 0 dates, 1 conversation. I actually demanded a month off of work due to some craziness going on and spent it full time trying to get a date on 2 of those sites and hoping daily vball at the beach might lead to something, only to have nothing and not get refunded (this was around age 33 or so) My goal since I was in my early 20s has been to find a good woman, settle down, and start a family, ideally 3-5 kids, at minimum 2. Ideally married before I had hit 30 It’s difficult to remain enthusiastic or develop much of a skill for things like setting up dates when you go years between dates, get no feedback and they go nowhere. Women say they want chivalry, yet the one girlfriend I did have and a few other dates mock it and deride it so it’s 50/50 what the reaction will be Now at 41, women that are an appropriate age to reach that goal see me as too old. What little interest I do get is from older women who can’t fulfill that (sorry all of you 45 and 50 yo women looking to start having kids per match). I realize that I will most likely be remaining single childless, and mostly if not entirely dateless because women don’t give me a chance. Many, many sacrifices I’ve made will have been for nothing as I would have acted very differently if I knew I’d end up here. Ironically, I was just chatting with a woman on facebook who didn’t seem interested because for 2-3 weeks, she’d send one brief message a day tops (sometimes a few days between) to answer a question I asked after her last response and hadn’t asked anything about me until today. We had an unexpected brief conversation online when I got home from work. She’s 34, mistakenly misread something and thought I was 27 and confessed her age, which I already knew (our initial contact was a mutual suggested match email and I found her elsewhere since I’m not a member, and sent her a link to my profile). When I pointed out she read a prior message incorrectly and I told her I was 41 she blocked me. So her going 7 years down ok, me doing the same creepy to some, including her. And for me it’s going to pretty much have to stay her age and younger if I want kids (which is why I think it’s very unlikely to happen) Because it’s just another thing to point out pickiness, the reason she got my age wrong is that a few days ago I invited her to something in an area I thought she might be for the holiday (near where she’s from, she mentioned she was visiting family) and she complained it was 30 minutes from home and that seemed really far to go for a date. I pointed out I lived 27 minutes from her city so that would be a regular travel time for us and somehow she read that as saying I was 27 and from the city. 30 minutes distance from a romantic partner seems pretty reasonable to me early on and she seemed to warm up to it until she found out my age. I actually almost bailed on her when she said that, but decided to hanging in there a little longer and see where it went. My only regret is that if she would just have a normal conversation early on and this could have been settled in a day instead of nearly a month. Also as far as men trying in general, younger men see all of the women putting them on blast for dates on social media, that doesn’t encourage men to try harder at all, nor does the fallout from me too or the general behavior from and choices made by women. If you’ll Netflix and chill and sleep with that guy, why would I plan something special just for you to put it on blast?

[@__Shun]

only use hinge,all other dating apps is a waste of your time

[@brettstarks1846]

At this point in life, I’m not looking for anything new to “enrich” my life. I just don’t want to deal with hassles anymore, and dating is a big hassle - and for a reward that’s overrated.

[@jackdeniston6150]

If a Man delivers, he is ´boring´ Women caused this, entire.

[@BruceJC75]

Gosh what a knife in the chest on Christmas Day 😂 this year I’m singing “Last Christmas, I gave you my heart…”

[@dgwaters]

One of the things I hate is how hard it is to read women. You think she's dropping hints that she likes you but it turns out you're totally wrong. Just a few days ago there was a woman at work that I thought like me. She seemed to be dropping the hints she like me multiple times, but I didn't do anything right away because I wasn't sure if they were real or not. Finally, I did get a chance (and courage) to talk to her and asked if she was seeing anyone. Not surprisingly, she said she was seeing someone.😭😭

[@Zendokai]

Modern womens standards these days are absurd, just for context, im an attractive guy and fit. Im over 6ft tall, good career etc and I have had some average looking women call me ugly, talk down to me hahaha, also I have had some cougars chasing me. From observations, most modern women are really swinging for the fences.

[@Graamow]

This happens to me with women. I meet someone irl (never touched a dating app) and we get along, "we should go out sometime", they say yes then later they never respond when you try to make plans, or if they do it might be slow. Or you go out with someone and have a great time but when you try and see them again they are slow or just ghost you, its really demoralizing in the long run. But look at their actions, if they actually like you they will respond and want to see you, its just really hard today. I just wish people would be honest for everyone's time and sake instead of trying to be "nice" and/or try to avoid "hurting you".

[@richb2229]

Unfortunately, Cortney goes straight to blaming the guy’s. She mentions in a somewhat mocking way, about the endless options (that women have) for dating. The problem with dating is the endless opportunity for dates women have today with certain types of men, that aren’t looking for serious relationships just brief sexual encounters. Courtney is correct about men taking initiative, especially for the first few dates. Make a plan that fits into her personally or is something you enjoy if you don’t know much about her. However, this should be a given and men that don’t do this are ignorant of their role in dating. Many men have been burned and are twice shy, but they still need to put in an effort even if the first date is for coffee. You can always plan a second stop on the first date if coffee goes well.

[@lostheboss7938]

I've been in this same situation too many times to count. Truthfully, I don't know even know what Im doing wrong. Feels like no matter what you do your doing the wrong thing. Try too hard? Clingy. Dont try hard enough? you dont care. Make a move too soon? Only in it for sex. Dont make a move fast enough? you just werent interested in me so I found someone else.... Damned if you do damned if you dont

[@sebastienporsenna8616]

"If being in a relationship is a priority to you then you need to make dating a priority." Loved that Courtney said this. I made plans with a girl I met on a dating app to meet in the following two weeks. She agreed, and then the following week told me her parent's, and grandparent's are coming to town the next week she initially agreed with me to go on a date. And she didn't even initiate another time to make it up so I acted unbothered and just text her "No worries we'll plan something soon. Enjoy the family- you owe me a fun story from their stay at your place." She didn't even text a response to that text I sent her. And so I just dismissed this girl as someone that wasn't really interested in me as I was in her. And moved on.

[@rashadkhoury]

A game changer for me has been minimal texting in the early stages of dating. Only communicating through phone calls or in person allows for so much more clarity throughout the process. Definitely would recommend

[@LeeEverett1]

Good luck with that. If she's not texting you she's texting plenty of other guys

[@rashadkhoury]

She’s for the streets then

[@simsim2910]

I have been to countless dates and never have I ever heard her asking when do we see eachother again. It is always silence afterwards until I reach out

[@ON_Telle.gram_Misscourtneyryan]

Wish you merry Christmas, I got something special for you Above. 🎉

[@Apparition338]

Just returned from 3months living in Shanghai China with new life insights. Had a girlfriend by week #2. Had an amazing experience with Chinese life and living in a very face-to-face way with her, family & friends. I’m back and I see Western women through a magical lens that reveals tell-tale mindsets and behaviors I can’t tolerate. My life is my mission, a woman can either join my mission or be left behind. If western dating-marriage culture has become a slow competition of who replaces who faster, then no great missions will form with this generation of western women. If there’s no cultural permanence here, figure out how to earn it elsewhere.

[@byteblock1667]

I'm chronically single because I'm chronically poor.

[@dgwaters]

Same here.

[@ted1045]

A lot of guys just have gotten tired of being bamboozled. Doesn't happen all the time, but it happens enough that it turns you off to dating real hard real fast.

[@markdanielczyk944]

Damn straight!

[@__Shun]

im beyond bamboozled the last time i got stood up

[@VideoGameRoom32]

I prefer to meet her in public. In a profile on a dating app, you don't really know how honest that person really is when they talk about themselves

[@LeeEverett1]

You're not supposed to try to get to know her in text. IMO you should be trying to set a date up within 6 messages back and forth. Stop wasting your time texting to build rapport it doesn't work

[@DDD11239]

​@@LeeEverett1 Agreed, speaking from experience. Video chatting works as well, if physical dates aren't always in the cards.

[@georgedeluna855]

I love your advice and watch your videos. I'm 66 and divorced after a 20 year marriage. I also watch Casey Zander who I think is brilliant. A point he makes is that women will say and believe they want something (in a relationship) but then their actions are totally inconsistent with what they say. Recent example: on a dating app (that I hate) I'm texting with a woman and I say let's talk after I get back from a trip. She says can we talk sooner? So I call. She doesn't answer nor return the call. I go away and come back, she texts me and complains about how men don't do what they say they are going to do etc. And I said I called you, you know. And she says well can we talk now? I said no thank you I'm moving on. If I have to start giving you the benefit of the doubt this early, it's probably going to be more trouble than it's worth. Case in point. I did what she asked and her lack of action was a negative response.

[@gauravbhan]

Men often give the benefit of doubt more than they should.

[@3400grandam]

Wait, you guys are getting dates?

[@jad1079]

So...is that a no on seeing a picture of my dog? 😂

[@antoniosalazar565]

I ain't doin shit

[@xrfa7422]

Save your money for prostitutes. You'll at least get some attention and they won't call back!

[@jeffreybrooks8643]

Courtney, I hear what you are saying, but as a Man trying to date I honestly find it is the Women who are vague & indecisive about following up & carrying through. If they don't want to go further, then simply say so. I believe it is better to ve honest, rather than endless deferrals.

[@leezhao]

This really reminds me of one somewhat recent experience I had with a woman. We work at the same place (which means it was probably a bad idea to pursue her to begin with). I asked her to get coffee and we did. I felt really attracted to her and then asked her to get dinner. We didn't set a date then as she was traveling for work soon. We did plan something tentative after her return. She returned and we did get dinner. She came over to my place. I made a really nice meal which seemed to impressed her. I felt that we had a good time and she stayed a long while, arrived around 3pm and left close to midnight. I felt pretty good about the whole thing and she even hinted about getting together next before leaving. Then I texted her the following week, got no reply. We still saw each other at work and talked. I asked in person a couple of times if she'd still want to get together again. She was always non-committal. I got frustrated and a little fed up too and then just restricted our interactions to exchanging pleasantries to each other in the hallway (some have suggested that I give her some space anyway). Then about 5 months later, she asked to get coffee and catch up, which was sort of out of the blue. We did and she was really nice over coffee. I felt maybe there was still something. So I asked her out again, to do archery and/or axe-throwing. She seemed really enthusiastic and even excited over emails when I sent her the links to those places. Anyway, as I was traveling soon, we set something tentative for after my return. Messaged her after returning about getting together, no reply again. I just got really frustrated. What made things worse was that I ran into her by chance outside of work, seeing her walking down the street toward my direction. I stopped to say "hi", but she just passed me (after clearly having seen me) by as if I didn't exist. I got pretty angry. When I saw her again a couple of days later, I asked if she's got a twin sister. Anyway, she apologized, as she was in a hurry. For whatever reason (I can be stupid in this way I suppose), I still tried to set up another date with her. We finally set a date and I booked the archery place and sent her all the details. I was pretty excited at this point. Three days before the date, I asked her if we were still good for it on Sunday. She wasn't sure again, after my spending the time and effort to book and set up everything. I just felt so fed up at this point and basically cut all contact with her outside of work. It's been about a year since then and we've said about seven words (mostly hi's) to each other in person and exchanged a couple of emails purely for work. There were occasions in which we passed by each other and she'd look at me in a way as if I had done something wrong. I had been SO attracted to her when I first met her and felt that she was such an interesting person after knowing her a bit more. But the whole experience later was just so weird, confusing and frustrating. One certainly hopes to have one's attraction reciprocated; short of that, maybe one's sincerity reciprocated; short of that, maybe at a minimum one's courtesy reciprocated. Well, I certainly have lived long enough to know that I don't always get what I hope for in life. Anyway, at least in my experience, it's women who are the flaky ones. This one was just the worst example among my encounters In the case I described above, she's actually German. If a German is already so flaky, what is this world coming to? 😂

[@grayfox00700]

You have no idea how insanely similar my situation is to yours

[@ON_Telle.gram_Misscourtneyryan]

Wish you merry Christmas, I got something special for you Above. 🎉

[@leezhao]

@@grayfox00700 Hopefully, we're not talking about the same woman. 🤣

[@grayfox00700]

@@leezhao Lmao, good point but it's not 😆 But yeah, girl from work, so very hard to read and wrap my head around, invited to both archery and axe throwing. I kid you not.

[@weekendupnate]

She can proactively suggest an idea and time to hang out again, instead of passively asking when

[@peanutbutterjellytme]

That little skit proves why you should have important conversations with your voice and not by texting.

[@JDL__99]

It’s TOUGH out here guys, dating apps are dry and you can’t meet people in conventional ways anymore as a man otherwise you’ll be labelled as a creep. I’m single by choice I suppose but it’s not what I want, I just don’t think women what to give men any time of day whatsoever, so I just keep my head down and work on myself.

[@KingCzar29]

Ive managed to talk to the same woman for 3 months. Im starting to think she might be different from previous experiences and its time to take it to relationship status.

[@Snarge22]

Merry Christmas everyone! Especially to Teddy and his 1st Lady! (And me, it actually happens tomorrow when family and relatives show up.)

[@AlexTrainsChest]

What Chaira didn’t mention is she was on a date with Luigi Magione 😂

[@davidabarak]

I would suggest that expressing interest for a second date is okay for a first date, but actually making plans should happen after the first date. That's how I've done it, and it's seemed to have worked out fairly well. Age may play a part. I'm 64 and date women in their late 50s to mid 60s.

[@whitebot925]

🎉HAPPY HOLIDAYS AND NEW YEAR COURTNEY

[@CourtneyRyan]

You too!!

[@hermandm89]

A lot of problems originated with the single mother childhood. Generational trauma is a real thing. Educate yourself, break the cycle. Don’t repeat mistakes your parents did. Take a year to work on personal development. And start dating after that. Simple.

[@chrisandrew6633]

I had a girl be wishy-washy when I was trying to schedule a date. Over a couple weeks it was like this. "Obviously she wasn't into u bro." Yeah so eventually I stopped & unfollowed her on IG. And it's been a few years and she still follows me and is always one of the first to watch my stories. So. Explain that.

[@michaelfortenberry5735]

The very second a woman says "dating today is tough", I mentally check out.

[@ON_Telle.gram_Misscourtneyryan]

Wish you merry Christmas, I got something special for you Above. 🎉

[@Robodude_0528]

The issues this video wants to address go far deeper than what is covered here. Social media, woke ideology, the political landscape, shifting dynamics between men/women, etc. this video is woefully off base

[@murraylindsay6880]

Well Courtney the dating culture is all based upon women but they don’t wanna take accountability. Women make the determination of rather or not to hang out with that person, sleep with him, etc. so at the end of the day it all comes down to women. They cannot blame men.

[@hesimplywillnotdie]

If she doesn't make it easy to get together she doesn't want to. Not going to waste my energy trying to convince someone to spend time with me. I bring it up once. If they're not committal, it's a simple "let me know when you're free to get together" and move on.

[@__Shun]

lol she wont let u know

[@Ambo1216]

Women don't know what they want, and EVEN if they do know, that's subject to change depending on how they feel.

[@seemva]

Courtney Merry Christmas, " you can not microwave a relationship " is the highlight of this video to me. Useful tips. I am married, I will pass on tips to single people around me. Seemi from Virginia

[@CourtneyRyan]

Merry Christmas! 🎄

[@derwoodhamburger]

I don't want to put in plans anymore because whenever I do they always try to move the goal posts or mess with my plans. Which is sort of emasculating and weird considering women say they want masculinity

[@FrancisFjordCupola]

Am I glad I live in a culture that's open and direct. A yes is a yes and a maybe is a pass. The clock doesn't stop ticking. But if everything feels like a one-way street, it's more than easy enough to not bother.

[@brendandobyns7035]

Men also shouldn't be the only ones making effort for a planned date. The woman needs to make an effort also. It's unfair to force one person to always make plans.

[@DDD11239]

Strong and independent women, my behind.

[@salvadorsandoval3740]

Don’t fall for it fellas I’ve feel for it hella times. If they hit you in an enthusiastic manner on first date talking about “when can I see you again” don’t set up something right then and there! It’s almost a sin at this point showing the same level of interest back because now they think less of you. Now they think they got you in the bag and then start to play mind games. If you show your enthusiasm is the same your done for kings! You gotta act like she’s the only one happy not you, you gotta hit her with the “idk we’ll see if a day pops up, if not then idk” something vague cuss if you seem enthusiastic then in their minds your “thirsty, weak or don’t get a lot of women” let her show all the interest. You just keep acting like she ain’t shit, and she’ll come to you seeking approval or your time if not then she isn’t the one don’t waist your time with the broad any further.

[@segxcal]

Single for life I already have a son and I can use my hands as much as I want so I love myself ❤

[@user-fv7sy7kl4p]

Finding "the one" for you is like playing the lottery and expecting to win. Odds are it will never happen.

[@neutechnica]

I think the challenge is that we've created a culture with an intentional lack of seriousness around dating and sex and then wonder why things aren't working. I'll put it this way, people who make it to the NBA and are successful there, are typically serious about basketball from an early age. They're intentional about what they learn, who trains them, their teammates, which schools they attend, and so on. No one would spend time playing ball with a bunch of random guys weekend after weekend, who just do it for fun, and then turn around thinking that they can make the jump to the NBA. In the end, do you want your relationship to be the equivalent of pickup basketball for the rest of your life or have a superstar relationship with security and deep meaning? If it's the latter, that means an intentional shift to only spending time with guys who have a history of choosing to be in long term relationships. That means passing on attractive men who might be willing to sleep with you but have a track record of jumping from woman to woman. In a post-Tinder day and age, it's not going to happen.

[@ON_Telle.gram_Misscourtneyryan]

Wish you merry Christmas, I got something special for you Above. 🎉

[@VL1975]

That's funny. Because that doesn't jive with what I see on Instagram. These early 20 somethings are getting engaged at a rapid pace. Alot of girls already have boyfriends. Just like you, Courtney, they find their guy in high school or college and then marry them. For guys like me who had a bad high school experience and really never went to college, we've given up by the time we're 50. I'd be married to you to if I found a girl like you! Merry Christmas, Courtney!

[@michaeljjt1976]

This reminds me of that Friends episode where Chandler instinctively says: "This was great, I'll give you a call, We should do it again sometime". ----and he has no intention of ever calling

[@LukasWeeke]

1:23 The clip seemed to me like one wanted to see the other again, but the other didn't but wasn't honest enough to just tell that politely to the first person. 2:04 The entire absence of any dates has kept me from that experience by now. 8:31 Yes, being honest about intentions is crucial.

[@gilbertflores4341]

Merry Christmas 🎅 🎄

[@davidchambers44]

Merry Christmas, Courtney and Teddy! I think this problem comes from people having too many options online or unrealistic expectations of a first date. Essentially, if they don't have butterflies, and if the date doesn't check every single box, they don't want to commit. Or worse, they might be juggling more than one person.

[@HostmorkeCZ]

Dating is difficult and finding someone who is straight forward with intentions is also difficult. It will get better, I have faith.

[@ON_Telle.gram_Misscourtneyryan]

Wish you merry Christmas, I got something special for you Above. 🎉

[@ipaul86]

This is me. I'm not intentional with my relationship(s). I don't have a plan. I've been dating with my eyes closed. But the grass smells so much better when YOU cultivate it.

[@PRdude]

I wasn't expecting a new video from you today, but Merry Christmas, Courtney. Also, to your husband and fur babies.

[@CourtneyRyan]

Merry Christmas to you and yours! ❤️

[@cortezturner2004]

You haven’t been on the market in a while Courtney you don’t understand A man’s shoes we just gotta do what’s best for us and go where it’s the best for us ain’t no hope ain’t no social life in the us

[@mikeingeorgia1]

I express interest briefly. If there’s no sort of reciprocation, I’m out just as fast. If she’s waiting for a better option, I’m no longer one of them. ✌️

[@Craftworld_patriot]

Actually I've noticed this about myself. After several heartbreaks I really struggle to commit to anyone. 8 years ago I used to do crazy things for my first love. I've learned English from zero to the intermediate level (she was my English teacher in the high school) in 2 months just to impress her, I wrote books specifically for her and gifted them for all major holidays (she actually has read all of them for some reason😄). I ran away from home to date with her, despite my parents were strictly against it (which is understandable - she is 10 years older than me😄)... And now I sometimes too lazy to go for 1 day per week even if there is nothing wrong with a girl and I actually have a free time

[@ON_Telle.gram_Misscourtneyryan]

Wish you merry Christmas, I got something special for you Above.. 🎉

[@davidduff9871]

Merry Christmas to all. I hope it’s a safe and relaxing day for you. This same problem can also be seen job hunting which is also electronic/ online. Job hunters have no idea where they stand, the company’s interest or intentions. Isn’t that what we hear from everyone out of school who is trying to find work?

[@Andrew--S]

I wrote a long comment but i deleted it since it's like i'm shouting into the void. I'll summarize it with the 'sunk cost fallacy' applies to dating. At some point men will not be suckered into wasting more time, money, and energy into being a free meal for a woman who has zero intention of dating and 100% intention of siphoning as much wealth as possible from random men. I'm 38 years old, male, and never had a girlfriend. It's over. It's been over. I hope no one ever gets to my point.

[@picnicsalad1]

It's crazy how many times I've such great dates, end it with a kiss, and then when I go to ask the girl out again and she says she didn't feel a connection. I think the apps and all the options out there has left people searching for the next best thing

[@johnhartsock1891]

If a woman gives good head instead of a kiss after a first date, there may be a second date

[@__Shun]

makes u wonder how many other guys they kissed on first dates

[@shermanngjazz]

Dating is so expensive nowadays and guys typically have disadvantages in the dating market.

[@ON_Telle.gram_Misscourtneyryan]

Wish you merry Christmas, I got something special for you Above. 🎉

[@zickonezero]

We've been trained to desire unpredictability over predictability.

[@MrRLP402]

Merry Christmas, Courtney

[@ON_Telle.gram_Misscourtneyryan]

Wish you merry Christmas, I got something special for you Above. 🎉

[@nazhao3156]

Happy Christmas Ms. Courtney Ryan.

[@CourtneyRyan]

Merry Christmas! 🎄

[@nazhao3156]

@ same to you as Well

[@muffinland]

It just feels like everyone's standards have become impossible (I am guilty of this too). I put in 100% effort into anything I try: new hobbies, joining groups, work, and dating, but at some point I'm just exhausted by putting in so much time and effort (and money) to meet people, put myself out there, dress nice, plan exciting and unique dates and never get anywhere. So as a self-defense thing I start raising MY standards which narrows my options, but it's a cost-reward thing. If the result is the same (a few months of dating before a ghost or a "I think we're better as friends") I might as well shoot my shot with the top echelon in case it works out ya know? We all have the same amount of time in a day, so we spend it in a way that will maximize our potential outcomes. And I'm sure women feel the same way. I'm above average in a lot of things, but there's plenty of men out there who have what I offer plus more.

[@CUCABURRAAustralia]

I 100% agree with everything in this video, not much to add, great work!

[@peterkottke2570]

My nitpick. I would never tell a woman that I'm not interested in a second date at the end of a first date. Some women do not take rejection well even if that rejection is delivered as politely as possible.

[@DDD11239]

True. This is why you keep your address a secret.

[@user-fv7sy7kl4p]

Women hate rejection, and I'd speculate to say even more than men. They literally lash out verbally instead of just walking away.

[@viiiRA_]

As I've said before, my issues is that I can't help but run into women that are still trying to use manipulation tactics(silent treatment,trying to make you jealous) but then I guess a synonym to that would be a lack of respect. I don't have too much of a problem taking initiative, if anything it comes naturally to me, I can make plans _and_ include a woman's input. I've been in a healthy relationship before. I've done most of the mental health, maturity work that I possibly could as a bachelor. Frankly, it's worse than that. I've experienced women betray their own friends and I've had a woman try to sabotage my relationship with a woman I was courting. (one of my coworkers is obsessed with me for no reason; barely talk to her, never slept with her) There are a bunch of psychos here in S. California. Honestly don't want to date latinas at this point and I wish I was lying.

[@eternalkote1944]

When she shows all the good signs, and you decide to take initiative, and ask if she’s single; and she says “ yes but no”.

[@ON_Telle.gram_Misscourtneyryan]

Wish you merry Christmas, I got something special for you Above. 🎉

[@andrewnorrey1541]

The mistake here is the idea that most men miss the chance of a second date... Most of us normal great guys NEVER get a date in the first place let alone a second one.But believe me when you have gone years without meeting any women in a social or personal level guys are not going to give a stuff about some woman's bruised ego.