6 Things Women Say That Are Red Flags (Every Guy Needs To Watch This)

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Courtney Ryan

Courtney Ryan

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@marcoantoniovargascornejo7576
@marcoantoniovargascornejo7576 2 жыл бұрын
1. Princess/Petulant behaviour 2. Negative about relationships (talks bad about ppl that surrounds her) 3. Mind reader talk (expects you to do something without asking for it) 4. She calls herself "crazy" (when she is proud of doing certain obsessive or possessive behaviours) 5. Talking over you or interrupting you 6. "All men are trash" "I hate men" kind fo statements I do recommend you guys watch the video for more understanding of each point!
@Mykhos
@Mykhos 2 жыл бұрын
Thx for the shortcut. 👌 Video is good too.
@aaron-damonkassner4715
@aaron-damonkassner4715 2 жыл бұрын
The last one, I’d just walk out w/o an explanation. Idk if that’s toxic of me but sounds really stupid!
@JohnBrown-ig5nc
@JohnBrown-ig5nc 2 жыл бұрын
@@aaron-damonkassner4715 I would too. You have to respect yourself
@rogerwilliams5366
@rogerwilliams5366 2 жыл бұрын
Number 4, So True!!!
@TyCorr
@TyCorr 2 жыл бұрын
My last ex was sweet and nice for a few months. Then she did 1-5 routinely for the next 8 months and then i dumped her and she said “we should go to counseling”😮
@justenfinch5911
@justenfinch5911 2 жыл бұрын
I went on a date a few weeks ago. This woman made horrible assumptions about me and then followed it up with 'I have a really great sixth sense of these things'. I told her she was gaslighting herself so she could believe anything she wanted to. I eventually had to block her. This was after one date. Talk about dodging a bullet.
@mattbutler9119
@mattbutler9119 2 жыл бұрын
Good for you for getting outta there Justen! That was a setup for the future & it definitely wasn't gonna be a bright one. Stay safe & God bless!! 💯
@johngonzalez4298
@johngonzalez4298 2 жыл бұрын
That definitely wouldn't have lasted
@edward1857
@edward1857 2 жыл бұрын
holy sht dude, You made the right call to run from that nightmare.
@antonboludo8886
@antonboludo8886 2 жыл бұрын
Good that you spotted this early.
@carlosverde-datingtips7001
@carlosverde-datingtips7001 2 жыл бұрын
I hear ya - Justen! This is a good example why you have to be very careful who you get involved with these days - because they could possibly ruin your life, and perhaps the career that you’ve worked so hard for. You have to pay really close attention early on in the relationship, to see if you can spot any red flags before it’s too late. Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
@Lilmonke_586
@Lilmonke_586 11 ай бұрын
#7 A woman that can never admit she’s wrong/apologize. 🚩🚩🚩 My ex didn’t even apologize when I found out she was cheating for 1.5 years.
@danjsilve
@danjsilve 8 ай бұрын
Never met a woman who is accountable for her actions.
@kjc1878
@kjc1878 7 ай бұрын
The old your crazy not cheating saying
@allanfischer9417
@allanfischer9417 7 ай бұрын
My father lived to almost 96 y/o and never once did I ever hear him say he was wrong or apologize. I didn't realize it at the time, but he was an absolute narcissist. Failure to self evaluate and admit wrong is something I always look for and if it is a pattern, I avoid it like the plague.
@likearollingstone007
@likearollingstone007 7 ай бұрын
Which is most of them
@paulholterhaus7084
@paulholterhaus7084 7 ай бұрын
You mean there is such a thing as a Woman Who apologizes...??.........Have not seen that..........Paul
@beukenboomer604
@beukenboomer604 2 жыл бұрын
I was in a relationship like this for 3 years. I felt trapped and drained. When I finally broke up, it felt like I came out of prison.
@jimmydelia8956
@jimmydelia8956 2 жыл бұрын
I agree with you there man! I was in a relationship like that as well.
@milforddc
@milforddc 2 жыл бұрын
I feel you. My last relationship was 5 years ago. It lasted 4 years and it was draining. I am out of the relationship business and just do casual hookup for fun. Works better for me.
@E.W.C.1993
@E.W.C.1993 2 жыл бұрын
Do you mind me asking why you were in it for 3 years?
@J1Z06
@J1Z06 2 жыл бұрын
Likewise!
@FLeXJun
@FLeXJun 2 жыл бұрын
Same. Never been happier. I’m so full of life right now
@zyswanson7865
@zyswanson7865 2 жыл бұрын
Don't forget when she says "it's either me or your hobbies/friends/career" That ended my last relationship and is a red flag for me.
@spasmodik666
@spasmodik666 2 жыл бұрын
Yes, the proper response to the ultimatum is goodbye.
@Motherfaulk92
@Motherfaulk92 2 жыл бұрын
If whoever you’re with can’t enjoy spending time with you and your friends or always gets upset when you spend some “me” time on something you enjoy. Dump her. Those are the worst
@dr._breens_beard
@dr._breens_beard 2 жыл бұрын
Good on u king! No one, man or woman, deserves their significant other asking them to choose something so extreme.
@eggpod4567
@eggpod4567 2 жыл бұрын
One of my uncles exes did this. "It's either me or your daughter" Bitch got kicked out the next day. Lol
@oldv1288
@oldv1288 2 жыл бұрын
Haha *(fires up the Hellcat and goes for a cruise)* not that I have a Hellcat but point is we'll pick our hobbies
@DMartins-mn9dt
@DMartins-mn9dt 7 ай бұрын
This is why I've always said, regarding fathers with young daughters; DO NOT TREAT THEM LIKE A LITTLE "PRINCESS"! That s**t will NEVER get out of their head and you'll just be setting them up for a very long dysfunctional, unfulfilling, unhappy, lonely, angry, cat-filled, adult life.
@racyliiu
@racyliiu 3 ай бұрын
As a father you can treat your daughter like a princess growing up. That has nothing to do with behavior described in the video.
@dillonc7955
@dillonc7955 2 жыл бұрын
The "all men are trash" saying is an instant turn off for me. This is coming from a guy who's comfortable joking about 99% of topics without taking much personal. My last relationship involved that quote once a week and our convos would ALWAYS end in awkward silence.
@traelee684
@traelee684 2 жыл бұрын
Usually when a woman says "all men are trash" 9/10 times it means she's never been able to keep one around.
@LatimusChadimus
@LatimusChadimus 2 жыл бұрын
If you want to challenge that narrative, you can just ask if that makes a woman a dumpster since trash goes in and out all the time hahaha we need more ladies in this side of the world
@Speedgamer2015
@Speedgamer2015 2 жыл бұрын
@@traelee684 the same type of women who wonder why men don’t approach them anymore
@Erkki146
@Erkki146 2 жыл бұрын
Why wouldn't you just say farewell to her after the first time and never see her again? Do you not consider yourself a man? Or if you really think she was joking, wouldn't you make it clear to her, how much you do not appreciate such a "joke". If she continues, back to point 1.
@shredder767
@shredder767 2 жыл бұрын
Fr bro, why would I be with someone who hates me?
@daryllights
@daryllights 2 жыл бұрын
"When she holds you to incredibly high standards but holds herself to low standards" 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
@bacugan11
@bacugan11 2 жыл бұрын
can anyone explain why this is a red flag, genuinely confused @Daryl Lights
@daryllights
@daryllights 2 жыл бұрын
@@bacugan11 Because she will have you performing at your best for her and won't put any standard of behavior and treatment on how she handles you!
@Ivellios23
@Ivellios23 Жыл бұрын
@@bacugan11 Yellow, Red, and Black flags (card) are sports analogies on how serious the infraction is to a relationship. Yellow - damages relationship... it can work, but both have to work harder for it. too many can still cost the game/relationship Red - Serious infraction. While a few can be explained, the ones Courtney mentions cannot be so easily dismissed. While you can still "win" the game, ie marriage, odds are it'll end in Divorce or untimely death. 2 get you ejected. Black - Walk. Now. Do not look back. Game forfited. You will end up dead, or lose your sanity/dignity. Nothing good will come from this relationshit outside of a few minutes/hours of fun... then run, run as fast as you can. Compulsive Liar, Klepto, murderer, are all Black Flags for me. (Not all inclusive) Despite what Courtney says, Crazy is a black flag for me, and those that blatantly brag about it, I don't even need to date to find out. If you're just looking for a good time, fine, but then run, run your ass off.
@imenelaidi2193
@imenelaidi2193 Жыл бұрын
@@daryllights huh? By the way you phrased it i think the person thought that you meant a woman who puts you on a pedestal and idolizes you but has low self esteem
@leehogg4624
@leehogg4624 Жыл бұрын
You said it right. My ex would have high expectations of me yet those same rules didn't apply to her, ... At all.
@Nephibis
@Nephibis Жыл бұрын
I definitely needed this. Something I found to be a red flag is when she says she is "too nice." None of the nice women i've met call themselves too nice, but every woman i've met who has, used "being nice" as an excuse to be flirtatious and act inappropriately with men while she was in a relationship.
@robsolf
@robsolf 2 жыл бұрын
If she's constantly posting on social media that she doesn't care what people think about her. Not only does this indicate that she's frequently being told by others that her behavior is bad, it also indicates that she doesn't understand irony. If you're communicating anything about yourself via social media, then yes, you care about what others think about you.
@clydekimsey7503
@clydekimsey7503 2 жыл бұрын
Yes, I see this a lot
@laturista1000
@laturista1000 2 жыл бұрын
women of all ages spend more time on instagram talking talking on and on and sharing endless lingerie and bikini cleavage pics of themselves. The posts go on and on all day everyday. These women live in their own selfish fantasy world, perpetuated by the simps that follow and like their selfish narcissistic posts.
@Leondrius
@Leondrius 2 жыл бұрын
That's why I stopped posting stuff, because I really don't care what other people think.
@emodante1084
@emodante1084 2 жыл бұрын
Everyone, Courtney is right. STAY AWAY from crazy girls. Speaking from experience, you'll be sacrificing so much of your dignity and happiness for someone who wants the sympathy of being the victim but doesn't want to fix anything so they can continue playing the victim and getting sympathy. No one is worth that kind of psychological abuse.
@crazykev6491
@crazykev6491 2 жыл бұрын
AMEN!
@peterandreadakis3851
@peterandreadakis3851 2 жыл бұрын
Actually, exercise intelligence and discretion and avoid most women who, these days, seem notably lax in character when it concerns men and relationships. I'm 84 so rest assured I know whereof I speak. I have absolutely no idea how you know "the one." But I do know that only a few couples are heaven sent. Be careful where you put your cock.
@simons.2281
@simons.2281 2 жыл бұрын
I had three relationships like this. Needless to say that 1. I am a fucking idiot and 2. these relationships messed me up big time. You completely lose yourself, doubt yourself constantly ("is she actually right, am I doing something wrong?" etc.), you're being emotionally drained to the point of severe depression - just to be made to feel bad about being depressed cause you "don't care enough" for your SO. 0/10 don't recommend.
@kelligart4847
@kelligart4847 2 жыл бұрын
​@@simons.2281 I feel you man. I had 3 toxic relationship. And i always do the same mistake. I had doubts at the beginning, leave, they come back and then i make compromise, sacrifice and jump back blindy into this relationship. I recognize my mistake only when its past the end. I feel dumb and weak, need to be more firm with my boundaries.
@crustyzimmerman3324
@crustyzimmerman3324 Жыл бұрын
Possible narcissistic personality disorder there, also lookup borderline.
@Merck088
@Merck088 Жыл бұрын
“Shopping is my hobby” is another one for me.
@jacobthomas1344
@jacobthomas1344 6 ай бұрын
That is for sure a problem, but all the ones in the video were about holding inappropriate and sexist views toward you/men in general, or being narcissist. Shopping too much doesnt seem like it really belongs in the same category to me personally.
@calebtarus3022
@calebtarus3022 Ай бұрын
🤣🤣🤣thats a straight red flag
@chris7395
@chris7395 2 жыл бұрын
I dated a girl who treated me and our relationship like a joke even after I gave her a second chance and I couldn't take it anymore so I walked out on her and even though it hurt I knew it was the right thing to do. 3 months later I find out she was lying to me the whole time and found out she was on onlyfans. Best decision I ever made that day I walked away.
@greedisgood827
@greedisgood827 2 жыл бұрын
Way to trust your gut. That thing will save you from pain misery and suffering
@jakefromsikorsky666
@jakefromsikorsky666 2 жыл бұрын
based
@jpowell2603
@jpowell2603 Жыл бұрын
Good on you brother
@pcguysoffgridcabin
@pcguysoffgridcabin Жыл бұрын
post link lol
@MATRIXULSTAPANULOUTVERSAL
@MATRIXULSTAPANULOUTVERSAL Жыл бұрын
@@pcguysoffgridcabin NOT BEFORE YOU SHARE YOUR MOM'S
@arelichico8469
@arelichico8469 2 жыл бұрын
To be honest my mom has always talked badly about men in her life and would always say, "all men are trash." I've heard this quote since I was a young kid. Needless to say i have the same mentality she does when it comes to it but I'm learning to be more self conscious and having a negative outlook is resulting in my misery. I took a long time to realize this about myself. Your channel is mind opening and I appreciate it so much.
@CourtneyRyan
@CourtneyRyan 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this! I’m so happy to help. Hugs! ❤️
@DavidL-wd5pu
@DavidL-wd5pu Жыл бұрын
Keep up the good work, self development and growth should be a life long process, and fulfilling journey. My personal journey was deprogramming my dads fundamentalist christian indoctrination. Now I'm a Universalist and feel like I can do almost anything I put my mind to. Good luck.
@burmy1552
@burmy1552 Жыл бұрын
Good to hear. Parental programming is hard to break. This shows that you're becoming your own person.
@Cantthinkofahandle117
@Cantthinkofahandle117 Жыл бұрын
The women in my family have always talked trash about men. It makes us feel like a piece of shit just for being born. You also feel like everything wrong is your fault because it's always the man's fault. Even when you do your best to do something right but didn't work out. She'll think it's your fault and you probably did it on purpose.
@gregoryritchie7852
@gregoryritchie7852 Жыл бұрын
My mother truly believed that any problem in marriage of friends was ALWAYS the man's fault.
@tedhursh7672
@tedhursh7672 8 ай бұрын
The one time I can remember taking control of my situation.....a woman I knew and liked for quite a time asked me out to a "company night" at Disneyland...when I picked her up, her first statement was, "I'm so glad you said yes, I asked 5 other guys who said no"......I calmly drove around the block, pulled back up in front of her house and informed her the date was over.......I don't care if I wasn't your first choice, just don't tell me about it........proudest moment in my life......
@LiberPater777
@LiberPater777 2 жыл бұрын
My half sister is "proud" of being a "b!tch". She "owns it". She's nearly 60, over 350lbs, smokes 3 packs of 100s a day, has no husband, no kids. She does have 5 cats however. She's destroyed every relationship she has to her actual family. She surrounds herself with human trash and people who exploit her. The one constant she's done throughout her entire life is create nothing but issues for those around her. My favorite quote from her is, "I can't be taught, because I refuse to learn." She's the embodiment of red flag.
@7oy
@7oy 2 жыл бұрын
Hence why she’s an overweight 60-year-old virgin.
@MC-rb5tf
@MC-rb5tf 2 жыл бұрын
Sounds like a nightmare…
@DavidMatias79
@DavidMatias79 2 жыл бұрын
That's sad
@Jay_88_
@Jay_88_ 2 жыл бұрын
@TheDoogieT 😂
@bananaemon2339
@bananaemon2339 2 жыл бұрын
Yr sis is a bro, sorry pal XD
@fearedgenius7020
@fearedgenius7020 2 жыл бұрын
I was involved in a five month relationship with a woman who had all these red flags. Talking to her was like attending an exorcism.
@edwardx4979
@edwardx4979 Жыл бұрын
Lol 😆! Really that bad, eh? Good job you got away from the devil...
@djmistatsoez750
@djmistatsoez750 Жыл бұрын
Lol same
@simonlusby6683
@simonlusby6683 Жыл бұрын
haha
@carsonrobinson3447
@carsonrobinson3447 Жыл бұрын
Yuck. I’m sorry dude.
@TheSnedmeister
@TheSnedmeister Жыл бұрын
😂
@VeitLehmann
@VeitLehmann Жыл бұрын
Now I know better why my marriage broke and couldn't have lasted. You are almost 100% describing my ex-wive. The only differences: She considered herself normal and me crazy, and she wouldn't talk over me, but she would reject my arguments in any discussion, get angry and shut down. Which goes in line with "I won't tell you what I want, you should know". Both of us had their issues. I saw mine, promised to work on them and often failed with this. But she didn't see hers. Too bad I can't leave her behind, we have kids...
@jasonx-ray3921
@jasonx-ray3921 Жыл бұрын
Still, there will come a day and you should slowly prepare for it. Daydream about it. Plan it carefully and find joy in it. Squirrel away money and valuables. Figure out what you are willing to leave behind and take with you. Most important, buy spy cameras and buy a watch that audio records conversations. These things saved my butt. You need to start stacking the divorce evidence in your favor now. Also, take notes of what happens in a journal. One other thing, through false claims by your soon to be ex, the court will likely send you to anger management counseling. Go to anger management counseling long before the divorce so she can't play that card on you. Talk to divorced men and find out what happened to them so you can be ready. Do all this because she is getting ready to do the same to you. And watch out for the traps and set-ups she is laying down for you to fail. They all do it. Trust me.
@johnsparks9641
@johnsparks9641 11 ай бұрын
Sounds like my situation. I am working on myself now.
@marguskiis7711
@marguskiis7711 11 ай бұрын
you was a horrible husband, I read
@davidmoskowitz1801
@davidmoskowitz1801 10 ай бұрын
Most Women want the man to change - but not themselves.
@kinetictheory9012
@kinetictheory9012 10 ай бұрын
​@marguskiis7711 you clearly can't read. Women are usually the problem in relationships.
@martinargota
@martinargota 2 жыл бұрын
When she only talks about her life and doesn't ask about yours. Run, you're wasting your time.
@CourtneyRyan
@CourtneyRyan 2 жыл бұрын
🙌🏼
@chucklombardo8167
@chucklombardo8167 2 жыл бұрын
@@CourtneyRyan do u thongs look gud on men courtney
@sunnyrawal656
@sunnyrawal656 2 жыл бұрын
@Oji Have fun being single then for the rest of your life
@elevateddave7310
@elevateddave7310 2 жыл бұрын
It's a clear indication that someone is a narcissist. Stay away from anyone that's that self centered.
@justinbrockwell8396
@justinbrockwell8396 2 жыл бұрын
Very true. And it's shocking how common this is too. If I ask questions (because I'm intrigued to get to know someone) it should be normal for them to reciprocate and be interested in knowing me back surely??
@EatLeadPal
@EatLeadPal 2 жыл бұрын
I'm 61 and, in my experience, most women have at least one of these, especially the mind reader one. Maybe I've met bad women all my life. I just don't trust my judgement when it comes to choosing women. It's why I quit dating 8 years ago and why I will never get married again.
@shotbytim9624
@shotbytim9624 2 жыл бұрын
As far as the mind reader thing is concerned, it's not so bad if she just accepts having made a mistake in predicting you. If she really invests a lot of energy in being angry about it, that's where the problem is.
@dickbanger8924
@dickbanger8924 2 жыл бұрын
Wise choice sir
@emanuelmota7217
@emanuelmota7217 2 жыл бұрын
I'm 64 and gave up dating about 8 years ago. I realized that I just don't have what the women I'm attracted to want, and I don't want the women I'm not attracted to. Good thing I've got pets and a hobby.
@katemiller7874
@katemiller7874 2 жыл бұрын
I thought that when I was younger then I matured and realized it after a very kind man told me.
@mudd8844
@mudd8844 2 жыл бұрын
Me either
@alexrowe9638
@alexrowe9638 6 ай бұрын
When first date is a job interview, constant questions about finances. When she hides her mobile, and her whereabouts, along with not responding or ignoring you most times. When she acts differently towards you when she is in crowds. When her parents are constantly fighting or insulting eachother or others. When she is almost always pinned to the phone. When she orders you around and tries to control your life. When she refuses to split bills or does any kind of work at the house. God im old, everything is a red flag now, and life is depressing.
@n1kolas801
@n1kolas801 5 ай бұрын
You just described my ex lol
@lahaina4791
@lahaina4791 3 ай бұрын
Very good list, thanks!
@an_omega_wolf
@an_omega_wolf 2 жыл бұрын
Honestly it's refreshing to hear a woman speak for true femininity and try to bridge the gap that currently exists. It's usually just men talking about it but we need both sexes involved to find a solution this current day problem. Thank you for all that you're doing
@an_omega_wolf
@an_omega_wolf 2 жыл бұрын
@IAlwayswin I feel you mate. I wouldn't blame women for it though because they're internally different from men. I just believe that we should respect both sexes equally and find a middle ground. If we don't, we're headed towards (technically already are in) a major crisis
@DrBoX89
@DrBoX89 2 жыл бұрын
I second this. It’s very refreshing and it’s nice to have your egalitarian viewpoint here.
@an_omega_wolf
@an_omega_wolf 2 жыл бұрын
@@DrBoX89 Thank you for your kind words. I appreciate it. My research work forces me to see things from both sides always so I have it to thank for the trait :)
@genestone4951
@genestone4951 2 жыл бұрын
Please don't fall for it. MEN are making plenty of great content on this topic. This is just a woman trying to monetize MGTOW/MRM. There's no reason to seek out a female for this type of content.
@Chavezoid
@Chavezoid 2 жыл бұрын
@@genestone4951 ...She's hot tho
@cisium1184
@cisium1184 2 жыл бұрын
I had an ex say, "It shouldn't be too much to expect to be treated like a queen!" Worse still, inside I thought, "OMG is she right? Am I doing it wrong?" 30 years and we're still happily married - just kidding, I think we broke up that week. 😁
@CourtneyRyan
@CourtneyRyan 2 жыл бұрын
💀 😂
@atifulislamasif7893
@atifulislamasif7893 2 жыл бұрын
You had me in the first half
@oscarmorales-cn3hz
@oscarmorales-cn3hz 2 жыл бұрын
30 years and we're still happily married... 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@laturista1000
@laturista1000 2 жыл бұрын
Red Flags Her: "I like being spoiled." "I'm used to a certain lifestyle." "I will not delete my bikini instagram pics." "I need more followers on my IG." "I like being pampered." "God will send me a good man." "I deserve this!" " #bossbitch "
@Chris-sl1wh
@Chris-sl1wh 2 жыл бұрын
Reading "Gawd will send me a good man" made milk spill out of my nose from laughter.🤭🤭🤭
@jameslyons4919
@jameslyons4919 8 ай бұрын
How about if she constantly criticizes and insults me. That should be a red flag.
@OleDiaBole
@OleDiaBole 6 ай бұрын
Hahahaha... Thank you for a good laugh. 😊
@b43xoit
@b43xoit 6 ай бұрын
Yes.
@josephstevens9888
@josephstevens9888 2 жыл бұрын
I dated a girl once who was fond of telling me, "if you REALLY like me, you would do this for me." I dropped her like a hot potato and never looked back! Keep up the good work Courtney - you're the best!
@marcmays48
@marcmays48 2 жыл бұрын
Respond with: "If you REALLY loved me... you wouldn't resort to emotional blackmail, and silly mind games." Sadly, I don't think that these women are self-aware enough to see the humor there... 😂
@ShadowbannedAccount
@ShadowbannedAccount 2 жыл бұрын
The gaslighting is amusing lmao.
@uaking21
@uaking21 2 жыл бұрын
My ex and I lived 2 and a half hours away. She told me if you loved me you would have moved here by now. Thank god I’m out
@jarretthardcastle83
@jarretthardcastle83 2 жыл бұрын
Classic attempt at control through manipulation.
@shotbytim9624
@shotbytim9624 2 жыл бұрын
That ultimatum is an immediate disqualifier
@jacob4287
@jacob4287 2 жыл бұрын
I once had a girl brag to me about how great she was about cutting people out of her life without caring at all, guess what happened to me, lol. Other notable red flags I've experienced include "I'm not friends with girls they're drama" -if they cannot make friends with their own gender, run. THEY are the drama. Being hot and cold, always take indecision/confusion as a no for your own sake. "I never apologize" is another big one. Everyone makes mistakes, but if you encounter a girl who is not willing to own up and recognize her mistakes, and properly apologize for them, run. Gaslighting and emotional abuse are also huge red flags that are unfortunately pretty common in women. Women who shame men for having emotions or try to challenge your manliness always show huge red flags. Gaslighting such as calling you crazy when calling out poor behavior or trying to humiliate you in public are huge red flags. Women tend to abuse more socially and emotionally than physically so it is important to recognize these signs early as red flags, or they'll come back to bite you. I've found that people usually will show you exactly who they are, we tend to just not want to see it when they are the opposite gender.
@pcguysoffgridcabin
@pcguysoffgridcabin Жыл бұрын
Al Bundy once said, Don't try to understand women. Women understand women and they hate each other.
@stevesyncox9893
@stevesyncox9893 Жыл бұрын
That is incredibly astute..
@thefuturekidsofficial
@thefuturekidsofficial Жыл бұрын
Yeah, girls cutting people from their lives, run as fast as you can
@jinpachibobochan3532
@jinpachibobochan3532 Жыл бұрын
Very true about girls who can't make friends with other girls. My exp is that they hang out with guys a lot since guys are easy to make friends with any girl that looks good enough, so to say, ignoring her flaws, etc. These girls sometimes have rather loose commitment abilities. Like, they have a boyfriend but are already on the lookout for a new one, etc. constantly trying to upgrade, stuff like that.
@mulungielijah1578
@mulungielijah1578 10 ай бұрын
This happened to me too, I didn't think it was a big deal and ya in the end she broke up with me. She tried to be friends with me because I think she was still attached to me, idk. I let her string me along for awhile and eventually I realised I wasn't healing and finally cut her off. I expected her to leave me alone but she started hanging out with my friends(which she didn't do even when we were together) all in an effort to get back in my life. She broke up and cut off all her exes so I wonder what made me different. She also has a hard time making friends with other girls.
@prod.prettyboy
@prod.prettyboy 10 ай бұрын
I just got out of a 3+ year relationship with a woman who portrayed all of these except #5. She always wanted her way. If I ever questioned what SHE wanted to do at any time, she’d erupt into full out crying screaming, telling me I’m a piece of sh*t a**hole, and much worse. I let that happen though, I had seen past her red flags for years. I wanted to fix her/grow with her long term but she only got worse. Every fight was my fault. even when she did something to upset me, I’d call her out for it, and then SHE’D get mad at ME because she didn’t know how to take accountability for her actions. Literally EVER. I’d have to pry an apology out of her (if one ever came out). It got to a point where I never told her how I felt in our relationship, every fight I kept quiet and apologized to her because I didn’t want to deal with more fighting/bullsh*t. It got to a point where I felt I was walking on eggshells just to talk to her. But again, I WAS part of the problem. I had a hard time providing for her, which is what she clearly wanted/needed in a man. My response was to work my ass off and make more money, to get us out of this situation. In return, I showed her close to no attention for months, If not years. I showed the attention I could, but again, I worked 15 hour days, 2 jobs, with a 3rd side hustle on the weekends/in between jobs just to crack maybe 2k a month. I struggled with finding decent paying job for a long time, and the two I had still payed minimal. We got worse because of these problems on both ends of the relationship. I relate to this video because these red flags came out within the first 6 months of dating, and I completely disregarded them, and she portrayed ALL of those listed above (almost). She was extremely immature, and never took accountability for any of her actions. To anyone reading this, let me save u years of time, and If you discover these red flags, whatever you do, DON’T avoid them. Don’t let your boundaries down for a woman. Long term, it will absolutely damage you as a man, humiliate you, and turn you into the worst version of yourself. I promise you. I loved this girl to death, even though she completely broke me inside. She did change me in many ways for the better, but the red flags far outweigh the green. Bottom line, men out there. If a woman portrays these red flags, confront them about it, and if they can’t own up to it/offer to work on it, you HAVE to walk away. Do not be afraid to walk away. Do not stay and let her eventually walk all over you, which will happen if you don’t deal with these red flags early. Just decided to rant here, haven’t spoke to almost anyone about my breakup, nor have ever been able to tell my ex about how I really feel without her erupting then me apologizing for how I feel. Thanks to anyone who read this, and I hope you can understand what the long term consequences of avoiding these red flags really can do to you as a man. Stay safe out here ❤
@patmiddleton3947
@patmiddleton3947 7 ай бұрын
I’m glad to hear that you finally got out of it.Hope you’re staying away and glad you’re getting it off your chest and not keeping it bottled up inside.Sorry you had to end up apologising for saying how you felt.Don’t fall into that one again will you,and hope you’re doing better now. God bless.👍
@andyhinds542
@andyhinds542 2 ай бұрын
It's funny how we ignore the warning signs because we are either desperate for a relationship to avoid being lonely, or we're too blinded by their physical attraction. I will never settle again.
@austron1077
@austron1077 2 ай бұрын
I hope you are doing ok
@Shah-of-the-Shinebox
@Shah-of-the-Shinebox 2 жыл бұрын
If a girl is constantly posting on tiktok, *that* is a red flag
@mrbill2600
@mrbill2600 Жыл бұрын
Obsession with social media is a red flag.
@randolphkersey5155
@randolphkersey5155 8 ай бұрын
@@mrbill2600 Exactly! If they go to CNN or facebook to get all of their opinions and marching orders AVOID.
@MrParallell
@MrParallell 6 ай бұрын
If a girl OWN a TikTok account.
@jameslyons4919
@jameslyons4919 6 ай бұрын
Lol
@andyhinds542
@andyhinds542 2 ай бұрын
Or selfies on any social media really. If she needs the adulation of thousands of strange men, then she doesn't need you.
@AmericanDuck
@AmericanDuck 2 жыл бұрын
My ex-wife buried all these things until we were married for a couple of years and then it all started surfacing slowly after our first child. It didn’t truly surface until our second child and then she figured out that it wasn’t about her all the time. It was real work and she didn’t like it. That higher standards for others was definitely there and the birthday needing to be for 1-2 weeks surfaced. Then it was vacations with her girlfriends and not family several times a year and her slow roll into 3rd wave feminism. All her friends had shit marriages while ours was stable. Rather, I was stable. I come from a family that values the sanctity of marriage in good and bad, so I stuck with it even though she changed drastically. I realized that with hindsight that her flags were buried when she was around me until it became too hard for her to disguise. If she had even one of them when we were dating, it would have been done immediately and I’m sure she knew that. I know men and women can sustain a certain amount of hiding themselves until they just can’t endure it. I would measure a woman, now that I’m almost 50, by the company they keep and for how long. Also, I would look at their family. I ignored that her mother was on her third marriage. When you grow up with three dads, then you might never learn that a husband is something you should fight to keep. Her father was an alcoholic, so how could she trust another man if her father was untrustworthy. When I was in my 20s I didn’t really understand how detrimental that could be to a woman’s mental health and expectation of men. It makes perfect sense now that we are divorced. Dedication, respect, unwavering trust, and loyalty mean nothing to someone that has never seen that growing up. She was not the right person although she played the part until life got hard. Red flags were there. I just needed to know how to get them to show. Thank you for helping men find them and make the right choices.
@wetcrow_com
@wetcrow_com 2 жыл бұрын
You are 100% right. I have ignored the red flags several flags, hence the term love is blind. If you go through this 3-4 times, then everyone thinks it is your fault. People do change after hiding their true self. I do not do that. I communicate my feelings from day one and expect the same from anyone I am involved in. Bad communication is a recipe for relationship failure.
@MortalThe
@MortalThe 2 жыл бұрын
Oh man, that is such a prove to that theory that: " women marry men hoping they will change , while men decide to marry a woman hoping that she will not change".
@daveg4417
@daveg4417 2 жыл бұрын
My ex-wife was a closet dating psycho woman as well. She changed right after we married though. When I confronted her about it, her exact words were "I acted that way during dating otherwise you wouldn't have married me.". Talk about crazy.
@AmericanDuck
@AmericanDuck 2 жыл бұрын
@@wetcrow_com yeah, I was totally ok with those flags back then. I didn’t realize how it damages people. I was naive about such things. Men are so lucky that they can share stories and learn from others. I’m sitting my son down when he’s 15 and covering all of this. He already sees his mother differently now that he lives without me in the house. I’ve said nothing, to not denigrate her, but he brings stories of frustration from her anger and drinking binges. It’s sad. I can’t make any moves to get primary custody unless she makes a major mistake. I hope she changes for my son’s sake.
@mrbill2600
@mrbill2600 Жыл бұрын
@@daveg4417 As she lied to you going into the marriage ... grounds for an annulment.
@krollpeter
@krollpeter 6 ай бұрын
The biggest and most important points are not mentioned: - If she criticizes you for insignificant issues frequently, which she never did before - If she talks negative to her friends about you, or even worse: to strangers - If she never appears to be happy or positive about things you do - If she often does not seem to listen to what you say, in particular when there are important issues ... run, run run. All these points have the same cause.
@grizzlymcgill4117
@grizzlymcgill4117 2 ай бұрын
what if she does all of these?
@krollpeter
@krollpeter 2 ай бұрын
@@grizzlymcgill4117 Divorce, or at least get out of her dark cloud as much as possible. Lead your life.
@alexlilano1931
@alexlilano1931 2 жыл бұрын
I wish I didn't ignore red flags. I used to believe that I can change a girl, but I cannot change a person who doesnt want to change.
@ryder8328
@ryder8328 2 жыл бұрын
You can't change a woman.
@alexlilano1931
@alexlilano1931 2 жыл бұрын
@@ryder8328 Probably the modt naive thing I used to believe is that I thought I can change her by just being nice to her.
@black_knight_offroad
@black_knight_offroad Жыл бұрын
You just can't change a girl. Or anyone. And expecting someone to want to is also a red flag for my own lack of self esteem. They are who they are. I now follow my intuition and live through my values of self respect and wisdom. They're guiding me well.
@LarryKippings
@LarryKippings Жыл бұрын
I’ve learnt the hard way that you can’t rescue/save/change anyone, and especially so when it comes to heavy drinking.
@birchgarden2238
@birchgarden2238 6 ай бұрын
You can change a person. It's just bloody hard. Often times people want to change, but they don't know how, in everyday life their everyday behaviour shines through as the expression of their very core. As long as you're not able to touch that core, nothing is gonna change. In order to reach this core, you have to navigate through a labyrinth full of traps and obstacles. It's a lot of hard work, which I don't think most are willing to put themselves through.
@nykia31
@nykia31 2 жыл бұрын
She talks about her astrological sign a lot. Nearly every time I've met a woman who is into astrological signs, it's to justify the lunacy in her own life.
@jboyd__
@jboyd__ 2 жыл бұрын
Facts lol
@magicalesquilax7232
@magicalesquilax7232 2 жыл бұрын
I can relate to this one. Hahaha so true.
@danielschaeffer1294
@danielschaeffer1294 2 жыл бұрын
It also shows she has no brain. Astrology is bunk.
@RandomHandleLol1738
@RandomHandleLol1738 2 жыл бұрын
Omg I ran over so many schoolchildren! I’m such a caprisun!
@micks9254
@micks9254 2 жыл бұрын
I laughed at that. So true
@GlennSyndallius
@GlennSyndallius Жыл бұрын
Thanks Courtney. Sometimes it's good to get reminders of the red flags from previous relationships - time heals old wounds, but then you start feeling nostalgic for that person and... well, yeah, this was a good reminder of some of the reasons why I ended it! The "talking over" thing was by far the worst, and this ex gaslighted me HARD. I didn't even know what that term was until I came across it months after we broke up. Appreciate the vid (and the reminders!)
@MrTonycoughlan
@MrTonycoughlan 2 жыл бұрын
I’ve commented on this lady’s videos before, and she’s excellent. Mature, clear, concise and helped me avoid difficult women in the past, thank you Courtney.
@CourtneyRyan
@CourtneyRyan 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for the kind comment! 🤍
@sofiyahayes
@sofiyahayes 2 жыл бұрын
i feeel personally attacked.
@Rick_Cleland
@Rick_Cleland 2 жыл бұрын
@@sofiyahayes 👀
@nightlord8756
@nightlord8756 2 жыл бұрын
@@sofiyahayes Wtf, your offended for something that wasn't even involving you, wth did you smoked !? 🙄🤨
@SmashBrosBrawl
@SmashBrosBrawl 2 жыл бұрын
Wooosh
@justinbrockwell8396
@justinbrockwell8396 2 жыл бұрын
I had a girl break up with me a few years ago, because I "wasn't man enough for her, because I wouldn't buy her a new car" This was coming from someone who cried about being too stressed out with working 4 hours a day, 3 days a week. I still wonder if she's managed to capture her perfect man😂
@williamsporing1500
@williamsporing1500 2 жыл бұрын
She did you a huge favor brother!
@justinbrockwell8396
@justinbrockwell8396 2 жыл бұрын
@@williamsporing1500 absolutely!
@SirEpifire
@SirEpifire 2 жыл бұрын
She'd have to beat her perfect man with a club in order to capture him.
@rmcneil1340
@rmcneil1340 2 жыл бұрын
Wow! Seriously? What's happening to my sex? God help us
@justinbrockwell8396
@justinbrockwell8396 2 жыл бұрын
@@rmcneil1340 no idea... can you please rectify?
@robpolaris7272
@robpolaris7272 5 ай бұрын
The best relationship I had was when I was 20-22. She was beautiful but didn’t seem to care at all. She was always so kind and appreciated anything I did for her She never expected anything and was just as happy going to a nice restaurant as she was just hanging out and talking. She was so genuine and giving to everyone around her. As happy as I was I didn’t fully appreciate how rare and special she was. It’s been 30 years and I literally think about her almost every day.
@sriramdasarathy9089
@sriramdasarathy9089 3 ай бұрын
Then why did you two end the relationship? Are you still in touch with her?
@nizzamp
@nizzamp 2 жыл бұрын
1. Your 'do in the thumbnail is LEGIT. 2. I have met the women you describe here and you are spot on. The birthday month thing, the calling themselves crazy, talking over/controlling/COMPETITIVE - YIKES. I run away and I run FAST. I have also found that once the first red flag is shown, it is inevitable that all of the rest come in short order. What I dig about your content is that nearly every vid you posts reaffirms that I am already doing, practicing and living what you say - before even watching them. Good to know I am on the right path as a man.
@CourtneyRyan
@CourtneyRyan 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Nathaniel! ❤️
@Illlium
@Illlium 2 жыл бұрын
I feel like point five of interrupting/finishing sentences is a bit misleading. There's no other way of gauging the pace of the prospective conversations and how else are you supposed to know how many of the same wavelengths you're catching with another person? Talking is a two-way street regardless of context.
@SgtLube818
@SgtLube818 2 жыл бұрын
@CourtneyRyan, @@Illlium I don't know if it's misleading or not, but the tone, context and phrasing go a long way with deciding if they are being rude or dismissive of what you're trying to say at the time, I feel like Courtney just wanted us to be aware of the negative aspects of it. I have a habit of finishing people's sentences sometimes. I try not verbally walk over people, but when I'm on the same wavelength with someone I tend to do it, more so if it's something we are both excited about.
@kalbic
@kalbic Жыл бұрын
Courtney, you must have met my ex girlfriend and took notes, she fit every red flag here. She made my life miserable, she was horrible. She broke up with me but I think she thought I would come running back to her, I ran so fast and I honestly felt better emotionally and physically. I was trapped and when she opened the door I couldn't get away fast enough.
@San-lh8us
@San-lh8us Жыл бұрын
honestly my dude, if you're ever with someone and realises ANY of these, just break up with them yourself, that was the last favor your ex did for you, get you rid of her
@Dustin86
@Dustin86 9 ай бұрын
You're saying the right things and seem genuine enough but so does most women until a person invests time in that person.
@nanfertiti
@nanfertiti 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for this, I’m a girl and didn’t realize I was guilty of some of these behaviours. Gladly not to an extreme but still I’ve made mistakes with these kind of things.
@wetcrow_com
@wetcrow_com 2 жыл бұрын
That reflects that you are a genuine person and always improving yourself. I always try to improve myself, knowing that I am not perfect either.
@omega0195
@omega0195 2 жыл бұрын
You need to fix yourself
@NA-ud6qm
@NA-ud6qm 2 жыл бұрын
Just want to say that Nana is a great anime. Great pfp.
@shaunwalsh85
@shaunwalsh85 2 жыл бұрын
Nobody is perfect, and kudos for recognizing negative behaviors. The real question is, are you gonna grow and move forward? Or are you gonna remain stagnant?
@tjongejongeman8153
@tjongejongeman8153 Жыл бұрын
You can make mistakes, and not be perfect, it is totally fine, what is most important is self awareness, and self reflection.
@randylee7166
@randylee7166 2 жыл бұрын
One more warning sign: If she drinks too much ...RUN! away from her
@LarryKippings
@LarryKippings Жыл бұрын
100% agree, this is the biggest red flag.
@michaeljeffery7466
@michaeljeffery7466 11 ай бұрын
​@@LarryKippingsIt's crazy because all women do this. I haven't met a woman that doesn't display atleast half of the Red-flags mentioned in this comments section.
@tholbrook422
@tholbrook422 9 ай бұрын
Glad I quit drinking
@ttv_chiefer
@ttv_chiefer 8 ай бұрын
Needed this.
@FlyingTigersKMT
@FlyingTigersKMT 7 ай бұрын
Not just drinking but lying or excusing or justifying it by saying it's only social drinking or I drink because you're here and I feel safe... ummm... yeah... I know you drink without me too because you drunk text me all the time.
@motoscro951
@motoscro951 6 ай бұрын
Meet your own expectations! I expect balance with physical appearance, financial responsibility, mental stability and spirituality. I hold myself to these standards, if you don’t have your act together I’m not interested.
@atifulislamasif7893
@atifulislamasif7893 2 жыл бұрын
0:14 - Princess/ Petulant Behavior 1:32 - Negative About Relationships 3:50 - Mind Reader Talk 4:48 - She Calls Herself "Crazy" 6:32 - Not what she says 8:20 - I Hate Men
@Mr.Dman117
@Mr.Dman117 2 жыл бұрын
I dated a woman whose mother coined the phrase "I hate all men". I never heard any details about her father (which is another red flag in my book). Thankfully I broke up with her before things got too serious.
@Mikexception
@Mikexception 2 жыл бұрын
You was lucky by breaking My ex was like this - she kept relations around only with ladies, there wasn't any good opinion about any known to us or her man included me and my familly with highest level of criticizm. After 22 years we divorced - if I knew more in begining... But she was suppresing it many years and only after many years when she felt stronger on her feet she "nicely" developed narcism too.
@aaronlavigne7677
@aaronlavigne7677 Ай бұрын
My sister is an "all men are trash" person and married into the same dynamic with my sister in law (I have zero issue with their relationship, to be clear). I tried to have balanced conversations and was treated poorly for years which has now led to significant distance between us. I know this is because of how negatively my mom has always spoken about my dad (who is not perfect, because no one is). It took me years to figure out that this wasn't normal, because that was all I grew up around. Definitely doing a lot of deep healing now to attract healthier relationships in my life now that I have created much more space from my biological family. Thank you for bringing this one up, Courtney!
@lookupthereupinthetrees9860
@lookupthereupinthetrees9860 Жыл бұрын
I was married to someone with all of these well defined red flags for 15 years. It's not a bad relationship, it's an exercise in not taking your own life on a daily basis because you feel like you couldn't bear to live without your kids, and that's the knife they quietly slide into you and twist, and no one else is aware that this is how the relationship operates, or can figure out why you're chronically depressed and anxious. I also know other men who are still in relationships with vvomen who tick all of these boxes. It's pure desperation.
@sko1beer
@sko1beer Жыл бұрын
Putting up with it for the children is every married man’s moto
@ernest1576
@ernest1576 Жыл бұрын
My hats off too you brother I wish you well as have done what your doing now my kids are all grown now but I know where your coming from
@lookupthereupinthetrees9860
@lookupthereupinthetrees9860 Жыл бұрын
@@ernest1576 cheers mate 👍
@Ratinevo
@Ratinevo Жыл бұрын
Man, I don’t know what to say.
@FullContactCoder
@FullContactCoder Жыл бұрын
I feel for you brother. I was also married for 15 years and it was soul crushing. My ex-wife had a very abusive childhood and suffered from so much trauma she never healed from. 10 years in, she was finally diagnosed with Bipolar disorder, and things marginally improved for a time. Only reason I stayed for so long was I couldn't bear to be without my kids, and even more so couldn't fathom leaving them with her and not being around to help shield them from her crazy making behavior. Been divorced for 12 years now, kids are grown and doing well and I see them regularly, They are really the only relationships I have at this stage in my life. I stopped dating a few years ago, as I refuse to put myself through that kind of anguish again, and it seems the dating pool is filled with self-absorbed women with loads of undealt with trauma.
@ChristianStefanovich
@ChristianStefanovich 2 жыл бұрын
Amazing content! Your insight is helping me navigate the dating world. I think another red flag is if she says to you: “if you want to see me again, we will go here instead.” Or, “if you want to see me again, you have to do this.” The ultimatums are a huge red flag, expressing narcissistic qualities. I’ve had this happen to me before. I took out a girl to dinner (third date) and she didn’t like the food at all. She made a big deal about the restaurant and told me that the food tasted like sand. Right there, I knew it was time to cut ties. Once the date was over, she said to me: “if you want to see me again, I’ll be picking the restaurant next time.” I internalized it for a bit, until I told her that I was done. No one should be disrespected when you’re putting your best foot forward, especially when it is getting to know someone.
@Introvertedalpha
@Introvertedalpha 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing your experience and insights!
@J1Z06
@J1Z06 2 жыл бұрын
CONTROL,CONTROL,CONTROL!!!
@ripace554
@ripace554 2 жыл бұрын
The ultimatums are shit tests. Not worth the effort it takes to pass them.
@EaglePlaneAnchor
@EaglePlaneAnchor 10 ай бұрын
She just threw basically every girl under the bus.
@Day-ou6jx
@Day-ou6jx 2 жыл бұрын
I just realized that since getting out of an extremely toxic relationship, I don't make it the only topic of conversation, but I have talked about my ex more than I should. Thank you for posting this video. It really opened up my eyes to some negative attributes that I have developed and need to change.
@jimmydelia8956
@jimmydelia8956 2 жыл бұрын
To be honest I wish I saw this video when I was younger haha. I had such low self esteem I stayed with a girl only for the reason of having a girlfriend. Now I have self respect and these videos are helping me get more confidence in myself. Thank you Courtney!!!
@MrR40388
@MrR40388 2 жыл бұрын
What has to stop is putting women on a pedestal just for being women. The reality is either a woman will be wife or whore. There is no middle ground.
@jimmydelia8956
@jimmydelia8956 2 жыл бұрын
@@MrR40388 Not quite and very disrespectful. I am just saying when I have a relationship with a woman I demand respect and compassion. Thats it !
@barryrahn5957
@barryrahn5957 2 ай бұрын
I went on a date with an older woman. She was 36 and I was 21 or 22. We went out to lunch and pretty much the whole lunch it was negative after negative,whether ex's or just life in general. I felt like I was swallowing poison. When it was over, she dropped me off and asked if I would like to go out and I said no. She looked a bit shocked and asked why not and I said something like I didn't think there was much of a connection. If you're going out with the right person, everything just clicks and the conversation takes care of itself.
@4everhealthwellness344
@4everhealthwellness344 2 жыл бұрын
Omg this hits close to home. I'm a divorced 47 year old guy. Since 2017 I've had 5 girlfriends, that I all met on dating sites, 4 out of 5 was Tinder and the 5th Bumble. All of them were so SOOO toxic yet seemed great in the beginning. I relate to EVERY point you made. Thank you for making this content because there's millions it seems, of videos warning women about toxic guys in the dating scene and being a man I can admit there's a lot of douchebags, but there's a lot of us quality men too. My question is: if a woman isn't directly talking in general terms negatively about men per se, but, she very overemphasizes how great and awesome women are, is that basically the same thing as misandrist speech and attitudes? A woman I was dating earlier in the spring who I'm not with anymore (because of all the red flags) on our first date when we were hanging out at her house and talking about music and watching KZbin on her big screen TV kept going to these ' "I am woman, hear me roar" songs and clips, one in particular was by a Mongolian instrumental band called the Hu with guest singer Lizzie Hale from Halestorm called "A Woman's Song" I am not misogynist in the slightest but I actually found the song kinda offensive because the lyrics were stating that only women have admirable traits. But moreso my ex girlfriend's reaction to it, she was singing along and her commentary was like "yeah in Mongolia women are in charge and never disrespected" I nicely made the reply and questioned "well shouldn't it also be not cool to disrespect a man?" She just shrugged that off and I remember ar the time getting the clear feeling she had contempt for men
@singlechristiancowboy
@singlechristiancowboy 2 жыл бұрын
Courtney- "No one is a mind reader and the girl you're with shouldn't expect you to be one either." Me-. AMEN, THANK YOU AND YESSSSS MA'AM!
@fcfdroid
@fcfdroid 6 ай бұрын
She's absolutely right! I used to talk to a girl who literally said "if a woman kills the husband or abuses him it's the man's fault because he triggered her in some way." Yeahhhh i told her she was toxic and dipped...😶‍🌫️
@will_Iam61
@will_Iam61 2 жыл бұрын
You are spot on with your list and if even one guy hears this and heeds your advice, he will save himself a lifetime of hurt. I should know, I have been married to a woman like this for almost 30 years and wasn't secure enough in myself to walk away when just about every one of your red flags manifested itself. I hope a lot of guys watch this and take it to heart.
@theDarven
@theDarven 2 жыл бұрын
Hey, I interrupt because grew up in a big household and we had to fight to be heard. Always ask! People like me don't do it on purpose!!
@biasedknowledge
@biasedknowledge 3 ай бұрын
Courtney, this video really hits home, especially when you touched on the 'princess behavior'! It reminds me of the entitlement bias, where some people, men and women alike, believe they deserve special treatment simply because of who they are or how they see themselves. I know someone who struggled with this in their relationship-constantly feeling unappreciated because their partner demanded endless attention and gifts, yet never reciprocated. It’s so true that this mindset is a huge red flag for long-term compatibility
@pabloespinal125
@pabloespinal125 2 жыл бұрын
I've been on dates/dated women that do all these things. At first I used to judge them but now I just wish them well and move on. Great video thanks for posting!
@charles1412
@charles1412 2 жыл бұрын
I feel that when someone who is raised in a strict home finds freedom, they over compensate and either go crazy or try to control everything because they lacked power. Just my observation from living with a lot of these.
@mitus296
@mitus296 Жыл бұрын
That's very true
@AnneB1101
@AnneB1101 6 ай бұрын
AMEN on the talking over you ~ goes both directions. My narc hubs completes my sentences. He started do it because per him "we're just on the same wavelength and we can complete each others' thoughts and sentences and shit." Nevermind that he always managed to complete mine wrong...and I was busy listening to him rather than completing HIS sentences.... Anyhow...men do this too, and I agree it's a red flag whether it's a man OR a woman doing it. On your second point though, negativity. I'm sensitive to my own experience with someone who would likely be diagnosed with NPD if you could get him to get evaluated.... I think we need to be VERY careful red flagging someone b/c they talk poorly about their ex...or their family. Many people that are married to a narc...were led into being married to said narc by narc mums and dads. Or at BEST they considered narc behavior normal because it's what they always knew at home. I'm sensitive to what can turn into victim blaming in this case... Honestly, my husband brought me to the altar fraudulently, pretending to be someone he was not. Were there red flags? Of course. Why didn't I notice them? I was young and inexperienced...never had practice with men, and my narc mom was more worried about her convenience than providing me guidance. I followed all the "wise" advice of my elders at church (BEING the right person is more important than finding the right person, dance with the one that brought you, you will GROW to love him, ignore your emotions and use your brain ~ if he ticks the boxes, he's the one). And you know what? It turned out for shit. I was gaslit into a shell of who I had been prior to the marriage. My kids were used against me, my finances were wasted without my knowledge, my family and friends were turned against me...and I'm NOT supposed to say bad things about my narc hubs? What the hell AM I supposed to say, when asked? I mean, I can admit to being a bit batshit when lied to... I can admit to not having the man-skills to know I was disrespecting him in man-think when I was merely trying to be open and helpful (and I've changed now that I have a better understanding of man-think...I learned about it and get it now...and even empathize with men's challenges with women (!) ). So I've gotten skills and knowledge and changed my behavior, and it's worked with new men. The thing is this old one, the narc? Well he's been a liar since before he had need to lie. The only time I've ever responded poorly to him is when he's been lying or sneaking....not bad news. I've not given him a reason to fear bringing me bad news...I've been supportive and complimentary of his handling of situations...and also stated my concerns honestly and lovingly. HE'D even admit that (and he can say almost nothing good about me these days). SO. NO reason for him to lie, but he does anyway. He has since before we were married...though he hid it until after we'd been married nearly half a year. And he's been lying ever since. In SPITE of the fact I've given him no reason to lie. I feel manipulated, defrauded, and taken/ used by this man. He stopped touching me 10 years ago. He's used the cops, CPS, and psychiatric professionals to abuse me and put the kids in the middle of things. He's spent all the money I saved (for US, not for me alone) when I worked...he did this w/o my knowledge while representing to me that he was not. LYING, again. What the hell do I say about this situation? Any my mom...she is his ardent supporter and flying monkey, because I was the firstborn scapegoat. Like Esau. Because Jacob have I loved, but Esau have I hated. Over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over again she dwelt on this when I was little. So...I'm not sure how I'm supposed to say anything authentically nice about my narc hubs and narc mom. That said, I don't put people down a ton, I'm a woman that's not intimidated by being friends with prettier women (I tend to be the less attractive one most of the time...and from what I can tell by men's responses to me recently I AM quite attractive or alluring or something), I tend to be accepting (so much so that people assume I'm lib and a hippie when I'm not), I connect with people everywhere, my kids can tell me anything ~ BUT are well-behaved. Anyhow. Just wanted to say...THIS red flag may actually be a very legit thing. It may NOT be a red flag at all. It may be truly someone who was abused. DId I have fault? Of course, there were things I could have done better. Did I give it my all? 100%. Have I learned and improved since then? YES. Just not sure what to say to people I date about this whole mess. Because I have a narc hubs and mum...I am red flagged forever, or so it feels. And once the divorce is final, I'll have that baggage to add to it. Divorcee. Something I never thought I'd be, because I took ALL the good, wise advice and meant my vows (otherwise I'd have left as soon as the lie happened, not still be attached to his loser almost 30 years later). So anyhow. HELP!!!! PS ~ That said, it's the only one of the red flags that really hit home for me. PLEASE help me understand how to navigate this one.
@testosteronemastery
@testosteronemastery 2 жыл бұрын
… And #7: if she says anything other than “general kenobi” when you break the ice with “hello there”
@TheHighKirk
@TheHighKirk 2 жыл бұрын
I have ignored or justified a few of these warning signs in the past. My (now) ex-wife turned out to have undiagnosed Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) which made the relationship extremely unstable, I would not recommend it. What I would recommend is if at anytime the relationship feels bad or wrong than it's time to 'nope' on out of there. Life is too short to waste it on someone who is only looking for the next sugar-daddy or whipping boy.
@ntal5859
@ntal5859 Жыл бұрын
My ex said to me "All women are crazy we(women) just put on a veneer of sanity" ... As a man I took this as gospel as there are no truer words ever said by a woman.
@josephcoffman2441
@josephcoffman2441 7 ай бұрын
It is true. 99.999% of women are Batshit Crazy.
@justicemoody
@justicemoody 6 ай бұрын
My sister once told me…. “Chicks are so fucked-up… and I’m one of them.”
@harmoniousandtranquilhannah
@harmoniousandtranquilhannah 2 жыл бұрын
hi courtney! i’m not a guy, but i wanted to watch this video to see if i unintentionally showed these red flags as a woman. the only two i had was that i used to be a “mind reader” when not all guys knew what i wanted in our relationship and talking about my ex and comparing them to my ex when they’re two different people. talking negatively about the past and other people and calling it “venting” definitely wears out and ruins relationships so i learned not to expect guys to be so perfect when i haven’t communicated my wants with them nor worked on myself first. thank you so much for sharing!! i think this video would help out other women too to prevent damage in relationships :)
@antonboludo8886
@antonboludo8886 2 жыл бұрын
Lots of people, both men and women, still throw temper tantrums and act like infants. My mother and her mother were like this, so was my mother's brother as well as my own brother. It is a trait from my mother's side of the family. Luckily I do not have it myself. All of this applies to both genders, of course. Your choice of friends often says a lot about you.
@charlied8882
@charlied8882 2 жыл бұрын
In suspended adolescence
@antonboludo8886
@antonboludo8886 2 жыл бұрын
@@charlied8882 In my parents' case they were both in suspended childhood.
@gabogabo6487
@gabogabo6487 10 ай бұрын
For the longest time I always thought these were red flags, but felt like I "wasn't allowed" to call them red flags out of social pressure and pressure from the women in my life that actually are like this, so I'm glad to see a woman point these things out, I dont feel like an asshole for calling it how I see it anymore, very affirming, thank you
@tubewayarmy2
@tubewayarmy2 2 жыл бұрын
I was once chatting up a girl who came out with, "so many men, so little time". I said, "good luck with that", made an excuse that I had to be somewhere else, and left.
@vincentcantelm4992
@vincentcantelm4992 2 жыл бұрын
I had a woman say to me on a date that “I use to hate all men.” Then later on another date she said “I have a hard time trusting men and is the reason why I haven’t been more open.” This was and wasn’t a red flag to me. I was happy she was being honest, but she was carrying negativity from what I can only assume her past relationships that she wasn’t healed from yet. Maybe some sort of trauma from a past relationship.
@dian277
@dian277 Жыл бұрын
for some women it's not trauma, it's what they heard from other women's trauma, and crimes some men did to some women. It's a bad habit to assume everything to be from past trauma
@sleepytimeshecomes
@sleepytimeshecomes Жыл бұрын
my ex posted on FB that I was expecting her to be my valentine just because we're dating and that I haven't asked her yet. I personally think she was fishing for attention from other guys. I went ahead and asked her but I shouldn't have to see what she would have done. either way I ended up dumped her a couple months later after she was displaying signs of cheating, her behavior said it all.
@brent4073
@brent4073 2 жыл бұрын
The 'All men are trash' thing is pretty clear cut crazy. My exwife had all these signs. Even as a divorced guy, I know there are good women out there, just need to learn from it and not marry crazy.
@LatimusChadimus
@LatimusChadimus 2 жыл бұрын
Next time you hear that I triple dog dare you to ask the girl if she is a dumpster because trash goes in and out of her all the time
@improvisedsurvival5967
@improvisedsurvival5967 2 жыл бұрын
My ex didn’t say men are trash but she did blame me for things not going her way even though I had nothing to do with it. She refused to take responsibility for things she did. 🚩watch for this
@Michevell
@Michevell 2 жыл бұрын
Who else is a female that’s on here to make sure you don’t say any of these things? Lol i like these videos because it keeps yourself in check because all of us can fall into bad habits. The only one I can say I do is the interrupting sometimes but I’ve gotten way better, it was an anxiety/excitement thing for me. And I honestly hate when women do all these things too especially when they say “men are trash” pa-lease 🙄😒
@CourtneyRyan
@CourtneyRyan 2 жыл бұрын
Lol, I love it! Honestly making these videos helps keep me in check too 😂 I used to be horrible at interrupting as well and it was for the same reason. None of us are perfect! Being willing to grow and make an effort is a green flag in my book 😇 thanks for commenting, Michelle!
@AnneB1101
@AnneB1101 6 ай бұрын
Mine is talking bad about my narc hubs. ?? Well, there's not much good to say about him. Did I make mistakes? Yes. Have I learned from them? Yes. Have I made an effort to grow and improve myself? In men's eyes? Yes. Has it been effective? Appears so. That said, I did NOT deserve to be defrauded and abused emotionally (gaslighting, triangulation, bullying) and financially (he wasted my entire savings w/o my knowledge after bullying me into letting him "be the man and the finance guy"). Did I go batshit when he lied? Yes, I'll admit that. But did I when he made a mistake? HELL no. I was supportive and complimentary...even HE would say so. Yet he lied and snuck anyhow. He as a compulsive lying problem that came to light only after we were married (we dated for 18 months...6 months long-distance so 12 months local). SO...yes we should avoid this stuff, as women. But (a) I'm really not sure how to address my situation with men. And (b) I think that if we hit one of the six...but not the other five...maybe some benefit of the doubt is in order. Shit DOES happen...sometimes situations suck and while maybe with skills/ experience the woman could have been better, she was still invested and doing her best. And to be fair (and I would say this BOTH directions), sometimes the man is not accepting / or is judgmental (I'll say, I don't think this applies often...but it CAN). Anyhow. My $0.02. :-)
@ZekielFialho
@ZekielFialho Жыл бұрын
Wow, where you been all my life Courtney? If I'd heard this 13 years ago I could have avoided so much trouble and loss. Lol. About fell out of my chair listening to it. Recently divorced, and she has a hard legit four of the six red flags and one of the remaining two is debatable. I subscribed immediately and starting my journey listening to more of your content. Thank you so much.
@LaneTheBrane
@LaneTheBrane 2 жыл бұрын
A customer at my work came in and announced to everyone in earshot that it was her birthday, and everyone, present company excluded, became really nice and complimentary toward her, and she just kept glaring at me with contempt and scorn, because how dare I not give her attention on her birthday....smh....people desperately need to embrace their humility and get over themselves! Thanks for the info, Courtney! You're totally an 11! 👍
@randygyver
@randygyver Жыл бұрын
The honesty here is fantastic. She absolutely had me laughing with the "run" when a girl tells you that she's crazy. I love it....because it's true!
@ModernDatingMastery
@ModernDatingMastery Ай бұрын
*Recognizing these red flags, such as constant negativity or dismissive comments about the future, can save a lot of heartache down the line.*
@StillWaterLife
@StillWaterLife 2 жыл бұрын
This is fantastic information Courtney, especially coming from a woman. One thing that I would love to see addressed more from therapists and other experts like you who talk about relationship issues, red flags and personality disorders on KZbin is the distinction on inappropriate behavior at the beginning of a relationship vs in a committed relationship (common-law or married). I have an Ex who within 7 days of our first date she told me she was in love with me. 9 days after we met she introduced me to her Special Needs kids, who were almost 18 and had seen many guys come and go. Within a month she was pushing me to move in. I cut her a LOT of slack because of the situations she was dealing with. The romance, passion and chemistry between us was off the charts. Many of her behaviors were aggressively manipulative and controlling because I was playing the savior and chose to go down the rabbit hole with her. That's on me. But my point is some of her behaviors and expectations would be normal if they were at an appropriate stage in the relationship, not within a few weeks or a month! As I said I would love you to do videos on how to DEVELOP a healthy, conscious, balanced relationship, understanding that everyone is different and the pace isn't written in stone. I think for education, some sort of guidelines could be very useful though!!
@robertlogan3421
@robertlogan3421 Жыл бұрын
I was catching up on the bud light controversy going on and this video played next and I really was so impressed, yet very refreshed to be hearing a woman talking about warning signs on bad women. This was AWESOME! And Courtney Ryan you are more than AWESOME to do this video. A wholehearted thank you sharing this
@Gk2003m
@Gk2003m 7 ай бұрын
I knew a gal some years ago who, when talking about her history, said of her ex-husband “he bought me a house!” NO, he did not buy YOU a house. He bought a house for the two of you; he bought ‘us’ a house.
@RandomUser25122
@RandomUser25122 7 ай бұрын
Yeah but she probably got all of the house after they split, so she was right in the end
@syndicatedsatellite7288
@syndicatedsatellite7288 2 жыл бұрын
I once ran into one woman that said all men are pedophiles and that she has a stalker... Her mother also pretended to be her online... She also had an unusually involved relationship with her brothers girlfriend... Pretty crazy...
@improvisedsurvival5967
@improvisedsurvival5967 2 жыл бұрын
Run
@danieljacobs4064
@danieljacobs4064 2 жыл бұрын
Just got out of a short relationship with a girl that had so many red flags but we had such a connection i literally just ignored them. My gut was screaming at me that it wasnt a good idea to be with her. On the first date she talked poorly about all her exes and most of her work collegues (but she was in the middle of switching jobs so i thought that the stress might just be overbearing) she overshared intimate details of her past friends and exs and when i asked her why she does it and that i didnt want to hear it she turned it around on me. She had a hairline trigger and could be set off at any moment 6 weeks in and she was already doing a lot of the narcassistic punishment/deflecting/deniability and i already felt like i was on eggshells with her. The last straw was when i called her out for doing something shady she played dumb, acting like she had no idea wut i was talking about, i held my ground, she minimized, so i called it right then and there. I know I am a contributing factor as i still struggle to communicate clearly and patiently when I need to talk about something. Tbh i felt like i needed to keep working on myself because of the whole experience. It was a shame too because there was so much potential there. When i told her i needed to work on me more and couldnt continue with her she immediately cussed me out and blocked me on all forms of contact and that was it. But i am grateful for the experience because I can see how i failed to hold my ground and apologised for things i didnt do, also i can get pretty worked up too, not anything out of the ordinary, but i gotta learn how to be in control of my emotions more. I need someone who knows how to communicate and knows how to agree to disagree
@Avenger_XYZ
@Avenger_XYZ Жыл бұрын
Wall of text
@OLDPEDOJOE
@OLDPEDOJOE Жыл бұрын
She was sent to you for a reason, glad you learned that valuable lesson.
@werightnow
@werightnow Жыл бұрын
Dont let their behavior shift your own belief about yourself. Narcissistic gals cant be foxed so it's not your "bad" to make good on. You did the best you could with a toxic peraon. High 5 bro
@karlludwigsenmusic982
@karlludwigsenmusic982 10 ай бұрын
Narcissists are good at love bombing and pulling you in creating a horrible conflict within yourself
@Wolf-Man88
@Wolf-Man88 Жыл бұрын
A lot of points you mentioned were in my last relationship. We were never able to have open and honest conversations without it becoming an argument, she would always talk over me and finish my sentences even though that wasn't what I was going to say and wouldn't let me say what I was actually going to say. I couldn't be vulnerable with her or even honest so I admit that I resorted to lying or witholding information to avoid conflict. There were some good times, but overall a difficult relationship that I learnt a lot from. Thank you for your video 🙏
@spikyporc5871
@spikyporc5871 2 жыл бұрын
I learned this the hard. I had a girl in my life who was super important to me and I gave her everything for a year. I thought nothing of her comments about her family, house mates, past friends. I thought she was kidding when she said how horrible men were. I thought her princess behaviour was endearing. She ended up ghosting me and I still don't know why. I'm still trying to get over it.
@tcyroger
@tcyroger 2 жыл бұрын
My marriage of 11 years with 2 young kids ended this year because of certain things I would do that I had no idea was bothering her. "I shouldn't have had to tell you" was pretty much her response to when she finally told me what was wrong. She let it build up to the point where she was over it without ever giving me a chance to correct my behavior. Crazy thing is, there wasn't one thing that I couldn't have stopped doing pretty easily had she told me she didn't like it. But I was expected to know without knowing. And not putting it all on her. I can see how negative my actions were now. I was wrong for doing them.
@borneoman8574
@borneoman8574 2 жыл бұрын
Great insights, Roger. I can relate completely. If I had had a clear idea of my mistakes, I would have corrected them. I came out of my marriage realizing the importance of ultimatums. Let me know when I'm acting irresponsibly/immaturely/selfishly/etc. "or else," and I'll make sure that behavior stops pronto.
@georgelampron9541
@georgelampron9541 Жыл бұрын
@@borneoman8574 you were not dealing with an adult!
@jla7147
@jla7147 Жыл бұрын
I just left a 4 month relationship with a woman and here are a few things she did that this video touchs on. She talked about her negative relationships, how women are better than men and I should have known that she liked white roses after I sent her 24 long stem Red roses. She hated her job, boss, most coworkers and clients as well and was always complaing about work.
@paulsanjurjo4390
@paulsanjurjo4390 2 жыл бұрын
I was dating a woman who was trying to talk over me while we were having a disagreement about a year ago. When she tried doing that, I simply hung up on her and that was the end of it. I spoke to my friend who is a licensed psychologist and said everything that occurred between us to get his professional opinion of her months after I stopped seeing her. His professional diagnosis was that she has a borderline personality disorder. Whew, I dodged a bullet!
@businessmail1176
@businessmail1176 9 ай бұрын
ADHD Anxiety BPD Excited or immature and disrespecful
@Foxarocious
@Foxarocious 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much for this video! I've been messing with someone who love-bombs me for awhile and then gives me very little to no time of day or communication when I'm finally "hooked" And she has said 5 out of the 6 things in your list 🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️ so now it's my responsibility to get away as fast as possible! Again, thanks so much. I have to do some real self-reflection as to why I would be attracted to someone like that
@octavianr526
@octavianr526 11 ай бұрын
You are explaining very well, in each video, what situations are or are not within the discussed issue. Reading the situation is very important. You are also very warm and smooth in wording everything
@bernarddouthit4647
@bernarddouthit4647 Жыл бұрын
Courtney - thank you for making this. I was recently dating someone who had #2, #5 and #6. She would complain about how nearly all men were obtuse and sexist, but then she would talk over me and often dismiss my opinions. When I take a step back I realize that most of this behavior was driven by insecurities she has. I know it’s not my job to fix her, but I wish I would have called her out in a kind, but teasing type way. She would talk about toxic men. I feel like the word toxic is overused. What does it mean to you in reference to men or women - people who have so many issues they will drag you down?
@25TheCaveMan
@25TheCaveMan 2 жыл бұрын
A toxic person, is a toxic person, regardless of gender and these red flags can be applied to anyone. I think they mostly point to insecurities people have within themselves and are manifested outwardly in different ways. It's a good list, so take note people and work on insecurity issues within yourself for the betterment of all, I am.
@MrTripcore
@MrTripcore 6 ай бұрын
1. Healing journey 2. High vibration 3. Light worker 4. Positive/negative energy 5. Grounding 6. Empath
@Criner05
@Criner05 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for mentioning the mind reader! I hate it when women expect men to know/do things.
@believedragons_
@believedragons_ 2 жыл бұрын
I noticed a red flag on my 2nd date with a girl I was really vibing with. I don't remember the exact words but it was something along the lines of, "I'm never wrong, just misinformed." It was a daddy issue thing and she basically needed to be the best and on top, getting A's in her classes. And funny enough, I saw it in action at the end of the date. I was giving her directions to the take the right train but she was so sure she was heading in the right direction, she didn't listen to me until she noticed she was wrong. I noticed when she realized and told her, "I'm not trying to prove you wrong, just trying to help you." She said, "I was just misinformed!" I was dumbfounded.
@roninaround6450
@roninaround6450 2 жыл бұрын
Sounds like you missed a "Narcissist Bullet"...
@dan0664
@dan0664 2 жыл бұрын
Yeah she was not wrong.. She was Super wrong..so, yeah she had a point dude. Wtf wrong with you? 😅😅
@AliHashmi87
@AliHashmi87 2 жыл бұрын
She was misinformed that she is always right 😂
@Phantom-ez4zv
@Phantom-ez4zv 2 жыл бұрын
Lol you a cool dude for the thing you told her at the end , if she was cool she would just go with the flow after you said that
@MrMan-ol4ic
@MrMan-ol4ic 2 жыл бұрын
LMAO 🤣
@ghostbusterstony7317
@ghostbusterstony7317 Жыл бұрын
I once had a friend who said to me one time, that she looked up to her sister “for leading men on and breaking their hearts” it didn’t occur to me that is exactly what she did to me. I still hate that chick for that
@joelabella750
@joelabella750 2 жыл бұрын
The Last date and relationship I had was back in 1987 and I became a full Red Pill/MGTOW practitioner 3 years later and never looked back. I never had ANY problems with opposite sex anymore since going my own way and I became completely indifferent towards them and it was the best thing that happened to me.
@stephanea5364
@stephanea5364 2 жыл бұрын
You're not indifferent, you're here watching content about that topic.
@lordofgingers
@lordofgingers 2 жыл бұрын
@@stephanea5364 deep down i suspect only the men that go fully off grid minimalist and keep human interaction to a minimum are 100% dead serious about the position of going their own way. Many who subscribe to MGTOW deep down lament the absence of the companionship we naturally want, but they either lose the desire to keep trying to obtain it or they just conclude logically that the costs are too high while emotionally, they are empty. Though an incel would argue that the marketplace was never selling the product the man was looking for in the first place. Kept under lock and key for the desirables only. Hence the term MSTOW that goes around in those circles. You can't walk away from something that was never on the table to begin with they would say. In sum, whether or not a man is legit about his position in MGTOW is irrelevant insofar as what others like us have to say about it. That type of choice is personal. It's between the man and himself. And only he really knows deep down if he means what he says and says what he means or if he's just deluding himself on why he's REALLY in the boat he's in. That's his hill to climb. His battle to fight.
@MRbubblegunner
@MRbubblegunner 2 жыл бұрын
@@stephanea5364 that's an in your face moment. Holy cow.
@Criner05
@Criner05 2 жыл бұрын
So is your motto "All women are bitches?"
@carlford2137
@carlford2137 2 жыл бұрын
There are good women out there and being fair there is a lot of bad men. Hating all women because of what some women have done to you is wrong. Nothing wrong with not dating but hating peoples is wrong
@Alexlivingloud
@Alexlivingloud 2 жыл бұрын
It seems the more videos I watch from you the more you make me realized how “toxic” my previous relationship was. Also how much all those bad habits or red flags are being normalized, thanks to social media.
@borneoman8574
@borneoman8574 2 жыл бұрын
Excellent observation! I hope Courtney expands on it.
@bioganja
@bioganja Жыл бұрын
when a woman is disrespectful (even playfully) or crosses a boundary and tells you to "get over it"
@taritheapothecary
@taritheapothecary 2 жыл бұрын
I was married to someone like this for 7 years, her family is like this too with a big divorce history. Been separated for 3 months and my health is returning but it’s still not easy sharing a child. I have faith =)
@zohaibsheikh5459
@zohaibsheikh5459 Жыл бұрын
DUDE ! we are in a same boat ... :( its killing me from inside ...what to do ? what is your strategy , I had also been married for same time 5 years ..but I am divorced now ..what to do ? please ..there is no one I can share to know what needs to be done ..lets talk ..waiting
@taritheapothecary
@taritheapothecary Жыл бұрын
@@zohaibsheikh5459 only talk about your kids and never react or give unnecessary information. Anything else will be used against you.
@zohaibsheikh5459
@zohaibsheikh5459 Жыл бұрын
@@taritheapothecary dude , I want my family back , she kind of agree with me that she is like that ..but she confesses that she is always like that because in her family, she says that this is the way she grew up ... actually its her mom who is a big problem ...and I scold her mom and her whole family ..so now she said if I made my relationship better with her mom and brothers and accept them as who they are and meet them some times she will come back and try to change her life ..but her family never wants to sit with me and answer my questions of why they have done this .
@jasonj87
@jasonj87 2 жыл бұрын
Im practically protecting myself by having my empathy protecting what I want my life to be. I practically learning how to be happy without having a relationship. People will come and go. but yet being kind is good thing to give without having any expectation.
@jamesmorris9120
@jamesmorris9120 Жыл бұрын
Ex wife constantly interrupted and finished my sentences in ways that never crossed my mind. Always spinning into a negative. I simply couldn’t say anything nice without being interrupted mid-sentence with a negative spin. And forget about correcting her statement and telling her she’s being rude. That just makes it worse!
@rasalcool4413
@rasalcool4413 2 жыл бұрын
I used to know a girl that would say "guys are so dumb". I think this falls in the same category as "all men are trash". It's generalizing a whole gender and shows that they don't respect men. I've also met women who would say that "all girls are crazy" and think that their toxic behaviors were normal. My encounters with women who think this way were not pleasant.
@AnneB1101
@AnneB1101 6 ай бұрын
I was saying to my sons today...that I think men and women miss each other in certain aspects. So many women expect men to act like girlfriends and feel neglected when they act like men instead. I'm sure it goes the opposite direction as well. Had I listened to the well-meaning advice of the majority of my girlfriends, who only wanted the best for me, I'd have thrown away one of the most awesome relationships with a wonderful man. But I had to learn to accept him for who he was...accept that he may never be as responsive as I want him to be...but he asked questions, was trying, and showed his care in so many subtle ways. My gf's didn't like him because he wasn't showy enough...he wasn't obvious. But I'll take him over a histrionic any day. He is my peace; he as taught me about grace, patience, forgiveness, perseverance, hope, and faith. And I want to be all this for him. We miss each other. I've heard it said that women see men as badly-behaving women, and men see women as badly-behaving men. When really, we're truly 2 different creatures. We MISS each other. Girls are NOT dumb; men are NOT trash. We miss each other. :-)
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