CPTSD & Relationships

[@dancing0nthe3dge]

It feels selfish for me to voice my dreams, my hopes, my vulnerabilities... Because "even though you tell me that I'm not a burden, I don't think you truly mean it."

[@tealhearts5455]

I thought that was just me

[@mytinyw0rld]

Same same 😢

[@karencoburn9221]

nobody really cares anyway... if your dreams are too off the charts they look at ya cross-eyed . express your feelings and oh you shouldn't feel that way/ overreacting...

[@zofiajaneczek184]

Well, if you had a parent actually tell you that you're a burden throughout your life, for years, that makes things even more difficult. My dreams, hopes, wishes were not that important because I was also told repeatedly that children from poor families don't get the option or choice to live their dreams and they must take whatever they can get. The impact of those two are monumental in my life, it affects how I interact with people to my seeming inability to acquire employment that is sufficient to actually live.

[@bricelittle9829]

Woah that comment just opened up some stuff for me and now I understand why I can’t find the words to say what I’m trying to say here

[@BookWorm2369]

my shoulders dropped at those first two things. its so hard to navigate this world and other people all by yourself 😢

[@hshfyugaewfjkKS]

Your videos are so helpful. I would be so grateful if you could do a video on what is normal sharing versus oversharing. On top of trauma I moved every year so my social skills were awful and I was bullied at school. I feel awkward socially even when I do try to interact with people cuz I never know if I'm being appropriate in what I share (iver sharing too mamy feely things) hogging the conversation, or not being vulnerable enough and asking them too many questions. Hope that makes sense.

[@aestheticpoet7130]

my gf is suffering through the same but she refused to teach me how to love her tho i really love her sm

[@mendingmandy869]

You're so beautiful. Also thank you so much. This describes me to a T. Relationships are so up and down and I hate how intense my emotions are. I don't share these emotions but I've been trying to with my husband without getting too dysregulated. I just wish in the midst of this intense emotion (usually anger) I could see grey and not black and white. Example: that person hurt me and this anger is too intense. Maybe I should distance myself for a while. What I want to think: that person hurt me. It hurt. They were stressed and didn't mean to. I should put down this boundary next time. The anger just is all consuming :(

[@tarynrowe5067]

👍

[@ngoodman5340]

I had to run to privacy and ugly cry after seeing this

[@emilysmith2965]

Not me crying in my apartment… earned my sub though, thank you for doing what you’re doing

[@TheNovemberRose]

Not me either... crying in my apartment.... nope, not me...

[@phbolil]

Not me crying in my car at a gas station, then seeing this comment and remembering: ... I'm not as "terminally unique" as I thought/felt I was! It's pretty wild being able to connect to people emotionally through the comment section of a random, YT shorts video

[@aussiemom3559]

Thank you for truly understanding. Had a therapist do major damage by dx me with BPD and actually treated me as my parents had- I believe she had countertransference going on… I finally found someone else who was trauma based from the beginning. Identified my CPTSD and ADHD then helped get grounded. Still a long way to go…

[@GOD.WINS.777]

You are right. Its hard though because every time you are finally vulnerable with someone, they almost always betray you so then you suspect the next will betray you too, and it ruins what might have been a great relationship. Then u next move onto the next person and cycle happens all over again

[@jasonfitzpatrick414]

I've seen this happen to a couple of girls at work. They were friends, then something happened, and now they don't talk. I would like to be the vessel that brings them back together. One of them really needs the other person in their life.

[@blossomx1804]

I was vulnerable, and they let me down despite knowing my trauma...just packed on the trauma.

[@WeareallonewithCreator]

I express my needs over and over and people just abandoned me because it's easier than giving their time. I've had to learn to not express them anymore and stay quiet so as to not be let down.

[@MegV777]

THIS 😢

[@nicoleleann8776]

Beautifully put. You’re an angel :)

[@elysegambino1597]

Keep this content coming, you’re describing me exactly.

[@jasonfitzpatrick414]

Spot on. I think the woman I love is experiencing this, and i certainly am on the spectrum. I long for her to come to me and we grow together. I miss her every minute. I can't fix her. I can only care until she realizes I am the light of the world she seeks and my spirit exists to envelope her in love. I'm not a martyr. I'm just ready for the person I see within her, shy, beautiful, fighting for her place in the world, and I just wonder if the universe will put the pieces in place. It is such a tough time, I just want something to happen, but I don't know how to do it.

[@a.k.3110]

Thank you so much for your work. It is really helpful for me. Alone hearing words for stuff going on inside me i have dealt alone with and never got words for is so organising and connecting. I appreciate your work.

[@HispanicApachemiwok777]

Yea, I'm definitely those two. I trust people who I think I can trust which turn out I can't. I fear anyone could betray me at any moment. I hate it and sometimes it makes me really sad. It's not fair to the other person. I rulled out romatic relationships for myself as I see it as just a strategy to manipulate me.

[@GOD.WINS.777]

For real. Me too brother

[@superhappy2880]

Thank you Dr. Kim. You remind me of my therapist who also specializes in CPTSD. You are both amazing humans helping us out here who don’t understand what we are dealing with. ❤❤❤❤❤

[@devonspeaks93]

She has such a calming voice.That’s why when I need to understand something from a psychological perspective, I come straight to her channel.

[@Nevernow721]

Go to a therapist instead of watching KZbin videos.

[@csc8697]

I've opened up to people, not even the whole story. Usually they leave.

[@Davebro38]

Thank you so much. It was very hard for me to vulnerable but i did it with the wrong person, in the end she used it all against me to cut me down.😢

[@elinorehansson-boe7282]

Thank you 💖Working on my vulnerability 🙏In trauma therapy 🤗

[@KeyBoard-io8nl]

Thank you that would be so helpful! I really resonate with you, thank you.

[@morgzwhitby]

Well that one hit home... ❤ Gosh forming new relationships is hard. Prayers up for all the other cptsd peeps who had a damaging family and it hard to trust and be vulnerable with people again.. we can be, and we'll get there. Loveyas ❤❤

[@TheNovemberRose]

[@Muchaspass]

Wishing You A Beautiful Day Beautiful as your spirit

[@user-lc8qs1pb3y]

Wow thank you. Thank God for you.

[@iamjoyt]

Thank you! I really enjoy your content. It’s so helpful.

[@scott-ft4in]

the 1st and 2nd are hitting me now, I think. I've been struggling taking a cybersecurity lab .. I'm scared. I have 4 tries, the first one I ran out of time now anxious and scared that I can't do it. I always felt like the dumb one and I was not supposed to succeed . My role was just get a job because I can never reach for greater things. I think the silence toward me growing up and no positive reinforcement makes me freeze up in tight situations. In the end , it comes down to me pushing past it, not listening to the script in my head. Struggling with that part

[@Isa_puggy]

Over the years I’ve learned to trust people more but it’s still like I have a barrier in for sertain people

[@stangreen4134]

My Trauma is so complex that I still obviously love my mom, step pop and dad but I like them and treat them well when I see them but it’s a super dysfunctional family all 3 sides. My remember around 6 of 7 years old I started praying for God to erase me from existence. It’s still really hard but My Son and I are about 3 weeks from High school. I won custody of my son when he was 6, unfortunately his mother installed some terrible behavior of not respecting me, not to believe anything I say because I am an idiot and just genuinely treated my like trash herself etc, etc. It’s been really tough but we’re here. Sorry for the rant

[@Jay10.13]

I have one way it’s affected me. Every fiber and existence of my being. Thers nocoming back.

[@openyourheartnow5631]

thank you. you are presenting such meaningful and important information.

[@kevintheoculus2428]

That is impossible...sigh... and yes I have CPTSD.

[@Rhonda_girl_11]

I'm trying to learn how to do number 2, as authentically as I possibly can. It's more difficult than I ever imagined.

[@williamrussell2353]

It's hard to find a confidant. Many thought i was exaggerating, making a mountain out a mole hill. But I have reconnted with two old friends from high school. They saw me being awkward and confused back then. They don't use my vulnerabilities against me now.

[@Cocod73]

Thank you 🙏

[@song8777]

Very difficult to do.

[@jerryholbrook13]

Cptsd is hell I'm married to a lady with this. Are relationship was ruined partly because of it sadly.

[@telepathicmagicshop]

The scared little girl in me never healed. It’s causing problems but I’m working MY way out.

[@BigHeartNoBS]

Oh wow this hits home. Thank you ❤

[@sayedero]

Even the word "vulnerable" makes me want to puke - I need help 😥😥 - do you have a course for this

[@yms4355]

Thank you.

[@Cat54867]

Yep.

[@Jennifer-di4nl]

Thanks for that video. Much needed

[@michaelleal1657]

Vulnerability is a weakness in my eyes

[@AmyF.1977]

I’d like to address needs and wants. How do we know which is which?? And same with other people in our lives like our spouse or children. Which are needs? Which are wants?

[@kid-ava]

thank you❤❤

[@MrSpotlightrecordz]

Interesting and true.

[@BEARMEATCRAYON]

Thanks for sharing I am just starting

[@hollyjay3628]

I’m so tired of being told what my problem is but no solid solutions. I feel helpless.

[@dadou8998]

Thank you it's helpful

[@shivanshtomar8596]

If we wanted to heal CPTSD the fastest way (not to rush it, but the most direct way) how should we go about it?

[@user-dd8xp7bg2d]

🍄🍄🍄🍄🍄

[@sixthsenseamelia4695]

Hopes and dreams? What are they?

[@Sam-_-]

💯

[@DB.CorvusRonin]

😳 so true 😮

[@bricelittle9829]

Ok so how do I do it

[@WhisperingEcho33]

My husband cannot grasp my cptsd and my symptoms. What do I do? I shared this video....

[@blessed7927]

But with safe people who are actually FOR YOU. Not just anyone who will “put up with you.” I hope you speak on the parameters of safe people. How to recognize etc. Also how to be a safe person to attract the right friends

[@tiffytoo]

Everyone gets pissed at me.caz my episodes. I get hypervigilant and i argue for whats right and cant stop. I hateeeeee corruption and cant keep my mouth shut. I have severe CPTSD. Im fkn miserable i want help im spiraling and im so angry im sick of this shit.

[@kns6958]

God, have I never felt so seen.

[@yoyomaxx9847]

The first need is that somebody remains with us. That and second one don't exist together

[@Melissa-Sue]

Are CPTSD: capable of both cognitive and affective empathy?

[@jcpolititalk378]

Explaining your emotional experiences without trying to react to them

[@charlottemckenzie5259]

This :)

[@AlitaAvenger]

🙏

[@baldersn4474]

Dating a gf with ptsd : When it's good its lovely , but when it's bad its a nuclear filled paranoid war where you cant say or do anything right !!

[@BadgerBabyBoy]

I can’t trust myself at this stage

[@patrickgrogan9203]

the 4th way is we make videos in our car

[@RonLarhz]

No fkin way. Every time when I'm vulnerable, i get fked over. The world can go eat shyt.

[@Jonathan-eh9jq]

Yea been abused since a little kid. But what do you do when you find out that your not the person who you think you are. Yea you find out that you were adopted and find out that your birth mother gave you another birth name and certificate and it ain’t the lying English name that the adopted parents gave you. 48 years of lies deceit and bull. I’ve changed my name back to the strong Irish name, Thank God I’m not English and no longer related to the scum that abused me in every way you can possibly think of Long live Ireland been 3 times and my ❤ is in Ireland.

[@kateroonie8324]

I never voice any hopes or dreams only personal trauma and how i dont trust anyone. Very interesting