Crazy Entitled Bridezillas That Went TOO FAR - REACTION

[@pixietwitch]

My mom used to babysit a boy, years ago. She started with him just a few weeks after he had been born. She watched him almost daily until he was through middle school. He thought so much of her, and cherished her as if she were his own grandmother. He came to visit us to announce to her, personally, that he was getting married and wanted to make sure she was at his wedding. My husband drove us the 8 hours to where the wedding would be and I took my mom to that wedding. I pushed her in her wheelchair (she was 80 and could hardly walk at all anymore) and got her a nice, shady spot at the venue and we enjoyed the wedding so much. She passed less than 3 months later, and he came to her memorial. That is how much your life should be touched.

[@delilahbelle2125]

And now I'm crying 😭 That's a lovely story. 💜

[@pixietwitch]

@@delilahbelle2125 Thank you.

[@riahlove94]

Oh, and there are the tears. That's so lovely

[@a.j.9797]

That is so sweet!💕

[@jamesA18]

A heartwarming story. Thank you for sharing this ❤🙏

[@crystalpolice]

My grandfather with Alzheimers attended my wedding. My mom asked him if he knew who was getting married, and he replied, "No, but she sure is beautiful." I tear up still thinking about that. He's no longer with us, and I cherish those photos with him in them.

[@carolnacarato4448]

Aww that's so sweet

[@downhomesunset]

@@carolnacarato4448 And sad at the same time. Alzheimer’s is a total bitch and I hope that they find a cure soon! My grandma on my dad’s side was the only one left; she didn’t see my wedding because she couldn’t travel, but she watched the video and cried happy tears. She loved to be 91 and was sharp as a tack until the last day of her life.

[@juliefisk8066]

What a beautiful story. Brought tears to my eyes. I worked with Alzheimer's patients for many years. My mother in law was diagnosed with cancer in October of 2021 after a couple of falls and her early stage Alzheimer's just kinda took off from there. It was hard to watch, even though I knew all the rules, it's always different when it's you and your family. She eventually forgot she had cancer and died peacefully on 12/31/2021. We made sure she was with us on Thanksgiving and Christmas. Christmas was difficult, she could barely walk and didn't know where was, but we knew! I couldn't image not having her there. It was a little sad, but we were all glad she was there. It was worth it, every second!

[@caffeinatedkatie4696]

That's so sweet! Stop cutting onions damnit!!

[@Just-Nikki]

I’m genuinely crying reading that. What a beautiful memory to carry with you though.

[@cindyhancock6034]

My father with Alzheimer's attended his grandsons wedding. He even walked up the aisle with a granddaughter on each arm. We made sure the venue had a wheelchair for him and included his caregiver in the wedding. He may not have remembered it a few months later but he had a wonderful time that evening.

[@markharrisllb]

When our wedding was arranged my mother had quite advanced Lewy Bodies Dementia. We arranged for her to come with two carers and my daughters to keep an eye on her etc. Unfortunately she didn’t make it, but I still bought her the traditional flowers which went to where her ashes are and we toasted her. My sister took her place at the top table and my brother took my father's place.

[@LazyIRanch]

All the guests at that wedding will forever remember that beautiful moment, and the love that grandson has for his beloved grandfather. Isn't that a better way to be remembered than by one's pettiness? I had a dear friend I met in AA many years ago named Linda. She was lovely, had an infectious laugh that immediately drew me in. I would literally have sore ribs after spending a day with her from laughing so much. She was sponsor to many women who came to AA when their lives were in ruins. She taught her "baby drunks" how to really live and have WAY more fun without alcohol! Sadly, Linda had terminal cancer and was near the end when one of her "baby drunks" asked her to be her Maid of Honor. Linda refused at first, because she had no hair and her skin looked purplish and she "didn't want to ruin the wedding photos". The bride said "Nonsense!" and she hired a professional artist to paint beautiful flowers with Swarovski crystals on Linda's bald head, and do her make-up to perfection. Linda looked gorgeous, and her husband cried when he saw his own beautiful bride of 30+ years smiling and happy. Linda was the belle of the ball that day, and the young bride could not have been happier about that. Linda passed a few weeks later, and her husband used her beautiful photo from that wedding on the funeral program. He treasured that photo, it was her last "good" day. I know she felt awfully sick, but she wasn't going to let cancer steal that joyous day. I have that sweet pic saved on my computer so I can look at it when I'm feeling down. I swear, I can still hear her bubbly laughter!

[@questionmark9819]

That's a caring family O. P. somethings we do for the ones we love and that's lovely lovely that there was help

[@junecleaver8868]

I think it all depends on the person. My mother wasn’t able to do even that.

[@cl1ntrj]

Most important is the grandson has the memories forever

[@dramaticdog337]

i'm glad some people realized the problem wasn't the dress itself. Too many people completely missed the point and brushed it of as a petty girl fight over a dress and said "she didn't have a right to claim a dress to herself" but that wasn't the problem. The problem was that her friend had discussed her wedding plans with her and specifically told her which dress she wanted. The the first bride looked at many other dress and decided to pick exactly the one her friend told her she was planning on buying. The object in question doesn't matte. It's the intention. Her excuse makes not sense either, she seriously going to act like she tried so many dresses on and none of them looked good except that one ? How convenient.

[@carolprince16]

This. I went and found the actual thread on Reddit and all the NTAs just baffled me. Sure, you don't call dibs on a dress and sure, you can wear whatever you want, but I think a lot of those redditors seem to miss the "courtesy" element. You just don't do that to a friend. Like feelings and emotions do matter. They're dismissing the friend's feelings as being petty and I just don't understand that.

[@nyandoesthings]

@@carolprince16 I've noticed sometimes on AITA people totally miss the point, like I've seen several that say something like "well it's totally legal, so NTA", they didn't ask about if it was legal, they asked if they were being a jerk? Not always that exactly, but always the same thing of totally missing the point of it

[@carolprince16]

​@@nyandoesthings Exactly, the law doesn't preclude you from doing a lot of things - but a lot of adult life isn't about that. It's also about taking people's feelings and relationships into consideration when the situation actually calls for it. The AITA subreddit has kind of lost that nuance - or it never really had it in the first place. Things may be legal, but that doesn't make people any less of a jerk.

[@calico_queen8976]

Exactly. Also 'she tried it on a whim' then decided that it was the perfect wedding dress for her when her friend told her that was what she wanted? For all we know, the friend could've been saving up for the dress but couldn't afford it at that time...

[@KayKay114]

It was basically, a "fuck you, I don't care what you want, I'm first. So fuck off and don't be offended because I'M FIRST." It's so gross she threw away that person like that just to please her own self. Too much selfishness these first world societies are developing. REAL community is missing!

[@sarahwatson3192]

The thing about the grandmother with Alzheimer’s is tricky and so badly worded. It depends what stage of Alzheimer’s we’re talking, because honestly in the end stages it’s absolutely the worst idea to take family members out of their care homes. I’m saying this as someone who would have loved to have all my grandparents at my wedding when I get married but in reality 3/5 grandparents have passed at this point, and one of them did pass away from Alzheimer’s. In the last year of his life my grandfather didn’t even know who he was anymore, the decision was made that Christmas to take him out his care home for the day so we could celebrate a last Christmas together and he didn’t know what was going on, where he was or who we were. When he was brought back he was confused he ran away in the middle of the night and was found a few hours later in the snow without any shoes on and still lost in his head. This was in Canada, and honestly I still think that night led to his death only a few months later. So it’s very much a case to case basis and sometimes leaving people with Alzheimer’s in their homes is the best thing to do. You can go visit them after or before the wedding, have a lunch with them tell them about it and even show them pictures or videos because pictures and videos last forever, but their memories don’t. It’s a very hard thing to explain to anyone who hasn’t lived through losing a family member to a degenerative brain disease like that.

[@helixxia9320]

i agree here very much

[@glorialange6446]

I agree 100% depends on how severe/ advanced. My gramma died of ALZHEIMERS, and its a sad fact that at some point a strict routine will be their only stability and comfort.

[@AW-xc1xc]

It's incredibly hard, but sometimes the best you can do is not bring them. My grandma would have been so incredibly anxious and worried to be taken out of her home and "neighborhood" to people she didn't remember knowing. When I had a big event, I visited her after with pictures and told her everything. For most dementia patients, it would feel like they were there. I had a lovely time with her, but I knew I made the right decision because she had a smile on her face the entire time, something that would vanish every time she didn't recognize her surroundings. It's hard to explain how their mind works to someone who doesn't know.

[@liss2503]

My grandma had Alzheimer’s and attending my wedding. She had a caregiver sitting with her. As my father walked me down the isle grandma started to shake her head. She kept repeating “ It’s not going to work, it’s not going to work. The care giver asked her why. Grandma said, He (my dad) is marrying someone too young. 🤣 The caregiver had to explain that I (her granddaughter) is the one getting married. It’s been almost thirty years and grandma is gone now. It’s one of my most cherished memories of her.

[@moste5921]

First i was horrified, but this ist Gold. Im into tears right now...

[@Jessica-bo9kz]

hahahaha that is precious

[@LazyIRanch]

That's adorable! See? When elderly are excluded from weddings, we miss out on precious memories!

[@lynnyhen]

I love that your memories of that day are cherished! You are an awesome granddaughter!

[@danielleking262]

That's adorable. ❤️❤️❤️

[@beckinevison-smith1025]

Since I learnt that people with Alzheimer's or dementia might not remember situations, but can remember emotions, it has changed my whole attitude towards such folk. They may not remember you, but they can remember how you made them feel. Therefore, just be nice, people.

[@Pandy879]

My son and I moved in with my best friend's mom to help take care of his grandmother who had Alzheimers, and I had experience taking care of a loved one with it. My friend's mother told me on many occasions, that my and my son's names were the only 2 she consistently remembered. Not her daughter, who got visibly and audibly frustrated while dealing with her, not her grandchildren who barely interacted with her... But me and my son, who she met at a better time when her mind was still sharp as a tack, and who treated her with patience and like an effing princess (she didn't wanna be Queen lol) because she was still human. She passed last summer, but even when her mind and body were failing her, my son and I still got to create some amazing memories

[@wjtjcolman]

my Grandfather was best man for my son , He was 98 . he was so proud to be asked to be included in such an amazing way . Grandpa fell two months latter and passed away due to complications after hip surgery . Treasure our family while we can

[@kirakiraclover7050]

I LOVE the tiktok of that girl saying a bride could be called a bridezilla for just expressing any opinion on her wedding day. Sometimes, if women show any kind of negative emotion, they’re considered unreasonable. For many people, a wedding day only happens once. I don’t think it’s unreasonable for them to want it to go smoothly, especially if they’d been planning it for a long time.

[@stefany2024]

The point is: not all of them consider the fine line between all the things you've said and being disrespectful, mean, spoiled, and really unreasonable. That's a Bridezella, not just a woman giving her righteous opinions, or being upset by something that she has the right to be upset.

[@pinningformichigan8120]

I think you have to be realistic, too. I told myself, "There will be at least ONE thing that is going to go wrong on your wedding day, don't make a big deal out of it." Mine was that the traffic detained almost all our groomsmen until the last minute. When they weren't showing, I started switching up the processional arrangement but they filed in.

[@elizabethangell9610]

I had my grandmother with dementia at my wedding and wouldn’t have had it any other way! I paid the caregiver to also come to my wedding to help her get ready in the morning and look out for her for the day. It was 100% worth it… she had a heart attack 3 days later and passed a month after. I’m grateful every day that she made it to my wedding.

[@alira9990]

I did community service at a retirement home and had to work with an elderly man with Alzheimer's. Most of the time he just sat mumbling to himself but if I turned on Frank Sinatra and pulled out a deck of cards we could play crib for close to an hour. And he beat me a lot of the time. But then it would take over again. I don't know how many times a day I had to introduce myself to him but each time he had a big smile and shook my hand. Always a gentleman. I am so happy that I had done that early in my life because my father had dementia and it helped me to help him. Sadly the old man passed away a couple of years after I left the retirement home. And even worse was watching my father go from a huge man of 6'5" and 265lbs with a smartass mouth, a quick wit, and a man who broke out into song randomly to a skeleton with skin on it and a total blank stare laying in a hospital bed. his last words to to my eldest daughter when he said, "Congrats on your new daughter." The thing is she wasn't pregnant at that time. 5 months later and he passed away. 1 month before he passed my daughter announced to the family she was pregnant with a baby girl. Sorry. The talk of Alzheimer's/dementia always makes me think of my Pa. Love you Miss Charlotte. Thanks for being a part of my day each day

[@davidguidry657]

🥺

[@InteriorDesignStudent]

My grandmother (dementia) also made eerie statements that ended up being true. One time I told her I was pregnant, and she said, "I know."

[@Winry101]

Recently, a friend of mine told me her family debated having their grandfather attend her brother's wedding due to health risks. He passed away about a month later. All things considered, I think they're all happy he did go to the wedding. Definitely should cherish those close to you while they're still here.

[@TheWiseOne8687]

My grandfather passed away 2 weeks ago. My wedding is in a month. I’d give anything to have him there. I had my first fitting and all I could think was he wouldn’t be there

[@MusicLoverMN]

@TheHappyChaplain: I completely agree. I was planning my wedding around my grandpa because of his health issues etc. But he died before I got married. All of my grandparents are dead. It really sucks and it is really sad. I was super close with my grandpa. It broke my heart when he died. I hate that he's gone and that he won't see me get married etc.

[@UsernamesForDummies]

I find the one with the Alzheimer’s quite tricky, to be honest. It really depends on the level of Alzheimer’s they have. Some patients are really scared and upset in unfamiliar situations and locations. In that case, I wouldn’t want my grandparent there either. I have to stress though, that it wouldn’t be because of me and my enjoyment of the wedding, but because of my grandparent. I wouldn’t want to stress them out. I know, in this post that’s not what it’s about. It’s about the convenience and ego of the bride and groom.

[@Lovinia1]

She said she wanted to go. Take her home if she gets agitated

[@taylorsmith4005]

Thats what I was thinking too! If grandma was at a point where leaving her home or care facikty was too stressful, then that would be wrong to make her go, but if she's able to attend even just the ceremony then let her! There's still a part of her that will be glad she could come :) o think this bride was more worried about the aesthetic then the person

[@Jamgirlkay84]

My grandma had it and it made her more than disruptive……she would literally forget who people were and try to attack them. Even when she was in her 90s….she was ready to fight anybody.

[@tinysailor]

I was thinking this too. My grandfather has Alzheimer’s and I really understand their point, because I’ve really seen him go from 0 - 100 real quick and so many things can go wrong. My grandma, father side, also has Dementia, not as bad as my Grandpa but it still can be hard. I don’t think people really understand how difficult and stressful situations like these can be unless they’re in it.

[@spicynoodles2742]

Yes, I think the same, my grandmother had Alzheimer, years before she died, sometimes she was just depressed because she didn't know many people at parties, and not everyone could take care of her at everymoment of the party, wich didn't help, I also remember that she got tired very quickly, and would star doing tamtrums like a little girl, it was difficult. I just cant' blame them for no wanting someting like that happened in their wedding, is something difficult and sad to see and experience.

[@janellwomack9567]

My nana passed when I was a little girl. My grandpa was a hard man to all the cousins except me (I was the youngest of all the cousins). I married a soldier, and had my grandpa there. My wedding was the year he started getting dementia and was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. As he started to decline in the years after my wedding, whenever he had moments of clarity he would ask my mom (who he thought was my Nana) “is Sunshine still married to the soldier? He’s a good man for her.” Sunshine was my Nanas nickname for me. It always warmed my heart knowing that he got to meet my husband and share my wedding day with us.

[@lmelville6533]

We run a catering company and once had a bride cancel. Why? Because she THOUGHT he was going to propose....and he didn't. She had literally booked the venue, bartenders, DJ, caterers (us), photographer, and bought the dress and a bunch of centerpieces/decor. She had paid deposits on everything as well...had the whole wedding planned, all in the HOPES that he would propose! Slightly crazy bridezillaish behavior but I also felt really bad for her. 😢

[@wheatstonebridge]

Wow thats really sad. Cant buy love unfortunately

[@arianebolt1575]

Yikes on bikes. Even if he intended to propose, doesn't he get a say in his own wedding?

[@StillPooh62]

Tip of the day: NEVER share things like favorite wedding dresses, baby names, etc. 🤦🏻‍♀️ However, bridesmaid was engaged but not actually planning a wedding, and dresses are seasonal. If you wait too long, they WILL be gone.

[@_Fizel_]

Yeah with the dresses it's such a landslide because of seasonality. That's why it's recommended to have a style you like, not a specific dress. Though she's still a b-word and bad friend. Also not everyone screams out 'I'M WEDDING PLANNING HERE'S EXACTLY WHAT WE ARE DOING' to even their friends. Friend could have been planning and it just not very far (as dress is one of the first things you should get) or just didn't want to talk about it yet.

[@daniellestates246]

Totally agree!! Just don’t share those super takable things. My sisters bestie stole her baby names.

[@Wednesdaywoe1975]

Has everyone forgotten people used to share and pass down dresses?

[@pearlofthedarkage]

@GayJim H I googled that. Thanks. LOL

[@titian-red]

Dresses are only semi-seasonal. Many dresses can carry over not only from season to season, but year to year. However, new dresses are introduced each season while the lowest-selling dresses from previous seasons will be discontinued. If a dress is a top seller, you can bet the company won't want to miss out on prospective sales by discontinuing after only one season.

[@mandeliongardens]

I’m so sad that so many people in our society have elevated engagements and weddings in importance above MARRIAGE. It’s the relationship that matters, not the wedding. To each their own, but I kind of feel sorry for those who feel every event in their life has to be a giant production. (Says the intense introvert who vehemently dislikes being the center of attention.)

[@yourmom2189]

Yes!!! I 1000% agree with you! And I also wouldn’t care if a friend had everything exactly the same in their wedding as mine. Like who cares?!?! It’s about spending a special day with the people who love and support you.

[@mpblack2127]

I hear so many brides say "they want to feel like a princess". You know what my husband made me feel like a princess. I didn't care about the wedding, I let my mom make many of the choices. (It was a quick wedding, super casual and I lived several hours away. I did pick out plenty of stuff, but for example I didn't care what the filler on the bouquets were and my mom had a floral license and knew what was in season and what we could easily get. Besides, what if the friend hadn't tried on the dress yet and when she did, she hated it? What if it looked horrible on the friend. And sometimes you can't tell if people are wearing the same gown or if it is just similar. Depending on their body shapes it could even be flattering to both and look completely different on them. Also an extreme introvert though.

[@JamieM470]

It's really weird to me. On their birthday, young women these days wear a tiara and a birthday sash--to stores & restaurants. Grown women. Then when they get married, they want to be queen for the day, with all eyes on them and their subjects catering to their every whim, and if anything "spoils" their vision of the royal production or takes any attention away from them, they throw a hissy fit. Grown women. I truly believe it's arrested development. Women these days seem to behave like spoiled, entitled, precocious children. I feel like men should see these things as big red flags.

[@cynthiarogers3178]

@@JamieM470 I didn't act like a Bridezilla But I sure felt the feelings. So Many things to get done & No one wanting to help is VERY STRESSFUL.

[@silververnallbells191]

When love marriage is recent in history? When importance has been placed on importance OVER the marriage throughout history? Giving a flip what happens to women in marriage is RECENT. Check out how OK it was to abuse your wife into the 60s & 70s. A wedding is a communal occasion. A marriage is no one else's business.

[@joreyn7656]

That totally sucks for the grandparents to be blanket excluded from the wedding. I was thrilled that my husbands elderly grandma was able to make it to our wedding.

[@imperviousdonut]

Also the caregivers just can't up and leave the grandparents at home alone with no one to watch them. Did you catch that part? I just don't understand how that couple didn't think it through clearly enough

[@pennPi]

And how hurtful for the grandparents to be shown wedding photos they were excluded from. The couple sounds so incredibly selfish. They clearly don’t value family. Wonder how they’ll turn out as parents?

[@badpatrickstar]

as a caregiver who works with elderly clients, i can tell you the literal number 1 thing they ask is to be part of their family's big moments. a lot of the time they dont remember, but the picture proving they were there gives them so much joy it is worth it. i i also do not have grandparents and it kills me inside to hear this is what real people say. if they only knew how much their elderly family members cling to those pictures and moments.

[@jodilynn9514]

I got called a bridezilla because I got mad someone dumped a drink down the front of my dress, and was left in the dance floor, SOAKED in vodka and orange juice. But this was after this same person stepped on my train and ripped it as my husband and I walked down the aisle after the ceremony. She HAD to catch up to us for some reason. 😳

[@TEWMUCH]

Sounds like u had a hater baby. Sorry thst happened to u and ppl made u out to be the mean girl.

[@missys.3038]

Yeah that sounds like that was on purpose. Were you called a bridezilla by that same person?

[@jodilynn9514]

@@missys.3038 yes I was 😬

[@MidnightAndLuna]

@@missys.3038I agree! That seemed like it was on purpose. And then gaslighting her by calling her a bridezilla on top of that.

[@MidnightAndLuna]

@@jodilynn9514I’m sorry that happened to you!

[@fshs6187]

My moms parents practically raised me. They passed when I was young-ish, 12 for my grandfather, 16 for my grandmother. I would have absolutely loved for them to have been at my wedding. If I could have just had them there to meet my husband and my now children in return for not having a wedding at all I would have agreed without hesitation. I miss them so much.

[@questionmark9819]

Oh gosh, you too eh? I too have had a very similar upbringing and the thought of the remaining grandparents I have to not attend my (possible) wedding is unthinkable but highly likely due to illness etc but I would still have to see them on my wedding day, does this make sense? Even just for a quick visit, I would have to.

[@SaltyArmySarg]

I can understand a bride wanting the colors, and dresses and all that to match, but wanting "people to match" is the craziest thing ever! PEOPLE DON'T MATCH!! We are all wonderfully different, and anyone who expects people to lose weight, or change their hair, any of that kinda business, are A holes, and I wouldn't wanna know u, let alone b in ur wedding...js

[@fabienneclavier5984]

I don't get it either. Who cares what people look like, as long as they are clean and dressed, lol

[@hopehowell4338]

It's the problem of thinking of people as things. Some brides get caught up in the societal ideal that weddings need to be perfect. "Its your one be only chance to be a princess" 🙄. They forget why it's a celebration and who is really for.

[@PassTheMarmalade1957]

I've said it before and I'll say it again - The people at your wedding aren't props for your photos.

[@writinggamer8059]

I feel like if you're asking someone to be in your wedding, it's because you care about them as a person and they are important to you. You already know if they have blue hair or tattoos. I think it's ridiculous to demand people change for a wedding photo.

[@abigailkaterbergcolibaba]

I feel like the best way to show how crazy it is is to take it to the extreme level: a bride chooses only white bridal party members because she wants them to "match". Psychotic right? People are beautiful individuals and you should be happy to have them part of your special day

[@kateworkman921]

In regards to the bride who doesn't want the family member with Alzheimer's in attendance, she phrased the entire thing selfishly, but at the same time, I understand her point. A friend of mine got married years ago, and her grandmother, who suffered Alzheimer's, was at the wedding long enough to get some pictures with the family, but was quickly brought back to where she lived, because she had no idea what was happening and any moments of lucidity didn't last. My friend said she's thankful to have the pictures, but that she feels bad her grandma was put through that when she had no idea what was going on. So, phrased selfishly? Absolutely. Not wanting people with Alzheimer's and other major health issues there for their own comfort? I get it.

[@trelala789]

It can be understandable to consider if people with serious health issues should attend major events and it should be discussed on individual bases. What baffles me is, they want to make it general rule for everyone over 70 so it will be fair to everybody. How is that fair? I know many people over 70 in (almost) perfect health, even over 80, near 90, without any serious health problems (at least not serious enough to potentially interfere with wedding and going through the day without any issues). They should discuss individually about each person with their caregivers and other family members if and how they can be included, but don't make blanket statement with some artificial age cut off.

[@ellabellaswe]

I agree. A lot of people don't understand the disease most of the time and don't understand that these things can be extremely stressful for the patient. And while it may seem like they have moments of clarity, that person is long gone, as painful as that is to admit (obviously depending on what stage they're in etc). I actually agree that it wouldn't be a good idea to bring the grandmother with Alzheimers that is so far gone to the wedding but I totally disagree with the over 70:ies rule, like that's just messed up. Also if they're worried about the party not being suitable for them then just invite them to the ceremony and dinner and then they will probably want to tap out anyway. She's not entirely wrong but she's still an asshole imo.

[@trayolphia5756]

I’m gratified to see that not every member of society has fallen into that trap of seeing ONLY the extremes Too often in this current world we live in, far too many people will see only the end of the scales, you either agree with them, or hate them, so seeing a comment like this recognising the all import concept of CONTEXT and graduation of scenarios is refreshing and gives me some hope for the future of society

[@montialarson]

I hope you never get a serious illness and are not invited to a family wedding or any event because of something that is out of your control.

[@montialarson]

My dads mom had cancer and passed away years ago. If I was getting married back then, I wouldn't care that she has a serious illness because she's my grandma, I love her and believe she should be able to see me get married. I wish she was still here. People who still have their grandparents just don't understand how important it is to have their grandparents at special events, that they want to come to. All of my grandparents are dead and I would want them at my events if they were alive regardless of their health problems. People over 70 can be very healthy and people under 70 (I'm 27 and have a serious illness) can have illnesses. Are you going to get a medical history on all your guests and family members to see what illnesses are acceptable? Should I be excluded from family events because I'm sick (not contagious)? That's f'd up.

[@Realshugarbaby]

Everything went wrong during our wedding. We planned a small family gathering (like 25 people). The notary got confused and instead of getting to the house at 13PM, she got there at 15PM. Our wedding cake got there like 4-5hrs late because the first two ones they did broke (they also changed the whole design/color and didn't tell us or even apologize and gave us full price anyway, we had also paid extra for fondant and they gave us buttercream). We had some extra guests because my MIL just invited random people to stop by. My FIL invited someone my husband and I hate (he didn't tell me until after the wedding though, my husband quietly got rid of him). The notary started the wedding without me 😂 and then pronounced us husband and wife when my MIL had gone downstairs so she didn't even see her son get married. She also ended up losing our paperwork and we had to run after her for MONTHS and eventually take a lawyer. Despite all that it's one of my favorite memories of our relationship. What matters is not the wedding itself. It's the relationship. My husband and I are going on 4 years of marriage, 8 years together. We have 2 beautiful children, expecting our third ❤️

[@freyasturmmantel7081]

🎉 👍👍👍👍👍👍

[@marystrope1345]

That's really beautiful. 👍👍👍

[@SMRT79]

The notary? You mean the officiant? Why did a notary come? Are you outside the US? Id love to understand what this means please 😊 not being a jerk I promise!

[@helixxia9320]

holycrap

[@badateverything5392]

I am sort of on the bride's side when it comes to the Alzheimer's grandmother, if the other grandparents aren't at risk and can safely attend the wedding, I don't see why they shouldn't attend. My grandmother has dementia, she went from making noises one week to trying to stab my grandfather the next. Taking her out of her home and putting her in an unfamiliar situation would easily cause distress and she should probably not attend for her own sake (and the sake of everyone who is close to her as they will be worrying and not able to enjoy the wedding). By the time the irrational noises start, you are getting to the point where those moments of lucidity occur so infrequently that you don't think they are going to have another moment with them. that being said, I don't know why the elderly relatives are excluded, it might be worth asking them if they want to attend. They might not want to make the trip or might be too tired, give them the choice at least. But yeah, his grandma should probably stay at home.

[@hippiharlow4458]

When I got married, one set of my grandparents had already passed, and I didn't think the other set were going to be able to make it, due to age and health. My father surprised me and brought them. It was THE BEST wedding gift ever! Years later, the marriage is forgotten but the memory of my grandparents being there.....still very cherished.

[@noelle3551]

My Mother had alzheimers and was unable to attend my nieces wedding and was in a care facility. However, my niece and her husband visited my Mother after the wedding service and spent an hour there and also provided was a secondary wedding cake for wedding photographs with her and others there!! I must admit they were the best photographs!! 🙂

[@DarkLadyJade]

This is a great compromise. ☺

[@mikaylamccay2219]

I was lucky enough to be able to have my great grandma at my wedding. She blew bubbles at my husband and I as we walked into the reception. It was so sweet and funny, and totally unplanned but we loved it. We made sure the photographer got a photo of us with her. It was the last photo I had with her. She passed away a couple months later, just a few months before my mum (her granddaughter) got married. In her will she left money to buy my mum's and stepdad's wedding cake.

[@LaynaCastro]

That’s so soooo sweet

[@GLORIOUSCHONK]

Mind if I borrow that idea? I dunno if I'll marry or if my grandparents will be with us then, but I hope I can get them to do that.

[@llatew7126]

The grandparent one broke my heart. My grandfather is disabled and needs help with things but I would be devastated to not have him at our wedding. My number 1 concern for our venue was making sure it was accessible for his wheelchair, and my biggest fear is that he won't be able to make it in May. Cherish your grandparents man.

[@prof.thiagoalmeida1226]

Every time I watch one of these videos I get the impression that weddings in North America are waaaaaaaaaaaay more complicated and stressful than they should be...

[@klowe7213]

My grandmother attended our wedding ceremony in a wheelchair, took family photos at the church, and she ended up not attending the reception (her choice - she was absolutely invited). We watched the wedding video with her so that she could see the reception. She passed less than a year after the wedding.

[@bcaye]

That's wonderful. I'm a spinster but my sister had our grandparents at her first wedding and grandma at her second and Grandpa had serious health issues so special arrangements had to be made. She wouldn't dream of not including them. I believe they did skip the reception on both occasions.

[@nanner3200]

My dad was in assisted living with Alzheimer's. He attended my brothers wedding and had a great time! Me being his main "caregiver", as the assisted living was only 5 miles from my house, I didn't have to do a thing that day. He was just having a good time and behaving. He was quite an angry and mean Alzheimer's patient. Not that day! Ok a bit of complaining about having to wear a tux :) (ex: phone calls in the middle of the night/being there to see him almost daily/doc appts, verbal abuse etc) He use to love to dance and the last dance of his life was with the bride. It was a beautiful day of "normal" after many years of sadness and stress. That said.....my sister who never bothered to even visit him over those years AND asked that her number be taken off his phone because he called her once and she "couldn't handle it" asked me one Christmas not to have him come because it would "spoil her Christmas" I had been having Christmas at my house for over 20 years after our mother died. F that! It ended up being his last Christmas. I never would have even thought not to invite him. Once again he seemed to have a good time.

[@moniqueengleman873]

Bless you. I fell back in love with my parents as they waded through the golden years. It was an Honor and Privilege to spend time with them as adults. Keep your pure heart. You know what is right. I miss my parents every single day. My father passed away, and 10 days later my mother died of a broken heart.💔 I wasn't ready to loose both.

[@jaggae9]

@Nanner This made me cry. I'm so sorry. God bless you

[@nanner3200]

@@moniqueengleman873 So very sorry. That's harsh! Not sure how you got through that so close together! Bless YOU for that! When my dad was first in assisted living he wasn't too bad. We would sit for hours and just talk. I learned so many things about his past and various things about him and my mom that I never knew. But then the deep dive into anger and even a couple of times violence due to his illness started. Luckily (?????) I'm older so even though my mom has been gone so long I was in my 30's when she passed. I was able to experience some adulthood with her. Except my child never knew her.

[@nanner3200]

@@jaggae9 Thank you

[@moniqueengleman873]

@@nanner3200 Funny.....We called my Mother.....Nanners. I didn't expect her to die. She and I were going to travel!! But alas, she just "let go" after Dad passed. I am still so sad. Glad you got to spend some time with your dad. Death is so damn final.

[@Danisuzette]

I will never understand why people need SO much attention that they would ban family members for their appearance/health. Crazy 🤪

[@a.a131]

Well... People ban children...

[@imperviousdonut]

@@a.a131 appearance and health are completely different from children. Your grandma is a whole grown woman and candle handle herself. A child is a demon free spirit. If a couple wants to party their asses off and wants that environment then I think it actually more responsible to say hey we're going to drink and have a great time so try and get a babysitter. You can't even imagine how many adults I've seen drink at parties they bring their kids too and just drive off at the end of the night and those are just regular yearly get together

[@debshaw680]

Again, like I’ve said all over these comments, we don’t know that situation from that tiny snippet. My mother was hell on wheels. She was paranoid and violent. She had random outburst of scripture followed by screaming that she was a good Christian woman and that everyone there was going to harm her for it. She wasn’t a good Christian, BTW. She was abusive and violent when I was a child. You don’t know everyone’s experience.

[@Danisuzette]

@@debshaw680 I believe my exact words were appearance/ health

[@imperviousdonut]

@@debshaw680 your experience aside there are also old people and people with dementia who don't have reactions like yours. The fact that the bride was bold enough to ask this question in general means she literally couldn't care enough about her image to rethink posting it. She definitely would've mentioned if said grandparent had any normal outbursts like yours to make herself look better. It's how people are. As for your comment about context or more details it's up to the redditor to provide what they wish. If she wasn't prepared to be called an ahole she was looking to the wrong place for advice. Did you happen to catch her comment on how the caregivers of the old folks would get a break? That's clearly incorrect. Their caregivers would have to stay home and not leave them home alone

[@TyLeeslilsis]

I remember one bride making an fb post a while back about asking her guests to put their phones away during the ceremony to allow the photographer hired to do his job... And the guests tried to flame her as a "bridezilla" for telling them that their selfies and phone pics would be (obviously) worse and disruptive to the actual photos. Sometimes the "bridezilla" is who is trying to tell the person getting married how to get married lol.

[@helixxia9320]

yeah the photos of the wedding moment with everyone in the crowd there is much nicer without tons of phones in them. these people can take photos after at the party or ask the bride to have the actual wedding moment sent to them when the groom and bride recieve the professional photographer pictures and video

[@supotter377]

It’s the same thing that has happened with calling any woman complaining about ANYTHING no matter if she is in the right or not a Karen. It sucks how people twist things in order to bully someone into doing what they want

[@sloancp3739]

My mother has late stage dementia and it killed me that I couldn’t have her at my wedding day, not because of our preferences but because it would be too jarring for her to be around that many people in a strange environment. I ended up doing an entirely separate bridal photoshoot and video with her ahead of the wedding so I could share it the day of. My grandma also has Alzheimer’s but luckily hers isn’t so advanced my family literally rallied to ensure I could have her there for the ceremony- my aunt and uncle drove her to the wedding and back (4 hrs away) so she could sleep in her own bed. I had them walk arm and arm with her down the aisle and made sure everyone assisting had their own boutonnière or corsage to be apart of the wedding party. It was absolutely amazing and she had a BLAST and got a few shout outs in wedding speeches (she was taken home after the first hour or so of the reception)

[@silverstarfinder]

My grandma attended a lovely wedding in her late 90’s and in a wheelchair. Several men in the groom’s party took her out and danced with her in that wheelchair. She had a blast, and it was a very cherished memory!

[@karencotlar2023]

That’s so sweet! I hope you got some awesome pictures of those dances!

[@Zandain]

I have been to umpteen weddings, in my life...Greece, Portugal, Italy, Denmark, UK, Germany, Poland, even Canada 🤣 - never, ever have I experienced a bridezilla. The brides have been calm, collected, poised and happy to see everyone, regardless of what they were wearing, their hair color or age Maybe brides in Europe are generally more relaxed?? (yes, I know Canada, is not in Europe, but the bride was from there) 😉 hello from Denmark 🌸❄

[@pablodelsegundo9502]

I think bridezillas are a mostly anglophone-countries thing; mainly American and Australian. But I've also run into SERIOUS bridezillas from Nigeria and India.

[@WhitneyDahlin]

I disagree with Charlotte on this. I don't think stress makes people crazy or give them an excuse to be rude or entitled. Normal rational women don't suddenly turn into irrational bridezillas when they start planning the wedding. They were ALWAYS like that and have just managed to hide it long enough to get engaged. Just because you're stressed out that doesn't give you the right to scream and take out your anger on other people. In fact if the woman you're going to marry starts acting like a bridezilla RUN! RUN FAR AWAY. Because if she acts irrationally entitled and takes out the stress and anger on other people that is how she will act under ALL stress. And you better believe you're the one who is going to bear the brunt of her irrational anger for years if you marry her. It's far better to cancel a wedding than have to go through a messy divorce.

[@SonjaElizabethTeal]

The shade in this comment....

[@demondogmom7221]

I haven't been to any "bridezilla" weddings. I am a drama-free zone, so likely my friends are not dramatic... keeps the zillas away from me.

[@giselab68]

Different breed of people

[@Riyaanreality]

I agree with Charlotte with the grandparents one. As someone whose 3/4 of grandparents died before I was born & my grandma (the only one I knew) passed away in 2016, I wish I had my grandparents in my life. She’s the a-hole and an agist!

[@RiverWoods111]

My Grandma was so cute at my wedding! She accidentally went in and sat down early in the front row. Then realized she was supposed to make a grand entrance, so she got up and snuck out and then when it was time she came back in and sat down in the same spot. It was so cute in the video, but also a lot of guests saw it too! She was the last one still alive of my grandparents.

[@0Jenna7]

My grandmother, despite being too sick to come to my wedding, came to my wedding. We asked our photographer to wait, I would have paid whatever he asked, because she was late. The picture with my mum, me and her, are the last pictures of her. In Nov/Dec she took ill with a pneumonia on top of having lung cancer, and it was too much. She passed a week before Christmas. I'm tearing up writing this.

[@debshaw680]

We had a no children rule. I think that it depends on how advanced the Alzheimer’s is. My closest friend is high functioning at this point and someone has to be right with her constantly or she puts things in her mouth, eats with her hands and gets food all over herself, and sometimes goes scarily blank. With all that, I’d be fine if one of her carers were there. My mother became oppositional. She would sometimes refer to my sister she lived with by her name but other times would call her the mean lady, not knowing her at all. She’d become afraid even in the house when she didn’t recognize things. She would start screaming scriptures randomly. She was paranoid and thought everyone was condemning her as a bad Christian. She used to claim that the neighbors would surround her and stone her while jeering til her minister broke through the crowd loudly proclaiming “This is a good Christian! Begone and bother her no more!” She didn’t enjoy being out of the house or having visitors. Can you imagine that at a wedding or anywhere else? My sister was so exhausted that she didn’t take care of herself and let her diabetes go so far that her kidneys failed and she lost her sight before she’d let us put mom in a care home. My mother died 2 years later. My sister died 4 years after that at 57. My uncle used to be an expert at sneaking off and you had to go search under the bushes for him. I mean like POOF. He liked crawling under bushes. If there were no handy bushes he’d wander til he found some. Half the time we couldn’t figure how he got out of the house! You’d just have to be distracted for a minute. He escaped at my grandfather’s internment and we had a heck of a time finding which bush he got under. The entire family was there when he took off. He didn’t wander off, he waited for an opportunity to escape. He was a lovely man and if I found him first, I’d get under the bush and sit with him there a while. My grand father was a massive racist before he got Alzheimer’s, so much so that he called anyone who wasn’t a WASP the N word, including my dad and I because we’re Italian American and both have dark hair and skin. Mind you, my sisters have the same father but look like my mother so apparently they were ok. My ex husband was Japanese. It would have been a nightmare. If he’d been at my wedding with my Italian American family and his Japanese family. While he didn’t serve in the military, he REALLY hated Japanese people. My grandmother came to the wedding without him. My half Japanese, half Italian son is gay and marrying an Indian American. Can you even begin to imagine? He would have exploded. We don’t know that situation well enough to pass judgement. Some people with Alzheimer’s are great. Some people have serious behavior issues. It’s a safety issue as well. And I do feel like family members deserve time to have fun more than anyone. Since it runs in my family, we already have plans in place if I get it too.

[@Stopthisrightnow560]

How do you feel about the fact you'll most likely get it?

[@deadliestchic8768]

I could understand that if the family member had severe Alzheimers and their safety as well as the safety of the guests was compromised. But other than that, let the elderly people come!

[@katieb.1184]

that was my first thought, too. one of my bonus grams had it and by the time I got married, it would have been worse for her to be moved around and surrounded by "strangers" and actual strangers. she wasn't oppositional, but she'd get stressed around that many people. It sucked knowing my only remaining grandparent couldn't come, but it was def. better for her... BUUUUUT given the rest of that post I'm not thinking it was the case.

[@roycesaful]

Ahhh, Charlotte and crazy brides in the morning. No other way to start the day. 😍

[@michellebusch492]

Facts

[@avapoole9776]

It’s 4pm where I am!

[@stephanieirvan1052]

I don't think my groom being two and a half hours late to the ceremony makes me a bridezilla. I think I had every right to be entitled to be enraged and almost refuse to marry him. Needless to say the marriage did not last long.

[@FreedomofSpeech865]

Not surprised that the wedding didn’t last

[@strawberrymilk1186]

@@FreedomofSpeech865I’m not trying to be rude, I’m just confused when I ask there, are you not surprised because of the groom or the bride?

[@clarayangfei]

9:34 This breaks my heart. My grandfather suffered from Alzheimer’s and dementia. He was still such a lovely person, and I wish he could be there if I ever get married.

[@kdscraftcorner]

My grandmother who had alzheimers was at my cousins wedding. She had one of her very good days that day. She happily sat in a wheelchair to go down the aisle as the family was brought in (she used a walker at that time). She participated in the family photos and she even had a dance with my uncle and my cousin. It was a beautiful day and she was almost like her old self before she was diagnosed. I feel like it was a gift to our family because she went downhill pretty quickly after that day.

[@courthebrave]

My brother is getting married in two weeks and the wedding isn’t going the way they planned at all. Thank you for doing these videos, it gives me a break from my own chaos 🥰

[@ameliesciandra9438]

I must tell you (and them), never forget that what you keep in mind is all the love around you, and all the good vibes that people spreads. Yes of course beeing in a beautiful castle, or with nice cloths helps to make this day special. But at the end, you and your family will remenber the love, the tears of joy and all this emotion. If it is a financial problems, replace it by intention and lovely words. It's always appreciated and its one of this rare event where you can speek freely with your heart. (As a chil I attended my father's wedding with my ex-mother in law. I see luxury, camera, local report (the dauther's mayor), really beautiful event. But I dont remenber about the feeling, just about my inside bet "it will no longer be more than 8 years of wedding". After 10years, my little sister has also experimented divorced parents, with messy divorce. Thank god , my parents weren't married.) I'm sure it will be a wonderful wedding 🥰 I wish them all the best and healthy relationship ❤️ (Sorry for my English:) )

[@courthebrave]

@@ameliesciandra9438 you don’t have to say sorry for your english, it is very good! 😃 Also you are right it is all about the love and not the big show 😊 The problem the bride and groom are having is most of the family of the bride is making problems even though the bride’s family said they love the groom and want the couple to get married. I’m trying my best to make the couple feel loved and do what i can to make their day a happy one 😊

[@Tindome-ib6el]

Had a short flashback about my wedding: The wedding location was nor reachable by car, neither by wheel chair. So my uncle and cousin carried my granny all the way up the hill in a carrying chair on a hot summer day, because it was her wish to attend the ceremony. She passed away years ago, but the story comes up in every family meeting. Her sitting in that chair, carried just like Cleopatra. Glorious. I will never understand those no kids, no special need persons, no elderly, "I will tell you, how you may look like" attitudes. They are all part of the pack in the way they are. Why change them? Why exclude them?

[@vertebrae9204]

because in general, children are not made to be quiet or to sit still over a longer time like at the ceremony. plus, there are parents who think that their child does not need to behave and let them run completely free - like into every room, kitchen, not giving a damn that there are servers who work aso. also kids tend to touch everything and everybody which also should be a no no. all the things where people say "kids are kids" to excuse poor behaviour are the exact reasons not to want kids at the wedding.

[@sydneyjane9222]

I completely agree! All those family members make a wedding a real wedding. Same goes for birthdays and other family events. At a 60th birthday party, one of my ex's grandmas, who had severe dementia, was the life of the party. I can still remember her comments on everything years later (and her opinions were spot-on, btw XD) :D

[@debshaw680]

We had a no kids wedding because my ex husband’s family were hard drinkers. Professional people, doctors, a lawyer, and 2 veterinarians, but drunks. Plus my wedding was VERY small and the chapel limited to 30 people. We had 60 at the reception but they were mostly people I didn’t know. My mother in law, a drunk, invited them without telling us. The only thing there was lots of was booze.

[@debshaw680]

@@sydneyjane9222 everyone has different taste in weddings. And I’m sorry but a birthday or other party is NOT the same as a wedding. Back in the day, kids knew how to behave in public. Today they don’t even behave in the grocery store.

[@Tindome-ib6el]

@@vertebrae9204 Well, if you want to exclude a whole group of people, because some of their kinds sometimes tent to misbehave, this will be a lonely party. And yes: kids are kids, that is part of the fun. I prefer photos from my wedding, where the kids are doing kids stuff over the group photos. The group photo is just people standing around, whereas the other photos are telling, how the party really was.

[@beast6213]

If you date someone for 6 years and you want to get married, talk about it with them, see how they honestly feel about it, because if they just want to date, and you want to get married, it's time to move on. Also: YOU CAN PROPOSE TOO

[@ashlynrodaks5723]

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 4 years still waiting on an engagement so I proposed to him so he walks around with a wedding band and I have a promise ring until he’s ready😂

[@lisahuber9329]

And if you plan to surprise someone with a proposal you still need to talk to them about getting married and assure them it's happening. That's like completely ignoring someone's birthday because you planned a surprise party, and now they are feeling like shit the entire day.

[@questionmark9819]

You're right bear but I will say one thing that's weird and that's women proposing to men........it's just weird and I am of the opinion that if a guy loves you, he doesn't need prompting or telling that he should propose, either he does or doesn't and if you're both not on the same page, then think about moving on.

[@ashlynrodaks5723]

I guess it’s different if marriage is already talked about. If a woman does it in a private setting to show her man she loves him as much as he loves her I don’t see anything wrong with that. But if a woman proposes to a man because she is impatient and marriage has never been talked about and she’s doing it in an embarrassing setting then she’s doing it for the wrong reasons. It’s not about the rush it’s about the commitment.

[@tendigitnumber]

This is how it was with my ex-fiance and mine. (ex is because we couldn't transition out of long distance so it made more sense to end things). I got sick of waiting, and because we're both nerds and were both into minecraft at the time I made a digging maze for him. Eventually he found the bedroom, with cats running around named "will you marry me?" He said yes and we were engaged from there! It doesn't have to be a grand gesture, just something special to the both of you.

[@kerrinbrittain4393]

I can't comprehend anyone not wanting their grandparents there just because of their age. I'm so thankful I had both my grandmas around when I got married. We shortened our engagement when one got sick & very glad we did. I was her eldest grandchild & the only one she got to see married. Just over 3 months later, she passed away but I have all the lovely memories of her helping us plan & being there on the day.

[@lisasteel6817]

Having my grandparents at my wedding made the sweetest memories of them and now they’re gone, I cherish those memories and the photos of us together. My husband’s grandfather passed away a week before our wedding and he missed out on those memories, it would have been wonderful to have him there.

[@jayklee88]

When I was getting married I was on a bride to be Facebook group and that was a toxic breeding ground for bridezillas. So many people would justify poor behavior (especially towards the groom) because it was “her day”. It is in fact “their day” and the wedding is only the start of your marriage so best not to alienate your friends/family over one day.

[@Birdbike719]

Yeah, you're gonna need those folks down the line whether you realize it now or not

[@lokicooper4690]

This is one thing that has always pissed me off. "It's MY day!" No, sunshine, it's just as much your fiance's day as it is yours. Get off your high horse. It's gonna be a lonely life if you keep excluding people.

[@Spoonie]

When my friend didn’t want to choose a maid of honor (there was three of us total), I suggested we can share the “honor” and plan all the bridal activities together - even though one of the other bridesmaid bullied me in elementary school and is just generally a mean person. I was gonna suck it up and just vent later to someone unrelated to the situation. The Mean friend ENDED THE FRIENDSHIP! She was insulted she wasn’t the maid of honor because she just had a wedding and “knows everything about weddings.” I was so relieved, as was the other bridesmaid, and we planned everything together and had so much fun without the mean girl. Later the bride expressed relief as that was a toxic friendship and she hadn’t seen it as clearly. The bridesmaid really thought she was doing something by threatening to not even attend the wedding, no one even missed her.

[@annebritraaen2237]

I bought my wedding-dress at H&M. It cost about 20 bucks back in 85'. Still have both the groom and the dress.

[@ew712]

I was pissed off for my bf not proposing at around 3-5 years of dating. Then i kinda just stopped thinking about it and enjoyed our relationship. He did it the day we celebrated his graduation in front of our families and i was completely surprised and really happy - we have been dating for 7 years at that point. Now we are 5 years happily married and have 2 little kids.

[@slow.and.hot717]

When me and my bf celebrated our 5th dating anniversary I started feeling like it's a long time to be in a relationship without going to the "next level". To me, it doesn't matter what the "next level" is, but considering we were not in a situation where we could start living together or have a child, engagement seemed like a logical next step. So... I gave him an ultimatum. He was to propose by the end of the year (he had 6 months to think about it and arrange it) or I'll have a proof that our relationship is going nowhere. He did propose, but he waited until the New Year's Eve (he knows I like the New Year's celebrations and I was also convinced he will use the celebration to propose as it is also the very end of the deadline. Lol ). Anyway... During the next year we found a perfect apartment for the two of us and moved in. A year after that, I became pregnant and a year after that, our son was born. So, all the steps happened quite fast after the engagement. After that, the pandemic came and in the meantime we both started new careers. It has been 7 years since our engagement (12 years together). Recently we started talking about having a second child. But we are yet to actually get married. Lol Your story made me think about ours. I guess most women feel like they need more commitment after a few years. You let go of it and it happened for you just a couple of years later and everything else soon followed. On the other hand, I put pressure on my bf and it happened on my timeline, but we are still procrastinating on the actual wedding, even though we have been living together, as a family, for years. At the end of the day, everything comes together when it's the right time for it and sometimes we do need a little push to get things going, an event to open the gates to everything that is to come. Wish you good luck. Take care.

[@JB-qf5ep]

I've been a bridesmaid 3 times. And each bride was relatively chill the day of - no snapping, no attitude, a little stressed because it is a huge day, but I never felt like I had to absorb any negativity. Maybe because they were able to relax knowing that they were marrying the right person for them?

[@cates6431]

Being a bride that would have rather eloped is so freeing. I didn't really care about the day bc we were only doing it for our families, lol. We wrapped everything up before 9pm and went to see a movie with the wedding party. 🙌

[@christinabo63]

What movie did you watch?

[@questionmark9819]

O. P that sounds like the perfect wedding, I love it! Surely it's about the marriage and not just a party

[@JadeLeaf1980]

My ideal wedding invite 😀

[@mpblack2127]

This sounds great. I would even pay for my own ticket and snacks. Or around here there are theaters and you can pick from a list of "older" movies and rent out the theater room your movie is being shown in.

[@cates6431]

@@christinabo63 We were married on Halloween 2009, and we saw the first Paranormal Activity and scared the pants off half our bridal party, lmao.

[@Sami86K]

This is making me glad that I’m so chill about my wedding! My fiancé and I are agreeing on EVERYTHING!! I have the best bridesmaids and both of our families are amazing!

[@lotstodo]

My SIL was a pre engagement bridezilla. She was convinced my bro would marry her in Paris on their vacation and even researched how to do it. Was so mad when it didn't happen she almost broke up. But she was desperate. When they finally did, she neglected to give special seating to my brother's side of the family. I sat in back with the pickle delivery guy from her dad's restaurant. There were 500 people so we all sat in different parts of the reception room. Such a B.

[@sherrylovegood]

I treasure every moment I had with my nan, even when she had no idea who I was. I would do just about anything to talk to & hug her again. Those lucid moments she had were everything.

[@neledemeulemeester754]

I ADORE Charlotte's facial expressions. They are SO good that I would watch her video's even if she didn't talk

[@tollish]

At the time of my wedding 6 years ago I had one living grandparent left. My grandma had Alzheimer's and it was horrible knowing that she couldn't be there. She was in the final stages. It would have been way too much on her to have her there. The only way I could have a part of this with her was to put my dress on and take photos with her at the home. I'd give ANYTHING to have had her and my other grandparents there. I had a memorial table with photos of our loved ones who couldn't be there. On a brighter note, my grandma had clarity a few times. Once she was clear for 5 mins and told my aunt she was so sorry. My aunt reminded her how much we loved her. With me, her clarity moments were the bathroom breaks. When we were at the hospital, I had to take her to the bathroom. But every freaking bathroom I took her to was taken. So every time she asked why we weren't going to that bathroom, or where we were going; I told her I was taking her to the best bathroom. Flash forward almost a month, and she was in her care home, she took me by the hand and showed me everything. Then she had to go to the bathroom. She of course asked where we were going. I said "to the bathroom grandma". Without hesitation she said "to the best one?". To some it seems like not a big deal. She didn't know who I was anymore. But in this moment, she reminded me she's still there. I almost cried, over a potty trip. Also, one time she locked 3 nurses in a bathroom. Luckily one of them had their cell phone to call the front desk. I laughed so hard when I found out. She was sassy and amazing right up until the end.

[@dors6143]

Love it!! 😂😂😂

[@glancycorner7425]

I love that for you , sweetie. Grandmas are awesome. ♥️

[@shuckydarn2856]

WOW. If I was him I would have run fast and far. She's coocoo for cocoa puffs.

[@katiepemble9533]

I got married to my husband last year and we have been together for 12 years. Unfortunately, the original date of the wedding was 2020 and it was postponed due to Covid. My Grandad was very sad when I told him that the wedding was postponed as he was going to be a witness at the ceremony. I lived with him for many years when I was growing up and we spent countless day together. He passed away suddenly in 2020 a couple of weeks before my original wedding date. I was heartbroken, knowing the man that had raised me couldn't be there. People need to remember that if they were in the situation in which they had health problems would they wish to be tossed aside from their family. On another note my Gran had Alzheimer's for many years and there would be days where she was merry and other days when she felt very down. Maybe allowing the grandparent to attend might bring joy to their very isolated life. Love your videos Charlotte :)

[@NanaVonn3]

I would give almost anything to have had my grandparents at my wedding. My sister had all of them, and I'm unbelievably jealous (not of her, but the situation). I hate this bride for trying to exclude hers.

[@davidguidry657]

I never did get the opportunity to have my grandmere dance barefoot at my wedding. That was how she would encourage me to do my chores. “If you clean your room I’ll dance barefoot at your wedding!” 😂🤣 We do have a video of my older brother taking her shoes off and dancing with her at his reception but we lost her before I even graduated high school. Maybe that’s why marriage has not been successful for me yet! I need to borrow someone’s grandma for my next one. 😉

[@franzessie9697]

I still have my grandparents and my biggest wish is for my wedding is for them to be there. I can’t wrap my mind around that bullshit.🤦🏼‍♀️

[@davidguidry657]

@@franzessie9697 nor should you! Celebrate your happiness with the people who love you and whom you love.

[@alyzu4755]

I saw a video recently where a bride asked her grandmother to be her MOH, and it was beautiful!

[@junecleaver8868]

I think she’s not trying to exclude them. From what she describes they are in mid to late stage Alzheimer’s. And change in routine for these patients can cause a melt down. It’s a whole different world. Just getting an Alzheimer’s patient in a car can be an ordeal.

[@RabbidTribble]

These bridezilla videos are my favorites. I don't know why, but for some reason it's excellent stress-relief to me.

[@c.barrett5114]

My grandmother in law had just lost her husband a few days before and we told her we would love to have her.if she was up for it. She got some hate from other family members from the sounds of it for wanting to come but she was glad she did. It was a much needed distraction and she spent most of the night dancing with my husband which melted my heart! We also picked a song his grandfather (on his other side of his family) wrote for his wife who passed away right before we met as our first dance song which meant a lot to a lot of his family members and made the day all the more special to me.

[@lindseymcclain9518]

I absolutely love the little "cut scenes" in your videos where the editor puts your face on someone/something else for effect 😂😂😂 The Lindsay Lohan one from Mean Girls in this video had me DYING😂🤣😂🤣😂 Thanks for all you do Charlotte, I adore your content!

[@ellenkarlsson9490]

If you can't organize a wedding and still be kind and respectful to your friends and family, you are a bridezilla. There's no excuse to abuse your loved ones, not even "but it's MY day!". Everyone else's lives don't stop because you're getting married.

[@phippskat]

My sister in law also expected me to grow my hair out. Ha ha nope. You've only ever known me with short hair and that's how I like it! I dyed it red to match the dress lol

[@samantha6564]

The older attendees one is difficult. Both of my grandmother's had Dementia and while I'm not married I 100% get wanting your grandparents to be at your wedding as that is what I would have wanted. However, I also work in long-term care and know that people can really struggle based on the type of Dementia they have and stage they are at. Some of my residents have attended weddings and had an absolute blast, but for others I think it would be a very confusing and upsetting event for them. One of my grandmothers went through a violent period where she would grab at everyone, and even unfortunately injured someone's finger. During that period, I don't think she would have done well at an event like a wedding. There isn't a great way to decide, but if they are happy to see you when you visit them then I wouldn't hesitate to invite them. Also if you are worried about what will happen on the big day, don't be afraid to hire a caregiver or ask a designated family member to help out. Then if it gets overwhelming, they can leave at any time.

[@jwood8397]

My grandmas had Alzheimer’s for years and I find her ability to recall old memories and save new info is related to the person. My moms siblings moved away and my grandma only saw them and her grandchildren from them twice a year, whereas she spent every Saturday, holidays, trips, etc. with my mom, my brother and I. After she had to move into the home, she forgot my aunt, but she was able to remember I got engaged, remember when I’m coming home to visit and that I had even moved away. She remembers my brother has gotten married recently as well. I don’t think I was ever more thankful that she was so close when I was growing up as I was the first time I visited after she forgot my aunt but she still remembered I was coming and said my name as soon as I walked through the door. I can’t believe people wouldn’t have ever family member they could at their wedding. If the caretakers didn’t want to “take care” they could have worked something else out, but most families want to help each other.

[@heatherh4272]

Charlotte- you're killing it with that lip color today 🔥 thank you for keeping me entertained today

[@ramachandra776]

To be a Bridezilla requires focus and sheer commitment to being a Karen in your normal life and then proceed from there . Not all stressed out brides are Bridezillas but the last pair (both groom and bride) who didn't want their grandparents definitely are .

[@Park-Kim_VMin]

💯

[@toscatattertail9813]

life has away of rebounding on you, what are the chances that their grand children will do the same thing to them simply because they did it to their grandparents so it'd "ok"

[@thoroakenshield7283]

I really hate weddings and the amount of money wasted so frivolously so that a bride can feel like a princess for a few hours. My wife and I had a small intimate wedding (her idea), and instead spent our money on an amazing honeymoon and furniture for our house. Been married 30 years and we still think it was one of our finest decisions.

[@ranonimouse6159]

Lord yes. I dont even want a small wedding. Gonna just sign a paper and move on with life

[@mellamokori]

@@ranonimouse6159 that’s what I did. No stress and a fatter bank account? Yes, please!

[@ldannu5627]

Agreed !

[@lumiukko4296]

I'm amazed how people are more focused on making the day aestheticly good than having the important people in their life sharing the moment. Like that's what wedding is about.

[@tarawells1553]

My great nanny passed 5 months before my sisters wedding while we were making preparations. She was really involved and my sister had the dream of her walking her down the aisle (our father passed young, she helped raise us) she was so happy she was going to see her first great grandchild walk down the aisle and be by her side and had given her wedding dress to be made in to silk flowers. The seamstress who made the silk bouquet just made the most amazing job at making silk peonies (nanny’s favourite) we didn’t anticipate this little decorative token on the side that said ‘I’ll always walk beside you’ we cried for hours, it was truly amazing and that single lady alone made the whole day amazing, tearful, but amazing

[@DesEEOnKeys]

Love this lipstick color on you!!!!! Thank you for always making the day!!!!! Bless 🙌🏾💯

[@klowe7213]

If you care more about your wedding photos than having the most special people in your life be with you on your big day you are probably the type of person who cares more about a nice wedding than a good marriage. Good luck to your future husband.

[@CalLadyQED]

Maybe those people aren't the most special in their lives.

[@klowe7213]

@@CalLadyQED Why would you ask them to be in your wedding party if they weren't special? Do some people really pick their bridesmaids and groomsmen for how the pictures will look?

[@CalLadyQED]

@@klowe7213, in my culture--as with many other USA cultures---your (unmarried) sisters are supposed to be your bridesmaids. Doesn't matter if they want it or you want it, it'll look bad if it's not that way

[@leighfieldsphotography]

I had my wedding 3 days ago and while I was more stressed than I thought I would be about making sure everyone had what they needed and could get where they needed to go easily (I was battling some guilt for making everyone pay money to travel to a wedding just because I wanted to get married lol), I DO NOT get a lot of the common issues brides have. If my friend wanted to wear the same dress as me I would be SO flattered and would think it's so cute that we'd be twins on our happiest days. If someone proposed on my wedding day, I'd be SO happy! Celebrate love, it's rare and so wonderful! And weddings should be celebrating the people who got you there, too, anyway! Prioritize celebrating your people as they are over your aesthetic. I was more than happy to accomodate my bridesmaids requests to express themselves with their own hair, pant suits instead of a dress, tattoos, etc. You do you, peeps, you're a part of this day because you are special to me as you are and I want to celebrate that. Uncomfortable in heels? Nbd, I told all my guests and bridesmaids to wear cowboy boots (Texas wedding) or even sneakers. Show up in whatever makes you comfortable and won't put you out. Bottom line: chill tf out and have fun with your people lol

[@DarkAngel128]

My grandparents on my mom's side came down from North Dakota to Colorado to be here for when I got married to my husband. My grandpa even gave me away (mind they had a big part in raising my sisters and I) and it meant the world to me to have them there. My grandpa passed last year and having him there to give me away means so much

[@MsArtistwannabe]

A daughter of one of my friends had three grandmas at her wedding. She felt extremely blessed. One was in her nineties.

[@spicymayo8950]

Love the petty response to a bridezilla.

[@dvs7392]

It’s the only way to respond lol #pettysquad

[@theresamnsota3925]

I just love that they want to prohibit people over 70 from their wedding. 70 is young. My mom and her sisters would rip that couple a new one, but in classic Minnesota passive-aggressive style.

[@LazyIRanch]

Ya, doncha know! The funniest memories of family events usually involved folks past the age of 70. They have no filters, and their "give a damn" quit working long ago. I miss my Aunt Erkie, she was an old Southern woman who had survived 4 husbands, travelled with a carnival when she was young, and had "seen some things". I had to warn new boyfriends meeting her for the first time to expect a pinch on the butt if she liked them, and consider it a compliment. They usually loved her outrageousness. I was @ 30 when one boyfriend commented that he understood why we called her "Anarchy". I thought, "Whut??" and then realized that "Aunt Erkie" sounded exactly the same as "anarchy" in Texas drawl! 😂

[@toscatattertail9813]

70 is a really arbitrary number....my husband is just short of 60, we are beginning to wonder if he has early onset alzhiemers. Better to invite but have a quiet room somewhat removed from the festivities so if they get over loaded there is a calm place they can sit.

[@DarkLadyJade]

70 is old. But that's okay. People shouldn't have to be in denial in order to accept being old.

[@Dobviews]

Amazingly as a florist 90% of my bride's were wonderful and easy going. The ones you have to worry about, *the mothers.* A mother contacted my shop demanding to know if I was doing her daughter's flowers and wanting me to inform her of all the bride's choices of flowers to see if it matched up to her "approval". Mind you, mom was not paying for the wedding and was not invited to her daughter's wedding. I apologized but informed the mother I had no idea who was doing her daughter's wedding flowers and promptly hung up. Later on that day I was able to contact my bride and inform her that "momzilla" had tried but I had denied knowledge of the bride and claimed ignorance. The mother was trying to force her daughter to only have white flowers in her wedding and had contacted two other floral shops trying to change the order! This caused a loss of money to 1 floral shop because flowers had to be specially ordered with a deposit and then cancelled, then reordered, then cancelled again because the shop said it was too much drama! The flowers the bride wanted, fuscia peonies mixed with white freesia. The flowers the mother demanded, callas (white only). Needless to say when I arrived to drop off the flowers at the venue that April the mother was demanding to be let in at the front causing a huge scene as I walked in past her with every pink bloom visable. Out of fear I yelled out to my helper, "Amanda said to drop the bouquets off here and store them in the back cooler till tomorrow, we cannot get in the way of today's event." The bride's name was Michelle and her mom was so crazy I feared she would try to damage the flowers if she thought they were for her daughter. After delivering flowers and having the bride sign her contract that everything arrived as ordered, I made my way downstairs to find the mother in the back of a police vehicle for assaulting the front desk clerk because he would not let her in. I just looked at my helpers and said, "Sometimes it pays to yell a lie than deal with a tyrannical mother, remember that for the future... I may not always be around to think outside the box to solve an issue before it slaps us in the face." The control freak was sent to jail the day her daughter walked down the aisle. Mom's, please stop trying to control your daughter's every decision about her wedding. It is *not* your day, it is hers... *even if you are paying for it!* Daughters, a nice way to pay respects to both mothers... At your sign in table feature pictures of both of the couple's parents and their wedding pictures with a small bouquet of your mom's wedding flowers or bouquet to offer a mini place to celebrate not only your mom and dad's wedding but feature the love within your own family tree. If there are divorces and such complicating this use just the mini flower arrangements that include flowers from her wedding but leave the pics out. Corsages can also be tweaked to pay homage to mom and the example she set for your own marriage and happiness. This should include both sets of parents if applicable. Worst bride experience... I arrived and she and her husband were nude! No warning, no conversation... everything seemed normal until I arrived and it was all done... in the buff! Can you say... awkward!‽ I am not a prude but a whole room full of men with everything hanging out while I am trying to do the final details on the wedding leis (making sure they are not too long or too short was... uncomfortable to say the least...) 😳🤯😕

[@melissablackwood]

Quick thinking on your part to perpetrate a ruse for "Amanda's" fake wedding the next day. You saved the flowers and your crew. The mom clearly had long-standing mental health issues, and it's probably not the first time she's gotten violent.

[@Dobviews]

@@melissablackwood Either you are like me and watch too many cop shows or have a phd in psychology. lol You can point them out as well as I. Scared me at first but my college course in Smarta-- 102 took care of us all that day. *Thank you gma Ruth!*

[@melissablackwood]

@@Dobviews Without posting my resume... let's just say it's actually my job to recognize and deal with these issues.

[@Dobviews]

@@melissablackwood I have no doubt about that. You have a lovely evening chica.

[@ManiiDee]

I am blessed to still have 2 Grandmas but my other grandparents and great grandparents are gone. I WISH I WISH they could all be present and I miss them so much.

[@janewaysmom]

LOVE the red curly hair girl's rant. This is so true.

[@morgandouglas6014]

I was just re-watching one of your bridezilla videos at the time you posted this! Goody! I get to laugh at some new Entitled Psycho Barbie Brides!

[@trains-in-europe]

For the first time in my life, I am planning my own wedding and i can say, these people are totally insane. The goal here is to invite friends and family to have fun, not for the presents, the looks or whatever. The be stressed with the organization isn't a excuse to be a horrible person!

[@beckinevison-smith1025]

My sister wanted me to wear a dress at her wedding.. (I never wear dresses or skirts) so that I would match the chief bridesmaid (chief b!tchface)... So I did, on the day of the wedding the chief bridesmaid wore flipping trousers! I still smiled in wedding photos tho AND I was nice to my sister for the WHOLE DAY! I also told her she looked gorgeous and beautiful even though she looked awful. Coz sisters y'know.,.

[@puffycheetoh]

Watching these videos makes me Thank God everyday that my husband and I just went to the courthouse with my parents, his parents, my brother and sister-in-law, and my husband's sister, plus my 2 kids. Short, sweet, and to the point. Went and had burgers with everyone afterward, and everyone came and hung out at our place after eating. Didn't have to spend a crap ton of money, and everyone got along. It was perfect.

[@melbied6215]

The grandparents one: There is NOTHING that has made me happier than my 91 year old grandmother flying across the country, coast to coast to attend to my wedding. We lost her 3 years later when I was pregnant with my first and I’m so glad I had those memories (and photos) with her. ❤❤

[@DesEEOnKeys]

The range of emotions with the young lady at the wedding party rehearsal was priceless... 🤨😡😆😩😥😂.. she went thru all of them! "At My Air BnB there is only space for 4 cars in the driveway.." (NOBODY ASSSSSSKKKKKED) BUT... she's the bride. 🤷🏾‍♂️ Aww

[@MichoacanaRobertson]

As much as I agree with the “don’t get in with someone your friend likes” and I understand the sentiment. I also think it’s wrong to a certain level; because it looks like we keep forgetting that the guy or girl we’re talking about has feelings of their own? I find it really stupid that a couple doesn’t get together if both want to just because someone else has feelings, that again, are not reciprocated by the third party in question. Does this make any sense? 🧐

[@_Fizel_]

Though there is a difference in say, A likes B but B likes C, instead of A told C she liked B and C went and slept with B right afterwards just because A said they liked B.

[@nailsarelife]

I agree. Yes, it does make sense. If I were in that situation, I'd probably talk to my friend about it first, though. It's not a comfortable conversation, but they'd probably feel less betrayed if you sit down and explain the situation. It would still hurt knowing the person they like doesn't like them back, but it could still preserve the friendship by showing them respect in that way.

[@AmandaVieiraMamaesouCult]

Honestly I couldn't see myself doing this to a friend. I'd rather wait for her to move on then do something about it. Men are not worth a good friendship.

[@a.a131]

@@AmandaVieiraMamaesouCult If the friendship fails because of a men, it was not worth it tho, you shouldn't be fighting about someone else if both are in love (at the same time or whathever)

[@littlemissgwendolen1466]

Yea you kinda have a point. If both parties have feelings for each other and the other person’s feelings are one sided then it’s not really mean. They could talk to the third person before anything happens.

[@alisalaska1786]

I had some attitude on my wedding day, for good reason, but I regret it a lot. I was ridiculously overwhelmed.

[@tiredmommy1643]

Loving that lippy shade on you Charlotte xx! Matches your shirt so well too. And those nails xx! Yasssss girl! On another note,your Instagram is absolutely gorgeous!

[@niaedmonds9372]

That last one is so relatable to me, 6.5 years & one child into this relationship & no proposal just talk. 🙁 Wish there was a follow up though I bet that was such a welcome surprise after her strong feelings about it. 💗

[@karencotlar2023]

Our wedding was the last time my husband and I ever saw his grandfather alive. He had been battling leukemia for a decade by then and needed lots of care, special accommodations and attention which we were more than happy to provide so he could be there and be comfortable. The picture we have of him surrounded by his two sons and two grandsons is priceless, and one of my absolute favorite out of all our wedding pictures. Weddings are about family as much as a couple, and I couldn’t imagine not inviting all of our family to our wedding.

[@PaintedFreddie]

so I just wanted to throw my entitled bridezilla story. I just recently had my 4 year sobriety anniversary so I'm doing pretty well on that, but 3 years ago I was definitely struggling more. Well my Ex best friend had gotten engaged and had asked me to be her Moh. I happily agreed ( again at the time we were very close friends). for months She kept whinging and complaining that because I was not drinking anymore, (because I was in recovery I have to reiterate) that "who is going to drink with me at my wedding?". I was hurt by this because she never supported me on trying to deal with my addiction, but I calmly just would tell her that I wouldnt drink with her but I was still going to be there with her for her day. I know this is a small thing but it was the first thing that really made me clue into why she was a toxic friend to me. for lots of reasons, including that after her wedding, when I was ....highly tempted to Un alive myself, that I was just lazy and that's why didn't want to hang out with her. I have since booted her from my life and am the happiest I have ever been. tldr: bride complained that the recovering alcoholic wouldn't drink with her.

[@handley2645mh]

My Granny had dementia but was an important part of my wedding. One of my best memories was helping her get ready to go to my wedding and talking about what was going to go on. She was taken home early but I had to stop in there to change into my honeymoon clothes. She was so happy to then help me get ready. Don't block out your elders.

[@chrisflood8458]

1ST bride story..... LOVE the buzz cut.... keep it!! It is totally lit! ❤..... and it looks awesome on the bride's sister.

[@Nina-rj4nu]

I had a frenemy I knew from my childhood. Our parents were friends and by friends I mean my stepfather was bonking her mother. Whenever she was around I always introduced her to any potentials as she had a knack of getting them to treat me horribly. I saved myself so much time and money whenever she was around. If you have a friend who is like this or worse (sleeps with any potentials), KEEP THEM AROUND!!! Do yourself a favour and find out before you invest time, money and your heart.