Entitled Bridezillas Be WILDIN' - REACTION

[@CharlotteDobre]

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[@celiwetukushe6842]

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[@williamsmith5340]

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[@malcolmgray.5913]

Hi Charlotte, what was the video editing software you promoted and your promo code? Thanks!

[@daemenoth]

i loved your yelling subscribe at the end of the video! I was starting to miss the way you yell that out :)

[@hiitskaitlyn]

As someone with heterochromia (a light blue eye and a dark green eye) I'm insulted. I can't imagine my husband telling me to wear a contact? This is me! If you're marrying someone you're marrying all of them! The nerve. How superficial...

[@kingsford3657]

I hope that guy dropped her like a hot rock. Michele El, I bet you have beautiful eyes!💜

[@NHarts3]

But it's so pretty tho 😭 one of my lil cousin has two different shades of brown, they're so gorgeous. I think heterchromia is one of the most beautiful traits to have

[@ArthropodJay]

I genuinely think you're lucky. Heterochromia is so beautiful.

[@eyespy0099]

The fiancé should have asked her to wear a brown contact to match his eyes.

[@davidguidry657]

Sounds cool and I’m sure your husband absolutely cherishes that characteristic along with everything else that drew y’all together. We love this for y’all!

[@omegatired]

I'd have said "Sure, I'll get contacts" and then show up with lizard eyes for the wedding. Yes, yes I am evil. Heterochromia is one of the most beautiful genetic issues in the world!

[@jackiekurtz6494]

LMBO I love it! Lizard eyes yesssss :)))

[@omegatired]

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[@alaaalsarraj763]

Or don't show up at all and leave her waiting at the altar ?? Now that would be evil 🌚

[@DBZgeek2000]

I'd either get contacts that switch the eyes - same mis-matched eyes but opposite sides, or show up with some kind of outlandish thing just for the lulz

[@lilsqueak1469]

Or red? Cat eyes? All black (supernatural demon type)

[@brittany2372]

1. Heterochromia is gorgeous and I wish I had that 2. I would have told her "sure, but only if you shave off your eyebrows for the wedding pictures. I don't mind them, but I just don't want them in the photos."

[@heilinstarling9436]

That bride definitely despised her groom's eyes. Because if she loved them and honestly just wanted their eyes to match for the wedding and the photos - she'd be the one wearing contacts! If she wants it - why don't she wear a brown contact lense to match him? That could have been really sweet actually, maybe her man would have appreciated that gesture, not to mention the photos would have been awesome too. But no, she asked him to cover up how unique he is. Why? Because she doesn't like it!

[@heatherbonelli]

​@@heilinstarling9436no, it's because she's jealous his eyes are prettier and she doesn't want him to have prettier eyes in the photos cuz she's a shallow pig!

[@love_wins_2218]

😂😂😂😂😂 Hilarious! Thanks for the laugh!

[@jydeinden]

it would have been much more fun, if he maybe had very short hair, and had asked her to shave her hair if she wanted him to change how he looks

[@n4musica]

These videos make me realize more and more than most people seem to just want a wedding not a marriage. I feel like a super small get together at the home of someone you love and saying “No gifts, no fancy stuff, just come and celebrate love with us.” Sounds amazing. Hell a potluck wedding dinner even sounds super fun. My loved ones making all my favorites from their individual kitchens and sharing it with the loved ones of my husband sounds just so wholesome and lovely.

[@missnaomi613]

Yeah, I never thought I was such an outlier... My main concerns were about the ceremony. I asked my mom and sister to do the party planning bit, because outside of making sure the guests with major food restrictions could all eat, and that we'd get to dance with our friends, I didn't really care! The marriage didn't last, but my friends are still my friends, and nobody went into debt over a flippin' party.

[@RogueOwl]

My husband and I got married at the courthouse with 5 other people there (I didn't even have a wedding dress. Got a pretty dress from ebay and was happy with it) and then had a casual party back at my house afterwards for family and friends. There were those big subway sandwiches, a couple of beer kegs from a local brewery, cupcakes, cake and a few homemade dishes. Everyone was happy to just have a reason to get together and relax. I have never felt so low maintenance as I do when I'm watching these videos.

[@angelasjambox]

I love potluck get togethers😊!

[@Lila-ie1eo]

My friend's cousin had an outdoor potluck wedding. It wasn't even an oficcial wedding because they signed the papers and took wedding pictures beforehand. It was just a big potluck party in a beautiful field with a bonfire and huge swings (the "seat" was bigger than a twin bed was meant to fit 10-ish people). Guests were told to bring swimsuits, because there was a river nearby. Kids allowed, dogs allowed, friends allowed. My friend took me and 5 other girls as her +1 and her cousin was happy to see us, even though it was the first time we met. She wore a simple white dress that got eventually stained by grass, but no one cared. I have been on many weddings since then, but not a single one of them could compare.

[@jetrhody7558]

That does sound wonderful-ive always felt that way too-i don't understand these ginormous productions...isn't it about making a commitment to someone you love who loves you?

[@erinjean2695]

I got married at a state park in the “rec hall”. I made all the decorations, bought my dress for $20 at goodwill and it was a genuine perfect fit for my body and exactly what I wanted. We bought a nice suit for my husband. Our friends helped cook the food and one of them was the dj. We made a music list before hand for him. We technically went and got married at the courthouse the week before, privately, then wrote our own vows for the ceremony and had my little sister “marry us” infront of everyone. We made a brownie cake for the reception and brewed our own beer. My friend donated time as a photographer for his gift. It was absolutely beautiful, we had tons of family and friends there who all had a fantastic time with us. It was an incredible day and the whole thing with over 100 guests cost us $2,000 or less. We actually ended up sort of getting reimbursed because of unexpected cash gifts we got. We technically “made money” vs coming out at a loss afterwards.

[@solsthrash2603]

Thats actually how it kinda goes with Balkan weddings, we often have big families which means big weddings are common, many guests means many cash gifts, close relatives often giving big ones, most of the time the couple is able to cover the costs and maybe even make money like you described

[@heathermcfarland6317]

My cousin did it right in my opinion. She put on the invitation “please don’t bring a gift. We would appreciate if you would donate whatever you would have spent on a gift to go towards our honeymoon fund.” She didn’t set a price. She told everyone if you can’t afford it don’t worry about it. I liked how classy she was about it and I knew they could not afford to go on their honeymoon so I had no problem giving them cash.

[@rose13red]

I was ready to dislike this comment until the part where she did not set a price and reassured people that it was okay to NOT donate if they can’t afford it. The last wedding I attended was of a bride and groom who said they didn’t want gifts, the HELL they didn’t, what they wanted was money, gobs of it. In addition to begging for cash they demanded that people pay for their honeymoon to the Bahamas. These are people who BOTH have GOOD jobs and make more money in a year than I will ever see in my whole life, yet they had the nerve to try to shake their guests down for more. I made a donation in their name to an ocean conservation charity and sent them a card informing I had done so. Yes I am petty, sorry not sorry. The wedding before that, the bride tried to get me to buy her a house. I don’t own a house. I am not buying her one. This is the kind of crap that makes singles hate marrieds and turn down wedding invitations. Your cousin did it right.

[@ChickenOfAwesome]

I think this is an awesome solutions to the problem of people buying you a load of shit you don't need too. It made sense to get soup tureens and china in the days when couples weren't living together before marriage. Me and my SO have lived together two years, we don't need anything we haven't already bought and we haven't got room for the kind of stuff people buy as wedding gifts.

[@atreq]

That's a great way to solve this :)

[@hrhargyll]

This very similar to what we said in our invitations.

[@nyandoesthings]

@@ChickenOfAwesome at my step-brother's wedding, they got three of the exact same crock-pot that they had put on a list of things they wanted for gifts... this seems like a way to solve that problem too

[@thylionheart]

I find it sus that the sister said that OP should, “stop treating her husband as my servant and expecting him to do whatever I want,” because the way that’s worded suggests that this isn’t the first time OP has treated her husband this way

[@johnandcarold6639]

Excellent point! So, OP has BEEN the a-hole for who knows how long to how many folks, and the wedding is bringing out her fangs at their longest. No surprise the in-laws don't want her son to marry her-she is a user and they see a miserable life for him...imagine her pregnant!

[@ConstantChaos1]

Yeah I think it was a patern of behavior or at least the terrible wording that lead to the problem, if she had asked him to potentially be ready to assist if something went down then the reaction would have been different

[@lanceareadbhar]

Yeah, this definitely wasn't the first time she demanded something of him.

[@wheelsndealz]

About the heterochromia wedding photos, that would mean every time he sees those photos on the walls he'll be reminded, "she doesn't accept all of me". That marriage wouldn't last with that constant reminder.

[@marthahawkinson-michau9611]

I agree. For what it’s worth, I could completely accept my husband flaws and all. Including all 450 pounds of him. I don’t actually consider his size as a flaw, just a potential health hazard. I’m not a shrimp either, and I love him completely exactly as he is. I would never have asked my man to change something that fundamental to who he is. Eye color is a small detail for some people, but it’s actually a huge part of many people’s identity. If that bitch was bothered by his eye colors in the photos, did she really love and accept him completely? I’m not sure, and I hope he got the answers to that question that he needed.

[@liz090833]

I agree that's upsetting AF, I hope he didn't do it.

[@Ra42484]

100%. I'm getting married in October, and I would never want to look back on my wedding photos and have my husband look like anything other than his natural self. Such a slap in the face to even think it's okay to ask someone to do something like that. I'd be crushed if I were him☹️

[@rabbit_scribe]

Two points: One: Some of these people need a refresher on the concept of "guest." If you're paying you are not a guest, you are a customer. Two: If the woman wants their eyes to match maybe she should wear one brown contact.

[@graceyjewels7148]

What a neat idea!

[@A_Rose_From_Concrete]

I thought the same thing about her matching his eye colors

[@melissaweintraub5854]

Touché!

[@teslafreeman]

​@@A_Rose_From_ConcreteI immediately thought she should do that but opposite colours, would make it look like some magical exchange and added so much to the vibe of the wedding, what with the whole 'you complete me' 'other half' feeling that weddings have.

[@RogueSpyce]

Every Bridezilla vid has me rolling because I cannot imagine being like that. I was in two weddings very young and learned I HATE them. So my wedding I wanted to elope but family was strongly against. Instead I had the smallest and quickest ceremony and reception ever. My photographer kept saying "you don't... Have any demands? Just a few poses of the couple together and each family? That's all?"

[@the_olm]

wow... that implies the photographer worked for only bridezillas in the past. glad you were not like that

[@nataliespence7752]

As someone with heterochromia the bride’s suggestion is surprisingly common. I’ve had a teacher ask if I was going to wear colour contacts for my school photos, to ensure I look more ‘normal/natural’ or when I go to the ophthalmologist they ask if I have considered colour contacts. The bride is clearly superficial if the colour of her fiancé’s eyes are going to ruin ‘her’ day.

[@aylenvillarreal5439]

Why would you hide that? It's beautiful, I don't understand how it occurrs to even ask you if you want to hide it. I, for sure, would be showing those beauties off.

[@celestialasmr9624]

The ophthalmologist even!? Urgh I'm sorry

[@princessmarthajandio]

If I marry a man with heterochromia I would get color contact lenses so I can match him for our wedding photos, if he's okay it of course. I want people to know he is loved.

[@omegatired]

@@princessmarthajandio Now that would be so cool .... if soon to be spouse is good to go with it, of course.

[@princessmarthajandio]

@@omegatired I know. Why isn't that the norm when dating people with heterochromia?

[@riakun]

Okay, so I think heterochromia is probably one of the most beautiful types of eyes out there. I can't believe *the audacity* of that bride.

[@rochellethundercloud346]

exactly.my twin sister has it in her eyes and hair.she literally looks like half Jessica rabbit,half Elvira ,mistress of the dark.

[@riakun]

@@crystalh450 it's funny that you actually mentioned that. I was actually going to go on and add to the comment saying that exact thing ("it wouldn't matter if it were beautiful or not, because it doesn't matter. You are who you are and should never be ashamed of how you look" etc.) But I ultimately decided stopped at the length of my comment so I wouldn't write an entire essay about something that everyone should already know and be considered common sense in this day and age.

[@LazyIRanch]

I would gladly trade my lazy eye for heterochromia! I do have fun embarrassing people who ask why I call my ranch the "Lazy I Ranch" (I really do have a ranch, with goats). If I'm looking forward, it's not noticeable, but if I look all the way to my left, my left eye moves but the right stays looking straight ahead. Just like Mr. Haney from "Green Acres". So if someone asks about "Why that name", I just look to my left and slowly drawl, "Oh, no particular reason!" I love seeing the UH-OH look on their faces! 😂🤪

[@charmingjinx9379]

That dude should have acquiesced and bargained to wear the contact lenses so long as the bride agreed to wear a bag over her head for the photos. I mean, if she loved him...

[@catz4m8z]

What gets me is that she didnt just photoshop his eyes afterwards. That implies that she would rather he stick things in his eyeballs so as not to ruin 'her special day'. What a b***h!

[@girlnextdoor849]

for the guy with the two-colored eyes, the bride said it all. She wanted them to match. Ok, get her a brown contact. Now they can both match. And her pictures have a great story behind them.

[@charondusk5608]

Honestly, if THIS had been what she'd suggested, it could've potentially been pretty cute. But suggesting her husband-to-be hide a part of himself because it "doesn't match"? Hell no.

[@benwagner5089]

The guy's eyes just have to match, right? Get Mystique's contacts from the X-men movies, that are bright yellow and covers the entire eyeball. Granted, he won't be able to see out of them, but he won't see her mad at him either.

[@LadyCoyKoi]

That is actually a cool idea. Match with your spouse . Even put on the contact on the opposite eye so when they get together the two halves that meet are the same. Gives soul mate a new definition. 🥰 Such a lost opportunity on her part.

[@grrrlykat9]

I like this idea

[@jackiekurtz6494]

modern problems require modern solutions... or he should just run! lol she is being ridiculous! I'd love to marry someone with heterochromia

[@lindsey618]

I just got married Friday and I was told I was the chillest bride that venue has seen in years! I refused to stress about the small details and that’s what got me through it. 🤣🥰

[@rhiannonslfaitken]

My dad has heterochromia (his eyes tend to change colour but he normally has one brown and one blue eye) and my grandfather on my mother's side also had heterochromia (one brown and one blue eye). I think it's so cool to have not one but two family members with it, considering they are from completely different blood lines it's always a surprise to people. I would never ask for it to be covered up.

[@tinasmith4858]

I was so fortunate with my wedding. My husband attended the same church his entire life. The church looked at it as a community celebration. One person volunteered to bake the cake, another made bridesmaids' dresses, another was the photographer. The "catering" was a potluck dinner. It was wonderful.

[@benwagner5089]

And THAT is how to do a wedding. Everyone is involved, everyone has fun.

[@marthahawkinson-michau9611]

That’s an actual church family there!!! Your husband is very blessed.

[@razminfox1787]

Sounds Awful church people just make me angry

[@greatsm2videl]

I love this! My mom had a simple church wedding too, with probably a simple little meal or some appetizers and a simple cake in the fellowship hall. I don’t know why people think weddings have to be some grand, expensive, Instagram perfect affair that costs your whole life savings.

[@laurel1281]

I had essentially the same situation with my past wedding. Wonderful church family that I grew up with (my adoptive mom has been the church secretary since before I was adopted.) Too bad I married a monster & divorced after 10 years (in 2012.) Now, I'm dating a man who treats me better than I deserve.

[@blakelay]

I attended a wedding and did pay for my "spot" but I was warned upfront before receiving the invitation and the couple made it clear this was the wedding gift because it was to help them afford everything and if they didn't ask for money they wouldn't have been able to afford anything. I was aware of everything from the beginning! It's not ok to suprise people with fees!

[@denyseneuman4188]

I don't see a problem as long as people are told ahead of the event. Years ago a friend got his best man to announce a cash bar right before we were heading to the reception. I had already sealed the card with the presentation inside. I was a struggling student and I couldn't believe how inconsiderate they were towards others. If I had known that we were expected to pay for any part of the wedding, my presentation money would have been adjusted accordingly.

[@charmingjinx9379]

Agreed. So long as a couple expects to charge guests for any part of their wedding reception, then the mutual understanding should be that all "presents from" guests are replaced by the "presence of" guests.

[@ellemmenn2930]

Agreed… she should have done like op stated and put it on the invite so people knew up front

[@krk6216]

I see no problem with informing guests up front and making it the wedding present.

[@blakelay]

@@krk6216 exactly communicating is key! Also not expecting guest to pay and bring gifts too!

[@ameliabrown3987]

I think heterochromia looks so cool. That bride is insane. She doesn’t deserve him 🤦‍♀️

[@yellowsubmarine1321]

My thoughts exactly!!! ✌️

[@sunflowerbaby1853]

What is she going to do when she has babies and they inherited the same thing?

[@janetelainedeloach6501]

She will be so disappointed when she finds out her kids could have the same color.....

[@TinyMartina]

Everybody thinks heterochromia looks so cool. Thats why she want him to cover it I think.. because it was HER day a she wnated to be the cool one :D :D

[@13gondolla37]

I bet she just doesn't understand the gravity of that ask. Like lets be real. Women are expected to cover their flaws and unique attributes all the time by society. She may just be so desensitized to the concept that she doesn't understand how hurtful such a request is. This will be a hard lesson but I hope it doesn't ruin their relationship and I hope they come out of it better off, especially on her part.

[@MrSpleenboy]

The heterochromia thing. I'm totally with you that it's a really cool looking condition, and I'm also with the fiancé - I mean, you either accept a person as they are, or you don't, and if a person wants to change something that is a literal part of his genetic makeup, that's a *huge* red flag IMO

[@mefford67]

*I had two close friends that insisted on big “church” wedding and both are now divorced.* *I went the opposite direction and had a low key wedding with my twin as my only attendant. My husband had both of his brother-in-laws ( he was a surprise baby and had 2 older sisters that were 10-12 years older ) and we’ve been married going on 33 years. Highly recommended low-key!* 💕

[@waynesmith6325]

Same...Wife and I couldn't afford the BIG traditional wedding so we each gathered a witness and went to the local court house.....we had a big reception later down the road and it was no different than a regular wedding reception...we had the cake that my Cake Making Grandmother made for us it was AMAZING and her along with my Aunts/Mom put on the dinner!! We've been married 30 years. Friends have had huge weddings when we were younger and most of all of them have divorced and remarried at least once!!!

[@fandomwriter8789]

I really wanna do that if I ever get married someday. Just like, have a barbecue and drop the news then cause it reduces the problems by a *huge* amount.

[@Rockerchick4000]

@@fandomwriter8789 Oh like April & Andy from parks and recreation.

[@Claudia-lq3ns]

Us too. We decided to elope, based on my recommendation. We just went to our usual vacation rental home. Wedding expenses (dress, cake, marriage officiant, hair, flowers, and photographer) ended up costing us less than $2K. I never haggled with anyone's prices. We did it to avoid my controlling mother. She pretty much made things suck during my first wedding (a marriage that fizzled put within 18 months). This time was beyond perfect, and we're going stronger than ever for more than 10 years 🥰

[@Claudia-lq3ns]

​@FandomWriter I wanted to do this too. Marry on the DL, but my husband really wanted to share the news. We compromised: he shared the news...that we were eloping. So NO ONE was invited. It was fabulous 😍

[@spoonlessvalkyrie7514]

The bride with the heterochromia issue is a whole bag of 🚩🚩🚩!! I’m disabled and my fiancé accepts me just the way I am! He never pushes me to change or be something I’m not. He truly is a Godsend!!

[@roll3886]

My brother got married at a justice of the peace and we went to dinner at a restaurant afterwards. He's still married all these years later and they had two kids together (three altogether including her son from a prior marriage) and we all love her. It really goes to show it's not about how much you spend at your wedding, it's how much you love each other.

[@rivertam7827]

Statistics show that the less you spend at your wedding the more likely you are to stay together

[@dheu]

I love this. If I ever got married, this is how I want it to go. A nice calming day surrounded by the people whom I actually love, not a stressful, huge event full of pageantry where I am gawked at by everyone I've ever met. I think that in their minds so many people have built up the wedding to be the goal of a relationship, not the marriage itself which continues for (hopefully) many years after that one day.

[@KimmietheAunt]

We can't even call them Bridezillas anymore - they have veered off into a new, frightening dimension of insanity, greed, and viciousness that leaves even the original Godzilla reeling

[@KimmietheAunt]

@@felinemoonchild makes sense cause they are acting as if the world owes them whatever they want just because they're getting married

[@malcolmgray.5913]

Karenzilla! Thats like the guy who said hey that fission bomb is great why dont we use that to set another bomb off so it makes a huge thermonuclear bomb.

[@ValerieCH1]

The TV shows have just amplified the crazy.

[@crashers17]

I will never understand why,some brides think it's just their day. There's two people getting married,plus all the people that love you,and are wishing you the best. When I got married,it was our day! Some people are just selfish,self centered,a holes.

[@tamaraandersson2532]

Where I live, it's very common to have "pay for your plate" weddings instead of guests bringing gifts, but this is still ALWAYS explicitly stated in the invitation. I think it's because we tend to marry after living together for a while, so the couple already have most of what they need. And cash gifts are usually considered a bit gauche.

[@amysdreamvideos8174]

Where do you live ? I've lived in both the north and the south of the USA and pay for your plate is just tacky .Why have a party and not host it? If your making them pay then you don't care about enjoying their company as much as you care about it being a transactional type of affair.

[@HighAsHeckPriestess]

@@amysdreamvideos8174 heck, my family paid for everyone's dinner after their wedding(at Applebee's. They saved for dinner and for their cruise that summer), including drinks (including soda for the non-drinkers). And as a thank you, some of our relatives bought drinks for my parents and the table for a toast, and my aunt bought several appetizers to make sure we had snacks (for the drinkers and stoners, or anyone to have breakfast)

[@dhaliablack2804]

At our place it's common to mostly give money as a gift and we calculate it so it looks like we arr paying our plate and give a bit more money above it. Who doesn't gift money just gives regular gifts.

[@suan333]

Where i am for, people usually gifts money (if the couple didn't ask for anything specific or something), the amount is what would cover their plate.

[@AnniCarlsson]

​@@amysdreamvideos8174omg you think USA is the world. Omg

[@shebasan1659]

I’m always astounded by how much people pay for a wedding. My husband and I were on an extremely small budget. We asked for no ones help. We got married for around $75. I already owned my outfit I got married in, same with hubby. We knew the pastor and he married us without asking for payment. Our rings were nice and around $25 on sale. (Still wear them) the most expensive part was the wedding certificate. That was $50. 16 years later we have zero regrets. And would do it that way all over again.

[@wardenm]

That's what gets me. They're spending tens of thousands of dollars for a fancy afternoon and photos... That could have been a down payment on a house together, or a big honeymoon, or some other big investment in your future together, you know?

[@ThisIsKassia]

@@wardenm Some people have enough money to throw a big party, and still afford to buy and house and travel. You're not inherently a better person if you don't spent money on a wedding. The issue isn't whether you have a big celebration or not. It's whether or not you act like an entitled psycho while throwing said big party.

[@wardenm]

@@ThisIsKassia Apologies, I wasn't meaning to imply that one type of wedding planning was inherently better than the other, but rather referring to the amount of stress behind things. If you're going to freak out and stress over it that much for something you're not even going to enjoy I was saying, better to spend it on something that you would or that at least was longer lasting. By all means, if you've the added income to splurge and have a big wedding, definitely! Just that, yeah, the benefit should outweigh the cost, both monetary and otherwise.

[@ThisIsKassia]

@@wardenm Ah yes! I agree! If you're going to be stressed either on the day or after because you're in massive debt, that is just silly and defeats the purpose. Who wants to start their marriage that way, right? Thanks for replying! Have a beautiful weekend!

[@wolfmans46]

I married my third wife in a civil wedding, this was wife number 3 and I have done the tread bare wedding at 20 and she was 18. I have done the $20,000 dollar wedding for wife number two. That lasted six years when I was made redundant and left the home with two kids from my first marriage. I spent months in a domestic violence refuge as they did not know where to put me. I married my second wife when I was removed. We have been together for over 20 years, the longest I have been with the same partner. Before you all jump on me as a caverliar misogynist, I am husband number 6. Go figure we cannot make the right decisions but we can all correct an error and come out happy.

[@writinggamer8059]

I'd really like to see a situation where an entitled bride, who is rude to everyone, charges guests for food, and wants it to be some big social media "guide to other couples," ends up with no one at her wedding, except one person like a sibling who posts it online so we can all see her standing there in shock at the empty venue. That would be fantastic.

[@teenybabs]

So true. We got married on a budget of 2k, which included an afternoon and evening buffet. I wouldn't have dreamt of asking for someone else to pay for our day, they only thing they had to buy where their own drinks at the bar. We don't even have a wedding video as my uncle 'lost it'... 15 years later and it was still one of the best days of our lives as all our family and friends were there. Some people need a slap of reality. You choose to get married, you pay and invite those you can afford to feed. Just my 2ps worth.

[@eboniclarke177]

Karenzillas

[@Slewenski]

Agreed. I would love to see that too. I assume that a few people Lee like parents don't have to pay though. I could imagine there is two lists sorta

[@PurpleLugia]

I can imagine in that scenario she'd be sobbing in a tantrum like, "Why did no one come!? Why does everyone hate me?! How could they ruin my big day like this?!" But we would be all here to see it happen anyway because karma is entertaining to see.

[@angelstewart3099]

Brides can be so weird 😂 I got married 8 years ago and I couldn't even imagine behaving this way. I wanted a beautiful, relaxing day to celebrate with my family and friends, and that's what we got.

[@PassTheMarmalade1957]

All our vendors kept saying to me, "You're so calm! How are you so calm?" and I've now realised that what they meant was, "Why aren't you screaming at us over the slightest thing as though it will utterly destroy your wedding?"

[@sidneybales9062]

Social Media has made things terrible for wedding planners. They see these spectacular flowers, venues and photographs that would cost tens of thousand of dollars and can't understand why they have to pay so much.

[@mangot589]

And that’s exactly how it should be! ✌️

[@raraavis7782]

@@thomasjoseph5876 Makes you feel like a human accessoire, doesn't it? Like, treat me like a person (or better yet, a friend) or celebrate your damn wedding on your own!

[@bcaye]

@@thomasjoseph5876, that's flattering, probably you are a handsome and nice person.

[@katwatson1797]

Many years ago, my friend had a pay-for-your-meal-instead-of-a-gift reception. We were all cool with it. It was on the invite, and the couple had been living together for some time and really didn't need anything gift-wise. The ceremony was in their lovely garden and the reception was at a reasonably priced restaurant with good food. It was a great time.

[@nikkiberns1365]

The BIL’s reaction to her security request is VERY telling about her and the relationships in her life (I agree - why exactly is the marriage disapproved?) because I grew up with the kids of the local police, even the Deputy Sheriff’s daughter was my best friend, and such a request would have either been happily agreed to or at the least, references and ideas shared to help. For BIL to be insulted by an expression of trust definitely indicates there’s no trust with the bride. Yikes.

[@Essiggurke-r2h]

nope its also a safety thing. usually you never do event security ALONE. You need coworkers that you can trust. to handle a potentially violent situation without anyone getting hurt and without being there AS A POLICE OFFICER you need more than one person, otherwise it's just a disaster waiting to happen, especially with alcohol involved

[@eleatodescato7286]

You're missing the point, you can't expect a guest to be missing your whole wedding being a security guard. He should've asked for advice and maybe a little help on setting something safe but not demanding him a full day of work for free like that

[@hannahmcgarry]

Heterochromia is absolutely BEAUTIFUL! The reason the bride didn't want them to show their eyes is because it would OUTSHINE her!! Think about it 😅

[@sbussea2691]

This right here! You said it lady.

[@Aviink]

Yeah!!! That could be it!

[@23Animegod]

@@sbussea2691 right I would to have it

[@perjus]

The most famous example: David Bowie.

[@melissacooper8724]

​@@perjus David Bowie had heterochromia?

[@xXAshHoleXx]

If my partner had heterochromia I'd ask him if he'd ever want to wear contacts to swap his colors just to mess with people lol side note - isn't it amazing how much outrage we feel over this? Such a small body part that has such a huge impact on who you are. It's like the same outrage I think we'd all have if someone asked their wheelchair bound partner to stand.

[@gordowg1wg145]

That is a GREAT idea! Heck, even without 'the condition' it'd be amusing to mix the contact colours.

[@sandy_carpetsthesecond5013]

Yeah, swap them throughout the day so that people are just in a constant state of confusion.

[@lifeaskaylie]

Just FYI, most wheelchair users liked to be called wheelchair users because we aren’t “wheelchair bound”. Wheelchairs actually give people more freedom.

[@greenpiersystem]

@@lifeaskaylie Ehhhhhhh... No. Did you get that from the Stanford Paper? If you did, please burn any copies you have of it immediately. Seriously, like every group I've been in (I'm ND, so a lot of the Neurodiversity groups have been upset, and r/aspiememes actually posted a picture of the paper to tell people not to follow the guidelines) has said that it is the most term-washed piece of used toilet paper ever. Like, seriously. Think about it. Do you think anyone gives a fuck about being disabled? Really? If you think they do, you're wrong. NDs don't want to be cured, we like our brains, that's why the ND community is so opposed to Autism Speaks and Next for Autism. Disabled people don't have a problem with their disabilities, they have a problem with how they are treated with them. Even if a person is a "wheelchair user," a huge amount of buildings are not wheelchair-accessible. Sometimes they're labeled as such, but they have a ramp that's impossible to climb or something. And there's currently a bill, that luckily has been forced into limbo after nearly being passed immediately in 2018, called H.R. 620 (coincidentally the numbers for my birthday) that would make ADA complaints about such ramps and requests to make them accessible basically shredder mail for businesses. People do not give a shit about being wheelchair bound. They do not need to be "freed" verbally, just like I don't need to be identified as a "person with autism" instead of an "autistic person." If you want to make us feel better about being disabled, how about... oh, I don't know... not disabling us? The reason we're "disabled" in the first place is the key operative in that word: we are DIS-ABLED from using what is considered standard in society. You do not accept us; you just keep moving forward, give us little pet names to make yourselves feel better about ignoring us, and don't let us actually participate in anything. If everything was wheelchair-accessible, or better yet, paralysis-accessible so people wouldn't need wheels, then they wouldn't be disabled. They would be different, yes, and they'd use a different set of tools, yes, but they would be able to participate at the same level as everyone with functioning limbs. See the difference? So please remove that way of thinking immediately before someone actually learns to talk that way from you.

[@lifeaskaylie]

@@greenpiersystem Hi, I think you may have misconstrued my comment, which I myself have problems knowing what other people are trying to say. I’m disabled, not a “person with a disability”. I agree with you, but I would still be disabled even if society was accessible. When I replied to that person, I was only only commenting on the term wheelchair bound and not the rest of their comment. I should have been clearer about that. I wasn’t using person first language. I was just saying that a lot of people prefer the term wheelchair user because it is neutral and a fact. Unlike wheelchair bound, which doesn’t physically apply to all wheelchair users and perpetuates ableist assumptions.

[@suzanne8284]

The etiquette obscenity of having your guests pay for their own meal is completely insane. If you invite people to be "guests", YOU PAY!!!!

[@hilaryc3203]

My ex in-laws wanted us to charge guests for the dinner at the reception. I said "no" and when I told my mother she was horrified with an "Over my dead body! response. The first of many reasons why they are my "ex" in-laws.

[@aliciasanders5561]

I mean I've heard of small weddings doing a potluck reception which isn't a bad idea

[@hilaryc3203]

@@aliciasanders5561 Depends on the crowd. Not everyone wants to ante up with the food for a wedding. The small weddings I went to were really small, 20 to 30 people only, and one only had 10 and they were just beautiful and meaningful. When my daughter got married for a second time, they opted on a BBQ. They had the ceremony at a wedding venue which was outdoors, surrounded in rolling fields of flowers, nature, mountains and on a warm sunny day and it was amazing. Then back to the house for a bbq; they loved it.

[@robertplatt1693]

As long as there is notice. I would pay if it meant something better than rubbr chikn.

[@becks7943]

I did the people pay for meals, only had 4 people decline. But I still regret my decision to this day. I plead pregnancy brain and just not knowing any different.

[@rb2157]

My brother and sister-in-law supplied cake and cava / sparkling cider at their wedding but otherwise had a potluck reception. A bunch of people made my father's meatloaf recipe, a bunch of people made my brother's garlic mashed potatoes recipe, I made penne alla vodka because Brother and SIL love it. Bride's grandma thought it was tacky as hell, but the venue was a church member's farm and with the exception of out-of-town family, most of the attendees were church folks who show love through cooking anyway. It was very much the wedding of two broke kids, and helping put it on was the gift from most of the people there. Nearly 17 years later, it's still the most fun I've ever had at a wedding (which is saying a lot, because I was in a bridesmaid's dress).

[@M_SC]

❤

[@deshaebraun3962]

I did not receive wedding gifts. I instead asked everyone to bring a dish. Everyone brought food. I appreciate that so much more than receiving gifts

[@alexandraofarrell7829]

The last story is literally what happened at my grandparent's wedding. My grandmother's father did not approve of my grandfather because he thought that my grandpa wasn't man enough because of his job. When he found out that they were engaged he told my grandma that she was a sl*t. They became worried that her parents would come to the wedding just to object and make a scene. Rather than asking someone to watch outside the whole time, they asked two of their friends to let people in, and in case my great grandparents would show up to not let them in. Once everyone was there they watched the wedding. If they would have showed up during the ceremony, the two friends would have gotten up from their seats and escorted them off the venue. I believe they paid their friends and I have no idea if my great grandparents tried to crash the wedding or not.

[@elithesia781]

Bruh, if I had a partner with heterochromia, I'd flaunt that in the wedding photos because heterochromia is awesome. That bride is out of her freaking mind and her fiancé deserves better.

[@tiffanytorres6374]

Lmao 🤣 Even if the brother in law showed up to the wedding as just a guest and family started showing up starting a fight, he took an oath to help people even off the clock if he wishes to do so. There was no reason to try and ask him to work for free, disrespect him and abuse his position. Things have happened when my dad was off the clock and he jumped in to help when it was absolutely necessary for the safety of others around. She was coming off like they would try to assassinate her. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@pvanpelt1]

This! All she had to do was give him a heads-up about the in-laws possibly causing trouble at the wedding and being worried about it, and he’d have kept an eye out for trouble if it happened.

[@ugaladh]

She's also asking him to do a job with potential injury involved without pay.

[@LeilaleilaZ]

@@pvanpelt1 I think some context was left out of the story over all. Why doesn't she talk much or really get along with her sister/BIL? Sounds kinda like a nightmare of a person that no one wants around and when she didn't get what she wanted she turned to the internet for pity. That didn't seem to work out either 😂

[@Scarlett.Granger]

I mean she could just have asked nice for him to please help if something was to happen. Who'd deny that? But like "stand guard" the whole wedding, is he supposed to stand in front of the door like her queens soldiers before the Buckingham palace or something? Thats weird. Imagine the poor dude just stands there for ten hours nothing happens lol. And then uninviting them because he said no, thats just in poor taste.

[@tiffanytorres6374]

@@Scarlett.Granger lol it really goes to show there is more to this story than she told to the internet. No family is perfect but damn, something is up with her. She comes off as someone who wants sympathy and attention but doesn’t give it.

[@cb9825]

the last story OP's behaviour (even described by herself LOL) basically explains why fiance's parents dislike her so much🤣

[@skrittle555]

i'm engaged and deadass i literally forgot wedding gifts were even a thing lmao. i'm just grateful that people will be taking time out of their busy lives for me, and i hope to give them a cool party for it. entitled people make entitled brides i guess.

[@melaniereese5226]

I still don't understand bridezillas! My wedding was small and lovely. Start to finish the total cost was $400. Our reception had more than enough food and drinks. We didn't ask for anything from anyone. My landlady made a wedding cake as her gift to us.. There's a lot to be said for having a barbecue 😃

[@MrsShocoTaco]

Same lol My sis used 2nd hand everything except the flowers and a friend of the family donated those as their gift. They've been married 27 years. I met my husband at her wedding and we got married at the local courthouse a year later🤷🏻‍♀️ *their wedding gifts ranged from laundry essentials to mortgage payments even though they put on the invitations not to bring gifts

[@riverraven7]

That does sound lovely 🌹 I didn't have one...we did it on my husband and best friends lunch hour.My best friend gave me her ring (she got a divorce) and later that afternoon my husband and I worked in the hayfield. 😄

[@malcolmgray.5913]

I think these things get incrementally way out of control and the meaning of the day (union) gets lost. A minimalist trend may emerge as a result when the standard is a destination wedding that guests have to parachute into wearing medieval armour. I’m glad you did it right and had a great day,! Congratulations and please a accept one of my invisible potatos as a belated gift. (I’ll send the potato when I post this and it will piggyback the signal)

[@melaniereese5226]

I love both of your weddings! ❤❤

[@cleosworld9096]

400$ omg if I ever get married I’m finding you to help me

[@mckaylascott6458]

I am almost 25 & I had enough damn sense to pay for everyone's meals at our wedding. It may have been alot of money (2 grand at that) but it was well worth it knowing everyone left happy & full ❤

[@Birdbike719]

There is hope for our collective after all! I was having my doubts.🙂

[@DrT0705]

You're so lucky to have found your person so young! Love that for you 😍

[@EH23831]

I felt the same… the food and drink were my thank you to family and friends for coming along to celebrate

[@denyseneuman4188]

I never would have expected anyone pay for their dinner at my wedding. My husband and I had the wedding that we could afford (which included us buying snacks for cocktail hour, the dinner and all alcohol). We were incredibly grateful for every and all gifts that we received. We didn't expect a cent.

[@mimicotom]

I wonder if the guests had to pay for their own drinks?

[@aribowman5135]

I was extremly fortunate that I got the wedding of my dreams.... and it was just to two of us, at a waterfall in Scotland and we had a braveheart wedding which included a hand fasting and drinking from a traditional Scottish cup (can't remember what it was called) it was romantic, intimate and just amazing. After we married went out for dinner got drinks and stayed at a lovely hotel. Best wedding ever 😍😍

[@idasiek]

In my country you're kinda expected to give a couple rough price for a plate as a minimum, but the weddings last whole weekend and 1st day ends around 4-5am. It has tons of food (and I mean TONS, 2nd day is 1 new warm meal and all leftovers from night before), alcohol, games, dancing til morning. And if you live far (I always do, as I live abroad) you get offered accommodation, either in family/friends house, or the hotel the party's at. I'd say it's worth the price 😉

[@cabooedens4164]

I freaking love these bridezilla videos because damn it helps me see just how sane I am compared to them, that and to remind me never to get married and if I do, either do a courthouse wedding or have a small potluck wedding, no gifts only food, on Halloween so everyone can just wear costumes.

[@melkerahtagadatsoin-tsoin6016]

I'm pretty sure a Halloween wedding would give better memories than any of these excessive celebrations where you can't sneeze without "ruining" it 🥳

[@audreym3908]

Woooo you can dress up as the corpse bride!

[@sarakanas7677]

Imagine being so insecure that you think your fiance's eyes are going to overshadow you on your wedding day

[@missgiroud97]

I think that have to be with something about perfection. Because she didnt said only to match each other eye. She add to math her blue eyes.

[@missgiroud97]

Why not both brown then? I might be thinking too much on this topic, but I find it strange

[@GullitaDK]

As someone with sectoral heterochromia ( half-brown and half-green and the other fully green) I felt 100% attacked 😂 Can you imagine their children looking one dag through wedding pictures and having to explain why daddy's eyes don't look like they do irl 🤦‍♀️🤣

[@audreym3908]

I'm imagining it and that looks/sounds awesome!

[@MagpieTendenc]

Makes me wonder how she'll react if they have children and the kids get his eye color (s)...

[@GullitaDK]

@@audreym3908 I definitely wouldn't cover it up at the request of anyone 😁 I believe Elizabeth Berkley has the same color combo,

[@erikakagstrom2896]

Where I live, in the north of Sweden, it is not unusual at all to ask guests to pay for their meal at a wedding. But it always say that on the invitation (plus how much) and they also don’t ask for any gifts. So it’s like they want you to come and celebrate with them without it costing too much for anyone, including the bride and groom. I think it is great. I can go to a wedding without thinking about what to give as a gift, and the meal is never very expensive. The most I’ve paid is about $30. Also I think the closest family usually don’t have to pay. And most couples can also pay for guests who cannot afford it so that everyone who wants to be there can come.

[@cassidyoflynn2342]

As someone with heterochromia (my eyes are a grayish blue but my left eye had brown in the bottom of it) I used to get very self conscious over it because it's "different", but as I got older I have grown to appreciate my eyes and the fact they are unique. Anyhow, the bride does not deserve the groom. His eyes are something he can not change.

[@I_Stay_4_SKZ]

Growing up, I used to dream about my Wedding. My Sophomore year of High School, we had to design our Wedding Dress in my Fabric to Fashion class. I was thrilled to design the Wedding Dress of my (16yo) dreams🥴 Then I met my husband when I was just 20yo ६ I literally realized how extremely happy I was ६ how little an actual Wedding even meant to me anymore. We dated for ７years before we finally decided to get married ६ we literally just went to the Court House with my MIL ६ my Best Friend as our witnesses. I couldn’t be happier that we didn’t have a Ceremony because we didn’t need too. And we’ve been together now 12years. Weddings are overrated!

[@aurorasam05]

Love this!

[@Lemana28021989]

This is "I want a marriage, not a wedding". Well done!

[@marthahawkinson-michau9611]

I felt the same way when my husband and I got married. We were pretty poor, and after being engaged for three years, we decided that it was more important for us to build a strong marriage then it was to have a dream wedding. It’s been ten years since we got married, but we’ve built the kind of relationship that survive an unrelenting amount of hardship-holding each other the entire time. I’m not kidding. We were live-in caregivers for his parents for eight years as their health slowly declined. The last eight months were the worst.

[@happychaosofthenorth]

My theory is that she wanted her fiance to hide his heterochromia for the wedding photos because his eyes would draw attention away from her.

[@levytate2450]

This makes the most sense

[@QueenCuddlePuff]

I was thinking that too.

[@QueenCuddlePuff]

My husband is prettier than me, even though I am beautiful. Me looking better than him in the weddings photos would be almost impossible xD I would have to have the most gorgeous dramatic outfit to make up for it....but I know deep down inside he would still slay me XD I would be proud of the man's eyes tbh but if this status was the reason I guess I can relate although I wouldn't do that. I would totally get picked on for being less favorable compared to my hubby. He is so stunning. There's girls that hate me for it but idc we are in love

[@dotar9586]

The fiancé should have agreed to the contacts. Then suggest bridezilla wear some falsies and butt pads. 🤪

[@kyoxtohru112]

I was searching for this comment so I wouldn't have to. It screamed that to me cause she said only this day, HER day, and no can take her attention not even her husband.

[@witheringangel]

My sister has heterochromia and I’m so freaking jealous of her she looks absolutely gorgeous. I would never ask for my partner to cover up their beauty, if I was the fiancé I would be pretty upset.

[@brandirae99]

yeah i’d probably cry if my significant other told me to cover part of my appearance. like i’m about to marry you, ain’t you supposed to find me attractive…? lmao.

[@abiv4469]

My mum has 2 differnt colored eyes my kids think it's so cool that they all can claim they have the same eye colour as their nana, even if it's just one eye

[@aylenvillarreal5439]

@@abiv4469 That's so CUTE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@momoproblemos]

Lmao that first story reminds me of when I was first getting into wedding photography. I only charged $150 and shot all day since I was just breaking into the space. Because my equipment wasn’t up to snuff, the couple told me I was not hired. The way it went down really broke my self esteem as a impressionable 19 year old struggling to make ends meet as a photographer. I stopped shooting weddings after that. I regret letting those peoples entitlement influence me. Ps. I have professional level equipment. It just happened to be a 2014 camera and it was 2016. That was the issue…

[@BohemianDollhouse]

I'm sorry it took you away from something you enjoyed. But with their attitude you most likely dodged a bullet.

[@tonyhaynes9080]

Not a wedding, but a similar thing happened to me. A friend invited me to Bournemouth in the Uk for the weekend of the air show. Got to Bournemouth, he turns to me and said, ‘I want £200 to cover the hotel’ My first instinct was to just say, ‘drop me at the railway station’ The fact that the year before I had taken him and his family to Disney land Paris, with me picking up flights and hotel had obviously slipped his mind. He was your complete entitled Kevin, who thought he was entitled to everything that I had, whilst being a complete narcissist to me when no one else was around.

[@Jay-mu7pj]

can we all agree she makes our day better when she posts?

[@brandymusson9838]

Yes 100% she is awesome

[@heathergross2238]

Yeeeeeeeees!!!! 💗💗💗

[@rodynvt7485]

Yes and no , yes on 1 side i enjoy these and on the other side people like that just piss me off

[@marysamson9228]

YOOO, TRUE THAT!!

[@pinkarmadillomd]

AGREED!!! ❤️ Charlotte

[@kathleenmccrory9883]

I've been married twice. Both times I simply provided a reception in my backyard, couple kegs of beer, barbecue, couple of cases of champagne, no requests to the guests except to enjoy themselves and celebrate with us. I've been to other weddings like this, they're always the best. Fun is better than all the formal nonsense anyday.

[@stevenwilson879]

If you get married a 3rd time, will you invite me? These are our family weddings: Band BBQ Booze. Never a bad time. Peace

[@kathleenmccrory9883]

@@stevenwilson879 Absolutely! 😀

[@mimicotom]

Sounds like my wedding 23 years ago. People still tell me, it was the best wedding they went to.

[@wanderer7956]

I remember reading the "bait/switch, here's you bill for my wedding dinner" story. I love that people are so hopeless on basic etiquette they think it's OK to CHARGE for an event they can't afford to hold otherwise. The closest thing I've seen that wasn't completely tacky was a couple that were in their late 20's and already had household items asked that, in lieu of gifts, people use their venmo link to contribute to a honeymoon fund. Cash bars are OK, let's face it, some people are lushes. But this?!?

[@sylviedabee]

As someone who has partial heterochromia (I have hazel eyes but my right one has splotches of blue in it), I would be really sad and offended as well if my fiance asked me to wear contact lenses for my wedding photos://. I love my eyes, and having them covered up for one of the most special days of my life, in special pictures with the most important person in my life, would make me feel fake and unlike myself! That is such a weird request to me. Like I LOVE my boyfriend's brown eyes too, but if he also had heterochromia the last thing I would want to do is cover them up!! Could you imagine the portraits??🤩🤩. So cool👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@smilingleoz]

In some countries and cultures it's normal for guests to pay for their meal at a wedding. I grew up in Spain where this is the case. I always thought it was odd, as the couple are inviting you to THEIR special day... But it's the norm that each guest will pay up to 150€ per meal and about another 150€ as a gift, either as a cash gift or an actual gift. Once you add this to the cost of wedding clothes, bachelorette/bachelor parties, traveling, overnight stay, etc it makes weddings ridiculously expensive to attend.

[@mechelle9009]

You need to do a momzilla video. Sometimes they are worse than brides.

[@CaptainMeowKitty]

I second this

[@CharlotteDobre]

That’s a great idea!!

[@NoriDune]

This is SUCH a good idea 👏

[@victoriab1869]

Do this please 🤗

[@andreabradley5837]

I worked in a bridal boutique many years ago. I can attest to this...more often than not.

[@smife26]

So in Singapore, instead of wedding gifts, we give “red packets” to cover the cost of our plate/place to attend the wedding (especially in Chinese weddings). The usual rate is at least $120 for a hotel wedding, and can go up to $250 or more per person. It’s a common practice (whereas wedding gifts are generally unheard of here). We also usually write our names on the packets so the couple knows who gave how much…

[@Pandatracy]

These brides are so crazy! I just got married in January and I can't even imagine if I behaved this way! I feel like I was the most chill on my wedding day, even when the cops got called because the music was too loud I didn't let it ruin my day. (we got married in our backyard, it was a small wedding with only 50 guests). I also let my bridesmaids pick their own dress as long as it was the color that I had chosen. No reason to be a bridezilla, its just one day no reason to lose friends over one day!

[@crystalratclffe3258]

I have seen weddings where the FRIENDS chose to throw a reception for the couple who got married BY THE FRIEND'S CHOICE and did so by all agreeing to buy their own meals at a prearranged time/location. The couple had no idea

[@rod370]

Hi, At 7:33. She fell in love with him. And his different coloured eyes. So if he is good enough to love. He should not have to wear contacts at there wedding. Remember this bridezilla its his wedding too.

[@rayl3103]

At my wedding, we actually discouraged guests from giving gifts. We informed them that if they were invited, it was because we wanted them there, not their money. They ended up being very generous anyway. I really don't remember who gave what. I only remember that they were there and that was everything for us. My aunt who lives next door did not attend. She gave a gift but the only thing I can remember is that she chose not to attend which hurt me very much. My wife's family from Kansas flew to NJ to attend. My 80 year old uncle in Puerto Rico flew to NJ as well. My aunt who lives next door said weeks before that she wasn't feeling well and could not attend. Somehow, she manages to feel well enough to go to Atlantic City but not to my wedding only a few miles away. Anyway, I'm ranting. You could tell it hurt and it is not something I will easily forget.

[@jenelizabeth7822]

As the SO of a police officer.. I would’ve felt the same way. Instead of asking him to basically work for free, she could’ve done a simple “hey, we are having trouble with some in-law drama. IF something were to occur, could he step in to deescalate the situation.” As they are usually pretty decent at that. Instead of asking him to “stand watch” from start to finish as if he isn’t a guest and part of their family.

[@nevermindmyparentsimthepunk]

I see what you mean there, with the way of wording things. I personally was annoyed she was the dubbed the A-Hole because she said she wasn't close with her sister an the money was tight an the extra stress of that, with wedding expenses, daily expenses, and her now her in-laws stressing her out they'll be there I can see why she'd want to save money an not invite the Brother In-Law since she sounds desperate for it not to be sh!t show an she isn't close with her sister an she reached out to her for help. I can now see how wording it a different way like you did how it could of been nicer, I still personally don't see her as a A-hole, but I do see how wording it might of changed what would of happened

[@jenelizabeth7822]

@@nevermindmyparentsimthepunk that’s why I commented. I felt I could offer a different perspective.. I completely understand what you’re saying. I truly believe this was 100% wording. ALL of them are asked to do this by friends or family.. it comes with the territory and most of them won’t mind at all to lend a hand. A casual conversation with the sister explaining the situation.. along with the money strain.. it would’ve probably been fine. I think the situation was just approached in fairly poor taste.

[@LazyIRanch]

If I were in the same situation, I'd have invited sis and her husband over for dinner, then after a pleasant meal say something like, "I have a potential situation, and would really appreciate your professional advice in how to handle it because I respect your training and instincts". BIL has the situational awareness of a cop, wherever he is, so he doesn't need to stand guard to handle some disgruntled in-laws. I've been in public places before where some disturbance occurred, but before I even knew what was happening, an off-duty cop (or two) had already quietly stepped in and mitigated the altercation and everything went back to normal. My goodness, the in-laws most likely aren't from a cell of trained terrorists, so I'm sure the situation can be dealt with... if there even is a situation. Most likely bridezilla is exaggerating, or her in-laws have good reason to hate her. Probably both.

[@pinkarmadillomd]

@@jenelizabeth7822 Problem is, she disinvited him when she didn't get what she wanted out of him...that's an AH no matter how you word things.

[@nevermindmyparentsimthepunk]

@@jenelizabeth7822 yes you're completely right.

[@nancykuehnel1854]

This "pay for dinner to attend" and "pay for our honeymoon trip, etc." are recent trends by entitled brides. In fact, many of my friends weddings had potlucks that guests were very happy to bring.

[@madabbafan]

I don't mind the 'instead of a gift please consider contributing to our honeymoon' idea but the 'pay for your plate' thing no definately not.

[@carmeltabby]

I've been to a wedding where the guests were supposed to pay for the dinner but my Mom knew about it well in advance and we left after the ceremony and came back for the reception. I knew of several weddings where people left for dinner and went back. Especially if they had kids. I'm not entirely sure why in every circumstance tho

[@marckye1]

2:17 a friend of mine had a wedding kind like that. They payed for the food, each guest payed for what each one drank and they didn't ask for gifts. They just wanted our presence in their big day . It was great. Everyone had a great time. That way she could invite many people. But it was dealt like this since the beginning. I got say, we are living in a new financial era. Many people won't have money to do big weddings anymore but everyone wants to be part of it. We will see things like that more and more.

[@radiomindchatter7994]

My wife and I totally got around this by eloping. had a white chapel wedding in Gatlinburg, TN...in the mountains. It made family and friends upset but it was totally worth it!

[@Emeraldwitch30]

Just have a big party later. I got married with 30 of our closest relatives on a Tuesday. Our reception was 2 weeks later and we had a ball. Wasn't super expensive either. My parents/ grandparents said here is budget. Any left over is down payment on a house. Damn Skippy we stuck with a good budget and bought a house. Still in it 30 years later. But took us 3 years to find a house we wanted. Ended up buying parents house cuz they downsized lol. Been married 33 year as of last feb 14th 🥰🥰 my mr man just turned 60 today. Im making steak/ mushrooms/ cheesy tater for his dinner. Have a great day y'all 😘 💛 💗 💕 ❤ 🤗

[@bellas14u]

My husband and I did the same except we eloped on a battlefield in Virginia. The only family at our wedding were our two daughters.

[@shenacarter7987]

I haven't even gotten married yet because food is high but at no point have I ever thought about treating my friends and family like crap. I'm planning the wedding, which means I should be paying for everything, from the space to the food. I want people to enjoy the day as much as me. I'm happy if they will be happy. God bless these ladies... 😤

[@Teresia12]

One of my daughters has one blue eye and one half brown eye until she gets angry the it becomes completely brown. I've always loved it!! Growing up even if she was respectfully agreeing and seemed fine I knew when she was seething inside. Everyone has always loved her eyes. Her brown is very dark like my Dad's. Her blue is ice blue like her Daddy's. The contrast is amazing. 💙

[@melissablackwood]

Mom: Why are you so angry? Teen Daughter: I'm not angry. Mom: Yes you are. Teen: No I'm not. Mom: Then how come your eye is totally brown? Teen: Gaaaaah! Betrayed again! Mom: < smug smile >

[@sylviedabee]

That is so cool omg🤩🤩😂

[@mima9277]

gosh these videos make me realize how beautiful and low maintenance all weddings i've been to have been. what's more than that, i always felt like it was an honor to be there because we were the ones being treated to nice cocktails, great food, fun and dancing and most importantly nice people and precious moments. I guess i was lucky.

[@NotesOfMusica]

Cheese and meat trays, veggie trays, fruit bowls, and snack foods all go a long way for a day wedding, especially if there aren't that many people. Worked great for mine!

[@gillianc8106]

The more of this type of content I see, the more grateful I feel that we eloped to Las Vegas to get married. My only “bridezilla” stipulation as the bride was “no Elvis wedding”. That’s all. Anything else was absolutely fine, and the only people there were our minister, the photographer, my husband and my son. Seriously. I’d recommend it to anyone. Least stressful day ever, really personal and heartfelt ceremony and our family and friends still got to watch the live stream. Sometimes in their PJs, so it was stress-free for everyone involved. 😆 It also meant that none of our guests felt obliged to buy presents, expensive new outfits or travel tickets - we didn’t want anything from them apart from their good wishes.

[@ramachandra776]

After watching Charlotte's videos and throwing Charlotte's truisms around at appropriate times , people nowadays tolerate me more . Thanks Charlotte for all the words of wisdom . 🙂 . It has helped me connect better with people .

[@malcolmgray.5913]

Yes I’ve had a similar experience. Problems I’ve had and things happening had made me miserable and unmotivated but I am now pretty happy in general and laughing at random things that remind me of Charlotte’s comedy. I was also pretty productive today and started planning and preparing a big personal project. They say that laughter is the best medicine. It looks like it’s working on many of us. There are many in pain in the comments and there is a theme of being picked up by this channel.

[@ramachandra776]

@@malcolmgray.5913 Ha ha great man . You are remarkably perceptive as well . Hoping you have more days like these . 🙂

[@stevenwilson879]

@@malcolmgray.5913 Yes. I think Charlotte Dobre deserves more than my therapist.

[@malcolmgray.5913]

I meant to say people are finding healing from the channel. I also should have said that In general many people mention some really rough times in Charlotte’s videos and they are finding a respite from watching. In saying that, I hope Charlotte can feel free to do something else or relax when this gets her where she want to be.

[@malcolmgray.5913]

Hey Rama are you in India? I’m in an ex colony as well if so! I didn’t say your cricket is bad you must have thought so : )

[@deedranicolehooks]

You know that bride who charged for the plate expected gifts, too. 🤣🤣

[@andrealinda6069]

The contact thing reminded me of a guy I almost dated. We had gone to middle school together for 3 years. He was a grade older than me. He had BEAUTIFUL blue eyes. It was the first thing you noticed about this guy. They were like a cerulean blue. As we were in different grades, we just saw each other around school but didn't hang out. Years later, we friended each other on Facebook. We started messaging each other. He was really nice, kind of shy. I mentioned that I had always admired his eyes... he told me they were contacts! For years he was wearing blue contacts. I don't even know what eye color he really had. The contacts looked real, so maybe there was a different shade of blue under them. It was just so weird to me that he wore a fake eye color for years. He still wore them! I ended up nicely brushing him off. I'm sure he was a really nice guy, but no.

[@Lauren_P_]

I have blue eyes, my eye doctor contacts lens specialists (when I was in high school) always tried to push colored contacts on me. They made my eyes a really unnatural blue. I never got any (mostly because my eyesight was too poor and they didn’t have most of them available in my script) but I can understand why people did. I had a friend that had 3 different pairs and matched her eyes to her outfits in high school.

[@scloftin8861]

I knew a red head in high school who had green eyes ... not dark, just this lovely clear green. One day she wore glasses and turned out her eyes were this really bright clear blue and she wore contacts to turn them green She just wanted green and could afford to do so.

[@maryjanegibson7743]

We had a modest wedding that was a wonderful day with people we wanted to share the day with. Would never have dreamed of asking for anyone to pay for their meal or to give us gifts. Their presence was the best gift of all.

[@christyramosortiz]

The AUDACITY! That’s the only thing that comes to mind

[@dionnynatanuel5305]

In my country, you NEVER ask the guests to pay. Maybe you can ask your family to help out to afford it, but not other people outside the family. It'll be disrespectful and bring shame on you and your family. There's donation money that will be received as gifts, that's why I was confused af when I heard that brides demanded expensive gifts 😂

[@darth-imperius]

Same. It's like an unspoken rule that the gift (aka money) will cover the food and have extra on top of that, that's left for them to do with as they please.

[@aidab93]

In my country it's expected of the guests to pay for their meal AND a gift unless stated otherwise. But usually gifts (such as kitchenware) are paid among a group of friends or family members.

[@sargampareek2774]

In my country almost everyone( except usually the unmarried friends) give cash as gifts and the amount is determined on the basis of how close you are to the couple or their parents. Good thing is us cousins have already decided on an amount that we gift for the wedding of any of our cousins, so there is never an issue of favouritism. There are 21 of us. This was started by our parents to avoid conflicts.

[@queensrule4450]

@@sargampareek2774 One doesn't do registries. One finds an appropriate card at the supermarket and inserts a $100 bill (ironed and scented). So if you are demanding that $150 be paid for the food, then you just aren't getting a gift.

[@mangot589]

In my country, the US, surprisingly for a lot of people, this is a seriously new phenomenon. We haven’t always been spoiled little brats when we get married. We got married to get MARRIED, not for whatever the hell is going on now. I’ve been to plenty where it was a nice ceremony, went to the church hall, community center, etc. for a couple hours, and then that was that. Sometimes it was pot luck, sometimes catered, sometimes just o’dourves, one could afford. I would have never in a million years hit on my friends for money so I could have the “wedding of my dreams”, whatever that is. A big party, where I am the only person who matters and paid for by somebody else? I’ve also been to big, expensive shindigs, but we were never asked to help pay for it. Or their honeymoon. Asking for money is tacky, and in extremely bad taste. The whole purpose of gifts originally was to help people set up their own houses, linens, kitchen, etc. NOT so people could get thousands of dollars in a bunch of bric a brac, or get stuff they’ve been eyeing and can’t afford.🤷‍♀️

[@jamielynnalaband5628]

never been this early in my life. i just wanted to say how much i look forward to seeing your videos everyday! keep being amazing!!

[@j0c35]

Facts

[@christinaobert5664]

Agreed!

[@malcolmgray.5913]

Is anyone in a better mood in general because of Charlotte? I started clapping next (whatever) for a while. Today I cracked up when someone clapped on a KZbin video, now it’s hard to even think about clapping. A few weeks ago I was sadly looking my favorite picture of a dog that died and I the picture as a salute to the dog. There is so much that stays with me after I watch and binge her channel.

[@malcolmgray.5913]

Edit *spun the picture in my phone

[@sarahglover3286]

My brother has different coloured eyes, one blue like me, the other one causes arguments, personally I think its half green half brown but I've heard strange responses from people about his eye colour! But its not noticable from a distance usually and is what you'd be used to! Could you imagine showing your children your wedding pictures and they go "I didn't know Daddy used to have the same colour eyes" and her having to explain no he didn’t he just wore contacts!?

[@kathyatwood1394]

That's why I'm glad I made the dresses and wedding cake and my friends threw me a potluck meal. Two couples who played in a band played for us as their musical gift. They only played after the meal so there could be dancing. Simple, memorable, and all re mm ember fondly.

[@SunroseEdits]

I'll be honest, I was with the bride at first for the last one. I totally understood feeling the need to have security, not being able to afford it, and then going to ask someone you know if they could help. When OP said they weren't close with they're sister, I was like, 'well then you're probably not going to like the answer' but I still understood the request. In fact, I was with them all the way, until they said the BIL wouldn't be allowed to come because they declined. I'm sorry what? 😑

[@aylenvillarreal5439]

Well, I wouldn't ask for someone to literally guard the wedding. I would communicate the issue, and ask friends or/and family if they would mind to just keep an eye on whose coming and help me if problems were to arise. No need to have someone out all night like OP suggested. I'm pretty sure you didn't mean that either, don't worry. But, yeah, of course it is reasonable to ask for help if you feel in danger, just that that was definetely not the way to ask for it.

[@Jerepasaurus]

She could have approached the guy entirely different about asking him to be security. Like giving him some extra perks or gifts later. Anything to reasonably barter if he would be willing. And then if not, THEN APOLOGIZE if they were offended, and MEAN IT. Lordy, it isn't hard. I don't think asking was terrible, though maybe a longshot, sure.

[@Amanda-gv3jh]

Yea I felt the same way.....maybe not put him in the back have him still get to attend but be there in case shtf......but rude as hell the way she went about the whole situation

[@stuartstone6359]

Thing is if she just invited him anyway then she literally has a cop at the wedding anyway. So if something did kick off then the reasons she said she was asking him for comes into play anyway because he is there

[@matchaaalie]

Same, at first I understood where she was coming from, and asking her BIL would be a good way since hiring security is not an option she could afford, the matter was just how it's worded and she totally wrecked it. She could have asked him (nicely) to take charge if things were to escalate and give him gifts later whether or not stuff happened, not asking him to stand guard from start to finish and uninvite him when he refused like wtf. She was a total AH

[@janejones7638]

Let's say I'm walking around my friend's house and happen to see a wedding photo displayed. I'd see the spouse had two eyes whose colors matched. My immediate thought would be, why is she displaying a wedding photo from her previous wedding? His heterochromia is what makes his looks distinct. Why would you want a photo where he doesn't look like himself? A friend of mine was over at my house. I have a close family friend's wedding photo on my wall of family pictures. My friend asked, who would be classless enough to wear sunglasses during a wedding photo? These weren't cute sunglasses but the large dark kind which keeps light from coming from the sides as well. I waited a few seconds for my friend to catch up but she didn't. The woman is blind, she can't be outside without these glasses (she wears them inside if the lighting is too bright). My friend said, Why is she in the picture if she's going to look that way? The bride was her sister, she was the maid of honor. My friend didn't make any comments saying she realized she was in the wrong. This incident totally changed my opinion of my now former friend. After another couple of incidents, I realized she was a very shallow uncaring person.

[@hellannthefirst5529]

I have prescription transitional lenses (can't see much without them). They darken to sunglasses in the sun. They help protect my eyes against cataracts, which run in my family. After wearing them so long, I no longer notice them until I go back into a dark building and have to wait a moment for them to fade back to clear. Anyway, at my own daughter's wedding pictures, there I am in "sunglasses". I just didn't remember about them and no one said anything. If they had mentioned it, I would have just removed them for pics. It's happened in other pics too, but no one ever says.. hey,could you take off the sunglasses and by the time I think of it, the pic is done. Sometimes, it's just plain old people like me who don't think about something that is part of everyday life. Sometimes others could think to at least ask nicely (like a wedding photographer).

[@aprocessofchange6251]

Heterochromia is absolutely is beautiful. That woman doesn't deserve that man.

[@trustmemysonisadoctor8479]

I completely agree with you, heterochromia is amazing and he should not marry her.

[@alyssahamlett]

u mean he doesn't deserve her not the way u said it

[@crIms0ngen]

@@alyssahamlett He deserves far far better than that woman.

[@LazyIRanch]

RIGHT??? That's kind of like marrying a unicorn, rare and beautiful. David Bowie had different-colored eyes, even though his was a result of an accident, and he was beautiful and loved by millions.

[@champslim]

@@nurseVerina love that reference

[@Fyreflier]

1:32 reminds me of the Roman emperor thing where there was the dude beside them whose job was to whisper "remember you're only human" in their ear to keep their egos from overinflating also the dude with heterochromia should wear like bright red contacts when the bride gets pissed, he should take them out and have his lovely heterochromic eyes in the photos exactly as they should be

[@exoticgardensalad8095]

As a person with heterochromia, I have never had anything negative said to me about it. Actually... I've never heard anyone be negative about heterochromia generally. I feel sorry for her, imagine being such a shitty, shallow human and having no idea you are.

[@Lynn-kh5rs]

My sympathy is for her future husband finding this out so late in the relationship.

[@cintiac1830]

Heterochromia is literally one of the most beautiful traits to have, the only ones who hate it is the one who only jealous they don’t have that trait

[@Essiggurke-r2h]

it's the most accepted and least stigmatised genetic condition I know.. and as a biologist I know alot of them...

[@alira9990]

my best friend in Ontario has a beautiful wife with a light brown eye and a dark blue eye. she is half black and half white and her skin tone, hair, features, (especially her eyes) and her general personality make her a total beauty. at 48 years old she can still pass for late 20's to early 30's.

[@phtevlin]

I went to wedding that had a potluck breakfast. Guests organized to provide the food, the cooking thereof, & clean up. Everyone had a great time. We all loved the bride & groom. Total cost for the wedding? $500.

[@maloydonedidit2903]

The 1st one. They got the free "bonus" stuff and then bailed on the photographer. The stuff being the guide and recommendations. My wife did this when we got a consultation on remodeling our closet. The consultant came in and literally sketched out the design for the closet.... Then LEFT THE SKETCH with us. My wife then called up home Depot and ordered a few wardrobes. We had a neighbor who had the skill set and he built it for us for less than half of what the consultant wanted.

[@AskMummaBear]

I'm a celebrant/officiant in Australia and have performed weddings at all levels of expenditure. Believe me the low key / small / funny ones are definitely the best! And the couples with the lowest budgets have NEVER asked me to reduce my fee, which is pretty low. I had to say to one BZ, that I'm the ONE thing that must absolutely be a part of your big day - otherwise it's just a big party... not a wedding.

[@Tysonator1000]

I'd never expect someone to hide their heterochromia for wedding pictures or under any circumstance. It's part of what makes them special. Most of these brides will probably end up single with the way they're acting.

[@avakat7233]

“Our dream is to have others use our day as a guide” say yes to the dress: *spits out water*

[@kittykatglasher1]

I was bullied for my heterochromia in elementary school so it’s really flattering to hear Charlotte compliment me over and over

[@tarysunshine3878]

I said to my sons that people get bullied because the bullier feel threathen & decide to attact first. You have feel flattered because You are special

[@Doinita.]

In my country you do pay for your menu (the plate+drinks) if you attend a wedding and usually a little extra for the grooms. You put the money in an envelope with your name written on it, usually provided by the couple (set in front of your seat at the table). It's not written on the invite, it's just common knowledge. But this is instead of a gift so probably at a similar cost. How much you should offer depends on the restaurant/venue and the city where the wedding is taking place as some areas can have higher prices.

[@SierraBravoOneNiner]

I have Heterochromia. At a recent festival there was a specialised photo booth offering HUGE enlargement (A4 and above) photos of irises. My partner now has my (different) blue & brown eyes in frames mounted on the wall - I could provide the details to the Bridezilla's (maybe) future husband. The PERFECT wedding gift! (as an aside, the detailed structure of the iris is astounding!)