Created to be his Help Meet *Ch 7-8

[@TheHowellFamilyy]

I am soo thankful for this book. Honestly, it’s been a blessing. I myself have been the foolish woman who tears down her home. I have so foolishly acted like I am my husbands conscience and I have nagged him to the point of misery. Thank God that I found this book before it became too late. God has chosen to show us divine grace and rest or our marriage. He has led me to turn away from my selfish pride and seek to serve my husband. 😊

[@melaniexoxo]

Make sure your spouse is a committed believer before you even consider marrying him.

[@ashleysara3280]

So happy you did this! God ordained

[@amyspringstead2208]

This is the kind of wife I was with the father of my children. It was never good enough and he still abused me physically, emotionally, spiritually, verbally, and mentally. I tried to please him and of course please my Father in heaven, to no avail. I became that single mom of 3 and we were all better off. The court mandated anger management and a psychiatric exam which he failed. I met him as a freshman in high school, but didn't marry til 23 & after he was a believer for 4 yrs. As I listened to this, I couldn't help but think of the many women who are putting up with this and their churches will not even pray a prayer of repentance with these men. Some of the opinions sound like advice to be an enabler of the husbands bad behavior, just to avoid poverty or other difficulties. My children are and were grateful that I left him. I didn't divorce him for 7 years hoping and praying that the marriage could be saved. But to this day he refuses to apologize for anything, (my children have told me as I have no contact with him). They have very little contact with him because he can't get along with anyone. But they are adults now so it is their choice, as the court order which denied him access to them ended when they were 18. Maybe this book does minister to women like me in other chapters, I only searched this out because I have a friend who's going through a divorce with her husband. She doesn't have children and will be financially fine without him, so this may not even minister to her.... If there are other chapters that might be more helpful to her, please send me a link. Thank you in advance!

[@followinghisway7705]

I'm so sorry for the hardships you have had in your life. No one wishes that on anyone. I believe that for most cases when the wife says to her husband I'm going to make your vision mine and love the direction you want to go, in most cases that will solve the discontent. But people are free to choose their own behavior. My struggle was thinking I knew what my husband should be doing and I was the kind of wife I thought was good. I told myself I was a good wife when I really wasn't a good wife to him. Our culture plays on women's fantasy that the men live to fulfill our wants and we should punish them when they don't do what we want. We can be doing this without even realizing we are. I leave you and your friend with the burden of asking God if you were really the wife your husband needed or the wife you thought he should have. I'm not leaving a judgment saying you were one or the other, that is only for you to know.

[@followinghisway7705]

I have a friend going through a divorce and my council to her was God's order is women lead children, men lead women, and God leads men. If women overstep and make themselves leaders of their husbands, every relationship with struggle.

[@amyspringstead2208]

@@followinghisway7705 maybe most cases, but most definitely not all. I was submissive to an extreme, so as not to ever yell back at him, nor fight back when he assaulted me. I'm not a part of this culture which caters to women because I know it's not Scriptural, but satanic. He most definitely behaved one way in front of others, particularly at church, and completely differently at home and behind closed doors. So while I can agree with your statement for the most part, there absolutely are cases where even that would not work. He never kissed me during intimacy, and made sure that I was unfulfilled as Yah intended in intimacy. He would wake me up in the middle of the night when I could not function and have his way. I was a virgin at 23, and on our wedding night he flipped me over and had his way, and when I screamed in pain he put his hand over my mouth and angrily told me not to wake up the neighbors in the hotel. On our honeymoon, he rented the most wretched broken down vehicle he could find, which did break down in Mexico. We then spent the next 3 days in the house of Mexican strangers who were good enough to take us in on a single bed in the same room with their five children, and he spent more time talking to them in Spanish than he spent with me. Then when we finally got a tow truck to take us to the border and to get a new car, I asked if we could just pull over to a lake and spend some time together alone, and he angrily refused, as though I were asking too much and being ridiculous. He was so bent on the fact that no one could tell him what he could and could not do, including the law, that he audaciously told the police officers everything he had ever done to me after my 12-year-old daughter called 911 and they showed up, interrogated us both, and arrested him. He tried to have the courts put me in jail for kidnapping his children while I was taking care of my dying mother, which he had agreed to, and petitioned the courts for full custody of the children. The judge told him that not only was I going to get full custody even though I didn't ask, but he would not see or be near the children unless he got a psychiatric exam and anger management, which as I said above, he failed. There is a lot of evidence and testimony from before we got married, during our marriage, and now, that he is a homosexual. His family are not believers and keep telling him just to come out of the closet because they don't care, and many of them are homosexual and bisexual. When I tell you that I was a good wife to him, I tell you with a clear conscience before my Father in heaven who has seen it all. Perhaps a chapter in your book helping women in such dire straits would be helpful. Blessings and shalom 🕊️🙏🏻

[@shelleyroper588]

​@@amyspringstead2208 I hear you and I believe you. YHVH can't save all marriages because humans have free will. You did everything you could and our Elohim who reigns, see it all and gave you and your children safety because of your obedience. YHVH bless you and keep you and your family. Shalom sister in Yeshua. ❤

[@annafebland4460]

@@amyspringstead2208 if you look at 28:30 - 29:00, the author encourages women to go to the authorities if she’s being hit by her husband

[@janefarrer2868]

Thank you 🤗

[@melaniexoxo]

I respect my mom for being frugal. I love the Pearls but this book is funny. Sorry. 😎

[@followinghisway7705]

I appreciate that. What's the funniest part to you?

[@livingunashamed4869]

Welcome back! Hope you and your family are well. Chapter 8 is one of the most essential chapters. Where would you say your husband falls? All 3 types are great in their own way :). God bless!

[@followinghisway7705]

Chapter was really helpful to me. My husband is quite the command and visionary man. This was a big change for me from growing up with a steady father. What a blessing to understand and know this now.

[@livingunashamed4869]

Oh how awesome, good combo!

[@samanthagiggles3215]

@@followinghisway7705 My husband is the same :)

[@followinghisway7705]

@@samanthagiggles3215 This combo is a great blessing that comes with a lot of responsibility!

[@Tnc874]

Theres a lot of ads on this one