Cuddlist Chronicles: I Just Walked Out of a Session

[@hollyhobbit12]

I'm so glad you posted this! I've been looking into becoming a Cuddlist, and I love your videos. It's important to hear about the good parts and the bad/hard parts.

[@karendistefano6001]

Holly, I am also looking to do this too. I did contact cuddlist.com and I really like this training they offer. I just have to get a few things in place before I can start training.

[@JordanDayBiblicalGreek]

lol, the “hard parts”.

[@TheChef470]

Sounds like you handled it well. Glad your safe.

[@HighGainsDrifter]

I understand some people are super honest and legitimately need your services for different reasons, but i would be so nervous for my wife's safety if this was her job. You seem like a strong good hearted woman.

[@JanetTrevino]

Thankfully the path had been clear so far

[@Wayne-t9k]

Kudos to you for setting your own boundaries

[@keithplace9597]

Good for standing up for your principles, Janet

[@huskytrainer2769]

Good for you I'm proud of you

[@marvinbryson7950]

Hi Janet, I've viewed a ton of your videos and appreciate your holistic healing approach to platonic cuddling. Kudos to you for sticking to your boundaries. The concept of "platonic" cuddling is so subjective as I'm sure you know, particularly in the non-pro realm. For me it's a holistically-therapeutic pursuit in the same family as mental health therapy or massage therapy. So cuddle parties or public cuddling is not really my thing, but to each his own. As I've delved deeper into the space and have cuddled with a range of people, I've come to understand that it's all about communication, boundaries/consent, and openly discussing your idea of sensuality vs. sexuality and intimacy vs. romance with your partner before hand. Being held and nurtured in a judgement free environment along with esthetic attraction is pretty powerful stuff. Particularly for many males that don't feel they can be completely vulnerable in their personal relationships for fear of being viewed as weak. So, for those guys that haven't taken the time to explore how great platonic cuddling can be for their well-being, unfortunately, they will always get the organic sensual and intimate energy that comes with cuddling confused with sex and romance. Leaving the sexual and romantic notions out of the cuddle equation is what platonic cuddling is all about -- making it so much more fulfilling than what this guy you are speaking of was out for from my experience. If I ever come to San Antonio I'm definitely going to look you up. Be well...

[@JanetTrevino]

Thank you for your thorough comment!! Yes to how this is very nuanced. I value how you’ve thought it through & found what works for you.

[@marvinbryson7950]

@@JanetTrevino It took me awhile to get there. It was worth the effort.

[@DebbieBluth]

I'm impressed by your place insights Marvin! Thank you for sharing them.

[@sparth1989]

you're so genuine, i hope you never experience these kind of things again :-)

[@tedkacz9291]

Human nature is to select a person that you have some level of attraction to. Now combine that with sensual touching and closeness, laying with one another etc., I believe each person is straddling the proverbial fence. I get the titillation of the moment but as you repeat this, I believe it gets more and more difficult to separate natural desires. Just one person's perspective, be safe!

[@JanetTrevino]

Yes. It is hard to separate all the pieces of human interaction. And for some of us, touch is the only piece in lack. It may be necessary to get it isolated from other connections. Be well.

[@GloriaReyesUrKrazzyMom]

Oh F I am afraid of this!!!!I would love to be a cuddler, I love giving hugs!!! Thanks for sharing🥰🤗

[@JanetTrevino]

It can happen! Eeeeeek

[@Kitty-ow1uj]

I do professional cuddling. Its awesome.

[@JanetTrevino]

Yeah YOU!!

[@simonagonzalez3325]

I had my 1st 2 sessions about a month ago. They went well.

[@vitaltouchllc5489]

I'm glad you are safe. Do some clients fail to take "no" for an answer? Do you have tips for other Cuddlists to ensure their safety?

[@JanetTrevino]

+Vital Touch, LLC I’ve never seen anyone strongly not be able to... the practitioner has a role to show up strongly. :D

[@vitaltouchllc5489]

That's quite interesting, actually. Could you speak more to that? What do you mean by "show up strongly?"

[@fastfrank7328]

Refund, yes, no partial?

[@fastfrank7328]

We're not robots or machines there's no button to turn off

[@Instead2]

I’m a straight guy and I would really enjoy this without sex I really don’t get why they don’t just enjoy the session without trying to make it sexual, I find the cuddling to be comforting and that’s what I want in these sessions!!!

[@teresajones2351]

This is on your cuddlist page "I love my work as a sexuality subversive". That might give people the wrong idea. Maybe you should put the word "platonic" in there some where.

[@JanetTrevino]

You are absolutely right on the surface... i'm moving away from the language I used before Cuddlist. AND!!! How I define Sexuality, platonic touch is included. www.igwg.org/igwg_media/Training/HandoutCirclesSexualityDefs.pdf See.... i'm already subversive!

[@teresajones2351]

I'm trying to train to become a cuddliest. I'm in Houston. There are no cuddle parties here. That and holding my first cuddle session is all that's keeping me from starting. Do you host cuddling parties for new cuddlers?

[@JanetTrevino]

Teresa Jones yes! I have them each month as a trainee (why it's not on their website.) I am willing to travel to Houston with 10 paid participants.

[@teresajones2351]

Email me! Let's chat! [e-mail].

[@rhythmoflove2]

Please be safe.

[@JanetTrevino]

Thank you!

[@karendistefano6001]

Thank you for sharing! It's great to know how you handled that situation. My question is if that person calls you for another appt would you do it? Not sure if this was the first time this person did this or did you warn them politely before?

[@JanetTrevino]

I would with a lengthy conversation. It was in our first session. He never did reach out again. ;)

[@teluvv66]

Cuddling professional is new to me. I think the way our bodies and minds work its going to turn sexual for most men. I would not use professional Cuddling. Way too much momentum, especially looking good and smelling good? Imagine being hungry and there is a hot plate of ribs with the smoky BBQ sauce smell in your face but you can't have any, not even a finger wipe of the bbq sauce 😢

[@guilitotorres9777]

I think it will happen alot because everybody does not have a clean mind. Thank you for sharing and being honest. I don't think this would be possible here in Puerto Rico😂😂😂😂

[@JanetTrevino]

There’s a little bit of everything out there.

[@sdghhf]

I was thinking that may be u told yes and hence broken ur rule and that's y u made this video. Glad to know it wasn't the case and u dealt with it in a very professional and classy manner. Kudos to u !

[@JanetTrevino]

I do my best.

[@BROWULFdude]

Great share, thanks for sharing. In this video you mention you have kids. No everyone has a cuddle mom. What’s it like when you guys watch movies? Or bigger talks? Do you and your kids cuddle often??? :D feels like once I wasn’t a baby anymore, my dad stopped holding me

[@JanetTrevino]

It’s been quite interesting to see how my kids have developed in all of this. My 13yo absolutely loves cuddling!! He can’t get enough. My 12yo seeks it out at bedtime. My 10yo while bashful to ask for it, loves it. My 8yo it’s everything. The first three are boys. Gender is irrelevant. We all need touch! And we don’t grow out of it!

[@BROWULFdude]

thanks for sharing :.)

[@selvaaselvaa4938]

Super video post

[@Charlesbjtown]

Lol "I could sense the authenticity". I'm sure you could, I doubt that they were just playing.

[@aslmastertutor1670]

Thank you for sharing. I am glad you left safely although it was a nerve wracking, annoying incident. It's one of the reason I can't do this professionally. No patience with those types of customers who don't understand firm boundaries. Curious though, can a female professional cuddlist only accept female customers? I wondered about that.

[@jeanetteg5197]

Yes but there really isn’t too many female clients

[@aslmastertutor1670]

@@jeanetteg5197 Oh wow, I'm surprised about that. Seems cuddling is still new for society. Hopefully it will become more acceptable very soon. It's so important for all of our health.

[@JanetTrevino]

With Cuddlist, you are not allowed to discriminate w gender. At least the last I knew.

[@aslmastertutor1670]

@@JanetTrevino Thanks for your input. That's a good point. That means psychologically strong people will qualify for this career. Stay safe!

[@CMRinehart]

Why does it surprise you that a guy that has cuddled with you X number of times gets excited and wants to go farther?

[@JanetTrevino]

+Charles Michael Rinehart doesn't surprise me. Surprises me that they don't listen when we talk about what I DO DO!

[@hermanhaynes6150]

I believe that simply cuddling would be a very good experienc. But it should be made clear that this isn't and invitation for sex. And could be great for friendship making. Never tried this but sounds great

[@welovehugs1037]

beautiful experience!

[@JanetTrevino]

thank you!

[@welovehugs1037]

@@JanetTrevino my wife and I have been sharing hugs on the streets in different countries in Europe for about 10 years and we also experienced many situations that we felt uncomfortable in Janet. I don't think that everyone will be ever ready in life to know what the power of a cuddling or snuggling can ever do in someone's life without being driven by sexual feelings...

[@JanetTrevino]

@@welovehugs1037 Some may not. I hope we can teach children.

[@welovehugs1037]

@@JanetTrevino we hope that people get to know Creator God Janet.

[@Nostalgicguy2242]

Hi girl, I guess I came in a bit late, heck I don't even know if you still are in that line of work, but I still wanted to ask you, have most of your clients been male or do females outnumber the guys?

[@JanetTrevino]

In numbers of people, men. In cumulative hours, women. Go figure!

[@Nostalgicguy2242]

@@JanetTrevino I think I could lay my two cents and say that any woman would really appreciate the time you spend with them... You have a nice voice and perhaps a good listening ear to which most of them would just lay their head on your shoulder while being in the confort of your arms. I can't speak for men, but since they are known to drown their loneliness and sorrows in booze, they just want in for the gratification of the touch other than the warm bonding and connection you have with women... Most of us just want to be cozy in someone's arms while feeling that the person is really there for us, even if it's only for a couple of hours

[@katherinewagoner741]

@@Nostalgicguy2242 Beautiful perspective. I agree.

[@alonzoporter9444]

It seems like the fact that you choose not to do the sexual moves the person to desire you more because the others will do it.

[@BramaPutSrca]

Cuddling is not about touch at all, it is about energy. We can take responsibility for other people energy giving higher taste and rising their energy to the heart. Lust is only perverted love so people have right to search on the way how they know. My experience is like that, some woman put me on fire and others calm me down. So just idea for introspection. Learn more about Tantra and heart energy. Maybee help. :-)

[@JanetTrevino]

+Brama thank you!! I’ve been able to experience what you say here. ☺️

[@ishubel]

My viewpoint is that the energy thingie is really a biggie...especially that the cuddlist has family and kids. When two or more individuals interact, there is sharing, mingling, or transference of energy/vibrations, which benefit our clients; however, we are also affected by their bioelectromagnetic environment. We need to set clear boundaries and maintain them and practice a system of cleansing after each session before meeting another client or reconnecting to family an friends. Thank you for a great and instructive video. Kudos!!!

[@katherinewagoner741]

@@ishubel Great comment! Yes, I think about that as well. I am very particular about whom I even let hug me.

[@rainbow20112011]

Did you refund the money to the person whose session you ended early?

[@JanetTrevino]

Nope

[@rainbow20112011]

@@JanetTrevino Really Janet Trevino...You really don't refund the money?

[@glenpudney]

Well think about it, he was being inappropriate during the session, and the therapist was making her boundaries clear, and he chose to keep crossing them, so why should she refund him. Might teach him a valuable lesson about respecting boundaries.

[@lolad5395]

You still got paid right?

[@JanetTrevino]

YES!!!!!!!!! ALWAYS!!

[@lolad5395]

@@JanetTrevino good💕

[@buckcity256]

Of course she just money hungry taking advantage of simps and weirdos that never experienced being with women smh

[@fastfrank7328]

Touch my what???😂

[@iknowthisone6844]

how much money was offered, i would sacrifice my dig for some new wheels

[@JanetTrevino]

People who break boundaries aren’t usually in the most generous.

[@DWArgenti]

Damn..,you know..no disrespect intended..,but with the moral decay of people today..and you having a family…perhaps..just maybe..a job where you aren’t actively going (alone I assume) to mens homes who should probably be in therapy might be a better option. You are clearly kind, loving, compassionate, and sincere in wanting to help people…what about a counselor or something. I don’t know. You have an interesting channel and is enjoy listening to your talks.

[@Luckimee]

Its not different if she was a therapist right? They would be alone in the room right? I get what you're saying but, they need to stop being dangerous instead of us trying to avoid it

[@DWArgenti]

@@Luckimee a therapist doesn’t have physical contact..so it’s different. Also, thinking bad people are going to stop being bad just bc you want them to or bc it’s the right thing is ludicrous. Dangerous people and situations will always be there..living in a dream world isn’t going to help you in real life.

[@Young09Ro]

So confusing

[@keobuffel7140]

😂 The cons of this job is people wanting sex from you?

[@JanetTrevino]

The cons are people aren’t honest about what they really want and don’t know how to ask for it, & it gets all confused in a session.

[@anitawhite9694]

JUST DISGUSTING.

[@JanetTrevino]

What disgusts you?

[@fastfrank7328]

Youso funny

[@newworldlord643]

I feel the same way it's like there is an over saturation of sex workers for anything sexual why are they trying to corrupt this industry for LOL

[@JanetTrevino]

Right?!

[@greymatters14]

Delusional.

[@אתהברטון]

Solution: Get a real job

[@JanetTrevino]

Would you hire me?

[@klattalexis]

Was he from another country where women are looked at as subservient sexual objects, perhaps? Or was he on drugs?

[@JanetTrevino]

Nope. Just a plain white, entitled guy. Lol a societal disease

[@KidCity1985]

That was very racist. It had nothing to do with his skin color. Shame on you. I truly expected better of you.

[@justintimemagddelow672]

@@KidCity1985 Oh hush😒.

[@KidCity1985]

@@justintimemagddelow672 I doubt that

[@fastfrank7328]

Not your place is not good

[@googleskype4043]

This is why this whole idea is nonsensical.

[@JanetTrevino]

For a certain group of folx. yes!

[@ejectoseatocuzhaha]

What u expect goofy lol,your hugging up on men for a living lol 😆

[@JanetTrevino]

You think little of men.

[@Dolcevita_bakes]

language language.. this made me uncomfortable just listening to you

[@JanetTrevino]

lol. what part of the language made you feel uncomfortable, love?

[@JanetTrevino]

and yes, it was an interesting session!

[@JanetTrevino]

I have no idea whom you're talking to! lol. and im all for sex work... and I don't do it. lol

[@KidCity1985]

This seems a natural course. You've met men , right?

[@JanetTrevino]

I have met men! 😉 heehee. And they come in all sizes & packages!