Surviving A Mentally and Emotionally Draining Month - Our Debt Disaster

[@Kchandler514]

I always say “if you’re laying next to someone in the hospital with a broken arm, and they are in a full body cast- it doesn’t make your broken arm hurt any less” 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@faithhopelove560]

I totally get the chaos. I just sold my house last year when my husband left me and the kids and filed for divorce. I moved out of the area to be closer to family and have more job opportunity. I handled EVERY single house showing myself loading up the kids and pets for several months and packed the house up myself. I am now in transition trying to get employment and a home soon. God is good and will see us through all our trials. Stay focused on Him.

[@TheBrittbrat2341]

I would love to know how you packed the house yourself? We're going to be moving soon and I'll be doing the majority of the packing. We are moving from CO to FL for a year while my husband is deployed and I still don't know where I'm going to keep our stuff in storage here or there!

[@meghan7892]

You aren’t complaining, you are exhausted - mentally, physically, and emotionally. You have taken on a lot and have had to completely shift your focus and how you live your lives. You are entitled to feel all of the emotions that come with this shift!

[@WeightwatcherswithCarrie]

You guys are doing amazing. The hubby and I heard you on Dave Ramsey this AM and I knew I recognized your voice so had to come to your channel and check it out and sure enough! Great accomplishments!

[@Karisa1316]

Even if you were “complaining” a little, no one should judge you for that. You’re walking a different road then they are, and it sounds like a difficult one. If I were you two, I would be way beyond stressed out. Sending love 💕

[@brandybarnett9953]

Sadly, your home’s price bracket makes it take longer to sell. Fewer people qualify to buy in it and those who do can be very picky. It will happen, but it is nerve wracking. Prayers

[@aracelipolendosandoval6767]

It's alright to complain, friend don't apologize for how you feel. CONGRATULATIONS!!🎉🎊 on getting current.

[@robinnelson9578]

I don’t believe you’re complaining, I believe you’re venting. What you’re going through is hard!!! You’re preparing people, who may be going through the same situation, how hard it may be. God bless you! Love you guys!

[@Janaleigh]

You have every right to be feeling that way! Parenting is a job, being in a relationship with each other is a job, selling your house is obv a very stressful job, then you’ve got the budgeting which let’s be honest feels like a job too, pets to take care of AND on top of all that you are pumping out quality content left right and centre, the amount of time and energy that goes into filming and editing just one video is insane so I’m over here thinking you guys are legends and bloody hard workers!! You have every right to feel OVER IT!

[@Sarah-pq3fw]

I’m loving these updates so much, I’ve been following along and they’ve made me really motivated to be positive and proactive about paying off my debt. I’ve been trying my hardest to save, budget and pay of some money and as my luck had it, I was offered a promotion last week! Funny how the world works. Glad to see everything slowly chipping away for you guys! :)

[@everydaynicole1]

Getting a house ready to sell and keeping it “show ready” is a lot of work. It’s ok to feel the way you do.

[@elizabethgardner3825]

I always tell my college students that just because someone has a different experience does not negate how your experience made you feel. You do not owe them your awe.

[@Lvmykidos2]

Elizabeth Gardner What an awesome statement! I’m definitely going to borrow that.

[@ajmtapia319]

Elizabeth Gardner I love, love, love this!!!

[@mckenzierusin]

Just realized I have been watching since Gaines you are my sunshine first birthday party... that is nuts! I have grown with you guys! I’m 19 and no debt but watching your videos almost as like a college class. Learning how to do all this stuff! Love y’all!

[@bridgetives359]

The people who say you are complaining 🙄 The truth is, we all walk different paths in life, and most people will walk through a debt disaster at some point in their lives, big or small. It is HARD. And the two of you are doing it with such grace, it’s honestly the best thing to witness. Also, I’ve become SO MUCH MORE AWARE of my spending because of your channel. Seriously it’s been eye opening. Thank you ♥️♥️

[@barneyfife3288]

I had a four week old infant, a golden retriever and a car when our home was for sale and my husband was in another state department to job transfer. 7:30am one day I had a call to see the house in 30 min and I said no.

[@danabinaz3173]

Barney Fife I agree! If they are serious prospects they will come back to see your place. I worked from home do I couldn’t just leave so I had to force the issue to give me a few hour notice.

[@HydeandSeekFamily]

WOOO! We just payed off 2 out of 4 of our debt snowball. You're keeping me motivated!

[@amandahaak5077]

Some houses are hard to sell. Once the price goes up past a certain threshold the market of prospective buyers shrinks. I wouldn’t take it off the market. Just keep it on and maybe offer a bonus to the buyer’s agent. I’ve seen people offer $1000 bonus to agent (in addition to their commission) paid at closing if closing is within 60 days or 90 days or something. It motivates the buyer agents to push your house a little more.

[@danabinaz3173]

Amanda Haak that’s interesting... is it legal in all states to do that? Paying the agent to push your house specifically?

[@jbf2045]

I think it’s easier for showings if you don’t work from home! I did and had a dog. She was in a crate during the day, just made sure things were picked up before I left. Also in my contract I said only showings during the week when I was at work but anytime on weekends. That made life a whole lot easier!

[@presleysherer3770]

I have loved watching these videos! I’m in college about to graduate soon and I’ve been very motivated by watching these videos and learning how to budget! Hang in there y’all are doing amazing so so proud of y’all for getting current!💗

[@bananadolewhip5270]

Don’t feel bad for “complaining”. You guys are doing A LOT of work. That’s definitely draining. I hope you guys are able to get some sort of relaxation in. Keep it up! 🙌🏼

[@laceyhall2911]

The whole “I have it worse” attitude is one of my biggest pet peeves! My husbands family is so bad about it and drives me crazy. Also, I’m in SC and pine straw is a go to here too! I’m not from here so I was surprised at first lol but I like it now!

[@jackierux1345]

I am in MN and we have pine straw naturally, lol

[@wendiewegner9236]

Good job getting current. Your not complaining, just venting. We are here to listen. We all need to vent sometimes.

[@nikkyfell1473]

Congratulations on knocking out the first goal of getting current! That’s HUGE! Good work you guys! Also, you don’t have to apologize for being tired and drained, if anyone has sold a house before they know how stressful it is to have your house on point all the time. Not to mention, working towards debt freedom is HARD and it’s okay that it feels that way. ❤️

[@Zero2FiveFamily]

Awesome job on getting current! 13000 of debt paid off is awesome.👏. We have been working on getting debt free, it will be a great feeling we have the financial freedom. Always paying more than the monthly payment has been our goal to pay things off. Love watching!❤️

[@harrisamyr]

So inspirational! Your journey has led me to look at my finances more carefully.

[@kfhurst]

Selling a house is one of life's most stressful happenings. You all are also dealing with a lot of change and new thoughts about money and life. I hope that you can just take some deep breaths and know that you are normal to feel all of these things. All my best to you while you go through this. Peace and hugs.

[@pearlesme8561]

Y’all are so brave to be honest and open with the viewers. I admire you. Wishing you all the best! You def opened my eyes to subscriptions, I have cancelled 4!!!!!

[@kaitf3183]

Everyone’s emotions are relevant to their own situation. People would never say “you can’t consider yourself happy or blessed, because there are people that have a better life” yet they think it’s fine to say “you can’t have a bad day, or find yard work tough etc, because there are people worse off”. That’s never made sense to me.

[@cindyledbetter9044]

This is your job that you wanted to do, to tell everyone about your life, do not be sorry about it. Don’t care about the haters, everyone goes through something and if they can’t understand it then they do not have compassion for anybody! God bless you and I hope everything works out as soon as possible❤️

[@shopaholiclivin]

I understand y’all. I remember in October of last year my husband moved to Texas and I had the 2 kids and our dog while working 2 jobs and the house was on the market. It was exhausting and I felt so drained and overwhelmed. I had a sitter who would come by and get the dog when I had a showing. But I cleaned EVERY DAY AND NIGHT. I went to bed so sore and exhausted. I had to plan everything to the minute and then be flexible if it changes. And it was not easy when you have a 3 year old and a 4.5 year old and then you have to plan her bday party and then a showing wants to be scheduled right at the party time 😭 I was so done, but in the end I was a single mom for 3 months and we are all finally together in Texas. I’ll continue to pray for y’all ❤️❤️❤️ And Cullen I totally get it, I totally know what it feels like to have to do manual labor when it’s not something you typically do. You did a great job and it will payoff. ❤️❤️❤️

[@teach21833]

You guys got this! Selling a house is one of the most physically and emotionally exhausting experiences I have ever been through! Especially with two young kids! We just finished selling our house, and one thing that I was always reminded of is that it just takes one buyer. Your family is in my prayers!

[@teresamartin6975]

Congratulations on the GET CURRENT success. Awesome job. You guys got this one step at a time. God is being glorified through this time.

[@rebeccat8501]

Always remember you two are beautiful! Your videos have made me laugh, cry, and smile over the years!! So glad Gaines is feeling better!!

[@miladylaughalot]

This was my 2011, and I do not miss it one bit!! You're doing great and I love watching these with you. My heart hurts for you because I've been there done that!! You will survive and get to the end!! Love you guys!!!

[@thehoulihanfamily4214]

Me and my husband started with you guys I saw your videos again and I use to be a sub who watches all the time. Decided we were going to do it. Same time you guys have done it, maybe a few days after and we feel exactly the same ! It’s crazy how draining something can be that you just started !

[@tashamcdonell406]

I'm glad I'm watching again the realness is why I liked watching y'all in the fist place! 💜💜💜💜

[@TheSecondofTwo]

You guys have worked so hard, it’s natural to be emotionally drained. This is a tough time for you all. Pray about your concerns, don’t let the enemy get you down or discouraged, remember he attacks you when you’re most vulnerable and he wants you to doubt God’s promise that He will take care of you in all ways. Stay strong, you’ll be in my prayers tonight.

[@aidansplace1]

These have been some of my favorite videos. They encourage and enlighten all of us. Thank you. Congrats on getting current ❤️

[@juliaannrn]

I absolutely love you guys! I slowed down watching KZbin almost IMMEDIATELY after I had my son...I have came back recently to watch some videos and get myself caught up, but you guys seem like the same couple I remember...I am riding this debt snowball with you, I'm definitely struggling and I feel like I'm just treading water at this point but I'm still giving it my all!

[@cats9091]

My husband and I are a year into our debt free journey. Still going strong!

[@CullenandKatie]

amazing!

[@LW707]

My husband works from home. He does background investigations. So we could not have anybody walking through our house. Too much confidential information so we actually moved out of our house BUT we had another house to move to. Our house was staged and sold in 24 hours. It was crazy. Never made it to the open house. Definitely not the norm. Keep the faith. You’ll come out better for all of this.

[@CullenandKatie]

That’s similar to our last house. We had an open house planned, but ours was under contract the day after it went on the market so we never made it to open house on that one either. So we’ve never been in it this long. It’s grueling!!

[@ccdavis2037]

Don’t change what you’re doing and take your house off the market. My husband and I did that twice and regretted it! It put us behind and ended up putting us deeper in debt! We should have just pushed through. We did ask for a 24 hour showing notice that helped. Keep going...you got this!

[@workout3625]

Congrats! You sharing this is helpful to many.

[@LaurenParadis]

It’s totally reasonable to feel drained when a big aspect of your everyday life is outside of your control right now. I sending positive thoughts that the right buyer will come up soon.

[@theoldhillhouse9024]

Yay! For getting current! So excited for yall!

[@mollymiccee]

I’m not in any of the same shoes, but for the last 3 years I’ve been in an area that has been affected by wildfires. As a student during that time, I realized that as soon as my routine was interrupted and not knowing if classes were cancelled or if I had to evacuate, life just got stressful! You have the right to feel stressed about things in YOUR life and no one else gets to push that down, despite their challenges.

[@kathleenjbazan5563]

You guys are just exhausted, and rightly so. I’m glad you are letting your feelings out, it’s ok, and if people think you are complaining too bad for them. Selling a house and moving is very stressful, not to mention the financial situation. Hang in there, get some rest and I will pray for you guys.

[@tiakolovos575]

Selling your house is one of the most stressful times in a person's life! Buying a house is easy!

[@sherryturner8729]

DON’T GIVE UP!!! Y’all are doing great even though it’s really rough right now. Your in the “colic” stage of life. This too shall pass. Take care of yourselves. I totally understand where you are coming from. We put our house on the market in 2017 for 6 months then took it off for a year, put it back on in Feb of 2019 and were fixing to take it off the market in August when it sold. Had to move in a rental for (supposed to be 6 mo) 7mo, couldn’t find a house in our budget. After watching your video’s we lowered our budget. THANK YOU for opening our eyes! Finally found a house, closed and now to pack and move again. We have the month of March to get moved but the landlord will list it on 3/1 so I have to work around showings AGAIN! So I feel your pain and although it’s a pain in the rear we will make it and so will you. Instead taking your house off the market, make the showings to your schedule. Maybe do the 24 hour notice or make it NO showings on maybe say Tuesdays. Look at all your showings and see what days you had the least amount of showings. Still praying your house sells soon.

[@abbyz6614]

We sold our house last summer. The day of our first showing, it was a torrential downpour- nasty muddy yard, a small river running down the driveway, our chicken run was a practically swimming pool, my kids tracked mud into the house so I had to wash the floors again. But the worst thing was an hour before the couple was due to show up, water was getting into our basement in 4 spots! The water heater was suddenly leaking (which we replaced the next day to a tune of $600 😫) and the other 3 spots wound up being from erosion caused by us removing bushes along the house. Thankfully our floors had never been done so I was just sopping up water from concrete & blowing some fans we borrowed from a neighbor but it was crazy!

[@minimalzebra]

Congrats on how far you have come. Proud of you and keep it up.❤️

[@love_pets1366]

Rushed right over! Yay for getting current guys! Keep going 💪💪💪💪💪

[@carrieteeps6224]

So proud of you guys! Rocking out the “current” chart had to feel so fantastic!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@debbiestherapy]

Definitely keep it on through spring! Spring is "the" time- at least here in CA.

[@sherryrussell6003]

You hard work is paying off keep up the good work guys

[@annafleuriot2766]

What you are doing is extremely difficult. You have done so well. Keep going.

[@Simplystephanie0108]

People are so judgmental, don’t worry with their negativity!! Y’all are amazing, I love everything y’all do! If you are tired and wore out you have every right to feel that way! ❤️❤️ good job on all of the hard work❤️ I’m praying that the house sells quickly and y’all can get moved and settled❤️❤️❤️

[@DearMe2u]

I feel i should apologize to you guys, Cullen and Katie. I don't comment often on videos but I have commented a couple of times on your videos because of some things I disagreed with. I must say I am sorry for adding to your burdens. I can see that you guys are under a lot of stress and seem to be very tired. I hope only the best for you and your family. Y'all are one of the first families I started watching on youtube back when Katie was pregnant for Gaines. I stopped watching shortly after you guys moved into the new house, for a couple reason, but for no good reason. So here I am telling you I am truly sorry for the unnecessary and unfriendly comments that I wrote on your videos. I truly hope you accept my apologies. GOD Bless you and your family

[@cj3565]

My opinion (for what it’s worth): You are not complaining at all. You are expressing your feelings and who are we to tell you that you shouldn’t or should feel some sort of way.

[@catherinebradley3401]

There were alot of ads at the beginning of your blog. I'm happy to watch. I hope this means the ad people know your followers are not skipping. Some are actually good.

[@deana6633]

Congratulations on getting current. Great job. Celebrate. Don’t look back. Look forward and conquer. I’m currently on the same journey. My goal is for October to be debt free. To not feel the weight of debt on my shoulders. To be free.

[@allysonbrandt996]

I moved in with my in-laws with the dogs and kids while my husband stayed at the house to make repairs/updates. It made it less stressful to try to keep the house showing ready

[@daniellesteves6406]

Your debt videos inspired me to look at our bank account to see how we are spending our money. I was in complete shock over how much we spend on EATING OUT! My gracious. We cut back big time this month and plan to moving forward. It was a jaw dropping amount of money. Like wtf were we thinking. Lol! Also, it’s ok to vent and tell us how you really feel. Selling a home with two kids is exhausting! Keep the faith. I keep hoping and praying that the next video will be announcing an offer on your house. Stay strong. It’s ok to not be ok everyday. Get some rest.

[@Frickin_Corrine]

So glad Gaines is feeling better! You guys are doing awesome with your debts repayments! Also loving your raw honest emotions! Oh and those faces you gave Katie at the beginning...I remember way back watching you insert things onto your videos & Katie calling you out before editing your videos 😂

[@AdventuresoftheJs2016]

I am a RN and then help on the farm, oh and a single mother. I learned a long time ago people are mean and judgemental. If they don't like your feelings they can watch something else and not be rude. I think y'all did a great job. I'm from the upstate of SC and we use mulch and I hate spreading it. Prayers with y'all. 🧡💜

[@simplyfreedom171]

I feel for you on this house selling! It's definitely mentally exhausting. Congratulations on your Get Current! That was a tough one, but you did it!!

[@irenebaker8263]

I just feel so happy for you and your efforts....it will pay off! I am enjoying your journey and inspires me! My husband and I are also on a debt free journey....I cannot wait! And we are older than you by alot...

[@Jewelbelle91]

I’m so proud of you guys!!! Just remember to take care of yourself during this time. I know you want to sell the house ASAP but maybe asking for 24 hour notice before a showing would be best for you and the kids. Love you guys!!!

[@stacyB783]

I’m sorry for all you are going through. You have a lot going on it is understandable you are drained. Praying for you. Stay strong.

[@aletamekvold8005]

Someone in NC mentioned using Open Door. They buy your house. They were very, very happy with the transaction. You guys are doing awesome on the debt! It's encourage me to work on paying off my home equity loan. (My only debt!)

[@teresafrankel]

You guys are great.

[@mayahansson7633]

Congrats on get current!! Been loving the videos!!

[@Rubyseye86]

I never comment really..stopped watching you little after you got this house, would watch now and then but im loving these real video's. Congrats on your get current! Selling a house is hard work! Its normal to feel like this! Keep your heads up! Fingers crossed the house will sell fast

[@lesliecarson684]

Congrats on being current!! Yahoo. Awesome! Progress and patience! You will sell the house!! I liked the idea of the realtor incentive. Just hang in there, keep doing what you are doing, have faith! Again, so proud of your progress to get current!❤️

[@christinetanner8317]

You are sharing real life which has highs, loss & so much uncertainty. Wishing you the best with selling your house. I believe that if "it" is meant to be, with faith, prayer & hard work "it" will happen. Thank you for sharing

[@katebrandt6269]

Its ok to complain, your life is very different now to how it was a few months ago and that is hard no matter where you start from! I think having these videos will help you both to stay debt free in the future these are going to be visual reminders to your future selves to not make the same mistakes! Congratulations on getting current!

[@carlysanders170]

To touch on the people comparing someone else’s bad day to their own.....everyone’s worst day/worst thing that has ever happened to them is just that...their worst thing. It’s hard to comprehend, but someone who lost their job might experience the same grief/stress/feelings as someone who lost a loved one. If the worst thing that has ever happened to someone is that they lost their job (very stressful), it’s ok for them to feel sad, angry, stressed etc. Everyone just needs someone to hear them and validate that it’s ok to have a bad day and that you’re sorry they’re going through that.

[@annaenns2336]

We started our debt free journey because of your videos!!Thanks for showing the good and the bad💞

[@eneal]

you guess complain if you want to! you guys are doing great and people need to leave you alone. love you guys

[@melissahester7231]

Life is frustrating naturally before you add the debt journey and selling a house. You share your life so venting about your frustration is why I love these videos.... makes me feel like I’m normal. Lol. Praying for you all and for your house too sell in God’s perfect timing.

[@amandav3484]

I wish you didn’t feel like you couldn’t just talk freely. You’re not complaining. You are sharing and processing! People need to understand that if they want the “ real and authentic” Cullen and Katie that it comes with honesty and vulnerability. Every time people start making you feel insecure about that they will start seeing the fake sides because you’ll feel like you have to do that to establish boundaries. If you want REAL than you need to be able to ACCEPT REAL.

[@juliepiggott7331]

So proud of you both 💜

[@elizabethevans9056]

Whoo hoo! Living for this series!! 😍

[@vivaldi1236]

Yea for getting current! Your feelings are your feelings. Feel free to vent; it’s not complaining. Ignore the naysayers. The smaller and less expensive the house; the quicker the sale. Bless you. ✝️

[@atywood]

Ok I’m 11 minutes in and you have hit so many valid points! Starting with how having a hard day -then another person trying to “win” the bad day contest, that was never up for discussion... second showings are hard!!!! My house went on and off the market twice in 2018 (due to a horrible realtor) and even though I said I needed 24 hour notice people would show up when I walked in the door at the end of the day (or worse when I just got back into town) with 5 min or zero notice, then complain that I was at the house, after my realtor asked me to show them the property?!?!

[@wewemcrhyne]

One reason that it feels so good when you become debt-free is because it is so difficult when you’re in the middle of it. Just know that you are helping so many people on the same journey and God is using y’all to lead the way!🙂

[@bittersweet6507]

Congrats on getting current!!! That is HUGE .. well on your way now 💥🎉🎊

[@pennyjames7633]

Yard work is hard no matter what your doing. Good job both of you👏👏👍🏻👍🏻

[@xinx07]

Wishing you all the best! The right buyer is n the way!

[@maydelin21]

Hi guys, it's funny about you guys talking about the Birthday's Parties because I'm Venezuelan and for me YOURS Birthday's Parties are Small, haha, In Venezuela every Birthday is in an Party Salon, with sitting arrangements as an wedding, a catering, or at least a server and a cook, clowns, the big piñata, I mean is crazy, but I grew up with that and I see it so normal, now I live in Spain and the kids party are like there in USA, but my sister and I we tried to make my niece birthday as in Venezuela, my sister had spent 1000€ in one party, and for here that's excessive, this years is "low key" but she had spent already 400€ without the food... my thing is don't beat yourself for what you did in the past for your Kids, they will remember those party with love, and what's is not normal there is very normal in others countries. is you're curious check out @respoteriacreativa on Instagram, I mean what they do is OVER the top, just a small group of people can afford their cakes, but they show the parties and that's is what normal in Venezuela.

[@mellyayble]

my advice: take it off the market and resist it in summer. that's when most people move

[@lilmrsstarr1002]

I agree.. when kids are out of school and people are relocating 😁

[@amietedeschi3203]

Depends on the area. I'm in a university town, so the market gets busy starting in March, when residency matches are announced, and run through the summer.

[@lilmrsstarr1002]

You guys!!! Dont worry about what people say.. seriously.. yard work SUCKS!!! I'm proud of y'all.. I hope y'all get some rest from all this soon.

[@Lvmykidos2]

LilMrs Starr Yes, it does, but it’s so much more rewarding when you do it yourself. But the sore muscles & blisters do stink!

[@judyoneal7887]

Congrats, congrats, congrats on completing your get current goal. Way to do it!! Keep going. I’m with ya. Why do folks have to one-up each other? It’s not a dang competition. Sheesh. 🤨. Complaining is one thing.... explaining is another. We all need to vent. If talking to my friend I’m probably gonna explain and complain. It’s human nature people.

[@katanderson22]

Omg I know how you feel Katie! We moved last year and our house was on the market for only two months, but I was by myself as hubby had already started new job. It was so hard emotionally and I even had the 24 hr notice listed but realtors never follow that rule. You feel terrible though when you have to say no to a showing but I had to try to keep the best stability for my kids. (We had people wanting to view the house at 8 pm which is bedtime for us)

[@angiesmile8155]

I've never sold a house so I can't imagine how stressful it must be. moving is stressful without having to do all that good luck with everything and just know your allowed to Express your feelings without apologizing or explaining yourself.

[@lindajeter773]

I personally think you guys killed it great job on the yard loved seeing you guys pulling together as a family you guys look really happy now talking about getting out of debt your in my prayers love ya guys your videos has given me ideas about my life thank you 😊

[@debbiegivens7205]

Totally understand how you feel! It is such a relief after it sells and you can just live! 😃

[@mamakirk2]

We had 5 different people come see our house in one day. The AC went out that morning. We felt the same way that you do. You want to sell your house but it is very hard work. So stressful.

[@roxannajean]

Yay for being current!! :) I'd frame that too!

[@loribillings3810]

Your just venting and that's ok. No need to apologize. You are doing two manager things in your life right now trying to sell your home and fix your budget. Pat yourself on the back. 👏👏