Cultivating Self-Compassion & Eliminating Negative Self-Talk

In this video we look at why it's so important to cultivate compassion and loving kindness for oneself, as well as exploring a simple method for eliminating negative self-talk.
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[@artemisthor2757]

Everything's in a mess AND all is well... Mistakes are our teachers. They come from our ignorance (not knowing), therefore unavoidable. We are all ignorant in one area or another, otherwise we wouldn't be in Earth School anymore. Mistakes result in suffering (having negative thoughts and feelings). Suffering directs our attention to within, prompts self-exploration and evaluation, the identification of the mistake (when, where, why and how the mistake was made) as one attempts to avoid future suffering. If successful, the result is growth. The ability to see a past action or belief as a mistake is the result of a new, higher level of consciousness, from which the shortcomings of the previous, lower level of consciousness can be observed. The path is challenging, but the results are worth all the effort. Thank you Nada for sharing the pearls of your gentle wisdom, they are much appreciated.

[@AwakenInsight]

Thank you for this well formulated elaboration. Beautifully said. Blessings!

[@darinjames3313]

WE are ALL highly ignorant....for WE only see in part Bro.....I dont believe in mistakes...only lessons......but if I did, I d surely be a Master at them.....so row row row yer boat...Gently down the stream....on occasion WE need to 🔥 up the engines so WE dont go Down in the whirlpool areas.....Fight the good fight.....Peace to you friend and thank you for your precious time and thoughts!....🌄

[@mathiaskinder5200]

Reality is multi-faceted and often you might not be in a position to define what is really a mistake or bad. Both "good and bad" things can lead to suffering. I don't necessarily think the root to dealing with suffering is to learn from your mistakes. It can help in that area, but the main reason you suffer, is simply that you're identified with your ego.

[@theotherway1639]

There's a mindfulness guide titled "30 Days to Reduce Anxiety", by Harper Daniels, found online. Totally recommend it.

[@stefaniemuller3475]

✨❤️🙏

[@martcichocki5571]

Being outcast from family & society, I struggle daily with self hatred. I definitely needed your advice, much gratitude.

[@ryanbinder1294]

Me to Mart me to buddy

[@beanowitz]

Me too Mart.

[@elhadjdiallo633]

I'm here for you even though i have never met you before sir ..

[@maggiebrantley1318]

You're not alone. ❤

[@fionam3735]

Me too

[@rubyheisley8338]

the emotion in your voice, i can tell YOU have compassion for those of us who don’t show ourselves kindness. your videos are helping me awaken thank you 💜

[@InnerLuminosity]

Huge insights are in store for you this year! I felt it in my heart to deliver this message, ❤👁

[@rubyhobock3851]

So sweet

[@rubyhobock3851]

Thanks

[@zain4019]

You're so calming.

[@zain4019]

And thank-you. Thank-you. Thank-you. I love you. This is one of the most beautiful things I've ever heard and seen.

[@verfassungspatriot]

no you're calming to yourself. you project your calmness onto him ;)

[@adrian2571]

We were not nurtured to cultivate self love and compassion for ourselves because it is seen as being selfish, non-caring towards others; we are told to impress others to make someone else happy and disregard our own happiness, therefore we are hard on ourselves. We need to be more in tune to our inner being to become one.

[@screamingXskittles]

Wow. Best spiritual channel I’ve come across in a long while. No fake bullshit. Love and appreciate your existence. Thank you for using this platform to help others heal, you have a gift!

[@InnerLuminosity]

Completely agree, ! New sub here❤👍

[@FancyRavenmoon]

I love my child within, my child inside needs my support from my adult self, I have become a loving parent to a beautiful self that has been growing up with compassion and wisdom!!! Many blessings to those who have had trauma as a child, love your self and open up to your self to any kind of healing that keeps your soul loving!!! Be mindful to your heart ❤️

[@tomappletree8086]

I'm deeply grateful for sharing your thoughts here on KZbin. Your voice is so gentle and loving, I could listen to you for hours. Because you aren't afraid of showing your flaws, struggle and imperfection I really can identify with you - can see myself in you and feel compassion. We don't need to be enlightened. Everything is perfect just how it is, including us.

[@nicholas-rochester.77]

Exactly right ! 💯

[@gunnasintern]

Yes! We are all Enlightened...everything in the universe is perfect as it is.

[@stefaniemuller3475]

✨❤️🙏

[@eduardochavacano]

The calmness in the voice is clearly different from Loud Preachers, who are like con artist. Beautiful video.

[@Pikasde]

Thank you so much, I meditated as I was listening to you and I decided to write to my parents. Im 31, almost 32, and I feel like the child and teenager inside of me is still suffering, so before I start my own family with my loved one (which is a fantastic person :) I'm so lucky) I want to free myself with the truth. And as I realize the truth is not easy but its all love in the end. II encourage myself to do this cause I know it's the right way, and it will help me forgive myself and others. I pray for you all with peace, love and compassion.

[@stefaniemuller3475]

✨❤️

[@wesna213]

Amazing 🙏

[@rachelhope3161]

I am really enjoying your thoughtful videos. Having been brought up in a family with a narcissistic mother who called me a bitch since I was young, I developed very negative self talk which developed into self destructive behavior. I’m 56 now and I’m putting the pieces of my life together. I believe we must make amends with our past to have peace in the present. For me, this meant me revisiting painful experiences during meditation which brought me to tears and than patting my chest or rubbing my heart while I said in a comforting voice, “it’s ok baby.... you did the best you could.....it is the past.....you are safe now.” I speak to myself like I would speak to a young child and I’ve to practiced this many times and I really feel it has helped me tremendously on my healing journey.

[@martocasSP]

Love and Peace for you, Rachel ⚘🌻

[@rachelhope3161]

@@martocasSP thank you my friend 🌻🦋🌺

[@francisrivas9497]

Thank you I had a bad childhood and one of my issues is attachment issues and fear of change. It helped to think of someone else and what I might say to them. It is not my fault and I have grown and am still growing. I need to be more compassionate with myself and believe in myself and be there for myself just as I would be there for another.

[@AwakenInsight]

Yes! You deserve love! Be the love you never recieved. Wishing you well, always and in all ways.

[@locel4502]

I don't know who put you and your videos on my path, but I'm forever thankful for it. This was all I needed to here right now. I couldn't find a better timing. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

[@InnerLuminosity]

❤❤

[@winnieamar9368]

Me too! ❤️

[@kahlschlag17]

When the student is ready the teacher arrives.

[@deananightingale8197]

I'm so relieved to have found your channel. I really need the beautiful messages and guidance that you provide. Love, light and peace to you.

[@lexxie225]

I’ve watched many of these types of videos and heard their messages.. but none have been as clear or resignate with me as much as yours do. Thank you

[@InnerLuminosity]

❤👍

[@whatsthedeal9529]

Speak to yourself like you would speak to your 3 year old self .. ❤️

[@Writinghood]

OMG... You hit the nail on the head at 8:55 when you said that most of the negative self talk is from others outside of ourselves. I never realized this. That is incredibly eye-opening because when I get mad at myself for making mistakes I hear other's voices saying "You idiot, how could you? Or, "You're so stupid you can't do anything right!" Now you've made me aware that those statements start with "You..." or "You're..." That said, you just shared something new I hadn't heard yet. Thank you, and Be Blessed for sharing your insight 🙏♥️

[@youniversalbeyoutifull2843]

When you realized you were that friend you were longing to have and looking for... We are our own worst enemy and our own best friend. Pick a side 🙂 I had that realization when I was thinking about my friends. I love all of them but then I don't feel appreciated by them. I always found a reason why they might not love me the same as I love them. I would literally ruin myself for them a million little times if I have to. I am so careful to not hurt them in any way. I am willing to drop everything just to pay attention to them and give them everything I have and all my time if they so, please. I was always there for them. Listening, understanding them and making them feel that they are not alone. Not when they have me. I wanted to have a friend that appreciates me, that listens and understands me. Who genuinely cares. Yet when I am the one needing comfort and a friend, there was no one. I was silent one time for a whole day, they were sitting beside me, not even a greeting thrown my way. Sadness is obviously written across my face. I didn't expect them to comfort me, but inside, I was silently wanting to be heard, to be cared for, to be comforted. But the day ended with me apologizing for not talking to them because perhaps they wanted to give me space. I apologized for not socializing with them, for not laughing with them. They said what was I talking about. That they didn't even notice that I was a little bit different that day. It hurt but I didn't say anything and just laughed it off. Maybe I was just being silly and overthinking. It made me realize that if I were not to talk to them, they wouldn't talk to me at all unless they needed something from me. A company, a listener, or whatever use I am to them. But when I was the one in need, there was no one. Then I realized that the friend I was wanting to have, was myself. I was all that I needed. I envy them for being treated that way by me, yet I was such a monster to myself. I just told myself that at least I was able to give love and I know that I was capable of it. I wanted me to love me. And slowly, I was trying to build that relationship with myself. It's awkward and a bit difficult when you were so used to hating yourself. You know everything about yourself so it's about what you will do with that knowledge. But at the same time, you feel lost and confused about who you really are. I was silently a little bit hating on them for not being the friend I needed. But I realized that I was the problem and not them. That not everyone will fit my "perfect friend fantasy". That maybe they also have their own storm and conflict inside of them. I have to understand that. And with that, I expected less from people. Just let them be themselves and stop projecting yourself, your own beliefs and standards to them. Because they were doing their best with the knowledge that they had at that time. Knowledge is power when you use it. So even when you know something and is not using them, it's useless. But it's their own problem. It's our own problem to deal with ourselves. Everyone is in their own journey and pace. We can only guide each other and empower each other but at the end of the day, it's all up to us to choose for ourselves. We are gifted with freedom after all. Thanks for attending my TED talk 🙂 May you find happiness. Lots of love to you my friend✨💖 Edit: messed up word positioning. If only we can also relive a moment and avoid a mistake, yet learning won't happen without making mistakes right?

[@melissawinspear4241]

I am in tears right now because I have never had someone (no words) Thank you.

[@davidharkins5345]

Thank you my brother , I enjoy and learn from all your videos. I’m at that proverbial cross road in my life no wife , no girlfriend, son is in college and it’s just me. I’m trying to fine tune what I have already created. I like to think I’m a good person already but there’s always room to grow.

[@chrismel1986]

I always go back to this channel whenever i go thru something. Thank you.

[@danielfar1564]

Gr8 work keep up the excellent work and ethics keep doing more videos brother thank U

[@spiritualawaretarot3896]

Thank you. I needed to hear this.

[@stabby5422]

Keep striving, keep going! Be strong and resilient.

[@InnerLuminosity]

You are a Divine spark of pure LOVE❤ you are going to awaken many souls dear one! I feel it..

[@leiarose3962]

Meister Eckhart: "The most important person is the one in front of you". That really works for me in learning what compassion is. When two persons, sitting next to each other realize that the other is the most important person, then there is no sense of self-importance. And there is only Compassion for each other & with it there's complete Attention. Compassion cannot be personal. After all that word means Common Passion. I hope this helps as much as it has helped me to love everyone & every thing.

[@InnerLuminosity]

👍❤

[@juliewhelan7743]

You give me comfort with your lovely voice while explaining in a way that we don't need a dictionary to understand what you are saying..

[@drew-shourd]

We are all so very blessed....

[@InnerLuminosity]

❤👍

[@chandraionimansyurin9294]

Honestly I am that type of person who LOVE to help others -like, I rather suffer from helping if it's too hard to do, than to see people suffer while I can actually help them, while I myself being rude to myself with self-hatred. So when u start talking about the exercise imagining someone we care.. I literally cried. Even now actually hehe. I uhh.. a very well thanks to u for making this video, reminds me and engaged me to be the one who care about me myself. U helped me to learn about compassion. P.s. sorry if I had a bad English

[@nathalieperez8093]

This is beautiful Thankyou

[@debbolz6847]

How did you get so wise and speak such awe inspiring words? What an evolved soul and Thank you for giving such powerful healings tonight through your sharing. Incredible you are beautiful one xxx

[@jaybathehutt3131]

Thank You for your words Sir. I am my own Judge, Jury and Executioner when my mind is in pain. In my 'dark nights of the soul', I tend to forget the wisdom and need the reminders. Peace and Be Well.

[@barbaratea4701]

Thank you for your kindness and compassion ❤🕊

[@frankrawl8705]

He's just brilliant.... Just brilliant!!!!!!!!!

[@miriconklin4720]

Being rejected by my own family , is so downing me and feelings are so hard. They pass by me as if am not there. The worse thing is they turn around to change the accusations and wrong doing towards me. It took me five years to heal myself from this toxic situation. Alone but content with myself, although, painful memories apper to my mind, I try so hard to console my self .... it's hard to let go and carry on with my life. You're such a beautiful soul, I appreciate your sweet advice, I take so heartily. Thanks,

[@user-fm9zl6mc3w]

I've been listening your videos while painting for the past two hours and never have I been so profoundly touched or had such an intense feeling of understanding and empathy for not only myself but for you (who has worked so hard to come to a place so compassionate and insightful), but every single person I have and will encounter on my journey. Often I struggle with empathizing with people who complain about their lives, as I've always had this philosophy that it is ourselves that are in charge of our own realities, yet I always seem to fail when putting this concept into practise. I seem to yearn to victimise myself, to find an excuse why I haven't taken control of MY life yet and achieved my goals, yet look down upon others who do the same (and really, it is everyone doing the same). My dad has always told me that to even begin to consider criticizing another, we must first look deep into ourselves - to pick the log from our own eye before we point out the splinter in another's. And I have figured that once, if we do ever reach that point of contention (and that is one of the noblest of goals, in my opinion), we will no longer have any desire to criticize others anyway because we will have realised that it is not a suffering that is unique to us, that the world doesn't wake up to oppress us, but it is a collective strife that each being battles; something to be looked upon with utmost compassion, empathy and love.

[@jeancoleman8331]

Very nice, thank you. I try to remind myself each time I make a poor choice it is an opportunity for growth.

[@Rachmel1980]

Such good advice. Sometimes I use the imagery of my 3 year old self. That scared child whose parents had just divorced and then I suffered a viscous attack by a pit bull dog that put me in the hospital. So much fear and grief and despair. It’s such a moment for love and compassion rather than judgment and criticizing. So, if you find it hard to give yourself the love and compassion you deserve-trying giving it to yourself as a child.

[@booboo2714]

iam so grateful i saw ur video blessings and thank you its good there are kind people like you in this world

[@InnerLuminosity]

You are appreciated ❤

[@tiffanykane692]

This video got me emotional. Still a work in progress with myself, for myself. One day at a time. ✌🏻❤️

[@rena1ism]

Grateful for sharing these advises ,this is so hepful

[@MariMarKat]

Negative self talk is extra loud today and I knew there would be something here to help guide me. Thank you for your kindness

[@eliherrera6030]

I like the green in the back, nice place and nice videos x

[@arfarms5711]

I needed to hear this. I’ve been so hard on myself and honestly feel like a failure bc we’ve lost so much during these lockdowns. I’ve definitely been judging myself very harshly and going to stop. I am my best friend

[@Changeworld408]

We are all fantstic beings, but our masters and parents are only appreciating us when we serve the matrix as they are doing. We are the smartest species on earth and more people are suffering more then ever and we always beat ourselves up if we fail(the ratrace) we are not rats and should be free and caring for our own species and others. We have to change the world and STOP BEATING OURSLVES UP. From the day you are born you where indoctrinated with sick culture(working hard is good, abusing others and other species is good, destroying mother nature is good, greed is good and so called beauty in body is supposed to be like this or that) You are great the way you are , but culture and especcially billboards and tel a vision is indoctrinating you on all levels you are not good and worth of love. we create a false persona to please culture and parents, bosses, friends, spouses...

[@arfarms5711]

@@Changeworld408 truth if I ever heard it

[@parry3231]

To love ourselves is the beginning for our loving all life. This is what we need to be whole and to learn about our own beauty, power and creativity in this glorious universe. Loving kindness and just being present in each moment with attention to what is here now. Magnificence and serenity is always available in our lives with our attention on this instant of being alive. Breathe and relax in your truth and being unique.

[@GratefulZen]

Well said

[@gybx4094]

This includes letting embarrassing incidents and failures from our past continue to flash into our minds. That past is over and no longer exists. It's improbable that anyone is thinking of it other than our self. The past is gone and hopefully we have learned and changed. Don't let those past mistakes haunt you.

[@ms94895]

10:14 "Not everyone is going to like you. Most people are having a hard enough time just liking themselves." This was one of those AHA moments. Thank you.

[@samfrito]

I can say my voice has been the harshest to myself, but I've seen the truth in being the friendly voice. I can do stupid things, but I can also do great things by reminding myself almost every mistake can be fixed or looked beyond with courage and compassion.

[@InnerLuminosity]

Listen to this pure soul....this is pure consciousness speaking to us. 👂

[@hemmamistry6563]

tears flowing, this had such a deep resonance for me, thankyou so much for sharing 🙏

[@niceprincesslucky]

You have this calm beautiful energy emanating from you, thank you for being so genuine and real ✨

[@KikiAndJeffreyPearl]

It’s Jeffrey, great points! We always talk about this! Self love is one of the most important pillars of living your best life! Real important, not only in building your own life, but for relationships and manifesting your goals......

[@chickenjoeclark]

KZbin algorithm is scary... I really needed this video. And I dont know how it knew it. Thank you for all you do for us. I sincerely appreciate your videos

[@hotboytoy138]

I JUST FOUND YOUR VIDEOS...I FEEL LIKE IM SLIDING INTO HOME BASE IN THE NICK OF TIME...YESTERDAY I MEDITATED ON FINDING SOMEONE TO CONNECT WITH IN A SPIRITUAL GUIDE SENSE...YOU LAY OUT YOUR THOUGHTS LIKE HONEY OVER A WOUND...

[@veadadead4577]

Thank you for your words. I am hating myself but i feel like i can stop it now just because of what you said..

[@eileenmorris9357]

You are such a wise man, it's taken me 40 years of a very traumatic life to get where I am today,, listening to you fuels my personal knowledge/journey,, I have only one small complaint, I get so distracted by the music , in earlier videos there were birds singing in the background which went well with your calming voice,, please consider lowering the music below your voice,, thank you so much

[@shirleymoore5201]

So good to hear ...

[@egonrhoodie2745]

Thanks for those golden words!!! There is beauty in imperfections even 'madness' equals genius God has given you his stamp of approval!!! Blessings and super white light 😇🙏🎉🎊

[@Ben-bg2lp]

I love this Sasha Baron Cohen character.

[@petermulvahill210]

I truly love this Man.He is calming, reassuring and sincere. Thankyou for helping me. 🙂

[@olivertreefan4life261]

Your way better than my therapist.

[@MICA-ym1vu]

Wow this was beautiful message and something I needed to hear. I don’t know if you have any religious affiliation but I see so much of Jesus in you and in what you’re saying. I’m so grateful that there are people like you who understand the ultimate calling towards love, love for ourselves as well as other people ❤️

[@johnny5139]

❤

[@Leenyazbek]

Your words are so comforting, and you voice is so soothing, thank you 🙇

[@jaxh3449]

I wish there were more people like him in real life

[@dios8256]

Who is this guy? I'm blown away. I think this is the beginning on a new major spiritual leader.

[@doms9639]

Your teaching is so simple, challenging but too difficult to put into practice. Very informative and spiritually awakening one. Thank you very much. Waiting for more videos of such kind.

[@akila3572]

Treat yourself like person you love most.

[@breec.1787]

This video has made realize things that I have no thought about. I am in the process of learning to know myself and love myself. This has really helped so much. Thank you for providing this knowledge

[@Fekuchand_]

Great ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@dingolightfoot8823]

Hard times creates good people good people create Good Times good times create lazy people and lazy people create hard times it's a never-ending vicious cycle but it can be broken and keep the good at all times by starting to love yourself. You can love other people once you understand how to Love Yourself and do so

[@praigleo5883]

I want to hug this guy.

[@sitibear]

Hey this came to my feed just when I needed it! In being self-compassionate it also helps us to be more compassionate towards others. It’s so easy to respond with judgment but a lot harder to response with love or kindness. Especially to ourselves. I guess we should all be our own best friend that we so often are to others. Thanks for putting this out there. 💐❤️

[@alexwallen4914]

Beautiful expression of self-love, thank you

[@VictorHLopez33]

Thank you. I am very grateful to my life for finding your wisdom.

[@prayerworks11]

Oh boy have I been there. I was just wondering if I was a void in life. I couldnt make any marriage work, family member has disowned me. I spend most of my time alone, other than I babysit my 4 yr old greatgrandson. The good news is, Im in great healrh to be able to do that. Ive built a cabin in Alaska in my life time, and towed a sawmill rhousands of miles to do it. Why do I menrion all this? To confirm to myself, I AM NOT A VOID.

[@DilbagSingh-ox8li]

Love you Sheila love you dear, I read your words and my heart just make me utter, love you sheila love you, I found Leonard jacobson on internet and this guy really made me open me up, it sounds silly to suggest but I insist you to please hear him on internet, love you, love you

[@northernlight133]

You are great, I respect you.

[@stefaniemuller3475]

🙏❤️

[@stefaniemuller3475]

✨❤️

[@flaviomoreirapires1057]

Wow, what a great conversation! Thank you!

[@vascoemyer]

Great suggestions, I began my day in part viewing two of your uploads and now preparing to end my day I'm again viewing another of your videos. Strange the way KZbin algorithm materialised Awaken Insight. I suppose because your points of view and frames of reference reverberate with my lived experience and own conclusions/feelings it's comforting to listen and reflect. I've this year begun my seventh decade here and am so grateful - pandemic included, to be able to experience and realise the commencement of our 21st century. Thank you for uploading, no doubt your wisdom for many is akin to a soothing, existential balm. Best heartfelt from Melbourne, Australia.

[@jonathanlongerbeam7714]

I actually came across this video..kind of by accident, but I think I have needed to hear this for a long time.

[@karensmithsmith1688]

Thank you .i have had a life of people making hiding me . It has me feel like I'm not worthy of love and any respect. I'm trying to be more gentle on myself but it seems the more I live in a small town of people who have torn me down more than I care to think .

[@jamesjohn1850]

Thank you for sharing. I am learning and growing once again!

[@sangeetanair3643]

Very true we call ourselves STUPID and allow others to stamp us the same and later we acknowledge it and that ultimately becomes a part of our character and we withdraw into a shell never to come out again....Time and again we hope for some kindness from others but we forget to be kind to ourselves

[@collette2075]

Just such goodness here. Thankyou. ☮️🙏😄

[@klemmetvaagenes7935]

Very relaxing and peaceful.

[@dchrysostom]

Thank you.. wish I had a friend like you ..

[@sigmaman721]

Just have realized I am a cruel lasher to myself.. able to curse each and every little mistake.. able to kick dirt into my own eyes

[@KARIS1961]

I love your videos so far. Discovered you this week. So peaceful. Love the reminders you give to love ourselves and others. Thank you.

[@justinevans6546]

It’s not your fault because there is no fault you are exactly as intended

[@InnerLuminosity]

Bingo...to add to that amazing comment..there is no "you" to blame😉❤👍

[@kimikimikimikimikimikimikimi89]

The ❤️ is perfect 🙏🏻 respect ☯️

[@runachakra8892]

Yes. Your energy is correct. You r the right version. Kindness and love is the right way. Other versions not really like that. Stay kind in this mad crazy selfish Opportunistic universe

[@themichaelmaciel]

It's interesting how self-discipline comes so much more easily when I treat myself as you're saying here. Your talks are an oasis in this love-parched world.

[@michaelshelden6597]

Very uplifting brother. Thank you.

[@mayaatkinson6675]

your videos help me so much. thank you❤️ blessed be

[@chungseng4155]

Glad I found your channel

[@maysaraali5772]

You're so authentic! loving your insights. Thanks

[@Warrioroflove143]

you have not only taught me so much but helped me better articulate myself and my feelings. thank you for deciding to start this channel thank you for making this video and many more. as i can see looking through the comments the feeling is definitely mutual.💖

[@nancygomez1072]

Thank you! What a timely council this video has brought for me today! Thank you 😊 🌞

[@sheknowsxo]

You my favourite speaker 💚 thank you for being who you are !

[@edgreen8140]

Very true. But we offer a friend + things. We can self love a difficult thing.

[@Jackalleyway]

Thank you for speaking and making these videos. This touches me deeply.

[@ubself]

I love you for reminding me of all these lessons, reminders are wonderful, Byron said to teach is to learn twice! Fantastic!

[@amariliscatclaw142]

Thank you so much. I appreciate the slow blinking at the end. Eye hugs