Cut Toxic People & Friends Out of Your Life | Jordan Peterson Motivation

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Professor Jordan B. Peterson proposes a simple set of tests to find out who really is your friend.
Choose your friends carefully
What if you don't ?
Loosing a friend can be a really painful event, but sometimes necessary.
How to navigate yourself in the social world ?
In this video Dr Peterson is sharing valuable life lesson.
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[@Rakesh.Mishra1991]

Staying alone is thousands times better than cheap and aimless friend.

[@eulennachathen449]

The way I see it: your energy and attention is limited. If a toxic circle remains in your life, it blocks a significant space in your life so the right people and opportunities can't step in. The world is full of everything, including bad stuff. The things you say yes to define who you are. But more so, the things you say no to. It takes more conscious effort to refuse something and missing out on something on purpose. This signals abundance to your brain. That if you're willing to say no to certain social circles, you must have enough other options. It's hard. But it's less hard if you're comfortable being alone.

[@mariaapolo2602]

Some friends will use you for money

[@TheSocratesofAthens]

Or family members trying to take you down with their personality disorders.

[@ubaidkhan99559]

Im agree with you 💯 percent bro today i leave all my bad friendz who .. always try to bully me .and stole my things ...nd crush it ...i m a little bit sad but ..i know I'll happy later ..🥰

[@OpulentAristocrat]

I cut everyone off! Extremely lonely but BEST decision made.

[@not-even-german4892]

Me too. Working on myself.

[@realworldforum]

Same here. It hurts, but I needed it.

[@bigdeneen]

Me too

[@mobileandroid5299]

100%! If they are toxic, drop them all! Sending you positive vibes!

[@lizalane5745]

How did you do it? I would like to get rid of a long term friend. Do I say something or do I just ignore them and not answer their calls.

[@kushkingla7385]

“The saddest part of betrayal is that it never comes from your enemies.”

[@SayMyNameAgain]

So very incredibly true.

[@cdr_cody_2129]

Beautiful quote, thank you❤ do you know the origin?

[@melt2947]

Wow. Too real

[@gaynordicksoncooper6108]

@@SayMyNameAgainso true 💯

[@fml5910]

So true I have had 5 relatives do that to me.

[@teresagaylor3995]

Friends are hard work. Enjoying your own company sometimes is good. There’s a lot of wolves in sheeps clothing.

[@aashij2426]

so true!!

[@tammyfitzgerald5336]

🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@bobholyoake8577]

So saying

[@sylviaparker9010]

I agree, if you are happy in your skin and they are not, they are so insecure that they try to bring you down leave them be, I have done this, I'm on my own but not lonely, I've been gaslighted so many times by people/family members that I trusted, now I'm happier on my own. I engage with a lot of people, but I do not divulge much I just listen and enjoy that persons company and leave it at that, life is easier and less worry.

[@adrianacampanella9461]

Let's not insult wolves lol

[@janinearvayo6963]

Avoid all negative people

[@AllEnglishShorts]

Life is so better without aimless and useless friends.

[@greengold7648]

Friendship is so overrated. Most people don't grasp what a true friend is all about. Instead, they are looking at you to ascertain what they can get from you. My four-legged friends have always been the most loving and supportive throughout my life. My estate will go to them.

[@CaraRiedell-wf3bc]

I love my lil doggy too

[@greengold7648]

Amen!@@CaraRiedell-wf3bc

[@inquisitive1911]

@greengold7648 I know exactly what you mean. Shallow people equals shallow relationships. All these ones with wide circles of friends keep them wide and many because they all relationships for using and abusing. People who have a close inner circle of just one or two friends hold powerful, meaningful, honest relationships with the chosen one or two. - They are not users but on the contrary, truly meaningful relationships .Then they get berrated by others for 'Naomi No Friends' etc ... That's my lifelong experience anyway. I value myself and I value e.g. the one special friend in my life. That's my dog!! Love from Scotland, ❤ X.

[@mr.anderson7631]

Mine just want to laugh all the time, not serious enough

[@greengold7648]

@@inquisitive1911 Love to you, too, from the USA! Wise words indeed! I do indeed keep a very small group of friends.

[@SammyHegab]

It's very hard and more challenging when the most toxic are the closest family members. Best way, which worked for me is to keep distance, stop looking for support, keep relationship to bare minimum. Work on your goals in secret and silence.

[@kanadchakraborty7434]

I understand bro. Even for me the real bastards are my parents. I really hate them a lot

[@MrVishalkankatala]

@@kanadchakraborty7434 It took courage for you to say this I know. I understand because I have gone through something similar.

[@MrVishalkankatala]

I appreciate when someone acknowledges this. Even the greatest philosophers agree that peace of mind can happen regardless but success needs your surroundings to be conducive. It is the most difficult thing to remove people from your life when people constantly try to manipulate you, try to tell you how you should feel, how you should be spending your time. The fight against this in the society is real especially for introverted people who avoid confrontation. I wish you good luck.

[@diannabeacham6818]

Amen so true yes god

[@christinadacruz420]

My daughter

[@fallout2104]

Ban toxic people, family or friends, from your life. Stand strong.

[@bobholyoake8577]

I dont have any friends to ban

[@teeaymusik9811]

@@bobholyoake8577 You are not alone. Nobody at all is left in my life only 1 good friend but i rarely see him. All my friends from the past were (very) toxic and it's better to be alone than to deal with them.

[@tommychappell6359]

I hope ai lays dust to us. Because getting on my wick.. I used to like people but not anymore.

[@moorparkgirl]

Agreed! I was a scapegoat in a sea of narcissists , they were more of a gang of opportunists , they got along with each other but always scapegoated me , I was never part of them , they kept me as an outsider ` They were so petty that they treated me differently because my last name is different , my Dad's surname `

[@saundraj4435]

I’ve had to cut off my three older children because they’re so toxic with my exes and it’s been very hard. I miss them terribly however, every time I let them in mostly my daughter it’s just if she wants some thing and then she is very rude. it is very lonely and you feel like a failure as a parent however, I don’t deserve to be treated bad. I also disowned my mother when I was 39. I’m gonna be 51 she abused me my whole life and put me in situations that weren’t healthy it took four pastors and three counselors to tell me to let go, also a few friends saw her in action towards me and said it’s not worth it so I’m basically alone I do have a son at home under 18 and just hope that things turn out OK but it’s been rocky with him being a teenager and father is gone due to death however I put that in perspective and just hope for the best that he’ll grow! Does anyone else out there understand where I’m coming from? Have you been there have you had to let go? What directions have you turned? Who do you look to when you’ve had counseling already and you have God in your heart, but you still feel overwhelmed with sadness at times. I guess it comes in waves it’s part of the grief process but also there’s a lot of happy moments in my life because I’m free of the toxicity.❤

[@SantiagoTM1]

So many times, toxic people are your own family members. Also, Betrayal NEVER comes from enemies. Ppl, learn to be by yourself, learn how to live alone, stay away from social media, workout, read, learn how to work with your hands, learn how to prepare your meals, have a clean home...

[@Cloudyyy7]

Best advice I’m going through it right now and I think it’s best if I separate myself and be alone for a while ! I know my twin sister needs help but I need to help myself first cause I can’t take care of a child she had.. I have to live my life

[@dleyba3199]

so very true

[@kathystoneburner4947]

Phenomenal!!!!

[@chellecole6623]

facts on the betrayal piece... my God people are so treacherous 😞

[@Ndumiso14]

Well said 👏

[@brendareyes3207]

The number one way I knew I made the best decision of my life by cutting off my toxic friends is that afterwards, I felt free and like a heavy toxic weight was lifted off of me.

[@SpiritHawk]

Never hurt yourself to help someone else - one of the best bits of advice I got on entering a "helping" profession.

[@jenniferlloyd9574]

That's excellent and much needed advice on my end. I'm disabled due to back issues along with a rather pronounced fatigue inducing autoimmune disease. Am doing good to get to the grocery and keep my place picked up. Problem is, I have a family member who wants me to come over to do heavy cleaning or dogsit or do home repairs (taking a door off the hinges, installing a garbage disposal [I'm female]) because I'm "not working after all". No, I no longer am... I'm legally DISABLED. Add to this, phone calls that regularly last three hours - totaling approximately 15-20 hours a week - of this relative generally venting or ranting about life/job/anything. These are what I frustratingly refer to as "The Sessions". I'm the soundingboard and there's no reciprocity for me having a platform to talk about my problems. If I don't sleep I feel worse, but my insomnia is very high now. I have nightmares. I'm stress eating and have gained 30 pounds. Doctor tells me I'm B12 deficient and my cortisol is elevated. My blood pressure is becoming difficult to control and inflammatory markers are elevated, as well. My hair is falling out... When the phone rings I feel like screaming . I feel like I'm walking on the edge right now. I really can see that I have to put myself first.

[@peaceofmindofpeace1650]

Yes and my lesson to never hurt myself just to keep someone in my life.

[@anne-no2ic]

how true. I bend over backwards to help . Yet as an empath you always give but rarely receive help you need. Avoid toxic people as much as possible.

[@sachchidanand3482]

❤❤

[@AbsoluteMdot]

Amen!!! I had to cut off 3 ''friends'' who turned out to be Narcissist and it was the best decision I ever made. Life is good!

[@michelleadebiyi2341]

I’m proud 🙏🏾❤️

[@rm2kmidi]

Yeah, the one I cut out of my life was also a narcissist. Very hard to disentangle yourself from people like that.

[@JimmyJaxJellyStax]

The old adage that "happiness comes within" is so true and toxic people will emotionally distract us from such happiness. Enough toxic people and we can almost forget it's even there. So yes, we DO make (or rather naturally generate) our own happiness from within when its given space and wellbeing to flow out externally and being extremely selective of our social circle is crucial to allow such a ripple. Absolutely crucial to meditate every single day, a little bit each day. Absolutely necessary and perhaps the most overlooked mental health medicine today's digital distraction dopamine hijacking society of constantly needing external validation when the reality of the real sense of joy is quite the opposite...internal validation, by listening to the depth of self resonance/expression/meaning/purpose/legacy that needs to be heard. From there the external becomes more clear and aligned to what's inside, we start to make better decisions.

[@lizalane5745]

Could I ask-did you tell them something or did you just ghost them?

[@legendarygreatness1]

Same here recently!

[@fernandodesousa9362]

Life is crazy and unpredictable. I had to cut off of my life my best friend of 30 years. As I accomplished big goals and started to be successful he became jealous and bitter. I couldn’t believe that he was not happy for me after he saw how much I worked and gave up in life to be where I’m at. It was heartbreaking, and one of the hardest things I had to do to cut my friend off my life but it had to be done. I felt his energy and it was dragging me down.

[@Dreamersroc]

Sometimes it's best to cut toxic people out of your life

[@Ninjeto]

Sometimes your family isn't interested in your life. It's heartbreaking and liberating at the same time. Go for your dreams!!!

[@reemhasan37]

Life with allah is the best ❤

[@luckycher2015]

I agree, at the same time I'm sad and lonely. I'm shifting gears slowly moving on. Prayers helps a lot.

[@TimothyGPTSanders]

I can definitely relate with this, it's quite sad, it truly hits you when you get older when while you're younger, you think they're support and love will remain, and then it diminishes. God is love though

[@kresivarivkah612]

Absolutely! This is true freedom.

[@YakyahMuhammad-ep9ne]

Heard dat

[@wingrider1004]

I told a family member, "Bring something good to the table, or go sit at another table." Life is too short.

[@Jack-uy7ie]

No man. That breeds resentment. Family units are different because you have that bond otherwise it becomes a firm and not a family. The problem family member is only as good as their teacher.

[@sonnyroy497]

I 'divorced' the family that I married into: husband, in laws, ALL of them. Their hearts, their spirits, were so sour and unkind and gossipy that it was exhausting to be a part of that group or clan or whatever they were. I've gone my own way, slowly healing. I keep to myself, few friends. I'm kind to myself.

[@ladyvirgo9514]

I'm divorcing the same currently

[@Nateandmel633]

I have had to cut all my family out of my life. My parents, siblings, and relationships. I am lonely but God holds me up

[@romrhino]

I hear you. May He grant you the strength you need 🙏

[@DangerousDevilOfficial]

I hear you. I cut off part of my family on my dad’s side. And even my own daughter. Because after years of being treated like a used up door mat, I had had enough. As hard as it was with my daughter especially, I know it was the best decision I could make to save my own life. My point to this, is to say, I understand and appreciate how hard these decisions and after effects are. But just know, you aren’t alone… Many of us share your heart ache.

[@Nateandmel633]

@@DangerousDevilOfficial thanks... yes, these days I know there are more ppl that struggle with this pain

[@gm6034]

Get out there and find new family. Family doesn't have to be blood related. One of my best friends has been more of a brother to me than my own brother. There are people out there for you that will be there for you that can be your new family. Don't lose hope! Also if you can until you find those people get a pet, cat, dog, bird. Having a pet will help you with some of that loneliness. My dog is literally like my child and he helps me a lot when I'm feeling sad or depressed.

[@romrhino]

@@gm6034 i understand this totally. something happened in my life that almost killed me and i was unable to contact anyone it wasnt to the point where authorities were involved but i have a friend like you described... who realised i was missing, started looking for me.... and ended up searching every hospital in our region. when that didnt work he started going to each one... one day i was just there in emergency and i heard his voice and i was like...no way. How'd you find me? He said, "thats what friends do." Ive never forgotten that. He's like a brother to me... and Im not one to be expressive with words etc but I made sure to tell him I love him. My grandfather told me... you will know when you have true friends when you find it hard to get past counting them on one hand... after you have applied what it truly means to be a friend. Not many people get past five fingers. I havent forgotten that either.

[@lauralinden6840]

I’m 68 and have eliminated all of my friends, except one. He’s toxic too but I can tolerate him because he doesn’t live near me, so we don’t have regular contact. Most people are just crap and I seem to attract the worst-all narcissists. I have finally accepted I will be and live alone for what remains of my life. I embrace the utter tranquility of that acceptance.

[@mimilili6568]

I need your advice! How can I deal with family members spreading lies about me! I haven't done anything for years! now its enough they are just too much and I can't handle it anymore! It disgusts me and it gives me headache everytime I think, those people heard those lies about me and they see me as what that toxic family member said! that's the thing I can't stand anymore!

[@josephinebournes8212]

Sending you a heartfelt virtual hug 🫂

[@jayne1905]

Totally resonates, thankyou !!

[@Irishempress]

Age is only a number tolerate NO DISRESPECT. I WOULD MUCH RATHER BE ALONE THAN BE SUBJECTED TO THE ABUSE FROM ANYONE. I DID CHUCKLE AT YOUR LAST FRIEND LIVES AT A DISTANCE. DOESN'T MATTER IF ITS FAMILY IF THERE TOXIC CUT THEM OUT OF YOUR LIFE.

[@davidb9236]

phew, tough words to read and no doubt to write. Best wishes to you.

[@stilesjohnson1745]

I been in isolation and focusing on myself. People have become so draining and fake I am ok with being alone. You got to be strong to be alone.

[@janewambui7576]

I agree with you totally. And it's the most beautiful thing. Alone, silent, strong, not needy for human love and all. Unexplainable.

[@stilesjohnson1745]

@@janewambui7576 Yes 🙌🏽 indeed.

[@YakyahMuhammad-ep9ne]

Heard dat man God bless you keep me n prayer also man much love most people so shady but karma real 🔥

[@stilesjohnson1745]

@@YakyahMuhammad-ep9ne God bless you as well. 🙏🏽

[@tiger-resssparkle2686]

Yes u learn more Bt yrself and love u when u can give more or in successfully place , hard finding genuine ppl

[@leslielane8679]

I had to stop talking to my mother and sister. They were attempting to interfere in my marriage but that was what finally made me realize that they were the problem. My mother was a bitter, angry woman with a remarkable gift for sarcasm. My sister was just nuts and physically assaultive. Fast forward to present day - I’m 65 and in good health, financially secure and a widow for the last 2 years. My marriage was difficult and my husband was a narcissist. But guess what - all my abusers are dead and I am alive and happy. So I guess I won after all.

[@noidreculse8906]

Great advice! Very few people ever wanted the best for me. I can spot a gaslighter, a narcissist from a mile away. Signed: Alone but not Lonely 😊

[@jacksgl777]

As for friends…. You “do” have to be careful. Sometimes you do things with them, and they keep saying you’re a good friend and they even share their personal experiences and stories with you. But still, you walk away kinda drained. That’s toxic. They’re just a bad habit. Don’t deny it like I’ve done. They really slow down your goals. 😢

[@nazcarcup]

It's a massive wake up call when you realize your "friends" aren't happy for you in your best moments and aren't there during your darkest moments. It was a painful wake up call for me, because I've been more than just 'there' for them.

[@salaamakbar3630]

YES!!!! IT'S DEFINITELY A HARD PULL TO SWALLOW

[@chester4082]

How did you get over it

[@salaamakbar3630]

@@chester4082 Good Question!!!! Honestly God spoke to me and just gave me insight that this person wasn't the best thing for me in my life!!!! And then I continued the road with " SELF IMPROVEMENT"....And everything that it entails....I started to meet beautiful genuine people at the gym along with improving my body.... went from 230 down to 180 lbs.... but with me even at 230 lbs I still had SWAG!!!! And I always had a " AUROA!!!! BUT TO WRAP THIS UP !!!! THE PERSON & PEOPLE AROUND ME COULD SEE THAT I WAS GOING TO ANOTHER LEVEL & THAT IT WAS GOING TO BE REMARKABLE BUT IN A FRIENDSHIP YOU WOULD THINK SOMEONE WOULD BE A YOUR GENUINE CHEERLEADER 💯💯💯 BUT WHEN YOUR DEALING WITH NARCISSIST WHO AREN'T GOING UPWARD IN LIFE 💯💯💯 PEOPLE WHO WANNA BE RESPECTED BUT DON'T RESPECT AND EMPATHY FOR OTHERS SUCH AS NARCISSIST PEOPLE ARE .... SECRETLY HATE YOU BECAUSE YOU ARE THE MAN/ WOMAN.... THEY WISH THEY COULD BE.....SO IT'S A HARD PILL YO SWALLOW WHEN YOUR LOYAL & NEVER THOUGHT IN A MILLION YEARS YOU'VE SHARED EVERYTHING WITH WOULD PLOT TO DESTROY YOU & DRAG YOU DOWN THE GUTTER WITH THEM BECAUSE THEIR LIFE IS GOING DOWN THE DRAIN & ONE OF THE REASONS THAT HAS HAPPENED TO THEM BECAUSE PEOPLE WHO ARE VERY AWARE RECOGNIZED THAT THIS PERSON IS A DECEITFUL ASSHOLE/ JERK !!!! I CAN MAKE MY OWN KZbin ABOUT FUCKED UP PEOPLE.... BUT IF YOU ARE WATCHING THIS KZbin CHANNEL IT WASN'T BY ACCIDENT..... YOUR SPIRIT WAS TALKING TO YOU 💜❤️💜❤️ BUT THANKS FOR THE QUESTION & HAVE A BEAUTIFUL DAY 💜

[@AmbientNoizTherapy]

Honestly happening to me right now. Shocking how my uncle who was my role model passed and i try to keep personal issues to myself and bring myself out of the negativity i'm in. But my 'friends' think complaining about the same workplace issues they've been complaining about for the past year is not a negative stressor to me when I call them out on it. Meanwhile I found another job, and I tell them if they hate it so much why don't they look for another job like me. Now i'm a snob for "moving up". truly a wake up call for wanting better lives for those mofos.

[@ISEEKSPACE]

I feel the same. I had to set boundaries to try and keep my friends and it was the biggest mistake I ever made because that only created more problems. If I cannot be myself or express my feelings openly, then I have no business being in your life and you in mine. The moment the word boundaries comes up in a friendship, that's a red flag because that means you're having to put rules in place to miniminze your interactions with them when you should feel free.

[@blessed7927]

When they can’t celebrate you it’s sad. But revealing.

[@ShortsAndSweater]

Sometimes losing someone can be the best thing to happen to you.

[@pinkiepieheart]

It has been 5 months since I came out from a toxic household. I should have done this earlier but as said in the bible, there's a time for everything. LEARNINGS: 1. Trust your gut if something feels off. 2. Blood is not always thicker than water. 3. Pathological liars and Narcissists have hobbies of spreading lies about you, but don't worry - the truth about them will eventually surface. 4. It is better to spend time bettering myself than to celebrate life with snakes. 5. Time will heal you, focus on yourself. 6. Decide to make yourself a priority - God will eventually lead you to the right friendships. 7. PRAY AND SUBMIT TO GOD. Remember, "Let Go and Let God be God". Whoever and wherever you are, I pray for your healing ❤

[@uknow1994]

You know that there is no such thing as God, right

[@uknow1994]

you know that there's no such thing as god, right

[@TomboyGamerGal]

I may not believe in God, but you're *absolutely right* on this!!

[@WhiskeyJ_TV]

Toxic people are jealous of ur accomplishments thats all. Fuck them

[@Mastergamernerd1]

💯

[@user-fo9ps6ww8w]

Friends are like diamonds, very rare

[@hyunbinsdimple5803]

I’m 32 and I’ve literally only have 3 friends. These are the only people who have been consistent, supportive and active in my life. They have shown up, they have supported me and wished me well at all times. I’d rather have a small number of good quality friends, than a large number of so called friends.

[@joeytorlone2029]

If you have more than a couple like this then you are doing better than the majority of the population.

[@Psiekoman]

Exactly

[@ormsk954]

Apart from a life partner (best friend) having 3 close friends is plenty. When reading psychology at university it was pointed out to me how hard it is to really care for more than a dozen or so people in your life. Friendship takes hard work. It can be difficult and needs to be somewhat reciprocal sharing good times and bad. Having said that it is often enriching to have friendly associates with shared interests such as sports clubs. No need to isolate oneself without close friends.

[@bondjames652]

3? That's lucky

[@RS54321]

Good for you. Showing up, being supportive, and wishing goodness on you are hallmarks. I am working toward this w/ my friendships, weeding out the unhealthy ones. Blessings!

[@jbone2345]

Most of the signs your in a toxic friendship are very subtle and gets harder to detect the longer you know that person because of emotions.

[@meld3315]

If you don't add value to my life and or you're constantly creating havoc, you're gone. I don't care who you are. I'm creating my heaven on earth here in this life and this girl ain't got time for any of that toxic crap. It took my a long time to figure this out without feeling guilty but if you pay attention... they never feel guilty for treating you badly. Boundaries are a necessity for your personal wellbeing.

[@pegpenguin]

Yes I believe that, they don't feel guilty

[@wayofthekodiak3118]

Very well put. If they can't see the damage they're causing and do it like its a bodily function it isn't your job to correct them. I'm not raising a damn adult like they're a child.

[@loombaron]

if you give good things to a friend and that doesnt come back you should remove that person from your life. A good friendship is teamwork, both playing for the same side. I was disappointed once by a person I considered to be my friend and it took me a long time to realize that I was not respecting myselft by keeping that relationship. Never let anyone disrespect you, always defend yourself because is the best thing you have in your life. If someone minimizes you to have you by their side for their convenience, don't give him/her your precious time anymore. No matter how much he/she tries to convince you that cares about you dont believe it and accept the truth that that person is just using you as if you were a disposable handkerchief.

[@ChooseLoveToday316]

This feels like it could have been typed by a friend I perceive to have high functioning autism. I told him it wasn't an ultimatum but i don't like to see friends more than one day a week. I haven't heard back. His condition causes isolation and impatience. Mine causes a lot of introversion and anxiety. Sorry this happened to you. If they only want to see you once a month or something might be avoidant personality disorder.

[@franmdleleni6520]

I really needed to hear this. I have just walked away from my adult daughter, living her in my house because of the abuse I have suffered from her. Being shouted at, emotional abuse, manipulation, and being blamed for all her life problems. This went for over 7 years. I just said, enough. Packed a few of my stuff and walked out. It is now a month. And a feeling so energised without the negative energy I used to experience.

[@RednailVal]

I’m less than a month away from getting out of the same relationship with my older brother. He’s very doom & gloom, always looking to blame me for his life problems, always looking for fight, very entitled, miserable, a liar and a manipulator. Once I move out I’m moving on without him in my life. He is absolutely the most miserable person I have ever been around.

[@bratzliplogical]

2022 is a year of cutting people off 💅

[@ganymeade5151]

Absolutely true. Value good relationships with positive people rather than relationships with shallow and narcissistic people who you can never please and who will hurt you for a sense of power and control. Keep negative people in check or banish them forever. Narcissists never make good friends.

[@nikstar1313]

I cut off 5, no 6 sorry so called ‘best friends’ of 30 years (high school friends) ... as soon as I was in therapy 2 years ago and took my rose coloured glasses off, I realised how codependent I was, brainwashed by my mother to be. I feel so much more at peace. It’s easy to know if someone’s toxic. watch their behavioural patterns vs their words and the big one; if you have conflict with them can they be wrong and conduct healthy conflict and admit their responsibility? If they turn it around on you in anyway eg “but you”..and deflect responsibility for 1) the issue and 2) for hurting you, you have your answer I feel. Lots of love from Australia everyone 🇦🇺💖

[@hernamespretty]

The most strongest thing I’ve ever done is make the decision to cut off everyone around me. The gruesome memories tear me apart at how they degraded and belittled me but I kept them around because I thought they loved me. Worst part is I’ve never known what true love is and they knew that. I’m still learning my worth, but I thank God for videos like this.

[@rozdoyle8872]

Been where you are and it does come to an end , truck loads of self care , rest , reflection, little rewards and very slowly you wonder who the hell were those people ,? I wish you peace and happiness.

[@tammyfitzgerald5336]

🎉❤🎉

[@moorparkgirl]

I can so relate, in my case they were relatives ` My parents were the only ones in my family life able to truly love , they were gems , cousins absolute toxic slandering like minded manipulators ` The memories are too much . I had a hard time dealing with toxic memories , they hurt to the core , they made me lose confidence , this is an area narcissists seem to work on , making people lose confidence `

[@YerpYerpizzle-xw7tk]

​@moorparkgirl keep strong

[@moorparkgirl]

@@YerpYerpizzle-xw7tk Thank you so much , will do 🥰 ❤ Hope you are blessed with a loving and understanding family ❤, family can be tough they will never treat their friends the way they treat family . Doing better now , things are looking up , one day at a time and it has made me stronger and understanding how there are great people , we don't have to rely on relatives or help them when all they do is take . All the best to you 🥰

[@danteonkhu1669]

I wish I could listen to Jordan Peterson WITHOUT piano.

[@brynadean8054]

It took me FOREVER to realize who are gaslighters and toxic. Hands down one of the most brutal sucker punches. It guts you so deep and so hard, you feel mentally and physically can't breath. Because you start to FULLY grasp the person or people you confided in, and knows what makes you vulnerable, and what can hurt you, and trusted them with your life, that you would literally take a bullet for them without hesitation, pretty much just blew up what you thought was a strong foundation your standing on. And that isnt even the worst part. It's when you open your eyes and finally see clearly,all while its happening in real time!! Cause now you have to face one of 2 things.. Were they ever that person you knew. And loved? Or did they get alittle sloppy over time and their mask just fell off, and now you see what and who they really are?

[@AmarisLW]

This is sooo good!!!! 🥺🥺🥺

[@ronnibee6753]

I can relate so much to this! Going through this right now.

[@tanyamclennan1492]

Going through this with my sister. The utter betrayal is gut wrenching beyond belief. Since realising she has been gaslighting me, I have had so many flashbacks for the past year, of all the things she has said and done to me for many years. I realised I have overlooked her mean and nasty words and actions because she is my sister and that I love her very much. Not anymore, I don't want anything to do with her.

[@StellaM22]

This!!!!!

[@ChooseLoveToday316]

Jesus this is like youre walking in my shoes

[@user-xt5oe2gm5v]

I won't be allowing anyone in. I really like myself and my own company. From now on, I'm alone, even among everyone.

[@beytullahdereli569]

Brutal part is that realizing why I am isolating myself for over 10 years. Everyone I know tries to drag me down and that made me hate myself for long time.

[@jamiewilliams8107]

I don't fuck with fake people as you don't know when they can turn on you.

[@miz528aaaaaaa]

Yep

[@MrJamieFRESH]

How do you know they are fake

[@toptier6356]

​@@MrJamieFRESHThey will show themselves. Trust and believe.

[@MrJamieFRESH]

@@toptier6356 I believe you do x and you’re right they do

[@manubecker]

This has actually validated my emotions. I have cut off my toxic father more than a year ago. I have been receiving pleas from my mother about getting back to talk to him because what I did shows that I have a cruel heart but I still did not do it.Growing up he was very distant and verbally abusive towards us and every living human. He has not achieved anything special in his life because he is full of excuses. And when anyone achieves a certain goal in their lives, he spews the most demeaning things about these people out of jealousy and then reflects how hard he worked and no one has rewarded him. The decision was not light but I am so glad I have this toxicity out of my life. Thanks Jordan Peterson for your logical words!

[@pablolowenstein1371]

You did the right thing. These people do not, I repeat , do not change...so, no contact ever again and move on.

[@user-eo7hg4pf8i]

You can wish him well .... from a distance. It's not your burden - it's his. It's very sad he feels like this, but you can't fix him.

[@JL982]

A lot of toxic traits can come out in the subtleties of their conversion. People that seem to question things you tell them or act very critical to you or others, someone always giving you advice you didn't ask for, one sided conversations, calling you only benefits them, feeling drained after being around them. Pay attention then remove them.

[@ana_silly_little_things]

I’ve realised that most of my friends were toxic and decided to quit. It was so painful. But then I found many good friends on Voicely, so now I can say that it was even worth it. You deserve better!

[@slimdaniels3322]

Is this an ad?

[@myemodiaries901]

@@slimdaniels3322 lol I was thinking that too

[@slimdaniels3322]

@@myemodiaries901 pretty sure it is. It’s like a bot account with a Russian name and typing in English

[@maureenjanik1864]

You teach people how to treat you. And we are responsible for the world we create. The bible tells us to guard our hearts.❤ Your love will walk and talk for you. Protect yourself because no one else will.🙏

[@mariankeller5852]

Jealousy and selfishness are the most powerful destroyers of relationships ..whether marriage ..family or friends..if they set out to destroy your life..future or happiness.. walk away from them and don't look back..put the ball in their court ..if they sincerely apologize .. give another chance..if they ignore your pain or lie to you ..forget them

[@tommychappell6359]

I hate people who think because right. Never compromise/repent. Point isn't to be right. It's to have a basic regard for other human beings. I feel like people who always have pokey stick, who always be able to touche another or always be on winning side. One can be narcissist and right. But they can be complete utter shitshowssss of human being. Their just isn't winning with people. And always their 100% right. Even if they are, 100% right. Happily would take entire lifetime to destroy them, outright. Expose them whatever. Or just not bother and best them by being badass.

[@theenvisionary]

I had to do this earlier this year with my own parents, fiancée, and a couple of old friends. It was the hardest thing to ever do but I slowly realised how I’d been living as a victim within drama circles for much of my life, even attracted them, and had zero confidence in myself, often living in denial and avoiding conflict and interaction where possible over years. I would never even post comments or articles in fear of judgement from others. I didn’t even see the depth of the gaslighting until I finally set boundaries and cut out contact. It’s been a lonely road but thankfully with one or two people I could trust I’ve found myself slowly building myself and challenging that social anxiety head on, finally thinking I deserve whatever I put my mind to, and not letting others sabotage my own thinking as was the case before. Hardest thing I’m finding now is trusting people I don’t know to develop new relationships, and wondering if the scars still show too obviously on the outside.

[@BL-rb7jm]

I think that when people are raised In a dysfunctional environment they seek friends that are just as indisfunctional as how they grew up it's almost like an addiction. People can be addicted to drugs alcohol sex the list goes on but they can also be addicted to the feelings And the emotions that came with their childhood.

[@alanalycan3986]

YES indeed!

[@loregomez1379]

Its easier to cut ties but its so hard to forgive and theres where you actually heal and learn the lesson. But we are stronger, smarter and better than we think❤ everything is possible aim high❤❤

[@misterconsequence3102]

I dont like receiving anything from toxic people because even their "gifts" are tainted by their own distortion and seperation from the genuine quality of life and good principals.. in that way their gifts are more like contracts as they will often expect something in return but yet pretentiously gift you as if it were good spirited. The toxic can not even understand their own stench let alone smell it and they strangely tend to live in the fear of their own shadow and somewhat paranoid thinking others must mean them the harm of their own way while not even seeing it within themselves. This is why I reason that they must be damaged and quite possibly even beyond repair.

[@CharlieWinterTV]

I was extremely depressed for a huge part of my life, I isolated myself from everyone and it opened my eyes about people around me. Very few people was worrying about me and even less were trying to help me. I maintaned a relationships with those people and cut everyone else off. Best decision of my life. It's better to have a couple of true and loyal friends that are honest with you and geniuely care about you rather than large group of toxic bastards that are only with you when you're doing good just to take advantage of you and elevate themselves at the cost of your trust and good will. Love your loved ones and fuck everybody else.

[@bino6754]

I resonated a lot with this. Currently goin thru this with my “gf”. She has betrayed me the most and put me down the most. Cuttin her amongst others off will be the best thing since sliced bread for me

[@Ida-mq9ns]

So true! I am going thru this after a tragic accident. I learned who is really there for me, cut everyone else out including family. It has been physically and emotionally painful. Thank you for sharing.

[@shubhendubhaskar6187]

This same thing happened to me just a few months back. It’s so painful to look at your best friend who was with you for years and just leave him on his own. I tried for many years to get him out of the misery he created for himself but somehow he just doesn’t want to leave that place. And in the process he has ruined every relationship he had, be it his family, friends, anyone. I often feel guilty for turning away from him but honestly, I have trued every word and action I could and he just isn’t ready to listen. He has tried to hurt me or play down my accomplishments for years and now that I see it, I don’t know who I was with for the past several years. But I know it’s better this way and the decision I made was necessary.

[@alliebeck2390]

Good for you. As someone going through this now I find it so hard

[@mmoro143]

It is ok to show unconditional love to people (especially your loved ones)..it still has boundaries for unacceptable behavior..walking away when somebody acts up (behaves in a toxic, destructive way) is a healthy life skill

[@spartamuzic]

make sure you are busy and focused in your life more than all this stuff, you come first!

[@cameron.t]

The cigarette smoking is hilariously true. Old friends who smoke always try to get me back on their wagon. Lived with one who didn’t want to buy his own packs or roll bags, so he slowly got me smoking again and stopped buying his own tobacco. I bought a type he didn’t like, and the dude literally pouted. Had to say how “awful” it smells every time I smoked it around him. Maybe a dumb story, but it’s definitely one concrete proof that some people just try to pass their demon(s) on to you. Sad

[@MrJamieFRESH]

Nailed it mate, same goes for me when I do something considered different when it comes to food a mate will be like ohh I hate that, look what he’s eating that’s nasty. It’s like fuck off

[@RS54321]

Wow, that is massively toxic!!

[@ChooseLoveToday316]

Thats not a friend. Hell thats not even a roommate or a human. Jmo

[@MauriceRivers415]

Cut 'em off. 💯 I don't look at people who I know are negative and toxic. If you show me that you're negative, I will no longer seek to have anything to do with you, including look at you. Because I know that the eyes are the window to a person's spirit. Some people are walking around with demons in their spirit, and energy transfers, even with a look. I learned a long time ago that they all smile in your face, and gossip behind your back. I don't play that fake love/ fake shit. 💯

[@raeban7295]

I use to be a toxic friend because I learned my social skills from toxic people. I am so happy to have learned psychology. I dont cut off toxic people, I just keep them at arms length and try to teach by example. They might just not know better🤦‍♀️

[@prophecyrevelations5653]

I find u HAVE to cut them off. Otherwise you breed antagonist. They don't affect you directly yet punch at you from Afar. How are they ever gonna learn better if you're not setting boundaries instead enabling bad behavior. I cut them off after fair warnings. If they don't know better now they might never know better & I can't teach people what they think they already know👍

[@MrJamieFRESH]

@@prophecyrevelations5653 what were the fair warnings you gave them? I need to cut some people from my life too

[@bee67371]

Some toxic pple actually know exactly what they are doing. Especially if the continue to Do it over and over again. They just don't care that's why you have to cut them off.

[@mmommo10]

@@prophecyrevelations5653 this helped me. I'm newly divorced and a married friend of mine is very mean every time I see her, I keep being fed up but she keeps inviting me places and I'm super lonely but then the insults start flying...I have never insulted her ever.

[@mmommo10]

@@bee67371 ok this helped me too. this is happening in a church group of women of all places!

[@devoradiaz5061]

It’s been a hard journey as it seems I should cut all cords with people around me. A brutal lesson indeed. Grateful for this information.

[@pablogomezthegreattv]

I’m 30 and I’ve realized I don’t have no human no one..I’ll be okay I got God

[@reemhasan37]

Yeah ❤

[@Twinkiepie52]

I'm 62and literally have no one.

[@soccerlegend9780]

Im sorry to hear that, honestly having nobody around you is better. @@Twinkiepie52

[@tiffanyclark3341]

37 have my kids but I’ve basically come to that exact conclusion too ❤

[@Msrojo1004]

🙏🏻

[@Vstar87]

Im 35 now & in my early 20s I was surrounded by horrible friends i regret that I tolerated their shit for so long .i currently don’t have any friends because i am scared to meet the same group of people again

[@geletmote]

Im 35 too and have a handful or friends not too many but the more I grow the more I cut off.

[@baserarona7943]

We can be friends my dear am also facing the same

[@jenamirgholi6004]

many people feel that way. you are not alone. Go to a good bible study or get involved in sports. Be with people who are not constantly on their phone. start a social group with real people and talk about how you can get into real activities. meetup is something too) where people gather. maybe you might meet someone with good chemistry and maybe that person can be the start of trusting people again. Is their a family member that is your friend?

[@proinseasnihanluain4735]

You know I am older than you and in process of cutting off everyone apart from a couple of people. I made a comment that I was scared when I'm finally away from this situation that I will only meet people who treat me like shit. My friend said that it wasn't possible because I'm not the person I used to be. We have grown, all of us, we shed old skin and old identities and put on armour. You would never tolerate people like that again, you would never consider someone like that a friend again. I don't know if we will meet people worthy of our friendships but I have hope that we do. It's not over. They don't get to destroy our present or our future because of what they did in the past.

[@Vstar87]

@@77peacock77 I agree with you in my 30s now I am at peace being alone but better than being around those that give me anxiety

[@margaritacordova7893]

I didn't know when toxic people no longer were part of my life that it was the best thing to happen. I'm grateful the lessons I learned 🙏

[@aidangroome6958]

Took a long time to recognise the people that were cancerous. Only now I'm trying to find a way through it. I cannot lie, it is difficult to lose such people and be alone for a long time to come.

[@lizalane5745]

How did you do it? Do you tell them or do you ghost them?

[@soulark369]

You can do it man.

[@Nateandmel633]

Just remember your worth when you get lonely... it's a driving force to strength

[@sonnyroy497]

Dark night of the soul ain't no joke. But once you've 'woke up' to the truth you can't go back to sleep. 👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍

[@hushpuppies872]

We hold on to people not to feel lonely but holding on to toxic people can detroy you and make you more lonely. I have has a lot of childhood trauma so i generally find it difficult to fit into friend groups. Somehow i am always left out as i was since childhood. I am so tired of trying to fit and getting used and abused in rhe process.

[@kirbyfairbanks4766]

What I’ve learned is that you shouldn’t expect anything from anyone! Besides yourself at the end of the day your life is yours & you can get in your own way. Once you learn who you truly are & love yourself for who you are. Once you can be alone with yourself & truly love yourself. You can truly love another Until you’ve gone through the process of finding who you are truly I don’t believe you should be in a serious partnership/relationship.

[@benbarton6803]

I’ve had to do this a lot over the last year. My own mother included. She was toxic as hell when I was young. Angry, neglectful, erratic. She’s stabbed me in the back a number of times in adulthood. It’s been difficult understanding why a mother would behave like this to their own child, especially since having my own. I would never act like her to my daughter. It’s been a struggle to comprehend that she is just deeply broken and sick, to remove her from my life without hating her, which doesn’t change anything and is destructive to me. It’s been a lot to deal with.

[@chrismcbee4653]

Best wishes to all those striving for self improvement and a successful life.

[@donnyetta]

All of us are toxic to some. Depends what triggers us. I wish people/friends would talk things through instead of ghosting. I like to know what I have done - Of course, sometimes we haven't done anything.

[@bpassion4fashion581]

My lord ! What a battle I have between what I know it’s right for me and the ppl that are relentless in pulling me down ! 😩 I am starting to mute / block people and pretty much I am being forced by a higher power to behave in ways that feel the opposite of who I have been all my life , but I have to ! Either I step into a different behavior, as strange as it feels , or I’ll be sucked away by all the vampires in my life. I am exhausted !!!!! It does feel like I am drowning with them . One of us needs to survive and my commitment is to myself !

[@MrJamieFRESH]

I’m in the same boat, toxic people around me saying they hope I’m doing well but really no one gives a shit about me

[@lizalane5745]

You go girl

[@ISEEKSPACE]

Wow, yes! I relate to this 💯

[@user-rp7ho2ge3e]

God does ❤

[@proinseasnihanluain4735]

@@MrJamieFRESH We need to love, cherish and adore ourselves like nobody else can. Love yourself like they can't, give so much of a shit about yourself that you get out of that boat as well as bpassion4fashion and lots of us.

[@sonofasailor1539]

To me, friends are meant to be there through thick and thin. You enjoy each other's company, you help each other grow and mature, you celebrate victories and commiserate hard times. You hopefully have something in common and above all you look out for each other. I've had it far too many times now where the people I thought were my friends wanted something from me (had a short stint with a female friend as well who did nothing but try and bang my friends). It's so easy to get to know people but seeing their true colours always is an eye opener. I've followed the rules above now and I'm in a MUCH happier place. I wish you all all of the luck in the world and pray that you find happiness.

[@dazza4345]

Anyone that disrespects me I cut them out of my life.I don't do it to people so I don't expect it back.I starting doing it 5 years ago.

[@carlososcarcomedy]

I cut many many many people in my life OUT. Some were in shock I cut ‘em off, I can’t be around people blood or not that don’t want what’s best for me in fact they are happy about it any stumbles in my life.

[@lizalane5745]

Did you talk to them or did you ghost them? How did you cut them out?

[@MrJamieFRESH]

How did you cut them off

[@DangerousDevilOfficial]

Thank you for the post! It is inspiring to me. Because I had to do the same. And I felt alone in doing this. Like I was a bad person in the beginning. Because I wouldn’t sacrifice my mental health anymore for them to continue their toxic behavior toward me. But I don’t feel that way anymore. I am taking care of me. First and foremost for the rest of my life. Because if I don’t, literally no one else in, or now out of my life would! Even though, before I cut them off, I was always taking care of others ahead of myself. And not a single one of them ever appreciated or cared about the massive (and I mean MASSIVE) sacrifices I made. I sacrificed my physical health and a recording contract. Just to name a few things. And none of the people ever had my back. Including my own daughter. So now I take care of me. Your post reenforces that I made the healthy and correct decision.

[@jacksquadreturns7827]

@@MrJamieFRESH best way is to ghost them. If they ask you why you tell them you're busy and have no time to talk to anyone these days. avoid starting up a conversation (reply days late to their texts at first) Ethical way is to tell them why. But it works only if the person can take criticism, which is something a toxic person can't do. If you meet this person daily you cant cut them off. all you can do is distance yourself from them. That is treating them like some object and not a human. that is >dont start conversations with them >if they talk to you first, answer with lowest energy possible >dont share your opinions, dont offer help no matter how bad their situation is, dont ask anything from them, politely deny if they offer you anything, ignore their compliments (these are to control you they're not genuine) hope this helped.

[@MrJamieFRESH]

@@jacksquadreturns7827 hi jack yes this was very helpful thank you! But what if they see me on social Media being active with my Business? Like even if I block them their partners might be like look what I’m up to and then they question why I’ve blocked them etc

[@ashleygoodrich3294]

You have to learn to be ALONE, it’s sad but FAKE IS THE NEW NORMAL! I’ve recently learned that just because I’m happy for others, that doesn’t mean it will be Reciprocated👏🏼

[@m.k.h.2718]

Thank you Dr. Peterson. I've had to distance myself from my pathological family since I was 16. I finally cut off my toxic parents at the age of 24.

[@michellesmith3205]

👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿I waited way too long too cut off my family but as of now it’s done!!!!!!!

[@hannibalking85]

How were they toxic? Controlling career/school decisions?

[@kristkreep3296]

I cut off my sister and am now trying to cut off my father. I lied to myself a long time thinking family always wants the best for you.

[@hannibalking85]

@@kristkreep3296 u can also forgive them keep a distance unless they r really bad

[@DangerousDevilOfficial]

I know how hard this can be. I had to cut off my own daughter. For how badly she treated me, while I raised her… That was 4 years ago. Haven’t talked or seen her since. And I raised her as a single parent. But it was the best decision I made in a long time at that point. Because she got away with way too much treating me like a used up door mat… I will never put up with that again from anyone. Including my own child. We have to realize we are not here to be used up and abused by people….

[@TargetingPod]

This got me through a hard time. I really appreciate someone who can take their pain and use it to motivate you to defeat it

[@thefoodjunkie6035]

Yes

[@tommychappell6359]

Same here.. in fact sometimes I dream of it, in my dreams. Person who always right (even when they are). Makes me more and more want to be less like that person. When/if I actually become clever/scientific. Make ways to not be beat (like they do/them). Use cutting edge. To do that. So can ''spike guy in the face''. Full of it. Hope make all mistakes and make them into person they really are. With all true colours in exact representation of who they really are. A bastardd. And a greedy/selfish one. And a Cheeky one. Just have to make myself immune. First like them. Have absolute immunity. Mirror what they do but even better.

[@youtubechanel5243lp]

I loved this i was so lost after a forced long term divorce unfocused and I had hidden anxiety. My kids felt it and think I failed them. I never had a mom of a dad that was around. Just lost I met awful people after divorce and now 12 years later found peace and love in myself. I am single and alone always I feel it has to be better than being used and out of breath. It is rare to have people who care and lift me up. I want people to do well look good and be well all around. We were not.created to be alone. Therapy and box breathing help me. Please if your hurting find one good friend or family member to turn to. We can make it through with a little help and love.❤

[@williamramos3350]

The most painful thing is when you are helping a parent and someone else in the family is treating you like a nobody (older sibling). My mind, body and inner being have been demolished. I had to remove myself from that situation. Even if the entire family will see me as a bad person. I still spend time with him. Away from the insanity. But this broke me and I feel betrayed beyond belief. Now I am trying to find a way back out of this hell hole.

[@cynthiahafner796]

So many challenges in my life the last 3 years that it really opened my eyes to many around me, family and friends. Powerful and humbling at the same time. Life choices aren’t easy but necessary. Dr Jordan Peterson helps me with his videos. God bless you, sir.🙏🏼

[@Firefox-yo4tt]

Out of all the people who betrayed me the one that hurt me the most is when my own brother betrayed me he abandoned me and left me alone and I was 14 years old I’m now 59 and I still think about him all the time

[@ChooseLoveToday316]

Is he alive? I'm sorry you experienced that.

[@proinseasnihanluain4735]

I don't know the specifics or how old your brother was when he made that decision. It is possible he has regretted it all this time. I'm sorry this happened to you.

[@user-gp2en2en9l]

EXACTLY 💯 YOU CANT HELP A FAMILY MEMBER OR FAMILY WHO ISNT TRYING TO HELP THEMSELVES… ITS RIDICULOUS

[@florptytoo]

I'm keeping to myself because I've become very spiritual and nobody around me is. My friends are very nice, not toxic. But I don't share their beliefs, nor do I want to party or be frivolous anymore, like they do. I don't have any desire to be preachy. So I'm pulling away.

[@sageverkerk2008]

I needed this more than a lot of things I’ve been looking to

[@user-be6ec3dc4t]

It’s hard to come around good people now days I’ll rather by myself then around people who not worth my time or effort

[@Rowx07677_y]

This year, I learn a lot, especially to start to stand for myself. I also cut a lot of people whose had been bring me down. I have no friends in rl now, but never been feel better than now

[@LoveBirch]

Most beautiful feeling in the world ❤. Cut them off!!! When you see them. Just say hi, how are you. Be positive, but that's it. You don't have to be an ass after you cut them off when you run into them. Just don't get into deep conversation, keep it short and positive.

[@Flyingsquirrel3am]

Its a painful process, but I know once these wounds heal, I'll be better off. My life is full of good, stable people now, but it's time to let go of those who are toxic and forgive myself for such choices of the past.

[@amanr6346]

Sometimes by virtue of shared DNA(family) or just because you’ve known someone for sometime we let them get away with things we wouldn’t let anyone we know for relatively short period of time. Don’t ever let someone destroy your peace of mind and hinder you reaching your goals, be it friends or family. The good ones always understand, and the good ones are always ones that you can have the awkward conversations with. They are gold. Best wishes all❤

[@konablu]

Thank you. More people need this encouragement. Really liking these comments from the viewers. Weights are being lifted.

[@ScorpionKnows]

Friendship are lessons in life. Think about.. Especially in hard times you will learn a lot and sometimes surprised too.

[@sayantanchakrabarty3735]

As I'm listening to this, I'm thinking about the kind of people I've been surrounded with, also about the kind of friend/person I am. Good stuff 👏

[@abigail9791]

Real friends tell you when you're making a bad choice, putting up with abuse in a relationship or having unhealthy habits. Not in a judgemental way but in a loving and firm way. I like that this video explains that so clearly. It's not, friends are friends no matter what. Real love tells them the truth and says hey friend I can't be there with you while you take this path. It's too heavy on me to watch you poison your life. I'll be here when you're ready to make a different choice.

[@Skufzyx]

I’m glad I don’t have friends but if I ever run into making friends I don’t want a huge number of friends it’s no need for me a little amount of true friends is the best you could ever have😊

[@FriendofDorothy]

yes, but if you only have a few friends and they are older than you just be prepared that when they die (as mine did over the past 6 years) you will have to start a new social circle from scratch. Have a nice mixture of ages if you're gonna have friends.

[@tommychappell6359]

@@FriendofDorothy Thinking making new friends as well/too.. so don't have to deal with bs from other friends who never offered support, nothing.and whom never 'win' because their always winning side. Never repent for nothing (never compromise). Doesn't matter if always right. One should always humility themselves at points of their lives. If they don't their just pure selfish git/dick and can't be assed with them any longer/more. One to always have pokey sword out and go touche. Anywhere you move. Being clever means also realizing that other people may be less clever/not as bright and knowing that there is a basic sense of human regard that should be shown to other human beings, right or wronggg.

[@haydendillard4306]

I’ve been blessed with real friendships

[@KD-gd5oq]

Also when you tell someone bad news and you get "You'll be fine, it's not that bad, cheer up, don't let the bastards grind you down…" Positive toxicity. That's also a non-friend behavior.

[@ksshe3694]

When a person OFFERS NOTHING, GIVES NOTHING AND WON'T ADMIT IT, THATS A NEGATIVE TOXIC PEOPLE, DON'T WASTE TIME. THEIR END GOAL IS TO TAKE AND TAKE, TAKE TILL THERE IS NOTHING LEFT. ....... NOTHING FROM A PERSON IS REALLY ZERO. THOSE TYPES REALLY DO NOT CARE ABOUT OTHERS. SCAMMERS, LIARS AND OFFER NOTHING.

[@themetalhead1463]

It’s hard to cut people out that you have to work with and I’ve never worked anywhere without having a toxic person on the team.

[@sensimania]

There's always at least one person that messes up the whole team. Even when you join a team that's pperfect, but management decides to add a new person.... a toxic person 😖 That's why working from home is bliss.

[@RS54321]

Yes, there seems to always be that one toxic person (narcissism is a common trait I've worked with). You have the option to engage only as much as necessary and set your boundaries.

[@proinseasnihanluain4735]

Consider them a blessing cos they're the only one and you don't live with them, you don't have to socialise with them, you don't have to take them out and you can leave work at work :)

[@tejaunknight9719]

I had 3 "friends" that have beef with each other and separate times, they took advantage of me, snitched on me, manipulate me. I dropped them out of my life.

[@RagingRazor28]

I recently lost my 2 friends of 7 years (or atleast I thought they were). It was very painful and I felt like I was completely abandoned and left alone. But I later realized that they were lying to me and were actually jealous of me. I never knew it before but now that I am away from them I see the truth. Sometimes it is better to cut off your legs if it means that it will safe your life. Value yourself. Don't let yourself suffer. Don't let your so called friends bring you down with them. Stay strong.

[@BL-rb7jm]

When I finally decided that other people's opinions didn't matter, I told them so. And I lost a lot of so-called friends. If you know yourself better if you know you are honest, Then why do you get upset over other people's opinions. And you don't need to be constantly defending yourself trying to improve to make them happy or trying to prove that you are right and that they are wrong. You could be doing that the rest of your life and they still wouldn't believe you. Who are they that you feel obligated to give them a reason for what you are doing in life. You do not need To ask for permission to live the life that you want to live. And stop saying to yourself what if they think bad of me what if they get mad at me what if this what if that it doesn't matter anymore.