Dad Seeks Sole Custody After CPS Placed Child with Him Due to Mom's Issues

[@danettemain3705]

6 months is a very short time to be clean, doesn't work, lives with parents, doesn't have custody of all her children, talks too much, has a criminal history, doesn't own a car, doesnt feel she needs drug tested before visits, didnt go to treatment for drug abuse & isnt attending NA. Sounds like dad is the best permanent placement for the child.

[@insomniart7749]

Agreed, at 6months you’re still learning how to function in the ‘normal’ world.

[@Notthatchannel]

6 months with some test from the drug store...nah. doesnt work for me.

[@lulu5803]

She really needs to show she can maintain her sobriety with the stress of a FT job and maintaining a home and bills. Speaking from experience, that's a lot for a single parent who doesn't have drug issues or a criminal past.

[@wandaalvarez117]

​@@lulu5803I'm surprised the judge did not require that she must get a job

[@futurelost98]

Her child was taken 2 years ago and just 6 months clean???

[@marcusanderson-yeager6740]

Dad is amazing with just plain simple truth and honest work, love that his best friend has kids his son's age!

[@drscottcohen]

The judge didn't ask why CPS took the baby away. If that were dad there would have been monthly hair follicle tests etc etc

[@GoodnightJLH]

I suspect the judge knows exactly why CPS took the child away from the mother. These judges are able to review many documents that they don’t read aloud or screenshare on KZbin.

[@DocBree13]

Lost custody of all of her children, can’t keep a job, won’t go to rehab or NA, but thinks she’s doing just fine. I call BS on her being clean.

[@jessicaarmstrong5035]

Me too. She tried to argue that saying that she didn't think she needed to because her ex allowed her to take her child for a week without a drug test. There could've been any number of reasons for that. When the court tells you to take a drug test, you take a drug test. 6 months out of many years as an addict isn't as much as you'd think. Because the minute she gets stressed she could relapse. As a parent, she should want to cooperate to prove to the courts that she can do this and be a good parent. She should do it for the sake of her child. I'm surprised they didn't order therapy though. Going cold turkey is next to impossible. And it's clear the only reason she's clean is because of her parents making her. If she messes up it means she loses her kids forever. If the kids were given to her without supervision, she could end up relapsing.

[@sammythompson3694]

Of all the drugs I took in my lifetime cigarettes were the hardest drug to quit.

[@MyPat911]

She asked 100 questions about the drug test. That seemed off.

[@SherlockRhodes]

@@sammythompson3694my mom says the same thing. A coma didn’t even stop it.

[@sammythompson3694]

@@SherlockRhodes I did coke, weed, angel dust, crank, purple meskies, blotter acid etc and alcohol. Got stopped for DUI, but I was carrying the drug store could have gotten 35 years took pre trial intervention went to numerous rehabs finally the Atlantic Co NJ said leave the state and don't come back so I moved to NC near my parents in 89. I was 5'10" with a 28" waist. By the time I met someone who was selling I was clean and serene my only vice is weed which I occasionally buy since I retired. Life is too short to smoke that shit, but a bag during a hurricane works wonders. Anyone wants to quit move 6 states away from your friends.

[@mikspapa]

Love that grin when she heard she won't be paying any child support. A GUY would be paying with his testicles because they aren't allowed excuses in family court.

[@Claudia-lq3ns]

Such BS.

[@carolynrandle5454]

@@mikspapa just because she is a mom doesn't mean she is capable to take care of her children.i don't understand why they let the women get away with all that crap .if it was a man he would already be in jail.

[@Mr.FrogHenry]

6 month sober is not a long time. Her history with her children is terrible. She’s not working a program and combative. Unsupervised visits are not a good idea.

[@patriciarodney6616]

She's white knuckling at best... doomed to repeat without support

[@elizabethperry2622]

At home all day responsible for no one and nothing with her parents watching constantly and mandating urine tests and holding getting out over her head is about as “white knuckle dry drunk” as I can imagine.

[@MandyMorae]

That’s bullshit. A dad would be required to pay child support even if in recovery from drugs! 27:53

[@darleneww3670]

Fathers are wallets to friends of the court. This specific judge is heinous toward fathers., but this mother's behavior and history are too much for her to overcome with her bias. The only FU the judge could give to Dad, she did in this case is by not ordering child support at 40 hr @minimum wage in the state for Mother to pay child support. Hopefully, Dad will return in 6 months and force Friends of the Court to open and pursue a child support case against her.

[@GoodnightJLH]

The judge ordered the mother pay the father $233 per month and that she pay court costs. That was exactly what the father requested. This judge was hearing the father’s motion and it’s typical that the judge not award more than is requested in a motion.

[@for_reals_tho]

Dad wasn’t requesting child support. Clearly he is compassionate to her situation and can afford his son. Maybe he feels it’s in his son’s best interest not to go after his mom for money she doesn’t have. Very kind and thoughtful coparent to say the least.

[@darleneww3670]

@ Compassionate lol. Women manipulate to have their way. She doesn't want to support her children.

[@jalcobo]

Rules are different for mothers/women.

[@amyblasingim2136]

I love the looks of “unbelievable” and the head shaking during his testimony and now that it’s her turn we get the water works.

[@boredomania9245]

You could play a drinking game with her. Take a shot whenever she mentions she's been sober for 6 months

[@insomniart7749]

Don’t forget “that’s half a year” lol

[@madelinethomas-km8hg]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@ChicaPaquito]

I’m a recovering addict- clean for almost 2 years, and I can tell that Kelsey is still using. It, unfortunately, is pretty easy to dupe those drug tests.

[@insomniart7749]

18yrs here, even if she has managed to get to 6months, that early on she is just one life event (good or bad) away from using again. The first year is like standing on the edge of a cliff face, it only takes a stiff breeze or transferring your weight in the wrong direction, and over you go. At 6 months, I don’t think I was even at the point of calling myself clean, I would say I was working my recovery, but there were roads I couldn’t drive down, seeing certain people even from a distance, hell even some specific music, that would trigger an itch that would take everything I had in my power to fight.

[@insomniart7749]

Plus we all know the statistics about how many relapses are common before success with recovery.

[@barbaraguthrie5107]

I thought she was nodding a lot... don't think she's sober

[@toddquinn2]

I’m ten years sober and she most definitely is not clean. That’s why she got so upset about it being required now before visitation.

[@marciamartin5559]

If that was a man, he would owe back support and pay child support and insurance wouldn’t matter if they had a job or not

[@Kenwyfe29]

@@marciamartin5559 and would have had to pay court costs within 1-6 months definitely not 12 months

[@wristdisabledwriter2893]

Exactly what I was thinking

[@DeviceAnathema]

That’s not true but figuring that out would require you actually learning something.

[@coreywhalen1615]

​@@DeviceAnathemano evidence but ya got insults. GTFO

[@Kenwyfe29]

As a child of an addict this lady is still using 9/10, I hope that she can get clean and sober for the sake of her children.

[@MDBredBeauty]

I always see comments like yours and it makes me sad to know that even in adulthood those things are still recognizable. It's completely unfair and you didn't deserve that

[@Kenwyfe29]

@ thank you so much.

[@Skippo18]

I thought that too. I'm a recovering alcoholic of 2 years sobriety. This lady is not clean, 90% chance. 99.9% of addicts cannot just willpower their way through sobriety, without at least some type of program or sponsor

[@Kenwyfe29]

@@Skippo18 congratulations to you and continue your journey to sobriety.

[@Rustyspoonssssss]

Exactly what I was thinking!! They are the sneakiest of sneaky people

[@kimmaried.7313]

Dad needs to keep the child. If your own parents drug test you on the daily then they don’t trust you so why should the court trust you. Six months clean is nothing. It’s good for her but relapse in the first year is high so she shouldn’t be doing anything in that first year. Rehab is necessary as is support groups. She is doing nothing.

[@barbaraguthrie5107]

She was nodding off. She's not sober!

[@boredomania9245]

There's no way she's clean, she sounds like she's still high

[@MarySmith-bc7mf]

Wtg dad for protecting your child.

[@krystenburkhardt-hansyn]

She threw the father right under the bus. How unfortunate

[@beverleykowalewski3026]

Six months? Girl you need more than this to be a mom... a lifetime clean, a job, a home and stability maybe?

[@lataundriahunt9325]

Exactly. I have been clean and sober for 27 yrs which is how old my oldest child is. I don’t think parents get kudos for things that should do as parents.

[@jenniferwilson-garcia5247]

Waylon NEEDS to be with his father 100% of the time! This mother is not ready to even remotely be a mother!! No job, lives with parents, ....she cant even take care of herself yet alone a child!!!

[@tonimikol3735]

Seems like her parents are enabling her Addiction.

[@SnapsTCG]

the more some one talks, the less you should believe them

[@fishercourt]

These stay at home moms don’t know what to do when they get divorced, she is able to work but she is not working and she says she’s trying to get a job, but I don’t believe she’s trying to work. She was thinking that she could just buy a drug test at a store and think that was valid. She really doesn’t understand that she has to go to a drug testing facility that does them.

[@insomniart7749]

She’s not a stay at home mom, she doesn’t have custody of any of her kids and lives with her parents.

[@pamswafford9994]

She should pay child support

[@smithdawn1]

She’s unemployed and her ability to earn is not good w her background. There’s little basis to order CS currently

[@Slasher2005]

​​@@smithdawn1that's bs. It does not matter if she's unemployed or not. That's why you always see fathers getting jail time cause they didn't have a job to pay it. So that's not an excuse.

[@N.Sardone]

I’m 11 years clean today. I hope mom keeps on the right path. It’s hard. Hopefully, as time goes, she will be a little less defensive when asked about a tough subject.

[@Mr.FrogHenry]

Mom is more worried about it being fair vs what best for her kids.

[@lauraford45]

I'm confused where she's showing she's on the right path? She's shown ZERO insight, she's not done anything to show she's trying no work no services support. She thinks 6 months is enough to say she's doing better then everyone else

[@Mr.FrogHenry]

@@lauraford45 I don’t believe she’s actually sober.

[@froggynzack]

Awww congrats, I can't wait until i have that long of sobriety. I just celebrated 2 years on November 8th and you're right about it not being easy.

[@Claudia-lq3ns]

Praying for you 🙏

[@marileyva1689]

I don't believe she is clean or she wouldn't ask why she has to submit her answer should have been yes judge I don't have a problem or I can do that TODAY and I hope it's hair folical people cheat now there are ways.

[@pumacatlion7163]

I’m 15 years clean and I was awarded sole and legal custody of all three of my children after being clean for 1 year. I’ve been working and supporting children for the past 15 years. I have a great support system.

[@Olyanna537]

I know this wasn’t the visitation mom wanted but it gives her a chance to build her relationship with the child and prove her ability to stay sober and be a great parent in a way that is also healthy for the child. Hopefully they can keep this up and she can increase her time as appropriate.

[@shaunhall3155]

That poor kid needs dad..mom is a hot mess

[@chechechacha5079]

The whining and lack of self-control in court tells me we might need to reset the clock on that 6 months sober.

[@benjaminbjorn7240]

6 months sober doesn’t mean shit to the rest of the world

[@armurph1102]

HOW could she possibly not know that she didn't have custody of 2 out of 3 her living children? I call BULL 💩 on that considering the fact that she had, until close to a month before this hearing, only getting to have SUPERVISED visitations with the child in question.

[@cshop1862]

I wish her only the best but 6 months sobriety is still tenuous and her child sounds like he’s still recovering from previous instability. I understand why dad has decided to do this.

[@jessg4678]

I have never met a drug addict that didn't want someone to quit "living in the past" lmao

[@jalcobo]

It does such for people who have been clean for a long time, because people will absolutely use the fact you were once an active junker against you and it sucks.

[@jessg4678]

@jalcobo This is true. I was specifically referring to current drug addicts who always say this to avoid accountability for their actions against someone. If they get clean I think it depends on how long, and whether they have now taken accountability for those past actions. You have to right your wrongs with someone before you can expect a new beginning with them. Otherwise the past remains in the present until you do. If they've made appropriate amends I do agree that it is not fair to hold the past against them. Additionally, their strength in staying clean should be admired.

[@gayledrewry3727]

Why is everyone in the state of trying to find a job? I worked for 60 yrs,what’s the deal?

[@suedorfman7138]

No, no, no. She doesn’t sound stable.

[@Slasher2005]

This woman is 100% still using. She should have supervised visits only and she should be paying child support.

[@mrsbowweezy]

She definitely not clean !. I believe she may be under the influence now.

[@mvpfocus]

Like Denzel said in Flight: "I'm actually drunk right now."

[@Hope8x28]

Mom doesn't look sober and drug tests are easily beaten. Should be a hair test not urine.

[@soutinefan]

Repeating, "I'm 6 months sober." is just so cringy. Six month is NO TIME. It's a bare beginning toward making fundamental changes that lead to responsibility, accountability, gratitude, patience, and humility -- qualities that define sober maturity. Good luck to her in sticking to it long enough to allow her to be a grown-up mother.

[@joettebaumann-cr2xl]

Mothers should be held to the same standards as a father does. No excuses. Come on.

[@xxgoiksxx]

This is bs She's still using

[@valeriemartinez3989]

This "mom" has an extensive arrest record for drug related criminal activities. If you look she's posted on Tik Tok that she's clean, sober & post all her previous mugshots. I don't blame the father for wanting sole custody. Why is she not working currently? Where is the proof of her moving forward in life like stable employment, attending NA, etc. They should drug test her. There needs to be actions shown for her changing her life for the positive. Her attitude totally sucks during this hearing. Actions speak louder than words. I've been through addiction myself. Been clean & sober for 10 years now. It was a lot of hard work to get where I'm at today. I had to show I changed to gain trust back with loved ones. I wish this little boy gets his mom back in his life with stability.

[@SpiceItUp_5150]

I definitely don’t think she should have been disputing the drug test just because the baby visited her previously. Now she is in front of a judge with stipulations everything before that doesn’t matter. The order of the court is now.

[@ConnieKelsey]

6 months sober? Prove it?

[@GigglsToo]

She's just ... Unstable. Six months with no counseling is nothing.

[@armurph1102]

Why is it even be allowed that this "mother" not be forced to pay child support? Let a man ask to not have to pay child support and see how far he gets with it.

[@BabuskaDoll]

I’ve seen cases where the dads don’t pay anything bc they refuse to get a job and find work under the table. Negligent lazy parents that don’t provide their kids are everywhere

[@MrRoxymoxy]

Some states you have to make a separate case for it. California is one. Unless it’s an emergency case they might grant.

[@ChambersBunch]

Mom should NOT have corrected the state att. Fathers day is in JUNE.. Seeing your child in Aug sounds way better than longer away..so she was only 1 months clean when she saw her child in June

[@DocBree13]

Well, isn’t she just a peach :/

[@darleneww3670]

This judge sucks so bad she wanted to postpone the hearing because of dogs barking outside Dad’s house. Translation. She's bent out of shape that Mom is grossly unfit and will have no choice but to allow Dad custody of the child.

[@susannaross4234]

I'm six months sober and trying my best. Yeah, NOT nearly good enough! This is not about her or what she wants.

[@ann-marimaukonen6805]

So parents of mother demands drugtests for her to live there. Can those drugtests be "valid" from the childs saftey? How can we be sure that mother has really been clean and sober for those 6 months that she claims? She hasn't been in any program to help her to stay sober and clean. I'm sure that mother had a few warnings before she got fired from her last job due to a flat tire. Mother doesn't seem to understand that it's NOT about her it's whats in the best intrest of their child! Mother should pay child support and back child support! Fathers that are unemployed are obligated to pay so mothers should too! Why not ask for those hair follicle drug test? Those test shows a lot!

[@michaelmatteson2811]

I dont believe for a second that she is sober. Courts are way too lenient with mothers and this case screams bias.

[@Motherofone2023]

That lawyer should have him get child support from her

[@TheGingerGem]

Why do these women always start the warer works as soon as the spotlight turns to them.. see how it didnt last as she spoke. That says to me that those tears were all for show.

[@langr752]

16:47 6 months is nothing when it comes to sobriety especially when you’re not doing anything to better yourself… white knuckling it is a recipe for disaster

[@carlsanders7824]

This girl is delusional Her parents test her ?

[@Claudia-lq3ns]

Ikr? What a complete joke.

[@crazy8PL]

Why is she asking when they are getting married? How does that pertain to being a good parent?

[@WandaDodson-n7f]

Congratulations young lady on your sobriety

[@insomniart7749]

‘Problems with drugs in the past” when only claiming 6months clean is insane.

[@insomniart7749]

Lmao, she doesn’t go to NA, no programme, no rehab even as an outpatient, “6 months is a long time for an addict” lol, and according to her, she’s “doing better than most” Ma’am, I am 18yrs clean, and I still go to NA on and off when there’s extra stress in my life, because it’s hard AF to stay clean. Her “the longest I was in jail was 2 months” like that’s medal worthy. 6 months is nothing in the lifespan of addiction.

[@SWebb-xm7qf]

I got the good drugs from the NA. I took myself away from the areas I used, went back to my grandma's, and pretty much slept the 1st couple weeks then slowly got better. 20 yrs is a long time but no matter how long you are clean off of drugs you are still one step away from falling into old habits. The longer you are clean the harder it can get cause some think I can take that one hit or one drink or one line cause I been clean for 10+ yrs 20+ yrs. Nope it's a fight with every breath. And hell yes 6omonths is better than 0 or 2onth or 3 months. s​@@insomniart7749

[@Lass_-hm7ly]

I was responsible with my son while I was doing drugs. My parents drug test me..🤦 I have custody of all my kids but I have my youngest and signed power of attorney of them over to my parents. In jail for 2 months but not a long period of time! Doing everything on her own and can't understand why she is losing custody. Can't keep a job, no counseling, in jail this year and CPS took my kids but I should have custody!

[@MarySmith-bc7mf]

Living with her parents, something wrong with them to allow her to live with them. She is a mess.

[@Claudia-lq3ns]

I bet $$ that they probably coddle the $hit out of her.

[@countryboundgirl7424]

Sobriety isn’t easy , but she’s fighting for it and to see her son . I hope she comes out stronger and has a better life .

[@Claudia-lq3ns]

Sorry, but IMO, she's not fighting hard enough. She needs a program to hold herself accountable. Mom & Dad's OTC drug screening doesn't cut it. Also, she would be wise to own up to her mistakes instead of "let's not live in the past," and yet she projects on to the father of their child. She has got a long way to go re: sobriety.

[@VantaBlackhole]

6 months sober? Don’t believe her.

[@loiskampp5105]

Great. A drug abuser who apparently won't use birth control. Nothing but trouble.

[@karensayer3089]

Drugs ,alcohol, are not compatible with pregnancies.

[@susannaross4234]

Why is the judge allowing her outbursts??? I don't think a man would get away with that.

[@Lucinda_Jackson]

Just starting to watch, but why wasn't he told to remove his hat??? Totally disrespectful to the court.

[@mandymorgan6796]

I wonder if she has anyone that truly cares about HER well-being 😢😢😢

[@joycenelson9057]

The child really needs to be living in that mess with her! What kind of endorsement is that Mom? Most people?! She’s crazy and drug addicted! Drug test where? Not a store purchased test.!

[@sarahgilbert2124]

The Mom looks High as Hell

[@peggychamberlain9515]

4 children and doesn't have any of them!!!! Why aren't these people fixed?????????????????? Where are ALL the crazy human rights frauds??????????

[@Plumundun3]

Why does that judge let mom butt in and talk whenever she wants?

[@Claudia-lq3ns]

I wonder the same thing. The only thing I can think of is that she's observing her behavior to help her evaluation.

[@meganmcdonald3133]

She’s a complete disaster 😑 definitely not sober thank god the dad has it together bc this dingbat doesn’t

[@Mrbetvr]

Mom is not clean. Her parents aren't his parents.

[@jakstorm3180]

Mother of my child is in sober living right now when she is released cps will be following up with her sobriety. She womt be able to do it

[@MarySmith-bc7mf]

The child should not be around her. She is so full of it.

[@1stupidfish]

She literally went from straight face to crying in one sentence. Maybe i'm cynical , but I just don't believe those tears were real.

[@tinabrock758]

That kid needs to stay with dad. 6 months is NOT long enough.

[@dgatsf]

It is really scary when the judge doesn’t know what the case is about from the get.

[@yoopergalsmith6246]

She got off pretty easy compared to if the shoe was on the other foot! Dad be paying support (full) and back support and insurance and fines … what’s good for one is good for both… 6 months great … see where you are in 2-3 years then brag!

[@steve6631]

Guy needs to get a DNA test.

[@lauraford45]

6 months clean doesn't entitle you to use the statement "the past is the past'

[@cavakilla]

BEST COMMENT EVER! I

[@Claudia-lq3ns]

💯 She is so delusional...

[@theraneo7798]

After watching videos like this, I'm so glad I don't have kids.

[@langr752]

10:04 the more you come off the rails like that the worst it looks for you

[@Fairysarecu0e67]

I’m very surprised this judge didn’t award mom full custody. She’s very biased and it shows. I have a hard time watching this judge.

[@karensayer3089]

What! You for real. She's a druggie.

[@tammyrobinson8025]

She is hiding drug use from her parents too! And 6 months clean is a great start, but not long enough either

[@JordanEmede_376]

6 months sober isnt even enough time to get balanced out without whatever substance you were on. It took me over a year to have energy and feel excitement for literally anything. 6 months is great for her but it aint shtt in the grand scheme 😂

[@Claudia-lq3ns]

But 6 months is a whole half a year 😂😂😂

[@lindz916]

Totally on father’s side, however, he needs to take his hat off because he is in COURT.

[@lizlee8686]

Why isnt the mother made to pay child support, this is BS. If the shoe was on the other foot he would be in JAIL for not paying.

[@smithdawn1]

Shoot, she has to pay $230 a month towards ins. That’s as much or more than I see dads ordered to pay

[@lizlee8686]

@smithdawn1 Dad should of made her pay child support, that's nothing compared to what FATHERS THAT WANT TO BE IN THEIR CHILDS LIVES HAVE TO PAY.

[@smithdawn1]

@@lizlee8686 Get real. Fathers with no jobs and no history of working get ordered to pay little to nothing.

[@Lauren-lawless]

It doesn’t matter what the circumstances are, I really dislike this judge for some reason. Is it just me?

[@carolynrandle5454]

She is bias too .she doesn't even listen half the time about the case.these children could be in serious danger.

[@mvpfocus]

@@carolynrandle5454 _biased_

[@jennifermcnamara1417]

I know everyone is different but 6 months is very short. Ive been cleyea15 years and the first year ans a half were the hardest for myself. I relapsed quite a few times.

[@Claudia-lq3ns]

6 months may seem like a long time, but I agree. It is not long at all.

[@wandaalvarez117]

So what was the final on this case

[@jfbartz90]

I love when dads get custody its always no child support.

[@leahschwer4178]

I sincerely hope it's not "I don't use drugs-only marijuana."

[@elizabethperry2622]

Pretty sure “Ok, so I’m LA sober” doesn’t hold up in a court of law.

[@CandaceLee-bs2wk]

I 🙏pray that mom keeps up the 👍good work and doesn’t fall back into the trap of drugs!!! She definitely needs a better support system AA NA(mom please surround yourself with sober people in recovery working a program)!!! I totally understand the father‘s point of view, and my ❤heart goes out to him and the 👦child!!!!🙏🕊️💕☺️

[@krystenburkhardt-hansyn]

Should be drug tested every single time she sees that kid before? And she should be drug tested at least 3 to 4 times a month for another six months. Being tested every quarter she could be using drugs for weeks and then four weeks before she takes the drug test so that’s absolutely ridiculous. That ruling makes zero sense. If you’re worried about the drugs, tested for the drugs, much sooner than every three months. That

[@smithdawn1]

If a hair follicle test is ordered it will show if drugs were used during the previous 3 months.

[@Mr.Rogers91]

How long is she sober? Lol

[@MarySmith-dh4ly]

My question would be...what do you do all day since you don't work?

[@kimbone7366]

IMO Mom's not a liar, but man she's minimizes like an addict. She's never been in jail for a long time, only 2 months. Wtf 2 hours would break me.

[@IME987]

This judge…argh

[@frydipp]

he is gonna regret not getting child support that’s ridiculous he isn’t fighting for that either he or his lawyer are idiots

[@froggynzack]

Rather it's family or the law asking for a DT, If you're really clean then taking a drug test shouldn't be a problem. As a recovering addict myself i know that i broke the trust of those around me and that i had to earn that back. Anytime i was asked i took the test with no problem cause when you act a fool about it it makes people question you. Get your life together lady.