How to Stop Toddler Tantrums - 6 Secrets to Calm Your Child’s Temper | Dad University

[@melanieblankenship4691]

"Instead look at it as if you have not yet taught them how to deal with the situation." - I love this piece of advice

[@Scornfyr]

5:20 - "You're trying to teach your toddler to be calm, and in order to do that, you have to be calm yourself." Very true!!

[@gerac]

Great advice! Thank you! Now tell me how to calm down my wife when my son is having a meltdown haha

[@DadUniversity]

Definitely DO NOT say "calm down"! :)

[@Shellieruba]

@@DadUniversityamén 😂

[@clarelonghurst1711]

Loool

[@CJ-xr5hq]

I legit ignore most of my kids tantrums and when i don't give them attention for it, it stops. Eventually they just learn that throwing a tantrum doesn't get mom's attention, and doesnt work to get what they want. At the same time i remove them from what is upsettign them into a quiet space and at the end of the tantrum when theyve calmed down i praise them for calming down and rock & talk to them about why they were upset.

[@Lookie752]

How about talking to your child? And explaining it? They’re children not disabled.

[@dani09eveline]

I swear these toddlers be teaching us how to be strong 😅

[@keshahenry8449]

Tell me about my granddaughter is the truth

[@kgk8995]

Amen to that 😄

[@OGStazzy]

They really do. I’m 24 with two daughters and after spending a plentiful of time with my daughter and then hanging with my friends who are my age with no children, I realize I have learned many subtle things that have enlightened me. Still I enjoy a good time but the rope is short and healthy.

[@luceshainavjeanbaptiste99]

😭😭so true

[@paolaventuro6868]

@@keshahenry8449😊😊para 😊😊

[@malvikarana4132]

My two year old is throwing tantrums for screen time these days. Thanks for the video.

[@rue2003]

This one is very dangerous! Don’t give them the iPad trust me, my 2 year old ended up sleeping at 3am and having tantrums till I just took all the electronics away, now it’s better. She sleeps on time and is happier

[@adib.72]

We just don't let our kids watch much TV and we have never introduced our babies/toddlers to video games so we dont get those tantrums. Try just not having the TV on or letting them play you'll be amazed that they'll naturally entertain themselves and likely, they really just want time with their parent

[@JosephC9]

My 23 month old is a freight train that can't be stopped! Noise-cancelling earbuds have helped me with dealing with my own emotions.

[@megandidavi9183]

Great ideas! My favorite is #6 empathy. I also agree that we shouldn’t go back on our word. No means no. But I’m not sure about ignoring the tantrum. Like you said, we can empathize with their disappointment so they feel heard and understood while learning that their parents/caregivers are strong and supportive.

[@MichaelPhongMitchell]

My older son knows when I am serious about something. When I tell him no in a serious voice or I tell him to stop, he stops immediately. But, with my wife, he keeps nagging, whining, or crying because she gives in to him sometimes, especially when he throws a temper tantrum. But, when she counts to three, she does what she said she would do. He knows he will not get away with murder with me. I guess I got that firmness from my adoptive mother who was strict and firm, yet fair. When he throws a temper tantrum or cries and I am around, I tell him he will not get what he was crying for. I am teaching him that crying and screaming will not get him anything or a reward. He knows that I mean what I say. When I tell him to be quiet, he does not stay quiet until I count to two. Then, he stops. I am getting tired of that!!

[@paulinka_marie]

Thank you for your channel currently with someone who has a child and I love seeing information we can' both watch and come together to best handle situations and that I can help and assist him.

[@BourbonandaBaby]

Thanks for the tips Jason! Max is just over two-years-old and the tantrums are ramping up, I'll be putting this advice to good use!

[@DadUniversity]

Hope you are doing good. Have you been through the webinar?

[@peggynance9438]

Kids will always try to see what works to get their way. Like I used to babysit and my kids were 7 and 4 when I started babysitting. They had tests one day and I asked if they did good so they each told me they got good grades. So I said as a reward let's stop and get a ice cream sandwich. They both right off started I want a banana split and the oldest said I want a large one. But I had said a ice cream sandwich. See they were demanding what they wanted. So I drove on past it and they said Peggy you just st passed it. We going to get some it banana splits remember? I said I was willing to get you a ice cream sandwich. But you never listened so now we get nothing. They got taught a very good lesson to hear what I had told them. But when the grandparents came they said we didn't get our banana split we wanted. So their goes the lesson because they got their banana split and then told me the next day all about it. If it had been me I would of told them next time listen to what Peggy tells you so you not miss out. I never believed in yelling at kids I'd say now and they stopped. Then I'd go and give them a hug for listening to me. But if they didn't then they lose something. Years ago I took care of a 3 year old and his sister was in kindergarten and brother 9. I seen him the youngest get all his toys out of his toy chest in the front room. And after I asked him to pick them up. He said it's not his job. So I said ok I'll pick them up. After lunch and his nap both. He went to get into his toys I said no. So he started a fit why. I said because you would not pick up your toys. He never pulled that again. I do not believe in yelling or hitting much if ever. But do what helps them realize they did not do as told, so he lost it. He later said when my mommy gets home you'll see I'll get my way so I told the mom and she said no toys tonight either you need to do as told. That broke him of ever pulling that again. We must have compassion but yet enforce rules if they break them they lose something.

[@MichaelPhongMitchell]

I will try that with my older son!! Thank you for the advice!! :)

[@taylorbabbidge]

This is so helpful, I am not a mom yet, but I am preparing !!! Thank you ❤❤❤

[@quocle652]

Thank you so much. I’ll try some of this techniques.

[@sugarbear9347]

Thank you so much for this video. There are several people, myself included, in my sons life that could use this advice

[@tink41503]

Love these. I know its true because my family already uses these!! Redirection instead of giving in and saying thank you a lot seriously goes a long way

[@Petar1stProduction]

Love the advice. Thanks so much for this information

[@JosephC9]

I always thought I had empathy. Turns out, I have empathy for adults. It's a whole new dichotomy to do it from a toddler's perspective.

[@michellelaboricintron961]

Oh man I am reading this and so feeling like I am not alone. I have a bit of a Chucky on my hands. Mine is 3 and a half and my oh my.... I have never been so stressed out in my life 😫 he is an only child so we put him in a part time school to start getting used to being around other kids, playing and sharing with them. But this little boy now hits, and kicks and even broke a chair at school. I've seen lots of videos, massages techniques, relax and meditating music even putting him in a corner. And NOTHING seems to work 😭 he has a great big attitude. Lord help me Jesus 🤕 Helppppp!!!!!!

[@pamelapauline70]

Hi. We've got a 2 1/2 year old great grandson, who lives with us and our granddaughter, his mom. I got tired of it all, so time out in his bedroom has worked wonderfully and it's what his pediatrician suggested. A few minutes of banging on the door, crying to get out, and our response is when you calm down, we'll let you out. He starts to calm down, so these "professionals " who say they don't understand that is hogwash. We do stand at the door and have only had to do it about 4 times. Now it's, "stop hitting or you'll go into time out in your room" and that's enough to stop him in his tracks and realize he isn't going to get his way. Stay calm and in a positive tone when talking to your son. Don't lose it yourself. Our great grandson is the only child in the home as well and he's yet to start pre- school. In Idaho, that is at age 3, for true pre- school, not baby sitting. But the time out method is proving to work. We do talk to him at the beginning and give him the chance to do something different. If he chooses to hit or try to scratch us, we calmly tell him, he'll go into time out of he doesn't stop. But you have to be consistent and follow through with what you said you would do or it won't work. Consistency is the key. He's being taught the right things, but he started choosing to act out and we think it's from watching his folks argue. My daughter will not stay with the dad, doesn't trust him. But he loves his dad and it's up to him to form his own judgements, not for us. He's not a terrible person, but doesn't support his son. Our granddaughter and we do. He has made some bad decisions in life with A DUI, he talks to my granddaughter like trash, so he only visits regularly. But the child has seen them fight and argue, so we think that's where his rage is coming from. Anyway, this is working for us. Just tonight, he wanted me over his dad, then in frustration, even when I did go to him and pick him up, in his frustration, he tried to scratch my face, and I told him if he tried to scratch grandma again, he'd go to time out. At that point he just hugged me and said "grandma's room" and indicated he wanted to go upstairs. So we calmly did. It's working. But be consistent. God bless.

[@user-qv9lh9ph3h]

Omg! I so feel you, I’m taking care of my 2-31/2 yr old identical twin girls & they are like night an day. I am having such sn issue getting one to quit throwing things! I put her in her room every time and throw away the thing she has thrown and then talk to her after her time out, but it just doesn’t work… she threw a cup and broke the tv… Help!!!! It has to stop. I keep thinking and hoping it’s just a phase, she does it also when she’s not upset.

[@pamelapauline70]

@@user-qv9lh9ph3h it is just a phase, but also am indication of her personality. She is going to need alot of guidance in her years to come to vent properly to get the response she'll want. She's showing she has a very strong personality. Being this is our great grandson, this is our 3rd time around with kids. We have a son that was a problem early on. Since we had 3 kids in 3 years, his siblings were very close in age. He needed more attention than the other 2 did. He demanded it. So we, being old school, used to spank. That would work until he got bigger than me. Then it was following through on what was taken away, not thrown away, because that affected the other 2 as well, especially our daughter, the youngest. But consistency won in the long run. He has turned out to be a very positive adult, a perfectionist as well. The other 2 are not perfectionists, thank goodness, because we are not perfect, just tried to do the best we could. You might ask to see if there is any therapy your pediatrician can refer you to. They do have therapies for kids who act out, as they try to assess why and come up with ideas on how to deal with your child. I know for our great grandson, the weighted little vests you can buy on Amazon, or other retailers for whatever reason, it seems to work. She could be upset about something you don't understand yet if she's not able to verbalize it. But the pediatrician and the cognitive therapist both suggested letting him have his tantrums to get his feelings out. So we do, but in his bedroom. I don't know how old your daughter is, but they have noticed worldwide an increase in frustration with kids born during Covid. Speech has been affected with the whole stay at home garbage. We won't be doing that again. There are lots of things to ask yourself. Did this start happening after any vaccines were given? Brandy Vaughn, used to work for Merk pharmaceuticals. She became a whistleblower about how vaccines do not go through stringent testing. She also reported that they don't tell the public about side affects of vaccines and are not forthcoming with their real findings. She ended up dying suddenly last year on December 7th. The Europeans are far healthier than we are, don't vaccinate as much, but rather rely on good food and exercise. Unfortunately, Brandy was stopped with her sudden death in getting out the truth. Also ask yourself if something consistently precedes her tantrums. Keep a journal to see if something that is ok with your other child, could be upsetting the one. God bless you and I'll put you in prayer. We are finding our way through this as well. We've decided no more vaccines as well. We live in Idaho, so it's a choice here to vaccinate or not. Our daughter also has a 2 year old little girl, 27 days older than our great grandson. She throws fits but they are getting less and less as she's learned to talk. My other grandson had a bad reaction to his kindergarten vaccines, so they have not vaccinated him anymore and she's won't vaccinate her daughter. Needless to say, they are moving back to Idaho shortly so they have the right not to vaccinate. She's had a tough time in Ca already about it and that grandson is 13 now and is being homeschooled by a company that doesn't report to the state, Your state may not allow you that option. I'll definitely keep you in prayer though.

[@mayathebraveofkitwanga448]

Hey, Michelle. How was your day?

[@wandalynch3303]

Thank you for some good comments everyone

[@hienienguyen6766]

this is so hard to do when being a single parent. oh lord it just ten times harder for me. but i want this to stop.

[@dcoconutdreams]

Same and it is maddening

[@eralec]

I know how you feel

[@tonettewilkes13]

Agreed. - another single mom.

[@vlichtle]

i take care of my grandkids use 123 then time out . explain why . As you know you have to keep taking them back to chair. reset the timer. It work. something i learned from video is have empathy frist say i understand your upset angry to leave the park . i will now use this frist .

[@mayathebraveofkitwanga448]

Hey. How are you today?

[@sarahm415]

Extremely helpful! Thank you

[@paintingserviceskingston]

Thank you so much for this...

[@JustaCuriousity]

It all makes sense now, thank you. Happy New Year.

[@dreabadar1620]

Thank you sir!!! I most definitely understand now. ❤😊

[@briannamcalary7432]

My son is one but is 6 months advanced, he hasnt mastered communicating enough to encourage using his voice, he knows what im saying most of the time though and uses small sentences, last week he started these seriously intense tantrums that would last hours and refused to eat in his high chair. I bought a new high chair and he was ok with it twice but then went back to screaming at his high chair. He eats everywhere else in a high chair but at home. I have to keep getting creative with dinners trying to get him to eat and he gets mad when hes hungry but wont eat in the high chair. I had to put him in his crib to sleep because he had gone on for over an hour. I am using every fiber of my being right now to stay calm through this intense screaming and screeching phase. I am going to try some of these, i have tried the ignore one recently and it worked for the car seat but not the mornings yet

[@joemoon1943]

My child has improved full and acting up right with his social skill and improved from his speech delay since taking dr Oyalo herbal remedy. He has no major signs of autism like he was

[@petergriffiinbirdistheword]

I wish you indicated what age to ignore and what age to act. You say order child and younger child but as a first time mama, I have no idea what you mean. Is 3 an older child or is 6 an older child? I don't know.

[@joemoon1943]

My child has improved full and acting up right with his social skill and improved from his speech delay since taking dr Oyalo herbal remedy. He has no major signs of autism like he was

[@sittiinah1602]

I have learned a lot! thanks for this informative video.

[@rue2003]

If my child acts out, they don’t get whatever they are crying for. That’s my policy. She can cry till tomorrow that way she learns that crying doesn’t get her anything!

[@joemoon1943]

My child has improved full and acting up right with his social skill and improved from his speech delay since taking dr Oyalo herbal remedy. He has no major signs of autism like he was

[@J2727-c9p]

This is exactly the advice l needed...thank you! My son never had tantrums, but my 17 mth old grandson has just started and they are next level!! 😂 Not knowing how to deal with this, l have felt lost. Especially loved the empathy part...

[@joemoon1943]

My child has improved full and acting up right with his social skill and improved from his speech delay since taking dr Oyalo herbal remedy. He has no major signs of autism like he was

[@adamcohen9658]

I like the "ignore" method, but what about when he starts touching something he shouldn't or grabs something dangerous? I then have to take it away/stop him.

[@DadUniversity]

There are many different methods for many different situations. You test many and decide what works best for you.

[@jans724]

Very good talk / video! Thank you!

[@darotwiler]

Love your videos!

[@grumpy-_-ghost3911]

Good advise all the way through! Thanks

[@DadUniversity]

Thank you. Glad you enjoyed it. Do you have a toddler?

[@grumpy-_-ghost3911]

@@DadUniversity if I didn't and watched this. I would question myself. Lol

[@DadUniversity]

I get people that watch videos and comment all the time that aren't in the exact situation of the video topic

[@sessicelia1041]

Very good advice, thank you

[@maryjoylove9678]

My son 5 years old with autism, i really tried my best to be the best mom but sometimes they push the button to the limit its makes me upset This video help a lot and willing to try Thank you

[@wasihunhmariam2152]

Thank You🙏🙏🙏

[@andrewpeppard6331]

Thank you

[@peninahmukungi6780]

❤

[@jamiebell7552]

Now is this specifically dads, is there a different approach for mom? I’m so overwhelmed and I really just want to do the best for him! Any tips and videos help! He just gets so angry, screaming and hitting

[@boni268]

First of all, thank you for this information. Can I ask a question? When we're outside, he throws tantrums if I don't let him do whatever he wants. Since talking and asking don't seem to help, should I just take him home right away when this happens?

[@GEKENILWORTH]

The phrase "Calm down," doesn't work for adults, either. Think about it: if you're being told to "Calm down" does it make you feel more peaceful, or does it ratchet up your irritation?

[@jonalynmainit1727]

My four years old daughter was totally change her attitude after she hospitalized... She was having a seizure and pneumonia.. She was a happy kid and a good girl before she was hospitalized...then after she hospitalized her attitude changed.. she's throwing tuntrums..i don't know what to do..and it makes my heart ache...seing my little like this..which is, she's change

[@Buffbrot]

Thanks for the Video. Really enjoyed it. I have one questiin though: you implied we should sometimes ignore the tantrum and wait out the Storm. this kind of felt weird to me since i dont want my son to think im ignoring their Problem. My wife is still just pregnant though so i dont have any experience yet. Maybe you can elaborate on that point. Thanks again for your Video and your help :)

[@DadUniversity]

When you are dialed in to your child you begin to understand why they are having a tantrum. While it never feels like a good reason they are having it, there are plenty of times when you know it's not something "important". The child wants a toy or cookie or whatever. Reason and discussing it doesn't always work. They also want the attention and if you give it to them it reinforces their tantrum. You are simply ignoring that behavior, not ignoring your child's needs. I hope that helps

[@Buffbrot]

@@DadUniversity thanks for clarifying

[@brendabagull777]

Does anyone have the “link to connect to this dad superhero?? I didn’t see it . Pleeeeae 🙏

[@baileynagel2579]

As a mother watching thins, I love it. But what if my significant other doesn’t believe in “positive parenting”, like this, and just want to do spankings and time out? Our 2yo is starting to really get into tantrums and fits, and this is what I do with him. But dad doesn’t believe in “terrible two’s” or phases

[@DadUniversity]

Ask significant other to watch some of our videos. You can't force someone to believe a specific way. You can only expose them to new or different information.

[@PunditKING]

I think skipping the entro before the entro would be good and provide a shorter video getting to the point faster.

[@DadUniversity]

Newer videos get to the point quicker

[@linamarie84]

You know, my niece is 4. Well she just turned 4. I watch her 6 days a week. I'm telling you this little girl talks back like no other! I've tried. She literally will tell fibs or fake cry etc. She even will wait until her dad leaves for work and will do something she knows she isn't supposed to do and say " you aren't gonna tell on me are ya?" 😮😮 Her 7 year old sister talks back also. She will not relent. At all. I mean it's unbelievable. Her mother treats her like she's an adult and I don't play that. It makes it so hard!!!! My Dad is a single parent of 8. If he can do it so can we. I say we because there are those of us who take care of our nieces and nephews at times more than the parent. I talk to them eye to eye, I am consistent in what I say and explain why etc. The 4 year old knows what patience is. She tells me she knows but doesn't feel like having patience. So what then?

[@sweetb2006]

That 4 year old has No clue what patience means! Saying you have to wait can be understandable, nonetheless patience is very short for most every toddler, much less some adults. The big thing here is what you describe sounds like something out of the ordinary is going on with these girls at home. Not just mom treating them like adults. Though it's not clear exactly what you mean by that. I just Really hope I'm wrong that nothing bad is happening. I'd personally reach out to some Real psychologist(not just therapist), preferably pediatric ones that answer online questions on a site for free. Make sure to give clear, straight forward details & proof read what you write so as to get best answers. I'd also read some professional/legit we pages that explains what to look for in a "troubled" child, just to be safe. If you don't see any obvious signs that you read about, doesn't mean it's definitely not But also if only one or two doesn't mean something is. I Sooo hope I'm very wrong!!! Best of luck! 🤗

[@johnrogan9420]

Bad seeds....pass them off to an unsuspecting do gooder sucker.

[@DarlynEmedoro]

I know a toddler who will scratch or continue to hit when he doesn't get his way. He's only 2 years old. How do you handle that as a parent? The more you talk , the get worse.

[@milliganx2633]

I have a child I help who has autism and engages in self injury. What can I do? He is 5 yrs old. He understands more than he verbally communicates. I know because I have worked closely with his for the last six months. He is very bright. But he doesn't care about anything. Nothing holds his attention. He will have fits of SIB, and I, of course, have to intervene. I really want to help him. At this point, I don't know how. Any suggestions?

[@Crypto_Brandon]

Thanks dad

[@Djaktfaves]

Sometimes kids just need hugs ❤

[@sinat422]

....and boundaries 😊

[@Marian-zw2ff]

The "don't give in" part is going to be hard for me to do. I am always the first to give in when my niece starts to cry. She's so cute to resist and I worry that if she cries too long her throat might hurt.

[@taegiarestillsavage9561]

Please are her tantrums better no? I'm often left with my three year old niece and she yells and screams whenever she wants something and as soon as you give it to her she throws it down and starts yelling and crying for something else, I let her cry but she wasn't stopping so I feared she mite get a headache.

[@MichaelPhongMitchell]

You just need to be firm and not give in. That is what I tell my wife. I have never given in to my older son when he cries or screams for something. I tell him that he is definitely not getting it, resulting in more screaming and temper tantrums. He knows that I will not give in to his temper tantrum or crying. He evenutally stops after a while, but he did not get what he was crying or screaming for. So for me, it is very easy because of how my adoptive mother raised me. In the long run, not giving in is the best way to go. If you give in, your child will learn that having a temper tantrum, crying, and screaming will work. When I tell my older son to stop in a serious voice, he stops immediately because he knows he will get a consequence if he does not stop after I count to three. Most of the time, it works. Sometimes, it does not work so I give him a consequence.

[@molemaverick]

@@MichaelPhongMitchell, god bless your adoptive mother. I envy you for having such patience and strength. I’m to the point where I’m about to bring back spanking from my generation. Everything I see says not to do it, so I don’t, but my son has no fear of me and tolerates consequences like a hardened individual. I’m preparing for war right now because I’m about to put an end to this once and for all, but I know there’s no perfect solution for me. I’m just hoping to raise a good man who will one day love and support his own family. Should be easy, right.

[@poechristhemfitz]

When I try to remove my 3.5-year-old he will lash out and often hurt me in some way. I begin the whole thing calmly but when the pain sets in, anger does flare up and I often yell at him, causing him to shut down. But I really have a hard time staying calm then and ignoring the pain because I have problems with my wrists and back (essential in situation-removing) and he knows that. How should I react when he is hurting me on purpose? The pain is itense...

[@patriciavandenberg1711]

I really really need help. My 3.5 year old daughter has been a great sleeper, untill a few weeks ago. The whole routine goes well and she gets into bed and and the end I stay with her 3 minutes to sing and cuddle. And then it starts. She hits me in the face and bites me. I try to keep calm and physically hold her hand. Then she kicks. I say neutral but firmly that hitting amd biting is not ok. And then I try to calm her down by humming. It does not work. If I release her she immediately hits me again. If i walk away and close the stair 'gate' (the childproof thing) she starts throwing everything she can find. I do not know what to do anymore. I try to stay calm and neutral but firm. And try to let her be and then when calmed down, cuddle. Then she starts again with hitting. Please help me.

[@salvatorepurpora1369]

Does anyone have advice on my 2 year old only wanting to be with me (her dad) when it comes to family outings. She doesn’t care to spend time with her grandparents or aunts and uncles. She will get upset if anyone even tries to interact with her. There are exceptions to this but it happens very often. I don’t know what to do when she screams at her grandmother for trying to show love.

[@jennagibson290]

Is there any mom channels like this

[@marcalbert674]

"Your toddler is not out to get you personally" oh trust me mine clearly is.. pretty sure she could break a drill instructor 😂

[@joemoon1943]

My child has improved full and acting up right with his social skill and improved from his speech delay since taking dr Oyalo herbal remedy. He has no major signs of autism like he was

[@theswampfisher3253]

My toddler never threw temper tantrum. I just gave her the freaking evil eye. She stopped she no daddy doesn’t play.

[@ummwhatever1913]

I wish 🙄

[@Missjleah1991]

I promise you. Having a toddler is like being in a abusive relationship and the parent can’t fight back because you are suppose to have patience.😅

[@mariamnoshy6072]

I have a 2.2 year old daughter.. she wants to see tv and never accepts a no. She hits herself in the ground. And keep screeming and crying. For 15-30 minutes and then screems for a milk bottle and go to sleep. Or when i am cooking and she wants me to hold her while i am cooking Or like when we hang wet clothes together if i change the place of what she was hanging she throws a fit and keep screeming crying and hit herself in the ground. What should I do in all those situations and is it normal? And she doesn't listen to me As if she shuts down and doesn't listen at all. And if i try to hug her she will be more lound. And probably i will get hit in my jaw from her going up and down jumping and screaming

[@joemoon1943]

My child has improved full and acting up right with his social skill and improved from his speech delay since taking dr Oyalo herbal remedy. He has no major signs of autism like he was

[@CJ-xr5hq]

Whatever you do, do not react in anger or hurt them because you've allowed a toddler to upset you.

[@narendralodhia]

I’m suffering from this jealousy and tantrum even when my sons r older 38 & 40. I have learned my mistakes and my wife too. It’s too late. They r separate and not want to c each other. One sided competition. Kindly tell ur viewers how much it will affect them in future if NOT TAKEN CARE OF NOW. It’s a lot of hard work latter. Trust me. Much more painful.

[@CrazyDaveyBaby]

What part at the end was I waiting for

[@AymanAyanKRJ]

My 3 yrs keeps telling me mummy am sad ,I wanna be happy😢😢

[@moneyparhar]

Our 3 year ild behave bad when mom is around. When im around he doesn't behave that bad but does some. Other times he behave bad when me and wife together. He uses mom as escape or get leverage. He keep in hitting in school. We told him don't hit or push. He said i will not do it again but he does it again. I don't know if he understands what we saying or something else.

[@Grow_Your_Food]

I'm a bit confused about something. My 2yr old whines for attention. (We have a newborn in the house, so it's tough, I get it.) One of the first steps mentioned was to ignore their attention-seeking behaviour, but the last step was to empathise and give them a hug. So, when mine starts whining, do I ignore the behaviour or give him a hug?

[@rhainetigas7520]

I hve a 5yr old boy, everytime he commit mistakes his dad spank and shout him everytime he do wrong. When i scold him he dont listen me or he jst ignore me but when his dad get angry he will calm down. What will i do so that he will obey me also

[@DadUniversity]

The spanking and getting angry would need to stop so you both can parent in the same way. Being firm and loving at the same time.

[@cindyrobertson3798]

I don't do screaming. I put a towel on the floor or what ever is handy and walk away. Here's your example. Make your letter to a 4 year old. .no not paid enough for shrieking..

[@aperez6775]

Woo saw

[@rizeaalexandru5727]

Yeah yesterday my 2year old daughter grabbed my earing and almost torn my ear ,that got me so angry. Thats why I'm here ,i lost it yesterday

[@joemoon1943]

My child has improved full and acting up right with his social skill and improved from his speech delay since taking dr Oyalo herbal remedy. He has no major signs of autism like he was

[@cabanaho]

This doesn't "stop tantrums now" like the thumbnail suggests... it's at best some good advice to instill to parents while their children throw tantrums and how to handle them in a positive way. However it doesn't help to end tantrums or stop them early... at least not for mine... it just seems to come down to letting them grow out of it...

[@ummwhatever1913]

Same smh

[@molemaverick]

Where does punishment come in?

[@Kgerdt001]

Oh my God, it’s horrible…

[@Rui725]

Ignoring is not always the best apporach. You're training the child that it's wrong to have emotions and they should just shut it down.

[@Kristinaellenaanna]

Amen!!!! Never ignore!!!

[@LeadingPaws]

This doesn’t answer of what or how to respond when your child physically hits you. There is an amount of discipline that needs to be established so that “no” alone is all that’s needed. And is only needed once. Positive reinforcement is how you train dogs to do tricks when they do good behaviors, and yes it’s similar with toddlers I believe, but training your dogs to do tricks is done with positive reinforcement, there is a part of training dogs to stop bad behaviors. This is done with negative reinforcement. Actions have consequences. If you need to make sure your child doesn’t hurt themselves at the moment you first see them look at you while sticking something in an electrical socket for example, a very stern “no” is certainly required. There is nothing to wait out. That all being said, my question is, how do you respond if your child physically slaps you or your wife?

[@DadUniversity]

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[@CalebGrace-gw7gu]

Does a 4 year old still dictate a toddler? She definitely has tantrums but is a little more intellectual

[@perovato02]

I only wish this was in Spanish.

[@DadUniversity]

we started to translate some videos in Spanish but had to pause due to resources. We are hoping to eventually do it again in the future.

[@VanettaMosetta]

What I'm noticing about all of these so called child help videos is they spend so much time telling us stuff we already know and have heard a million times before they get to the point! So that all we remember is the same stuff we've heard a million times and not the point. I'd love to see a video that gets straight to the point and repeats the valuable, useful information instead of the stuff we already know (that doesn't help)! Forget the "what," forget the "why," focus on the "HOW!"

[@DadUniversity]

Thank you for the feedback. You may want to review the newer videos as this one was from Mar 2021. We learned to get more to point :)

[@kiannahdanaelove]

lol

[@Blahmanwhysoserious]

Dad University? 14 min long? Must be for moms, lol

[@DadUniversity]

We make shorts too :)

[@epacm50]

Stop the madness with brain flash therapy.

[@Just7Steps]

In this video you were actually quite on it until minute 8:33 where you once again showed a lack of understanding of what Positive reinforcement is. Showing appreciation isn't positive reinforcement unless it works to increase behavior. So, if it works it was positive reinforcement but if you do it and it doesn't work, for that child for that behavior it was not positive reinforcement. Pretending that every child will react to positive praise and appreciation is setting a large number of your clients to fail. Sorry. You need to be better. And luckily you got better by 9:33 but I'm not sure you know why. Do you have any credentials? I can't find any listed here for you.

[@melanieblankenship4691]

completely agree

[@johnpet23]

Can you please speak to the point and shorten your videos?

[@reneek7721]

How to stop toddler tantrums: Don't have children, wallah no tantrums.

[@sleepingbeautyisnotwoke]

It’s voilà not wallah.

[@reneek7721]

@@sleepingbeautyisnotwoke: Tell autocorrect although I don't think it will help.

[@sarahgbadebo9415]

😂

[@bubblybull2463]

Worst advice ever ! A toddler seeking attention needs to get it otherwise it’ll feel unloved and ununderstood. To calm down they need to isolate and when they have calmed down then they’ll be rewarded for their good behavior. That’s how you deal with a tantrum. Ignoring it will make the behavior stick and won’t teach them anything !

[@DadUniversity]

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[@conniedevos7900]

Your turn my turn also helps..❤

[@d011p4rtz]

is it ok for moms to subscribe? I'm a stay-at-home-mother and pretty much the soul caretaker about 95% of the time with limited help🥲

[@joemoon1943]

My child has improved full and acting up right with his social skill and improved from his speech delay since taking dr Oyalo herbal remedy. He has no major signs of autism like he was