Gary Vaynerchuk on Stoicism, Soft Skills, and Becoming Your Best Self

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On this episode of the Daily Stoic Podcast Ryan talks to entrepreneur Gary Vaynerchuk about his new book Twelve and a Half: Leveraging the Emotional Ingredients Necessary for Business Success, how to get comfortable with vulnerability and emotional development, the best way to maintain long term business success, and more.
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Gary Vaynerchuk is an entrepreneur, author, speaker, and Internet personality. First known as a wine critic who expanded his family's wine business, Vaynerchuk is now more known for his work in digital marketing and social media as the chairman of New York-based communications company VaynerX, and as CEO of VaynerX subsidiary VaynerMedia.
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[@DailyStoic]

Hope everyone enjoys this interview. We'd love to hear what your favorite parts were, comment the timestamps!

[@andrewryan2814]

Just subscribed to daily email. Ever since I first began to study Marcus Aurelius, I strive to be more stoic. If a Roman emperor can withstand far greater temptation than is offered to us, we should all strive to that same goal.

[@robertoenamoradoakaroberto5654]

My favorite part was (paraphrasing) the whole thing about people/business/orgs that may have done you dirty, and they are not even a thing to waste energy on. Put them on a shelf somewhere and move forward. The sesne of actually moving forward with that level of detachment... In listening to this interview I envisioned what that would feel like to be so far liberated from those negative experiences, and thought to myself - hell yeah! What an epic success that is.

[@formisfunction1861]

The whole thing is pure gold!

[@joedavis4150]

I'm 80 years old now. At age 10, in the fourth grade,, when they were doing their best to break me, and almost did, I made a solemn vow to myself that I would never be like them.... I have lived up to it.

[@TheOwl1017]

As Marcus Aurelius says "The best revenge is to not be like your enemy."

[@DaniJ923]

Congrats sir!

[@jorgepgam1243]

@Totem Hill p

[@jorgepgam1243]

Yame lo aprobaron ya

[@jorgepgam1243]

By iDfhh de las tarjetas a la

[@codyhunt1838]

“When we watch this in 5 years people are going to be quitting jobs they love.”…. I just resigned from the best job I’ve ever had because I had an option to take on something more difficult and meaningful. We are there already Gary.

[@codyhunt1838]

Just passed my licensing exams today… can’t believe it’s happening. Thank you all!

[@DefeatLust]

@@codyhunt1838 Congratulations 🙂

[@ProjectJamesify]

Ryan and Gary, you know it's going to be good

[@louielimranola]

FOR SURE

[@marcelmarcel5688]

If u want they also have a video on Gary's channel where they do an episode together.

[@louielimranola]

@@marcelmarcel5688 I will check it!

[@Rod-dg7fy]

Someday there will have to be a movie on Gary. He is the best example of the current state of the world.

[@somguy728]

That comment could mean so many things - I consider Gary to be a high energy snake oil salesman - not a mass murdering eugenicist like those from Davos.

[@Better_Call_Bulba-Saur]

It's inspiring how two pros with noticeably incompatible personalities are having a conversation on so many relevant life topics and having both agreeing and disagreeing views on them. Normally we see people agree or disagree in these talks but this time we actually get to see a middle ground.

[@joedavis4150]

... " when you eliminate fear, people can move fast."...

[@studywm_pls]

bro two of my best mentors talk - this is incredible !!!

[@zachrat9083]

‼️If you aren’t eating your own shit and sleeping 3 hours a night, you don’t want to be rich ‼️😎💪🏻

[@formisfunction1861]

The alumni locker room = powerful!

[@viviancrawford114]

Gary is clever to say that you have to have courage to do something or anything.

[@johnhansen4794]

That was the perfect Gary V ending. 😎

[@ashtonlosier5123]

I really wish they would go into more advanced things with stoicism and Ryan would bounce those deeper ideas about stoicism and the logos and what not and see how they respond to that

[@DinoCorvino]

Gary is incapable of anything beyond the first sentence. He lacks any depth.

[@matthewcote5198]

@@DinoCorvino damn, you really didn't listen to any of this conversation, did you?

[@DinoCorvino]

@@matthewcote5198 I did not. I rejected Gary V a long time ago, and feel no need to listen to him when there are things I think of more substantive of my time.

[@matthewcote5198]

@@DinoCorvino look, that's cool and all, but what would Marcus Aurelius say? Making opinions on things you are totally uninformed about. Gary has shown a totally different side of himself recently...and if you are a fan of stoic philosophy, you will also understand that Marcus accepted truth can come from any source. But to call another human with no depth when you haven't even given them a real chance is pretty shallow.

[@DinoCorvino]

@@matthewcote5198 I am sure that is true. I gave Gary a chance a long time ago, and after reading what he wrote, watching his videos, even speaking to him on the phone twice, I made a personal choice for myself that there are other things that I would like to consume. That Gary was not one of those things, and given the state of the so called content world, Gary is just one loud voices in a sea of loud voices. I am under no obligation to try to consume them all. You are free to take your truth from where ever you find it, I chose to reject Gary based on the lack of substance in his first three or four books. His participation in the so called HUSTLE culture, his support of the DISRUPTION thing. He lost me really when he talked out his ass about public schools. There are other voices I want to hear from, feel free to find yours where you wish.

[@JackCarver_Reporting_in]

Damn, the Audio/Video quality of this show makes it so enjoyable to watch!

[@divorcetheworld]

I love the gratitude talk. The whole time I was hoping the conversation would head towards "if you regret fine, this is where you're at. Where to you point your sails from here.

[@aaronwimberleymbamsf5776]

Two heavyweights of thought. Great meditation to start the day. I was fortunate that a key part of our business school studies was based on "soft business skills". Love the notion of "sportsman/womanship"

[@sensecarter2516]

This is an incredibly inspiring channel. These principles of stoicism have impacted me immensely. Thanks for your self-sacrifice to inspire others.

[@hectorcavadajr6727]

Gary V the Stoic lmao that's great

[@aminmohammadi5011]

My immediate response to thumbnail and titles and after checking the name of channel 5times, was oh shit! Ryan & Gary! I've never expecting this!!! THE Best thing I couldn't imagine! Thanks Ryan 💛

[@nani8701]

This is legendary gary helped me and millions of ppl appreciate it

[@juliuslopezramirez8028]

26:36 best bit in my opinion, something thats so repeated by many people and yet embodied by not that many, we truly are fortunate and many times we don't realize it, but when we do most of our problems become trivial and they stop being something to be upset about. Great conversation, keep it up!!

[@beausherwood2568]

Self Awareness

[@louielimranola]

OMGGGG STOICISM AND GARY, WHAT A COMBO!!!

[@therealdavidtrotta]

Perfectness, two of my favs!

[@viviancrawford114]

Gary is so clever. I think that Ryan is clever too. I want to be a stoic. Freedom is the key to joy

[@chatch909]

Thank you, Ryan. This is solid.

[@anwest]

This is gold! Thank you!

[@Adrianblackshowman]

So thankful for you two coming together for this talk! Thanks guys! Lots of gems in here!

[@wawuchallenge8469]

I love this interview, as always Gary dropping a ton of value coupled with stoic philosophy, this is priceless life lesson.

[@Flips4Miles]

Gary the legend

[@lyndao7356]

Wow. Breath taking. Good job, guys. This: ‘If you’re one of the people who thinks someone else’s success takes from you, you’ve lost already’ paraphrasing Gary, of course, but that’s the truth.

[@formisfunction1861]

"No opinion is the super power." = Love it!

[@droshik]

Loved everything about this! This is the type of content I can consume 24/7! ❤️

[@IamMattBeard]

The...Gary V - "romantic of the concept of losing it all and building it back up!" Amazing interview. Every piece is just full of value.

[@zachprice355]

I'm so happy so happy i found this video

[@MrAshay12]

Best interview of Gary in a while

[@SalvationsElite]

Hey man, this is the first time I've ever seen your content, and I'm blown away by your ability here. Loved every second of this conversation. Definitely subbed! Excited to go through more! You and Gary click to say the least!

[@louielimranola]

SAVED THIS FOR LATER BUT I KNOW THIS IS GOING TO BE AMAZING

[@MyOutdoorQuest]

two legends in one frame ❤️‍🔥 #stoicism

[@viviancrawford114]

Great speech Gary. I believe you.

[@isaiahbarze1952]

I immediately saw this and thought That I would be better for listening to this.

[@ChristianSoschner]

Awesome episode. Thanks for putting it together

[@TheYorickFrijtersShow]

This was great. One of the two people I listen the most to and this ending is really typical and funny 😂❤️

[@FrenchPhotos]

hahahaha "get out of here man!"

[@JaredJacobsonLaw]

AMAZING conversation 💯💯💯 thank u 🙏

[@unspokenwounds]

Loved this entire thing! Best part was the very end when it'\s REAL REAL!

[@woahwoah407]

Legendary.

[@a-jai9381]

i love love love love love this so much!!!

[@pilkingtongue]

this is my first podcast on this channel, i’ve only ever heard of ‘gary v’, i’ve been interested in stoicism before i was directed here, i think it was comedian annie ledderman shared you on an ig story, now i’m here, throughly enjoyed this. i know both of you could go at least 2+ hours and i would’ve seriously enjoyed it. thank you!

[@BLimepositivity8]

Change is not progress but progress requires change!

[@weavemagic]

loved this conversation - thanks ryan & gary

[@alanchriston6806]

Superb once again , Brilliant 😊😊

[@AlexZeBeast]

This is powerful!

[@chrisa6212]

Based on how much you both had to say, to the point of Gary running over on time, I think it would interesting to have a part 2 of this dialogue. It was great to listen to! 👍

[@joser3075]

43:00 gratitude 🙏🏼

[@along9971]

ROFL!! Gotta love Gary!

[@formisfunction1861]

"Hey I'm humble." LOL!

[@formisfunction1861]

Two genius's

[@formisfunction1861]

Life is long and life is short views = great conversation.

[@IKEMENOsakaman]

Wow! Look at that wall made with books!

[@nikeball7]

Very very very grateful

[@thescruffie]

Great interview! The end got me 😂

[@indiancricketpodcast]

I LOVE the way it ends! Wow you guys!

[@ImperialDarkKnight]

Solid content to help you with attachments of knowledge

[@educatedbybitcoin]

Super high quality episode!

[@LwaziSbuLive]

Lovely Talk.

[@dallaspassmore]

I’ve been saying Gary is a modern day stoic

[@BillyPulido]

Seeing this two in one vid. Wishing all the best here in comments.

[@BLimepositivity8]

Life is short compared to the endless amount of time available to get but at the same time life is long asf for us if your smart!!!

[@LaynoProd]

this had so much life gems that even apply to me as a music artist, thank you Ryan and Gary for this wisdom 🙏🏽💎👨🏽‍🎨 with gratitude, LaynoProd

[@erichopham]

When you judge others, you’re practicing for yourself

[@mcjoe4324]

Daily stoic, Like this if you’ve kept contact with gary for more to come❤️

[@expeditiontotry]

I've been waiting for this conversation to happen. So hyped! I love Gary's ability to know he's a Stoic and at the same time say he's not one. That's so Stoic

[@afinkeln]

no that's just Gary enjoying his own flatulance

[@ShinShinoke]

He comes across as incredibly self obsessed personally

[@ErikKing1]

That was very insightful.

[@ruben_torres]

Best ending ever.

[@akramdris7096]

it could be a good idea bring to the podcast Chris Bumstead, he is a big fan of stoicism

[@dwaynecrosse8208]

Yes sirrr

[@liam_dawson]

excellent interview

[@yesyesyay8452]

I wish Gary isn’t glorifying social media as if it’s the only thing to become successful in the world. Otherwise, Respect.

[@chuyv4760]

I hope Ryan reads the book Breath by Rickson Gracie.

Awesome interview! So funny, was exactly 8:44 when he said it...I was kinda confused until I realized it was pure coincidence

[@zacrobinson6117]

Ryan, please read the I ching and break it down for the plebs

[@christiandeltoro5128]

I came to a conclusion that the reason why people judge others goes back to our evolutionary methods of human history. We “change/evolve” the world to suit us rather than ourselves “change/evolve” to suit the environment. We started making stone tools to give ourselves the advantage in nature rather than evolving over long periods of time. “Changing/evolving” others sounds like the expedient way to get to where we want to be. The hard way is looking inwards and change ourselves each individually.

[@pucyu9678]

A true and through and through bs artist at his prime

[@JoshBatalibasi]

Great chat and how goods that bookshelf 📚😍🙌

[@antoniotubbs]

🔥🔥🔥

[@raiseyourmedia]

Gary is right... the right perspective is everything.

[@TiMoney22]

I like them discussing about being contextual to your audience

[@BLimepositivity8]

Btw i talk deep about everything because everything is a copy of everything and o the stoics are the road maps of life! Plus they knew shit before others!

[@rodredoun1922]

Gary V is very interested in wisdom lol, aren't we all?

[@garyvee]

We sure are Xoxox

[@ScottDLuffy]

When I was 5 , 6 , 7... 4... 12 , 14, 13.. 11

[@galador8089]

Listening to people like Gary will not help you.

[@nani8701]

Who are you to say lmao and no one cares about your opinion

[@mrcalificator]

@@nani8701 and here you are responding😂😂😂 plus this is yt comments, he can say whatever he pleases why u so mad?😂😂

[@abel5333]

Cry more pls

[@playerformerlyknownasmousecop]

yeah agreed. Gary V has nothing to do with stoicism and has contributed to the toxic hustle culture more than any one person I can think of

[@a12tmagazine]

I know Gary is always very talkative and engaging but it seems like he was extra engaging in this interview. Also this interview seemed less Cutting-each-other-off mid sentence as Gary usually, not sure if its his growth that he mentions or just your chemistry. Great talk, sad it ended abruptly.

[@Shaad2321]

This was a great intervenes! I’m trying to find the RBC buford interview and can’t seem to locate! If anybody knows where to find or has link leave a reply! Thanks!😃

[@BLimepositivity8]

I love the stoics and love all you do and I love @garyvee because your an intelligent dude! But guys please don’t sleep on my views cause I don’t on yours.

[@DinoCorvino]

oh this is too bad. I think Gary is a huge part of the problem. Him, Kevin Rose, Tim Ferriss, that generation of guys...just straight unconsidered lives. I feel bad that this interview even happened.

[@FrenchPhotos]

Why? what's with Tim Ferriss?

[@DinoCorvino]

@@FrenchPhotos That crew of guys, for so long have claimed this bullshit title of DISRUPTOR and used it to make claims that have been attacked for years. Whether it be Kevin Rose and his bullshit tearing down a historical house, or the medical claims that are or are not posted by Ferriss, to the absolutely devoid of substance books that Gary Vee puts out combined with this youtube presence that is a long career of empty platitudes. Vaynerchuck has gotten to the point that Trevor Wallace even mocked him. There are people who do work, share knowledge, then there are these guys who got rich, and now talk all the time.

[@FrenchPhotos]

@@DinoCorvino I would agree on some points. They were fooled by randomness and now they're talking in hindsight. But if you look at the back end, they were giving value to their market as well. Garyvee with his Agency working with big brands, Tim Ferriss and his personal struggle to better his lifestyle, and interviewing people who have their own struggles as well. But I won't discount your opinion as they also have some truth in it. ❤️

[@DinoCorvino]

@@FrenchPhotos So here is the thing, I know no one who has worked with or for Gary Vee. And look, his books are empty and without substance. What an opportunity he has to be a great mentor, but what he gives is style, the pose, the iconography. Not the work. A thousand years ago Bill Gates wrote a 500 page book about email. Dense, and hard to get through. But, really substantive. Punch Punch Jab Jab, or whatever, the ever annoying Hustle book. These guys do REAL things, not just buzz words. Not just DISRUPT OR HUSTLE OR HACK. And they sit down on those nonsense phrases, and people go for it.

[@haroldoluizrodriguesfilho7779]

Admiral Stockdale, John Wooden, Warren Buffet, Monty Roberts, Peter Drucker, Clayton Christensen…wisdon

[@DJSTOEK]

🖤

[@MichelleCrenshaw]

❤️❤️❤️

[@unnaturalatrophy8073]

Oh its the dude who couldn't pay the 100$ for garage guy

[@tinkywinky4449]

That intro is funny as fuck when you know he's been running 'pump&dumps' on his own audience.

[@gabes80]

He's whatever is trending today