Why You Can't "Be Yourself" (The Power Of Being Alone)

"Be yourself" is terrible advice for 99% of the population. But, the world is changing. Those that master their minds, master themselves. Those that master themselves, can master the world. In this video I try to make you aware of your conditioning, programming, and lack of authenticity. I also give you steps to start your journey to acting from a place of authenticity, creativity, and value.
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0:00 Just Be Yourself
3:00 Work Is Changing
5:48 In A World Without Others, The Self Would Not Exist
6:30 Who You Really Are
9:14 The Focus Matrix
11:44 What Does This Have To Do With Being Yourself?
12:52 You Are Somebody Else
14:15 The Problem With Social Media
21:12 Be Selfish
23:44 Go On A Walk
25:55 Weekly Self-Reflection
27:35 Writing To Clarify Your Thoughts
29:32 Question The Story That Your Ego Fabricates
Video title ideas (for the algo!):
Who you really are and how to be your authentic self
You are programmed. Here's how you reprogram your mind
If you want to thrive in the future, you must master your mind

[@JoseDavid281]

Dude, you're a walking stream of shower thoughts. The way you've organized those perspectives, structure them in a way that makes sense and put it out into the world is just breath-taking. Please, for the sake of humanity, keep doing what you're doing.

[@mvny98]

Lmfao

[@DanKoeTalks]

Late to this, but will do brother. Having a lot of fun doing it. Thank you for watching🙏

[@mountain1253]

I second this! Amazing content

[@FeisworldMedia]

Dan for president! ❤ this is all so good. Binging the entire channel and telling all my friends

[@onegratitudebreath]

Epic content and human🎉

[@mustafcode]

“To exist is to change, to change is to mature, to mature is to go creating one’s self endlessly” - Henri Bergson

[@glutamate5886]

I like your funny words magic man Henri..

[@Betchawontt]

Having Social Anxiety, being alone is fully comforting and I never have an issue being myself. As soon as I add society into my life, things seem to crumble..

[@lorenzomizushal3980]

There is no "real self" to be.

[@DanKoeTalks]

Ding ding

[@TheGoldenWildcat]

In other words, the only true self that's real is your “nobody self”… RIGHT⁈

[@ErikPelyukhno]

Yesss exactly, we are constantly evolving and learning. It’s impossible to be one “true self” since to other’s perspective we’re copying others, when in reality we are complex creatures which are influenced by a vast diverse range of sources. We do not live in solitary confinement, we are social beings that do things.

[@Ashtank]

😂 Love your content, Dan. I isolated myself for ~6 years. I isolated myself because I became self-aware; I was finally honest with myself, and a flood of insecurity destroyed my sense of self. I used those 6 years to learn everything I could about myself. Why do humans do the things they do? What is spirit? Why is religion a superpower in this world? What is God? It was when I re-integrated back into society that I truly tested myself. The battleground where your understanding comes to play is when you connect with others. It's also where I regained my confidence by seeing my understanding flourish.

[@socman002]

Thanka

[@MassMultiplayer]

same for 2 year, the extrem minimalism volcel nofap striaght edge vegan went far.. now what.. back to real life.. some coffee some video game.. some ego trip of music drawing writing.. some dream of becoming ascetic monk even the wish to become ascetic is ironic

[@glutamate5886]

I like your funny words magic man.

[@flyingknee23]

@@f4llenstarr just don’t think you’re better than others just because you became “self-aware”. 💀

[@celesteessel4500]

Went through something similar. I’m very happy that Jesus called me, and drew me close to Him in that time. I’m working on integrating back into community at the moment 🙌🏼 without losing God or myself this time around

[@getjacked]

Killing the fear of FOMO is the most powerful thing any human can do.

[@lifestoryguy]

As Schopenhauer said, “A man can be himself only so long as he is alone; and if he does not love solitude, he will not love freedom; for it is only when he is alone that he is really free.”

[@StephaniRoberts]

Love this. Walking and audiobooks, thinking, visualizing, working through stuff…that’s been a habit for decades. Once it clicks, it sticks.

[@diana_germain]

Love this: "… got a job and accepted the company's goals as their own and created an identity around the job title that they were given. And that unconscious misalignment leads to dread, despair, and the death of a soul that leaves a robotic, animalistic corpse of a human being that lives in a perpetual state of survival."

[@dinkylovesbooks]

I agree with most of what you say in this video. I have realised that I am solely responsible for my own well-being and mental health, and that has freed me from the weight of the burden of other people's opinions. I love being by myself because I am at my most productive and creative then. Only when I confront myself, I grow as a person. I treat life as a game now, where every day I need to score a little bit better than I did yesterday. It's fun and challenging, and I'd rather be by myself and be a little better everyday, than be around people and stagnate 💕

[@onetime3137]

What game do u play and what are u getting better at everyday ?

[@3lmi__319]

@@onetime3137 I think she meant that life is a game in itself, levelling up in self development

[@morethan40]

👏👏💕

[@AndreyRubtsovRU]

i love how people leave comments that should've been the realisation like when you are 15 or something

[@onetime3137]

@@AndreyRubtsovRU Andrey is a BIG BOY and he's happy about it 😭

[@AikiraBeats]

I've started to listen to myself more and more each day. Hearing my own voice in my head sometimes scares me, but it saves from pushing myself way too far. Understanding who I am, is a lifelong journey.

[@neogbfe3587]

Another reason why we can never truly be ourselves, because our brains are always self-monitoring. We pay way more attention to how others come across and adjust our presentation and behavior based on the circumstances. You’ll never meet the same person twice sadly.

[@codisordelet8380]

Dan, your third eye is wide open! I literally was just telling someone this and I learned it from watching a movie. I kept telling them "Don't be yourself". When we do things that we normally don't do thats when our lives usually change for the better.

[@molianiem]

Can I ask what movie?

[@codisordelet8380]

@@molianiem Everything everywhere all at once.

[@kaedenf85]

As someone who has been isolated almost all my life (22 now), it is nice to finally be able to resonate with the thought of being able to question the norm. I am also a very visual learner, and you are one of the few people who are able to explain this in a diagram which is far more effective for me than anything else. Just stumbled across your channel, this is probably some of the best advice out there. Thank you!

[@lunamoone5231]

Im a 16 year old aspiring musician/ artist. Your video has completely changed my means of thinking about my authenticity and how I value it so much. Its given me so much insight to what i should do and work on, as well as how I should simply be authentic. Thank you so much 🖤🖤🖤

[@AndreyRubtsovRU]

dude. grow up. stop watching weird videos. you probably won't be able to make a living from your music hustle.

[@MagnusStormfist]

I think this is why travelling for 6 months away from anyone who ever knew you is incredibly powerful. You ditch potential paradigms that are not you and embrace new ones or potentially old ones that you had buried due to conditioning. I even take it a step further and think back to how I was when I wa sa child before conditioning then I work from there.

[@lisathiedeman4487]

That's profound! Not practical to everyone, but very true.

[@penelopemystline4389]

Beautifully said. This video came to me at the right time. I'm seventeen, and I have about a week left until I can apply to university/college. I want to take a break. I want to unlearn the path of becoming a slave. I feel lost, I've been thinking about how I don't like the systems in which we live in. It's not soul fulfilling. I want to free myself from these programs, I don't know where to start but I am trying. I really appreciate the things you are bringing up, especially with the spiritual aspect (I think in the same way when you said at the beginning " to have an open mind towards the the spiritual way of saying these things and not writing it off as like hippie or new age", you organized it so perfectly, I am always afraid of being labeled like that.) I laughed at that analogy of the room with friends and social media, made my day haha!

[@BB-mq9qk]

Move off the grid, until then your screwed.

[@kohphanganlifechannel6082]

Sending you good energy. Wish you luck on your journey 🤗✨

[@paulhicks8829]

Whether you like it or not , your going to be my mentor for the future I want . Sadly, I’m already 45 , but I can’t live another year without improving . I have always had great ideas and writings but gave up on myself and became an addict 15 years ago . I can’t waste another year, so I will start by consuming everything you have out here. You make perfect sense. Thank you so much for existing !

[@dj_timoy]

"I think everyone just wants to feel understood; for their soul to be sanctioned in the safety of acceptance. But why? Don’t they see how infinite the world is? What is an ant to matter in a pool of magma? Does that answer even matter? Wouldn’t it solve that endless mystery to our miscellaneous existence? These are questions that may define one’s reality, and to obey such knowledge shall lead one down the narrow path. Let me ask you this: in the endless war of water against rock, who wins? I think canyons would know.." I wrote this in February 2016... you reminded me instantly of it when you said "neural networks are carved out in your brain like the Grand Canyon with flowing water..." and I didn't remember what my message was until I pulled it up to paste it here. man, you've been really breaking my coefficient of static friction 💨💨 thank you 🙏

[@theydontexist]

This episode made me think of a quote “ the strong man is strongest when he is alone “ . Good stuff thank you .

[@kevji]

Commitment to self-mastery is the true source of authenticity. It represents the perfect balance unique to each individual that is the transcendence of their programmatic constructs liberated through the creative synthesis of how one chooses to embody their awareness! Elevation to that level requires a great degree of separation from cultural noise! yeehaw thanks for the epic presentation mate!

[@RPGyourLIFE]

I love how deep you dive into these concepts. Truly stimulating and motivating.

[@solomonchau7725]

Wow, give this man a gold medal in communication. His articulation of his thoughts and ideas into words is immaculate.

[@holdenludwig_]

I’m just 21 and I have been so inspired by you. Especially with my tbi it’s great to hear

[@Msrobot3948]

I never had the chance to practice or really discover my self For the sake of my survival I had to sacrife that I kept bottling up my emotioms I don't even know how many nights I spent crying in silence I got used to hiding myself and being invisible, It got to a point I started experiencing derealisation Because I was always Alone When I felt helpless, when I felt hurt, afraid or genuenly happy everything.. It wasn't the obvious for me that I could just share that and expect to receive comfort no..in fact the opposite so mostly kept everything to myself I understood its what I should do But the more you keep things to yourself, your doubts, your fears, your emotions, your thoughts... The more you lose yourself And one day you look in the mirror and you realize how empty you really are, You realize what you've been doing all this time You realize you've might lost yourself forever and ll just have to live with the pain for the rest of your life The pain of being the killer of your unborn self and the pain of knowing youre not the real you every time you wake up and might never will be I didn't chose to become numb I didn't chose to be this person

[@valdocarvalho603]

Personally, I am awear of the thought patterns that brought me here, and as you said, I am not used to being "myself" I was a mega mix of different notions opinions and beliefs .... Most people live in autopilot until something clicks. The act of reprogramming is completely worthy yet daunting. Habits and rituals is what I am working on, to become sovereign to my complete being. Thank you for this video.

[@PepperyPete10]

I think you can be yourself but not around others. It’s not really fair to be yourself around others. I think being yourself is feeling authentic emotion and thinking authentic insights in the moment and that’s not what the other person needs depending on what I feel or what I’m thinking. With other people you have to be “authentic enough” so the relational field between you is “positive enough.” Without other people you can’t individuate. You can’t help them and they can’t help you see, think, feel and experience in different ways. You just recycle your past and it gets stale.

[@javifx4142]

It's interesting how lately I've been putting into practice most of the things you tell almost unconsciously, as if I was timidly sketching new habits but now watching your videos where you expose and explain I see everything much more clearly. New follower Dan!

[@prosperity144]

Same!

[@DuclosDocuments]

I’ve said this like 4 times in other videos but somehow you always manage to say exactly what was on my mind in the current week. The fact you said that you’re also still bogged down by the programming is a level of self reflection that most don’t have.

[@AndreyRubtsovRU]

have you said it like 4 times in other videos? wow

[@DuclosDocuments]

I’m also a couple toes still in the global programming but it’s quickly dissolving. But it’s an upriver battle to achieve the flow, but I’m experiencing it more and more. But beyond that upriver battle is a downwards stream of constant refinement.

[@AronStevenson]

Stumbled across this video during my quiet time Dan, at 4am. Profound timing and reinforcement that I'm not as crazy as my peers think (not that I care). I cut out the news and social media addiction/distraction 10 months ago to free up time to design the day/life I want to create. I'm still working on it, but with much less stress and more control than ever before. Really appreciate your work. My synapses are firing. I'll need to check if that is just because I like that your views align with mine. We believe what we want to believe right?

[@wardogmobius]

Great stuff. I'm going through it now. It's a time of self discipline and discovering.Being betrayed and ghosted by friends into making new connections from scratch to find productive purposes. It's the hardest thing there is and raw true masculinity.

[@DanKoeTalks]

Something I'm always thinking about as well haha "we believe what we want to believe" and that shapes what content we produce, who follows along, and who believes it. Neverending battle I suppose

[@AronStevenson]

@@DanKoeTalks I think it's easier to manage if the goal is to find the truth. Ego always has something to say about that though. So, I try and put a gag around mine when it's too noisy 😷

[@SarahLeeSouth]

I just found you a few days ago and I love every video I’ve watched so far! I’m like, “this dude gets my brain.” 🎉😂❤ I’m a 35 year old, homeschooling mom of three, in a completely different stage of life- but your perspective is totally on point for me. Thanks for making this content! I appreciate it! 💪🎉

[@x15money]

home schooling three kids!? wow! that's a lot of work 💪

[@Tess.of.all.trades]

Right?! So awesome! I'm a 31 year old homeschooling mom of one (homeschooling for the past 8.5 years), and I totally agree!

[@mrsannelynn]

Wonderful!!!

[@Cclovercollectiive]

6:18 I’m only me, because you are you. Without you, there is no me, and for that I’m grateful. I love us 💞

[@dieselphiend]

The 'problem', is the 'solution'. The 'solution' is the 'problem'. It's expansion vs contraction.

[@stellareye000]

I'm in awe of how profound your insights are. How do we even "be ourselves" if we can't distinguish what was conditioned, and what's truly us. It took time and lots of pain, but since I realized this, I fully committed to "know thyself". We live with more ease and success when we act from a place of alignment and harmony. Looking forward to your Matrix post, Dan!

[@energymane_inthecut]

Weirdly relevant to where I’m at in life right now, this stuff is so helpful to hear. Also brilliantly laid out verbally

[@cameronrosin6933]

Clear cut, engaging, densely valuable and highly integrable. You are quickly becoming my favourite creator. Thanks man.

[@DanKoeTalks]

Funny how that works man, your reels are the only short form vid I'll watch. We needa get you on YT

[@TheArtofGuitar]

The first 1:23 is one of the truest and most powerful statements ever.

[@dj_timoy]

if we didn't have phones, or at least the internet, then we would be subjected to a life of (almost predetermined) conditioning with barely any chance of seeing the world from radically different perspectives. Social media can enable us to take the power into our own evolution by giving any of us a viable channel to express ourselves with. Previously, when televised media was the standard, the only things we could watch were being broadcasted on select channels, with other channels even at a premium, yet still no control over the content. Now, I can constantly challenge the stimuli I'm presented with against countless different views to gain alternative perspectives and see how they resonate with my own inner truths

[@avertingapathy3052]

It's good to see someone cut through the ways some of these "emergent paradigm" resources are often misused or lack clarity and just rehashed into shit by other content creators. The qualify of content in most places is so low where a relaitvely common sense quote by some Twitter user or current "spiritual" guru is seen as wisdom. I think the outer dissolution in the world is creating this hunger for structure and meaning among the debree.

[@DkBorelli]

This is so important. If a person watches influencers everyday all day and I can speak for myself, it really does distort your ability to make up your own mind about life. Don't get me wrong, it really is good to follow people that share the same values as you and gain inspiration, thought provoking ideas, and to challenge ones thinking. But if one depends on an influencer to make their mind up, then that's not good. All and all this is good stuff you are putting out there Dan!

[@flyingguitarist7026]

1. Walk 2. Sit-down contemplate ,solitide 3. Write and reflect

[@rizfree]

been following you on twitter and it's crazy the amount of value you shared. Your youtube feels like a high-value course, but free!

[@penelopemystline4389]

ahh the video just keeps getting better and better! "Balance does not mean split down the middle. Balance means a conscious effort to prevent either extreme from taking over."

[@chiefwolfmoon]

I do not usually subscribe. The way you ended the video with watching how the ego fabricates a story was great! Keep up the good work!

[@learnwithlerato]

Everytime I watch Dan Koe I get ideas for my business so I make it a point to watch at least 2 20-30minutes videos of his everyday as I walk to college and back

[@GenoRileyMindset]

This may be a lot for "a youtube comment" but what the hell. I found you not long ago, searching for the next "Level Up" in my life. Ten years ago I was in prison and coming to the end of a decade of hard drug abuse/use. I studied Dr. Joe dispenza , got into meditation and went underground down every "rabbit hole" there is. From Quantum Physics, ancient knowledge, astrology , sacred geometry etc etc etc. I have been drug free for 8 years and in those eight years built my entire life back to something worth living. I know that life works similar to a simulation and that what we take aim at we get. That being said, another man named Dan came into my reality from youtube 8 years ago and was like a virtual "father figure" to me. Now with everything you do per the creator economy (what i've been seeking) You also are Dan. Just funny how it all works. I'm grateful for you man. I feel like "this is the next level" type energy joining MM and all. Truly grateful! Looking forward to the future.

[@DanKoeTalks]

I love it man, and stoked to have you in MM.

[@marketerhayden]

Another cracking insightful video. You said to get obsessed with one thing, I think you are it (in a healthy way). Your way of thinking is so inspiring and is definitely helping me as I navigate my desired path. What I like is that you are backing up what you are saying with good wholesome stuff. As a dopamine chaser and dopamine dealer (great way to introduce yourself at a party, thanks for that), I am always looking for a quick fix, but I am beginning to rethink that way of thinking, so thank you. 🙏🏽

[@lilahdog568]

Be your best self. Don't be yourself if who you currently are is not the man you wanna see in the mirror.

[@SpinachInfluenza]

I was just thinking about this. Seeing Posters that say Be Yourself fucked with me for years, I was thinking all such posters should have a collection of ammendments like, if you don't love what you are doing and what you are, envision your ideal self and refer & interpret it daily for further instruction.Collective Unconscious bro

[@BasedBrothers]

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson Great content Dan, thanks. Stay Based

[@niameanspurpose]

i listened to alot of others (yt videos) and i just started recording myself about my thoughts, what i thought about, motivating myself, etc... and i listen to myself moreso now than in the past. i normally talk to myself out loud... my best self comes from talking to myself...

[@nigel7880]

We call that part of us that does the breathing, talking, motor functions, etc. "X." X does what's appropriate for the information received from the Awareness Function, or Real "I," which is the part that is aware that it is having an experience. In other words, "Me." I provide the "What," X provides the "How." This is the mystical.

[@hsider]

There's a self and it's one and unique, everything else is identity. If you want to be one with the self you have to suppress your identity. Good luck with that.

[@aLaMil]

Love the message about going on walks especially. Been doing that for over a year and it’s a gamechanger

[@g-tbotecktrdr7268]

"Why do you want to live like this" ...struck me because I've been looping ,seething with resentment for days now over a situation and irregardless of writing" not to do this" in my journal daily. Focusing on that statement snapped me out of it....ruminating on the negative is hell...

[@laura53ize]

You are real I can see that I have a 16 YO nephew but he only understand Spanish but he needs a mentor like you.

[@truethehero]

Dan, you're authenticity is really fun to listen to and get inspiration from. You've been a digital mentor of mine for a few months now, so thank you for the content you put out like this. You've been a huge inspiration for my videos and YT channel here as well. God bless and keep going!!

[@Mindset1379]

Dan koe may God bless you for the good work you are doing😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

[@nftinvestor2357]

hey dan, just want to say, legit it feels like yesterday that you were at 1k subs. Thanks for answering all of my comments that I left at that time. I know that you are at that point where you can't do that anymore, but I think that's a beautiful thing for some reason. your growth on this channel has inspired me to start my own channel(not this one) and just want to thank you.

[@DanKoeTalks]

Hell yeah man, thanks for being here for the journey. Stoked you started a channel, its a crazy personal growth journey

[@xRiPw0lFx]

People who have the least friends tend to be the most authentic because people never want to hear the truth

[@Quarce1]

I don’t know if I’ll ever start a business but your advice on personal development has found me at a major fork in the road and I’m very thankful for your organized expressions of valuable information.

[@alfredogonzalez9420]

I feel like your videos speak directly to my soul, thanks a lot for your work, I'm getting more and more motivated on starting my own thing, all my life I've been struggling with "impostor" syndrome but I'm getting better at believing in my own skills as a web developer.

[@kenny.bender]

found you from your dopamine video, loving the content brother it inspires me. it's awesome to see how fast your channel is growing, 100k within a couple months for sure.

[@DanKoeTalks]

Appreciate you brother, thank you for watching! Stoke about the recent growth

[@gaudiofpwnazz]

You're awesome brother, I love you and your content. I hope you find lots of success and can truly help others change for the better.

[@jamieholmes1287]

What a wonderful mind and articulate concise. Brilliant way to share your gift of understanding. We need you thank you for your selfless contributions to the good of humanity. I want to share my mind too but I don't know how to organize it all like you so efficiently and beautifully do. Wow. I'm a forever fan! Underlying...I heard nothing but pure good intentions pouring from your heart. With a deeply engrained intent tattooed on your soul. Purity through karmic understanding is something you have found. humanity needs your precious jewels of priceless wisdom so they can help confirm the messages they are receiving through coincidences and cosmic clues that indeed there soul has led them wisely to the truth. Truth is felt because it has a vibrational frequency pattern that is recognized easily when one becomes or embodies the truth and trains the mind to find alternatives to lying and creating false realities they themselves did not actually experience there for is not in the mind as a memory. One can also sense the vibrations of factual occurances being recalled by another vs the energetic signatures one creates around himself when he is creating from imagination or memorized script. One can even sense the vibrations of false information before it is even thought up by the thinker intending to stear your mind away from the areas that make them uncomfortable to focus on. I learned there is an entire hidden world of truth and hidden information you can unlock the door to by doing all you can to speak truthful words only. The thing moms used to say about not saying anything if you don't have anything nice has more power than we could of ever known. Don't say words that can harm you or others. It made me more gentle with delicate information that is uncomfortable to share. Tell others of thier negative traits as you yourself would want to be informed of something others didn't like about you. Kindly and gently. Calmly and with compassion

[@higheryibes4430]

After power of now, life became a magical Synchronicity and i am sure u showing up on my feeds and the 100% resonance with u shows i am on the way to my next stage. Thank u for everything u do.

[@franciscosanchez3194]

Bro... I get to that point living on NYC.. Understanding my on culture, my roots and ultimately human being... Still on this awake moment where I'm figuring out my new being based on my old behaviors and beliefs tho... I'm a martial Artist fan of bruce lee like he says " Absorb what is useful, Discard what is not, Add what is uniquely your own"... . Thanks to share your thoughts and knowledge I really appreciate it 🙏

[@doomduck9073]

I really agree with that part about persons unconscious sending resources to the conscious aligned with who they really are. I love writing fiction, and sometimes when I'm brainstorming ideas, there comes an idea that just speaks so true to who I am and connects so perfectly into the place of the story I intend for it, it almost feels like magic. I've always assumed, that this was an element of my unconscious coming to the surface, one that I am not as aware of as I would think, however, it's only upon close inspection of various things that define me, that ill realize where that idea may have been introduced into my unconscious.

[@arthurcallahan4735]

HIGHLY recommend everybody who watched this curate their feed. What do I mean? Select "not interested and "Don't recommend channel" to any content that is not focused on clarity, skills or people you want to LIVE like. Less politics, less programming, less BS. More content which encourages you like Dan Koe's Or install an extension that hides YT extensions so you HAVE to SEARCH for the content you want to view. Such a good thing to do. Gives you more control over what is being programmed to you.

[@HunterChrisp]

Thanks for the content bro. Podcast at work then action after work. Appreciate your work

[@noahhradek5426]

In every corporation I've worked at you can't be yourself when it conflicts with the organization.

[@denvervaillancourt193]

I Don't believe it takes years to reinvent yourself. It may depend on your age, but just as muscle memory is, if you gained 20 pounds of muscle in 3 years time then take a year off and lose that mass, you'll gain it back in a fraction of the time once you return. Our body and mind recognize pattern very easily. Just have to create the good habit's and kill the bad ones. you can have a healthy mind with an unhealthy body, but it takes more energy, get a healthy body, workout eat less processed foods and sugars, this will already get you halfway there to a healthy mind.

[@tommyvasilev5012]

Such a treasure to know these things...

[@CYSYS8993]

Society more than judges you. The judging party are somehow automatically in the right and you are expected to reflect on yourself and change without question. Absolutely no exceptions. Anything other than that is considered being "defensive" at best or in worse cases a narcissist who refuses to accept responsibility and weren't "self-aware". It's ALWAYS your fault.

[@lacitafleming]

This is super helpful. Thank you Dan.

[@somosagricultura]

You always are "your self". And also you can have different "modes", depending on the situation in which you find yourself.

[@cyberlevelvision]

This is some very powerful discussion. Priceless

[@RayVitoles]

There have been many times that i m conscious about my unconscious way of living.I think why did i do that i don't even agree with that,or why i keep thinking of sth even though i know its false.Its kind of eerie when you realise that you lost control of who you are.And its hard to be yourself in a world that wants order

[@RussellClausse]

Mr koe you said that your content isnt genius... give yourself more credit, at least personally, because what you preach is absolutely original and very eye opening stuff. Theres infinite amount of things that i can learn from you 💯 thanks for being the man you are

[@TheTimeOfThePlace]

No you CAN, be yourself. You just can’t sell out while doing it.

[@coscorrodrift]

The walking tip is something I'm doing lately as well. I used to not like to walk (well, to say that I didn't like to walk), but I don't remember where that came from. Probably from being forced to do it, or to preferring cars and riding even as a passenger in cars. But lately I've been walking a bit and I enjoy it and it does have this "alone time" effect that I can't get even when alone in my room (because I'm not really alone, social Media is there on my many screens, and family is on other rooms in the house). I think in my particular case I probably ought to spend more time with other people and cultivate relationships instead of taking more numerical time to myself but you do have a point in that i probably ought to take more real alone time for myself instead of these half-alone half-connected life of scrolling

[@julietavelazquez3378]

I recently found your channel and i wanted to say thank you for the immense valuable content you bring to us. The way you articulate yourself is beyond understanding.

[@DanKoeTalks]

I appreciate you Julieta

[@happyhonda427]

Its truly amazing to see how many lives you touch positively.

[@dieselphiend]

Conflict and resolution is the source of Everything. The very first conflict, is still ongoing. That's the conflict between the expansion(unconsciousness) of the universe, from 'The Big Bang', and the contraction or condensation of the universe from gravity (consciousness). Everything that the universe holds, is held in tension. Tension is probably the source of all energy.

[@taotetyrone]

Thank you for the reminder and divine insights. I’m ready to stop resisting the game I’ve created from internalized subconscious limitations. 🙏🏾

[@JamilJarvis]

Insane value Dan, that framework on focus is an amazing concept. To be yourself REALLY does take being with yourself. You're killing the game right now

[@mariorodriguez219]

I’ve been working out since I was in high school, pretty big and haven’t taken PEDs. I don’t put up crazy numbers in conventional lifts like SBD but I’m pretty strong in calisthenics/curls. Have been thinking of starting a fitness KZbin channel for awhile but just don’t pull the trigger due to feeling like no one would watch

[@jdshotit]

What a great video, it’s sad because the people that really need it won’t watch it

[@PedroPerez-sw9un]

Excellent video as always. Excited to see your next video about the Matrix !!

[@PittySinn]

I definitely appreciate seeing someone with the same mindset, outlook, and conscious🙏🏽 defiantly subscribed and can’t wait for more 💚

[@dj_timoy]

The Hawkin's Scale is a beautiful rendering of the different "baseline stages" we can have, from shame to enlightenment, it's useful to give clarity to where our baseline is compared to what's basically possible. Some call this baseline stage our "core vibration" and, as you're saying that we can have different temporal states, our vibration can be anywhere on the scale at any time while our "core vibration" remains as that consistent baseline stage. Raising our core vibration is moving our baseline up. For me, a practice that gives me significant results is the practice of gratitude. Comparing my approach with yours, it seems like the "practice of gratitude" is the process of becoming aware with an intention to expand

Delightful. Thank you from Asperger's planet 🙏

[@artofksv]

I have become a shell I have lost my thoughts I’m stuck in loneliness I strive to replace that loneliness with more empty activities ,people , things …how do I look into myself and understand this how do I learn to be okay with it and finally become anti-fragile where I don’t need external distractions to be a happier individual that I want to be

[@YasinNabi]

I love this video and share this quote with you too, “A successful man is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks others have thrown at him.” -David Brinkley..

[@StephaniRoberts]

Brilliant quote. 💯 Resonates. Thanks for sharing!

[@PsycheZen]

If you ever come to Brazil, talk to me. I´ve been stuck on your videos for a while and it makes sense. Would love to sit down and just be. Brazil! ;)

[@CondredgeDole]

Your final bit of advice about watching the way our egos respond to what we see on social - the story our egos weave and the way we force-fit everything to fit our existing mental model is VERY interesting. Would love to hear you talk more about that sometime. How do you gain the awareness to see this happening? Seems automatic.

[@nab-88]

A manager once told me to be less like me. I left.

[@Star-fe8ch]

Deep! Thank you 😊

[@TheXrythmicXtongue]

Even those who are not "the masses," being yourself also doesn't exist because like 95% of who we are is learned behavior. It's better advice to say, BE WHO YOU GENUINELY WANT TO BE.