Dates and relationships in Jewish ultra-orthodox communities | "A Match Made In Heaven" (2014)

[@reecee2941]

It seems the women must settle, the men are awkward and bring little to the table. It’s tragic the women are being told they are asking for too much when it’s the bare minimum.

[@iamyourtugabro8325]

LOL, that is exactly the opposite of what I think in western world standards. It kind of shows how diverse the world is.

[@nicoleb1581]

I live next to a huge orthodox community and have so many questions about how the economics and norms of their community work. But any questions or critique is labeled anti semitic regardless of intent or general curiosity to have a greater understanding of my neighbors. It’s weird to be in a community where so many want nothing to do with you socially especially because I’ve been told my whole life that segregation is wrong.

[@josephpack7315]

What are the women bringing to the table?

[@iamyourtugabro8325]

@@nicoleb1581 Agreed and for some reason that segregation is still our fault. What are we suppose to do? Break into their homes and force them to talk with people whose customs are "hedious" (maybe I overeacted) to them?

[@salinal2783]

@@josephpack7315 ......THEY are the main supporters, the bread winners, of the whole family!!! Didn’t you get that from the video. Almost every guy asked the question several times of the girl, are they willing to go to work so he can just go and study the Tora!! All men do NOT work in that community. They go to “school” to study the Bible while the wife goes to work to support the family and then raises the kids, cleans the house, cooks all the meals and etc etc etc. I personally believe they bring almost 90% of the assets into the marriage!!!

[@mightyoak11111]

I must say that this is more authentic than any dating reality show I’ve ever seen.

[@ayylmao2190]

Note that the vast majority of us are not like this at all. These ppl are basically the amish of Judaism

[@mightyoak11111]

@@ayylmao2190 I meant more reflective of the values of ultra Orthodox Judaism than a secular reality tv dating show is reflective of American values. More so, I felt that the individuals being filmed were not as influenced in their actions and words by the knowledge that they were being filmed even though we know it always happens to a certain degree.

[@ayylmao2190]

@@mightyoak11111 I know i was just clarifying, some people think weird things about us thats all :)

[@ImehSmith]

RIGHT

[@freeto9139]

@@ayylmao2190 So much pressure from their parents; that was hard, and made it harder for them to be confident ... Even tho' they kept saying "G-d willing"

[@sparkyplug5594]

First guy, the Scribe, is sad. He will never be a good partner to anyone, as he has an issue with his self confidence. He will be looking to his partner to constantly validate him and massage his ego.

[@SuperMbprincess]

ohhhh i cant stand that he would be such an emotional vampire, he would drain any women f all her life

[@eleanorcrawford9978]

@@SuperMbprincess YEP👍

[@Sldindpunjab]

He looks like an abusive partner.

[@MzClementine]

I don't know in the end. Him leaving his religious law studies. I think that he thinks he lost the love of his life because of how serious and overly religious he is. She may have planted his feet in the ground.

[@Linda-vx4fn]

I felt that Estis mother was too manipulative and pushy in forcing her daughter to make a decision. I think the tears she squeezed out were from her own personal frustration and that she was not so concerned with Estis happiness (as she claimed,) as with Esti marrying the guy because she was embarrassed that her daughter was still dating and she was scared of people finding out, being as they're ultra orthodox. I sure hope the marriage goes well for the couple though. What was the lawyer lady's name? What a beautiful person she is! What a shame that her reason for divorcing her husband was not made known by the dating agency! She divorced him because he did not read the Torah, she did it so soon,so she would not be pregnant and have to stay with him, because she said she wanted a husband that would read the Torah to the children. A beautiful, gentle, intelligent sweet lady and she is bypassed because the dating agency arent doing the job right!

[@mimimosa259]

I can’t believe how invested I was in all of their dates. I really wanted to know how their stories ended up

[@matthewmensah8703]

YES, me too, I was glued to it

[@Firgunlifestyle]

Sameee! 😂

[@Mrs.Pena-1]

Me three 😂

[@PW-le6cr]

Really happy for the two young ones, I could tell right away they should be together

[@cpbeauvoir]

While I want to respect everyone's culture, I can't help but notice how the first man, the Scribe, is so full of himself. Also, my heart goes out to the divorced young lady. She is beautiful, smart, capable, and so loving. Her energy is so soothing and I hope she meets the man of her dreams.

[@catfan5169]

Every culture has people in it who are full of themselves. I think that's universal.

[@dotheyfloat9961]

He's not really, he's actually quite insecure. Just comes across as arrogant... but notice he asks her if she was disappointed a few times

[@catfan5169]

@@dotheyfloat9961 Aww. I wish him the best. He does seem like a sensitive soul.

[@72586jejones]

I think he really wants to be married but would do better in a regular dating scenario. Dating should be like trying on shoes. Find a pair that is comfy, that looks good on you and that you can wear forever. Might take a few rounds. You might wear a pair for a bit and like them at first but they might suck a few months later. Their culture expects them to just jump into marriage questions on the first date. I think he is struggling more with honoring his traditions while wanting to do what he feels would be best for him.

[@andreaskuckuck5829]

I think he clarified it very well at the second dating, that he is very insecure, and open about the whole dating process and in fact he is obviously very rebellious and worried to what this may lead for both of them because he wants the best for the both of them. I think he is a very witty and sensitive person who is just looking for a girl who acknowledges and appreciates that, and being witty herself.

[@acerrubrum5749]

He doesn't want his feelings to get in the way but he wants her to have her mind blown by him. Hmmm...

[@sweettreatsoverload4296]

I can see why the first guy was single. He judged her on a four minute conversation.

[@emmcee662]

“Am I the King”? I would run a mile from a guy with a narcissistic attitude like that! Marriage to him would be awful - he seems very egotistical and controlling

[@Whisperwomaneq2]

@@sweettreatsoverload4296 I totally agree he is way too full of himself.

[@Whisperwomaneq2]

@@emmcee662 Mr know it all full of himself blew it on the 1st date. lol

[@acerrubrum5749]

In the end his mind is blown and she says no.

[@elizabethfeffer8285]

I fell out my chair laughing when the first guy said, I want to know did I blow her mind. Dude! You talked to her for like 5 minutes 😂.

[@sainiamarjeet]

true i was also asking same question tht wat is guy thinking abt himself ? is he james bond or casanova tht he can blow any women's mind with his 5min talk or looks

[@coconutsoursop8539]

Hot mess!

[@jayjaylecourt9431]

Hes egotistic

[@kathybrem880]

He. Was such a dweeb!

[@marti-greciaodalyz77]

some people get blown of mind in fewer minutes than that.

[@ellasaenz9653]

I really hope the divorceed-law student girl get someone that values, respects, appreciates and loves her beyond culture and beliefs.

[@Realalma]

Someone outside of this misogynistic cult hopefully.

[@eliavgordon2108]

Perhaps a good Modern Orthodox man .🔯🕎🇮🇱

[@sally9352]

​@@RealalmaWhat makes it misogynistic?

[@jorge-7121]

​@@Realalma Holding people accountable for their actions it's not misoginistic. Stop throwing your buzz words around.

[@jorge-7121]

I think the problem is she needs to learn to value, respect, appreciate and love someine. That's the problem.

[@lucyneste7759]

feel so sorry for the divorced girl, smart, pretty and nice and they all make her feel worthless or like she has some kind of defect:( I wish her all the best

[@stephj9378]

She'll be fine.God has someone better for her.

[@ElaAusDemTal]

@@stephj9378... Exactly ! I met my husband through mutual friends, and I wasn't actively looking for Mr Right - it just happens when you're least expecting it.

[@stephj9378]

@@ElaAusDemTal yep!

[@Lilliz91]

Realistically, the more married you are statistically more likely you are to go through a divorce again.

[@Gobi512]

Some men might be intimidated as she has had sex and they are virgins. If he is insecure he might worry that he doesn't know what he's doing. If he gets a virgin then she won't know the difference.

[@martinbryan137]

That mom is so melodramatic it's hilarious. "Next, on Real Hasidic Housewives"

[@BrilliantDesignOnline]

Brilliant

[@seekay1876]

I would 100% watch this!

[@Bangbangshelly]

I mean, I’ve heard about jewish moms and their guilt trips, but wow.... that was next level. ‘ I want you to be happy, but hurry up and decide if you want to spend the rest of your life with this boy, you’ve had three dates already!’ No pressure.

[@suztexas]

The manipulation by drama, she let it slip that she cares what her friends think!

[@beagledog2001]

@@suztexas she did, didn't she? That was something! She is SO melodramatic!

[@reinamelanizadavibe8890]

The pressure that these individuals have to endure for their “family” is tremendous. After 3 dates for 45 mins or less to figure out if they want to marry someone.. whoo

[@knmplans]

My husband and I met by accident, but we still handled dating this way. The day we met we ended knowing exactly what the other wanted out of life. During that dating period we met each others families and they got to know us on our own and together. We met each others friends and they gave opinions. There was no "well maybe I want this" or "I'm not so sure" it was all "this is what I want and expect". We've been together for 18 years now and no regrets.

[@lzlz21213]

Beautiful

[@kellyismyname777]

Nothing is by accident! God has planned everything for everyone! We tend to think, as you put it, "accidental" or "coincidental"...because we are limited. God is not limited! Have a wonderful day, may God continue to bless your union! Amen 🙏🏼

[@chetyoubetya8565]

But that was you and your choice it's when you are given no choice that there becomes an issue.Who tells an 18 yr old girl go on three dates then marry the person for a lifetime.

[@sally9352]

​@@chetyoubetya8565 It's a different culture. I respect it.

[@luv2travel2000]

@knmplans Beautiful. ❤❤❤

[@ejazamir1639]

Calling someody "damaged goods" just because they're divorced is a disgusting way to label a women. Did nobody teach them that it takes two people to be compatable!.

[@reema-qr5lt]

Yea it’s really sad it’s just what ppl think which we should stop giving a shit about.

[@paridecorsetti7022]

isn't everything else disgusting as well?

[@amariluna]

@@paridecorsetti7022 Yes, absolutely.

[@FilmerOfBobcats]

@False Profit And yet they are! They have probably learned some very bad habits that a new wife would not appreciate.

[@YSD99999]

@@paridecorsetti7022 what exactly do you mean that you find “everything else disgusting”. Please, explain.

[@bazoena]

Esty and Ariel were the best match...you could see they liked each other. And they genuinely looked happy on their wedding day!

[@karinadacunha1337]

Ariel wasn't sure, even in his wedding he looked puzzled. Guess he was kind of forced.

[@analiucrose9682]

@@karinadacunha1337 that kid is stilll in love with his mom. his mom: ""who is she? is she prettier than me?"" that's utterly innapropriate.

[@karinadacunha1337]

@@analiucrose9682 yes, I didn't think about it but for sure. How sad. Also in the religious communities if you are gay, you have to marry and have children and have a double life aside. I thought he might be gay too, or just not prepared ( too young) for this adult family life. Poor kid.

[@analiucrose9682]

Let's just pray esty don't have problems with her mother-in-law or Ariel for that matter💕

[@faizaanwar3662]

@@analiucrose9682 no it’s not it’s a innocent joke

[@doncelladurant7221]

As a woman, I am appreciative that I had never been pressured into marriage by my parents or my community! Just realized that in that aspect I am lucky!

[@elenataylor4611]

I am from secular Jewish family and my parents were trying to set me up,but I didn't like the guys.They never pressured me to get married and at a right time I've met my husband. We're happily married for 17 years.

[@MrAceman82]

I agree with you no one should pressure into marriage...but on the other hand, there are too many single men and women above 30ties, and complain they could not find the perfect match. Even worse, cannot leave offspring. Regarding divorces, they should be accepted only in case of domestic violence, or cheating. I laughed at my friends when they told me they wished to marry earlier, now I am saying the same. The family gives you the direction and purpose of your life. The family is a sacred thing.

[@melissasnow2980]

I agree with you. No one should have to pay, or go through this much. At the end of the day, men are the lucky ones to have a woman in their life. Women are stronger than this. The patriarchy stinks and we ARE ALL TIRED bc it is ruining much(wars, earth)! Women are so much stronger and better than this. Oh wait! Am I being too opinionated. I wish one of those men got in my face bc I would tell them where they can go!! This is oppression plain and simple.

[@MrAceman82]

@@melissasnow2980 How having a family and leaving offspring can be oppressive?

[@doncelladurant7221]

@@MrAceman82 I think many people have wishful thinking, but are not willing to put in the work in healing and being the best version of themselves when the right person comes around. People are more pressed about time than the quality of the relationship, which is not healthy. The right person will find you when you are ready!!

[@karenkingrey6142]

I wish this could have been a series. It was a wonderful glimpse into another culture!

[@56username]

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[@PW-le6cr]

Needs to be a show

[@kristinabrand8807]

Her: I want a strong man that tells me what to do. Him: I don’t know what to do I will ask the Rabbi. 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@HoiaPolloia]

I think he sensed she was not sincere and just saying what she thought he wanted her to say. She just wanted to get married. But he didn't read the one he fell in love with very well, she never seemed interested at all.

[@SumeyyaOcalHeyBigSpenderr]

LMAO🤦‍♀️

[@rnarzu]

I wasn't sure I heard that- Thank you. So telling and humorous.

[@PaulSmith-pr7pv]

😂

[@BlimpMcGee]

I was about to comment on that, he told her he wanted someone who didn't need HIM to her side to direct their every step and then ended saying I'll ask the Rabbi lol

[@mscookiecabana]

I like Ariel's parents - they seem to be the chillest & most level headed people in the show. His dad was cracking jokes & even said he was still so young to be married - which is completely valid!

[@camillaallegrucci1311]

Yeah, I really like Ariel's father. His mother is nice, too. I got the impression that they really tried to make Esti feel at ease. Her father, on the other hand, when meeting Ariel was a bit ... too direct, maybe? I would have kept that part about him not being suited to be a shochet for myself.

[@labotraduc8448]

I also really liked Ariel and his parents. Ariel himself looks like a really nice young man, very good natured. And they are beautiful the three of them.

[@PlateletRichGel]

Ariel almost lost a gem, that girl was way over his level. He had a good matchmaker. I think ( I want to call her ETSY LOL) esty's mom did right, Ariel needed some pushing to close the deal. Loved that Jewish momma guilt she laid on her taking her to the grave and crying. Epic JMG

[@henessy.-.45]

I agree... Im not in any way judging the religion or traditions, but I felt bad the pressure was so immense from his mother in law for them to marry.. I couldn't imagine that at 18

[@BlessicaBlimpson]

@@PlateletRichGel I am low key offended by the ppl coming for estys mom in these comments lolol I’m Sephardic and my dad grew up orthodox and Esty and her mom remind me of a lot of my aunties/cousins… just confident queens with killer eyeliner and emotionally authentic dramatics

[@lillywang6333]

I'm pretty sure the first guy is considered difficult even by their own standards.

[@mamamememoo]

He is what we call an Analyser personality. Overthinker.

[@incumbentvinyl9291]

@@mamamememoo He is a puppet. He gets this from those elders who tell him how to think and what to do.

[@EmptyMan000]

@@incumbentvinyl9291 More like a Putz.

[@purpleandred7]

He definitely needs to mature more. I can't imagine him saying some of the things he said with the expectation of finding a girl to marry. He has a very warped view of a relationship, let alone a marriage, and he needs more time to grow and mature. His views resemble more like how a puppy will love you, not a woman.

[@flyingazorian]

This video has been an eye-opener for me. It's great to learn about other cultures. Thank you for posting this documentary.

[@sevp.8185]

"We're 11 children, not too much" oh boi that is a culture clash, I almost fell from my bed

[@iamyourtugabro8325]

If you stopped using a condom, I highly doubt you would be typing that. LOL

[@druid139]

Like an old Irish Catholic family.

[@marsukarhu9477]

Yeah! In school people thought our family was in some kind of cult because we had 'so many' children... and I have 2 sisters!! But all! the other kids' families had 1 or 2 kids...

[@Armistead_MacSkye]

Those poor women ...

[@TeeLeeMills1]

😂😂

[@teganness8089]

So much stress! You have to marry someone so fast but you'd better pick the perfect person so you don't divorce because then no one will want you. So. Much. Stress!!!

[@anonymouspineapple8595]

I like how they're supposed to decide whether or not to spend their life with someone after having only spent a total of two hours with them.

[@imeldaflores6800]

😂

[@churblefurbles]

@@anonymouspineapple8595 The new way isn't working is it.

[@churblefurbles]

@Hugy Ugy Easy to be smug but in the secular world in the next 10 years almost half prime age women will be single, basically civilizational failure. Who's really stupid here.

[@10010x0x0x01101XX0X1]

@@anonymouspineapple8595 at the end of the day all husbands are the same and all wifes are the same. ppl think having to find your spouse after a few dates when you're 20 is stressful. what's stressful are ppl waiting till they're at the end of their thirties to pick the perfect person who doesn't exist.

[@yellowtulip4105]

The 1st case, she says: Tell me about yourself. He starts speaking about his rabbi! He seems insecure, and gives out little but asks a lot. This system isn't easy.

[@marti-greciaodalyz77]

Right! That's the first thing he says abut himself. So that I thought he was saying he was a Rabbi.

[@EmptyMan000]

If the man had any chutzpah he would just be honest with himself and tell his interests. What a putz.

[@abckail04]

@@EmptyMan000 A

[@QuinnieMae]

The mother and daughter talking after her date was absolutely BEAUTIFUL. The mother was SO focused on her daughter and it was just a beautiful moment.

[@Lee935]

Time stamp?

[@bubblegumbp9050]

@@Lee935 I think it's 14:47 they were mentioning

[@tikusblue]

It was lovely seeing the younger man talking to his parents too, they seem like a very sweet and loving family.

[@alenemarie]

As the mother of a beautiful 26 year-old young woman, I was brought to tears seeing that relationship play out. It also made me wish that my culture supported their marriages and their young people like this. The protection of “mind body spirit” by a god and family is a wonderful set of relationships.

[@VitaKet]

I guess you are ignoring where she basically said decide by 3 dates to marry the guy or not....

[@CynthiaSusanOrtiz]

I come from an Orthodox Sephardic Jewiish family on my fathers side, he was raised in the religion but my mother was not, he met my mother who was African American, he did not practice and left all together but still wanted us married off to Orthodox men, I was about these women's age when he bought one to our home to introduce to me without me knowing, his boss and him had it all planned. I was living home as most of us do and I had nothing to do with it. I was livid to say the least. Now I am 56 and divorced but I would never marry into something that would make me unhappy. My marriage was my choice and the divorce was mutual.

[@girisha_laxmi11]

Me same my Mom married me to Orthodox Jewish Man when i was 30 and i have Jewish origin but as im in Spain assimilated to Catholicism i love Shabbat and High Holidays but disliked to Live with a man hardly know i divorced last year after 8 years and my mum feels betrayed. I came out of coma with 29 for a multiorganical failure after hospital she had all plan my now ex husband arrival and the wedding. I understand the feelings you cannot know one personality in few dates you need time to bond and grow in love.I had forced marriage not out of love and unilateral divorce they didnt want me to divorce.

[@cynthiasommac]

I am tracing my family tree and I am pretty sure I also have Sepharidic Jewish blood. I do not have a religion as yet but I feel really close to Judaism for some reason, I cannot explain it. You have a great name, by the way :o)

[@EmKnowsThings]

Are there many mixed race ultra-orthodox? I ask this legitimately as I live by A LOT and I have never seen any. That’s neat if so- I didn’t realize they were open to interracial relationships. Hell, I had a boy tell me his mother would “kill him” if he brought home a Catholic girl of the same race. 🤣

[@Sarafimm2]

@@EmKnowsThings I think this show is from Israel where mixed race would be rare. It's also from 2014 so I'd love to see an update.

[@adibahimika6612]

Do you have kids ?

[@tampaguy2395]

Etsi's Mom: "Pack your bags, we are going on a guilt trip"

[@DClean]

1 more date and then marriage or else youre never allowed to see him again

[@Niphredyl]

That was very manipulative on her and his mother's side.

[@maurahilgar1586]

I can't believe how she made the whole thing about herself and her feelings!

[@InTecknicolour]

her mom probably want esty and ariel to have kids without touching each other too. yikes.

[@tinaakasha]

So much tears...not a Kleenex on site 😂

[@peanutforever2191]

Esty's mom is a nightmare. Ariel's parents seem really likable. The extreme orthodox dude has no idea what he wants, whatsoever. The divorced lawyer doesn't deserve all the slack she gets for being divorced after only five months, and her friend is adorable.

[@Tunisgirl1982]

The problem is as they called it damaged goods. A phrase I’m grown up with especially if you come from religious backgrounds and they are orthodox. She is not a virgin anymore and many man who never where married and especially their families will not like that. If he was divorced too things will get easier but for her as a woman you are less worth without that piece of skin. Nasty but true and you are potentially seen as trouble maker because you had a failed marriage.

[@peanutforever2191]

@@Tunisgirl1982 Oh, I get it. I mean I understand the concept. I just find it highly unfair based on the little she revealed about her failed marriage.

[@Tunisgirl1982]

@@peanutforever2191 the fact she is a woman is enough, woman are seen as less than man. And she mentioned that her ex-husband did lie about religious aspects he said he is doing and practicing but the reality was he didn’t, well unfortunately the majority of people don’t care if it was her fault or the husband. As a woman you will carry the blame anyway

[@sheelahales4738]

To be called damaged goods because she was divorced, was terrible.

[@TheSean7564]

YUP!

[@thomasmattson2389]

I thought the girl that got married was very practical and level headed. I loved how she said we are not the first to get married, implying that they will get through it like anyone else.

[@lightsinthesky4989]

"I want a woman with enough intelligence to be complete without her man....I want to be at her side at all times and for it not to be the same without me." They are polar opposite philosophies lol

[@plantdiva8472]

@Cillian Murphy smart enough to be complete without her man, but in love so much with him, that life would just not be the same without him, or each other! I think that's beautiful!

[@austyn5004]

@@plantdiva8472 exactly. I totally understood what he was trying to convey!

[@nfvy8111]

He's saying he wants a woman who wants him but doesnt need him.

[@AB-nb2ic]

Clear as day... He wants to be "The King", wants her to be emotionally dependent to feed his weak ego, and he's trying to be slick and say it in another way

[@Sarahh185]

@@AB-nb2ic said with such clarity 🧐👍 I think it’s admirable that he has chosen to further his studies. I think his friend’s wife gave the most honest advice... she also had some very valid points :)

[@jessiross84]

I loved when the douchy dude on the second date said the girl wasn't honest and all that and she just looked at him and said, " So, what are you really looking for?" She seems religious yet fun and outgoing and needs a strong man who is truly confident enough to appreciate her. I haven't gotten to the end yet, but I hope she runs!

[@juliegreene1844]

Yeah, he wants an equal partner who will not fall apart when he is not there, and she wants a confident man who can provide leadership and stability - take charge attitude but not walk all over her. They are both talking but not listening to each other. I also like them together, but sometimes, these things don't align. Better to call it quits now than down the line.

[@PaulSmith-pr7pv]

👆

[@bevs9995]

He decided he's scared of her cause he's overly concerned about women who are "bossy." My impression was exactly the same as yours. I think she was too emotionally self-reliant for him. But he'll eventually figure out that most women will be that way.

[@1262146]

Hes such a douche bag and he's not even handsome, but thinks hes a big deal of a guy. Hope she runs 🏃

[@hollyw7410]

They don't want to waste time after 3 dates. Y'all I wasted years dating the wrong guys.

[@Emerald707]

Lol that’s the point.

[@hollyw7410]

@@Emerald707 I know, it is just crazy only 3 dates. And what 45 minute dates, you are not even comfortable enough to fart infront of a person yet!

[@cattycorner8]

haven't we all!!!

[@makepeacewithyourbrokenpieces]

@@hollyw7410 I’ve never done that around any man.

[@hollyw7410]

@@makepeacewithyourbrokenpieces I have been married for 8 years. We have 4 boys and burps and farts happen . . . Often.

[@biking-viking-claus-andersen]

I am not Jewish, or religious in anyway for that matter. I was very gripped by this beautifully made documentary though. The director does an excellent job at documenting this group of people in a very non judgemental way. Something that many other documentarists fail to do, when filming. I looked up the director and is surprised to see that he has only done a total of two movies. I hope that we will get more from this guy in the future, as this was absolutely brilliant.

[@MemphisBrown-wy9es]

totally agree, kiwi female here, this was awesomely made, as a free woman with choices this was mind blowing, the pressure, couldn't stop watching, all the best to these young adults, just wow!❤

[@YulRun]

Despite their beliefs and upbringing, etc. I think a key take-away anyone could take away from their approach to dating is how upfront and honest they all are about what they're looking for out of the relationship and life, not something you see much anymore.

[@carmenl163]

I actually found that they didn't address anything really important, you know, the real questions life will throw at you. How they want to spend their days and get money and whether to allow children to watch tv or not seems rather trivial to me (and they had no consensus on that last issue).

[@James-gy8sj]

@@carmenl163 They all came from the same community, if you pay close attention... when they are match making the first thing they ensure is that their partner is orthodox, meaning they already share same or similar values. They are not meeting / dating with other partners that come from extreme polar sets of perspectives or values.

[@carmenl163]

@@James-gy8sj You're right, I suppose they have a very narrow perspective on life. Since having individual opinions and preferences are frowned upon, these are the real questions for them.

[@James-gy8sj]

@@carmenl163 Having large unsubstantiated opinions and preferences is not healthy. I applaud their community's prudence in guiding their families to generating meaning in life.

[@carmenl163]

@@James-gy8sj Well, I guess not everyone has the same view on what we consider to be meaningful in life. For me, living without questioning makes their community one that has large unsubstantiated opinions and preferences. It's the tradition that rules, not their own personal experiences. Personally, I don't believe in a ' one size fits all ' community.

[@soapiesoap5649]

I actually saw the first guy more scared to make the wrong choice and marry the wrong person and hiding behind him being “picky” I think he was dragging it out because he wasn’t ready.

[@mud5377]

I'm finding it funny how so many comments seem to have him all figured out when we've probably got even less of an idea about him than these people get to learn of one another on these job interview style "dates". Quite funny when ya think about it, dating can be quite daunting sometimes and all of these people jumping to conclusions based on such little information is a great example of why that is!

[@Turquoisefire]

I agree! I actually feel sorry for him, he seems sort of tormented:(

[@emveetu3672]

@@mud5377 Exactly. People are looking at it from their individual perspectives. Their perspectives are built from their experiences and environments and in the secular world, not an Orthodox community. They don't understand that if they truly are to understand him, they need to see what he sees but from his perspective. Many people are incapable of putting themselves in somebody else's shoes.

[@mud5377]

@@emveetu3672 the amount of people who like to preach or lecture others on "how it is" while simultaneously projecting their own inadequacies, while disturbing at times, makes it incredibly easy to identify people to avoid these days.

[@GRACEiisCOOL]

@@Turquoisefire omg same! i couldn’t articulate the word until i read ur comment and tormented is exactly what i see! from the pressure and expectation. hope he finds that peace soon

[@CraigsOverijse]

I’m glad it worked out for Etsy I felt so sorry for her the pressure from her mother was immense

[@dianapeek6936]

Good heavens, her Mother is off the scale.

[@blisshuthart2360]

Esty is Disgusting.

[@sweetsugar1014]

@@dianapeek6936 Yep!! More worried about what people would think about 'her' than she is her daughter's life.

[@Elizuchka]

Yes and when she says "Are you thinking of what it does to my emotions?" So many manipulative and toxic behaviours.. I was like : no-one else is responsible for your emotions other than yourself dear crazy lady. Deal with your fears alone and let your daughter breath 😒

[@user-ln6pu7kq9j]

I always wonder how people manage to get the permission to film such personal areas of people’s lives. I love these types of documentaries. They provide an amazing insight into the lives of others.

[@56username]

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[@AmazingAmazing12345]

Obviously a jew film company

[@101spacemonkey]

Honestly with attitudes like that after the 1st date he wont find a girl who wants him and if he does she will probably be unhappy. Did he blow her mind, is he the king? Bring that ego down. Thats wild.

[@ohmeowzer1]

Yeah he acted like an idiot...

[@heru-deshet359]

He was raised that way.

[@HelloNewMoon]

He’ll wind up an orthodox incel

[@WYGTYA]

@@HelloNewMoon lmao that’s funny af, an orthodox incel but he actually sounds like a future incel.

[@caitlinsoliman1658]

Agree

[@lizarrrdbeth]

His writing in the beginning is impeccable. Gorgeous!!!

[@dianapeek6936]

Thats the only thing he can do. He should stick to it, because he's not a "proper" man!!

[@Tsubahi]

With a quill, too! 🙂

[@CozierStitches]

@@dianapeek6936 Fr might he might aswell get married to the pen! 😂😂

[@mrg8077]

That’s his profession. He’s a scribe.

[@frayinch]

Hell yes

[@marsukarhu9477]

I would LOVE to see an update to this. The crew visiting all the people and seeing what's up with them now in 2021.

[@mythandmuse]

@@neptunedoug wow her IG is not what I expected! it looks like maybe they left the community?

[@honey6571]

@@mythandmuse wow, i agree... i wonder how that happened

[@amaiaormazabal1879]

@@mythandmuse she must have because they are not allowed to use the internet

[@hengwin]

@@mythandmuse right? I had to do a double take.

[@kingan5412]

@@hengwin but she has pictures with Ariel so guess they are together. Also they have kids I guess

[@TheBombshellBabydoll]

This seems like an incredibly oppressive environment for women. The men keep saying they don't want a wife that basically has a mind of her own. I'd suffer greatly in a culture like this

[@lzlz21213]

Don't worry, you'll die alone or with whatever loser will settle for you

[@waterotter3625]

Agreed. They don't want a wife that challenges them to improve themselves and their relationships with God and other people. A marriage is a give and take, with both spouses being able to communicate and form a friendship with each other.

[@BlackStump172]

The second guy was not like that !

[@rh6625]

Come on, you can't see who really runs the show, makes the decisions?

[@hannagg9365]

I’m sorry, but did you MISS how incredibly OPINIONATED and independent these women are?!? There is absolutely no evidence of repression! These women live in an open country. They’re around the most secular of people. They CHOOSE their own path in life, and what it is they want. It seems as though you’d suffer greatly in any “culture” or society.

[@MadTeaMarie]

His fundamental misunderstanding of the courtship process boils down to a VERY powerful thing he said: "Yes, that you're mine. Even before I'm yours."" An incredibly beautiful and powerful phrase that I may not ever forget, but it SHOULD have been: "I'm yours even before you're mine."

[@madisonbaker7056]

I thought the same when he said that. Beautiful. But I wondered if there was a translation error. Lol.

[@stephanieritter4771]

I pray the divorced girl finds her happiness and Im thrilled for the couple that got married

[@caromitgeige]

I find much more problematic that he says „i am the king, always“

[@jennifergwen4754]

Well actually, in context it made sense and wasn't terrible. He felt that she was the one for him even before she felt that he was the one for her. That's what he was saying I think. It's a little confusing because the subtitles don't indicate who is saying what.

[@e701]

I think he actually said "That you're mine. That you're mine from before... that I am yours." kind of implying that she is his soulmate, since having a predestined soulmate is part of the belief. This video is a weird spliced together doc from a 3 part docuseries called a match made in heaven, you can find it elsewhere on youtube and it is much more enjoyable to watch than this version.

[@almostthere2516]

So, let me see if I got it right; If you instantly fall in love, it’s not love. You have maximum three dates to decide how the rest of your life will be. Soul and religion is most important, yet the first thing these guys ask about, is how the woman looks. The dudes study the Torah all day, so who will feed the kids? Who will pay the rent? A divorced woman is damaged goods, but what is a divorced man? A god?

[@solaccursio]

You got it right. Crazy stuff. How to destroy your life in the minimum amount of time.

[@khushboosirova4273]

well Judaism and religion that emerged from are derogatory to women most religions dont fall behind much but with modernization they changed that all

[@MrBetterThanYou77]

Just wait until you learn what's in the Talmud

[@uschurch]

Romantic love is a very recent requirement for marriage. Outside of the West and in past times most marriages are arranged and more of a societal and economic undertaking rather than one of personal fulfillment.

[@khushboosirova4273]

@@uschurch their is nothing wrong with arranged marriage but concept of concidering a women damaged or second hand just because she is a divorcee is determental and just because it happened for ages doesn't make it right

[@marianadnad1664]

I am glad that Yehezhel decided to leave his strict religious movement. It was very clear that he didn’t want to marry and had doubts about his religious beliefs.

[@Ken-iu2zp]

Wow, he left??

[@doroparker1702]

@@Ken-iu2zp read the last minutes of the report. He left and started law school. He will be thirty when he graduates but he has an excuse to get support until he is thirty. Maybe he will grow up more.

[@Ken-iu2zp]

@@doroparker1702 Wow....But you can see the immaturity in his eyes and face. He's not ready for marriage and fatherhood. That's clear....

[@user-wr3vt8uq4s]

The young rabbi student's wife was very smart. "You can't fall in love with someone in 2 dates." You have to live together and find out. Requires some faith and nerve to jump into that. Merav looked like the best catch. She's so smart and radiates this wonderful energy.

[@jasonwiley798]

The matchmaker is negotiating lol

[@SusanSez1]

Although several of these customs are foreign to me, I find it fascinating to learn of another culture, their mores, customs, ideas, etc. I really enjoyed this documentary. Excellent.

[@stephj9378]

ditto!

[@esebams6211]

Yes it’s nice understanding a little bit more of their culture. The fact that you could ‘date’ that many people was illuminating. It also shows that it’s not forced even if there nay be pressure from some sides. I do like that both the man and the woman know what they’re trying to get out of dating

[@ImehSmith]

Same here!!

[@kathybrem880]

It creeps me out

[@EmKnowsThings]

Imagine having to marry someone you just met, have a football team worth of children with him, take care of all of the kids and the house, and work to earn all of the money so he can just read the same religious texts all day long. 😂

[@moewilson4605]

Obviously designed by a man

[@heatherburrell8412]

No...... simple no.....I will give my heart to God...........but not my entire life’s effort to man

[@sueberry1974]

What a culture! An eye opener. The men don't work. The women have to work to take care of the men. All the men do is read the torah all year long

[@rose4490]

Sounds like a nightmare!

[@sararaftery3729]

@@justincase7848 but i read that these men who read the torah all day and not work are a real burden on israel. which i believe as its just like having a high number of unemployed. reading wont feed and house you

[@MoonChylde0622]

I got a chuckle out of the first guy when his cousin was essentially like "are you for real? You think you're all that and a bag of chips after one 10 minute date and she should be fawning all over you?" 🤣

[@robertm.-certifieddaytrade4939]

He acts like an egomaniac, She was the lucky one to ESCAPE his clutches!!!!

[@tikusblue]

@@robertm.-certifieddaytrade4939 it seemed like he was exaggerating to get a laugh out of her. It's his cousin after all.

[@ashfoyowa6689]

@Luxe Aux well duh he is a man

[@babkeebabkus8177]

@@robertm.-certifieddaytrade4939 this ethnicity has serious mind problems...I've never witnessed a more mentally challenged ethnic group....they overthink EVERYTHING and all appear to be neurotic...headacheville

[@captainharlock3998]

@@ashfoyowa6689 What the fuck? sexist much?

[@VictoriaGirlBC]

Merav is an amazing woman with an immense amount of EVERYTHING to offer a husband. She’s drop dead gorgeous, incredibly intelligent, passionate and caring. I’d love to see an update with her married to her dream man. This doc gets 10/10, it was brilliant.

[@Kat-nl5gh]

💯 agree 👏👏👏👏👏

[@PlateletRichGel]

she was also extremely picky, and you didn't get the other side of the story from her divorced husband.

[@VictoriaGirlBC]

@@PlateletRichGel she has every right to be picky when choosing her LIFE PARTNER. She is the entire package, she deserves a guy with equivalent attributes.

[@PlateletRichGel]

@@VictoriaGirlBC she has no "right" to be this way, She chooses to be too picky, as the matchmaker told her, and as I understand it she's alone. Marriage is not about waiting for the mythical perfect person who checkss all the perfect boxes, it's about willing to change yourself, not the other person. If one looks for the perfect person and waits for them, they'll be like Merav.

[@VictoriaGirlBC]

@@PlateletRichGel I don’t believe she’s looking for perfection, she’s unwilling to compromise on her three fundamental requirements. I completely understand, that’s her prerogative.

[@honeybeejourney]

I love this! I love the transparency they have with each other from the beginning. They ask hard questions right away. Now, I understand even better the influence the Jewish culture has had on me as I grew up in NY. Directness is key in these conversations. Thank you!

[@emveetu3672]

Agreed. I definitely get why things happen as they do in their culture much more now.

[@Celisar1]

That’s pure desperation. They have little to no time making a life determining decision. I don’t see that as positive in any way.

[@LethalLemonLime]

I mean they marry after two 30 minute dates. They better be asking the hard questions.

[@berenicececilia]

That's the key of a healthy relationship. Ask questions, answer them and get married after 3 dates 😑

[@11dagit]

I love it too. Life would be much simpler if people actually ASK hard questions and received HONEST answers

[@alyssabuffington6842]

I love how honest they are while dating- it’s so refreshing seeing people out their true wants and needs on the table right away

[@Braglemaster123]

Amen 🙏 ✡️✡️

[@PlateletRichGel]

I didn't think cooking was important until I dated a girl who could really cook. After that I was like "my wife has to be a good cook." The other thing is not boring and not a dummy. So I'm single. lol.

[@onecuet]

They have to. They only get 3 dates. Those dates are only 30 - 45 mins long each.

[@vanessaschwartz3271]

Incredibly immature to decide the person you want as a match for life in only three days! Like silly teens that only want to get married and not to do the actual work of getting to really know another human being and comprehend what goals and needs she/ha has! I feel sorry for couples that later are trapped when they didn't get the right partner because they haven't even seen the defects yet. To vomit your expectations like that is to not understand the process of love and to feel desperate instead of growing organically something beautiful that takes time and real effort!

[@vanessaschwartz3271]

@@PlateletRichGel Or maybe you are single because you can afford a massive kitchen to deserve such a talented wife! What you put into this world would come back as a boomerang!

[@dianac2596]

I enjoyed this video so much. It’s so interesting to see how different cultures, religion and people live their lives. With an open heart, God bless.

[@Lee935]

They have a very direct way of dating. I love it. They communicate the most important things first, then just marry.

[@MamaCat29]

I envy them. They are not missing anything marrying young and not dating around for years. I eventually got married, but the road getting there was brutal.

[@amytheshihtzumom]

“My sister married a boy she dated for thirty minutes and left the room crying after the first date.” That’s concerning.

[@EmptyMan000]

That's a red flag.

[@Tantejuju65]

I hope the young woman knows her worth, and keeps looking.

[@sueberry1974]

Does she have marry a man from the society that looks down on a divorced woman? If i were her, i will look outside the jew culture

[@PlateletRichGel]

@@sueberry1974 did you notice she wasn't also true to herself? She started out saying it didn't bother her when dates were rejected and later she said she cried after rejections. She also said she wouldn't settle until she was 30, but the thing is, it gets worse exponentially because at 30 she'll have to settle even more. It's not about finding the perfect checklist, but she can't get over that. I would think in that culture, a lady lawyer would be prized because the men don't work. But it didn't seem to matter. She should just lie about the divorce.

[@cheryl-anncampbell1318]

Unbelievable, practically forced into a marriage just after 3 dates and if it doesn't work out you're seen as damage goods ,MADDNESS!!

[@dalidah.k.m.7638]

Agree 100%

[@Gwaycee]

It's actually an improvement. In ancient times the man would wait for a bride to be chosen and brought to him by emissaries sent out by his father, therefore both would meet on their wedding day.

[@dalidah.k.m.7638]

@@Gwaycee Right, as you mentioned in ancient times, but, it's shocking to this day there are matchmakers. Also, what's with the married women should wear a wig, to me, it's just like the Hijab , both are unacceptable.

[@Gwaycee]

@@dalidah.k.m.7638 Apparently, only a husband should see his wife's hair after she's married, hence the wigs and head coverings. I heard it said that all men world over have an inner instinct to identify their future wives the minute they set their eyes on them, so this particular culture probably builds upon that instinct to prevent prolongued dating that would result in a physical relationship before marriage.

[@dalidah.k.m.7638]

@@Gwaycee Obviously sometimes their instincts are wrong, just like that lovely lady who was pointed to as damaged good.

[@scottmescudi3423]

This is one of the best documentaries I’ve seen in my life and about this topic. I can see dating is also complicated among haredims. Hats off to the director.

[@badmedgirl]

“It could lead to you touching each other” could you imagine thinking that is worse than marrying someone you might not want to spend the rest of your life with?!!

[@cattycorner8]

There is sooooo much more to married life than sex.

[@annabizaro-doo-dah]

This is what religious cults can do to a loving mother...she'd rather her daughter be rushed into an unhappy marriage than be sure and "touch" her fiancé !!!

[@charliefoxx81]

@@cattycorner8 of course but without sexual chemistry it's NOT a marriage but a sibling relationship.... no thanks.

[@zambranovero13]

So interesting... my mom was crying for the opposite reason lol. I got married at 21 and she just cried and pleaded not to marry because I was too young. She actually told me to take my time in dating. Divorced now for 10+ years.

[@PlateletRichGel]

@@zambranovero13 I would cry if my son in law named you Zambrano, you're always last in attendance.

[@rashminable]

Etsy's mum needs to settle her own baggage without burdening her daughter. Talk about poor emotional regulation. Ariel's parents are so lovely, no wonder they raised such a chilled guy

[@serene5345]

His parents were lovely and he was very chill. I wonder what led him to want a life of slaughtering animals.

[@iaJENKA]

his parents were not very lovely either. First his mom asks him if the girl is prettier than she is, to stop from fighting he doesn't answer just gives her a quick shoulder hug. Then when the girl comes over to meet the parent the mom sort of ignores her and the dad asks which one is this and names off three girls.... and then in the next second asks if she will be okay living with them or not. The girl isn't too stupid so she says she will need a minute to think, the dad continues to be an intimidating jerk and says you can even have 2 minutes. The mom asks if the girl wants a drink, the girl says no thanks, the mom says I'll get you some anyway so you won't say you weren't treated while over here, when she declines once more the mom insists you better have some so my son doesn't have to spend money on you getting you a drink while you are out. Chill? Oh yeah, super chill. Geez., what a family. Even though this girls mom is stupid and pushy, his family is worse and she married down.

[@Michael-gu8ck]

@@serene5345 The Culture, the Family business and TRADITION!

[@Michael-gu8ck]

@@iaJENKA How did Esti marry DOWN? i don't see it. she seemed way too eager to marry quickly, so she was obviously into him and thought she had to tie him up quickly.

[@agatanakonieczny2213]

@@iaJENKA In Poland it used to be considered polite to refuse the offers of getting you anything (not to bother the host). The girl was smiling. It was a kind of joke. I do not think she felt pressured or controlled :) This comment about 2 minutes of thinking was also a joke. Farther's question was right. He wanted her to be happy with them and addressing a very probable problem (separation from her family) just shows he validates her feelings. The family has high emotional intelligence.

[@krankykrista]

Ariel’s dad is so entertaining - he should have his own show. Hilarious and also seems so proud of his son.

[@robinhood2980]

This whole program could easily be made into a series, I would watch it.

[@darlingdear2687]

@@robinhood2980 They already have a show like that, called Shtisel

[@morenikefashina4433]

Ikr his dad seems like a good man

[@misterstinks73]

Like Father like son...what beautiful spirits they have!

[@bettyraltejohn3374]

I too love Ariel's father so much, such a great sense of humour!

[@kcnolan3258]

I love this documentary! Learning about this way of finding a spouse...in the secular world, it's so chaotic, and not so nice. I feel a deep respect for this way, even though it's so different from my ways. I want to watch more docs like this!

[@56username]

😃🤔 Tender Plant Lives Hidden Message in the Torah /Tanak / Bible Hidden within within the genealogy first Sons from Adam. Genesis 5 : 3-32 NAMES ---- Name MEANINGS Adam - Man Seth - Appointed Enos - Mortal Cainan - Sarrow Mahalaleel - Blessed GOD Jared - Shall come Down Enoch - Teaching Methuselah -His Death shall Bring Lamech -To Make /Low Mighity Noah -Rest / Favor / Fulfilled Name Meanings written in a Sentence 😳 Man appointed mortal Sarrow Blessed GOD shall come down teaching His death shall bring to make low/MIGHTY , rest favor FULFILLED My Interpretation: Jesus given a task to preform from this earth feeling of deep distress BLESSED GOD shall come down as Jesus teaching Jews as a Rabbi His death shall bring SALVATION to make low to hang on a tree becomes MIGHTY rest/ favor/ FULFILLED HIS Purpose 🤔 Keep this in mind 🤔all 10 generations timeline took place up to chapter 5 of Genesis ,Hidden Message telling Jesus COMING 😲 Approximately 4 thousand years later before it HAPPENED only God ! Ten Trillion people could not have gotten together and had have written 1 fact and placed it in a book Foretelling of there coming Christ 4K years before it Happened . Who hath believed our report ? For and to whom is the arm of Lord revealed ? For he shall grow up before him as a tender plant, and as a root out of a dry ground: he hath No form nor comeliness ; and when we shall see him, there is no beauty that we should desire him. He is despised and rejected of men; a men of sorrows , and acquainted with grief: and we hid as it were our faces from him; he was despised and we esteemed him not. Surely he hath borne our grief , and carried our sorrows: yet we did esteem him stricken, smitten of God, and afflicted. But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed. All we like sheep have gone astray; we have turned every one to his own way; and the Lord hath laid on him the iniquity of us all. He was oppressed, and he was all . He was oppressed , and he was afflicted , yet he opened not his mouth : he is brought as a lamb to the slaughter , and as a sheep before her shearers is dumb, so he openers not his mouth. He was taken from prison From judgment: and who shall declare this generation? For He was cut off out of the land of the living: for he was cutting off out of the land of the living: for the transgression of my people was he stricken. And he made his grave with the wicked, and with the rich in his death; because he had done no violence , neither was any deceit in his mouth. Yet it pleased the Lord to bruise him ; he hath put him to grief: when thou shalt make his soul an offering for sin he shall see his seed , he shall prolong his days, and the pleasure of the Lord shall prosper in his hand. He shall see of the travail of his soul , and shall be satisfied : by His knowledge shall my righteous servant justify many ; for he shall bear their iniquities. Therefore Will I divide him a portion with the great, and he shall divide the spoil with the spoil with the strong ; because he hath pored out his soul unto death : and he was numbered with the transgressor ; and he bare the sin of many, and made intercession for the transgressors. Who is this About? KJV in Isaiah 53 The Truth will set you free ! Christ means Messiah , Jesus was a Jew and still is . Jesus is not a religion, Jesus Loves You Believe ON The Lord Jesus Christ You are Born Again Believe as a child Just Believe RAPTURE Very SOON 😳 It is Not Death But Life Tuesday 30 , 2022 Or 3 , Elul 5782 3:37 AM Control time , has not happened yet , any Second Are you Ready , Believe ON Jesus Heaven or Outerdarkness God will not hear your prayers that is hell. KZbin : Rapture 2022 Please choose Jesus

[@Kat-V]

I don't think there's respect in the way young people are all forced to follow the exact path their sect decides. Their decisions are being made for them

[@micomalo]

I think the lady who is lawyer is a perfect woman, she is fantastic, i hope she could find a perfect husband she deserves a good man!

[@thesuperspoiled301]

And a racist! There for she must be perfect!😩😝😖

[@iamyourtugabro8325]

@@thesuperspoiled301 She just wants to marry someone of their ethnic group. I am not a jew and I aspire the same thing... oh god, does that mean I am racist too? Dang it, why did you have to be like that? :/ Not cool! >:(

[@thesuperspoiled301]

@@iamyourtugabro8325 Yourr really ignorant, it really isnt about 'her' eing an attorney. Its about her stating :'i want to stay in my own ethinic group'. That is a racists statement. But if you want to stay ignorant go live under a rock. Being a WPOC who is Jewish isn't offensive.

[@jenniediaz2895]

Yes, I wish that she can find a great guy, She very open minded,So Wishing She Can find One Like Her self💝, I feel that 3 Dates is too Short to Know Some One😖

[@amazingabby25]

TheSuper Spoiled Ashkenazi Jew can be black, Indian. Whatever, what she meant was Sephardic or not. Sephardic Jews have diferente traditions. Love when non frum try to get our culture. In Israel, it’s NOT like the US

[@toniaantona800]

That mother crying for her own life and projecting it onto her daughter is heartbreaking, anyway you look at it...

[@Ken-iu2zp]

You're not from their religious background. She just didn't want her daughter to fall into fornication.....

[@LadyLyndhurst01]

@@Ken-iu2zp More like SHE doesn't want the shame and pity from other women if her daughter ends up a spinster.

[@Ken-iu2zp]

@@LadyLyndhurst01 Nah, you're not a godly woman. You're probably some woman who shacks up with a man, and know nothing about Divine communities that try to observes God's law.

[@bellona6356]

@@Ken-iu2zp lol. Using some religious fueled guilt to dismiss righteous critiscm about her and these traditions... sounds like the mother.

[@jeanettewaverly2590]

This was so touching and intimate. I’m amazed that so many Orthodox Jews would allow themselves to be filmed like this.

[@flyrican97]

This is so beautiful God bless Etsi and Ariel on their beautiful family and union they seem like they were meant to marry each other their connection is apparent, this was almost 10 years ago I’m sure they have many kids by now and much happiness in their lives God bless much love 💞

[@MulberryLover]

I found them to be a a good match. Etsi is a women who knows how to communicate to him what is needed and get him to do it lol.

[@56username]

😃🤔 Tender Plant Lives Hidden Message in the Torah /Tanak / Bible Hidden within within the genealogy first Sons from Adam. Genesis 5 : 3-32 NAMES ---- Name MEANINGS Adam - Man Seth - Appointed Enos - Mortal Cainan - Sarrow Mahalaleel - Blessed GOD Jared - Shall come Down Enoch - Teaching Methuselah -His Death shall Bring Lamech -To Make /Low Mighity Noah -Rest / Favor / Fulfilled Name Meanings written in a Sentence 😳 Man appointed mortal Sarrow Blessed GOD shall come down teaching His death shall bring to make low/MIGHTY , rest favor FULFILLED My Interpretation: Jesus given a task to preform from this earth feeling of deep distress BLESSED GOD shall come down as Jesus teaching Jews as a Rabbi His death shall bring SALVATION to make low to hang on a tree becomes MIGHTY rest/ favor/ FULFILLED HIS Purpose 🤔 Keep this in mind 🤔all 10 generations timeline took place up to chapter 5 of Genesis ,Hidden Message telling Jesus COMING 😲 Approximately 4 thousand years later before it HAPPENED only God ! Ten Trillion people could not have gotten together and had have written 1 fact and placed it in a book Foretelling of there coming Christ 4K years before it Happened . Who hath believed our report ? For and to whom is the arm of Lord revealed ? For he shall grow up before him as a tender plant, and as a root out of a dry ground: he hath No form nor comeliness ; and when we shall see him, there is no beauty that we should desire him. He is despised and rejected of men; a men of sorrows , and acquainted with grief: and we hid as it were our faces from him; he was despised and we esteemed him not. Surely he hath borne our grief , and carried our sorrows: yet we did esteem him stricken, smitten of God, and afflicted. But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed. All we like sheep have gone astray; we have turned every one to his own way; and the Lord hath laid on him the iniquity of us all. He was oppressed, and he was all . He was oppressed , and he was afflicted , yet he opened not his mouth : he is brought as a lamb to the slaughter , and as a sheep before her shearers is dumb, so he openers not his mouth. He was taken from prison From judgment: and who shall declare this generation? For He was cut off out of the land of the living: for he was cutting off out of the land of the living: for the transgression of my people was he stricken. And he made his grave with the wicked, and with the rich in his death; because he had done no violence , neither was any deceit in his mouth. Yet it pleased the Lord to bruise him ; he hath put him to grief: when thou shalt make his soul an offering for sin he shall see his seed , he shall prolong his days, and the pleasure of the Lord shall prosper in his hand. He shall see of the travail of his soul , and shall be satisfied : by His knowledge shall my righteous servant justify many ; for he shall bear their iniquities. Therefore Will I divide him a portion with the great, and he shall divide the spoil with the spoil with the strong ; because he hath pored out his soul unto death : and he was numbered with the transgressor ; and he bare the sin of many, and made intercession for the transgressors. Who is this About? KJV in Isaiah 53 The Truth will set you free ! Christ means Messiah , Jesus was a Jew and still is . Jesus is not a religion, Jesus Loves You Believe ON The Lord Jesus Christ You are Born Again Believe as a child Just Believe RAPTURE Very SOON 😳 It is Not Death But Life Tuesday 30 , 2022 Or 3 , Elul 5782 3:37 AM Control time , has not happened yet , any Second Are you Ready , Believe ON Jesus Heaven or Outerdarkness God will not hear your prayers that is hell. KZbin : Rapture 2022 Please choose Jesus

[@melissapiontek3886]

I pray Merav finds someone special! A sequel to this would be amazing! Also shout out to Ariel and his parent’s for their gracious response to his mother-in-laws antics 😹

[@PlateletRichGel]

He completely left the community and being a scribe too. He had enough.

[@TheChewyleaf]

I can see Merav is on instagram and looks to be loving life. Can't tell what's going on as I don't speak Hebrew, but I assume she must have become less strictly religious to have an internet presence?

[@melissapiontek3886]

@@TheChewyleaf What is her IG?

[@kw414]

@@TheChewyleaf I translated a post from November 2020 where she says that it's her birthday and she is deeply saddened that she still hasn't found "the one". :(

[@jeanneewaseck6635]

@@PlateletRichGel Sad.

[@fandude7]

Thank you for an 1 hour and 15 minutes of "anxiety porn." I'm exhausted now.

[@beth-bi9yv]

The dates seem so stilted and awkward. I think I'd be terrified to marry someone after only 2-3 of those.....

[@fairlyvague82]

Me too, but I guess it’s the culture in which you are raised that makes the difference. To me it seems awfully uncomfortable and impersonal and fast! But I wasn’t raised within their culture, maybe if I was then it might feel perfectly natural to me.

[@irishcountrygirl78]

@@fairlyvague82 true.

[@PlateletRichGel]

50% of marriages fail, so no matter what you do its 50-50. So why worry? Love... It's not about finding a perfect match.

[@Bandomeme]

@@PlateletRichGel 50% of marriages in the US end in divorce, but only 38% of marriages in Canada, so it’s obviously not just a matter of luck (though I think there’s some luck in it). What you DO actually does matter very much. Great sex and the weak-at-the-knees feeling are good to have, but after 50 years it’s more important to communicate well, have similar likes, dislikes, and goals, and generally respect and enjoy each other’s company while allowing privacy and alone time as required.

[@sarahfarmer7643]

Very true. This would definitely be where you have to have faith and trust that God is working to give you the right partner.

[@luv2travel2000]

Well done! I was surprised by how captivated I was by their stories, especially because I had to know their story through subtitles. All very interesting. Wishing the young couple who married a happy life together. Shalom.

[@sharonkaczorowski8690]

That young man has a serious love affair going with himself.

[@christineh2843]

I don't agree with you. He met her and fell into instant "like" with her. He knew what he wanted I applaud him for taking that risk and letting his heart open. More people should do that...in my opinion

[@NeraRondine]

@@christineh2843 9o

[@sherricopeland6393]

I agree

[@cassandrachea8875]

Like 30 seconds in, and I was like..."What a douche..."

[@PiNkNeOnz]

@@cassandrachea8875 this is exactly what I was thinking.

[@natchats3099]

If this was a dating series I would actually watch it! Very interesting.

[@rahla53]

Me too, :>)

[@Raven-te8to]

I wish there were more episodes of this! This is the most interesting and fascinating doc I’ve watched in a long time. I love seeing the other side of cultures and how their beliefs are so important to them. Fantastic job!

[@katetatom3682]

Check out “arranged”!

[@sweetenergy]

I loved this too! Learned so much. I respect Jewish culture.

[@jamestoalan3274]

Yes...for me as well.Understanding each other,that puts an end to that God forbidden R word. This was just Beautiful to watch.

[@angelinajones4372]

@@katetatom3682 Love that show!

[@babkeebabkus8177]

they overthink EVERYTHING...I've never seen a more internally troubled mentally challenged group of people...major neurosis

[@Frivillig]

Loved Etsi and Ariel. They seemed like the most down to earth people with great things ahead. I hope they keep on smiling on their time on earth! I never understood the pressure some orthodox Jews have. I myself felt stressed just by watching this. One mistake and you're casted away of the only thing you're taught from birth.

[@56username]

😃🤔 Tender Plant Lives Hidden Message in the Torah /Tanak / Bible Hidden within within the genealogy first Sons from Adam. Genesis 5 : 3-32 NAMES ---- Name MEANINGS Adam - Man Seth - Appointed Enos - Mortal Cainan - Sarrow Mahalaleel - Blessed GOD Jared - Shall come Down Enoch - Teaching Methuselah -His Death shall Bring Lamech -To Make /Low Mighity Noah -Rest / Favor / Fulfilled Name Meanings written in a Sentence 😳 Man appointed mortal Sarrow Blessed GOD shall come down teaching His death shall bring to make low/MIGHTY , rest favor FULFILLED My Interpretation: Jesus given a task to preform from this earth feeling of deep distress BLESSED GOD shall come down as Jesus teaching Jews as a Rabbi His death shall bring SALVATION to make low to hang on a tree becomes MIGHTY rest/ favor/ FULFILLED HIS Purpose 🤔 Keep this in mind 🤔all 10 generations timeline took place up to chapter 5 of Genesis ,Hidden Message telling Jesus COMING 😲 Approximately 4 thousand years later before it HAPPENED only God ! Ten Trillion people could not have gotten together and had have written 1 fact and placed it in a book Foretelling of there coming Christ 4K years before it Happened . Who hath believed our report ? For and to whom is the arm of Lord revealed ? For he shall grow up before him as a tender plant, and as a root out of a dry ground: he hath No form nor comeliness ; and when we shall see him, there is no beauty that we should desire him. He is despised and rejected of men; a men of sorrows , and acquainted with grief: and we hid as it were our faces from him; he was despised and we esteemed him not. Surely he hath borne our grief , and carried our sorrows: yet we did esteem him stricken, smitten of God, and afflicted. But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed. All we like sheep have gone astray; we have turned every one to his own way; and the Lord hath laid on him the iniquity of us all. He was oppressed, and he was all . He was oppressed , and he was afflicted , yet he opened not his mouth : he is brought as a lamb to the slaughter , and as a sheep before her shearers is dumb, so he openers not his mouth. He was taken from prison From judgment: and who shall declare this generation? For He was cut off out of the land of the living: for he was cutting off out of the land of the living: for the transgression of my people was he stricken. And he made his grave with the wicked, and with the rich in his death; because he had done no violence , neither was any deceit in his mouth. Yet it pleased the Lord to bruise him ; he hath put him to grief: when thou shalt make his soul an offering for sin he shall see his seed , he shall prolong his days, and the pleasure of the Lord shall prosper in his hand. He shall see of the travail of his soul , and shall be satisfied : by His knowledge shall my righteous servant justify many ; for he shall bear their iniquities. Therefore Will I divide him a portion with the great, and he shall divide the spoil with the spoil with the strong ; because he hath pored out his soul unto death : and he was numbered with the transgressor ; and he bare the sin of many, and made intercession for the transgressors. Who is this About? KJV in Isaiah 53 The Truth will set you free ! Christ means Messiah , Jesus was a Jew and still is . Jesus is not a religion, Jesus Loves You Believe ON The Lord Jesus Christ You are Born Again Believe as a child Just Believe RAPTURE Very SOON 😳 It is Not Death But Life Tuesday 30 , 2022 Or 3 , Elul 5782 3:37 AM Control time , has not happened yet , any Second Are you Ready , Believe ON Jesus Heaven or Outerdarkness God will not hear your prayers that is hell. KZbin : Rapture 2022 Please choose Jesus

[@angievalenccia]

I hope Merav finds someone special !! And wow yehezkel haha he got his karma with blumi- he fell so hard for her and she didn’t want him! I almost felt bad for him until I remember that narcissistic behavior he displayed on the first date we saw

[@PlateletRichGel]

If he kept his mouth shut, blumi would have fallen hard. Did you see her eyes on first date!

[@angievalenccia]

Scott Johnson ohh yeah for sure! They definitely had a moment

[@freeto9139]

So much pressure from all sides ... UnG-dly 😟

[@MR-nl8xr]

Narcissictic because he correctly wanted to make sure things were rational instead of fairy tale fee fee's, lol, yea ok. He's no angel and still needs to work on him self, but you should drop the disney movie's lady.

[@ellegaitor2887]

Erm Esty’s mom crying because her 18 year old daughter didn’t want to get married after just 3 dates lasting a few minutes each.......is this real life? Lol 😂 x

[@catherinebrookebarnes4113]

She's clearly an out of control control freak. Poor daughter.

[@MrPinoCavallo]

She's a dragon. Poor future son-in-law (whoever he is).

[@HueyPPLong]

Nah the daughter seems to want the same as the mother. It’s just the guys family that is more down to earth and wanting to wait

[@carolanne139]

I would not like to be in this culture & be under such pressure to marry & have babies, that mother was too much, all that crying to her daughter!!!

[@gladysatwood5897]

That woman is using manipulation, she need to smell the coffee.

[@rorik.3842]

the guy who said " I don't think love important on first meeting, it comes after marriage" exactly the one who don't want to marry because he can't feel love few mins later 😭😭😭🤣

[@PlateletRichGel]

He was not true to himself. He really didn't know what he wanted.

[@tshililomugovheli2717]

He's so confused and likes complicating things

[@serene5345]

Some if not most of those guys are young and don't know what they want. They just know their families want them to get married, so it becomes a "hurry up and pick and choose" kind of thing, for some.

[@arrigune]

The Hassidic guy, poor guy, his more open minded than his family, he'll suffer ostracism, hes questioning the tradition in a reasonable way. Revolutionary thoughts and reflections for his situation.

[@AnnieCappuccino]

Would love to see a where are they now update on all these people.

[@mascara1777]

Esti is on Instagram @EstiZaguri

[@petermahler5193]

@@mascara1777 Esti ans Ariel don't look orthodox anymore

[@sitaradevan4211]

@@mascara1777 wow they changed a lot !

[@Sldindpunjab]

@@mascara1777 did they have a baby?

[@fairlyvague82]

@@Sldindpunjab looks like as of Dec 2020 they have a young boy and a newborn girl acc to her IG

[@luckdoc2378]

LMAO "She's economical, she didn't drink anything" 😂🤣😂

[@MR-nl8xr]

"you can't answer that in one minute ", " that's fine, take two " lol.

[@damalewis9277]

Very funny family!

[@vsbaretummysugastonguetech1540]

I mean, if you're only supposed to date for two or three days before deciding to marry, then why not make a date that lasts the whole day? That way you have more of an idea.

[@joehaddad6276]

It usually works out pretty well

[@nomirodriguespereira]

You can if you want I think it’s just personal preference some people feel ready after a few dates and some date for months

[@mypointofview1111]

Too much, there's life out there

[@townview5322]

I think this is how marriage used to be for most of the world. I think you stand as much chance of creating an enduring, loving relationship this way as you would, looking for the love first.

[@taliatheman5666]

Hebrew is my first language , and the translation is spotless .most of the time when people translate from Hebrew to English in movies\videos it sucks ass. I'm impressed

[@netanyah613]

Your French is annoying.

[@taliatheman5666]

@@netanyah613 איזה צרפתית חביבי

[@pammers5588]

That's good to know

[@shah201219]

Thanks, I was wondering if it was Hebrew or Yiddish.

[@taliatheman5666]

@@krzysztofniemiec1958 dude. I am not even Israeli. I haven’t lived there since I was 10. My parents are diplomats.

[@jayar7436]

Esti is gorgeous. She has such beautiful eyes and a wonderful smile. I liked her husband as well. You could tell they really liked each other. Even if they weren’t married, I could see them as being great co-parents.

[@helensullivan5618]

Jeff,

[@VivaLaVittoria]

"did I blow her mind?" lol. Watching their conversation, I can't imagine she would have felt that way at all.

[@Botanica1love]

I wish this was longer! I loved this. They date so intentionally.

[@salinal2783]

Not impressed with they first guy whatsoever!! He went there thinking it was ALL about HIM!!! Can you imagine living with that narcissist your entire life?? Yikes!!! I love seeing these guys who are all about themselves, want perfection and beauty in their partner....and yes, I will say it....and he is SOOO unattractive himself!!! Dude, you are NOT the center of the universe!! There is a glaring reason why he is still single!!

[@marp4735]

He dominates the conversation,not once did I hear him ask, would you like to ask me anything?

[@leahlee2323]

My thoughts exactlly!! She dodge a bullet with that one!

[@LP12191]

This comment honestly made me laugh lmaooo so true

[@rubytuesday5412]

Haha, spot on. Someone give the guy a mirror!

[@annecaulder9495]

And asked if she would be the breadwinner so he can just pursue his hobbies all day? BS on that!

[@bigbarkingdog2010]

Very good documentary. A glimpse into another world . . . great content and strong story telling . . .

[@dorylavetta423]

I appreciate everyone who participated and shared their lives in this documentary. With knowledge comes understanding, even if we don't always agree, and with understanding, hopefully, will come respect.

[@itstooearlyforthisshit6971]

Absolutely 👍

[@BenefitCounterbench]

"Too many dates are unhealthy!" Yeah, because committing your life to someone you only know for like 2 hours is perfectly healthy...

[@Србомбоница86]

It was always like that ,dates are modern thing

[@raimeyewens7518]

I can’t imagine having to pick a spouse after a handful of 30 minute dates. And then being pressured by my parents to to marry them or move on.

[@blackhole-chan4619]

@@Србомбоница86 Exactly! Society functioned just fine haha, contrary to popular belief a man and woman can actually be quite happy going into a marriage blind. Hookup culture and dating is such a recent phenomenon

[@BenefitCounterbench]

@@blackhole-chan4619 sorry but saying that "back in the days blind marriages worked fine" is a blatant lie. It's well-known that keeping a lover beside a spouse became a thing *because* forced marriages sucked. I've dated toxic people before my SO. I can't imagine myself commiting my life to a narcissistic/sociopathic/manipulative/liar/stupid/cheater/lazy/dirty/horrible in bed person (such things are not obvious even after weeks, months, or years), or to someone who differs from me in everything. We MUST know what traits we're (not) looking for in a long-term partner.

[@blackhole-chan4619]

@@BenefitCounterbench There's a difference between 'forced' and 'arranged' marriages. What is shown in the video is not forced, it's arranged by family, the participants choose whether or not to move forward with it. >It's well-known that keeping a lover beside a spouse became a thing because forced marriages sucked. People still do this even in western society where you're free to be as promiscuous as you want. Marriage rates have gone down drastically, just because people 'choose' who they date, doesn't mean they're more committed or happy. Dating as a whole is a minefield in today's age. If dating actually worked, divorce rates surely would be at record lows would they not? In theory, women get to choose who they marry and same with men, they should be happier, but no. Divorce rates are at record highs, people go through dozens of partners and they lose their ability to pairbond successfully with one person, which increases the rate of divorce. Also, arranged marriages are statistically more longer lasting and happier than 'love' marriages.

[@Mezzomatch]

What an incredible piece of docu-art this is! Thank you SO much - I am very moved (and disturbed) by it.

[@Ken-iu2zp]

Get out of here....your opinion don't count against people who's living holy....

[@rebeccawetzel8414]

I think he is just very young, and hasn't had very many life changing experiences yet. He does seek his rabbi out for advice, which to me is a good thing. Just a very young man.

[@christinav.9982]

SAME😂😂

[@mattd6085]

@@Ken-iu2zp Haha, Ken lad you can't order people off the internet, it's where religion comes to die. Take your bronze age attitude back to the congregation and enjoy your echo chamber, the modern world is moving on without you all, and rightly so

[@amywalker3684]

Esty's mother is quite the master manipulator. She must be exhausting to be around.

[@babayoga4712]

I thought the same thing... I feel bad for all her children.

[@serene5345]

She was raised to behave that way and probably saw her parents doing the same thing. It goes back for who knows how many generations.

[@denisecarpenter2981]

She is horrible. OMG! Crying? Her daughter is 18 for frick’s sake. She needs to STFU

[@catherinebrookebarnes4113]

She will probably cause many divorces because her sons and daughers in law won't be able to stand all her manipulation.

[@doodoo415]

I can’t believe she’s crying over something so stupid! She’s being completely irrational! I’m exhausted just watching her.

[@Elizabeth-mf3dn]

Of course the 20 year old opened up to him completely. She’s young and an open book. The older girl asks more questions because she doesn’t wanna get sidetracked by “chemistry” and end up divorced like the other chick

[@sainiamarjeet]

hence i believe the younger the better for the chance of success marriage since both can grow together in life and adapt to each other lifestyle

[@ceciliatomaslaberg4117]

@@sainiamarjeet No, the younger the better to manipulate.

[@sainiamarjeet]

@@ceciliatomaslaberg4117 i was saying young boy and young girl have better chance of success in marriage when coming together instead of wider age difference among the 2 or incase of older couples.

[@seraphthegatekeeper]

@@sainiamarjeet don't listen to the femcels. They are bitter as hell, and bitterness loves to self-propagate.

[@Celisar1]

Chick is a derogatory term. Please don’t use it.

[@jamestoalan3274]

This was Awesome.i Loved every minute of this exposé. i had no idea of these customs they have but this was very thought provoking and i was glued to my tv,rewinding,with with captions making sure i didnt miss a single word. And the way it was filmed/Directed etc.really made You connected to each Person. Such Beautiful People. I Thoroughly Enjoyed watching this. God Bless.

[@sadaboutit]

just brutal, he needs to be the king after that awkward date...this cannot be all dating in this world

[@ohmeowzer1]

I know he's a total azzz

[@lordbattlefield]

I could really feel the whole pressure these young people are under. It's not easy to make a decision. God bless Ariel and his lovely wife. I am so happy to see there's a happy end to this story.

[@eulogioortiz1384]

Excellent film! As a director myself, the editing, and how you shot this… I wanted more! A follow up please! You present at a community and especially its people and a very humane beautiful way! Thank you !

[@biking-viking-claus-andersen]

Totally agree. This was really a beautiful documentary.

[@Justcanadianjanjan]

I feel so grateful I grew up in a non orthodox Jewish home … my mother or bubbi didn’t have a match maker for me… nor was anything expected from me but education to be a strong and independent woman. I should say thank you mom.. you truly were the best role model I could ever ask for. As for my bubbi, she was a trail blazer for Jewish women. Mazel Tov ladies to all my Jewish, Muslim, Buddhist, and Christian women in my life. ( if I forgot your religion, I apologize). ♥️🇨🇦

[@americanbobtail1]

Are you married?

[@millicentdollhouse5252]

I love the young woman who was casually late for dates and totally unbothered!! 😂❤️

[@daw162]

Some things exist equally across cultures. My wife was always late (I refer to it as chronic lack of analysis). I was always early. Guess what didn't change in marriage (she is still always late, and still nearly 20 years later gets flustered and despite many of the occasions being something she does regularly, she will despises my suggestion of "make note of how early you begin to get ready. Then note how late you are for ___ in minutes, and next time, subtract that from your start time and see what happens". It will never happen!! Some of her friends are later than she is. It only gets awkward when a group gets together and someone invites another couple without warning them. They arrive at the event on time and some of the participants are over an hour late.

[@PlateletRichGel]

I really dislike that, it's disrespectful. In fact, at 25 minutes if the person hasn't called, I leave and go home and don't answer their calls. The next week when they call me I say "We had a date? When? Friday? Oh, I went to Lowes to look at tile, why didn't you call me? "

[@rkeve6352]

@@PlateletRichGel and I bet you’re still single lol

[@PlateletRichGel]

@@rkeve6352 Committed bachellor. The odds and opportunities get better for single bachellor's.

[@daughterofisrael671]

@@PlateletRichGel Awe look at you beating or your chicken chest. I doubt that's the fact. lmao doubt you've even been on a date

[@nairolfnednilruz]

Wow, what a beautiful and sometimes very intimate insight in their (marriage-) culture. Fabulous and very instructive. If only more documentations would been made with such passion.. A very big thanks goes to the persons in this movie, allowing to be filmed in those moments.

[@mariatereza9721]

1:06:13 Ariel playing with his baby brother was so cute, I'm sure he would be a great dad for his kids

[@exploreyourdreamlife]

The amazing family drama series SHTISEL brought me here. Thank you for a fascinating and well-made documentary.