Love and Marriage in Orthodox Jewish communities | A Match Made in Heaven - Part 3/3

[@lauriketcherside8131]

I was married 23 years. He passed away on May 2, 2019. He was 53 and I will be 56 in August. I was his first and only wife. He was my 2and. I have 2 grown sons. I miss him terribly. We truly loved one another. Cherish your mate every day! God bless you all! I will not marry again,. I was given one man that truly loved me. I am grateful and content with that. Lauri

[@donnacaulfield9229]

Laurie, please accept my deepest condolences on the loss of you most beloved husband. I completely understand where you are and how you feel. I was 49 when I lost my husband of 25 years to metastatic liver cancer. Never did I know pain like that. I know that a huge part of me died with him. There are still days where the pain is unbearable. I have found that although the pain of loss doesn't go away, over time it dulls to an eternal ache. My heart breaks for you and if you choose feel free to contact me on Facebook anytime. It Donna Caulfield (Clacherty) on Facebook and just Donna Caulfield on FB messenger. You will heal from this but it will take time. My prayers are with you and may God Bless You through this time.

[@donnacaulfield9229]

@@flottikarotti3912 you don't know, you just keep moving forward as best as you can. The pain is unbearable but with God's and your family's help you make it through. I went down the emotional rabbit hole when my husband passed away 8 years ago. I am surviving but sometimes just barely. The loneliness is the worst part.

[@kevinw8485]

Darling there are many lonely widowers out there. I have been widowed 2 years now. I have met 5 women so far, all looking for that knight in shining armour. Unfortunately I am not willing to be any woman's knight. I raised my family and built up my family estate. I was not a rocket scientist just practical. One day you may find the appropriate man for you, life is for the living.

[@donnacaulfield9229]

@@kevinw8485 Thank you for your kind words and support. It means alot to me that you took the time to reach out to me. I am not looking for a knight in shining armor. That is the stuff of fairytales. My hope is that I will be led to a good, honorable, loving and caring man. I sensed from your comment that the 5 women you spoke of may have been gold diggers. I may be completely wrong and if I am please accept my apology for that assumption. There very well may be someone out there that is meant for you. I am learning to not close off my heart to who may come into my life. Who knows Kevin, it may even be me being sent to you. LOL Stranger things have happened. You really touched my heart with your comment. People don't often reach out in the world. Based on your comment I think that you are a kind and caring person. It's people like you who help me heal. Thank you for that. I wish you every good thing in life. Happy Thanksgiving to you my friend!! Looking forward to crossing paths on KZbin again. I gave my Facebook information to that poor woman who just lost her husband. Please feel free to contact me anytime. We all need friends and to share a common bond like widowhood is rare.

[@ChristophersMum]

@@kevinw8485 Most women who are widows are long passed the childish state of looking for a 'knight in shining armour'.....just a man with kindness, God in his heart and oh yes....his head in the right place....

[@elizabethschilling5041]

I find this so moving. These young people are so thoughtful about finding the right person, and clear-eyed about love coming later. It seems so brave to allow themselves to be filmed while having their dates and discussing their dates and concerns afterwards. Brilliant work on this.

[@janecoe9407]

they are much too young to marry. The men dontn work!! that is bizarre.

[@MonicaM444]

Thanks to all these beautiful souls for letting us into their lives. Loved it!

[@kathybrem880]

Gag

[@princesskimo2821]

People should love their spouse more than anything. A marriage is sacred and a gift from God to mankind. It is to be cherished and appreciated. Your spouse should be your best friend and your best support.

[@yobro6053]

@Nur Uddin Where does God forbid music?

[@traceyl-h-l-n6410]

Terrible pressure mom put on those two young people. All that crying and hysteria! Jeez. Both seemed very sensible and respectful. I hope their eventual marriage works out.

[@elazarpimentel5340]

Well, have you heard about jewish mother's? :D a jewish orthodox mother is one on steroids :)

[@kathybrem880]

They’ll just have to live in silent pain I guess

[@anjahorn]

The Mom did the best for her daughter. So they are maried now and everything is fine. Love to children dos not mean to stay aside and watching them struggling.

[@austyn5004]

@@anjahorn allowing your child to struggle is part of parenting and having them grow as individuals. If you go and swoop in on your kids, tell them what to do, every time they struggle, then they'll always be children.

[@mircat28]

There is no divorce if it doesn't work out.

[@glendamckay4034]

This was a great series. It allowed a view into a different culture and did it such a respectful way. I agree with everyone saying a series or update would be wonderful.

[@acs2962]

I really don’t get why the husband dedicates his life to study while the wife brings in the income. If you want to study, then study but also work. That’s way too comfortable for the guys. Not only that, if the wife works outside, she has to take care of the household, kids and husband? No way. The thing about receiving welfare is a shame, specially when these are strong , healthy, young husbands.

[@lindawatkin9667]

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[@beckyenglish4783]

I agree. Disgraceful.

[@Selahsmum]

Yes, and as a Christian I believe it is incredibly ungodly. The Bible says that a man that doesnt work to support his family is worse than an unbeliever. These groups have made "studying the torah" an idol, and do exactly what the bible tells men not to d- send their woemn out to work and have the responsibility to keep the home as well. Its all totally bogus.

[@TheThriftyGma]

Selahsmum .. I agree. They have placed The Torah before anything else. I understand it’s God first, spouse second, then family etc. But I doubt God is wanting all these men to be studying and nothing more. That’s what evenings are for. Man up, be the responsible head of the home and take financial care of the family. I partly blame the parents for supporting the newlyweds for a year or two. God does not like a lazy person. They seem to take from the Torah what suits them.

[@marilynwillett804]

He is no man. I have seen handicapped people working.

[@elazarpimentel5340]

They should make a series out of this. It would last 15 seasons.

[@Ray-fk7ly]

Yet no one would ever actually understand

[@elazarpimentel5340]

@@Ray-fk7ly then it would be a mega-hit!

[@josephinetyree1476]

Better than lol " Married at first sight" ...now that's crazy..... I only watched two episodes...lol....Yes you can 'know' your soul mate at first glance...and yes ...you 'can' love more than one person...but 'that' love will/is different...

[@stephanie1013ful]

@@elazarpimentel5340 i

[@aurorasangalli8112]

Absolutely

[@tulippurple349]

No social system is perfect, but as a black American, I wish that we had this kind of unity and cohesion. If we did, our situation would be much better, and we would be much stronger as a people.

[@TarasTarot]

Tulip Purple Yes there are very admirable qualities in this culture, but it also excludes the 99% of other people and their beliefs. That’s not conducive to collective harmony either.

[@ankhi3585]

Unity and cohesion, if you want. But you shouldn't overlook the fact they have made subdivisions of subdivisions of subdivisions of their people, and they don't really look too much beyond their specific little group.

[@Sksk27547]

Hahaha your exaggerating

[@ahmetselimsavi2217]

@@BeautifulMixedKids come on man there are many nice afro americans also

[@BeautifulMixedKids]

Ahmet Selim Savi on Mars!

[@Kelly-tj8xv]

Ooh no, I need a part 4. I want to continue watching their lives.

[@kathyheyne8610]

Merav epitomises everything that’s wrong with this system. Out here in the secular world, any parent would be proud and pleased if their son brought a young lady of her calibre home to meet them, but there she’s “used goods”.

[@angiealexis3717]

Strange, ancient beliefs.

[@elazarpimentel5340]

I don't know one single divorced woman who is a nice person and pious and did not get married. She wanted a guy who was not Sefardi, and he could not have this or that. People like that -man and women- who make up their minds about who they want to meet before they meet them usually end up alone, in the secular and religious world, and in many countries and cultures

[@amariluna]

Yes, that's a horrible concept. I didn't like that she was so obsessed with just one ethnic group. Maybe if she'd been more open to other cultures she would have had better luck. To me it was almost bordering on racism. She basically reinforced what I have heard of Ashkenazi Jews.

[@bevs9995]

Ultimately, is because she's not a virgin, right?

[@johnballard6725]

Their general view of a divorced woman as the bad side of these so called religious cultures.

[@pjr7754]

This 3 part series was a fascinating window into a seldom seen way of life. When I watch things like this it helps me understand other religions and cultures. Thanks for the education.

[@BigRedShadevil]

I stayed up till 3am watching all three parts. I’m glad they gave us a glimpse into their lives.

[@BigRedShadevil]

johnny torres Are you trying to flirt with me?

[@CatBahptista]

There’s more than this one vid?

[@evelina2363]

So sorry for Yehezkiel, however that was a big step ahead for him: learning that love comes from the heart and not from a rational decision. Everyone experiences being rejected. He wanted to be able to choose and the opposite happened. God makes you learn like that. He is very deep, genuinely looking for the truth, and he will make a wonderful husband very soon I am sure. Beautiful documentary by the way, very well shot. Thank you for sharing!

[@Farah-dd8xi]

I feel for him...and pray he finds/found the right person for him. One he truly deserves ☺

[@TheCountryMouse]

I agree. Hopefully he will meet his soulmate soon and when he does, I'm sure he will make a wonderful husband. :-)

[@JaimeMesChiens]

Is it just me, or is he beautiful?

[@priscillavelazquezs]

Liberty Hussein he reminds me of the guy in the Barbra Streisand movie YENTL, he overthinks everything but he’s handsome!

[@mariaschwartz447]

She is not his match it seems. He is beautiful in and out. She ?

[@hipretty]

I felt so bad for Yezekial. He was sweet and he told his friend that she really opened up to him. No holds barred. Then she goes on a 3rd date with him and holds back. I could tell by her face as he was telling her all that he felt for her, that it was going to be "no"! She told him she likes to take things slow, but she looks at him with no feeling at all, not friendliness, no warmth at all. Merav the Law student should meet up with Yezekial...He's employed as a scribe.

[@ladilu777]

It was interesting to read your viewpoint about Yezekial and Bloom's dates. I saw all bit different way. Alhtough Yezekial was honest and wanted really to meet his soulmate, but he always was wondering about himself. How HE feels, what HE think about her future bride. On the 3.-th date he knew she is the one, but he did not realised, what the girls thought. I did not see frigidity or unfriendliness on her face, but uncertanty. she was'nt yet there, where the boy was. This short time was not enough for her to get him know well, and to have feeling toward him. She was all at see, but he did not see this. Because he just saw that his dream will come true soon. (Well, it did not happened so).

[@hipretty]

You are right it is certainly not time enough for anyone to know each other. But from what I have gathered, in this community that is not unusual. But although Yezekial's friend was advising him (with his wife at the table) that he will know the person later....and love her more later, he seemed ready and the girl seemed very young and NOT ready. On the other hand Esti is also very young just 18, but is ready to love a family, and wants to marry! After four (or was it 5) "dates" her mother (worried sick about the reputation of her daughter) was getting sick over it. Of course this situation is not for everyone. Bu it was very interesting to watch, and get a view into this community. They struck me as very gentle and decent people, and I find it repulsive seeing so many hateful comments.

[@ladilu777]

I am absolutely agree with you. This film fascinated me too. It is a brand new culture for me to. I am not familiar with ortodox life at all. It was interesting to see how they think about and handle the partnership and marriage. It is very interesting to see what is important for these people and what are they worry for. Anyway. They take the partnership and the private life seriously, and these young people opened up their hearts and thoughts for us. This is brave and respectable act. and such a behavior doesn't deserve critic. Actually no culture deserve hatred or desrespect. Because everywhere live honest people.

[@hipretty]

Yes... for such a private group, this was huge for them to be opening this up to the scrutiny (sometimes miserable scrutiny) of others! I don't know if you want to see more, but I got this recommended and had no idea there was more. I don't know why I never realized it was part 3 of 3 🤔 and I watched it anyway. Not sure if you or anyone here saw all 3 but here is a link to part 1, I haven't watched or even found part 2 yet! kzbin.info/www/bejne/opXViZWep6iVm6s Blessings!!! ☺️

[@TheThriftyGma]

ladilu777 ... I find the Jewish life very interesting. I watched a good one last night and learned a lot, especially what Kosher really meant, the reason for keeping dairy separate from meat. The reasons for 2 different food storage, prep and cleaning areas in a kitchen. The different types of Jews, which interestingly, several of the different ones in this video weren’t mentioned. How often do today’s kids actually sit and talk, and discuss their interests, beliefs etc.,instead of movie dates, heading to the beach, and more often than not, end up in bed within the first date or so. There are some lessons to be learned from these young Jewish kids.

[@bkaips]

I'm sad this is the end, I truly enjoyed their stories and the fact they let us in for a moment in their lives. I hope they all find their happiness and I hope Esti and Ariel have a long happy marriage❤

[@janecoe9407]

who u are at age 18 is is not who u are at 40. Things often change. they are too young to marry. They need to finish school studies in college. Have friends.

[@JM.5387]

@@janecoe9407 and who you are at 40 is not who you are at 80. So let's all wait until we're 80 to get married, forego children and family life, live alone and die alone. Makes sense. 🙄

[@LeeLee-nz1kq]

I felt bad for Dan he’s so inexperienced with the world and almost seems afraid of his own shadow! I’m happy he chose to just go back to his studies and not owe anything to anyone. Smart move.

[@janecoe9407]

he is too young for marriage.

[@citytrees1752]

He made a good choice for himself. He'll know when he's ready.

[@lynneneubeck1268]

Very well done! I watched all three parts and couldn’t stop! Fascinating and non-judgmental look into the ultra Orthodox way of life. I loved it.

[@laamiroly]

Wonderfully bitter-sweet documentary. I wish that all cultures/religions were supportive in this manner without some of the clearly fanatical aspects. Wonderfully made. I actually wanted to see more.

[@williamearl7837]

Being serious about God and the Bible is the foundation of the part you like.

[@laamiroly]

@@williamearl7837 A resounding "NO" to your statement.

[@erinkavanagh-hall5465]

This was an extremely enlightening documentary. I have several Jewish friends (mostly in the US) from either Modern Orthodox or Reform backgrounds - but this gave me a real insight into ultra-Orthodox communities and their way of life. Put it this way - the life of a very religious Jewish woman would not be for me! But, for these young people, it's normal and commonplace and, most likely, all they've ever known. What struck me was how...formal some of their dates were. Almost like a job interview. And you could really sense the pressure these young people feel (both the men and women) to find a perfect match, get married, and have a family. My heart went out to them (especially Merav - made me grateful to grow up in a society where divorced women aren't considered damaged goods. Well, not always...). I don't think, however, that kind of pressure is restricted to Orthodox Judaism. I attended a Pentecostal church for several years - and that community was OBSESSED with marriage and babies. Our pastors were constantly playing matchmaker, trying to pair up all the young, attractive singletons (never mind that there are verses in the Bible which state it's beneficial for one's faith to remain single). It was not at all uncommon for couples in our church to marry young - and if you were still single after a certain age, the anxiety would begin to creep in. In our community, 25 was practically over the hill! Plus, the methods of dating shown here aren't radically different to what I observed in the church. Sure, Christians might be less...business-like in their approach, but there was a laundry list of rules for dating. Young men would consult with their pastors and elders before asking a woman for coffee. Once you were dating, boundaries were pretty strict - plenty of couples wouldn't kiss until they were standing at the altar. Couples would have an "accountability buddy" who would check in with them and ensure they were keeping things PG-13. They'd be encouraged to be guiding by faith, not emotions or "butterflies". And yeah - it was certainly not unheard of for couples to get engaged in pretty short order (admittedly, though, within a few months, as opposed to a few dates). So, watching this was interesting, but not necessarily shocking. I've since left the church - I didn't fit in with that world. But I respect my Christian friends and how they choose to live and love, as they do for me. I respect how the young Israelis in this doco choose to live and love. I do hope they all find happiness and fulfillment, with or without a wedding.

[@Monica-vv1zt]

It's sad how much pressure is put on these young people. I agree how much the dates are like job interviews. It's sad how their natural feelings and urges are suppressed and they don't have much time to decide whether or not a person is the right match. In the western dating world it takes most people around a year or more to know if there's a future. It takes time to get to know someone and sometimes you don't see a person's true colours until much later. They could get married and the partner may turn out to be abusive or that their personalities clash too much. Whilst I like how in the orthodox world, dating isn't all about sex, it doesn't feel natural. It's like they all get married out of duty. It's sad that there isn't that lust there and real space for getting to know each other. How can the couple really get to know each other is the guy is studying all day. The couple would be separated for 2 weeks each month because of the menstruation laws that dictate a husband and wife to do not touch. Also the couple are expected to have kids pretty quickly and when the kids come along you don't have time for each other. Although Christian dating lasts over a much longer period, up to years, it's still so unnatural that a couple must suppress their urges and wait until marriage to have sexual intercourse and relations. Intimacy is such a huge part of a relationship and if there isn't that sexual chemistry there, a relationship can deteriorate. Yes friendship and partnership is absolutely important in a relationship, but there needs to be that something more, that spiritual, sexual and romantic connection.

[@NarnianLady]

Wow. My general experiences in churches have been the opposite - including Pentecostal / similar.. in the West, that is. Marriage was almost something you weren't allowed even hope and pray for...! It was seen almost like 'what is wrong with you, God is enough, just be content'.. so I am glad that at least some churches have the opposite approac. Not sure if playing the matchmaker is always the best option either, people need to have freedom and enough space to breath, in order to make their decisions without undue pressure and manipulation from others. Well-meaning friends and their efforts can do lots of harm as well, unless they are discreet and respectful about it.. In my neck of woods, no one bothers to introduce anyone, it is considered that 'if God wants, it will happen..', which I am not sure is always true either (God wants us to be His hands and His feet on this earth)... Blessings your way!

[@mi3helle707]

Question, what was the church called?

[@23Dawnay]

Choice?? Seems to me their “choices” are extremely limited and they are coerced practically every step of the way by whatever means necessary.

[@janecoe9407]

@@23Dawnay agree, omg that 18 yr okd girls mother as cryign and having fits lol. she was pushing her child out the door!!

[@sandypeters5790]

I loved the video! I’m a secular Jewish woman, and the matchmaking within your world seems better, and easier than it was in mine! I wish people won’t write negative comments here, it’s so disrespectful! This is their culture, find the good in people!

[@sherryjohnson3804]

I agree, I like the idea of a match maker, I do wish they wouldn't be so pressured in the meetings, just relax and enjoy meeting, of course no touching ect

[@janecoe9407]

these orthidox jewish cultures miss the NEW TESTAMENT . THE NT OF BIBLE IS VERY IM,PORTANT. JESUS IS COMING BACK FOR US. aif u arent saved u go to HELL.

[@esthersteier6840]

@@sherryjohnson3804it’s just the nature of things. Since dating is more formal in our culture it tends to feel bit intense. Although hopefully when I meet the right guy - the dates will be a pleasant experience

[@rebeccacarter1914]

I really enjoyed this series so much! Thank you for sharing a world I would never have known about. We are all the same, just wanting to be happy and to do what's right!

[@lisajackson9280]

I absolutely loved this series of documentaries, I was totally immersed, so sad it was only three programmes.

[@livvylife1210]

I wish they would follow up on all of the couples and singles.

[@Linda-vx4fn]

Hope Merav gets the right man. Shes such a kind, gentle, intelligent lady.

[@yodservant]

Merev is a bit high strung and emotionally delicate, I think she's been hurt...

[@livvylife1210]

@@yodservant yes lovely girl I hope she meets a wonderful man

[@anneboulton8717]

see the bottle of whiskey on Merav's desk at the end? Hey-yo!

[@EmlynSmythe]

@@yodservant It must be a huge psychological effort to offset being treated as "damaged goods" in daily life. The law studies might be the only thing upholding her self-esteem.

[@ruthbasta3089]

Absolutely love Esti and her husband

[@edwardvalivonis23]

I liked them as well, they were quite relaxed

[@laylalady226]

Me too!!

[@amariluna]

They are the only ones I liked in the whole series. Much more down-to-earth and relaxed than the rest. Esty's mother......sorry but I'd hate to have such a drama queen as a mum.

[@janecoe9407]

ESTI IS TOO SKINNY

[@k.schmidt2740]

"What's the basis for the connection?" the one young man asks. Aside from the wish to procreate, the "the connection" here seems to be a complete lottery of chance.

[@wmnoffaith1]

I absolutely love the conversation the newlywed man had with his friend. The friend basically wanted him to continue to hang out llike a teenr, and the newly basically explains look I'm a man now. I've put away childish things. Being young with no responsibility was great, but I'm past that now. That's how men used to be in this country. One of the main reasons marriage is so hard now, and everyone gets divorced is usually because one person still wants to live like they have no responsibility. They could take a lesson from this video.

[@rosamariamendoza1466]

But some of the men want to "study" and not work! How does that work out?

[@chetyoubetya8565]

Total RUBBISH.You don't become a man just because you announce it to people.No man or women should ever be married under 25.You have no clue who you are and what you really want.Religion does not cancel ever being a human.

[@maryk446]

@@rosamariamendoza1466 In the Orthodox community, study IS work. Judaism is a religion with a lot of religious texts and commentaries to study. And it has a lot of laws. It's important that a subset of the male population within the community be full-time scholars so that the knowledge can be passed down and not lost. For the record , I'm a Christian.

[@rosamariamendoza1466]

Mary Kay, but then the wife has to work to take care of the family, and it's not just 1 or 2 children it can be 7 or 8. How does this work, and for whom?

[@craftsandstuff3349]

:Are you here for study or for work? :My study is my work.

[@NarnianLady]

I really like the feistyness of Feige...! she was so sweet cheering up Merav and instilling faith in her.

[@maryjo7679]

THIS WAS THE CUTEST SERIES!!! PLEASE MAKE MORE!!!

[@wendysnow1870]

I wish that one girl would have said yes to that cute and sweet guy that really loved her

[@AmaniEats]

He seems like the type to fall out of love too.

[@annekathrinsommer2560]

@Wendy Snow But there have to be at least some Feelings/liking. Just because He is cut/nice is the wrong reason. For both

[@JM.5387]

That was a bit disappointing. She's right to consider her own needs though, and not just the excitement of the moment. Or pity.

[@evelina2363]

What is weird to me is how it seems to be pretty common for young people to be divorced and even with children, because they marry so young that can happen more easily. This rush into getting married with someone you barely know does not make sense to me

[@FF-by6ci]

The drive is often sex,sex before marriage is not allowed,so young men are driven by sex.

[@MusicPlaylistsChannel]

In the Hassidic world 1 out of the 10 mariages are not lasting forever, compared to an average of 70% in the secular society

[@kellytrindles984]

Cara Mel and women

[@robertcuminale1212]

It works for many. My wife was a blind date. I was in the Navy and she was in college. She was visiting her best friend during Christmas break at our duty station whose husband was my supervisor. I saw her for three days and then she went back to school. We started writing letters daily. In the middle of April I was on leave and I took her to my Uncle's wedding. She took a Greyhound from Philadelphia to New York too be there. On April 15 I asked to marry me and she said yes. Then she told me I was invited by her parents to visit them in Southern New Jersey. They knew something was up because I was the only guy she'd ever invited to meet them. It was all arranged before I had asked her to marry me. We had not seen each other since New Years Eve. She planned for us to marry when she graduated in September. It was to be September 9, 1972. We wrote letters from April to September. Her parents were not too happy over this. I was a stranger and in the Navy and after we married she'd go with me to my duty station. I was 21 and she was 22. On Tuesday well be married 48 years. We saw each other in person less than 30 days before we married. It's been a solid marriage with a son who is a pleasure to have with a good wife and terrific Grandchildren. I've seen a lot o people especially in New York who were engaged 5 or more years with the marriage lasting less time than the engagement. I know of one that lasted two weeks after a four year shack up.I have friends on their third marriage. I think these people are putting too much into this process.

[@purringsounds]

I love this video series. Thanks for letting us in so you alive. I had to watch it at 0.75 speed.. wow your language is fast😄💚

[@sjs9354]

Making me crazy to know what happened to the guy at the end. The one whose marriage proposal on the third meeting, date, was rejected. Did he find love? Did he just “get married?” Did he give up? Come On! Don’t leave us hanging. Part 4 please.

[@TheCountryMouse]

I know! I would really like to follow up with ALL the couples and singles. Love this series!

[@jomo9862]

Their is a part one of this and if you look at that you will realize that this guy got what he deserved. Truly

[@evamartin403]

@@jomo9862 what happened in Part 1?

[@jomo9862]

@@evamartin403 Part One was basically an intro to every one that wanted to be matched, or pretended not to care but really did. The Families were something else you have to try and find it to see for yourself. This reminds me of two shows I watch just before watching this . Shtisel, and Unorthodox, these are must sees.

[@CrystaJoy]

@@jomo9862 Yup. I smiled when Blumi rejected this egotistical fool.

[@gymrat799]

This was so interesting. My favorite man was Yehezkel. He should not settle for someone who isn't as sensitive as he is. I guess we will never find out what happened. I hope he's happy and someone appreciates him. He's so special! I don't like the pressure that these young people feel. I know that being married is important to them but they seem way to pressured and stressed instead of enjoying their youth.

[@skyinuri8868]

Cant agreed more😁. Rememer when his feet was stepped on the bence back while he was on phone lol

[@rlabarbera]

That girl did not realize what a keeper he is in imo.

[@kingan5412]

He is narcissistic

[@malibu64]

There is a follow up special on this documentary, and he does eventually marry Blumi! Apparently she initially rejected his proposal because their families couldn’t agree on certain things.

[@auroraborealis1060]

@@malibu64 I need that link!!!!

[@Selahsmum]

Dude what a hot mess that situation at 24 minutes was. Internet access, head scarves and the dude has no job? Nope.

[@jenniferjuniper97]

Train wreck.

[@bahjomohamed1636]

Yh he was insane

[@joygernautm6641]

Loser alert at 24 mins

[@susampson278]

That was Dan’s first prospect. If you watch the entire vid series, in vid 3, Dan meets Match 2, decides he's in over his head, and decides to go back to yeshiva and wait another two years before meeting more matches.

[@Sksk27547]

Hahaha

[@florenced.kennedy-uribe735]

It was wonderful watching and learning... beauitful!! Thanks for inviting us in your lives!! Very good looking family

[@suebravo8786]

I want to know where they are at now...this was first shown in 2013 wasn't it? Can there be an updated part 4 made please?

[@chrisdooley6468]

Sue Bravo the very end tells what happened to most of them I think

[@annekathrinsommer2560]

@@chrisdooley6468 I think she wants a more up to date Update like if 2019

[@annekathrinsommer2560]

Probably having a bunch of kids

[@chrisdooley6468]

Anne Kathrin Sommer lol that’s probably right. Kids and working to support them all so he can study the Torah all day for years and years lol

[@Yoyotwilight]

I used to be one of these people, never got married luckily. Most of my old friends are now divorced with 2-5 children so...

[@charllie_k_69]

What an amazing documentary. Being Irish Catholic i can understand a lot of what their families want for them. At the same time being pressured at a young age is stressful. Especially since in Catholicism there is no divorce. You stay in the relationship or you stay.

[@irishcountrygirl78]

lol there is divorce now...plenty of it in Ireland. My parents didn't want me marrying a protestant, we left religion behind and eloped at 20 and 21 in Barbados. Happily married 20 years now.

[@Nanusek]

@@irishcountrygirl78 there is no such thing as divorce in catholicism, please check your facts :)

[@irishcountrygirl78]

@@Nanusek I'm Irish and YES they are all getting divorced. The majority of Ireland is Catholic. LOL.

[@kathybrem880]

No, you just leave that archaic religion

[@laurenturner3578]

Most of my family is Catholic and they just ignore the church and get divorced. It is difficult and destructive, the whole thing.

[@dinakay330]

I love how these young ladies and young men are thinking logically and respectfully about thier future mates

[@5gayed]

That was a great series, thanks very much from Australia 🇦🇺

[@baileyhowe2739]

Dan has some serious homework to do on himself. He reminds me of a dry leaf; on the ground being picked up by the wind and set down again. He has this quality that he is completely unaware of himself and he acts aimless. I sure hope he found his match because in this film his personality is not yet molded. He will go thru a lot of changes and some of it not very pleasant

[@loubock3238]

I think he's just too young and not mature enough to know what he wants.

[@amariluna]

Yes, he's got very little going for him. Not a great personality and has some very specific demands which don't seem to go well with the women.

[@janecoe9407]

NO ONE SHOULD MARRY AT AGE 18. U A RE STIILL A KID BUT GOING QUICKLY INTO ADULTHOOD. TOO MANY FAST CHANGES. U MIGHT NIT EVEN KKNOW WHAT U WANT OR WHO U ARE AT 18. A LOT O THOSE MEN IN THAT CULTURE DO NOT HAVE JOBS. HOW DO THEY SUPPORT ALL THOSE KIDS??

[@JM.5387]

@@janecoe9407 my great-grandmother married at 16 and had more than 50 years of happy marriage. Maybe don't speak in sweeping generalities.

[@floravvitch]

Always wanted to experience a perspective like this!

[@racnolfab]

Etsy was under some big emotional pressure by her mom, I felt bad for her. I cringe watching the breakdown of her mother and the call to Ariel's mother

[@annekathrinsommer2560]

They had just 2 dates.

[@racnolfab]

@@annekathrinsommer2560 yeah I'm sure back in the day that was the standard practice for multiple reason, but I don't think God ( and I'm not speaking for him) will approve

[@SosaSal_]

I’m hooked on to these episodes. I wish there was more

[@SusanHiggins]

I hope Yehezker finds a wonderful wife, he seems like a such a deep and gentle soul :)

[@diannaboyd7876]

Agreed, he was so full-hearted in his proposal, I wanted to marry him myself! Very special young man.

[@JaimeMesChiens]

I have a feeling that he is by now happily married to a beautiful wife and has a few gorgeous children, God willing.

[@Celisar1]

Watch part one where he shows himself to be a true narcissist.

[@JM.5387]

@@Celisar1 just immature.

[@bleh3039]

Can we get an update on my boy Yehezkel?!

[@NancyCronk]

Beautiful series. I wished it had more episodes. These kids had/have a lot of pressure on them!

[@bichonmomr]

I was going to be hugely disappointed if Esti and Ariel didn't end up married! Despite their unorthodox dating practices, they waited to make sure they were right for one another. Mazel tov! Would love to see an update on them!

[@edwardvalivonis23]

They were really cool

[@Celisar1]

they did end up married.

[@janecoe9407]

THEY ONLY WENT ON LIKE 4 DATEES LOL.

[@HosCreates]

I bet they have 5 kids by now

[@rodolfocoronil8075]

The women go to work .while the men study the holy book? there is something wrong here

[@robertfarkas3865]

Rodolfo Coronil you mean how in the normal world men go to work and support the family while the women stays at home

[@rodolfocoronil8075]

@@robertfarkas3865 what do you call a normal world? a man should provide for his family unless

[@lindacosta3381]

Believe it or not, the divorce rate in orthodox Jewish marriages is surprisingly low. I don’t know how, but through faith and culture these men and women are often able to find a deep connection and love for each other

[@FF-by6ci]

The mindset is that god intended them to be life long partners .And they don't see ppl around them divorcing ,specially with many kids.

[@banksjay3234]

Half Tripolitan, half Moroccan how is this possible I thought he was Jewish please explain

[@Monica-vv1zt]

The divorce rate in the orthodox world is low because divorce is still a stigma. Also only a man can have the final say about a divorce; if a man doesn't agree to give the woman a divorce, then they cannot divorce. There have been many cases where men refuse the woman a Get (Jewish divorce).

[@II-be1ze]

@@banksjay3234 . What planet are you on. I'm Spanish and French but my religion is Jewish. How can you not work that out. JUDAISM is a religion not a race or a country. Duuuuuh

[@banksjay3234]

Bcha 100 Judaism is a religion, and Jewish people are from?

[@ahmetselimsavi2217]

+Is she smart ? - She is not stupid . Lol

[@JSath]

You know what .. This show made me feel special about the marriage God has given me. I was here after a fight with my husband and was thinking so worthless of my marriage. God reminded me of the days when I was worse than these girls, crying my heart out to God for the right person. A small fight and everything felt worthless until I saw this. Thanks to God Almighty

[@deeprollingriver5820]

What I’m getting from these young people is a deep fear of being married and not being in love.

[@ks12253]

I think, love is something which grows over time with your partner. Just living with someone and knowing abt him/her makes you fall in love with that person.

[@ps6474]

Bella Bijou...I agree. I liked that Esti knew and had the courage to be her own and not commit to the first guy just because it seems their religion at times. Hopefully she will be happy with Ariel.

[@luannpatterson3886]

Bella Bijou DC

[@worldtraveler134]

Love so Underrated

[@carikshawn6955]

My mothers name was Bella...and you are right. We watch TV love stories (Hallmark) and movies and expect the same but it is NOT the same....real life is connecting, commitment, treating each other with respect but instead we spend $40,000 for a party, several thousand today for a gown and veil, several thousand for flowers and then when babies start coming, we get bored and PLAY AROUND and instead of working to fix whatever has happened, DIVORCE and mess up the head of those innocent precious children. I didn't do that...I just never married again...and watch how things that went on when I was really young, hasn't changed at all except now they casually murder the unborn because "it's my body and I can do to it what I want"....sick!

[@Tina06019]

The kids at 30:10 are under so much pressure from her mother, it's hard to watch. They are very cute, may they be happy. She is very beautiful, and he is plainer-looking, but he is also friendly, sweet, has a job, and has less over-bearing parents. I like them.

[@evelina2363]

His parents are lovely, watch part 1 of the doc!

[@Eruanne]

*I watched all three parts and as interesting as it is to see how another religion and community works, the women of this one really get the short end of the stick. I mean aside from being expected to cleave to their husbands, they're also expected to provide the income AND take care of the kids AND are made to feel ashamed about their monthly cycles which there's nothing wrong with; I just don't think that is right especially the last part.*

[@EC2019]

Oh and don't forget they're expected to take on his customs if he comes from a different group than she does.

[@chaimflink3454]

They aren't " made to feel ashamed "! Where did you get that? It's just that no sex or touching is allowed when the woman is menustrating and for several days thereafter.Don't criticize what you don't understand.

[@chaimflink3454]

The women only take on work while he studies, if this is what the couple agreed to. What you never heard of spouses in America working to put their spouse through graduate, law or medical school,etc?

[@REDinitial]

@@chaimflink3454 Yeah, no touching or sex while she is on her period IS shaming her for a very normal, and necessary might I add, bodily function. s if there is something wrong or unclean about her.

[@REDinitial]

@@chaimflink3454 True, however in most of these cases the women are not expected to also have kids/take care of 100% of the household at that time. It also has a finite end in sight of just a few years until the spouse is also ready to work and help out with income. So, no one is saying women being the breadwinners is wrong. But having the expectation to be the sole breadwinner while also being pregnant (which automatically will take you out of the work force) and taking care of the household? No man in the west who has a housewife is expected to do all of that.

[@paquitok.7219]

Merav stay strong. You are beautiful, smart, strong and God has a plan for you. Don’t settle for less!

[@frank1903]

Sh'Val Sh'Thomas Merav is a wonderful women and she is the epitome of CLASS and this from a 56 year old black man born in Stratford East London UK of Ghanaian parents I think the man who is fortunate enough to marry her is an EXTREMELY lucky man. She reminds me of Sabrina Mercury she is one in a million as well oops I mean zillion soz Along with my beautiful daughters Frankie and Danni

[@frank1903]

Bila and Pini are a wonderful couple and I'm made up for them both that they found happiness second time round I bet their baby is beautiful coming from such a lovely union.

[@busterbiloxi3833]

She's too high-maintenance.

[@Sksk27547]

Hahaha she is the bronze medal and acts like she is gold, when she isn't

[@Plausiblelove]

@@Sksk27547 lol 😂😂😂

[@suzannereilman4516]

....jayyyyyyzusssss, Esti's Mom is a piece o'work...!

[@bethybarlow2888]

Nothing like a Jewish mom's guilt trip

[@failyourwaytothetop]

She's pushing a child towards marriage. That's the problem with religion

[@jenniferjuniper97]

"Is she pretty?" I hear this question often when prospective brides are concerned. What is pretty? What is not? It's usually the first question asked by the man and his supporters. I would feel angry to be chosen for my looks after a couple of dates. How demeaning to a woman! To marry based on looks is asking for trouble in some cases. It's shallow. btw, what happens to the women deemed "ugly" by Jewish society?

[@jmissesblac2006]

Well didn't you hear Yehezkel say he didn't want a "monster" ? Lol

[@natedawg6801]

Ugly people say that😂

[@jessicaharris1608]

To be fair, men are visual so it's important that a man be attracted to his bride. I imagine to many men attractiveness varies and what he really wants is someone who he can have physical chemistry with. I imagine that many men don't need a drop dead gorgeous woman but they want someone that they can find attractive physically at least somewhat. I met my husband online and he had two photos on his profile. One was clean shaven and the other he had a goatee. I do NOT like the clean shaven look on ANY man. I find that a bit of facial hair improves the look of 99% of male faces. Upon seeing his face with facial hair I said to myself, "I can work with that!" He emailed me first and wrote very respectfully like a potential friend. Another man from the same town emailed me first and was also very courteous and respectful but his profile picture was an absolute turn off and I knew there was zero physical attraction to his face. My husband is not some gorgeous celebrity but I had a spark of attraction to him physically that only blossomed further once I knew his beautiful soul. What one person finds attractive can be repugnant to another person so what those men are asking essentially is if there is a potential for physical attraction. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder so only photos or in person can truly answer the attractiveness question.

[@busterbiloxi3833]

They marry the butcher.

[@JaimeMesChiens]

I think every person on this show is lovely looking. Merev is movie star beautiful, like young Bo Derek.

[@shelleymurphy1966]

I am fascinated by the orthodox Jewish customs and how these customs progressed. I feel there is much we can learn from learn from these young people having such frank discussions during their dating process. As a westerner, I don’t feel we always find the right “match” in the best of places or circumstances. Although it can be construed as pressure, I think having the parents input is invaluable. I would be very interested in seeing more of the orthodox Jewish lifestyle and customs!

[@janecoe9407]

I DUNNO HOW THESE YOUNG PEOPEL SUPPORT THEMSELVES WHEN THE MAN HAS NO JOB~!

[@tatianadekun9087]

12:25 I've just realized Yehezkel looks like Joaquin Phoenix

[@JaimeMesChiens]

Татияна Декун Oh my, he does! I think he is lovely. I like him. I would like him for my daughter, but she is too young and not of his faith. I don’t think God cares what faith we follow so long as we strive to live how He commands, and my daughter does this. She’s still too young for him, lol.

[@veratek1]

@@JaimeMesChiens I also found him absolutely lovely - the sincerity and tenderness and this light that showed through his eyes. Wish I was 22 again! :-))) but to choose a spouse after only 3 dates! Complicated....

[@crowleythedemoncat]

Thank you for allowing us, outside, to see inside and have a better understanding.

[@AyeeeItsCam]

The thing with Beni feeling like his friend was getting distant with him ever since he got into a relationship/married was some truth! Guess that feeling is universal across all cultures lol

[@janecoe9407]

THEY AR TOO YOUNG TO GIVE UP FRIENDS. AT 18 THEY SHOUKD BE WITH FRIENNDS AND GO TO COLLEGE.

[@JM.5387]

@@janecoe9407 does everyone need to do what you do?

[@supertazzman1314]

Thoroughly enjoyed this. Absolutely fascinating

[@mortachaiepstein3584]

Also, just a weird observation: The American-English word "Ok." I heard it when I was in Germany, Andorra, France, the Netherlands, Wales (among people speaking Welsh), Sweden and Morocco, and now, in this documentary about very isolated Orthodox Jews in Israel, I hear them saying "Ok" in their sentences. It's the universal word.

[@taopaille-paille4992]

"ok" is pretty much used in all languages i know in the planet

[@jamiehershon]

ok

[@ElenadQ]

We are not Jews but my husband proposed me in the first date he said when he saw me he recognized me as his future wife. I believe that Men probably not all But many have some kind of radar and they feel it

[@taopaille-paille4992]

Yes there is a sort of radar i wish it worked for me because it is never for dates that my radar is green light

[@edwardvalivonis23]

I met my wife and after our second date I received a text at 5am that she wants to be mother of my kids. I jumped in car and went to her house straightway and now we married. Now when we talk about how we met each other, my wife says she just joked and did not believed that I will take seriously her message and she said when you arrived I had no way back to say no

[@ElenadQ]

@@edwardvalivonis23 such a beautiful story

[@edwardvalivonis23]

@@ElenadQ yes indeed

[@firstlast1357]

What is not clear to many people is how poor these people are, living with only one income. Having 7,8,9 kids. These are true believers, no one forces them, including the women, to choose this lifestyle. Their depth of thoughts and discussions, the openness , I could’ve not done it , especially in front of the camera. And all that at the age when Our kids mentally are still in the kindergarten ....

[@janecoe9407]

SADLY THEY ARE JUST BABIES HAVING BABIES. MARRIED OFF AT 18 ,,,TOLD TO GO HAVE KIDS. HOW DO THEY HAVE ANY MONEY TO LIVE/? THESE MEN DONT WORK!!

[@hollyyoung649]

My God, they talk about being divorced like it's leprosy. I respect just about everything with different faiths, but that bothers me,,,,,,,and it seems more like it's a stain on the woman than the man.

[@lenaannis8787]

Holly Young I agree. All is the woman fault as they see it. And what about the previous part when they say that a womans monthly cycle the blood is poison!!!!! For me in this religion all the rules are made by men for the men.....

[@JaimeMesChiens]

And look at her, Meyrat. She’s gorgeous, a lawyer, sweet. Any man would be lucky to ha e her.

[@lisabarrero3052]

Liberty Hussein she is very demanding.

[@siobhanmeaney6976]

what about the comment, "menstrual blood killed the rats" unbelivable

[@chaimflink3454]

No being a divorcee is a stigma for both men and women, unfortunately.

[@hollyyoung649]

omgosh I feel so bad for Yehezkiel :( He liked her so much. I hope the right one has come along by now :(

[@IwasBlueb4]

He would have been the ONLY one for me...v v special

[@suedoyle4526]

So handsome and seemed more open and heartfelt than the rest of them. I hope he meet his soulmate and best friend since then

[@amazingabby25]

He went OTD apparently

[@pinkitura]

@@amazingabby25 what does OTD mean? Sorry, i have no idea

[@mizzhelloo]

@@pinkitura Off The Derech= Off the Jewish Path. He basically left the Orthodox Jewish community to become more secular.

[@johnwinterbottom1072]

These guys don't work? They expect the women to support them and they still act like they were prime catches.

[@ps6474]

John Winterbottom...I know right, imo, it´s crazy and pathetic.

[@kathyheyne8610]

More astounding is the fact the young ladies agree with them. They want a permanent student of the Torah and expect to support him.

[@barbarathomas9534]

they are prime catches because what is valued in that community is the torah and talmud and intelligence. These boys study the law and you have to be very bright to do that.

[@johnwinterbottom1072]

@@barbarathomas9534 And with that way of thinking you will always go through life being the doormat for losers. Yes, they are intelligent to know when they have a good scam going. I doubt any of this will get through to someone whose main function in life is to have babies and be on the government dole.

[@barbarathomas9534]

@@johnwinterbottom1072 What are you talking about? John - they have a culture. It is not your culture and it is not my cultural either. But it is their culture. They devote their lives to living as per God's laws to the Jewish people, they comply with the 613 laws of the torah, they have alot of children, and they make a living. Like everyone else some are rich, most are not, but their lives are not money and achievement centered. Their lives are to live and pass on their observance of God's laws to the next generation. To be a torah scholar for them is to be a brilliant attorney - it is about law. And they don't earn money studying the law and being lawyers of judges (rabbis) but they have honor in their community and their wives earn money. When they go to schul to study the law, it is rigorous and intense. It is work John. They just don't get paid for it because they work for free honoring God. Their wives are only too happy to work to help the family to afford their husbands that place to study God's law. Now this isn't your culture or mine but it is theirs and you shouldn't be so disrespectful. And by the way alot of problems we have in America are attributable to the low birthrate. We wouldn't have to import chinese and spanish people if we had enough kids. It seems that white protestant men in America and Europe do not want Children or if they have, they'll have one and this is cultural suicide and that's why they're bringing in arabs and muslims who are the pits. So maybe John we can learn from the orthodox instead of snear at them.

[@jimmycricket7385]

One thing that every boy should learn from his father...don't cling to a woman like a love sick puppy. You won't only lose the object of your desire, you'll lose your dignity too. When a woman wants you, she'll make it very obvious.

[@gunlovingurls9200]

I laughed so hard when she said "she is not stupid". I found it endearing.

[@sainiamarjeet]

true too much expectation by the guy

[@jojotheoj]

Ooh is this part 2??? Part 1 was great. Lovely people. Fascinating glimpse into a different way (from mine) of viewing marriage.

[@rickmaggie1]

I am not Jewish but this was a cute video and I wish everyone well, I too would like an updated episode 4 to know how everyone is doing today. I dated a Jewish girl in college for awhile but we had to break up because her parents hated my guts because I was not Jewish and we both knew it was not going to work but I loved her and should have married her and told her parents to back off. My last year of college I met a sweet young lady from Texas and we had a good life together so it all worked out in the end.

[@ASTPlumbing9090]

They should turn this into a Netflix show with a full season. And each new season we could meet different couples and get updates on past people.

[@citytrees1752]

Netflix is doing a series but they are trying to use orthodox matchmaking methods for non-orthodox and very shallow kids. It is a mess.

[@zeronautin]

I binge-watched this harder than my favorite Netflix series

[@siobhanmeaney6976]

me too!

[@trentbateman]

Netflix is overrated

[@musicneutral233]

esti's mother is a text book narcisist. I feel sorry for the young man marrying her daughter, he's a good guy and is in the haul for a long life of abuse with that mother /daughter combo. I loved his family (the butcher), they were a very loving family.

[@Gobi512]

I noted that at the end it said they live closer to his family. Wise move!

[@ajg3768]

Very mature approach, best wishes to all of them.

[@sweetbeeluvera1450]

Me and my husband been married 20 years this June and no marriage is perfect!! We separated for almost a year to figure things out but never did we considered divorce!! You have to take that thought out of your head! Nowadays couples a have a big fight and the first thing that they think about is divorce!! Marriage is a compromise within the relationship! Being stubborn and wanting everything your way will not work!! It's that simple!! As the years go by and the kids are grown you start to appreciate your husband or wife more because you mutare now! The things that were important to you in your 20s are totally different in your 40s! I promise you! Make it work if you can or choose your partner wisely from the beginning!! Don't rush into a marriage for the sake of being married it won't work out!! God bless everybody!

[@enlightenment2012]

A very interesting and informative video.

[@shellc6743]

Esti's mother is far too much of a drama queen.

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[@freeleonardpeltier4148]

You've got no right to judge anyone, especially when you're ignorant of another's culture.

[@lisabarrero3052]

Free Leonard Peltier lts an observation shell c made. Everyone is entitled to an opinion. Maybe offer an insight to shell c rather then being so crass. Let’s help each other understand our differences instead of throwing out the “you are ignorant” stance.

[@mrs.cracker4622]

What wonderful faith these people live out in their lives and families. It's inspiring to watch. I wish there were matchmakers like these for Christians too. It's a very wise practice.

[@siyabeanland9777]

I feel exactly the same. I'm enjoying this so much 😁

[@joygernautm6641]

Kathleen McClellan you’re obviously male. This is a shit deal for females.

[@Marielovesblue]

Exactly. But I live in America and American Christianity is the worse. You don’t know who’s a Christian. They are mixed with the world.

[@nikolabakich9709]

@@joygernautm6641 better than dating sites ive been single for 8 years those sites dont work

[@joygernautm6641]

@@nikolabakich9709 If you'vw been single for 8 years despite actively dating online and elsewhere the problem is NOT the dating sites buddy. Own your shit and look in the mirror. Most poeple who whine about being unhappily single are single for a reason.

[@ps6474]

Why did they go into the room alone at the end?

[@amstergal]

Really enjoyed this series, fascinating!

[@tab9773]

4:18 - 4:19 "I'm awake since 3:00 a.m." ---- I think that devastating feeling is shared by all cultural, ethnic, racial, and religious communities. I know what that poor girl must have been feeling. I have felt it also, but for different reasons. Recently someone I know said that he is so nervous at his job that he often wakes up at 2:00 a.m. feeling panicky and nauseous. If only someone could find a cure for anxiety. It's one of the most common but least understood banes of human existence.

[@pianoman551000]

At 38.01 the two male friends have a true emotional attachment to one another! It's too bad that these two guys cannot find the same emotional love/attachment with with women who they want to marry. These so-called dates that Jews have with one another are so sanitized, so sterile and they wonder why they can't find a true mate to call their own!

[@fefeb4298]

That how I grew up in my culture loving, caring, looking out for your friend & sharing with a friend as your own sister or brother

[@craftsandstuff3349]

Why don't they at least have food or a hot beverage while meeting?

[@BronwynMcGuckin]

Who makes the scarf Esti is wearing as a headband at 30:06? I want it!

[@brendaelrod5151]

I think it is Hermès.

[@BronwynMcGuckin]

@@brendaelrod5151 that's what I thought! Thank you :)

[@brendaelrod5151]

I just watched it again and that is a Hermès. Even better, it’s the less expensive one. The price depends on the size and this is a smaller one.

[@BronwynMcGuckin]

@@brendaelrod5151 Awesome. With how she was wearing it, I wasn't sure it was Hermes, but the corner really did give it away.

[@oliviao3686]

Amazing series! But I haven't had enough

[@thecobaltroom]

This was an awesome documentary and I wish I could see part 4, 5, 6 and so on with more people but I guess there are no 'Kardashians" of the Gur and the rest for a reality show :)))

[@MusicPlaylistsChannel]

Lol

[@susampson278]

Israel has plenty of seculars. They drive on the Sabbath and break lots of other rules

[@amystubby]

I didn't realize how badly I needed a Satmar Kardashian-style reality show til now.

[@craftsandstuff3349]

@@amystubby yeah, I could watch it forever too! Much better than "Real Housevives".

[@contraasss]

@@amystubby these arent satmar. The majority are just orthodox. They put their respective groups in their description

[@olgarehn]

I am glad that the young generation is questioning the tradition and considering different approach and feelings to find a life partner ❤️❤️

[@JM.5387]

What, like Tinder? Doesn't seem to be producing a generation of happy, young people.

[@sergeyzhamaryan3264]

Man they really need to make these dates last longer. What can you learn about a person in five mins? If they are worried of something inappropriate happening then they can have an elder accompany them from a distance. I think it would help a lot in these type of situations.

[@chaimflink3454]

The actual dates are much longer ,they are just filming a summary.

[@IcelanderUSer]

I feel so bad for these young people. They go on a few dates with a total stranger and then are expected to marry one of them. What about someone they’ve grown up with? Someone they’ve known so at least there is some compatibility. As for the one person choosing a guy 10 years older seemed like a bad idea. I guess this episode will reveal what happens.

[@louis-vd3ur]

B bo they grow up segregated by sexes. They don't know anyone from childhood because they are kept apart until marriage

[@savedbygrace1582]

Interesting that you find them deprived, but I see it as a blessing. As a mother of four daughters, this is a simple way to keep the relationship pure, and it seems there is far fewer divorce. But most importantly, they live for God and His will on their lives seems to be the most important. I was so moved by the love stories, and so sad for those who haven't yet met their soul mate.

[@louis-vd3ur]

@@savedbygrace1582 people are too busy living for a God instead of caring for each other. Are you aware of the majority of these marriages ending in divorce, child sex abuse, and other marital abuses that come along when you're too busy living for God? What a way of life....

[@briangeary5738]

Did you see how many in this documentary were divorced? Clearly there's just as much.

[@kimbardgett6992]

Well as someone who has been married to someone older than myself for over 30yrs don't judge someone else's decision I was told it wouldn't last 6weeks .I am not the one eating crow

[@SOCORROSILVA-in7px]

At approximately 44:58, this is what a Jewish wedding looks like. If you read carefully second by second you will notice that Ariel and Esti are happily married. Please have a nice weekend. ©® November 21, 2021@ 2:10 pm ©®

[@kostasveronis5882]

How and why those people allowed to record their life's? As far as i know they are against tv internet etc..

[@miam1074]

Kostas veronis great question. I was wondering about the technical stuff also, like cameras, 🎤 and crew. Would love to see the behind the scenes doco about the doco😃

[@edwardvalivonis23]

They were filmed by someone else and not themselves

[@elccollins99]

The guys all look much older than early 20’s.

[@II-be1ze]

No they don't. They look 20 and are 20 ish. Very young faces all gorgeous.

[@pamm5]

It's probably the facial hair.

[@evelina2363]

It’s more that they act older. They are (most of them) so self confident (God is by their side!) that they look and sound in their late twenties. Also, they study and reflect a lot, so they are intellectually very mature (although not relationship wise)

[@lindacosta3381]

Evelina Russo Plus life in Israel is tougher than it is in America or Canada. Israeli men go into the army right out of school. Expectations of settling down and having a family are greater.

[@MusicPlaylistsChannel]

@@evelina2363 relationship wise it's because they aren't allowed to have contact w/ a girl before marriage apart from dating which starts by most males at 20-21 ish... imagine speaking to a girl for the first time in your life and it's already about marrying together...

[@lindawatkin9667]

How can you marry a person that you have only met 3 or 4 times?I am not surprised that there are divorces.

[@lindawatkin9667]

An unemployed Yeshiva student is not a good match.

[@hipretty]

There is divorce everywhere, whether you date someone for a year or years. How do people still get divorced after knowing each other for years? If these people feel they are on the same journey, the same desires in their lives...with the same level of religious priorities, hey to each his own.

[@lindawatkin9667]

@@hipretty Thanks for the comment.However,many of these Hare di couples are very young.I am still concerned about this.

[@naorcracaoanu1532]

Because they are being brainwashed to believe that "love comes after marriage", and not the other way around. But if one of them is sterile and they cannot have kids, then they will just divorce, because they marry to have as many children as possible, not in order to live together out of love.

[@benignuman]

The divorce rate in the ultra-orthodox communities is far lower than the divorce rate in the general population. The marriage then love model works just as well if not better than the reverse.

[@BlueEyesBrittany]

The real true topic should not be religions but how safe and happy women are in marriage first and then men and how safe and supportive the family unit is and how much it protects and properly educate and manage everything. Same with the world

[@1sweetlittleprincess]

I am pretty certain the character Akiva Shtisel was based on Yehezkiel

[@janebii7803]

he is actually an actor in the series (he is not one of the main cast thought)

[@lmhitchcock6945]

Beautifully done!

[@deeprollingriver5820]

The poor guy at 31:00 better learn to live with a yapping woman and not being able to get a word in edgewise

[@cillamannie909]

great insight into this world of traditional life. Yet for most it is pressured. The English subtitles should remain on screen a few seconds longer!!