An insider reveals Hasidic matchmaking customs | "All couples meet through matchmakers"

Learn about the unusual ways Satmar Hasidic Jews set up marriage matches. There is usually a meeting or two, and then the couple decides if they want to go ahead with the engagement. Pearl, a grandma from Williamsburg, shares her own experience with the process.
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*This is a very, very special video of a never before seen, very candid conversation about the marriage customs of the insular Jewish Hasidic Jews of the Satmar sect.*
Pearl is a Satmar Hasidic woman who has been married for fifty-six years. Her marriage, and the marriage of her children and grandchildren, were set up according to Hasidic customs. Pearl shared very candidly how her marriage was organized and graciously answered all of my questions about dating, attraction, sex education, matchmaking, and so much more. This is a very very special interview, and I am so delighted to share it with you all on youtube.
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[@CD-cy8xx]

Dear viewers please understand that you are watching a very unique moment. One has to marvel at this interview. It is extremely rare to have such a privilege looked into Hasidic way of life. Pearl herself is extremely generous to share and express her experiences on these very deep subjects. Freida thank you for listening we wanted more of Pearl and are delighted to have this interview. Can't wait for part 2.

[@jameschicken1008]

I could be wrong, but it shows how much trust Pearl has in frieda. I think it's takes quite a bit of trust for hasids to open up like this

[@kellkatz]

Agree 1000%. Pearl is sharing her gifts with all of us, she is a giver! I hope we are blessed to hear her share more.

[@HarryWeisskaimu]

Great lady

[@HarryWeisskaimu]

Both of them are great ladies 😊

[@lacewatkins8715]

I am acutely aware of what a generous gesture and moment that I am being allowed to share with two of you. Deep gratitude.

[@diedrecowart3498]

I LOVE Pearl...and I'm not even Jewish! Her wisdom crosses all boundaries in my opinion.

[@jenniferflaherty730]

Pearl is a DIAMOND!!!

[@mayfleur36]

@@jenniferflaherty730 absolutely. Pearl is one in a million ❤️

[@glendagai]

Amen, Pearl is such a women of wisdom and faith.

[@jennsbeltran]

Agreed ❤I am not Jewish and although raised Catholic do not follow any organized religion. I am in awe of her 🌹

[@mariavictoria7829]

Me too! She’s a beautiful, playful soul!

[@desta4383]

Can Pearl get her own podcast. The woman is a gem.

[@FriedaVizelBrooklyn]

That would be awesome.

[@oliwiaradomska6125]

It would be amazing

[@Lacirose88]

🙌👏

[@venessamaxwell8105]

Pearl 2024 POTUS I can dream!!!! Could you imagine? All of that wisdom. She can lead and has a good head on her shoulders. Something we are missing Thank you for this video!!!

[@FriedaVizelBrooklyn]

@@venessamaxwell8105 ha ha ha, I have to tell her this - I bet she'll have a good laugh.

[@haddassnotebook6357]

"Do you know how peaceful life is when you know ? when you have a purpose; it is not a fairy tale...." She is brilliant

[@jamespetherbridge2151]

Pearl absolutely should be teaching a college course. She is amazing and I could listen to her for hours!

[@FriedaVizelBrooklyn]

100%

[@graywolff451]

Ppl

[@gilashroot8697]

That is because the Rebbitzin is speaking Truth.

[@anabellec5834]

I’m a Christian and Wow the conversation about only having control over the morals in life was so so powerful

[@ashleyo4055]

For real! That was a whole sermon 🙌 I think I understand "Thy will be done" even more now.

[@rmrpjm]

Absolutely

[@MrArtist1971]

Because christians are in big trouble. They eat pork, among many other things that are forbidden by Elohim.

[@FriedaVizelBrooklyn]

Dear all - Thank you so much for watching this very special video. I have a hard time articulating how difficult it is to get Satmar Hasidic Jews on camera, much less to talk about their intimate lives. Much less a woman! Almost all Satmar Hasidim on camera are men or ex-hasidic. This is such a special video for me because Pearl is not only opening up, but she does so with great wisdom, warmth, humor and clarity. I hope that others on the internet will appreciate what a special gift she gave us by agreeing to these conversations. Thank you all for watching and for your kind comments!

[@anonymous-io6zg]

Lots of woman would actually talk to you...but off camera. Most woman don't want to be seen on video, but Pearl has CLARITY and understands the need for the truth to be told to an audience that otherwise would not know and would pick up information from the wrong sources. Most of us have been privy to the lies and gossip spread from angry belligerent children who use social media as a career to besmirch our community, parents school system etc.etc. Sometimes you got to be brave and a pioneer to pave the way for change. And you need lots of self confidence and a hefty dose of self esteem to do that and not worry about what everyone thinks. She obviously has what it takes. Thanks Pearl. My relationship with her goes beyond friends....nice to have our children share the bloodline! 🫠

[@FriedaVizelBrooklyn]

@@anonymous-io6zg You are very right. MANY Hasidim eagerly share with me, but only with me, not the camera. As you said, it takes a lot to be on camera. You are 100% on point about Pearl having a very unique set of skills, making her a very special person for this. You obviously know :)

[@anonymous-io6zg]

And to you personally, thank you Freida for the videos on our community. You do it with grace and dignity and non judgmentally. I honor that. You allow the interviewee to speak and express themselves and tell their story without a million why's when's and where's.. No matter our differences at this point, you are a great interviewer and I hope you can take this series further down the road for greater clarification on many issues the public would benefit in knowing. Not that we need a pat on the back for practicing, for living our mesorah. We don't owe anybody anything nor are we hurting anybody in the process. To the contrary...we are a community like no other, in that we have achieved much & contributed to great healing and help that reaches far beyond our own community...but in a day and age where antisemitism runs rampant...it is just a small piece of a puzzle that can and hopefully will give people more insight, clarity and less hate to throw out into this already morally depleted universe!!!

[@anonymousanonymous-qx7mv]

@@FriedaVizelBrooklyn yup. From very UP CLOSE!

[@borechmundel9059]

Thank you so much for the video it's an amazing video and so important... And btw I really respect you Frida that even you left the community you still spread positive and nice videos of the community... Hashem should bless you with all good

[@download351]

It's so lovely of Pearl to allow you into her home and into her faith like that. I disagree with her, she IS a bit of a maverick but in the very best of ways. She is open and caring when her culture tells her that she should be wary of others and not share herself or her culture too much. She doesn't seem fearful the way I've noticed a lot of Hasidic Jews seem to be in this sort of interview. She's such a caring, motherly person. I'm not Jewish (or even American) but I could see myself sitting and talking to her for hours about all kinds of topics. She has such a lovely energy. Thank you for being you Pearl!

[@AuLily1]

She is a gem. I can fully understand the wariness her community has opening up to strangers considering the violence that has been brought upon some of those in her community by outsiders.

[@erbearthgarden3658]

The subtitles with definitions are very helpful. Thank you for taking the time to do them. ❤

[@FriedaVizelBrooklyn]

Thank you!! They take HOUUUUUURSSS (really, I spent hours and hours on them) so it makes me so glad to hear someone finds it helpful.

[@cconant6371]

I agree very helpful! Thank you

[@justbeachy4666]

I'm not a religious person, but I am absolutely obsessed by Pearl's candor and "pearls of wisdom." She is so fascinating and so generous to share her life with us.

[@b.bernal6151]

I’m not Jewish, but have been married for 42 yrs. and i agree with this woman. Kindness and sense of humor are very important, but there’s usually one partner that gives a bit more of themselves than the other. There’s the gardener and the plant in every relationship. If the garden is well taken care of it will give fruit eventually

[@FriedaVizelBrooklyn]

That's a sweet way of putting it.

[@azurephoenix9546]

Very true! And often, it alternates throughout the relationship. That's the beauty of a good marriage, that you have someone to lean on for support when you are weak, and they can lean on you. Ideally, the couple compliments each other, and sort of fills the spaces like jigsaw pieces.

[@jacqueline8559]

@@azurephoenix9546 A beautiful, correct way to explain a good , strong, happy relationship. My husband and I have been together for 37 years. He's the kindest, funniest, most loving husband and father. He gives love and support to us all, as a family, constantly. We are still very much in love. As a couple, and individually, we've grown together over the years and our relationship has blossomed. We are both Born Again Christians who deeply believe in Jesus as Lord of our lives, and He loves, leads, Blesses and guides our steps every day. It's true about the importance of mutual respect, mutual faith (to us) is also essential, I respect that is not true for all. We love, respect and each support each other in the ups and downs of life, allowing the 'plants of our dreams and hopes each to blossom and thrive'

[@BlackStump172]

We have forty-six years , but I think that I was the 75% for most of it and I did resent that I think . Now , I still give that total support but am receiving it back , so 50/ 50 now . I opened my mouth and spoke the truth of the lack of support , and the rudeness when he was stressed by outside problems . I will no longer be silent and accept the unwarranted anger . After dealing alone with family trauma and death of a daughter over thirteen years , mentally I suffered but eventually am what I am now , very , very strong . Six months ago , it was snap in my brain after absolute fury with an ex-relative . Nothing embarrasses me and I can speak up about anything .

[@labradoriteatheart]

​@BlackStump172 My condolences on the loss of your precious daughter. I'm a bereaved mother myself; I lost a son 5 years ago 😭😭😭. I was taken aback a little where you wrote that yiu had to deal with the trauma alone because your husband was not supportive but obviously he was and is dealing with the same trauma because he lost his daughter too. Men and women, and each individual cope with tragedies and traumas their own way. Men suffer too even those who don't cry openly. I'm happy for you that you are stronger now and looking after yourself. In some ways, women are stronger than men. All the best to you and your family. ❤❤❤

[@alishacarter1278]

Pearl is like a grandma or even mom that you wish you had. She is very wise and level headed. This is the first video I’ve watched from this channel but I’m hooked already, thank you ❤

[@BlackStump172]

She is straight and morally tough . I will bet her kids were brought up with boundaries and love . One son did not follow but is still loved .

[@ruthrothenberg7612]

😂

[@ginacirelli1581]

My mother was a piece of work. Pearl reminds me of my devout Italian grandmother, who my parents kept me away from and I lost too early.

[@fionaginsbury9633]

I love the Dor Shorim thing!!!! Praise God!!

[@salolialawidisgi]

My husband and I were matched by an Orthodox matchmaker eight years ago. We've been happily married now for over seven years. I LOVE Pearl! She's an amazing woman.

[@CD-cy8xx]

Mozel Tov 💫💫💫

[@chiarac3833]

Did you know when you met that it was a match? I've always been fascinated by this. Wishing you all the happiness that life may bring.

[@lorettaobrien8599]

Her appreciation of her husband's ability to give so much is wonderful and to her husband thank you for supporting Pearl the way you do.

[@smith899]

Thank you for this interview! I am Catholic and have been happily married 31 years. The older I get, the more wisdom I see in the marriage traditions where families are involved! What a blessing Pearl’s children have with a mother like Pearl! ❤

[@chiarac3833]

Like everything in life, it depends on the intentions of the family. Some matches are made to benefit the parents or the family line, not necessarily in the best interest of the children. I was told to marry someone I loved and who loved and respected me. I could have chosen money or political power but love is the most important aspect of a relationship.

[@natnat8199]

I love the ritual of going to the Mikvah that many Jewish women practice. Do you think Mother Mary also practiced this ritual? I think there is so much wisdom for Catholic women (and all women) to be learned through studying her within the Jewish lense she was a part of.

[@smith899]

@@natnat8199 What an interesting thought! I know about the mikvah ritual, but I was not aware until you wrote this that its origin goes back to 1BC. THAT brings up the interesting argument, did Mary and her husband have marital relations after Jesus’s birth. I confess, I am NOT a scholar. I believe many Christians feel they did not, but as a married woman, I am quite sure my husband would not have agreed to that. 🤣 I am glad you enjoy the ritual!! I think it would embarrass me so much, I would find excuses not to go.

[@natnat8199]

@@smith899 Lol, your reply had me giggling! I’m a Catholic as well and have never been to a Mikvah, although I can see how the way I structured my sentence it sounded like that’s what I meant. I’d be embarrassed to go too because I’d feel like an intruder in the Jewish realm but I think it’s a lovely practice. And I’m with you in your line of thinking about the nature of men lol. I’m not a scholar either but it’s hard to wrap the mind around the belief that St.Joseph would have remained completely chaste and abstained from any martial relations with his wife Mother Mary. On the other hand, when you look at how Orthodox Jews approach physical intimacy with so much respect and restraint culturally in general, it’s not too far fetched to imagine. They have a practice of physically separating for half the month and reconnecting the other half. Males and females are brought up segregated in many public spaces and they don’t typically even touch at all before marriage during the courtship period. It’s very different to what we see in the modern day secular west. It occurred to me recently when I came across a few Jewish channels of some really wonderful Jewish women who were sharing ancient wisdom on womanhood, motherhood and marriage that the mother of Jesus would have probably shared many of their practices and perspectives. I admire how strong their family bonds are and how their culture and traditions reinforce them❤️

[@mlaz0926]

I'm so thankful for the opportunity to hear this conversation.

[@JewishKeto]

I’m sure Pearl has heard that “arranged” marriage accusation more times than she can count… I love her reaction and how she immediately corrected the misunderstanding.

[@carolkneale1995]

Your interview has refreshed my spirit and brought joy into my life today. Thank you both!

[@v.k.2320]

I realised in the last years that KZbin is our new library. There are ppl here that show us the traditions and inside in different cultures, religions and lifestyles around the world. This channel is one of them and I enjoy to peak into this lives. Thanks to Frieda and Pearl ❤

[@FriedaVizelBrooklyn]

Thank you for visiting this part of the library :)

[@maryapatterson]

We can all learn from each other and that at the end of the day we are all human. Travel also teaches you that. But if you can't travel, this is the next best thing!😂

[@lilybean1000]

Pearl is so strong in her faith. “We know our purpose and why we are here.” I love that thought.

[@bojigirl5672]

What is that purpose? To love a life of faithfulness? To procreate? I thought Pearl was wonderful, but this is the only point that I didn’t understand.

[@viviennedunbar3374]

@@bojigirl5672 to love Hashem and to love each other. One way we love Hashem is to cooperate with him to bring children into the world.

[@bojigirl5672]

@@viviennedunbar3374 that is also Catholic doctrine, exactly. There are good, loving people of all faiths.

[@Geenster0128]

I’m not Jewish, but this was such and enriching conversation! Pearl seems like such a gem!

[@esino6667]

I grew up in a liberal muslim family, came across Buddha, the Dao, Shiva, and many more across my short lifetime. This lady resonated with me so deeply. I love her spirit.

[@RobespierreThePoof]

She's a very likeable person. They both are, really. And we shouldn't shy away from saying that Jews in general, but especially Hasidim, really need this kind of simple cultural outreach. Antisemitism has always thrived on a lack of understanding and on orthodox insularity. One could say similar things about insular Muslim sects. Islam is very poorly understood by outsiders and has a public image that has been seriously harmed by islamists and the more violent variety of Arab nationalists, not to mention Shia theocrats. I teach cultural history at the college level and routinely confront these misunderstandings every time I teach the ancient history of Judaism or the Islamic Golden Age. Sometimes it feels like I'm walking on a minefield. (There's also a lot of hostility and misgivings towards certain varieties of Christianity, I find. But at least the students know the basics of Christian theology and the story of Jesus.)

[@cbrushira831]

I love her

[@cbrushira831]

1st time watching and she reminds me of my grandma, just wise

[@chavahbateli3355]

This is my life❤

[@chavahbateli3355]

Pearl, you are so much like me... Love you... My husband sounds like yours... He gave more, I gave less. Thankfully I learnt in time. 43 yrs together...

[@calmbeforethestorm9498]

I could watch a weekly video of conversations with Pearl.

[@kayoticmind]

Your face, your voice, your eyes, your body all bear witness to the pain you suffered in your own experience w/a so-called match. How gracious it was for Pearl to acknowledge that yours was, in fact, an arranged marriage. And how beyond gracious it was for you to not only allow, but also encourage Pearl to discuss her extremely blissful partnership. You challenged one another but allowed your audience to more fully understand the spectrum of outcomes in "arranged meeting marriages". Pearl's story gladdened my heart. What little I could infer about your experience, from both your questions & comments, took my gladdened heart & broke it in two. However, your style of interviewing & insightful guest allowed me to more fully appreciate both. Respect & gratitude🙇

[@FriedaVizelBrooklyn]

This is a very thoughtful comment and I appreciate that you can hear and honor two stories at once.

[@rachelburbidge4450]

You can have the best education money can buy but never receive wisdom. Pearl has no need to open those book cases in the dinning room, the razor sharp insight, depth of worldly knowledge combined with her ability to convey her faith and philosophy in a way that communicates with people from all walks of life is a pleasure to watch. I watch with deep admiration for a very special lady.

[@renafielding945]

There’s a turn of phrase here, she has more money than sense.😅

[@minkagoldstein9228]

Please convey to Pearl that she is incredible. Her teachings to me on these videos is priceless. She can for sure be a roll model for many of us.

[@juliaelgendy6879]

Pearl states her perspective in such a simple, understandable way. I am not Jewish, but was born and raised in Boro Park for the first twelve years of my life. I also worked as a nurse in Maimonides Medical Center for 22 years. So, I have learned a lot about both the Orthodox and Hasidic communities. I appreciate and respect all the practices of both. Thank you for your fascinating videos.

[@johnballard6725]

Did you ever come across a nurse called Nirmala (Nimmi) Welikala who also worked there - we dated for a while when I was in Toronto 73-77 ?

[@phoneman-xs3ft]

I find it interesting that she says that the trick to our successful marriage is act like you're strangers in a way of being kinder to one another I don't know, me personally, I care more about the people I'm close to, strangers can f off LOL

[@juliaelgendy6879]

@@johnballard6725 yes I worked with Nimi in the ICU and Nursing Education.

[@megancarmichael4086]

These conversations with Pearl make me feel like I'm hanging out with my Irish grandmother who died in 1999. Thank you so much for having and sharing these vulnerable moments. 🧡🍀

[@lorettaobrien8599]

Absolutely......

[@Derrellyn]

She is a beautiful example of what it means to fully honor, respect, and engage with a loving Creator.

[@margaretreganlevine7250]

Pearl is a beautiful reflection of her faith full life. I feel so privileged to experience her.

[@Icemansmom]

A Satmar? And a woman? This is so special. Thank you We need more Pearl!!

[@7995writer]

I love Pearl. What an ambassador for the Satmar Hassidic way of matchmaking and marriage. She's a smart, insightful, funny woman who manages to make her community's customs understandable and palatable to secular people.

[@cookiessprite]

She's great, thank you for setting this up and to her for talking about her faith, culture, life. She's a real character and I love hearing her stories.

[@FriedaVizelBrooklyn]

She is. :) Thanks for watching!

[@Peter-ov6xh]

Very interesting that Pearl didn't object when Frieda described her own marriage as an arranged one. That was quite respectful of her to acknowledge that Frieda's life may have been different.

[@martinzeddy]

I find Pearl's spirituality and her notion of faithfulness deeply compelling. Thank you Pearl and Frieda.

[@lorrainemclean3914]

This woman is just a gorgeous human being!! I loved her from the initial video…I literally could listen to her forever. I totally get how special and unique this is!!!! Thank you Frieda ❤️

[@historicallyapproximate]

What an honour to be given the chance to hear her wisdom. I remember watching the video of her home tour and being so encouraged to create a peaceful home, and now I find myself encouraged to apply these ideas to my actions.

[@jennifertalley49]

I absolutely loved this ! I’m not Jewish, and this has been very enlightening for me. We need more Pearl’s in the world. The Jewish traditions and culture have always seemed a taboo subject, therefore creating fear. Pearl does a fantastic job articulating the concepts that the average person doesn’t know. In todays world , we need more interviews like this. I love the science 🧬 included in the religion. Nothing good ever comes from fear. Pearl is a brave and lovely woman, sharing cultural values and traditions. It’s greatly appreciated and respected. ❤❤

[@hatarismom]

Thank you, I’m not Jewish, but was raised in a Jewish community and married a Jewish man, who has passed away. Please thank Pearl for me for her open, charming and honest journey through the Hasidic Community. She is amazing and extremely charming. I have learned so much from these segments. Thank you so much. These type of videos bring understanding to the general public and hopefully help to dissuade anti-Semitic sentiment in the non-Jewish community. Thanks again.

[@beatathakur2292]

Listening to Pearl is a true privilege. Thank you.

[@Username12665]

The almighty requires us to put in effort 👏🏻👏🏻. This applies to virtually every aspect of life.

[@lisadooleyfisk253]

Pearl is an absolute gift. It is a wonder that you were able to share her with us! Thank you both.

[@mary-ellendurkin163]

This woman is amazing. She explained everything beautifully everyone should Watch this.

[@jklmnoqr]

I'm African-American. I just love Pearl,her values, her views about HaShem, free will, her vibrancy and her personality. She reminds me of my Grandmother (R.I.P.) and my Great-Aunt (R.I.P.). All solid women with a very clear idea of who they were and how they fit into their culture and community (New Yorkers, also) I feel much nostalgia when I listen to her. Please tell Miss Pearl how much we value her. And I thank you. Thank you for introducing us to such diverse and wonderful people.🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸

[@ElizabethRBain]

Pearl and I believe in very, very different spiritual and religious principles. Please thank her for these conversations. I have only previously learned anything about Hasidic Jews from people who left their communities. It is very valuable to hear the truth of someone who is a member of the community (as I recognize that for every religious group there are multiple "sides" and hearing only from one group of people does not present the whole story). Please thank Pearl profusely for giving us the valuable gift of her time and for sharing her experiences and thoughts. May she live a richly blessed life.

[@FriedaVizelBrooklyn]

Very good comment, I appreciate your open minded thoughtfulness

[@carolemckibbon4586]

This interview popped up in my U-Tube channel suggestions and I am fascinated by Pearl. What a wonderful woman, so very devoted to her religion and family . Thank you for getting her to allow us a window into her world. What a great interview.

[@darlenewilson4344]

Thank you Frieda and thank you Pearl for a well informed interview with such a gifted and blessed woman.

[@Lacirose88]

Pearl is a great storyteller. I could listen to her stories all day. This is so interesting to me. I couldn’t imagine living like that myself but I love learning about other cultures & religions. This is a great series. Thanks

[@nancya8262]

You know someone commented that listening to Pearl made them feel calm or confident. I get that, but what you were listening to and what made you feel that way was a woman who trusted God and followed his word. I loved the interview. As a Roman Catholic I wish we had more elders with that conviction and trust in God to be able to convey in their conversations, that confidence and trust to those that are floundering. Wonderful work!!! Thank you so much.

[@talhaahsanlondon]

I'm a committed Muslim watching this in London, UK. I am so struck by this lady's faith and confidence in traditions of matchmaking which are not unique to her community but practised by large swathes of humanity until very recently. There is without hyperbole what has been described as a crisis in marriage within diaspora Muslim communities on both sides of the Atlantic. We can learn much from these people. I have bought this video to the attention of Nai'ma B. Roberts who does work on women's issues and marriage. Hospitality, generosity and community will make new life flourish not our current app-athy of alienation and atomisation.

[@FriedaVizelBrooklyn]

Thank you for a very interesting comment.

[@heatherwolmarans8287]

I am 59yo, and have read about and explored many religions, and spoken to and lived alongside people of various faiths. We all have so much spiritual wisdom, so many similar deep beliefs, how did the world turn into a place where we fight about religion, kill each other over human faith in a higher being??

[@kungazopa2831]

“App-athy”! Astute comment!

[@lruss5050]

What a fabulous interview! Pearl is a gem. She really articulates the Satmar experience very well!❤

[@OpenSesame33]

Can’t wait for part 2. Thank you, Frieda and Pearl! I absolutely loved this.

[@louisel.sinniger2057]

Arranged meetings NOT arranged marriages. I like that. I like this woman!

[@emilybernstein6152]

This is amazing, kudos to you for interviewing Pearl -- and thank you to Pearl for speaking openly. This is almost unheard of, this kind of interview. This is really an ethnographic interview, not just a human interest piece. I love Pearl, her outlook, and how she explains her beliefs. Keep making more videos!🤩

[@JoNana7]

I am so happy I stumbled across this interview with Pearl. What an interesting and insightful lady! I loved her explanation of how Jewish Purity Laws actually strengthen a marriage and keep both husband and wife engaged intellectually and emotionally, so that the physical expression of their commitment to each other takes them to a deeper level. Many thanks!!

[@dianewalker9154]

Listening to Pearl, many traditions and laws are in the Bible. So as a Christian, who reads and studies God’s Word daily, I very much understand what she is discussing and the spiritual motivations behind it. I would think Matchmaking services would be more in demand than ever now. It’s nearly impossible to meet eligible people these days. Fantastic interview! ❤❤

[@fernemcallister6774]

Please ask Pearl about G-d staying out of the Holocaust. I have such trouble with that. I just know she will have a way of explaining that will be helpful.

[@fernemcallister6774]

Also, Pearl, we would love to meet your husband as well!

[@dorae6250]

The writings of the Prophets foretold that scattering of the Jewish people, along with the formation of the nation of Israel, Yeshua as Messiah and gathering of his flock and His soon return. It’s our mission to turn back to Him and the Torah. He tells us these things are coming so we can prepare and be rejoined with Him in the coming perfect Kingdom where sin will be no more.

[@YoshiMcLeod]

This was such a special, honest, and nuanced interview. I really enjoyed how you both interacted. You are making incredible content. Thank you Frieda!

[@FriedaVizelBrooklyn]

Thank you for the kind words!

[@1951kvk]

This woman is amazing and I hope she has taught others over the years. She is clear, concise and correct. Very informative and engaging. Please let Pearl know how glad I am for her honesty.

[@tweetybird30]

WoW. I am Christian Catholic that stumbled uppon this video and I am happy I did. I love learning about other cultures and parts of the world. This lady is sooo smart, well spoken and wise. I love her insight and I am really thankfull for being able to listen to her, it's an honor to listen to such a wise and knowledgeable woman. Thank you both for this video and I admire you both. Thank you to this lovely woman Pearl and may God bless her and her family with her presence for many many years to come, and may the Lord give her good health and maybe get her to share more of her lovely stories. I could listen to her for hours ☺☺

[@patriciaandrews3041]

I am a committed Christian, and I found Pearl’s so forthcoming, so beautiful. Her passion for HaShem and this way of life is so touching. I can agree with her on so many points. Thank you to Pearl, and to you for such a sensitively done interview.

[@morelife943]

Faith and faithfullnes. We should remember that our Creater sees everyone of us all the time.

[@giovannamoro8564]

I believe that any reasonable human being shares the same morals despite his/her religion .

[@morelife943]

@@giovannamoro8564 Well said! I could keep that as a slogan. (In Finland (where I live ) we reach the morals of Sodom and Gomorrah- ( e.g. already have third legal option- not only male and female. )

[@giovannamoro8564]

@@morelife943 very sad ,it's going to be the same all over the world . People are going mad . I feel so sorry for the young generations . Due to the technologies we have we could live so happily in this world , easily take care of third world countries famine , have great education and health care for all but some greedy evil individuals play god and want to decide how we have to live , who we must love or hate , they start wars and trend, divide families and so on . These are the new kings of this world . Imagine what Africa could be if it has israel 's agricoltural technology . The garden of eden. Unfortunately all we hear is sex ,drugs and rock and roll ,fashion ,money .

[@nancyklafter4500]

Thank you, Frieda, for putting this together. It's amazing.

[@lisacorreia7160]

This was an amazing interview. I appreciate how frank and open Pearl is. Thank you!

[@kategibb5245]

That was an incredible interview.So insightful.What a lovely lady

[@HelloNewMoon]

My goodness! What a great lady! So personable, intelligent, wonderful story teller. Just beautiful. She tells stories the way my father did. Bless her.

[@shaunflynn]

So, I am not Jewish but a Protestant who has trouble with believing everything that has been preached to me. This video, and others that Frieda has presented has afforded me with an unexpected opportunity to be exposed to the Jewish faith, whether it is Hasidic or not, and I now have a deeper appreciation of the culture and their beliefs.

[@ThildasBeinhaus]

I could listen to your conversations witz Pearl for hours! Cant wait for part two!

[@juliadoherty83]

I think that these interviews/chats should be called Pearls' pearls of wisdom. 😍

[@mmoore3743]

I absolutely love Pearl! She is so full of wisdom! Thank you for doing these videos! ❤

[@NerfHerder909]

Honestly, a big yasher koach to Pearl. I think in some ways her representation of the marriage process may be a bit rosy, but on the other hand, that was her experience. If the system is working for someone, then they probably are going to be positive about it, and I think it's important to hear from those people along with people who have had more difficult/less satisfying experiences. I can completely understand the appeal that Chasidic life holds for people who find a place within that system and that community that's comfortable and works for them. It's not for me, but I can understand the attraction that it holds for a lot of people. I also found it interesting (and frankly refreshing) that she outright said, "Well, of course most people don't live this way or have these views [about G-d being in control and so on], you have to be raised in it." I'm not sure that's entirely true, because I do know baalei teshuvah and converts who wind up living in these communities, but it was a very realistic take.

[@David-fz4iv]

This is wonderful… I love hearing about different faiths and traditions. I grew up Roman Catholic and my family is Irish. I as a proud gay male now In my 30s do not practice catholicism… but I appreciate the right to choose and respect all faiths. Thank you both for sharing… my Grandmothers name was also Pearl❤️ looking forward to seeing more videos 🙏

[@karenmockensturm2742]

I am so honored to be able to watch this. Pearl’s definition of faithfulness and her steadfast faithful approach to knowing that G-d is the only one in charge is so appreciated and inspiring

[@gracebitswithq2181]

Pearl is a gem. Thank you, Frieda! Keeps getting better. We would love to see more of Pearl, please, if she is okay with that.

[@maryamm9501]

I like Pearl's personality.She's kind and very confident about herself.She has stable character .

[@chavafinkler36]

Thanks ever SO much for this amazing conversation. Pearl is so generous and kind to share online, especially cause many Satmar are wary of or reject the internet entirely. I have extended Satmar family so I have some idea of their values. I also followed the Veberman trial closely when it took place a few years ago. It seems to me that the Hasidic world remains extremely patriarchal. The Rebbe supported Veberman and the victim was forced to leave her home. What kind of justice was that? The Rebbe also does not believe it is tznius for women to drive. Women in abusive marriages have no means of physical escape unless another man in their family can drive them away. Its great Pearl is happy in her marriage but i think she minimizes the barriers many women experience as a result of the social imperative to marry. I would be very curious how Pearl would have responded if her daughter had said; " I do not want to marry. I do not want to bear children. I want to go to school. I want to travel the world"? The rabbanim state that the mitzva to be fruitful and multiply is incumbent upon the Jewish man (not the woman). Since halacha allows women to remain single, would Pearl give her daughter the freedom to explore the world outside her own insular community?

[@juniperroberts6254]

I didn’t know Halacha allows women to remain single! I asked the same question about a child not wanting to fulfill the “life script” and whether that child would be accepted or not. I was raised reform and luckily, my parents accept me as I am. If I had to contend with religious parents, I don’t think that I would want to stay in the community because I would need them to accept that G-d made me the way I am.

[@mistymac9345]

I am a Scottish/Australian women brought up in the Presbyterian Church and i have so much respect for Pearl. She is beautiful and forgiving ❤

[@carolyndodane8583]

What a wonderfully informative interview. Both Pearl and Frieda were so good at explaining their beliefs and their discussion gave me much to think about for myself. Pearl is awesome as an older, mature woman in counseling younger women about what marriage is really ment to be! Thank both of you, for sharing such positive advice!!

[@karinolsen5066]

Pearl is such a wise Jewish woman.She is so well spoken,& intelligent.I admire her devotion,& faith in the Almighty.

[@bluemesa9529]

Pearl is simply wonderful. Her heart and incredible spirit are a treasure! I could listen to her for hours! ❤

[@FriedaVizelBrooklyn]

Me too :)

[@kathywright4485]

Wonderful woman!

[@venessamaxwell8105]

Much respect. I love this interview. Pearl is such a luvvie Bubbe I hope the children appreciate the simple sweet life they were born into. As an outsider, I long for this kind of community connection.

[@debbiec4224]

Very interesting! I am not Jewish but always eager to learn about other cultures and customs. I enjoyed listening to Pearl. She really explains everything in detail. I love her hair covering also. Looking forward to part 2. Thank you Frieda for sharing! Have a blessed week!

[@sb4759]

Pearls faith in her "boss" is comforting to me. i find myself feeling as though I wish I had been raised in her home. Although there are too many laws to follow. But she is a rare gem. Thank you!

[@geriattrique7141]

Pearl seems absolutely lovely! Pearls of wisdom! Thanks to you and her for sharing! ❤️

[@dr.florence]

hahaha I really loved how she was like 'come on, nature! We all have feelings!' I have Muslim roots and non-religious people always think religion doesn't deal with sex or demonized sex but it doesn't. It just offers guidelines around it. Hearing Pearl talk it's like so close to Islam. (not that I know a ton about it at all, but it just seems so similar - because it is)

[@cathysabat2877]

What an amazing opportunity! So thankful to Pearl for her honesty. She is so wise!

[@eversgirls574]

I'm Christian and I agree with everything Pearl said about Hashem, she is 100% correct. I love her heart for living in God's will in every aspect of life. She's awesome 😊

[@bellarose6509]

I love this woman! She is so wise, so thoughtful, so generous with her time and thoughts. ❤

[@lisafleury6876]

Enjoyed this interview immensely. Learned so much about Hasidism. Pearl delights!

[@susan_elizabeth]

I would love an opportunity to sit down with Pearl, and have similar conversations. Her strong sense of self, of her spirituality, is unique. Her kindness as a grandmother is very welcoming.

[@gray5627]

This was an amazing and enlightening conversation! What a marvel Mrs. Pearl is! Thank you very much for sharing. :-)

[@maureenlarsson4456]

Thank you and dear sweet Pearl. As an Irish Catholic woman it's wonderful learning about married religious Jewish women's life. Much different than what I imagined there lives are. I mean that in a good way. Blessings to you both.

[@annettegrant6423]

What a wonderful wise woman. Pearl could teach the young women of the world so much

[@tecora1818]

Thank you for giving us insight that destroys the myths that have been pushed out in the media about the Hasidic. Pearl is a Pearl in the Hands of G-D. I am not Jewish but a believer in G-D and know that the Jews are chosen of HIM. I appreciate all your hard work and I see the Love and compassion you have for the people , culture you were raised with. I love your tenderness of your videos. Shalom ❤

[@kikiarthur5585]

Pearl is fascinating and so interesting to hear about the Jewish faith, culture, and traditions I was absolutely drawn into this video and wanted to know more. Frida has such an engaging personality and asked questions that I would have asked Pearl, so thank you so much for sharing Pearl with us and I look forward to watching more and learning about the Jewish faith.

[@kellyburt3327]

I just wanted to let you know how much it means to hear the two of you discuss these topics with grace and love for each other. I would personally love to hear from Pearl again. Thank you both for sharing g.

[@classified773]

Pearl is such a treasure. Protect her at all costs, because truthfully, it is a privilege to have someone speak who honestly, wouldn't be bothered to. Satmar and Ultra Orthodox are not trusting of us non-Jews and at times ex-Hasids. Unless you are of the few who have earned the trust of this community, their stories are few and far known in this perspective.

[@maryb1239]

Timing is everything. This interview with Pearl was a delight to watch and hear the joy in her voice. So very informative! Faithfulness needs to be recognized and honored

[@eellaanndd]

Arranged meeting! Well said pearl!!

[@louisel.sinniger2057]

Freida, I thank you for this video. Pearl is a beautiful woman. So open and warm and seems so easy to speak with. I am Jewish but not practicing. Your conversations bring back nice memories.

[@FriedaVizelBrooklyn]

Pearl is one an a million. Thanks for watching!

[@lilalov1569]

I was born into a modern Muslim family. I absolutely love the Hassidic Community . Integrity , love , family , loyalty lifestyle ❤

[@brooklynnchick]

Thank you so much for including me in this beautiful educational moment. I feel honored to be able to share in these personal stories and knowledge. My respect and appreciation for G-d’s chosen people only grows as I learn more about their cultures and decision to live in harmony with the worship of the Most High.

[@artmakerforever3510]

I love listening to Pearl! She is a total delight!