dates being ruined in 28 seconds or less - REACTION

[@marshalmichelney-bc8qn]

I’m guilty of a terrible date once. Like really bad. I asked this girl to go out on a date with me. We would go out to eat, go to the movies, classic first date stuff. I was 17. I told her real quick before we went to dinner I needed to swing by the mall to grab my brother a bday present as it was his birthday that day. After the mall I start my car and there is this loud clanking noise from the engine. I tell this woman that my grandfather is good with cars and close by. Just to be safe, we would swing by. Get there. He drives us around a few blocks. No noise. I feel dumb. So he floors it just in case. The pedal gets stuck to the floor. This poor woman in the front seat with me in the back as we are approaching 100mph in this residential area. Thankfully my grandfather just turns the car off and we glide to a stop. It’s mid November and freezing. She’s in this summer dress. I give her my jacket and we walk 6 blocks back to my grandparents house. They lend me their car so I can take her home. She says she’s still hungry so I offer to get Boston market and some movies to try and salvage it. She agrees. I buy the food and we rent like 3 movies. We ate, watched one, and I than left telling her I would call her the next day. We have been married for over 25 years now, with two beautiful children. She told me it was me giving up my jacket that got me a second date and a second shot lol

[@morticiaheisenberg9679]

❤❤❤

[@Mmtm1994]

Sounds better than a lot of my first dates. So glad it worked out for the both of you. ❤

[@kathiemahoney4261]

That’s so crazy cool.

[@OneWhoDreamsAwake]

I love this story. Honestly, an adventure. An emotional rollercoaster ride. Lol

[@PatchouliStef]

Omg this is the sweetest story I've ever heard honestly!

[@angelawells2731]

I got y'all beat. Met a guy online, who lived in my grandmother's town. We chatted for several weeks, mostly just friendly banter. When I planned a trip to visit my grandma, I told him I would be in town and said we should meet up. He suggested an ice cream palour that was popular in the area. Meet him there and immediately realize his pictures don't match what he had posted online. But, since we had friendly conversations, I told myself it wasn't a big deal. We go to order our milkshakes and he stopped me from paying for my own. Then we sit down outside to talk. He proceeds to tell me that freaking ADOLF HITLER wasn't that bad of a guy and that he was just misunderstood. I brushed that off as just being an awkward and horrible joke. Nope, he was serious. Then, in the same breath, he asks me how much longer it will be before I finish my shake, because he really wanted to take me back to his place "to get to know each other better." I told him, sorry I don't do that on a first date. He then proceeded to knock my shake over, spilling it all over the table and me, while yelling at me for leading him on, using him to get a free meal and accusing me of having another date later. I reminded him that I offered to pay for my $4.50 shake, which he insisted on paying for. I got up to walk away, and he jumped up to stop me, grabbing my arm. Unbeknownst to me, there was a table full of teenaged boys sitting behind me, who all jumped in to stop him. I ran to my car and quickly drove off. During the 20 minute drive back to my grandmother's house, he called at least 30 times, leaving messages ranging from apologetic to raging anger and a slew of profanities. I blocked and deleted his number and never spoke to him again. I spent the rest of my trip having a lovely time with my grandmother, aunts and cousins. Yep, I dodged a bullet with that one.

[@esecallum]

never mind all that. but did he make you laugh?

[@eowyn8340]

I hope you reported him to the dating service. He sounds like a psychopath and I’m glad those boys stood up for you.

[@fluffy_mcflooferson4635]

Incels creating self fulfilling prophecies. Scary, I'm glad you escaped!

[@smarie923]

Wow... crazy af

[@ashv9565]

When the group of teenage boys recognizes that you're a problem... And feels compelled to get involved...

[@Luminara1981]

I once went on a date, reached the venue to get a text... He couldn't come?. Oh well, party on Wayne, party on Garth! ... I stayed at the venue cause it was a good vibe. 2 hours later he turns up with somebody else!. ... On a date! 😂. Had the audacity to ask me why I was still there because he felt awkward! 😂😂😂

[@powellinaALDAY]

Omg what did you say??? That’s so crazy!

[@Luminara1981]

@@powellinaALDAY oh I went straight up to him and asked him if I'd made a mistake, he said 'no I'm sorry, but I've liked him for a long time and he said he would go out with me tonight' then he asked why I would still be there? But the whole situation has made him feel awkward!.... I politely called him the 'c' word and went back my evening, and I had a great night! X

[@rosielele]

@@Luminara1981well deserved. The audacity.

[@Luminara1981]

@@rosielele the complete audacity, and to this day (over 10 years later) he still slithers in to my DMs every now and again, apologising and asking if we could meet up and catch up.🤣

[@rosielele]

@@Luminara1981 wow. Loooooser 🤌

[@Sarah27H]

I didn't realize paying for yourself on a first date is a sign it's potentially gone wrong. Apparently that confused my hubby on our first date. I just viewed it as it's just a getting to know you date, neither of us are invested enough at this point to pay for each other 😂 but I texted him right after to let him know I had a good time and wanted to go out again, so it was a short-lived miscommunication thankfully.

[@a.n.9800]

When my fiancé and I were dating it was always a race to see who could grab the check first XD

[@daphneglasurus7886]

I think Charlotte means like not first date, like a guy you like BECAUSE you know him and trust him

[@Corapaslemagasin]

⁠​⁠@@daphneglasurus7886no she means first date. Because understand her 100% on this. If I have a good time, I expected him to ask to pay. Because that means he have a great time too, and if I have a great time too I will say yes thanks and Now I can say « my turn next time » and you already have an opportunity to know if it’s reciprocal. If I don’t like him i will always offert to pay or share. And in my case if he asks him too to share, I will accept but it won’t go any further. Because I will think he does really like me or not enough to pay 2 drinks. And also it’s cultural and educational. In my island, men pay for the first date (and every date normally but it’s less the case with the new generation). This is how men show respect to women and tell them they have a good time with them. Yes it’s old school, but at least it’s not because they are only expecting more just after the date. But because they are really into her or just polite. That also show they are not stingy. It’s really important to us people who are not stingy (women or men). But I’m not sure stingy for us means exactly the same as for you.

[@heyysimone]

I pay for myself for anything a man is involved in that isnt a relative or someone ive been friends with for ages and we pay for each other to do stuff all the time. Even if were friends but not super close, i will pay for myself. I cant tell who has the expectation that i owe them anything if they pay for things, or that it counts as a date if that hasnt been established before hand.

[@feleciaphillips6388]

Asked a guy once, what's my name? He had no clue. We were on a 3rd date. Yes, I left.

[@aftersexhighfives]

How. 3 dates!! Gross. Excellent job walking away. This is such absurd behavior. Feels like they only see women as numbers not names. Ick.

[@joybodelay9679]

Mulva?

[@TevelDrinkwater]

… I mess up my own kids' names! Good thing I (hopefully) don't worry about dating anymore. ---- To be fair, I mostly just use the wrong names without realizing it. I did mess up the name of my eldest when filling out the birth certificate information, but it was an I/Y substitution, and the "wrong" name is a perfectly normal alternate spelling, but it's still a funny story years later.

[@draalttom844]

Some peopl3 cant remember names, or faces, both or one, same for voices. Eye colors. Instead they care about the person

[@aftersexhighfives]

@@draalttom844 no. I have face blindness. Sometimes my own face confuses me that that's what I look like. No. If you are dating someone, you do not get the luxury of not remembering their name. Especially not by the third date. What am I saved as in his phone if he doesn't know my name. Probably a number.

[@sarahtaavetti]

Don't go on expensive date for the first time. Go for coffee, go for a walk - whatever. Nobody needs to pay and when and if you like each other, ask each other out for dinner for the second date.

[@thepkitty]

Coffee dates are my go-to now. An excuse to hit up my favourite place which is a little out of the way for me to go to on a normal day, and it's so low commitment but still public. If he does want to pay for the coffee I don't feel bad about it cuz it's about 20 bucks for two people even with bagels. Now that the weather is nicer, if it's going well and we want to keep talking we can get more coffee to go and take a walk by the river that's right there! Also, if the date is bad, it's a lot easier to end it sooner because you're not waiting for an entree to come out!

[@IcesisLover]

Literally met my fiancé online dating we went to Starbucks for 1st date and talked for hours.

[@amabdall]

Don't tell that to 90% of women that will burn you at the stake. The Wagyu A5 kinda stake 😂😂

[@perfectlyimperfect9129]

That's a good idea !

[@perfectlyimperfect9129]

​​@@thepkittyWhere do you live that two coffees & two bagels costs 20$? That's crazy to me! So glad i'm happily married !!

[@HangingWithMelissa]

The audacity of that girl to try and unlock his phone and steal the money from the food. I hope she has been found and charged with a misdemeanor.

[@perfectlyimperfect9129]

Is theft only a misdemeanor charge ? It should be A felony. Maybe it depends on how much was taken.I don't know.😂

[@leighlilly7588]

​@@perfectlyimperfect9129last I checked theft over 500 is a felony

[@silviahannak3213]

What the Heck..why? He seems like a nice friendly Guy. Why do they always get out with the weird beautiful ones? Is that only in US?

[@karmagal78]

My guess is that she was probably going to try to get his card numbers from the wallet app.

[@Sorchia56]

She’s a vile cow!!! Definitely press charges! It’s all on video.

[@lifeaschronicallyingrid]

My husband took me on a first date to McDonald’s and told me that I could have whatever I wanted on the menu. We had only known each other for about 6 months and we agreed to keep the dates cheap so that neither one of us would spend too much money on the other person. He paid for the first 2 dates and he let me pay on the third and we took turns paying. We dated for 4 years and then got engaged at a VERY fancy restaurant that he saved up for along with my engagement ring for a year to carry out. Then we stayed engaged for a year and got married. We’ll be married for 1 year in December and together for 6. You don’t have to go out to eat to fancy places on a first date. Save those for special occasions.

[@bluebutterfly4594]

Guess it's OK if you can stand McDonald's

[@Stacey-o2c]

Ss nice of a story that was, I feel as though thats alot different than what the girl on this video went through. Sounds like you and you're husband are both mature enough to compromise and stick to plans.

[@BlackAcePlays]

Oh, I think we should always invite dates to a really fancy place. "Maitre, after studying the menu, we'll both have a nice tableside prepared bread with butter and a small glass of tap water." 😅

[@disturbedkitty69]

My love and I will be together 10 years this Dec..never really have been anywhere expensive or schmoozy but I love him with every beat of my heart..I know what you mean gir! ❤❤😊

[@ananyabhagat7052]

What's wrong with McDonald's tho?😭​@@bluebutterfly4594

[@Mrscvbuzz]

Thankfully my dating days were before MySpace. On our first date, I knew my date (now husband) worked in construction and when he picked me up, it was a beat up xterra and it was plain to see that he took the time out to clean it and vacuum it, but it still had that kind of funky smell that won’t go away, but I noted the effort. We were going to an art show and the poor guy didn’t realize that there was a private event happening that night so when we drive up and realized we couldn’t get in, he looked so defeated. So we went out to eat at a place we were both familiar with, and we just had such amazing conversation. I could tell he was still bummed about the art show because he mentioned wanting to take me somewhere, but he wasn’t sure where. We decided to go to a pool bar and played pool all dressed up and just played and talked for HOURS. It’s been 22 years 🤗

[@tweety25m]

So Sweet!

[@gemmareign6226]

Happy tears for him and you! Lovely people, wish you all the happiness

[@pavlal.4552]

This is so sweet 🤩

[@redwoodrebelgirl3010]

Beautiful! ♥️ Congratulations. Glad two good people found each other.❤ God Bless you both, your Marriage, & your family, always. 💗

[@kateedwards2191]

That is so sweet! I love y’all’s story!

[@kaylynanderson2187]

the last one, Charlotte: if a man says, "You talk too much," get up and leave immediately. no comments, no glance. Don't go for a walk on any first date - you never know how it will end. I've heard other stories on your channel that I like: see if you can have a friend show up at the same location to observe & ensure your safety (possibly a ride home if needed).

[@AmethystEyes]

Also there are safety bracelets that will send a fake call to your phone or message the police

[@truthseeker9249]

@@AmethystEyes Really? I might buy those for my future daughters. Thanks for tell me that.

[@truthseeker9249]

Well we went on a magical walk around a beautiful lake for our first date. But my love is a middle school friend of mine. Someone I've known since I was young that I know would never harm me. Someone who knows how well I can handle myself if he ever tried. And it was the greatest day of my life. After all these years he's still my best friend who makes my heart flutter faster than a hummingbird's wings.

[@susannairisastarte5192]

I got told that I talk too much on a first date once lol 😂😂😂😂😂 I laughed and said well that's not gonna change so....

[@kaylynanderson2187]

@@truthseeker9249, there's nothing like a first love. I still remember my first kiss.

[@aslaugsnakeeye]

My husband and I's first date was at a space invaders machine on the 7th floor of the college we attended. We were both nontraditional students, him a disabled marine veteran, me a newly divorced single mom. It was the BEST date. He bought me a grilled cheese with bacon sandwhich that we shared and shared a coke. 10 years later on our anniversary he still makes me grilled cheese with bacon. 2 kids, 4 cats and a homestead later, I can confidently say it was the best choice to tell him yes.

[@bethysbarn]

This is so cute!! 🥰❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@Professionalasshole]

I love it! My fiancé still makes me grilled turkey and cheese sandwiches. Food is so much better when you don't cook it yourself! ❤

[@desireebailey611]

That is an awesome story!!

[@morticiaheisenberg9679]

❤❤❤

[@aslaugsnakeeye]

@@bethysbarn Thank you!

[@roxy071288]

the girl with the wine REALLY DRINKIN THAT WINE. I don't get how guys don't see the signs of a crash and burn

[@ashalonchiq]

I hope her dad saw that. Lol. He won't value u as a wife. He expects a stepford wife.😂

[@artemis199]

She was like,” I might as well get drunk!” 😂

[@Jellybeansatdusk]

She needed at least two more glasses to pretend to listen to that bs

[@mrsmaggiekoch]

Because it was fake.

[@paulaw418]

That date, that conversation... *_making everyone gay..._* I would have been drinking like crazy too.

[@JenniferShipleyArt]

“Giving my home address to someone before our first date is my first mistake. Getting alone into the car of someone with whom I don’t know and already asked me for money was my second mistake. Getting back into his car after every moment of this date had been horrible was my third mistake.” I am so glad she got home safely.

[@hunnibear0102]

Right! That's what I was thinking!!!

[@shalonamaranth]

She was travelling so it's unlikely to be her home address .. but yeah . Don't take rides from men you don't know

[@Zectifin]

honestly as a guy if a girl online gave me her home address I just met online I would see that as a red flag. Either she has no self preservation instincts or she's up to something and I'm putting myself in danger.

[@TeaBooksandYoga]

Moral of the story: If something feels off, just leave. You don't need to give an explanation other than taking care of yourself.

[@glitterbomb7896]

Amen! Best advice ever ❤

[@VasudhevKutumbkam-z4y]

Yeah, I need to work on this! Remember girl, remember

[@Gwendolina12]

Safety first. Always ask for public places to meet. Maybe even in daylight. Have people you know in the neighbourhood or watching their phone for your emergency call.

[@TeaBooksandYoga]

@@glitterbomb7896 ❤❤❤

[@glee_again2594]

Yeah. Don’t get in a car alone for that first date. She was trying to safely get back. But yes, you could call someone or an Uber to pick you up.

[@shopahauliquewithjacquelin7025]

The egg cutting machine is insane. It takes 1 minute or less to hand cut an egg. She spent 2 minutes machine cutting one egg, with a lot of it trapped between parts, and will spend 30 minutes cleaning the machine.

[@Sindrijo]

That wasn't even the weirdest thing... HONEY???? On avocados and eggs?!

[@shopahauliquewithjacquelin7025]

@@Sindrijo I got stuck on the ridiculous machine. Good point, it's a no all the way around.

[@carolinegrova8707]

Once she started putting the eggs into the vegetable grater, I couldn't really pay attention any more.

[@shopahauliquewithjacquelin7025]

@@carolinegrova8707 I want a video of her cleaning that hot mess out the machine.

[@marshmallow13585]

It's not just for eggs. It's awesome for cheese and veggies too

[@BorkDorkArt]

One of the reasons I've never liked "blind dates" or "online dating". Meeting up with someone you barely know or even don't know at all with the clear intention of seeing if you're date compatible always seems to end in disaster. I can't speak from experience, but just what I've seen/heard from other people. I feel meeting someone and developing a friendship THEN, if both of you catch feels for each other and try moving on to the dating portion is a much for comfortable and "natural" way of progressing a relationship. It also gives you insight to who you're meeting up with and there's already a sense of familiarity there. Just my personal opinion on the dating scene tho. If blind dates/online dating works for you, I'm thrilled for you and wish you all the best and hope you stay safe out there ♥

[@lindawilliams5478]

I’ve been married to my husband sixty one years. When we went on dates I paid for myself. We both made less than minimum wage. He asked his older sister if it was ok. She told him sure if l volunteered. This was early in our courtship, sixty one years later we share everything to do with money. This makes me feel better about myself.

[@Mary-Ann_B_Mabaet]

Integrity of Honesty and Communication. That's how it ought to be. I'm glad people like you exist: to remind us that it's all possible! May you have a wonderful day

[@Da1n_0nly]

Congratulations on your wonderful relationship ❤️ unfortunately nowadays it just doesn't seem highly likely that a good-hearted man is going to find a good-hearted woman or vice-versa. Modern society has ruined it for both sexes.

[@Zectifin]

the audacity of someone saying "you talk too much" on a date. like thats the point of a date, for you two to talk and get to know each other.

[@GSTripleF]

My thoughts exactly. That man has Patrick Bateman vibes.

[@Khomebaker]

When someone says you talk too much on the first date, it’s code for I’m a narcissist, your hear to listen to me.

[@christinarapolas7738]

I didn't get asked for a second date because I didn't talk enough.

[@_se7enfall_944]

Hush. You talk too much.

[@Mary-Ann_B_Mabaet]

@@christinarapolas7738 Sorry to hear about that. Some people feel that if the other person isn't as much of a talker then they might be more prone to telling secrets and have less of an integrity to honesty, communication and problem solving things together. Anyways, practice, practice. Social Skills are a Set of skills that you have to keep practicing and the "study sessions" are pretty much determined by the Will of the Person. It helps when you practice short talk "1- 3 minute" convos with cashiers first before you consider more personal, intimate-potential questions with friends or dates.

[@carolineann5518]

I always pay my way when going on a date and as I don’t drink I drive myself to said date. My dad taught me that you pay your way whatever the situation is. Then you don’t owe any man anything. If I’m in a committed relationship then we take turns. My money is my money and his money is his. I’m nearly 50 years old and can’t be doing with all this 💩

[@Yazmin_P]

Exactly!! When I speak like this, women around me look at me like I am crazy... They even told me "oh, you like supporting men".. 😳 Supporting? I am a functional adult, he is not my father. The only reason why I didn't paid on my husband's and I date, was because it was 2020 (pandemic), and the only thing we ate was ice cream, it was really cheap.

[@SMJSelena]

I do exactly the same. I only let a guy pay for me once because he insisted and I already knew him from high school so I had a good feeling about him (we did date for a while until he went abroad for a year). Other than that I always pay for myself or we take turns. I'm not going to owe anyone anything ever :)

[@NunyaNomi]

I taught my daughter to drive herself EVERYWHERE even if she could ride with friends and it doesn’t make sense. My biggest fear is a friend taking her to a sketchy situation (usually for a loser guy) and then ditching her with creeps or drag her to a second location they didn’t plan to go to that is dangerous or could get her in trouble. Girl code flies out the window when guys or drvgs are involved.

[@wendycregan2147]

Your such a wise women

[@TheVespertineKnitter]

Exactly! I have 3 daughters and I have drummed into them since they were small that you always, always, always go dutch on a first date.

[@llamainyamama3088]

Not her guzzling the wine while choking out the “yea… oh mmyeah”s

[@Mina-hm2og]

What is sad in these videos is not the hurt feelings of the women, but the fact that in each story none of them left immediately when they felt uncomfortable :when the first rude remark was made, when they were ignored, when their date did something they didn't like, when they felt uncomfortable, or even when they didn't feel safe. Instead they tried to excuse the bad behavior and rationalize. Why does society teaches girls that above their safety, comfort and self respect is the opinion of others, and the most important thing is to not get angry and make a scene, because an angry or rude woman is despicable?

[@mistypedhi]

I don't think it is that. I think women are just naturally more compassionate than men and don't want to feel mean.

[@erzabetf9544]

@@mistypedhi It’s not natural. Not wanting to be “mean” when some dude is making you feel unsafe is not at all natural. It’s one of the most unnatural states you can ever find yourself in, and it has nothing to do with “compassion”. It comes from years of conditioning and indoctrination that we’re not as important as anyone else, that some dude’s ego is more important than our own well-being. That’s not natural.

[@eileen58]

⁠@@mistypedhi Nah, we are definitely taught to not make a scene and look “crazy.” We are told to minimize our feelings and our pain and “don’t make a big deal out of things” even if you really feel unsafe for uncomfortable. That’s not compassion, that’s brainwashing. We are also taught to be careful not to offend a man because he could hurt you, so don’t do anything to upset them. Basically we are taught that our safety and feelings don’t matter and if they do, don’t show it.

[@Kors_Cookie]

The way people emotions are these days… rejection could get you killed! So many stories of girls saying no and ending up dead. I think its pure survival. Last the date as long as possible while trying to find an escape route

[@paulcdevine]

It is called agency. Particularly the one with two girls and one is mostly ignored. Take control you. Introduce yourself then ask the man what is going on etc. Why are you sitting there like you are helpless? Oh, and don't make out him LOL. You just rewarded his bizarre and radically rude behavior thus make it virtually certain he will do it again. Stop it!!

[@jacklow9611]

When paying at a restaurant, NEVER just leave the money on the table. always take it to the counter and pay for it there. That way, you have proof that it was paid for, and it can't get stolen. Even tips just lying in plain sight on the table could be stolen by someone walking by.

[@carolynmcdonald2746]

You’re right..I’ve seen people steal tips before. I always wait for the wait staff to return or I’ll hand it to them on my way out.

[@owatagusiam44]

Not even just other patrons, I used to waitress and this lady Karen (her actual name) would steal people's tips for herself. We were not in a place that pooled tips.

[@ajamzmom4882]

My husband is totally paranoid about this, he always makes us wait until the server comes back to hand them their tip.

[@ingridakerblom7577]

I will wait for the server to return to get the money before I leave. And I live in a place where no one would probably just take it. If you lose your wallet you will get it back with everything left (mostly) . My mom had her wallet stolen, the theif took 50€ the only cash in there & a few ibuprofen tablets 😂 Then the theif had left her wallet on the back off some random bike in town & the next morning someone saw it & called her.

[@jacklow9611]

@@ingridakerblom7577 : In certain cases when I can't leave a tip at the counter when I pay, and can't give it directly to the server, I'll tuck it under one of the plates so it can be found as the table is cleared.

[@HalfB]

🚨The first example had my red flags flying but about her. I understand the focus is red flags from your date but what about the red flags that should be known concerning safety and what to NOT do!! 🚨 1) Never never never meet a new person in your home or hotel room. 2) never allow them to pick you up at your home or B&B or hotel. Getting into a car with a stranger is an absolute red flag. Always always always drive yourself or get an Uber to where you’re meeting. 3) Never tell them your home address or the exact hotel you’re staying at before the date. 4) Meet at a restaurant , coffee shop or establishment that is well lite, busy with customers and not out and away from other businesses and people coming and going. 5) always gets to your date destination a half hour early so you can assess the safety of the location. 6) Always tell hotel staff/or one family member or friend where your meeting and your dates name. 7) For hotel stays, leave the name, address and a phone number of a family/friend with the front desk in case of an emergency. 8) when you arrive early to your date, speak to the hostess, manager and introduce yourself and let them know about your meeting a new person for a date. At a minimum they naturally will have more attention and concern . 9) I could go on but, if all people ( especially young people) did these few things then they would be safer on every date. God bless!!!! 🥰🛐😇

[@coachnursececille]

Thank you for posting this. It's as if you read my mind. Totally agree with you.👏🩷🩵

[@LoveLifeLiveLife7]

I agree on all except trusting the hotel's staff with an address. Hotels also have employees who get hired by human traffickers to gove them them leads on people

[@HalfB]

@@LoveLifeLiveLife7 Using common sense and basic security measures is what I’m trying to say. There are predators, just don’t make it easy to take advantage of you. Learn to have situational awareness and don’t stay in places that set off normal alarm bells. Be safe but still have fun, travel and enjoy life…. Big sister hugs!!! 🤗🙌

[@LoveLifeLiveLife7]

​@@HalfBI agree!

[@CarriedAwayWithDolls]

The gentleman in the glasses and blocked colored sweater is absolutely adorable. I'd introduce him to my beautiful, kind and classy daughter if we lived in the same city. This man needs a good hearted women. He is a sweetheart, a gem, and must be protected at all costs!

[@adristein84]

The guy towards the end who had his phone sat on and got robbed of the check money seems like such a sweetheart! I feel so bad for him. He’s adorable. I hope he’s had a decent date since that experience! I’d usually recommend to be a petty potato and exact revenge but holy hell he doesn’t need to see that girl ever again

[@robinkholmes7127]

Thank God for security cameras

[@BeeWhistler]

Was that your take? He seems nice but he really needs to learn some basic societal survival skills. He thinks WWIII is a conspiracy theory and that farts on your phone give you pink eye and leaves his phone with strangers then lets them use the phone after they try to unlock it while he’s gone. Man, she was a piece of work but it’s so frustrating to watch someone taunt fate like that. She saw him coming a mile away.

[@huskytail]

@@BeeWhistler what does "he thinks WWIII is a conspiracy theory" mean? I must have missed someething ☺️.

[@Elven_Lady]

​@@BeeWhistler a fart? No. 😂 An STD if her bits rubbing on his phone and leaving even trace amounts of fluids and those fluids coming in contact with the fluids of his eye? He's not wrong for getting tested.

[@saintejeannedarc9460]

@@BeeWhistler Most of that I agree w/ you on about him needing more survival skills. Have to admit, he was acting a bit more like woman often do, w/ being too agreeable and extending too much benefit of the doubt. it could be possible to get pink eye though. Pink eye can come from feces and that's pretty much what a fart is, in vapour form. Esp. if she got her actual ring touching his phone. I'd be freaked out at the possibility. Hope his immune system was good and strong.

[@shishimii]

‘she will steal your money and fart on your phone’ IS THERE A WORSE REVIEW A MAN CAN LEAVE ABOUT YOUR DATE? 🤣 im cryinggggg 😂

[@Stories_I_Tell_Ya]

😂😂😂 I do love that he got to see it all on camera.

[@sallygirl1012]

Dude reviews on dating profiles would be funny as hell. Also quite helpful.

[@dbpublishinghouse]

You knew the Avocado toast was going south when she used a fork instead of a spoon to scoop it out of its skin. Also, the clean up on the 'egg grater" is not worth the effort.

[@tjohnson9192]

The pushing-through egg slicer is much better! Then a few cuts to make slices into strips, bam, done.

[@Mars_doll]

That all I could think of.

[@beaniebaby638]

Thank you I was thinking this the whole time lol

[@jessicalee9884]

I came to the same conclusion! Who scoops out avocado with a fork?! She must be insane

[@desert_holly]

Lmfao i just wrote about that. Whhhhhy didnt she use a knife on the eggs 😂 that veggie shredder probably still has egg stuck in it 🤣

[@bysscanna]

once went to dinner with an ex crush, i remember he put his phone up against MY water glass and said "if you don't mind I'm going to be watching this game while we're eating" yeah needless to say we definitely don't talk anymore

[@gingerbeer849]

First date with a fellow I met at an improv show (my son's first show with his troupe). He shows up for a "farm date" to ride horses with me (my horses) -- told me he could ride well. We went on a short ride through farm fields, very nice ride, very pretty, along a river. He had brought his dog, which he said ran five miles a day with him on his bike. He couldn't even get on the horse, let alone ride. I put him on a small horse (easy to get on) who was a sweetheart and would give him no trouble. She (the horse) was so pissed at his awful riding she pinned her ears the whole ride -- I'd never seen her do this before. His poor dog must have been laying next to a stationary bike for that "five miles a day." The dog had a heat stroke and DIED about 1/2 mile into the ride!!! I carried that dog (big dog!) to a pool of water as it was expiring, trying to cool it down, and gave it mouth to nose resuscitation three times to bring it back when it stopped breathing. The man was totally useless. When we got back to the farm, my dad (lived next door) handed him a shovel and showed him a place in the garden where he could bury the dog. Date guy was insulted that he was being asked to bury the dog, himself. Once it was buried he came into my house to shower!!! I'm the one covered in death slobbers and mud -- but he wanted to clean up first (while I made sandwiches because he was really hungry) and then (I've washed my hands, obviously, but still wearing muddy clothes) started angling for a pity fuck because "he was sad about his dog dying". Worst date of my life. The dog was a sweetheart and this asshole killed him by lying, lying, lying.

[@user-lt1jd1ye3v]

I feel so sad for the dog. And you did not deserve that sociopath who murders his dogs..

[@FrankskinOrweed-ep4ij]

Kristi noem said hold my drink.. Thanks for being a good companion to the dog!

[@bobbiellison4315]

Good Lord! Tell me this is pure fiction

[@eacomedy]

HOLY CRAP THE TRAUMA

[@dela2612]

This one. This one is the worst one

[@jemmrich]

I once rejected a girl i was talking to on a dating app because she randomly found my number started texting me, then she would drive by my house asking me "guess where i am right now? Looks like you must be at work.". I never told her my number or where i lived. Then, after i thought it couldn't get worse, she began to gaslight me, saying im not a man and must be intermediated and can't handle a committed relationship" etc. until i finally blocked her. Two months later, she popped up on Facebook with "just got married" 😳 like what the freak...

[@2late4date]

That creep is the perfect candidate for a restraining order.

[@KylaHaynes-g7t]

She'll end up on 'snapped' one day, sounds like you dodged a bullet!

[@Nina-vv3ev]

Her poor husband 😂

[@Bayloy]

" she will steal your money and fart into your phone" 😂😂😂 I cant believe its real 😂😂😂😂

[@bellaelleira]

Honestly gave “The worst she can say is no” a whole new perspective lmao

[@melissasheppard6674]

can’t say I’ve heard that one before but now I have lol

[@szigetizita2698]

i wonder how his eye is doing 🤔

[@latersugarpumpkin]

​@@szigetizita2698 i was wondering that too. Its wild but... bc of medical implications,,,,girlie could be sued if they caught her on camera farting on his phone and his getting pinkeye immediately after. At the very least a small lawsuit bc of the fact it is a infection caused by very strict sources 👀 especially bc she seemingly did it bc she was angry she couldnt unlock his phone.

[@MichelleFahmie-u1d]

What you said here: "Nobody really likes anybody, we all just tolerate each other" is super relatable to my life here right now. I appreciate hearing that opinion from someone else. I'm glad I'm not the only one.

[@DannyDevito606]

I alwayssssss pay my own way on a first date for multiple reasons, 1. So if the date doesn't end well he can't say I used him for anything other than getting to know him. And 2. If they get super defensive over not paying that's a red flag for me like if they act like it takes away their masculinity me paying for myself. 3. So they can't use buying me food or something as an excuse to demand sex. I have genuinely gotten into fights with my dad about this I'm his only daughter and he raised me by himself, but I am constantly terrified up becoming financially dependent on someone or even worse using someone I care about without meaning to cuz I'm just used to the treatment.

[@rolandhansen812]

Yeah - that first girl gave me red flag #1 with her "this is a date so you can't ask me to buy anything". Other than that, she seemed pretty nice overall.

[@new.alternative.productiones]

You forgot the: "I pAiD fOr YoUr FoOd So nOw YoU HAVE TO sLeEp WiTh mE" reason. 😆😅

[@theycallmequeen6273]

@@rolandhansen812 Thats not a red flag. Whoever asked for the date should be paying. If you both agree ahead of time to pay for yourselves then that is fine.

[@DannyDevito606]

@@new.alternative.productiones oh girl that never crossed my mind I dare a man say that to my face, I was raised by an old school Southern Man and I fight like one too 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 like I know men say it but I've been told I'm an intimidating woman so God help the brave one that tells me that.

[@jeaniebird999]

Yes, exactly that! And also ☝️ that reason. I'm not about to give them ANY reason to think I owe them a damn thing!

[@MindiB]

“Let’s be realistic-Nobody likes anybody. We just tolerate other people.” Dang, I’m alarmed by how much I agree with this.

[@paigehillock8638]

Point period . Yes I agree so much with this haha

[@paigehillock8638]

I meant point period . Lol I agree so much

[@paperballchez9363]

That's really sad tho.

[@Fueled.by.freshness]

The reason that genuinely kind men and women, don't seem to get picked by their forever person until later in life, is due to the fact that most of us grew up in households with parents who didn't pattern "love" to us in an appropriate way.. if our parents loved toxicity, we also do, as a consequence to the fact that we grew up in that environment and it is all we saw. We are recreating the patterns of our youth, for better or worse.. that's also why so many people get divorced in their 30's-40's.. because one day they wake up and realize they married their parent, and that this was never really love at all.. but it's a hard lesson to learn, and it takes even those who do eventually learn, a very long time to get there. We will be chosen my sweet friends. You are not alone in feeling lonely and unappreciated. I see you and i appreciate you 🫶🏻🌌✨️

[@roodbennett]

OMFG this is soooo true!! ❤❤❤

[@joojooahybawl]

This is so encouraging thank you 🥲💕 33 feeling like I’m alone forever haha

[@liliannjq7006]

I see & appreciate you too dear friend ❤

[@toritorittaja4394]

Agree kids learn from home - my mother father called her ugly when she was 8 . She became covet narsist and shaming and blaming and gaslighting and physical violence was her way to raise me I didn't continued our family because it's better that way. Pain and bad karma continues of her wrong doings ( 6 abortions+ my little brother self cancellation) mentally ill parents usually rase unstable children or at least children who would be door mats / victims of different abuse.

[@ktwhimsy6946]

🥹❤️

[@christinsmith5656]

I met a guy online and we met at a restaurant (I got there first). He walks in, sees me, walks up and says (VERY loudly) "oh thank God you are fat! I'm what they call a chubby chaser".... I was embarrassed and insecure so I stayed. I tried to order a salad and he told the waiter "no! She will take a burger with fries"... Uhm... Okay?? Then he "forgot his wallet". So I paid. Then he didn't have enough gas to get home and asked me for gas money. I will never forget that

[@sfrcma8449]

Please tell us you dumped his ass after the date from hell. You deserve better.

[@christinsmith5656]

@@sfrcma8449 oh yes! There was no second date!

[@TheOfficialPatriarchy]

All my romantic partners were women I met at a coffee shop where I go casually to hang out with friends. I met them organically with no pretense of a relationship and had coffee with them several times before ever going on anything that could be perceived as a date with them, so I already knew I enjoyed their company and conversation. Even then, said date likely started with hanging out having coffee together and one of us saying something to the effect of "I'm hungry, you wanna get something to eat?" No pretense, no expectations, just two people getting food together who enjoy spending time with each other. For this reason, I have never in my life had a single bad date.

[@pancakesatthedisco8088]

This. Please, print out the playbook and pass it around friend. Help us help them lol

[@USAneedsGOD]

Beautifully said and done❤

[@kristenw2147]

My boyfriend and I (both elderly) met online. He asked for a phone call and we went out for root beer. Five plus years of happiness and romance so far. I always offered to split bills, suggested bike rides, picnics and such during early dates.

[@misst5835]

I am so happy for you both. Bless you.

[@annahappen7036]

Hope you're still going strong! Cheers! 🥂 ❤

[@candacesmith6058]

22:56 aww i wouldve legit been so relieved if i went on a date with a stranger and it was this guy. A sane, non-chauvanistic, handsome gentlemen. That story is so crazy. I hope he pressed charges against her for stealing his money.

[@danielcarter305]

17:10 Did anyone else notice as the guy got further and further into his "HI I'm the world's most selfish man" story the young lady just kept talking longer and longer drinks of her wine?😂😂😂 She should have been "Okay, thank you" the minute he said Joe Rogan.😂😂😂

[@FattyButterBits]

- nobody likes anybody - we just tolerate other people. The motto of my life.

[@RaptorFromWeegee]

Theres no such thing as a good date, theres just some that are less horrible than others. If you EVER should find yourself on a "good date", rest assured, he'll turn out to be like a Manson Family grandchild or something.

[@ThatGuy-vi8ch]

​@@RaptorFromWeegeeoh that's why I got ghosted all the time. Good date means I'm likely an insane maniac. Great, I should have been a dick. 😅

[@sarahweisheitrtear]

For the guy where she was trying to unlock his phone, i would make sure all tracking is turned off, in case she was trying to case home.

[@lynnettebelle3019]

After she stole the cash off the table, it makes me wonder if she was trying to get into his phone to venmo herself money or something.

[@klaytonalexandermatthews2047]

that's what I thought, like she may have been tryna rob him

[@LittleMaitea]

@@lynnettebelle3019I didn’t even thought about that 😱😱😱 You are probably right! Until I read you comment I was so puzzled about the trying to unlock thing… I was thinking if she wanted to check/stalk if he is maybe already dating But with the stealing sending herself money … that would make so much more sense

[@rolandhansen812]

@@lynnettebelle3019 Or get into his bank account if he uses his phone to do his banking. Her taking his phone outside to talk to her sister is very suspicious. She was probably setting him up to be robbed by her cohorts. The guy needs to check his Venmo, cash app, bank accounts.

[@jenellenelson4447]

Ewww. This poor guy!

[@vick9895]

A couple of comments on this: 1. Asking money for gas before even meeting you? Absolutely not!!! That`s not a red flag, it is a flaming one! 2. Was the girl putting eggs on a meat grinder?!! No, I also could not pay attention to the story while this was happening and 3. You have to be really naive or really realistically money-driven to think a guy you just met would buy you a Gucci purse and not expect anything out of it. That`s clearly a sugar baby/sugar daddy relationship. And yes, that guy was scary...

[@raynbeauheathercheng7721]

I LOVE your commentary! Perfect amount of SASSINESS!

[@TianaBarker]

God 18:50 that guy with glasses dodged a crazy lady so many red flags on the first date 😂 like what the hell is wrong with some people ?

[@craigforrest6548]

I know right? Who doesn't like Chinese food?

[@TattyLocks]

He didn't dodge her at all. He got run over head-on full force by her🤣 Got stolen from, farted on, THEN finally got the opportunity to run away in the opposite direction, yet is STILL suffering the consequences by being labelled a thief and has to go to the doctor for pink eye. Poor guy!

[@TianaBarker]

@@TattyLocks well at least got to see how psycho she is before he stayed longer to discover it later on 😂

[@TattyLocks]

@@TianaBarker I can only imagine it gets much, much worse... 😳

[@TianaBarker]

@@TattyLocks that’s why he’s got to run away before it got worse then it already was 😂

[@lee02jepson]

A friend called me to talk about her first date with this guy she had been crushing on for some time. He told her during this first date "I like to play with women's minds, like to play mind games with them, play them that way", she said, what do you think he meant. I told her he just told you to RUN, he told you this so he doesn't have to feel badly about toying with you in the future, as he told you up front what was going to happen, don't bother with him! What does she do, see him again!. Sees him for 1 1/2 yrs + yes he played her. Why do women not listen to what they say on the first date, it will save you a lot of heart ach + time. I no longer give her advise, its a waist of my time, she never listens to me. Oh by the way, asked him out + she paid for the first date, he never toke her anywhere.

[@ChaosCataclysm]

Waste not waist

[@melissasheppard6674]

Oof

[@BlackRaven000]

Girls grown up in abusive homes or dads like this can't see the red flags, their foundation's all twisted. This guy tried to push me down the stairs and I used to be like "hmm, what did he mean?" 💀🤦‍♀️

[@Sonnenanbeterin1991]

that kind of men sadly has the best feeling to find woman they can abuse. in certain situations he would not have mentioned it on first dates. or he would never go on dates with her. Wintessed it with two of my friends

[@EmyN]

I wonder about her home life

[@JoeyMacca]

Did she literally grate a freaking egg??? That was more shocking than her story!!! OMG YOU JUST SAID IT 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@hahahaooof1354]

Lol had to rewind it a few times just to hear the story

[@iteachlit]

Did she add HONEY to that “avocado toast”???

[@lauralaforge558]

Salad shooter. You haven’t heard of egg salad before?

[@BigWormCR]

i was like WTF too

[@Mary-Ann_B_Mabaet]

LMAOA RIGHT! WHY?! Cheeze Graters exist for more than just CHEESE these days!!! ahahahaha

[@lyndsay._.x]

I had a guy when I first got to university pull every red flag in the book. Met him on tinder, he was also new to the city but wasn't going to university. Weird when almost everyone between ages 18-24 who move to this city are here for university. He tells me he's doing this hockey exchange thing so he can get scholarships for school next year. He was really cocky about the hockey thing and wanted everyone to know he was this amazing goalie (I watched his tapes, my seven year old cousins play better.) our first date was literally just driving around the city, which was fine because again we were both new in town. He then pulls into a random parking lot and tries to ... fill in the blank. I told him no and that I wanted to go home. Eventually he does and tried to go up to my room with me. I shut that down in every way but the only reason he finally let it go was because my roommate was home. The second time I saw him was also the last time. Only reason I met up with this kid again was because I had left my jacket, a far too expensive one I don't wanna part with, in his truck and I wanted it back. So this began the sweet talk to try and convince me being with him was a good idea to which I told him it was not. The part where I truly messed up was getting in his car. Stupid I know but it was 120 degrees outside and he had ac. He locked me in his truck and I kept threatening to call the police if he didn't let me out. He was getting violent so instead of calling the police I texted a close friend who this hockey kid thought I was dating to begin with. The other guy showed up faster than the cops would've and to make a stressful story short, I spent the night at my friends house because I didn't feel safe at my place after all that. I cut off all contact but for the past year he's still tried reaching out on so many different platforms. Also did I mention this KID lied about his age? Oh ya, me 19 talking to someone who I think is also 19 cause that's what his bio said only to find out he was 17. So glad I never kissed him or let anything happen.

[@madjennie3417]

At this point I may stay single, living at my parents house, and take care of them. These stories make me feel okay about not going out with anyone in YEARS

[@amandagreen4332]

That’s what I did. I helped them through ALS (Dad) and cancer (Mom). Now that they’re gone, I only regret their loss.

[@Dorky-Corky]

Legit hard same.

[@ingridakerblom7577]

Same! I need to care for my parents, their 4 elderly cats. I work full time. And I have my 3 cats, i don't have the time or energy to go on crazy dates 😂 it's been easier to let the guy stay for the last 15 years 😅😂

[@ingridakerblom7577]

​@@amandagreen4332that must have been so hard. such cruel unforgiving diseases is terrible to see someone you love go trough. And you want to be able to help them more than you can, so there is a constant frustration about not being enough.. But I wouldn't want it another way I feel it would be extremely hard not to help care for the ones you love..

[@katarinad1309]

I have done the same cared for my Mom since her stroke. I get lonely but every time I try to date I end up with a pig or a freak. I’d rather be lonely then deal with these crazy mfs

[@Becca11389]

the reason the mean and nasty ones get so many people is because they are willing to mow through as many people as possible regardless of how they hurt them until they find someone they can push around. it's not that people are drawn to assholes, its that assholes will play the field at an insane rate basically speedrunning from one relationship to the next because they are not emotionally invested. they are just slamming through as many people as possible until they find someone who is broken in a way that suits them so they can manipulate them to stay.

[@jadziamerriberri]

Lmao you just described my birth giver. On point.

[@Zectifin]

100%. the whole "nice guy" whining they do about "women only go for assholes" is not true. They just run into a lot of assholes.

[@imeverywhereandnowhere56]

Men are the prize. We do as we please. Drizzle drizzle.

[@Becca11389]

@@imeverywhereandnowhere56 lmao what are you, 14?

[@RaptorFromWeegee]

Sounds like a great lifestyle, actually. Thats the dream all guys want to life, and they all would too, if they had the mojo to be able to pull it off. These guys, Becca11389 describes are heroic figures in the finest traditions of the old west.

[@TourettesMajestic]

The guy that got robbed - shows he’s a good dude tho since the restaurant know him well enough to call and let him know about the payment issue rather than calling the police

[@CreepyCrepuscular]

My absolute worst first and last date that I ignored all the red flags was with a guy who was into comic books just like me. First he told me on the date he'd teach me about comic books. We'd already discussed in messages i was really into them and discussed DC lore. He then lost his shit at me when a guy politely said cool t-shirt, i love Deadpool too. I was still like ok maybe hes nervous. He then shows me his comic book he'd written. He was complaining about people accusing him of being rasist when he'ss not. The villian was an Asian man who killed people by throwing fried rice and prepare yourself, The villans name was Fliedlice.... i stood strat up and walked away. He followed me into another pub where my friends were and began going nuts! He had the audacity to message me later saying he forgives my ignorance and we should go on another date.

[@williamj.dovejr.8613]

Never, ever, ever leave your phone on the table. You never know if your date will do crazy s**t.

[@KlawzLigon]

I actually went on a date with this guy, he was my older brother's old hockey teammate, he was between my brother and I in age. His dad also coached with my dad, who was also our mechanic. Long story short, the date was super awkward. Dinner was fine, but then he had the theaters mixed up so we had to drive a half hour away to go to the right movie theater to see the movie we wanted. We definitely had chemistry. We've known each other since elementary school and have a lot in common. He is a gem of a person. But we decided to just stay friends and not make things weird for our families. And he actually officiated my wedding last minute, instead of being a guest, because our officiant came down with covid the day prior. Sometimes awful dates still turn out ok! 👍

[@fetB]

how is that an "awful" date?

[@KlawzLigon]

@@fetB I guess I would say awful in a different way. Because I knew him, he wasn't acting like himself, probably nerves, and I dunno. It was just an awful date. I think he considered it more awful than me. Because he wouldn't make eye contact with me for over a year at the "family" parties. I would have...I dunno I was still like 16 at the time. And now that I think about it wasn't horrendously awful. My favorite date, though he would consider it awful, was the first date with my now husband. He wanted to impress me with his Italian heritage cooking. (It's an extremely small town, and he knew I moved here from a city that is kinda somewhat of a cross between Seattle and Portland) He wanted to make a seafood sautee with scallops and prawns over a fettuccine and newburg sauce. Burnt the pasta, overcooked the seafood, and the sauce was more like a gravy. But here we are almost a decade later. So 🤷

[@hodso1ra]

I LOVE telling this story. By far my worst date: We met on OkCupid (I'm old, ok?), he lived in another town and drove in to meet me. Skipped dinner, went to a movie. He says something like "I guess I have to buy you a pop" and doesn't get one for himself. Proceeds to drink most of mine anyway. We run into one of my friends after, dude makes fun of my friend's name. Go to a bar that I frequented (friends with bartender and bouncers), dude makes fun of me for buying drinks and carrying a wallet (not a purse girl). Insults the bouncer. We go to a friend's apartment. Dude full-on misses the toilet and pees all over the bathroom floor. At this point, he is too drunk yo drive himself home. I agree to let him sleep on my couch. He got so upset that I wouldn't let him into my room, kiss me, or sleep with me. I locked my bedroom door. He was gone before I woke up.

[@amandalongman737]

Why didn’t u part ways way before a lot of this… I would have been done after insulting my friends name.

[@chincemagnet]

@@amandalongman737what’s your friends name? 😏

[@Katfall2012]

@@chincemagnetwhat I wanted you to know! Though he seems to make fun of and insult everything and everyone

[@ellenscofield5632]

He didn’t deserve to stay at your place with the way he treated you and everyone that you know.

[@B.Babbel]

1) loved your story 2) you're not old, what is old anyway? 3) you're very kind and responsible (in the way that you let him sleep on the couch in stead of driving home. English isn't my first language) Happy to know there are people like you around.

[@angeladurand3034]

Nah y’all, I have you all beat. I went on a date with a guy I’d met on the internet. This was in Nashville during CMA week. I have Ehlers Danlos syndrome and often dislocate joints. Well, I wasn’t paying attention during dinner, and I dropped my napkin. I had my legs crossed as I bent to retrieve it. I dislocated my hip in the process. I told him trying to hold back the tears. He got angry at me because I said I needed an ambulance. He was like “this is so embarrassing…” and he left. I rode away in the ambulance and didn’t look back. Worst first date ever

[@patriciamason3637]

What an ass, hope the hospital was able to get you fixed up quick.

[@SassyST]

Had to pause this video and go hug my husband real quick and thank him for saving me from the crazy out there! WOW Let me be an old lady (54) for a second. Single Ladies, be very picky. Get ok being alone with yourself and enjoying your own company. You are beautiful, smart, funny, and so special to this world! Believe it and the good guy will find you. Meanwhile, I’ll be praying for y’all because damn it’s rough out there nowadays! 😳😫 Edit: finished the video now and whoa!! Praying for you guys too!

[@what.the.whatever]

It really is rough out there especially when you're picky. I'm 32 and I'm really picky and I'm starting to think I'll never get married. I love that for you that you have your husband

[@guestguest9634]

So love your style and your uplifting message to other women! Good job! I too am even MORE EXCITED about my husband after watching this yikes 😮

[@FantabulousFail]

​@@what.the.whatever I met my boyfriend on tinder in the middle of absolutely nowhere and I'll be 30 this week. Your soulmates probably just still married to their highschool sweetheart who they secretly hate but won't divorce yet because of religion. You got this and just remember, being alone is ALWAYS better than sacrificomg your peace.

[@what.the.whatever]

​@@FantabulousFailhaha I'm a catholic and divorce is frowned upon there but I bet it's worse for the baptists lol

[@Sarah-fs1xw]

When I met the love of my life, he was brave enough to approach me to talk to me, so I was brave enough to ask him on an informal date to the beach. I picked him up after the wedding we met at, went to the beach, shared a joint, and talked for hours. I also took him out to a water park like a week later. We’ve treated each other like a Prince and Princess since the day we met. We’re now happily married 8 years later💕🥰 Fellas, good ladies will happily accept coffee if they like you for real, or they’ll level up and do what I did! 💯

[@melissafabbri7752]

Captain Hook! He had me at "going out to eat is one of my favorite things to do!" He definitely deserves much better than Melanie!

[@l4m3frogggaming26]

15:27 Ma'am that's a cheese grater

[@SounderMom31]

lol, yeah my thought was “Using a knife to cut up those eggs, would’ve produced a heck of a lot less dishes’ 😂 But I have to admit, the sandwich looked delicious 😋

[@figjelly3476]

Aaaaaaand this is why I stay single. I am at peace with myself. After a marriage, 2 kids, & a divorce almost 10yrs ago, I’m way too comfortable just being on my own.

[@_XomBae_]

Is this supposed to be a “I’m a strong woman now” type of comment or a just a sad one? Cuz I can’t tell. I’m not trying to be funny or rude I just don’t get the message here.

[@IamElChapo]

But you got half his stuff right?

[@NaeniaNightingale]

@@_XomBae_ there’s no law that says women must be married to be happy, your comment sounds extremely toxic.

[@BatshtPassionate]

​@@IamElChapoOr he got half of hers?

[@IamElChapo]

@@BatshtPassionate Stats would disagree with you.

[@eustacia03]

That last guy read 50 Shades of Grey ad thought "yes I can do the exact thing this questionable fictional character does and it will definitely win me a submissive arm candy woman in one night".

[@ZimVader-0017]

The fact that people who are part of the BDSM community absolutely LOTHE that book should have told him something.

[@geometerfpv2804]

It works on the right person, she just wasn't the right person. When I was in college, plenty of my female peers had an older man that would spend on them. They were perfectly aware of the nature of the relationship, they found it fun. Nobody really judged them, we all thought it was funny.

[@ostlandr]

Friend of mine is a full time professional model, and is into BDSM. She is a "true switch" she says. She was at FetCon one year, and met this cool lady. (She's bi BTW). This guy walks up, and the girl immediately kneels. My friend, looking towards some kind of a group fun evening, introduces herself. The guy yells at her "You WILL call me master!" She bitch--slapped him, and read him the riot act. Dude literally screwed up his chances with a gorgeous half-Asian professional model. BTW my friend also teaches couples classes in BDSM. She made bank when "50 Shades" was popular.

[@Woo_Woo_Woman]

​@@geometerfpv2804It's the oldest trade in the world.. certain people are into it.

[@burnyizland]

@@geometerfpv2804 Gross. I knew one girl like that and before we graduated she had turned herself into an actual hooker - sorry, ESCORT - and was trying to recruit me too since I'm 'so sex positive.' Yeah, I'm so sex positive I ONLY have sex with people I feel positively about, not just whoever pulls his wallet out quickest! Gross.

[@kinzinator1]

See this is why i talk to people for a couple weeks before going on dates. A lot of them weed themselves out within that time 😂

[@Anna-wo9gb]

Same, when I used dating apps, I would give them my art instagram since it had no personally identifying info. If they passed the instagram test, they got my number and a date. Well one guy got my instagram and proceeded to call me 4 TIMES IN A ROW over instagram. I started panicking and blocked him. Another guy and I arranged a voice call over insta to see if we got along before a date, he spent 2 hours yapping to me about his Latina fetish (I told him Spain spanish is NOT latina and he couldnt understand that, calling me exotic when I’m legit a white woman…) they weed themselves out quick

[@mollysreadings4845]

Same 😊

[@SaltyGammon567]

About the gay frogs: that was true, it was some company dumping chemicals in a river and it turned the frogs gay. They also had mutated limbs and birth defects. I have no clue why you would ever bring that up on a first date though!

[@ShawniaMarie]

This is why I've been single for almost 23 years!! The rare time I have tried to meet someone, they have been the absolute worst, and then i see these videos....no body is going to beat my peace and quiet, nor my safety. Be safe out there

[@snarky4lyfe144]

I met my significant other online in a game we both played. hit it off instantly. "dated" online for five years . talked on the phone and did skype calls . we never went on a "real" date until AFTER i moved in with him . Been with him for ten years now and couldn't be happier. Before i met him i had "dated a few guys who were local to where i lived and it was horrible, one was a drunk the other a meth-head . The one i found online is neither, does no drugs, does not drink , he is disabled , only has one leg ( happened AFTER i moved in, medical condition worsened and the leg had to be taken) his disability does not make me love him any less , if anything it made our love stronger. I almost lost him during his surgery.

[@debshaw680]

My sister met her hubby on a chat server I was running and they dated online and travelled back and forth for 2 years then got married. She moved to England to live with him and they just celebrated their 23rd wedding anniversary and are still madly in love. You’re a lucky one!

[@Fueled.by.freshness]

May the universe bless your love 🥰🫶🏻🤍

[@shamelessstacib7351]

I know a woman who did this exact thing with her husband of many years and a child together UNTIL oops he's a chester

[@DiZoSoMom]

This!!!! Congrats on finding such a good man! I LOVE hearing stories like these! I found my partner very similarly 🤍 I had just split from the father of my kids- together for 15 years, married 10. He had become a violently abusive alcoholic and I was raising four small kids alone with $0 help. I downloaded Instagram when we split just to make friends and met my now-partner. For the first couple of years we just acted silly, exchanged memes, nothing much. Then became closer when my best friend died. My now-partner worried a lot so he began calling me often to check up on me and he and I then slowly became best friends. Still had not met at this point. Ex hubs had begun terrorizing me and my now-bf drove across states to watch movies and eat pizza with me and take my mind off of things. This was our first meeting and we were inseparable after, although still just friends. After a few months we both realized neither of us were seeing anyone else and he finally confessed it’s Bc when he tried to have dates, the other girls just “weren’t me”… so we began dating. He moved in two years ago (moving 7 hours and 3 states over to mine) and we’ve been together 4.5 years now. My kids adore him, and he loves them, and our families are incredibly close… I told him last night that now- at 40 years old- I am happier than I ever recall being in my whole life and it’s VERY much due to his love and kindness. Sorry it’s so long, I just LOVE hearing other peoples similar stories and sharing ours. Love is something to celebrate 🤍

[@LadySinsReal]

met a dude online and come to find out he was poly and his wife was around the entire time :) miss ya alex

[@Ash060786]

I met my husband on an online dating site. I asked him how previous date experiences were, since it was a dating app, and I was new to it. He told me one date he picked up to go to dinner, and in the car on the way there she pulled out a dog collar and leash and wanted him to wear it 😂😂😂😂. He pulled over to the nearest bus stop, and said bye, have a nice life 😅

[@skellbo]

Yeah that's definitely something you talk about BEFOREHAND. Anyone who's an ethical person into BDSM knows you don't just throw that on people, you have an open conversation first talking about wants and limits. You don't just throw that onto someone who has no interest. That makes everyone look bad, and is not caring at all of the other person.

[@robinkholmes7127]

At least she was direct, no gaslighting there

[@Kayenne54]

I asked one guy the same thing; apparently they met for brunch, and she put a WHOLE piece of toast, with a WHOLE fried egg, into her mouth, like a python. He never recovered from the image. I haven't either.

[@Ash060786]

@@robinkholmes7127 I think the directness would have been better prior to meeting up, not pulling a leash and collar out of nowhere, with zero previous conversation.

[@FrankskinOrweed-ep4ij]

@Kayenne54 I just spat out my drink

[@dswhit64]

I dated a stand-up comedian and it was the absolute worst 9 months of my life. He turned out to be abusive, both physically and psychologically, and he would yell at his audience if they didn’t laugh. Yeah, he was suuuuper funny.

[@AnAngryPomeranianUnderYourBed]

Omg he would YELL at his audience? This deserves a name drop lmao. I want to go to a show & yell back. 😒 What a baby lol.

[@MsKwesi]

Dated a comedian. It was not a good time. He was very insecure. Glad I didn't date him for long.

[@dswhit64]

@@MsKwesi tears of a clown as they say. I met the guy I dated while I worked at s comedy club. I knew he was a wacko but he was cute so I went for it. As Julia Roberts said in Pretty Woman; Big mistake. Huge! I saw a lot of fucked up things while I worked at the club. Some big names passed through and most of them had issues. Really dark world.

[@dswhit64]

@@AnAngryPomeranianUnderYourBed he’s a nobody. I don’t think he’s in that industry any longer. I would travel with him to his gigs and I would cower when he did that. He would yell at me for not supporting him in those instances. Because we traveled together I couldn’t just leave.

[@GruberTD]

that girl on date in Chinese restaurant wAs probably trying to rob the guy with online banking if she could break into phone... NEVER leave your phone unsupervised same as your wallet!!!

[@purplepill2024]

I think she was also trying to get back to his house to setup another robbery with her "sister", this is why she got so upset when he wouldn't take her back to his place.

[@icegirl2246]

I think you were trying to say wallet but I genuinely was like "I knew I shouldn't trust those valets! What if they take the stuff in your glove box?" Lol then I remembered that I'm just paranoid

[@GruberTD]

@@icegirl2246 i fixed it.. thank you

[@czntrm]

For that second girl, I would have excused myself to the "restroom" and then left the 2 of them at the table to continue the "date" without me.

[@Pieza_De_Queso]

I would have flat out asked the dude what was going on. Wtf

[@OmgaCuteCatPic]

I would have taken out my phone and made a date with someone else and then excuse myself and walk out. On phone- Hey yeah, no, he's a loser. I'm bored. Want to meet at (name place)? K, see you in 20. Hang up To the other female- Nice meeting you. Leave.

[@Ghryst]

that would be because you are a coward who cant deal with a situation that needs to be dealt with.

[@CannabrannaLammer]

Same here

[@burnyizland]

When I was in my 20s I was at a homespun version of Woodstock - 3 day music festival all my musician friends and I put on annually for a good 20 years(I'm a singer). I'm in a hottub with one of the guys that I happen to be attracted to, he starts fingering me, another girl gets in on the other side of him and before long his other hand went questing... she jumps up horrified, says "I'm NOT that kind of girl!" and runs off. I turned to him and said, "I am." I had so much fun that weekend!

[@dolphinskyblue18]

I'm hesitant to share my story because it wasn't a first date, we went on quite a few dates. But I love how this turned into a support group for horrible experiences. I was naive and 18 and met a guy at a party, he was 23-24 at the time, we started flirting and he asked me out, the first date went well. Second date went well, by the third date, he took me to meet his friends at a restaurant which were a group of rich privileged asses and he treated me differently shrugging me off through the night. We got in a fight when he was dropping me off as I was put off my his behaviour at the restaurant and he basically gaslit me to forgive him for his behaviour, remind you this is our third date. The following week he invites me to his best friends birthday party and I kid you not it seemed like a movie, there were people consuming a white powder on tables, threesomes of people making out, another group of people playing weird version of truth or dare, and the guy I was going out with abandonded me after maybe 20 minutes after getting there. Long story short, one of his friends slapped my ass, another one of his friends tried making out with me when I was trying to look for my date, when I finally found my date and told him what happened his response was "we like to share our girls" a few other things happened that night that took me some time to get over but I basically blocked him and he stalked me for a few months after that..... looking back on it I should have seen all the red flags starting with the weird age difference.

[@_bluephoenix_]

These are all great examples of what happens when you don't have strong boundaries and know how to enforce them. Know your worth people! You don't owe anyone anything on a first date - as soon as you feel disregarded, disrespected or awkward, leave.

[@phaedrapage4217]

"You talk too much when you drink wine." This is the cue to stop drinking the wine, throw it in his face, and leave.

[@theoriginalbridgetconnors]

Why waste good wine? I would drink it as fast as I could, laugh in his face and get the f outta there!

[@joycejones8070]

She should not have accepted an expensive gift from a first date! He paid for an expensive dinner and sent a car to pick her up for the date. he did more than enough. She acted like an entitled gold-digger.

[@ezfaze4935]

@@joycejones8070 Did you even listen to the rest of the story?

[@be3p]

@@joycejones8070so you’ve never been given a gift and a dinner by your partner? that’s next level for you? that’s sad

[@HorrorHermitofHell]

Or if it's really expensive wine, finish the glass and order another bottle. Then excuse your talkative self to the restroom and then bounce out the back door!

[@suva707]

That chick that said "I am used to mirroring people"...... she is 1,000,000% a psychopath and her actions matched what i predicted!

[@suva707]

@Silence_between_waves yes, we all to tend to mirror people in one to one situations. But we do not announce it. And the fact that she recommended a food that she didn't like is a extremely not normal.

[@sd1660]

I have ADHD and I mirror. It’s a coping mechanism.

[@suva707]

@@sd1660 i also have ADHD, but I'm very sure we do not announce our mirroring habits at all or even before a first date

[@kasm_nME]

Or she's trying to be open about her mirroring

[@robinkholmes7127]

Psychopath or some kind of undiagnosed or unmedicated scitso or whatever biochemical imbalance that makes stalkers.

[@tamzvand3325]

15:36 Yes!! I was also distracted by her pulverising the egg through the grater 😅 it was excruciating 😂😂

[@musicaldolliex]

The strees of cleaning it after. I'd rather just cut it up as usual 😂😂

[@WonderingNelly]

I had to rewind several times to actually listen to the story 😅

[@justKorppi]

@@musicaldolliexI have the same grater. Luckily, it's really easy to clean

[@joannreinhold9430]

She went outside to call her partner because they were gonna rob him as soon as they got back to his place. That’s why she was so pissed.

[@Just-Nikki]

I didn’t think of that but yeah, I can see her trying to roll him.

[@kaylynanderson2187]

yeah, I think you're right.

[@milksteak-]

“theyre putting stuff in the water to make the frogs gay. theyre making everything gay y’know” lmfaoooo

[@Kayenne54]

"Xenoestrogens are synthetic chemicals released into the environment as pollutants from agricultural spraying (pesticides and herbicides), from industrial processes, and waste disposal (PCBs and dioxins)." He's got it mostly right, actually. It's also affecting human males, reducing libido and reproductive capabilities. Also increasing the chances that men end up with "breast" issues; it's very common. Muscle in men is replaced with fat, just like women's breasts are formed.

[@cathryncavaney5070]

www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4586825/

[@saritavenkatapathynaidu9533]

It’s an Alex Jones’ classic, which should speak for itself to the character of that dude 🙄

[@Tirani2]

The second someone says Joe Rogan or Ben Shapiro or Jordan Peterson, I'm out the door. Bye-bye.

[@7ShadowMaiden7]

@@Tirani2Joe Rogan and Jordan Peterson are decent when it comes to being open minded, Joe Rogan is an old hippie who has smart people on his podcast. Jordan Peterson is a clinical psychologist. Sounds like you’re the problem.

[@amandadarlenemidgett8249]

That girl wanted to go back to his place to scope it out to see if he was worth robbing. Thats why she was so upset when he said he was ready to call it a night

[@kaileyenns]

I appreciate knowing the name trick. I found my husband as a teen and never had the issue of dating as an adult. However you never know what life has in store and these tips are always appreciated.

[@FantabulousFail]

I was the first girl my boyfriend matched with on tinder after his divorce. He married his highschool sweetheart so it was all new to him. I'm sure he wished he had any tips. It was date 3 and he didn't think I liked him and hadn't tried to kiss me yet. Lol

[@sharonroberson3416]

I'm so glad no one is talking about my son not knowing how to act right on a date. My husband showed him how to treat a lady right. First date- picked her up in front of her apt building (good for her that she didn't give him her apt number), he hands her a bouquet of flowers, opens her door, they go to eat and he pays, they have a couple drinks and he pays, he drops her off and again opens her door and walks her to her building, tells her he had a great time and looks forward to seeing her again. Might sound old fashioned to some but he said the look of surprise and happiness on her face when he gave her the flowers was totally worth it💘

[@thetjdman]

All I hear is he did, he did, he did and all she did was show up.

[@2late4date]

Fathers are important!

[@LuxNovuz]

@@thetjdman If you want traditional shit then you act traditional or shut the hell up. Men like you need to get with the times or act right for the women you want.

[@brendadickson9583]

You raised him well ❤

[@naadi2000nr1]

Son well raised!

[@ellabellaswe]

As someone living in London - the drinking and driving thing is so common here. Especially people living outside of London, commuting in who maybe drive to the train station in their home town. I've had a colleague say, multiple times, when I questioned why she was drinking if she has to drive when she gets home say "I have no other choice!!". Uhm, yes you do - don't effing drink!

[@suonatar1]

I heard the Poles are considered to be drunks in general, but when we're designated drivers, we are sober.

[@kleinesdaisukii]

On the topic of the guy paying for the dates: I never expected someone to pay for me on dates. My husband once told me (after we dated for a while) that that was something he really loved about me from the beginning. He never felt used, he felt like I was going out with him, because I really liked him, not because he had money.

[@lolacarter2833]

After not dating for 5 years, I tried again. Had been talking to him weeks before we went out. I dressed up, in a dress lol. I'm 62, I had pretty much given up dating, but he swayed me, so we went out. Met at his place, took his car to a winery an hour away. About 30 minutes in, he reached across the car and tried to cop a feel!😳 I told him not to do that. We get there and he gets a brick pizza, asking what I like. I'm easy with pizza lol. When we start eating, the extra toasty part, ie burned, is turned towards me. He scarfs down 6 of 8 slices, leaving me 2 burned slices. He's getting grumpy, telling me all of his accomplishments and we get back to his place. That's when he told me he was mad at me for not being felt up. Oh, so that's why you gave me the burned pizza? Yup. We talked for another week until he went after my family and friends on FB. He instantly got blocked, on all forms, never heard from him again.

[@misst5835]

I am sorry you had to deal with this. The entitlement of these kind of people is nauseating but not as nauseating as the punitive mindset and manipulation. I hope you are happy and safe.

[@stacythomas9916]

WHY would you continue talking to this man after such a bad date? Also next time don't get into cars with men you don't know any better, have them meet you somewhere and drive yourself for your safety and so you can ditch them easier/faster if you need to get away.

[@tamiewert808]

Why did you continue giving him time after the date?? Come on

[@Just-Nikki]

Don’t continue to give your time to someone who doesn’t deserve it. You don’t have to tolerate that.

[@h.neubert8770]

Narcissist alert 🚨

[@gm-xc5hl]

This whole video makes me thankful I’m married. Going to appreciate my hubby when he gets home

[@guestguest9634]

Right?! 😊

[@chrystieheath1791]

Me too! I don’t know how anybody dates anymore.😊

[@blizz2795]

@@chrystieheath1791 Me three! Is my husband perfect? Hell no, but to these guys he's Prince Charming! We eloped to Vegas and everyone said it wouldn't last. We'll be celebrating our 27th anniversary this year and after watching this video I appreciate him even more.

[@kimmcsharry4256]

The guy talking about the girl who stole from him and sat on his phone was probably so pissed when he rejected her offer to go to his place because she was hoping she could rob more things from his home. That girl is scary, and it's good that he got away from her.

[@joannecraft9842]

She was probably making arrangements for someone to follow her and help rob him.

[@lalitacruz737]

Once I was on Tinder and chatting with this guy who was not the most handsome guy but seemed kinda cute and so i decided to propose a date. So I get ready for the date (waxing, make up, brushing etc) and I'm on the way to the bar I suggested for the date. A few minutes before I arrive, the guy texts me to tell me that there's another friend of his with him. So I arrive to the date and he's with another girl, who seems quite judgemental and makes the date really really weird. The guy has no self confidence so he needed his girl friend to be with him. I'm very confident so after a few moments I excused myself and left them finish the night between friends. Here's an unexpected twist: a few days later, this girl friend actually joins the company I work for and I see her at the company's events and I have no choice but to have civil and awkward exchanges with her 😂😭

[@SeeHang]

the girl who went on a date that wasn’t a date but ended as a bizarre date… it was a date. the guy didn’t know how to make a move on her and decided to let her eat the anxiety so he could manipulate the situation later. it’s a backwards investment thing guys who are extremely attractive tend to do most to women. it’s high level social awareness used to his advantage. guys normally do this in bars with strangers where there is one ugly and one hot. they will hit on the ugly one in front of the hot one to make the other girl insecure. this allows the hot girl to chase the guy. this is old school pick up stuff from the 90’s

[@Saspharuss]

That’s diabolical! 😮

[@robinkholmes7127]

Straight forward communication, use it

[@moonhunter9993]

yup

[@AmbiCahira]

Yeah ignoring her for over an hour then downplay any interest to job opportunity sounds like such an oldschool pickup artist bs.

[@BeeWhistler]

@@AmbiCahiraWhat, really? And did this crap actually work? Is it possible that the men I knew in college in the early 90s who acted so weird that I started avoiding them were ACTUALLY trying some weird pick up on me? I didn’t think I was pretty but other people say I was, and I had long blonde hair and big boobs so I expect someone must have been interested. But what moronic behavior! I had a couple of guys get mad at me seemingly out of nowhere and I’ve wondered since then if my Autistic obliviousness and aversion to any kind of teasing (too many years being bullied will do that) kept me from reacting the way they wanted so they blew up. In retrospect, I’m pretty stoked at the idea that I walked around with a built in toxicity forcefield, all unaware, because if people seemed mean I kept my distance. People playing stupid games deserve their stupid prizes.

[@mandymonster]

So that story with the phone farter, I'm pretty sure she was like ACTUALLY trying to rob him and was probably not alone. She was acting skittish and weird, and then wanted to go to his place? What if she was unlocking his phone to find out where he lived or something?

[@lunaportia989]

I am worried thinking if she was trying to unlock his phone to get to his bank app or worse install a spyware to steal all of his information.

[@Nuadin]

This is exactly what I thought, in both comments.

[@candiromero22]

I absolutely thought the same thing when hearing the story... but the 8 year old in me thought she put his phone under her butt to fart on it and then he started talking about his possible pink eye infection 😂😂😂

[@my_foodforthought]

@@candiromero22 I watched this at 2 am while doing my nails and absolutely lost it at that part. I couldn't stop laughing.

[@lucypeace6132]

I think you're right. I bet she had friends nearby who'd follow them and then she would let them inside his home.

[@XOXheartErin]

The egg grated thing was annoying me so much 😂 all the missed egg inside

[@Outnumberedbykidsandcats]

Yeah that was the weirdest contraption ever since it just crushed most of the egg inside the machine. Also imagine having to wash the whole thing up rather than just cutting the egg up and making your own egg mayo?

[@Amanda-gg6kz]

​@@Outnumberedbykidsandcats are you British? Because I have never heard the term "egg mayo".

[@Outnumberedbykidsandcats]

@@Amanda-gg6kz yeah I’m English. What about you?

[@moimeself1088]

​@@OutnumberedbykidsandcatsI have that grater. It's very good, tho i've never tried grating an egg. Easy cleanup.

[@Outnumberedbykidsandcats]

@@Amanda-gg6kzfor some reason my comment isn’t showing. I said yes, I’m English - what about you?

[@CinnamonButter0417]

Ok but actually that guy at the end of the video looked really cute and so sweet, he didn't deserve that man I feel so bad for him. He deserved better 😭

[@OffWave69]

I just went for a first date last week with someone from Tinder and we each paid for our food separately because we had the same idea where IF the date went bad then no one would be wasting money on someone else (that date actually went super amazing and we’re gonna go for our second date this Friday wish us luck bestie ❤)

[@lisasteel6817]

Good luck, hope they know your name!

[@OffWave69]

UPDATE: We had moved our second date to yesterday because we had enjoyed our first date that much and he did in fact remember my name :)

[@whitneyhatton3736]

So refreshing to hear a man's worst date & damn dude I feel so bad for you

[@chrissiesbuchcocktail]

Dating culture in the US seems to be very different from the one in Germany (a bit of generalisation here but not too much). 1) Many women here don't want men to pay for everything. Some do and often the guy does but more common is to split bills - especially on a first date. 2) Nobody expects the man to pick the woman up. It happens but mostly only if it is convinient because they live close anyway. Women here like to be independent and able to leave if things don't go well. If the man picks her up she is dependent on him to some extent.. we don't like that (to avoid a situation like in the first story for example). 3) Not all, but many woman and also a good amount of men would leave a date if the other person would behave inappropriate or rude. We don't tend to stay on a date that is horrible. Yes Germans are painfully blunt and we hate to waste time with things that'll go nowhere. 4) Usually both do talk about where they want to go and what they want to do in advance so chances are good both will have fun. Also how much a date costs and how fancy it is does not matter so much - as long as both like the activity (which is why we make plans together). 5) Dates are very casual here. There are no rules at all about kissing or agreeing to sex on the first, second or third date. It happens when it happens. Nobody expects certain things at certain times. Everything depends on the feelings and emotions both have or don't have. 6) I don't know if it is still like that (I'm old) but I think generally we don't go on dates with people we don't know at least a little (and I mean beyond small talk). So - if you are from the US and date in Germany... it might be an expierence full of surprises for you. The stories: Honestly I really don't know why all those people didn't leave. Why wasting time on such dates?

[@SecondFloor2311]

I'm a young woman from/in the Netherlands and yeah, I think most of this applies here too. Of course we can talk endlessly about (slight) differences between generations or specific areas, online vs offline dating etc. but yes, some of these dating stories are kind of wild to me, the way it's handled in the US and such p.s. the idea of not knowing where we're going or what we're (generally) going to do on a date STRESSES me out xD (being introverted and neurodivergent probably doesn't help but still)

[@mipsan]

seems that much of the western Europe is this way, also in my country. Maybe since there is more gender equality nobody expects people to "act their gender" or whatever is going on in these videos.

[@elizabethlovett4318]

I think there are few reasons why we don't leave right away once it's clear the date isn't salvageable or going to work: 1. We're too nice/polite/generous when we shouldn't - in short 'people pleasers' 2. We're generally friendly & optimistic so when we come across behavior we generally consider bad on a date, it's shocking to the point we have to slowly process it - state of shock or denial 3. A mindset of 'well this is a bust but if I can get a story out of it to share with others then it's can still be somewhat useful/entertaining to others even if it was a total waste for me - the entertainment & looking out for other people dating 4. They set off alarms that have them afraid to be anything but nice until they have an excuse to get away - avoiding possible anger/violence as a reaction when uncertain of our physical safety

[@anthill1510]

Yes, I am also from Germany and can totally second that except the last point. Since internet dating it`s pretty common to also go on dates with people you don`t know, that`s different now.

[@jillhensley4919]

I agree….I would have been gone!

[@lillightning06heh20]

I had a guy say it was unfair of me to decide I didn’t find him attractive because he said he didn’t like animals at all and laughed at a mother getting a drink thrown at them as we drove past. He also giggled about serial killers and joked about pushing me off of a cliff that he wanted to take me to. Keep in mind this was my first ever online meet up date as well. And my last. The worst date is a guy who actually became a close friend and married my best friend at the time and got her pregnant (they divorced a month later). The date itself wasn’t 100% awful and would have been kind of romantic. His truck broke down like three times and we had to walk a mile to the gas station and back to put gas in it. Only to realize that wasn’t the issue. We ended up calling a cab to come and get us. I figured we’d go home and everything would be fine. Nah. He adds in, “Hey my family is coming to base today. I have to go and sign them in so that they can get onto base. I don’t have time to get you home, why don’t you come with?” And I was like wellll okay. If that’s what has to be done. I definitely was not planning to meet his whole family the first date. But it’ll buff. We’ll we go to the gate. We sat there for three hours getting them all signed in. And then me and his siblings all crammed into the back of this truck before driving to their hotel. His mom is all awwe how sweet I can’t wait to have grand babies and I’m like 😅😅😅. Finally got home and was like I don’t think this is gonna work. I loved that man as a friend. But I take the family of the man I end up with very seriously. And I was not signing up for that hillbilly hell. (I’m a red neck myself but that was wayyy too much) He was a good dude and his family members were probably good people. But they were not clean and kind of mentally unstable in the I want this many grand children, and I want to talk to your manger kinda way.

[@rumpelstilzchen3045]

About the who-pays-for-drinks-question: I am from Norway and we pay separately at the first date (A small beer is easily 13€/$/11GBP). However, I find if one person does not have an income (e.g. is a student) it is okay for the one with the income to pay --- OR you just go for a short hike together

[@ariadneravenwillow9322]

I do NOT like hikes for dates unless it’s a popular trail and u decently know the person but even then, u don’t know who the hell ur going into the woods with😅 ppl can pretend to be good until they get the chance to get u alone and isolated

[@1ACL]

I'm in the usa and would say yes, pay separately, and a hike sounds nice.

[@Tanouuuu]

A first date hike sounds dangerous for women (not in Norway I suppose it's really safe and ok in your country) I once went on a tinder date and we brought beers and sat on a pontoon to chat in a an area where people walk by. We stayed friends for years. Lol nothing more, not my type.

[@blueshoes915]

Do men and women have equal pay in Norway?

[@MS-ep2cq]

No

[@pieisyummycoolg6791]

I love the smell of petty in the morning ☕️

[@mwanab6951]

Sistah! It's sunset here, and I watch MsC (I pronounce it Missy) for wind down time

[@CharlotteDobre]

😂😂😂

[@eduardocruz4341]

Well, Melanie left it on the phone 😂😂😂

[@Nothereforgames]

I prefer it in the afternoon 😂

[@amputeeright]

I have three sons. They are all PhDs, earn well, clean up nicely, and are respectful. They tell me horror stories every week, from a first date demanding a gift, to the woman wanting to have dinner purchased for her and her friend. The middle one has decided he may become a monk.

[@melissasheppard6674]

Oof, I’m sorry. Your sons sound like good guys.

[@readerunite]

As a mom with sons, some of these women are crazy

[@brendadickson9583]

Awww sorry I pray they have good wives who will treat them with genuine love.

[@chrismorgan9153]

I have three, too. My youngest says he never wants to be in a relationship after seeing the disaster his middle brother is involved in.

[@user-lt1jd1ye3v]

You shouldn’t give up on dating because of other peoples disastrous dating lives… that’s just using a cop out for own life. Lol I am a normal 28 year old girl who likes exclusively coffee dates or walks first date, and there are normal ones of us out there I promise. But you need to be extremely careful on dating apps-men or women.

[@jvc8947]

My husband of 22 years. First date - let me pick the restaurant. I went with family casual. About $40 bill including tip (no drinks). He opened the door. He was sweet. We went back to his house via blockbuster because he didn’t want the date to end. We made out a bit, watched a movie and I went home. Good dates are easy - in 2001. Now-it’s a poop and pony dog show. Good luck ladies. I don’t envy this. YIKES. ❤

[@44DHernandez]

I was so distracted by the egg shredding appliance too thinking it’s going to be such a hassle to clean! Just get a knife out! LOL😂

[@lyndajaeger4477]

Same! I had to rewind it to listen because at first I was like...is she putting an egg in a juicer? Oh a cheese shreddar....but why???? Look how much egg is wasted! Aw man...so much to clean for a single piece of toast....

[@LoveSponge007]

I was like how is that easier?? I had to skip the end of that story when she pulled out the second egg

[@alexisz5570]

How does she clean it?

[@lisaschoenwetter5495]

Oh no! Not a feminist!!!

[@ambergriffin3519]

I was thinking the same thing about the egg slicer. So much to clean up, when you can just use the same fork you used in the avocado.

[@ttrev007]

I personally think the coffee date is the greatest thing. Less investment all around. You get to know someone but an easy escape plan if it does not go right. Less easy for the girl to take advantage. better all around for everybody.