DATING A RWANDESE || 7 THINGS YOU SHOULD KNOW

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Happy Valentine's Day to all my Rwandaful people. Today, a Valentine's special edition video for everyone who is about date a Rwandese. Don't say I didn't worn you :P LoL
The 7 things are:
1) The Rwandese shyness/passive attitude
2) Traditional Mindset
3) No Display Public Affection
4) No Boy/girlfriend in Kinyarwanda
5) Unwritten gender roles
6) Her parents play an important role if you want to get married.
7) Guys must pay dowry
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[@dotunn]

Honestly this sounds almost exactly like Nigerian culture, so similar

[@daromaka3750]

Enlightening intro, Loving Rwanda

[@frankdee5980]

Another v good one, Theo. Very clear, simple and warm narrative; similar to many other places. An interesting topic. Made our Valentine's day meaningful. Good Luck, bro.

[@theoisback]

ooh nice. thank you

[@jewel3567]

Good video Theo.

[@jean2706]

I'm rwandan man and all i can tell you is the more you do indirect moves with a rwandan girl/boy the more things will go faster!!! generally rwandans are so passive in all kind of interactions(including dating).it can mislead someone who is not aware thinking that the rwandan girl/boy is not interested. Don't ever try to rush things with a rwandan woman.Just take your time!

[@nessaduh8033]

I like the attire Theo. Very dashing 😏

[@theoisback]

thank you, its for special occasions, like valentine's day 😁LoL

[@hailemelekot328]

That’s crazy I came across a random video a week or so, about Rwanda 🇷🇼 (I knew nothing about Rwanda apart the movie Hotel Rwanda) and I watched it and it’s mind blowing not only the woman looks like where I am from (Eritrea) but also how very similar the culture is to my culture like almost 100% even the character I thought it was only as a bit shy ☺️ well I see why my next holiday destination is Rwanda 🇷🇼 ✌️

[@theoisback]

whoohoo, very nice. 🥳 see you in Rwanda than 😁

[@rehma5148]

Welcome

[@tendies]

You made me understand myself better, thanks.

[@theoisback]

Glad to have helped

[@daisyumutoni8957]

I could say the same

[@janinemuhawe3231]

Awesome 👏🏻

[@yahiakubara7446]

I’m from north Khartoum Sudan 🇸🇩 lives in USA 🇺🇸 im really looking forward for Rwanda’s woman

[@tarigelshafie9950]

Woo I didn't knew that you got KZbin channel bro keep it up proud of you

[@theoisback]

Yeah thanks

[@Afroxidental123]

Wow I really liked this video! I really thought that the shyness/passive attitude, that the "no display of public affection" was for my family only, but now I just get that it's quite impregnated in our Rwandan DNA!!

[@theoisback]

whahah, nope. its a rwandan thing! lol

[@gloriamutoni5137]

Same here..narinzi ko ari ikibazo cyo murugo gusa

[@patbo_]

I'm from DRC but I really love rwandese people. I hope one day I will mary a rwandan

[@theoisback]

yeah, go for it

[@howzany6832]

Very nice video, you have a great personality and are well spoken.

[@theoisback]

aah, thank you for the kind words

[@anicetndayishimiye5878]

I'm sorry for lonelness all Rwandans who are abroad. Hope u'll visit Rwanda one day.I'm luck that I still live in my motherland

[@theoisback]

Lol, yeah hope to visit Rwanda soon

[@martinkaloki2677]

Hey, I'm Kenyan. Rwandese folks sound like great people actually

[@theoisback]

Hallo, they are :) LOL

[@izdesie508]

Well, Thank you

[@mukamiyouness9299]

Am from Kenya dating a Rwandese guy,this will end up to marriage.

[@theoisback]

great to hear

[@Tunawesmake]

Dada zake wako wapi?

[@ChrissC0]

YouNess Frank😍😍

[@Millyosodo]

@@Tunawesmake tuko hapa lol

[@Tunawesmake]

@@Millyosodo :-) nice! Uko Kenya ama Rwanda?

[@barneystn7521]

Everything you said is 100% accurate

[@07Dieudonne]

Leuk gedaan kerel!

[@theoisback]

dankje man

[@nelsonnyangole3922]

I like your video mate it had an open up opportunity for visiting Rowand

[@theoisback]

did you visit it?

[@natty6247]

Rwanda*

[@amalali8712]

This is so similar to us Somali’s but a wishy washy man talking to multiple options or being hot/cold with his pursuit sees his stock plummet as it contradicts him being decisive and someone who would care for you. I know it works opposite in many cultures. Thank you for the cultural insight. Other elements of your culture would be interesting also.

[@theoisback]

you are welcome. thank you for your insights

[@rashadnoora9721]

Great video

[@theoisback]

thank you

[@wilfriedanaganze9246]

I like your blog 👍🏾

[@theoisback]

whahah, it is still coming 🙈

[@THEOPHILE611]

True!

[@Max-xg9tx]

New subscriber from the Caribbean here!

[@theoisback]

welcome!

[@Thami-vm1hc]

Which part of caribe?

[@DukundaneEtienne]

Hello

[@lydian5762]

Waaaaayaminute!! did you say house for dowry??? who did that? uh!

[@christophergwala5531]

You represent Rwanda exceptionally well. What a bright future you have before you👏🌹💃❤️

[@theoisback]

thank you brother

[@DignaK]

I'm dating a Rwandan. He's amazing...😍😍😍😍

[@theoisback]

huhuh, lucky guy! :)

[@benitheisingizwe]

tameika cooper it's depends on whom u met , he/she can be either best or worse but as a rwandese we hide our feelings, for example every person here when u ask how are u ? Everybody say I'm fine

[@ChrissC0]

@tameika cooper inbox me

[@alicesam6467]

I love this video so much...am from Kenya and I fell in love with a rwandanese guy and we have been dating for 3months now....and i hope this video will help me much

[@theoisback]

ooh nice. good luck

[@iniscrollz3801]

I am Nigerian, but I love the Rwandese woman. Cool, calm, & put together...I hope I get married, to one someday💌

[@Chilbuli_Baby]

Heeey , thank you soo much 4 this !!! I loved the unwritten rules, can you do a whole video on it or even a two part extensive video? It can be soo completely confusing and easy too embarrass yourself or offend someone in social functions. And i've felt like they form they're opinion or judgment about you quite fast. And the worst part is that Rwandans are too polite soo no one will correct you or offer any advices because they're extremely polite and shy😅

[@theoisback]

whaha, that is very true! Don't worry too much about that, they will eventually come around when they realise that you have good intentions. Just insist on your request for help, in a nice way ;)

[@sheystruggletube8124]

Theo your a great patriot. I admire all your efforts in selling your culture and exposing the Great Rwanda to the world for Tourism. Though this your platform I was able to visit the great Kigali city and I saw thing for myself. Keep it up bro. 💖💖💖 cant wait to be back.

[@nadiadushimimana5401]

The third one tho😁☺️

[@ruthnjeri4659]

Hi, am from Kenya. I love Rwanda, and i am sure will get married in Rwanda

[@theoisback]

yes, go for it!

[@pearlspeed1731]

uve really improved my kinyarwanda

[@theoisback]

nice to hear

[@blessedm58]

Your research a 💯

[@theoisback]

always keeping it 💯

[@davidvavra9113]

Thank you

[@theoisback]

You're welcome

[@mamasandy7986]

Theo where to you live?thanks for ur videos by the way... I will be visiting this coming October,I cannot wait..need some help

[@theoisback]

Now im living in the Netherlands. Have fun in Rwanda though

[@s.p.5213]

@@theoisbackHi... Why did you leave? I was told by a Nigerian, Ghanaian, and a Kenyan that instead of repatriating to The Gambia, that I should check Rwanda first. I also lost 48lbs and am preparing to enter a Wellness fitness competition so finding a country in Africa that will not impede my lifestyle is important. So far I have The Gambia, Tanzania, Rwanda, Kenya, and Ghana in that order. Please give me the 411 on how to find the expats in Rwanda and of those 5 countries, which do you think would be most modernized and compatible with a fitness lifestyle. Thanks in advance.

[@beeempirestv7025]

Hello Sandrine my name is Eric ntuye mu Rwanda ese twaba inshuti byaba tukamenyana nyandikira kuri WhatsApp [phone] murakoze cyane

[@rashadnoora9721]

Some of rwandan words are very similar to my language, I was really impressed

[@oooooookay281]

@A M probably swahili or Burundais many words in kinyarwanda are similar to Swahili and Burundi its even more similar since Rwanda and Burundi were once one kingdom before the colonisation

[@marionjumba4566]

Thanks your videos are beneficial .Am not rwandan but am dating one. am yet to learn the dance and perfect my kinyarwanda. Keep the videos coming.

[@theoisback]

great to hear. i will make more video than :)

[@uwanziga]

“Manners in Rwanda” book can help you sweetie...learning the language and the culture.

[@zachandmom23]

Theo knows Rwandans that I do.

[@Moniquemani]

Am dating a rwandese guy, and he is the sweetest man i've ever met.. 😜😘

[@evankirote9952]

Tell him i want his brother lol..i love them all the way from kenya.

[@dankayonde7749]

@@evankirote9952 love you kenyans are good people, i am employed by company owned by Kenyans-Rwanda branch but they are good people. Love Nkirote

[@evankirote9952]

@@dankayonde7749 that awesome

[@dankayonde7749]

@@evankirote9952 but they like money so much🙆😀. Are you proposing to visit Rwanda??

[@evankirote9952]

@@dankayonde7749 money is very important every one like it who wants poverty 🙄🙄

[@uwanziga]

Super

[@kkazimotomusa8804]

hai

[@kkazimotomusa8804]

are you rwandan?

[@elle19ism]

Awesome video! I'm a Rwandan living abroad so it's likely that I will marry someone who's not Rwandan. There are very few Rwandan guys here who are my age. But I can relate to all those points you mentioned and I hope that whoever I date in the future will have the same mindset. Also, can you please do a part 2 of the traditional dance video?

[@theoisback]

Well, i am sure there are some other Rwandans living where you are, even though you haven't met them yet. Rwandans tend to live low key, so keep an eye out. I will talk to Bijoux and see how we can do a part 2 of traditional dance. I have gotten many requests now :)

[@elle19ism]

theoisback yeah I will definitely keep an eye out. Hopefully you'll both be able to sort something out for part 2. Even if you can't, I'm enjoying these videos so thank you for your hard work

[@elle19ism]

Tuza Bona I live close to Manchester. Wbu?

[@elle19ism]

Tuza Bona there is good number of Rwandans here, but most of them are either children or people over the age of 30. So to find Rwandans like me who are in their 20s is really difficult. What about Germany? P.S. I just saw you comment below. Happy belated birthday 🎂

[@elle19ism]

Tuza Bona you're welcome! And thank you for telling me a little about your life in Germany. It's always good to hear about other Rwandan people's experiences

[@nitoalbano8371]

Those 7 things are applicable to the entire continent... I'm from Angola.

[@wanjiku6695]

Quite true.

[@theoisback]

awesome

[@eonacademy5036]

Marry the whole family is a truth in the whole world and all countries I think... 😺

[@theoisback]

yepp

[@princessshaniah5461]

Ok now I want a guy from Rwanda

[@eunicemugisha4441]

🤣🤣 you're so observant

[@theoisback]

thnxx

[@saafiy]

I am Rwandan, this is true 😄

[@theoisback]

yeah 😊

[@aishabigset]

Long time no see• Its like dating a burundian

[@theoisback]

lol, i can imagine 😄

[@gloriamutoni5137]

Sister countries..you know

[@mihigojo3095]

Burundi and Rwanda only name of countries differ from each other but people are the same same culture same language same in all kind from same grand grand parent.

[@abdullahihassanibrahim646]

awesome and nice video. my question is if I marry a Rwandan woman can I get Rwandan nationality? if I'm from another African country for example....

[@mohamudomar9105]

Yaan dadku kula yaabin.... sharci raadis baa lagu moodin ha na ceebeen fadlan... reer magaal iska dhig

[@abdullahihassanibrahim646]

M. Omar I'm sorry I didn't get you, I speak only English, Arabic, Fulani and Hausa, I live in Nigeria... please explain your answer into English, thanks

[@abdullahihassanibrahim646]

please I'm waiting for your translation

[@benitheisingizwe]

Sure yes

[@abdullahihassanibrahim646]

Benithe isingizwe thanks please can you translate what m. omar wrote on top in English

[@veedubrep]

I'm American and I'd love to date once of these beautiful and intelligent Rwandan women.

[@theoisback]

You should

[@beatriceopingo4313]

Am a Kenyan and I am dating a Rwandan guy very proud of him❤️❤️

[@beatriceopingo4313]

Same her💪💕💕

[@Mmm-ve7hy]

We have same thing mostly what yuh say , in Somali people 😀😀😀😊

[@theoisback]

Really? Nice to know :)

[@nujuumarts6307]

I thought iam the only somali person here very true they r similar

[@apsmith71]

So how does it work when the man assumes a traditional role - protector, provider, paying the bills as you say - and then, like it is here in the west plenty of women can't cook, can't take care of the house and seem more infatuated in IG and YoutTube than taking care of their house. How do Rwandans deal with that?

[@theoisback]

Hmmn.. interesting. Then you have 2 choices. A. You teach her if she wants to learn. B. Find another lady. If it bothers you that much, she is probably also bothered by the fact that it bothers you. So don''t put a ring on it yet, until you have found the one you match best with.

[@storyplace3612]

I met a gal from Rwanda and was curious about how much I should expect to pay for a dowry if that happens

[@theoisback]

The best thing is to talk to her and her family. there is no fixed amount

[@storyplace3612]

@@theoisback Thank you Theo. They said that as well.

[@rpvideos8620]

Good to know Ruwandan culture... but I have a bit difficulty following your English... but ok, I could get the point conveyed.

[@jesusjesus5376]

I understand him perfectly. Why is difficult for you to follow him if u don’t mind me asking ?

[@nuwaherezajerry119]

I like Rwandans

[@brianmukose722]

Would settle for one Rwandese.

[@theoisback]

yeah

[@amediter5670]

How much is the dowry? How is it determined? Who sets the amount? Is it negotiable? (I'm a diaspora African)

[@theoisback]

its negotiable. it depends on your (family's) wealth at the moment of marriage.

[@amediter5670]

@@theoisback Thank you so much for the reply

[@oooooookay281]

It's normal in Rwandan culture it's like taboo if a girl takes the first step, everyone is gonna talk behind her back mostly the aunties

[@theoisback]

yeah, but you don't have to share your business your aunties.

[@marc8485]

Rwandese living in Uganda are the opposite they are crazy , i took my Ugandan vibe and craziness to kigali i was disappointed majority of rwandese where so introverted 😂😂 ..in east africa kenyans are more lively ..i love rwandese tho especially their ladies ..thanks for the video mate

[@theoisback]

haha thanks for sharing indeed

[@r0sewanjiru928]

Am Kenya dating a rwadese guy hope it will end to marriage

[@gbonnita]

Am Rwandan 😂but this is how true we’re 🇷🇼

[@theoisback]

haha, very true idd

[@africanlabel4780]

Can a Rwandese girl get married by an outsider who is not a rwandan by nationality?

[@theoisback]

yes, definitely !

[@s.konyine1469]

am rwandan , am sorry but your wrong boy friend means lover and a lover means umukunzi in kinyarwanda

[@sayedfarhan5859]

I think Rwanda culture wil be easy for somali people because is almost same

[@mapulesefara1090]

Hey, South African lady here looking for Rwandan man, can you hook sister up?

[@theoisback]

whaha of course!

[@ChrissC0]

Mapure sefata inbox me

[@PatrickNiyonzima1]

Happy new year my dearest, I'm Patrick from Rwanda

[@edgarcassama4149]

Hi, I’m from small west African country called Guine Bissau, closed to Senegal, I’m 42 years old man living all my life in Europe, now living in Australia, I’m seriously have interest to find Rwandan women to marry, I impressed about that country as African, I have heard that’s Rwandan women are tallest women in Africa, and I’m tall man too 6,5 please someone connect me with nice women with strong family values thanks 🙏🏽

[@da-gamada-gama2704]

Eduardo es 6.5

[@da-gamada-gama2704]

Aqui em Londres tem muitas mulhers precurando boms homems

[@beeempirestv7025]

Hello my friend lf you want Rwandan Woman I can help you to find him

[@prettydunn4204]

I date Rwandan man I don't know his like I feel like he doesn't like me on other side he likes me I don't know him really we broke up and we get back together I don't know I must ask him about us is he interested in me or

[@theoisback]

yess indeed

[@vangilynobasan5035]

Hi. I'm from Philippines I met a Rwandese man on a dating site and we're having conversations for 6 months now and it's really hard to understand him, like he's totally different from how Filipinos express their feelings to someone they love. I really like him, but sometimes we're having some misunderstanding when expressing ourselves. Any help?

[@melest5645]

Do u have a facebook account?

[@theoisback]

yes, in the video description!

[@ishtank]

But Rwandan guys these days seem to be OK with a reversal of traditional gender roles. I mean with women taking care of them financially. It's the only country in Africa where unemployment is higher among males than among females.

[@theoisback]

yeah man, it's the future, where women are making more money than men and are providing.

[@ScorpioTV515]

Am dating a rwandan man

[@theoisback]

good for you :)

[@nickielifestyle]

Run my dear 😂😂😂😂

[@ScorpioTV515]

What do you mean @Ishimwe Winnie Nicole?why I run?

[@AbdulLayaaaa]

I don't know where y'all living 😀😀😀 haven't met no Rwandess girl yet.

[@theoisback]

hahah, there is still time 😉

[@niyohenriette8002]

😂😂😂

[@trevorweir]

Couple cows a house or a car? The original dowry was paid to the guy as a gift for now taking on the lifelong responsibility of taking care of the girl and taking this fiduciary responsibility off of the parents hands. When a man pays 3-4 cows for his wife, he will nearly always look at her and see those 4 cows, especially when they are having an intense disagreement about something. C’mon guys admit it. Ha ha. I say that a man should look at his wife and always think in his mind how utterly priceless she is and not whether she was really worth 3 or 4 cows. The past practices that reinforced male patriarchy, dominance et al, are the same practices that hold African and many Asian countries subservient to other countries where more women graduate from graduate and post-graduate universities. If you think you belong to this “smarter half” group but you’re still producing copious amounts of testosterone, perhaps just perhaps your perception is just a little skewed by your endocrinology, 😀

[@theoisback]

hahah true.

[@trevorweir]

Girls -- don't hesitate to ask for your Dowry !!!

[@theoisback]

hahah

[@JohnMcCrimmon-bc4ei]

I would to meet up so we can talk investment opportunities in Rwanda. I'm coming in March...but for me, an American black and I would be open to dating. So you know, we like women pretty with big backsides...but thru pics and videos, I do not see this type of woman there.

[@theoisback]

Welcome brother, we can always talk.

[@JohnMcCrimmon-bc4ei]

@@theoisback thank you. My email is [e-mail] I will be there next month. Reach out to me in my inbox so we exchange contact info to chat thru WhatsApp.

[@adelaidepinchisi437]

I'm married to a rwandese. Great people l must say

[@theafricanobserver8785]

i am Rwandan and i would not date a Rwandan girl , i prefer foreigners.

[@theoisback]

aah, that's alright.😁

[@ruthnjeri4659]

Hehe, am here🤣🤣

[@azizaleem7940]

Do they believe in polygamy?

[@theoisback]

not really but there are some exceptions

[@alikhodajani6075]

.... honey and booboo are just fine with me ❤ 💙 💜 💖 !