dating as a trans person

[@inouetil]

i'm pre t and currently extremely worried about how my dating life will be in my 20s once i'm transitioned (i'm 17). i'm gay so i won't fully understand how you feel as i'll be in queer spaces anyway (which will still bring its own struggles) but i do feel for you. i believe that someone not wanting to date you for being trans sucks, but it just means that they weren't the one and that person is still out there!! thanks for being open

[@Trysaratop]

I think it is good you are straight up and just want someone to love you for who you are and not for a fetish. I do see happy marriages of trans men and a trans woman that mutually understand how one feels. I know it must be hard dating trans female they usually just want the D parts and as for gay men that think you have a D just want the D parts and woman younger don’t mind and experiment but as they hit mid 20s they want to start a family due to their clock ticking so biologically things start to come in and that is hard to avoid. You are very young and seem very kind.,I think these videos are helpful to maybe finding someone who can relate and hope you find that special person.

[@amberrae8487]

You make valid points on both sides. I guess all you can do is keep being you & hopefully everything will work out.

[@Maryrose-f5f]

my uncle in trans he has helped me alot he ended up with one of the nicest men in the word hid name is also max and it turnd out good for him

[@beepboopbop123]

ugh dude i get the dread of coming out to a person you are interested in. for context, im an afab non binary person but i still present pretty feminine. usually people in the queer community are okay with me being non binary, but i’ve had a few people, usually straight guys, that have reciprocated my crushes but then start to distance themselves after they found out i was non binary. it sucks

[@akramsef8179]

Be a man and all we love you

[@destructorzz7197]

Kinda hard to be a man without testicles.

[@yaboifredrickscadon]

@@destructorzz7197 XY chromosomes* some men don't have their parts, still men tho

[@victoriaVP-od7rw]

❤

[@WisamAlhaddad-i5j]

Welcome to real life

[@PaigeFoster-wm8cv]

what is that supposed to mean?

[@SPNfamily_J2M]

Getting rejected for something that you can't control? I don't buy that. But I do like how you can at least admit that if someone doesn't want to date you because you're trans, that's not "transphobic"

[@gludeusmaximus]

I'm a bit confused. Are you implying I chose to be trans?

[@SPNfamily_J2M]

@@gludeusmaximus I don't believe that you chose to struggle with those thoughts and temptations, but deciding whether you change your life to reflect them or fight against them is a choice

[@destructorzz7197]

"can't control" You literally chose to change sex. Sex is something you are born with. This is established medical science. You cannot change your sex and anyone who says you can is lying to you for their benefit. The changes come with a HOST of medical issues such as sterilisation, infection, limb amputation, loss of ability to orgasm, and soooooo much more. I almost lost my job for refusing to provide testosterone to a girl going through a change. Luckily I fought and won, but many in my position don't get so lucky.

[@SPNfamily_J2M]

​@@destructorzz7197I completely agree. It's very encouraging to see someone say this :)

[@raymond6421]

@@SPNfamily_J2Mtrans people can’t control being trans tho, it’s literally a hormone imbalance that happens while the fetus is developing in the womb the causes transsexualism. It’s literally part of his brain