the ultimate trans guide (hair, dysphoria, binding) | ftm

[@nesoliveirinha6354]

"it doesn't matter whats girly it matters what makes you feel less dysphoric" man that hitted in a way it wasn't supposed to

[@redanted14]

Fr

[@Tiniesha]

@@nesoliveirinha6354 what about whats true?

[@Oliver-vg1lu]

Ah yes, one of my kind. The pre T trans guy who has a voice deep enough to pass if people hear it. I remember my Ex girlfriend’s dad would always say he was mad that my voice was lower then his and I’m not even biologically male lmao

[@xxaangell08]

We have the same name :0

[@Oliver-vg1lu]

@@xxaangell08 w o a h :0

[@AnnoyingAllie3]

That's funny

[@nuhuhuhhhhhhh]

Same here bro (except it goes very high pitched when I laugh unfortunately)

[@cyrus2430]

i wish;-; i especially don’t pass at work because my “polite” voice goes high☹️

[@Nighteyes_14]

When you've been on t for a year but his voice is still deeper than yours 😳

[@haberlegendarisk7564]

Wtf

[@Nighteyes_14]

Guys it was a joke I hadn't even started T when I commented that 😂😂

[@colby.]

@Enno um no, some people’s voices just don’t get deeper..

[@goober1107]

Her*

[@colby.]

@@goober1107 what..?

[@taylor6166]

i agree, old spice makes me feel so masc its insane (also the commercials impact probably)

[@Lockwood-strangerthings]

the hair thing thing is really helpful cause i'm not out yet and i have long hair, my mom wont let me cut it either

[@Jamie_yt2007]

Same but when I told her it was from a Rockstar who I liked(which it wasnt) she let me cut it straight away

[@Lockwood-strangerthings]

@@Jamie_yt2007 good tip

[@user-xs2gf]

look up haircuts from masc women and she’ll let you have them without her thinking anything nor you needing to come out 💗💗

[@irisplayz4111]

Find a picture of a woman with short hair and ask to cut it that way. But make sure to say woman, female, and girl lots not to associate males at all

[@irisplayz4111]

Also just let het know that you want to try something different and hair n always grow back

[@gustygutter2837]

Hey nice vid, I randomly saw this in my recommended and it was really helpful. keep it up man!

[@sahar5110]

@@gludeusmaximus i know this is late but whats the video that was like how to make long hair masculine called lol

[@Sp0ngeBob_SquarePants]

I literally looked up “how to get masculine hair if your hair is thin for trans males” I’m 12 almost 13 and I’m a trans male who will be going to get my haircut soon I’ll be sure to mention some of these things to the barber Edit: now 14! its obviously very hard to change my hair type, if its even possible, but its decently fluffy now as ive followed some of the tips in replys. keep that confidence up trans mascs ;3 also, ive started hormone blockers and started wearing binders!

[@GachaTok-qn7gm]

Wait this perfectly describes me as well 😭

[@mediocre_childdd]

We’re literally the same person 💀💀

[@sp4ce_f4ce]

if u wanna get fluffy and like textured hair when its short and thin using product is a really great idea! i use this thing i got at the hairdressers called 'de lorenzo elements grit matte styling paste' which is a bit of a mouthful to say but it works rlly well to get my hair to stay up. i also recommend a bit of hairspray afterwards just to get it to stay. also instead of both of those things, u could just use some hair mousse which works awesomely but can make ur hair look shiny and if ur not a fan of that u can probably(??) buy matte ones so i suggest looking into that. also i find that not washing ur hair every single day helps with getting it to stay up if on the first day u put in product and then just let ur hair do whatever on the next couple days. when i had long hair it used to get greasy FAST but having short hair kinda slowed it down for some reason? hope this helps!

[@crocodillian9486]

Why are we the same person

[@Sp0ngeBob_SquarePants]

@@crocodillian9486 identity fraud

[@Art-st1yi]

My hair is long for a guy. I like my hair. It makes me not pass though. I always passed when I had shorter hair, but now I don’t. It makes me sad not passing, but I don’t want to cut my hair again. I had a really great short hair a while back, and then I went to a barber and he buzzed my hair against my will. I cut my own hair now. I want to have a man bun type thing. The rest of me doesn’t look masculine enough for it to look like a man bun though, I just look like a lesbian (nothing wrong with that, I just don’t want to look that way)

[@princessmysterion_]

oh my gosh im struggling with this too!! i want to have longer hair but in a masculine way and i don't know how to fix it

[@AnnabethOwl]

@@princessmysterion_I’ve struggle with this to!!! I’m NB and while my hair doesn’t give me a lot dysphoria my round face does- I want to look more masculine but don’t want to totally cut my hair since people compliment my natural hair so much it feels like it would be a waste….

[@Kipperoncl4ws]

your barber buzzed your hair without permission? dude, tell other employees and managers, that’s gotta be illegal in someway right??

[@dragoncinema1491]

Recently came out as a trans male myself, videos like this really make me feel like I’m not alone in my struggle. Keep up the great work my dude, it makes us feel a hell of a lot better.

[@AlienAyleen]

I’m genderfluid and growing out my hair but when I feel like a boy I don’t wanna cut my hair to pass so this is exactly what I need :)

[@dakota_7448]

Heyyyo I'm a trans dude ftm and i have like a legit mustache and I haven't even started T and am probably not gonna for yrs, BUT I'm a darker skin colour and have blackish hair. But all these tips rlly helped! And I'm glad you got ur haircut you wanted! (Seeing from ur most recent videos) Anywaysss have a good life and I wish you the best! ❤️

[@heart_goes_doki_doki]

good luck on your journey dude! x you're looking great!

[@reasoninmadness]

not ftm (ftnb!) but this really helps! thank you :D

[@loganb6615]

hey max! i randomly found your video on my feed, but this is definitely helpful for pre-t guys! i'm five months on hormones currently and also, your voice sounds pretty deep already which is super awesome :)

[@softsunlightnaiad]

My family is forcing me to be girly I can't tell them though.....

[@federicoferrante8966]

I fully understand you..

[@revy399]

I understand :/ I hope your doing better sending lots of love for u rn

[@billionairexd4977]

Same :/

[@PixelatedPerson]

Yup my parents are transphobic 🥲

[@billionairexd4977]

@@PixelatedPerson same

[@lyonclaws5737]

thanks max this is really helpful during quarantine!!

[@Fallen_Asche]

Hi there! So I just watched this and you gave some really good tips! I know that this was from forever ago but if you are still having a problem with hair, something that I have learned is getting bangs and the wearing a beanie. It looks super masculine and had really helped my dysphoria. Have a great day!

[@schoolemail190]

Thank you so much for this I'm intersex but I'm still transitioning to be male also I'm from England so my accent is quite deep as it is can't wait to go on testosterone though :D

[@ronitataoftheday8504]

Tip: if you have it you can use mascara on your between nose and mouth to give you a small 'stache, and if you're in great closet from your family I found that tomboyx has "compression bras" which are binders for closeted peeps, im wearing it for the first time and it does the job for me 👍 Edit: and I have tried this yet but it might work, get an undercut so when you have your hair in a beanie ppl see it but you can still pass as a girl to those you're not out to yet if you still pass as female

[@Crocoganic]

Your voice man, give me 😩

[@sof_philly]

omg thank u for this! i came out as a trans male a few weeks ago and this will be so helpful for me!!!! thanks a lot :)

[@estfmr]

where have you been all my life? tysm

[@chirpa2163]

This is actually a really helpful guide, tysm!

[@neverxnice3577]

I feel embarrassed it’s been 10 years since i came out, and i still gotta take tips from kids younger than me, bc i don’t have the safety to be out in public /: i’m nearly 20, and i don’t think i’ll ever get over this fear.

[@Moxalotl12]

If your a trans guy with type 4c hair I recommend dreads or twist

[@Kaisterkyle]

TYSM

[@someoneontheinternet16]

Thanks for the tips, i have been trying to pass as a guy, bc even if im genderfluid it makes me so dysphoric, no matter how i present i kinda always feel dysphoric. So this helps me a lot, i dont want to get a haircut bc i like my long-ish hair(its long to my shoulders) but it doesnt help me pass very well.

[@flopilla2012]

Thank u so much, Max!!! This video was super helpful

[@flopilla2012]

@Lin Suicide boy, its a manhwa

[@itspeter4507]

Hey! I’m FTM and I’m not out and won’t ever be able to be, but these really helped! I can’t cut my hair short so I’m trying to find out how to make it look masculine without wearing a hat (my school doesn’t allow any) so Ill use a lot of these! Tysm

[@softsunlightnaiad]

I do the same thing I wear 3 sports bras and then a tshirt that sticks to the skin and that's it

[@littlemissgiltichy]

I looked up videos for my boyfriend, and i found your account and I think he'll absolutely love your account!!

[@insertname3244]

Me and my bestfriend came out to each other as trans today...... meet kai(me) and ash(bsf) :)

[@jakeishigh44]

Lmao 😂😂😂😂 cool

[@mikuenjoyerXD]

Aww lol

[@Madison_sano-nwading]

Omg I have a trans friend and his name is Kai to!

[@clouddy4836]

Not even trans or nb I just like looking more masculine sometimes! Tysm!

[@fweoi8152]

trans is a umbrella term and nb is in it

[@clouddy4836]

@@fweoi8152 oh thank you for letting me know! I know they are similar but I thought they are typically used differently ig it depends on the person!

[@iLoveKirishima]

Me: THE WAY HE SAID FLAVOR WHEN TALKING ABOUT DEODORANT 👁️👄👁️ Also Me: mmmm yummy deodorant 👺👹

[@Oztek7-Mz2]

As a Younger Trans male, Im a Femboy :> and I cut my hair alot and it looks so bad most of the time and yeah but still thank you for this :)

[@gludeusmaximus]

Anytime bro. I had a lot of bad haircuts especially around this time. I recommend LOTS of pomade and products haha.

[@Kipperoncl4ws]

i used to be a femboy (dysphoria got too bad so i stopped) and my trans older brother is a femboy, he’s super chill and his style is awesome. make sure you watch out for creeps though, my brother gets a lot of creeps and i feel so bad

[@RubberDucki3s]

Imagine how deep your voice will be when your on T damn

[@adtheartist030]

Thanks Man! That with the hair was really helpful! :] Mine is a bit longer than yours but i think it'll work! Thank you! :]

[@lemonboy31708]

My voice is super high pitched, but my ability to natrually grow a moustache because of my ethnicity, and how accessive my hair growth is makes up for it

[@Ponchoguy123]

I’m a masc non-binary, and honestly, I watched this with as much attention an adhd 13 yo can do!

[@CatsBuddy]

Idk why but im smiling through this vid 🙂❤

[@vivv_cc]

My mom hates me getting old spice she always like, "why do u want that?? It makes I smell like a boy, ur a girl and always will be!" And my dad said "ur a girl. What's in ur pants? YA BUDUSSY!" Like bro- don't ask what's in my pants. I'm non-binary btw but i have he/they pronouns. ❤👁👄👁

[@ashtyn833]

This is rlly helpful I might come out trans 🏳️‍⚧️

[@ironman20150]

tips for that deep voice god damn

[@sophiakalter5960]

Thanks for the tips!

[@0akBeanz]

So I was the one being transphobic like 7 months ago and I apologize for that 😨 I was confused and uneducated, I don't appreciate all the replies getting mad at me though, that was really fired up and rude, had people shouting at me and all hell broke lose, Anyways, I'm literally transgender and gay now, I deeply apologize for anything rude I said 😭 I would have said this earlier, but I literally just got a notification of you replying to me so here I am apologizing now 💀

[@GunnerTheTherian]

How the turn tables

[@CaoimheMclaughlin-iu6qk]

You are so lucky dude to have that deep voice lol I wish my voice was like that

[@1nkmations]

Thanks man this helped me srsly

[@avaperis2892]

im getting my hair all gone in february. i can finally be myself

[@CEOofsoup]

It sucks that my school don’t let people were beanies and bandannas 🥲

[@lees_act]

You’re genuinely awesome

[@karimevelasco2813]

I’m not even trans, idk why I’m watching this lmao. But as a gender fluid person I still enjoyed it

[@Thatonejoestar]

Hey, the term trans means someone who doesn’t identify as their assigned gender as birth! Meaning being gender fluid, non-binary, etc.. is also considered trans!! Ik you probably meant ftm but I just thought I’d let you know (that’s if you didn’t already know😅) ps:- I used to also identify as gender fluid before finding out imma dude

[@karimevelasco2813]

@@Thatonejoestar huh? I’ve never heard that. For me there’s cis, there’s trans, which is the opposite of cis, and then there’s everything in between. Trans is going by the gender opposite of what you were assigned to. It’s like if you think of just the meaning of words. I think about the meaning like how it means in organic chemistry, cis means on the same side and trans means on opposite sides. (I forgot everything about organic chemistry, Idk why I brought it up lol). But yeah I’ve never heard of someone being non binary or gender fluid or agender or something like that identifying as trans as well, or meaning that you’re automatically trans as well. Obviously there are probably people that are transsexual that also identify as non binary or gender fluid, etc. But I’ve never heard that if you’re not cis, you’re automatically trans. It’s kinda like saying if you’re not heterosexual, you’re automatically homosexual. I mean gender is fluid too. So yeah I’ve never heard it how you said. Where did you hear that or where did that come from? (Also probably unnecessary information lol (you don’t have to read): I don’t identify as gender fluid anymore. I sometimes just say that cause it’s easier since I had been identifying as gender fluid since I was 15 and I’m used to it. Until I took a gender studies class when I was 19 and realized that I wasn’t actually gender fluid. And then since taken that class (almost 3 years ago) I realized that I don’t have to conform to gender if I didn’t want to. And it wasn’t until a few months ago that I started identifying as gender non-conforming after I had just learned of the term. I had thought of identifying as non binary but gender non-conforming just resonated more for me. So I feel even more now that trans doesn’t fit me because I don’t even “do gender” anymore, or conform to it. But gender is ingrained in us since the day we are born (and actually before, e.g. like gender reveals), so I can’t actually “get rid” of gender. So I just try to live my life where gender doesn’t control/influence me and my actions and self expression is just me, and I don’t feel the need to label my actions and self expression as masculine or feminine (even tho that’s not a bad thing to do). it just makes me feel better to not do so and to not be thinking about labeling everything I do. I think that’s why after I stopped labeling myself gender fluid I didn’t label myself as anything for like 2 years bc I didn’t feel it necessary and when I heard about gender non-conforming, that felt the only thing that suited me even tho sometimes I don’t label myself as that and just say “i don’t conform to gender”. Which is probably confusing but I guess it works for me lol. (Also the gender studies class was very introduction so I definitely don’t know everything about gender lol) sorry for the long rant😁)

[@Thatonejoestar]

@@karimevelasco2813 well I’m not very educated when it comes to these stuff (and I’ve definitely never took gender studies class) but if you search up the definition of trans online, this is what you get, “Trans is an umbrella term to describe people whose gender is not the same as, or does not sit comfortably with, the sex they were assigned at birth.Trans people may describe themselves using one or more of a wide variety of terms, including (but not limited to) transgender, non-binary, or genderqueer.” “Trans” is just an umbrella term for people who choose not to identify with the gender they were given at birth (or atleast that’s what I know, so correct me if I’m wrong) Oh and also about you not labeling yourself anymore, I think that a great idea!! Gender can be a very confusing thing for some people (myself included) and I’ve honestly wanted to try going by no label but it was honestly pretty difficult for me, idk I just feel like finding a label that’ll maybe help me find myself a bit more (if that makes sense lmao) but I think what you’re doing is pretty nice!! Have a nice day

[@Foursprint]

Idk if anyone cares about the scents in the video but I’m pretty sure that’s swagger (?) in the video I heard it smells like teakwood which is the only masculine scent I like lol

[@fatherlessdiluc3249]

I cut my hair on impulse and it looks so horrible its funny Just gotta wait until my parents notice tmrw morning 💀

[@Sonjaaa111]

I wish I had your voice so bad man

[@Kipperoncl4ws]

my mom supports me but she refuses to use my preferred pronouns and gets upset if i bring up being trans, and she got really upset when i asked for short hair but luckily i convinced her and i immediately felt way more confident. my mom was sad for a bit but i think she noticed how much happier i was after the haircut. (please don’t attack my mom for not fully supporting me, i really love my mom)

[@gludeusmaximus]

It takes time. My parents weren't exactly supportive when I came out but they've come around. Keep being you and she'll come around :)

[@Ratking008]

4:57 flavor???...sir flavor??? Are you eating the deodorant my man???? My homie you good??? /j [ anyways this is a super nice video and I hope your doing well ]

[@nightmrj]

homie ur so cool wtf

[@meme-jn4iy]

this is besides the point but. i just want someone to talk to. I can't come out. My sibling, My parents are transphobic. My great friend from school is transphobic too most people there i know are. but at least i have two friends that are supportive, my girl friend(not girlfriend lol-) thats pansexual, and my trans friend from other class..I can't tell them it would ruin everything

[@Melodymakesgacha]

A TRANS OUTSIDERS FAN!? 2:42

[@nicorojas-nc2qe]

IKR

[@SillyWilly1230]

The greaser reference ❤

[@ceylonaesthetics]

I’m a trans girl and I’m watching this because I have to travel and I hate going through airport security

[@izzywilson9590]

i get away with using men’s skincare bc if has charcoal in it if that helps anyone

[@Veryawesomecool]

I like to just shove my hair into my beanie because then I can pull out some of my hair so it looks like I have bangs. The hair kinda gets in the way of my eyes but I guess its the cost for free fluffy hair/bangs🤷

[@hentvai5711]

I cant do that, if i wear any colour bandana i’ll get jumped 🙁

[@ihavenoidea9713]

currently sobbing because I don't know if im trans or genderfluid

[@gludeusmaximus]

It’s hard to figure out. You don’t need to commit fully to anything right away. Take your time. You got this homie.

[@r3alityisnotreal]

How do u make ur voice that deep? 😭 I need ur methods

[@stevelukoski7152]

Love you guys ❤🙂

[@joehoe9676]

yo dude whats the background song called?

[@neptun201]

Thata what im wondering as well

[@bucktopo9783]

before i knew it was a thing, I got some old spice deodorant and my ma really looked at me weird

[@jellyhimiko7224]

Yasss I have a brother so I can use his perfume and his old spice thing

[@jellyhimiko7224]

@@gludeusmaximus Oop

[@Arie-l7x]

I use mascara for a moustache

[@gludeusmaximus]

I’ve done that too. Just for men works pretty well too if you want a more permanent option.

[@thatoneguy1208]

Is there a age limit for T? I'm 13 and would love to have my voice more masculine

[@wrathuu]

I think you have to be 15

[@thatoneguy1208]

@@wrathuu oooh ok thank you so much!

[@synopsie]

Hi, being old enough won’t actually be the only thing you need. You’ll need to go to therapy for a while to be sure that you need T (if you are ftm) and you’ll need the approval of the doctors you’re seeing. I hope this helps a little

[@belugawhales365]

Even if you can’t go on t, there’s a tonne of really helpful vocal coaches on youtube that can teach you how to masculinise your voice!

[@synopsie]

@@belugawhales365 yep! Thank you for saying this I forgot to mention it

[@Nighteyes_14]

Omg god congrats you've grown enough to get hate comments!! Lol Seriously keep it up though /gen /pos

[@dragonfan3934]

The feels

[@afanficperson]

Thanks.

[@snipermasksimp2023]

I have really long hair but I have social anxiety and am too scared to cut it should I out it in a beany and go out?

[@wheresdrew8842]

How my mom just yelled at me for seeing I use old spice wtf…

[@crystalnethery2696]

I'm a trans gay AND OMG- my hair is my problem

[@StrangerDanger6662]

Question am I allowed to join the discord server, sorry for asking😅

[@DECK-9]

I’m Benji-Van I have the same thoughts

[@vokiven]

thank you

[@waltzmacandcheese]

thx bro !

[@griffa-gamer7355]

Do you have a binder on?

[@boyelectraa]

I have long hair, and I can't cut it even to my neck length, cause I did it once, and my mother almost wanted to kill me. So I wear bandanas, and baseball cap with the snap back, or making a man bun, when I'm going to school or just being at home. My hair make me feel more sick in my stomach than my chest, I have b cup.

[@boyelectraa]

@@gludeusmaximus thanks, I'm 17, and I'm looking forward to my 18, cause I'm going to move out from my town to the city to have graduated and i think I'll get my first real haircut here. I was extremely happy to see a little boy who called me like "idiot", because I'm from Russia and we have different forms for nouns and adjectives for male, female and neuter, and that boy called me as male!!! And another old lady in grocery store called me "boy")

[@kayseydaring7431]

I’m subbing Man U cool

[@georgefound2235]

Boi ur so cool

[@amirmuktharbinmuhammadnoor8553]

Try using breast tape I've seen a trans man wore breat tapes. Its more comfortable and less chaotic

[@gludeusmaximus]

I’ve been using trans tape for 3-4 years now and I definitely prefer it to binding.

[@Jay21kk]

TYSMMMMMMM ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@untitledbeing6898]

Me: I don’t like that much :/ THAT part of my mind: why is it cuz it’s “GiRlY”???? “It doesn’t matter if it’s girly it matters if it makes you feel less dysphoric Me: FINALLY SOMONE HAS THE RIGHT WAY TO SAY IT TO MY MIND

[@rubberducksrcool]

1:10 I thought you said your going to need a baby XD

[@SilentNoMore64]

How did I get here? I did a search to learn how to lengthen my jeans. 🤔

[@AtuqWariTarukaWaman]

Wished I didn't had curled hair :")

[@gludeusmaximus]

Be proud bro. Lots of people get curly hair when they go on T. I’ve got way curlier hair now.

[@RoryGilmore-ft1op]

I think im genderfluif and i dknt want to cut my hsir shorter bc i like it shoulder length but then sometimes its too feminin so thank you

[@afanficperson]

5:13 bro i don't even get flowers

[@closetmoth1915]

Im not even on t and i have a mostach

[@streberswife]

Same i dont even like it though (im non binary but I think I might be ftm or genderfluid idkyet) so I shave it

[@multi-colorzart]

gender envy

[@SSIGMAA-i5l]

Tysm as non-binary his helps.

[@spacecadet3853]

if only my parents didn't care

[@user-uo9kf1sx5o]

On the contrary, caring parents would do exactly what his have: support him in expressing who he is and being himself. Parents who won't let their kids socially transition care only about themselves and others' opinions of them

[@hellok1ttyyy_]

ILY AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAGhhhhh

[@whenitgrowsbright]

Sorry but on deodorant you said same FLAVOUR and I laughed because pickled poo logs (this is a reference im not that weird)

[@Micheal-t2v9z]

Are you out to your parents? I have my KZbin channel. I’m 15 now in 2024 and on my KZbin channel I don’t tell people I’m ftm.

[@gludeusmaximus]

I’m out to my parents but it’s been a journey. They are now fully accepting though. My mom even had a pride flag in front of her house and volunteered at a pride center for a while. For a little my parents didn’t want me posting about being trans in fear I would be harassed at school. I don’t know if that helps lol.

[@Micheal-t2v9z]

@@gludeusmaximus that’s good! My mom is too. She put a pride flag on our car. :)