Dating Coach Reveals The RED FLAGS Everyone Should Know!

Welcome to India's first Health Podcast "What the Health!"
We had an insightful discussion with Dr. Ekta Dixit, who has created her own niche as a relationship coach and has more than 300K followers online.
In this episode, we will be discussing all sorts of relationships from friendships and friends with benefits to Long distance relationships and marriage.
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00:00 - Intro
01:55 - Who is a relationship coach?
04:23 - How did Ekta become a relationship coach?
06:16 - Red flags in friendship
07:45 - Who needs a relationship coach?
09:35 - How to balance your friendship and romantic relationships
12:34 - Fear of commitment
13:18 - Situationships
15:54 - Happiness paradox
17:50 - How to not catch feelings in friendship?
19:00 - Benching
21:40 - How to choose your partner?
24:22 - Does appearance matter in a relationship?
26:05 - Manipulations
26:30 - Vulturing
28:30 - Love bombing
30:22 - Breadcrumbing
30:53 - Self-worth
34:50 - Instant gratification
37:15 - Career vs relationships
38:55 - Long-distant relationship
43:18 - Intimacy in a relationship
45:56 - How to predict Divorce?
46:30 - Criticism in a relationship
48:00 - Tonality of communication
48:58 - Defensiveness in relationship
51:10 - Contemplating your partner
51:49 Stonewalling your partner
55:50 - How to not be toxic in a relationship
57:50 - Do not make assumptions
59:51 - Horn's effect
01:00:42 - Fundamental attribution error
01:02:24 - Mental health
01:03:06 - 'What The Health!' segment
01:06:46 - Q&A segment
01:15:53 - Red flag & Green flag game

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36M & single. Decided to stay single for life when I was 20. Not regrets. I know what I am missing & what I have gained & gaining. Was mentally prepared for everything

[@Ashu00009-]

So what you gain don't get me wrong just wanted to know

[@biratbhowmick7291]

What is there to Gain by Staying Single that we won't Gain by staying in Relationship?

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Woww❤

[@Abhisektheone]

​@@Ashu00009- Peace of mind! My priority was to stay with family (parents) & do my business. That's why l left my 11 yrs Corporate life at Delhi & came back to Odisha. Wouldn't have possible if married. Don't give me exceptions, no girl wants to stay with in-laws today. Accept the fact & take your decision. Nothing wrong or right though. For the sake of 10yrs of difficult lonely old age, I won't spoil my entire 30s, 40s & 50s. Although I am doing good, I am not filthy rich, In my opinion only a ridiculously filthy rich man can afford a bad marriage; for others a bad marriage is a mistake which cannot be rectified. Only a little problem is my parents are still hopeful about my marriage, but I know what I am doing. My younger brother got married last year & the couple is staying in Hyderabad as he is a Cybersecurity professional. So, things are as per plan & I don't want to send life for a toss after marriage

[@Abhisektheone]

Getting peace of mind. My priority was to stay at my own native place and to start my own business. So I left my 11yrs old corporate career & left Delhi. That would not have possible, had I been married. No girl today wants in-laws. There may be exceptions but you have to accept the fact and plan accordingly. So, life is as per plan; why leave it for a toss?

[@tanushreebiswas6585]

I am seperated from my husband and now I am here to know what I did wrong to choose my partner

[@ganeshsiddhireddy2258]

What did you done wrong?

[@tanushreebiswas6585]

@@ganeshsiddhireddy2258 I made dicision very fast choosing him and take less information about him before marriage

[@abhijitdhamne7619]

I wish I could have a friend who have empathy, a good knowledge and expertise of relationships like Mam.

[@babygoldy1450]

Even If you get someone as wished but after a couple of yrs you will try to find some one more better

[@pcodes]

Desire is the contract we made to ourselves to become happy once we get/achieve the very thing which we want. -Naval

[@kinjaljain9511]

What breaks you,never repairs you❤❤

[@janushkumaren]

😂😂😂false, what breaks you, will makes you.

[@kinjaljain9511]

@@janushkumaren talking about relationships dude not struggle, chill

[@anitakhandelwal307]

Do not marry...be single and live life the way you want

[@Sindabadthesailor]

Absolutely

[@raheelsultan]

Anita, respectfully, I want to ask 3 questions; 1. Where to fulfill physical desire from, when one is single? 2. When single has no kids, where does single see himself/herself after 20 years after crossing 40 age? 3. Do you agree that majority of the woman is that species who do not do accounting of themselves. Means, after 10 years. Does women thinks that what they have gained and what they have lost?

[@devareddy7450]

Hi Ankita we stay happy till we are having our own tension handled and our points solved but the day you cross 30 they you cant handle yourself because before that friends and family helps in that. But after that we need someone to help us make us grow let us stay happy etc etc. So choose a right person you will never feel so.

[@priyabratphulkonwar7298]

Marriage is not about happiness.

[@prathameshadsul8700]

@@raheelsultan magical virgin creatures(Hoorein) are reserved for you in heaven.Ur notorious brains are filled with jihadi mindset.

[@aryanrevankar1489]

The happiness paradox is eye opening. Please upload it as separate video.

[@tanairai791]

Awesome Podcast...Loved ❤ it! 🎉

[@user-vl9kb3eq3e]

After watching this I feel like I am such a red flag and to keep other people safe I should never enter a relationship

[@Ritika19253]

Bruh...💀 instead work on yourself to be a better person

[@vibhusingh9152]

faith in humanity restored 😂

[@ABHAYKUMAR-yp6de]

Yeah ....exactly

[@80vishwajeetnashte9]

great podcast ! I realised so many mistakes and got aware of situation. thanks a lot.

[@aloswu3413]

This is so comforting and helpful. Thanks for sharing it. Have learnt alot

[@devareddy7450]

People specially girls don't ask what they want, they feel it's the boy's responsibility to understand what's inside a girl and give her what she wants. This is the reason where better concept is coming.

[@SodiumSyndicate]

Stick to arranged marriage with traditional pure chaste girls and being a stoic man.

[@user-wb1js9sp8x]

​@@SodiumSyndicatevery well said brother ❤❤❤❤

[@bapparawal2457]

​@@SodiumSyndicateThen be a chaste man yourself first. Don't go behind 100 girls then say ki ab traditional wife chahiye. That's pure hypocrisy.

[@SodiumSyndicate]

@@bapparawal2457 Men don't have virginity and chastity, even virgin women do not like chaste men. Women like superior men - taller, stronger, smarter, richer, leader. Women like men desired by other women. Men desire beauty, purity and submissiveness in women. Men and women like 100% different things in each other, we are not same, else we'd be a homosexual species.

[@ddnick]

​@@bapparawal2457 It's not a double standard it's just a different standard 🤔 n if u have any problem with it , tu kr apni shadi aisi ladki se bkl Yaha feminism ka gyan mat de tmc !

[@babygoldy1450]

Relationships are more complex then what we have an idea till date

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What a conversation What thoughts How beautifully everything is presented ❤ Loved it ♥️✅

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Thank you for this podcast!!

[@77Sarika]

Beautiful podcast ❤

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Wonderful podcost. Thank u Traya.

[@Rudra-991]

Many women don't understand that men are different mentally. We engage with our emotions for some time but that drains us. After some time we need to withdraw into a shell where we need some time with ourselves, where we try to evaluate our life, our career, family and other issues. That is a moment when we don't wish to engage with our emotional side and we expect our woman to understand it and respect that. Just some time and we are back in the old self with love. Many women misunderstand this cut off period as an indication that their guy doesn't love them or they're bored, which is absolutely false. We guys are like beachwater. We are on the shore the entire day but need to recede back to the ocean for some time before returning again.

[@TharshnaSanatan]

More Power to You 🔥

[@hari325]

I don't understand this men vs women wiring thing. Everything you described is exactly what I go through as a woman- I have a ton of struggles too, like career, health, aging parents, and so on. I don't want an immature and extremely demanding man who would drain me out completely. I prefer someone fine with me having my personal space, some me time, time with my own set of friends and family, time for my hobbies, and time for both of us. Many men don't step up to help around the house, and that creates stressed and unloved women.

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The most eye opening podcast ever!!

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This podcast is definitely a green flag ✅

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Need more such videos!!!

[@gurbaz8194]

If u have lot money then u can stay single if u dont have too much money then u will feel depressed after some time They will look at others their kids and other aspects .!!

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Thank you traya health for this podcast ❤.. benching is great word we listen in this podcast.. these things gonna helps us in our priorities in relationships .. thanks again traya health❤ .. host is so welcoming😊

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There is so much talk about knowing your self worth, giving importance to yours self, but my belief is that only s self less love is true love

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I am gonna save these video to show my next generation. 🤞

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Why the hell I am watching this,,, I have been single since eternity...😢

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[@ChildFirst]

6:48...7:09 12:45...Beching...13:08 13:09...Situationship..(go with the flow)..15:05 16:01...Happiness Paradox

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Glad you enjoyed it!

[@ammrutapaalo]

31:45 - When the guy you’re in talking terms with, yet to start dating, says “tujhe jaisa chahiye waise milega hi nahi”

[@user-co9qt1mt8w]

The appropriate term would be escalation of commitment in place of sunk cost fallacy.

[@stevenlight5006]

Parents matter,my mother said ,as the tree is bent ,so it grows .

[@bharathmahadev6772]

80% women are only competing for 20% of men. Don't say the game is bad. Know and understand the rules and play it better OR just decide and don't play at all. Not everyone can manage relationships.Work on yourself. FIND YOURSELF.

[@awesomeanime3644]

Bcoz pf criteria i guess 😢

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Kya garantee hai 20 per is actually good 😅

[@james007vatt1]

Informative

[@pragatichoudhary5315]

thank u

[@Phx-ob3mb]

33:00 "investment in relationship reason for couples to stay together" but divorces cases in India are at all time high even after long years of marriage./ relationship

[@nalinirathore5859]

What if I got married with a handsome guy but now I feel that we are not aligned. I don’t want my marriage to b broken

[@Chiraglalwani1001]

Your brain is trained to like a certain type of people. Try to broaden your thought process as you could have avoided this by talking to him before marriage.

[@vinitaguru9984]

Awesome video

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Really needed this. Thank you

[@Shashikantreddy]

Some of the suggestions are pushing the dirt under the carpet instead of deep cleaning, house will get dusty again you got a clean again,

[@Ahmedabad-Single-Souls]

Love is a waste of time. 💔 Stay single stay happy.

[@devareddy7450]

Get the right person you will never fell the same. Because we boys are getting more desperate and nit thinking whether they are right or wrong just jumping and later blaming love. Love is not waste of time but a wrong person is.

[@Ahmedabad-Single-Souls]

@@devareddy7450 it's your opinion and we respect it. 🙏 No one has died of being single but many die a silent death everyday being with the wrong partner.

[@karthikmanasali9343]

Say this same dialogue after 5 years 😂

[@Ahmedabad-Single-Souls]

@@karthikmanasali9343 Ours is a singles group for 40+ and all are happy since at least 20 years. 🙏

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Plz don't cut in between let the guest speak first then you put your connecting question

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True

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Itni terms such me first time suni😅😅😅....but honestly grt podcast

[@radboyshrooms9077]

How to forgive the people who have hurt us? I can't forgive easily because they hurt again, and I keep holding a grudge and I then ruin the relationship.....

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2 women discussing "Common Sense" and society needs it

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This Intelligent women's are super cool I feel so matured fr I gotta new type❤

[@namankumar7688]

The host is amazing. I wonder how quickly she grasp the concepts like opposite of benching. Such a cool moderator and kudos to ekta. Best wishes ladies.

[@snehaatripathy6373]

such a fun podcast.. felt like a lot of gen z terms used

[@SodiumSyndicate]

@@thezoldics7648 Once a girl crosses 28 she loses 90% of her eggs. A girl can pair bond only with the man she submits her virginity to - no one else.

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Very very nice 👍

[@Shivam22.1.97]

Talks ko small episodes mei convert kardo ...20-25 mins

[@gaurinagraj6151]

The friend would say, " Main tuze trigger krke, tumhare comfort zone se bahar nikalne ki koshish kar rhii hu " - Then what should be the appropriate understanding they need to be given !? 07:07

[@anamikasinha776]

Tell me that is it true that getting married with each other is important in a relationship.....or sirf yhi ek tarika h janne ka ki koi Banda aapse pyar krta h ya nhi.....😢...plss help me to figure out...

[@Lucifer-hm2sz]

Sakshi name girl is red flag stay safe from them

[@Globaltraveller538]

It was strange to hear them talk without mentioning the extremely patriarchal conservative society they live in where women are treated as second class. That’s where any discussion about dating, marriage and relationships should begin in India. How do women who live in such critical and conservative societies deal with machoism and abuse is where this topic needed to start from.

[@pcodes]

I understood the human psychology and that's why I'm single.

[@awesomeanime3644]

Watch shewtabh Gangwar

[@pawnigupta1512]

Which book has she recommended??

[@ambalalgurjar62]

Ekta mam is beautiful....

[@popatforam]

How about money matters affecting a relationship???

[@forgaming5640]

It depends upon the needs and wants basically if you or her are greedy in a relationship about money then a relationship will be toxic but you Or her are satisfied within your relationship then the relationship will be beautiful to grow with because today's generation making money is very simple but if both are satisfied what they have than relationship will be beautiful❤❤❤❤

[@baluyemul6846]

Crushing on her😅....

[@mrunalinipatil4566]

best ever

[@vaishakhsonawane4283]

PLEASE MAKE ONE SESSION ON " COGNITIVE BIASES:

[@sharanyan3371]

YESSSS PLEASE

[@rudransh9360]

Communication these days have become over communication! Hard truths!

[@amanyerpude9542]

Iske examples bhi Greece aur Paris wale hai 😂😅

[@Poonamchauhan_2003]

"Relationship is not about luck." Seriously??😢😢

[@ShubhamRathour-li8qd]

Looking for the red flags in a barren land of no flags. fyi, Red is my favorite color .. am i screwed already !!

[@vermaharshit]

Bhai tum toh ache bhi dikhte ho

[@ShubhamRathour-li8qd]

Thanks Bhai.. I wish you a lot of green Flags :)@@vermaharshit

[@shubhamjoshi5131]

In this mobile era generation, we used to keep our 50 percent time on mobile and drained our emotions over there, and actual emotions from partner do not understand, I would suggest be a understandable both equivalently, loyalty, and do not hide anything from each other, communication gap will be create more and more problems and more and more communication also create mental headache 😂

[@poojashaw3953]

👏👏

[@aryavrat9673]

a podcast with dr sid warrier

[@vaishakhsonawane4283]

44:31 how to know the category of people how to identify

[@gurpreetkhera8266]

Moral of the podcast- never ask the fish about fishing, always ask the fishermen. 😂,

[@vaishakhsonawane4283]

koi chij communicate kari hui hai and breaking boundries please guide me on this

[@padminipillai168]

How to deal with stone walling in Family except between husband and wife

[@Zeira111]

That might be narcissistic situation. So, better consult a psychologist specialised in NPD or behavioural sciences. The former would be the best choice.

[@SpecialAYoga]

if = Divorce = Doing = Y Po ?🙇⚖️

[@mra855]

Partner not valuing his her family or not in nature can be handled or is it counted as red flag

[@Zeira111]

Red flag. If he or she doesn't care about his or her family, then how can you expect him or her to care for a 3rd person. Unless they've been extremely abused by family, but that's quite rare and those people fear to be in any relationships. So, if someone says sad stories about their life without evidences, please run away from them.

[@arkapravade7234]

It would depend on the relationship between them and their family. The history of it. If his/her family is abusive or exploitative or not.

[@AnkitKumarA-]

This video is not for middle or lower class Girls , if a middle class Girl follow this , she will never find some one 😢

[@anubhav7444]

Girls talking about red flag is like them talking about street food. They know it's unhealthy but will still go for it.

[@ameyazade3961]

so much in love with her

[@GPS379]

no idea , how to implement these things, i'm 37 and never had a relationship or touched any human 🤣 Humans are complicated, I just follow one thing , anyone comes across , ask them to marry same day evening , they run away 🤣🤣

[@awesomeanime3644]

Dont say that word plzzz 😂 i mean marry just talk normal see magic 🎉🎉

[@GPS379]

@@awesomeanime3644 a hell no I ain't gonna take no risks If A lady comes to me with a smile , the next statement from my mouth would be " let's get married today" Boom , she runs like a 50 dogs on fire from hell are running behind her 😂😂😂😂

[@vikaschouhan5766]

Ek ladki relationship coach ....huh..... Dang it we failed

[@Amit-ti2nf]

😊

[@shashijain5084]

Didn't know there are dating coach's in India ? They are very common in the west .

[@Deb_deCoder]

these dating coaches help wymn to get rch men

[@user-wb1js9sp8x]

Beacuse in india this type of shit is not required . We are heading toward a failed society like west 😡😡. These shits like situationship or casual dating should be stopped . 🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@Deb_deCoder]

@@user-wb1js9sp8x you don't like western culture but if given a chance you will run towards west.. you mrrd early, didn't enjoy in your youth that's why you don't want today's youth to have fun in life.. keep your regre$$ive mindset to yourself uncle.. let people live happily

[@Hari_Bharadwaj]

Seema Taparia show is made for TV, do you think that’s real? And hook ups are made in that manner? Let’s not template the partner hunting like that. Relationships are based on experiences and expectations, if these are managed well then they can sustain for a while.