Dating & Disability: My Experience

[@jons_vlog3]

Don’t listen to the media I’m single right now as well you seem like a very kind and sweet individual I would not mind getting to know you. I’m also disabled in other ways I can walk but have to wear corrected lenses I also have some hearing loss/tinnitus in one ear it is a struggle, but I keep pushing forward. I have subscribed.

[@tomlee252]

Hey Daniel, I have been disabled for over 30 years, I have used a cane, walker and now a wheelchair, I am also legally blind, and have PTSD, so I know where your coming from, I have had to learn from age 9 how to things for myself, I don't expect others to stop everything and help me, most of the time they don't, my lower back is fused so if I drop something, it generally stays there, You are a very beautiful person with an upbeat that I wished I had, but I try not to let it get to me, with umteen billion people there's bound to be someone who finds incredible, and I know you have a lot to give/offer the right person

[@MarkEshoUK]

Being disabled and dating is exceptionally challenging. I've been through the same experience myself BUT make sure you hang in there. The right person will find you at the right time. I'm in an interabled relationship, and we have been together for over 30 years!

[@daniellability]

Thank you so much for the encouragement!

[@WHAdeku]

Good for you

[@lasartdesignz7087]

I’m in a wheelchair myself and I also have spina bifida. I have never had a girlfriend and I’m 25... I really truly and honestly think that you’re Beautiful woman

[@daniellability]

Thank you! I hope someone special comes your way.

[@zulekhaally3524]

Ohoo sorry I am 29 year old you can love me? I am not disabled

[@lasartdesignz7087]

Zulekha Ally messes me on Facebook

[@zulekhaally3524]

@@lasartdesignz7087 your Facebook name

[@lasartdesignz7087]

Zulekha Ally Angelo Smith II

[@photogrifmike]

Thanks for being open and honest. I'm not disabled, but have dated disabled and non-disabled women. There are men out there, that WILL be able to view you as a person, and not notice a chair. Don't give up that it will never happen, but at the same time, don't pine away your life waiting. I wish you all the best!

[@daniellability]

Thank you so much! That means a lot 😀

[@brideconsult88]

I have no doubt in my mind that someone super special will come your way. It might be happening later than your friends and other people, but patience brings such wonderful things. And hey, look at the positive side- you are NOT having to deal with kissing a bunch of toads! Those jerks get weeded out right away! They probably would not be the type of guy to handle your fierce independence anyway. So keep up the positive attitude and independence, you are inspiring to all of us.

[@daniellability]

Thank you so much for your kind words. They really mean a lot to me and are a huge encouragement!

[@curtisdbird]

I am a fit and trim good looking guy, which doesn't mean anything other than this. You are a drop-dead gorgeous woman. Hang in there. It's only a matter of time someone like me is going to cross your path and work hard to win your heart and trust. Sometimes the right person is not in our life because of time and space. Never think your not beautiful because you are. Wishing you the best and remember to stay safe. Never lower your standards because anyone that wants to be in your life will rise to meet them.

[@daniellability]

Thank you so much. I really appreciate the kind words and encouragement!

[@pugninja7037]

As someone disabled, I think it's about your personality, if as I was told if u go on about yr disability it defines you. I've loved a guy three years and when I go down the disability route, he says stop u arent giving me credit for loving you as you, I'm here.be you always and not making it define you.. So, I stopped defining myself as disabled and its tiring and causes walls. I make soap, bath bombs and purpose is soooo important, my kids help me.. But I think u have to give compassion to your part that is disabled, but do what you believe in and if that guy goes , he goes and same for me.. Great video x

[@davidalfonso3042]

Hi how are you

[@alextrevino3658]

Well said focusing on your purpose is greater that being in a relationship. You're a beautiful woman and the right guy will not see your disability but will see the beauty you have inside. You just need to open up and give yourself a chance too. I've learned that accepting yourself is hard even with a person without a disability, but is the most important thing we can practice everyday, like you said we have all this garbage that society keeps trying to feed us, but when you get to the point of accepting yourself, is when you begin to love yourself for who you really are and that opens up a whole new world of possibilities. It was great to see your video and may God bless you always.

[@danito3089]

I have SMA. I've attracted some people before but I wasn't attracted to them. I have not attracted someone who I was attracted to, and I feel depressed when I think that it's impossible for me to be in a relationship with a person I truly love. I hope we can all find our true love one of these days. Your video gave me little hope.

[@Vlbhk91]

Danielle - you are so pretty! I had a stroke 6 years ago and now it's so hard to find a good match online. Everyday is deferent for me.

[@SSJXavARR]

I was scrolling down, reading a few comments. Shocking how people can't be honest or do an effort to understand few things about others. I found really upsetting how a person do a first date as an "experiment" to see if they can "handle" an specific situation. I do agree on the fact that you have to find something that attracts and "clicks" with other person. But before you approach someone, with or without a disability, you have to be clear on your mind that is not about only you, it's about 2 people to connect with each other. If you start judging what you can't handle about other person, you are selfish. You are just thinking on how hard is for you to handle a situation. Then trying to be a bigger person, encouraging the other person to keep persevering, and there is someone for you who will care, understand and blah blah blah. Really? If you are not even trying. I have no disability, have been judge on other aspects, but have a strong believer in giving a try! You will miss knowing, loving and caring a lot of amazing people with amazing things to add to your life, if you don't do your best in trying. I have read here a lot of talented, beautiful and smart people. To all of you, including you Danielle, is their lost, not yours. They missed the chance to be around extremely talented, smart and caring people. Never ever try to be up to the expectations of anyone. Thank you all for sharing! 😊

[@vikap79]

THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU FOR THIS! I have spina bifida myself and that touched me deeply bc it is exactly my experience!!

[@daniellability]

Thank you so much for the kind words and encouragement!

[@Overforce65]

Dating with a disability is very tough. Especially After what happen with my ex & my disability :( My story ( disclaimer ) 1st she isn't the 1st to question my disability as a detriment and can't see a future with me because of it She like the 8 or 9th in 10 years that did very similar things because they thought my disability was equal to laziness So I doubt she'll be the last because of everything I have experienced 2nd This is just my own personal account I hope it helps others not only those in the disabled Community But others understand how difficult it can be to date when having a condition at such a young age ( Thank you ) As a guy I have 2 disability a anxiety condition( mild processing disorder) since I was 10 & a physical condition known as ulcerative colitis since I was 20 and it’s been very difficult especially with dating I was dating my ex for about 8 months 1) it was long distance ( till the end of 2018 she would be done with school & would be home by me ) 2) there was a 5 year age gap I was 27 and she was 22 Anyway she wanted a “break” ( she said it was because the school ) But I feel she was lying to me because while we did a “break“ for 4 months she not only refused to meet with me on 3 separate times when she kept saying let me on this day, let's met on this day etc ( said it because of her "feeling" :/ ) She also said some hurtful things for no reason “ I thought at age 27 you would be living on your own “ “ I wish you had a Career more in your field “ "I want someone more manly" These comments not only fly in the face of both how the relationship was built on love, compassion etc we never fault before But also how I was upfront from the start of us dating and told her "I HAVE ULSURTIVE COLITIS" 1) it very very expensive medical condition 2) which has no cure in 2019 nor do they know what causes it 3) and women in the past have judge me just base on this condition So I broke up with her at the beginning of last year ( 2018 ) She wanted to see me during the summer 2018 to basically be "friends" With her saying things like " I miss you and want to just hang" " I wish we can dated another 2 to 3 years from now" So with her saying those things it shattered me. because even though we broke up I didn't date anyone for almost a year because I thought she was the one and I'm a person that keeps his promises when I say that I'm going to wait a year I waited a year before dating So with her basically telling me I'm going to be on the sidelines while she dates other people just because she wants me in her life after what she did I told her no I cant see you Because I feel her saying those words completely disregards the fact that I waited an entire year to date her And shows regardless of her age a complete lack of empathy, understanding or integrity And I know some people are going to say oh she's 22. But it doesn't matter if you're 20 to 50 years old etc You should have a basic understanding of human decency and empathy When I was her age I still wouldn't judge another person's weaknesses as a detriment upon me I have been in a relationship regardless of how they had anger issues were assaulted as a youth etc ( basically their flaws didn't get in the way of the relationship, it was their disregard of my condition that did on numerous occasions ) I also didn’t want to be put on sidelines while she meets someone else's especially the way she was saying " we shouldn't close ourselves off to other people" Lying that it was school being the main reason she couldn't be with me. I Know Myself And if I were to see her on Facebook or any other place in the arms of another guy or kissing another guy I don't want to see the side of it :( :( Especially all the waiting I did to be with her because I thought she was "the one" This experience hands down has been the worst thing I have ever experienced when it comes to dating It upset me so much 😢😢😢😢😢😢 I know it's not going to go away this feeling or this experience anytime soon. She contacted me periodically till November 2018 when she wrote “miss you 💔" when she saw me with another girl in a photo on Facebook but it was just a photo from my friends birthday party. Sadly even then it showed no initiative on her side to make things work I pretty much made it clear that it was either a romantic relationship or nothing when I refused to see her as just friends Especially when every conversation was through text But she never 1) calls me 2) never stop by my house to talk 3) never came to any of my numerous events that was putting on with my artwork ( which I listed below ) So take my advice and don't do friends with an ex or taking breaks in a relationship Because when "someone wants a 1 year break because you say you need to focus on school but lie and "say i lost feeling" or "your immature" It's just a waste of time Do you think I did the right thing? there’s times where I feel this void like the way things went where there’s no Closure even though we’re “ just friends on fb” and we haven’t talked since Oh and she not only disregarded my mental and physical conditions She didn't take into account the things I done despite my condition. comparing me to others without a disability with her comments :( 1) got my bachelor degree in art 2) illustrated 15 children books 3) volunteer my time with non profit organizations march of Dimes, American kidney foundation, the lions club to name a few 4) display my artwork in gallery, banks and library 5)interview and received rewards for my art

[@daniellability]

I’m so sorry you had such a painful experience. I hope you find someone wonderful in the future. And even if you don’t, never forget the amazing things you’ve accomplished and keep working to be the best you can be. All the best to you!

[@Overforce65]

@@daniellability first thank you for taking the time to read my comment I really appreciate it 😊 your story and advice really spoke to me. 2nd I'm trying my best to realize that no relationship can bring me happiness. It's still very hard because I always wanted to have kids and get married since I was 12 years old. It's been super discouraging running into certain individuals such as the last one. But after 10 years of constant dating ( I'm now 31 ) I'm just going to keep moving forward with my projects and do my best to take each dating experience one step at a time.

[@Overforce65]

@@daniellability if you ever need any illustrations done don't hesitate to ask. Thank you again 😊

[@anthonyowsley8286]

Overforce65, I read your story..... I went through a similar situation as you..... I met a "Lady" on here we were long distance from May 4 of 04. I moved to Michigan in December of 05. I asked her to marry me in Oct. of 06,....... Fast forward to April 2011 I found out She had been cheating on me the whole time we had known each other........ When I confronted her with it, She told me She couldn't live with a man in a wheelchair. I asked her "It took you Almost 6 years to figure that out?" Her reply was "Just don't speak to me anymore" As I said, I understand where you are coming from. I hope you find someone.

[@kayceemarshall2555]

Thank you for this real and raw video. You are amazing. I’m so proud to call you my friend.

[@daniellability]

Aw, thanks! ❤️

[@anthonyowsley8286]

@@daniellability First may I say, I LOVE your videos.....And secondly, If you don't mind me saying so, You are a Gorgeous lady.

[@Buck82Fla]

I stumbled across your video on my youtbe journy and think you ate a beautiful cool person. Id love to be around you all the time. You seem very fun and intelligent. Very attractive woman. I loved a girl woth spina bifida when I was 16. I knew everything about her and her disability. I knew her fears and some embarrassing stuff. I loved her so much none of it even fazed me. It was a wnderful 18 months. Of coarse we were teens and screwed everything up.

[@lisamarshall6746]

Watching all my friends go to prom was the worst. But another thing I am surprised you have not experienced...to have a guy come on to us while driving or seated at a restaurant. Then to see him bail out when he sees our lower half or chair. When I was on crutches, that happened all the time. It would be funny if it wasnt so soul crushing. Your attitude is great. Don't settle. When I became comfortable with the idea that I might always be single, my guy entered my life suddenly. We married 5 months later. That was 32 years ago. You seem to be an amazing woman with so much going for you. Trust those instincts. It will be worth the wait and you will be a better person for it. Besides, many of those brides you know will be single again. Thanks for the courage to post this. Wish I had a friend who understood all this when I was in my 20s.

[@daniellability]

Thank you so much for your kind words and encouragement. It always makes me so happy to read stories like yours and to know that kind of love exists. Definitely worth the wait!

[@chrisbolton6406]

I understand what is like

[@dylan.t180]

Thank you so much for this honest and open video I appreciate it so much and for me the most upsetting part isn't being single but seeing potential romantic relationships not form because of the disability as if all the hard work I put into myself in confidence and appearance and personality is moot because of one aspect I can't control

[@daniellability]

Thanks so much for the kind words! And I completely relate to what you're saying. I too often feel like having a disability automatically makes people see me as not relationship material, even though I have many good qualities to offer. So I think that's where it's important to just be yourself and find ways to fill your life - because I would rather be happy with who I am as a person than be miserable simply because I'm not in a relationship.

[@torydz]

I'm just starting to watch your videos so maybe you've covered this already, but it would be great to see you with your family and see everyone else too! :)

[@shamsulhussain3651]

I'm disabled. Born with speech impairment and learning difficulties. I'm muslim myself but most of the muslim women refused to marry me because of my disability. They're even said something negative or inappropriate about me. I just stopped talking to them. To me, you're nice person and very brave. My feeling is you have a good personality in you. Hope goes well in your future.

[@AsiminaKouloukouri]

Daniel le you should be proud for your disability because it made you deep as a person and sensible. Treat yourself in a saloon do nails hair dress for your body type and get a dating coach. I m sure your husband is around the corner. There are pretty wheels too for women. Dont let anything stop you you re beautiful in and out for a real man. Fuck the standards. You deserve the best man. Let him come. Be ready

[@justme-hq6wr]

Society sucks Danielle, don’t let society stop you from dating. Your a very pretty lady :) Everyone can and does deserved to be loved and give love.

[@daniellability]

Thanks! :)

[@daniellability]

I don't think it's that society sucks, I just think they have a limited perspective sometimes. Hopefully my videos and other people sharing their experiences will help change that :)

[@Thejukebox091982]

Hi Danielle, my name is David Jenne. I also have a disability. I agree with all that you said on your video, to find your perpose in life if you do or don't find a relation ship with someone. I also have a couple of disibilities, one being, I am blind, but also have a very mild processing delay. You know, its not whats on the outside that counts, its what's on the inside, its within someone's heart that counts. What a shame that sasiyety doesn't reolise that. PS, please excuse the bad misspelled words here, lol.

[@michaelhinkle8817]

Wow what a great video!!!! So what do you think about a relationship with another in a chair as well???

[@Diamond.Crystal]

Love this!! Great video!! Thanks for sharing!😊❤

[@daniellability]

Thanks for watching! ❤️

[@chrisbolton6406]

I liked the video to electronic no bit more about you

[@FightingMSA]

You are a very proud and professional person. It is the guys lose if they don't meet you. Just my .02$

[@daniellability]

Thanks! I appreciate it

[@shanelSS592]

I subscribed to your channel because this is a topic that needs to be talked about and I commend you for speaking on this topic the conversation is important. I am disabled as well and I talked about this topic on my channel. You can check it out because I think you can add so much too the conversation & I resignation with so much of what you said. You are beautiful!

[@daniellability]

Thanks so much (for subscribing and for the kind words) 😀

[@yellowrose126]

I'm 40 with Spina Bifida...and I've never had a date! I don't know how to get passed the bladder issue in order to get close to someone...

[@williammacintosh8370]

Hello I would love to date and be in relationship with disabled women. Do u know any disabled women who is looking for a relationship, meaningful relationship? If yes, please let me know. I would really love to be in relationship with disabled women maybe get married with. Who knows?

[@angelmarshall2735]

I’m not a wheelchair user I’m a disability

[@mstybaby]

I agree with you.

[@SSJXavARR]

Well, my humble opinion, you looks really really cute, wheelchair and all that it implies 😉. And if you add funny, smat and with a good conversation, there are lots of pros.

[@daniellability]

Thanks!

[@SSJXavARR]

@@daniellability just been honest 😊

[@rodneyrehm9143]

I wish we could meet , wow you really get me

[@CarlosVilla-i3c]

And we are both in it

[@RhinoRankin]

So I’m now 34 years old. I’m 6’7 and weigh 310 pound. I’m obviously not disabled. I’m just a big guy and it’s crazy how as I sit here watching this videos bc I never saw myself dating a woman who’s disabled or a wc user and I guess it was bc when I was young as in my teenage years I probably found it weird and unattractive but then when I was 20 I met this girl from the next town over and where I’m from it’s a valley that’s like 30 miles long and has 4 different towns in it. It’s probably 50 miles long but each town has its own school system and I went to a party I was invited to ion tge next town down. Well when I was there I noticed this girl in a wc but she was gorgeous so I asked my buddy who she was and he told me and said it sucked bc she used to be sexy af but she got hit by a drunk driver like 6 months ago and now she’s paralyzed and I said shit she’s still hott and I remember him lookin at me like I was dumb and he said bro she can’t even feel her pussy get the fuck out of here. I literally got so mad when he said that and I didn’t even know her but I decided to go talk to her and we literally hit it off and we talked every day for a week and I never asked her about her injury and then finally she was like u know I appreciate what surveying to do but we obviously like one another so if you don’t wanna ask me then I’d like to tell u what happened to me. And I was like ok and she said but in person so if u wanna come pick me up. At that point we had t hung out together. So I get to her house and she was like this is why I wanted to tell u in person bc I want to show u what it will be like being with me!! She was like I’ve only been like this for 5 months and a couple weeks so I’m still needy. So you’ll have to help me ALOT do ubthinknu can handle that?? I said course. Anyways we dated for almost 3 years before life just happened and we split up but we still talk often and I got hella love for her

[@davidalfonso3042]

I young man single 33 year l Iove disability women looking for true love

[@ranitagadling4312]

As a 41 yr old woman who has both mental comprehension and physical disabilities I sincerely hope that I'm able to find love one day ...and your comment makes me wonder whether you're serious or you just have some kind of sick fetish?

[@davidalfonso3042]

Can we get to know your WhatsApp number 00212658158318

[@davidalfonso3042]

@@ranitagadling4312 hello how are you

[@chrisbolton6406]

I am single I have a disability and I have transgender and have bisexual

[@angelmarshall2735]

That right I told gree to you

[@carltonclark5194]

your beautiful

[@CarlosVilla-i3c]

Was date to but we broke up

[@WHAdeku]

I wish I had a girlfriend oh wait i can't. I have a disability that's CMT disease that messes up my hands and feet. I was born with it

[@freddierisk8909]

I wouldn't mind dating a cute disabled woman like you. Or any disabled women age 30's to 40's

[@isaacsac5]

You mean other women.

[@adangill7189]

What happened with your legs