DATING SOMEONE IN A WHEELCHAIR| Our Top Dating Tips

Kasey and Andrea started dating back in 2010. They both met back in college in Texas. Andrea had never been with anyone who had a disability or was a wheelchair user before and so the interabled dating game was completely new to her. There were quite a few interesting challenges that they both had to overcome. Today, we give a few tips for interabled dating as we talk about what we went through including Andrea’s parent’s opinion and issue they had for being in a relationship with Kasey, and how she lost friends who did not agree with her choice of dating Kasey. For Kasey, he wanted to make sure he was honest and upfront with her about his disability and adapted lifestyle but at the same time was worried all of the information would “scare” her away.
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We’re Kasey & Andrea. A Minnesotan and Salvadorian husband and wife living and loving life in Minnesota, USA. We live an adaptive lifestyle that allows us to be active, independent, and live life to the fullest.
We’ve been together a total of 8 years and going into our 4th year of marriage. Through all of these years together (and with Kasey’s 28 years of living with Spina Bifida) we have learned A LOT about adaptive equipment and products, and multiple ways on how to modify things around our homes and lives.
We have traveled to different parts of North and Latin America so far and planning to adventure a lot more in the near future.
We created this blog to share with others our personal experience with living an active and independent adapted life. We’ll be sharing adaptive product and equipment reviews of what we have used in the past; posts of some of the most fun places we’ve been able to visit during our travels. Last but not least, we’ll also share content regarding Kasey’s weight loss journey and adaptive fitness and exercise ideas.
We’re extremely excited to be able to reach out AND also learn from others who are living an adaptive life to the fullest!
Here’s to some amazing Adapted Adventures!
- Kasey & Andrea

[@Godzgirl23]

OMG WHAT A GORGEOUS COUPLE. I work with disabled people and my clients next door neighbor asked for my phone number and said he wanted to take me to a restaurant. He's in a wheel chair and is quite attractive. I literally noticed his smile before the chair. I've been a widow since 2009. Single by choice. I'm glad I didn't settle for an able bodied man that would probably not treat me as well. Also I'm black and he's Hispanic. The first time I saw him I thought" Wow he's so attractive" it was more like I could feel that he was really sweet. He made us( my client and i) tamales twice. Silly me had no idea he was attracted to me. I almost can't wait to go. Oddly true. 🙏🙏💖💝

[@t.j.7789]

How did the date go!!!???

[@hobbesjr]

What happened?

[@mistynight123]

Thankyou for this. I have a first date with a guy who uses a chair so this is helpful.

[@AdaptedAdventures]

Have fun! We hope it goes well!

[@elchinn87]

Wish you the best..

[@christinatitolo5563]

This is amazing! I started dating a man in a wheelchair, he was in a motorcycle accident 15 years ago. He is the first man who I honestly can say I deeply connect with. Every single day he makes me smile. I love him!

[@terrybunch7313]

You're only with him for money, I bet.

[@AdaptedAdventures]

@@terrybunch7313 there is no need for this

[@AdaptedAdventures]

that's great Christina, we should all be better at valuing people for what is beyond their outward appearances, or abilities etc

[@TravisHargiss]

I was born with spina bifida and use a wheelchair and my wife is able bodied. I am getting ready to start filming my adventures and was doing research when I came across your channel. Thanks for the inspiration!

[@AdaptedAdventures]

absolutely im glad you're enjoying it!

[@destinieackley5778]

My bf has spina bifida too and he’s paralyzed from the calf down he wears braces to help him walk but this video helps a lot he doesn’t let the spina bifida define him he pushes past it and still does what he love I find it attractive that he has the perseverance to push past it and do what he loves he doesn’t let it hold him back we live in different states and what brought it up was I asked him if he drives

[@shinoquake67]

I completely agree with everything, I also have spina bifida and before I moved out of my parents and into a college dorm, I was worried that I would not be able to find someone, or that girls would not even consider me an option since I knew I would have to be using a wheelchair to get around campus (i walk around with crutches at home). But barely 3 weeks into freshman year I found someone who I have an amazing relationship with still even after 1 and a half years. For people struggling with the anxiety of being judged, just remember that you have lived a whole life that is completely unique to anyone else, the chair or your disability doesn't represent you. When I met her, I never planned on mentioning my wheelchair unless she asked about it, I just got to know her and she got to know me and we connected right away, and once we were comfortable with talking about it, we brought up my disability and some things about it. Unfortunately there will be people that cant look past your disability, but those arent the people you wanna be spending your life with anyways so dont even worry about it. And if youre someone with spina bifida whos younger, maybe in elementary,middle,highschool I think it still applies, I've had my fair share of relationships when I was younger too. I think the important part is just to make sure that your disability is a part of you, rather than you being a part of it and to just be confident and don't be afraid to initiate conversations.

[@AdaptedAdventures]

👏👏👏👏👏... I couldn't agree more!!! Well said my friend! I'm glad you've found someone and we wish both of you all the best!

[@elchinn87]

Thats great..best wishes both of you ❤

[@giocondakisses]

I like a guy on a wheelchair, I hope we eventually start talking and go on a date, I wanna know what questions I can make and what I shouldn't so I'm watching this video

[@QQ0000]

Let’s go on a date

[@jamespruett50]

Another great video. You guys are a fun loving couple! As a paraplegic at age 18 from a car accident, I wish I had access to your videos. Hold your head up and don’t look down. It takes a lot of guts to get around on four wheels.

[@AdaptedAdventures]

Haha thanks Jim I'm glad you're enjoying the videos I'm gonna keep rocking it till I can't rock it anymore!

[@okamimusha5932]

I wish I found your video a year ago. Maybe it would've helped in my marriage, but I am self improving with some books. Seeing this makes me feel a little better about my situation.

[@AdaptedAdventures]

keep your head up.. regardless of your physical abilities, be and stay confident!

[@blake9742]

It is mean for another person to criticize and find problem with a disabled person. It’s not like it is his choice to be in a wheelchair. I know you guys are strong and have each other’s back and that is priceless and amazing

[@rollwiththepunches5932]

It's not mean it's reality, and I'm in a chair

[@3008madzia3008]

Omg guys! I love you!! This is a great video! So helpful. I wish you all the best and keep going!!! What an inspiration!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@AdaptedAdventures]

Thank you!

[@GAINZonWHEELS]

Lovely women, we people in wheelchair are people, lots of people talks to your company and you’re the guy in the chair .. We had feelings!!! Great women again..

[@daniellability]

This is such a great video and very encouraging! Thank you for sharing your experience

[@elchinn87]

Wish you the best Daniella..

[@AdaptedAdventures]

I'm glad you liked it! more to come sooonn!!

[@tardysauce1466]

WOW this is amazing! You've been together for 10 years and married for 5? I have spina bifida but not in a wheelchair I walk with a limp and people judge me every single day. Just watching this video give me so much hope to find someone to be with as long as you two have been together. I am in and out of the dating game because I have spina bifida and I sit and think to myself who would want be with a guy who walks the way I do. I want to say thank you Kasey and Andrea for opening my eyes and creating confidence in me and have some hope. I hope you two continue have long and happy marriage and enjoy life together! :)

[@AdaptedAdventures]

thank you for your kind words.. you may ask yourself who would want to be with a guy with a limp, but think of it as more of a filter :p... you don't have to waste your time on someone who's going to judge you on something so inconsequential as the way you walk.. Instead ask yourself if you would want to be with someone that shallow?

[@Selene0017]

I am currently dating a guy who has spina bífida and he is awesome. He also walks different and uses a cane (he is 30y/o) I was amazed by his willingness to fight during the hardest times in his condition. My best advice is don't be afraid to be yourself. And don't let anyone's opinions define you. We all deserve to be loved. The right person will not look at your disability. The right person will love the person that is you, and I know it sounds cheesy but is true. I look past my date's disability because he is extraordinary

[@tardysauce1466]

@@Selene0017 Thank You for the advice. How long have you two been dating? I think it's awesome and it's says a lot about you the the type of person you are that you can look past the disability. You must be an amazing person inside and out. I wish more people were like you!

[@josephmirigliano8728]

Great video I enjoyed watching I have cerebral palsy so you guys express inspiring me a lot be safe and enjoy happy new year to you and your family

[@AdaptedAdventures]

Thank you Joseph! Hope your new year is going well so far! Looking forward to getting some new videos up soon!

[@shanelSS592]

This is amazing I am a wheelchair and I agreed with a lot of what you said. And I salute you two for talking about something that not many people do or are afraid too!

[@Gamer-mm7sm]

I'm using a wheelchair too and this video helped me to feel way better. I'd like if I can get in touch with you.

[@AdaptedAdventures]

@@Gamer-mm7sm sorry I haven't been keeping up with comments, I'm glad sharing our story has helped you, even if in a small way

[@QQ0000]

So cool

[@chonell-moniquesprings97]

Thank you guys for your insight. I recently reconnected with someone that I dated briefly 20 years ago and due to an injury, which occurred before I ever met him… he is wheelchair bound. I really like him and could see us together in a committed relationship in the future. I recently began taking into consideration some of the things that would need to be different for our relationship to grow… for instance, my home is not wheelchair accessible. Neither is my family members homes. We have family dinners and events about once a month and I would like to invite him to some of those events eventually. We are going to Miami for his birthday in August and I decided to research fun things for us to do while we’re there that are wheelchair accessible… these are things that I have never had to really consider being that I have not had a serious romantic relationship with anyone wheelchair bound before… but because I genuinely like him, I want to learn everything I need to know so that he knows that his disability is just something we will navigate, but isn’t a hindrance to the growth of our relationship. I appreciate all of ur tips. Thank you. Best wishes for you.

[@tractorbooty15]

Thanks to you guys for opening my eyes to who might be right under my nose. Great work and wish you all the best!!

[@AdaptedAdventures]

Of course!

[@krammet]

"Blue hair, blonde eyes".....I think I know that guy lol

[@AdaptedAdventures]

adaptedadventures... unscripted and uncut! haha

[@quadtrialsandtheories]

; )- @@AdaptedAdventures

[@purifiedst0rm]

Beautiful Story Guys!!

[@willjohnson4454]

I just want to say what bothers me is when people say there in a wheelchair know you use a wheelchair to get around It is not who you are is what you used to get around

[@drawingdragons4097]

Oh my gosh... at 2:42 that picture... I realized where that is... I’m actually going to a wheelchair basketball camp there right now. This week. Wow.... Small. World.

[@lorizigler9084]

I have a beautiful young niece that is in a wheelchair! and well her husband had No guff! Yet she was there for him when he was down after an accident! Yet she is now a grandma as well and still young I hope she gets this chance to watch this video! Thank you for sharing!

[@Godzgirl23]

Send it to her

[@mitchelllively7067]

Tip #1 has always been the hardest for me.

[@FawadZakai]

Being Muslim and disabled w/CP, dating is not allowed in Islam. On top of this I'm unable to socialize due to not having close friends to hang out with. I really want someone in my life. I'm 46 years and have accomplished so much in life. Now I want to share my remaining of whatever I have left with a God fearing, beautiful, and kindhearted woman.

[@youssefechcharif7775]

My dear brother as a disabled Muslim myself may Allah bless you with a godfearing kindhearted girl

[@tradersglobal]

@@annika2272 Dating in general is forbidden in Islam. This is Fawad.

[@elchinn87]

See, I'm a paraplegic I know how valuable to have an understanding, honest accepting partner in life. So both of you guys are awesome. Grow stronger and stronger..best wishes

[@AdaptedAdventures]

Thank you!

[@mariom6266]

I subscribed!!! 🥰

[@yargsnurb2457]

Very cool, you two.

[@garrycommander9351]

I mean i met someone in tinder some minutes ago and he looks great I mean for the quote he wrote and he is in a wheelchair i need saw goes what don't do. thanks a lot for the video

[@JB12JB]

For some reason, my brain doesn't accept the fact that it is possible for me to be in a relationship. I know that I should be inspired by your story and others who are in a relationship. Perhaps, it's because as much as I have tried to date women. They just like me as a friend or don't give me a chance... My medical condition requires me to have assistance from bathing, dressing, eating, to lifting simple objects. It's so uncomfortable to ask for a phone number while struggling to take out and lift my phone.

[@AdaptedAdventures]

It can be hard but even our own perceptions of what"s "normal" can limit us, but remember that idea of normal is formed by a lot of stereotypes from society. The "dating scene" so to speak is probably gonna look quite different for people with disabilities, nothing wrong with that! Check out this other channel that andrea and I follow they're both hilarious and living life to the fullest! @ squirmy and grubs .... Have a great day!

[@JB12JB]

@@AdaptedAdventures thank you for your feedback.

[@sabrina1985]

Jonathan Bello hi jonathan, it must be hard for you not able to find easily love. But there Will be 1 day that you find the only one who love you just for who you are. Its hard to waith for that day. But in the end it Will be worth the waithing. Love sabrina

[@mazanmard4409]

@@sabrina1985 Those are heartwarming words but not necessarily true. . We have to embrace reality.

[@rtcodes4618]

I so feel you! However, even if we cant find someone, fill your Heart with Love. Hopefully, someone who abides to your melody, will look past that, only Love can do that. So, just Love unconditionally without worrying! :) I'm disabled too if that wasn't clear, but don't worry, just Love, a Heart full of Love sees everything in Love, even in solitude, so be full of God, The Loving, The Protective Friend! 😄 If you don't understand things, be patient, don't worry, and hold on to Him! Keep Love, no matter what you do! 😄 "You have to keep breaking your Heart, until it opens" - Hazrat Rumi "Your task is not to seek for Love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it." - Hazrat Rumi

[@brandeegeiger8333]

Hey this is Brandy I'm also in a wheelchair and also have spina bifida you are so courageous

[@billyboy7187]

Congratulations to you both! I am new to your channel and you're relationship with each other is inspiring! I am a middled 48yr old disabled full-time single father raising my 4 kids on my own by myself. I am not in a wheelchair but it is inevitable that I will be! Bc i have sickle cell anemia disease and avascular necrosis plus degenerative disc disease in my spine both due to sickle cell anemia disease. I have a lot of surgical issues & scars! I have mostly all titanium joints except my left hip!! I have had 8 total left knee replacement surgeries, 2 total right knee replacement surgeries, 2 total right hip replacement surgeries and both of my shoulders are next to be totally replaced! Plus all ten toes are have titanium rods from the tip of my toes to the middle of my foot! Plus i am raising my 4 AMAZING kids throughout all of my surgeries but bc of these surgeries i have a lot of surgical scars & women are not interested in me @ all bc of my DG disability, scars,& being a full-time single father of four!! I have been thru a lot and have a lot of pain physically, emotionally, and mentally! & unfortunately so have my kids bc i am all that they have as their mother's are not involved in their lives @ all & they have had to watch me go thru all of the surgeries!! I am looking for female friendship/companionship & LOVE for myself and my 4 AMAZING kids! Idk what to do! I apologize for the very long msg but i have no one to talk to about it and hearing about your disability & LOVE story helped me to open up to you! I am a subbie gorsure now and i wish you both continued happiness on your journey! Thank You both for sharing your journey together!🙏 Sincerly, Billy H.

[@tettmoh]

@Billy Reading your comment i can tell you are a good person and a great dad to your kids. We all deserve love and being disable doesn't define you.

[@billyboy7187]

@@tettmoh Thank you. I really and truly appreciate your comment! Salute to you🙏😎

[@tettmoh]

@Billy you are welcome, whenever you need someone to talk to, reach me out on my email [e-mail]

[@AdaptedAdventures]

stay strong for your kids! that's amazing that you've been through all that and still able to be there for your children!

[@billyboy7187]

@@AdaptedAdventures Thank You. 🙏🏿 I LOVE them with all of my heart, mind, body, soul, and spirit! But I am also very proud of them all. My youngest daughter has graduated from high school last wknd and is moving to Lincoln,ne to go to college and i will be McCauley Caulkin now!🤔😢

[@xolovetari5511]

i’m going to have dinner with a man who uses wheelchair next week 😁

[@terrybunch7313]

Why?

[@savannahb123456789]

@@terrybunch7313 why not tf

[@terrybunch7313]

@@savannahb123456789 because women have an ulterior motive for this kind of thing

[@QQ0000]

He’s lucky

[@QQ0000]

How did it go

[@sydneymicheals5615]

I really enjoy these types of videos from you guys ,they are really informative .Do you two plan on having kids? Btw Andrea is gorgeous, kasey you lucky dog 😄.

[@AdaptedAdventures]

Sydney! We are so happy you're enjoying the channel! We've got more coming for sure so stay tuned! Including maybe answering the kids question 😉! And you're right I am absolutely a lucky dog!

[@emiliobonilla22]

Things can look differently but the same thing is being done in the end.

[@blake9742]

Those friends that had a problem with your relationship with him is crazy. You would think they would be happy that your happy. Did it have to do with accommodations for outings?

[@AdaptedAdventures]

I never met any of those friends so it definitely wasn't that :P

[@mazanmard4409]

As a paraplegic, I don't call people who don't accept me " shallow mind " .

[@Carolinakid1984]

God she's beautiful

[@notafeminist5948]

U know what.. since I had my spine surgery I lost my confidence, my walking is not great... I feel like I always try to justify myself to others... Its hard and fear loneliness... I am pretty, use to be very confident...and when someone is interested I am always surprised... And i say to them " really?... U don t mind?" But I have also come across a person who took advantage of my condition... So be careful.

[@AdaptedAdventures]

agreed there will be people out there who will try to use you. Don't feel like you ever have to justify your physical abilities to anyone. If thats the case then in my opinion they're probably not worth being in a relationship with

[@ayeeejay]

My boyfriend has spina bifida nd people ask me if its difficult i always say no its just different

[@AdaptedAdventures]

exactly we all have "disabilities" and things we struggle with, sometimes some are just more apparent to the "public" than others

[@chrisroach6371]

I have operated large John Deere tractors and construction equipment since I became paralyzed

[@AdaptedAdventures]

nice! never let anything stop you!!

[@chrisroach6371]

Nothing not even doctors will stop me. Because I will do what I want when I want tol dol it

[@AdaptedAdventures]

@@chrisroach6371 for sure!!

[@jenjackson9757]

Cool

[@shaeshae7990]

How many times did you roll over her foot?

[@AdaptedAdventures]

in the 10 years we've been together only like half a dozen 😜

[@shaeshae7990]

@@AdaptedAdventures :) aww that's lovvve

[@angiepatterson6338]

I wish I could say this. I'm in a wheelchair and have pretty much given up dating because it's one creep with a fetish after the next.

[@daviddickenson1243]

Hello Angie

[@angiepatterson6338]

@@daviddickenson1243 Hello back.

[@RD-vz6cc]

I’m so sorry you’ve experienced this. Don’t let it stop you.

[@AdaptedAdventures]

I'm sorry you've dealt with that Angie :(.. there are good people out there, i promise you that

[@hamzaresheq2645]

Do you have another wheelchair that I can buy from you?

[@AdaptedAdventures]

Sorry I don't have any that I'm selling.

[@MikeProvocateur-tu2jl]

Hope that you guys are married now.

[@AdaptedAdventures]

7 years last month!

[@oliviatwins9776]

I wish to get connected with a disabled, respectful man #am not disabled

[@lildurk3004]

If i brought a girl in wheelchair to my parents house, they will be shocked!

[@mr.nobody9697]

Hes got his ring on. Wheres hers? Interesting.

[@AdaptedAdventures]

getting cleaned! lol

[@mr.nobody9697]

@@AdaptedAdventures What happened to your channel? You guys were quite charming.

[@AdaptedAdventures]

@@mr.nobody9697 We had some personal life changes and unfortunately had to step away from the channel for a long while, I'm trying to get caught up on some comments and such now and Andrea and I are back filming and will hopefully have some edited content ready for you all soon!

[@terrybunch7313]

Just have the "right" disability and plenty of money. That's how.

[@AdaptedAdventures]

I am definitely not loaded and Andrea seems to stick around haha... maybe she's in it for the parking?

[@sheraldinemslane7245]

So shallow shame

[@John-hg5pw]

God can make it happen. Trust in Him by Jesus. Able or disabled. It is not about ability or disability but the Father being GRACIOUS and LOVING. Look up, not around, for every good gift is from above.

[@LutwinderBrooker]

I’m new subbie let support each other

[@Jesse19405]

goddammit even this dorky bamma in a wheelchair pulling hotter tail than I can

[@ssheeessh]

Be more confident bud! Dont think you CANT, you just haven't yet. I'm like, a 6 and have been with some very attractive women.

[@t.j.7789]

hahahah!!!

[@marinasmrekar6273]

She looks so unhappy

[@AdaptedAdventures]

She sure smiles a lot for being unhappy🤓

[@QQ0000]

Wow

[@Suspect333]

There are billions of men who aren't in a Wheelchair, why would you waste your time with someone like us? It makes no sense when you think about it.

[@njerikinuthia4431]

Because I've looked past my boyfriend's wheelchair and like him for who he is!

[@Suspect333]

@@njerikinuthia4431 You're extremely rare

[@njerikinuthia4431]

@@Suspect333 But we do exist. If you're patient enough I am sure you'll find love. All the best

[@Suspect333]

@@njerikinuthia4431 you too

[@terrybunch7313]

@@njerikinuthia4431 You're probably only with him for some other reason. Maybe he gets a lot of disability checks, or you want the social credit of being "the one" to date a cripple.