Dating Stoically

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[@saturn580]

"It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not a weakness. That is life." -Captain Jean-Luc Picard, Star Trek

[@thebit1287]

Wow. That is really a great quote.

[@d1v1nesp1r1t]

@@thebit1287 JLP has many epic quotes.

[@Torgo1001]

@@d1v1nesp1r1t "There...are...four...lights! Four lights!"

[@themetalchronicles.9557]

“There will always be those who mean to do us harm. To stop them, we risk awakening the same evil within ourselves.” -Captain James T Kirk

[@philyeary8809]

@@Torgo1001 I feel this in the age of $camdemic.

[@Torgo1001]

"A strange game. The only winning move is not to play."

[@multima1000]

War games, even a zoomer could tell.

[@tamadeus7189]

If the chick is chasing you, smile, play nice, but most importantly, "listen to the woman", and buddy, you better listen like your life depended on it, because it does: Is she asking about your ride? Is she asking about your job? Is she bragging about being a "feminist"? Is she talking about other people negatively? These are indicators that you need to "excuse yourself graciously"...GraceLESSly if needed!

[@user-se3zd8bb8h]

"He ain't lying!"

[@tacituskilgore3314]

How about a nice game of chess?

[@30minutesLess]

Professor Falco?

[@jth_printed_designs]

Rules to modern dating: 1. Be attractive 2. Don't be unattractive

[@scottanos9981]

Dress well, fake it till you ditch her

[@law844]

3. Be tall 4. Be rich 5. Be empty inside

[@thebrowithnoname1703]

1.) Be tall 2.) Don’t be short

[@shaunakmitra963]

@@law844 Patrick bateman type beat

[@Torgo1001]

@@shaunakmitra963 "I...want..to...fit...in."

[@psychosylocibin]

Spot On. I remember always blaming myself " WeLL the CoMMOn DeNOMINATOr mUSt bE YoU!" for constant frustration with women, sending myself down a spiral of questionning my self worth. Then one day I woke up, looked at my 6 pack, chiseled body after running combo crossfit marathon competition, my close to 7 figure net worth, the fact that I have my own house that I DIyed myself, multiple hobbies/interests that I've worked on passionately my whole life, and general semblence as a honest good guy from friends aand family, and just thought "what the F have I have been beating myself up over". Its not me. Its them. Why was I fighting for attention from women that weren't even close to the value I can provide.

[@StevenReyBargamento]

Your goddamn right. Congrats on your achievements.

[@psychosylocibin]

@@StevenReyBargamento thanks man. And i'm not saying I'm anything special - just a guy who put a plan together 10 years ago to set goals and work towards them. nothing extaordinary at all too - just what makes me happy. I'm with aaron clarey though - now that women have their career/finances, it's revealed the truth that they just plain don't want men. Otherwise things would be MUCH easier on my end.

[@StevenReyBargamento]

@@psychosylocibin I'm currently doing the same. Been in bad relationships. Got red pilled. Decided to go my own way. Focused on losing weight, learning new things, building my KZbin channel, investing some and accumulating my net worth. It gets lonely sometimes. But at least I know I'm doing better than people my age. Plus I don't waste any of my precious time chasing women.

[@automan1223]

all men live lives of quiet desperation. Others go fishing, flying or find something to enjoy.

[@dedeborya9015]

I did my time on the dating sites (before apps hit the phones) At the time 35, Masters Degree, Retiring from the military with 20 years, a foreign language, a dream job lined up, a big house, a classic truck (paid for), vacations on tap, international travel, deployment rock hard fitness, stacked money in the bank / investments / real estate ...but I am 5-6. Absolutely nothing. So I pulled the plug. I left the country after 5 years of bullshiate. I found it wasn't me. It was the water hole I was swimming in. I was looking for fish in a porta potty cesspool drain field. I did not change who I was - I Geo Max'd. My humor / character / fitness / education / language skills / military experience / money / business skills - all mattered overseas. Were all appreciated and sought after overseas. Agent in the Field Abroad - 12 years running / 27 countries counting. Guys; Get your Passports / Get a Language / GTFO out of 'merica. *It will change your life*

[@sashah3913]

6’4 220lbs, 18 percent bf, 6 pack, people think I’m on steroids. Great job with excellent benefit’s, well skilled, articulate, money in the bank, assets. Comfortable. Women are fickle, all women. They need to be told what to do, if they respect you they will listen if not good luck. They are basically like children. I have had my fair share. They are not worth it once you’ve had many experiences with them. I would chalk it up to time well wasted. You will get to a point where you ultimately realize it’s better to pay upfront. You get what you want when you want it. They have all been corrupted, they are not worth the time or energy. Good luck out there

[@jrphilli100]

18% bf? Btw I agree with all of your other points, clearly you have arrived at this viewpoint with cold calculated pragmatism

[@57054]

First of all, you have to have the ability to sense they're interested in you in the first place or else you'rewasting your time. After that and at the beginning you gotta make them laugh, ask them about themselves and take interest in them. If you talk about yourself or your success too much it bores many women. If you told a date about all the things about yourself that you mentioned here in your comments, it will usually turn most women off.

[@ModMax69]

been with over 30 women in my life, most were at least 7's had a couple 9.5s. Only 2 were people I could actually stand being around for more than sex.

[@ModMax69]

and they weren't wifey material/ a good mother

[@nabzy28]

@@ModMax69 This. No idea how the hell any guy wants one of these around for more than an hour, at most. Ever.

[@donaldduck4082]

If you've had one woman, you've had 'em all.

[@CDRFINANCE]

So true, except a few

[@lockyp204]

At this stage at 51, 5”7 never married I’m going to be happy dying alone, knowing no woman has taken me to the cleaners and used me for sperm and her baby and white picket fence dreams

[@killjoyredux8361]

They can't be that happy being alone...the anti depressent prescription rate does not lie.

[@ModMax69]

and the fur babies

[@vyse102]

@@ModMax69 "I'm a fur mama and these are my fur babies!" "Ma'am, you're a pet owner and those are dogs. Stop it. Get some help."

[@grndiesel]

I believe Rich Cooper said it best: "You cannot negotiate desire" Either she likes you or not. Usually it doesn't take long to figure out, if you're paying attention.

[@danebeck7900]

Rich took that from Rollo

[@moonlambo5229]

I learned that as "Attraction is not a choice."

[@grndiesel]

@@danebeck7900 You're probably right. I just heard it from RC first.

[@StevenReyBargamento]

It's "You cannot negotiate genuine burning desire."

[@sharpshooter7686]

Rich got it from Rollo. Hell, Patrice O'Neal talked about this back in the day.

[@petermendelsohn4944]

Difficult Versus Impossible A man on his Harley was riding along a California beach when suddenly the sky clouded above his head and, in a booming voice, God said, "Because you have tried to be faithful to Me in all ways, I will grant you one wish." The biker pulled over and said, "Build a bridge to Hawaii so I can ride over anytime I want." God replied, "Your request is materialistic; think of the enormous challenges for that kind of undertaking; the supports required reaching the bottom of the Pacific and the concrete and steel it would take! I can do it, but it is hard for Me to justify your desire for worldly things. Take a little more time and think of something that could possibly help mankind." The biker thought about it for a long time. Finally, he said, "God, I wish that I, and all men, could understand women; I want to know how she feels inside, what she's thinking when she gives me the silent treatment, why she cries, what she means when she says nothing's wrong, why she snaps and complains when I try to help, and how I can make a woman truly happy." God sighed and hesitantly replied: "You want two lanes or four on that bridge...?"

[@Rustyknife1]

AAAAHAHAHAHAHAHA

[@yaxtutotial]

😂

[@piekcruson993]

Some guy: "Cappy, this dating/female thing doesn't make any sense!!" Cappy: "It sure as F doesn't!" "Get used to it.."

[@georgesontag2192]

If you become the best man you can be, strong, rich, interesting, smart..... she can still divorce you and take everything you own. Remember, the man becomes homeless in divorce, not her.

[@REDPILLDLUFFY]

Modern women overpromise and underdeliver. Expect little effort involved from them.

[@ModMax69]

they put effort into creating drama

[@invadernik]

i agree with everything cappy except for the notion that their " ok being alone". if that were true, we wouldnt have that many on tik tok whining about their single lives and what not. most of are just beyond gone and delusional. their capacity for patience and faith in finding "DA ONE" is limitless.

[@Whitetiger187]

They could be whining about not getting the playboy millionaire Disney prince that they think every woman can get. But then again, women are notorious for rather relishing in the drama of hardships rather than actually finding solutions to them.

[@oceanhedonist265]

They prefer to be in relationship purgatory while they continue the ongoing cycle of holding out for "the one" that they know they are all entitled to.

[@Stassis]

They will hold out for the Prince that never comes. It's honestly better that way. Imagine being the perfectly normal guy that has to suffer because he could never live up to her fantasy.

[@MA-wq2ih]

Their words are saying one thing, but their actions say another. And because they won't take a chance, and change what's not working...they're "okay" with it.

[@robertruiz3131]

@@Whitetiger187 Kevin Samuels used to use a term he called "color purpling"(if you're familiar with the movie the color purple) where blkwomen embraced this cultural narrative that the blkmen in the past were like the character Harpo. Once you see that you start to realize most women regardless of race will cling on to something in their life self-inflicted or otherwise to hold up order to win stunning and brave points with the sisterhood. "Look at my struggle look, at *my* Harpo I have to fight!" Mean teacher in the 3rd grade, abusive ex, children out of wedlock, parental issues. Take your pick and you've likely run into a woman or two relishing in the drama.

[@dr.vonslifeinvesting6485]

20 years ago I had no money no car no phone and a dorm room and I did ok with women and I was 5’10. Today I have a house that is paid for a bunch of money a job two cars a motorcycle weigh what I did at 18 and it’s crickets. I have two kids full time I think that keeps women away.

[@exvan3571]

Yes. Possible work with another woman's children is gold digger Kryptonite

[@Rorschach1195]

Maybe, but you gotta remember that 20 years ago the world in terms of dating was completely different. 20-30 years ago everything you have now could be considered attractive to women (or at least attractive enough), but these days all she has to do is pull out a phone and she both can see and have access to Men with things that dwarf all that all over the world. Bear in mind thats only one aspect thats changed, there are loads more that I won't bother listing.

[@joeshugabowski1444]

2002 no smartphones, apps, dating sites. Avert girls would get approached few times a month if she goes out and u prbbly be her best option. Nowadays same girl goes to bathroom and can get dozens of matches with guys 2-3 points above her looks level

[@munafo13]

Control the controllables, guys…

[@carls9310]

Just enjoy temporary fun where it can NOT come back to bite you. Seriously, gentlemen...it ISN'T YOU! She'll be willing to settle for you twenty years and 120 lbs and three kids later, though!

[@alangonzalez5565]

As Rian Stone stated, it’s a numbers game. Even the best guys at picking up girls have a 10% closing rate, date stoically muchachos.

[@castiron2932]

Thank God for how things are now. Can you imagine how many men before us were in marriages to women who didn’t love or respect them but those women only stayed for financial or social reasons.

[@nickbeaucage4711]

Here here! Sound the alarms! You can’t meet a delusional expectation. It’s not you, it’s them. Get a passport, travel, find something else to do. The interests of men hv been subverted, in every way, you don’t need therapy. Can you rebuild an engine? Frame a room, mix a bag of concrete, sweat a copper pipe, wire a circuit? Then you don’t need therapy once a week you need competence.

[@ericraber1214]

If your in a house, you have years of potential projects right in front of you!

[@bobbobertson7568]

I am in decent shape, got decent job. I set up a couple good profiles with decent pics on the apps where the women are supposed to make the first move. I minimize the time I put in on it, won't do endless texts will ask for a meet, and will cut it off if there's any nonsense time waiting. Need to advance the bases within 3-4 dates. But yeah, do what you can do, minimize the effort. Drop the line in the water and walk away.

[@oceanhedonist265]

"Advance the bases." Clever take!

[@bobbobertson7568]

@Obsidian Hey, I am a boomer lol. First date is just a meetup for a beer, walk etc. Minimal expense. No swordfish, theatre etc. I can afford more but i agree if you're shelling out for dinners before any s3xy time has happened you are getting snookered. I'd prefer first date action and if it happens great, but I am reasonable. These days that 3-4 date schedule is considered aggressive or worse. Compare that to some folks who get stalled 9 dates, 2-3 months etc. This is commonplace today. Men have been convinced that this is OK. I know because I've terminated many associations with these ladies because they were drawing things out, trying to do the whole Steve Harvey con and convince me that they were good girls, when we all know they were probably seeing a FWB on the side the whole time.

[@marianomanto]

I'm taking a medicine that as a secondary effect has destroyed my libido... I no longer feel the urge. I keep working out, reading and doing music. I'm making good money and building a house for myself to avoid rent for ever... Idk man. I'm lonely but I have art with me.

[@johnmcternan4157]

Anti depressant, right? I have to take one for a chronic pain/ brain condition. Same problems.

[@FoB39]

Finasteride?

[@marianomanto]

@@johnmcternan4157 yes

[@0000FFz]

Is it actually working for your depression ? If not switch up.

[@tubalcain6874]

I’m a 65 year old man, never married, and lose no sleep over it. The same shenanigans young men face today were around back in the day when I was a young guy urinating on my shoes with this heathen practice called “dating”. The main difference was you didn’t have the internet enabling and validating subpar and problematic women, and this subsequent proliferation of feeble-minded men groveling for scraps from these women’s tables.

[@hjackson.92]

Hookup culture didn't exist back then, either.

[@tamadeus7189]

There's a great value in moving on: If you're over 30 (adult) and you've done everything to reel in that "SHE'S THE ONE!!!", It's time to play the cards Cappy is giving you here. The chemistry is either there, or it isn't! If it isn't, you aren't going to conjure it out of thin air. "SHE'S THE ONE!!!" = Naive self-deceit. Move TF along!

[@Meton2526]

"Chemistry" is all bullshit. The correct perspective is "if she's looking for Chemistry, she's not the one." If you ARE the guy that the kind of girl you want will desire, and the girl doesn't desire you, then she's not the kind of girl you want. If you aren't the guy that the kind of girl you want will desire, then work on yourself. Stop thinking magic butterfly feelings are the answer, they're not, they're at best a litmus test for figuring out which people out there have no intelligent agency, and are compelled by nothing more than baser instinct.

[@stretch34318]

She'll say no if you ask her out and expect you to keep pursuing her. I look for reciprocation when I approach "da girls", if she can't do it then do you think she'll do it with anything else, sex, cooking, cleaning, paying, or ________.

[@oceanhedonist265]

Nope. Easy answer.

[@malcolmtaylor518]

I think the word 'endure' compliments the word 'stoic' in this matter. Men have to endure all the crap, and in endurance grow to an enhanced reality. Don't look back, keep moving forward.

[@captnhuffy]

Yes! Correctly label me "John MGTOW Galt" I'm as close to a Sovereign Man as I can be. Yes, there are others in my circle, but all in "my trusted circle" are self-reliant. and I have HIGH BOUNDARIES for all those not in my trusted circle.

[@matthewalexander1943]

This was A+ stuff. This is like that last awesome lecture right before you graduate. All the red pill material out there, all the hours of reading and listening and watching, all the slow acclimatization to the ideas... and then you finish up with this lecture. Awesome, Aaron. And go Bucks!

[@polishpimp4233]

if a woman can provide for herself and basically feels safe by herself why would she settle for boring barry? We all want above average partners if we are honest. WE just aren't all gonna one unless we are willing to share. Polyamory is coming folks whether you like it or not. Great for alpha males and great for average women. Why commit to one woman if you can have 3? Why settle for 100 percent of mediocre as a woman if you can have 33 percent of greatness? It's going to completely tear up what is left of the fabric of our society. I am not aware of 1 nation that has harems as a norm and it aint a third world shit hole.

[@maxhouse2409]

What about polygamy in Utah?

[@polishpimp4233]

@@maxhouse2409 My understanding is they started to clean that up a while back.

[@basedmanlett]

US is a third world dating shit hole

[@tedlogan4867]

"There are never solutions, only trade-offs." ~ Thomas Sowell.

[@vladjones2446]

My favourite move when I was studying so called ‘Game’ and going out dating was when they texted and flaked on me to respond with, ‘Ok I’m going to head out anyway to catch the movie/show/gig, have a couple of drinks, see if anyone else I know wants to meet up instead’. It called their bluff and showed you weren’t sitting at home disappointed. Sometimes I actually was at home disappointed but they were denied any pleasure they might have taken in that and I felt like I’d played a trump card.

[@ryanannis8254]

That's an EXCELLENT play, well done.

[@0000FFz]

Nah they see through that and think you’re a loser. Best to just say “ok” or even nonresponse at all and never talk to her again and less she begs for another chance

[@Captain_Jack711]

Thanks Cappy, needed to hear that today

[@virtuousvoice]

Good Topic, Aaron. I recently managed to get through 4 dates with a woman before she lost interest and went cold on me. It started great when we kissed on date 1 and she was very eagerly texting me afterwards. Date 1 - met at a casual bar, Date 2 - bowling, then she initiates walk by the river where we kissed and cuddled. Date 3 - dinner, more romantic kissing at the end, Date 4 - I take her Salsa dancing at a cool place I'm well familiar with, she goes cold towards the end and tells me she "doesn't feel it". I arranged and paid for the dates, I'm handsome, showed leadership, had her laughing at my fun travel stories and a few flirty games... Who knows where I went wrong?! lol I think a lot of these women are just sampling and have no serious end goal, plus we'd met online - online makes you more disposable. Anyways, it's why I do my best to spin plates and always have multiple options, there's really no other way to go about it with modern women today. And I'm not phased by women who've tried to shame me for spinning plates. Don't hate the player, hate the game. The player did not create the game, modern women have created it.

[@chrisjohnson3967]

You definitely gave it your best shot, friend. Those were a great bunch of dates you took her on. I'm sorry things didn't work out. I hope you had a good time while it lasted. You offered her literally the best experience that someone can offer at this time. Everything sounded pretty organic and natural, she was obviously feeling you, and you showed her a good time. Point is, if that's not enough for her, she'll be miserable for the rest of her life. Also, I would most likely guess that she was emotionally abused by a past bf and is just waiting to go back to him to be abused some more. We're dealing with a little too much of that nowadays. I have a question. Do you think dating at this time is a viable option to spend free time?

[@virtuousvoice]

@@chrisjohnson3967 Funny, she actually had been in a relationship for 3-4 years and was still living in her ex's apartment they used to cohab in. lol, so you may be onto something about her not being over him. Whatever it is, I suspect it's more about her than anything about me. Yes, I did enjoy my time on the dates, discovered a few new places where I can hang out or take future dates to, and I think in that way dating is a productive use of our free time. Otherwise, there are other things I could do with my leisure time that are often more productive than going on a date: gym/weights, reading books, hanging with friends, etc. Balance is the key word.

[@hebanker3372]

The way you described your experience sounds like you were her entertainer,not her date.Also,why in heaven's name did you pay exclusively?You acted like a nice guy and that was the tombstone.Not that she would still be into you if you did otherwise,but at least you could have saved some of your money and,most importantly,time.

[@guccicody3647]

@@hebanker3372 yeah sounds like she was just waiting for him to make a real move lmfaoo

[@hebanker3372]

@@guccicody3647 In this age of tyranny regarding sex crime laws,it's better he didn't do any advances.I only think his dating strategy was costy and time consuming,considering the outcome.

[@visage331]

As one of those sons, I greatly appreciate the help.

[@willcucked5575]

In the summer i cold approched 500 of da girlza. I slept with 3. That wasn't worth it. Lot of girls were thrilled because i got charm but forget me as soon as they open their phones later.

[@kylexlittle]

Same situation. I'm 26 and have cold approached a large amount of women and completely wasted my time lmfao. I have 10x the money and look way better than I did 6 years ago, got sober, etc etc. and was fucking a new girl every week when I was 20 and can't even get a date at 26.

[@themetalchronicles.9557]

“There will always be those who mean to do us harm. To stop them, we risk awakening the same evil within ourselves.”

[@kalmmonke5037]

youtuber called better bachelor and anotehr called "that guy pete you refuse to invite to gatherings" did a video on pair bonding, phermones, etc , it explains why whamen have depression rates so high complaining about no "gud man" but are also not interested in guys close to ideal who wanna commit to them

[@tacituskilgore3314]

"Perhaps you're too damn horny." - Cappy

[@enigmahammer444]

This is probably my favorite video to watch. Recently got in a rough breakup, and I did NOTHING wrong. Definently a good reminder that I shouldn't feel bad about myself, and that it is what it is.

[@0000FFz]

She left you for a man who would wrong her.

[@Steep-fg2sn]

Thanks!

[@theroamingsavage8813]

Very true. I've been on both sides of the scenario. I really wanted a relationship, she didn't. She really wanted a relationship, I didn't. She catches feelings after sex, I didn't. I catch them, she doesn't. Many times 2 ppl are going through vastly different situations in life and are less willing, able, available. It may be you it may be her, but a complete and healthy matching of timing or situation is very difficult. All one can do is accept it and move on. Learn. Grow. Adapt. Stoicism.

[@888ssss]

= mancry

[@grantwithers]

Cappy there's a few things going on there where you could add status symbols in to that mix of things to do before approach, and see wheat waffles guides to looksmaxing and statusmaxing. That's how you're going to get it done.

[@towardsthelight220]

That intro is hilarious 😂

[@juanroman3627]

This literally the "I'm just Ken song" fr fr

[@mackeejack6731]

I’m nearly 6 4, have a 4 pack (working on the last 2), serrated chest, lord Farquaad hair (probably outdated tbh), chiseled jawline, worth well well over 6 figures with no debt (50% in cash and liquid assets), I’m funny (not my assertion), caring and I stay busy. I don’t make 6 figures quite yet but I will soon and I’m 27. I don’t get bitches these days (about 7 months since I’ve gotten some.) Went to punta cana, tried to close but there was a language barrier and I was too passive. Easy to make mistakes. Point is? The tide is turning and you have to be a loser to get girls these days. Or have your entire personality be tattoos. Or have a camera follow you around. Or be exceedingly high value. Or be a murderer degenerate. Bitches like that shieee. I reckon it’ll only get worse, generally speaking, but I’m gonna get better so fuck it. We’ll see how it all stacks up and I’m good with any outcome. Ps: go into computer science and you’ll become rich in 6 months.

[@mike60521x]

Today, a guy in West Virginia was arrested for killing his wife that he married about a month ago - She had 5 children with other men. I cant help but feel that her poor choices in men previous led her to marry this guy

[@edgehodl4832]

link??

[@rullangaar]

She had five kids with other men? What on earth could drive a man to marry a woman with five kids from different fathers?

[@MA-wq2ih]

@@rullangaar Concealing them until the deed was done?

[@maxhouse2409]

She won't be making any more "poor choices", but he has picked up her slack.

[@I.see.too.much.brain.rott.]

Thank you

[@qhew]

you philosophising got me thinking haha. i was very blue pilled (the norm) in the 1960’s as was normal for a 20yo then. but there was hope. (Herman Hermit’s “i feel i’m in for something good”). despite my low self esteem finding a girl & settling down seemed the ultimate answer to all life’s problems, superseding everything else. i believed there was a girl for every boy. to hug a girl i fancied & be enthusiastically reciprocated would make all the fears & anxieties of life go away. this remained a fantasy into my middle age. but i found myself still alone, a bachelor, rarely dating. my introverted nature & preference for my own company contributed. now advance 60 yrs to the 2020’s, enter red pill. what has changed?. i still don’t “get the girls”. red pill hasn’t fixed that at all. now i view women as less feminine, less innocent, more pragmatic & self interested. the basic drive/desire remains (even if only in my mind lol). i feel more cynical about relationships. age & prostate surgery have dampened the passion of youth. fewer women mainly younger attract. generally i find they look better in their photos on dating sites than in real life! i live in a very multicultural suburb & very few i walk past in the street appeal. my preference is for white caucasian like myself. i ask myself, is it better to live one’s life in blue pill fantasy or red pill reality. there are no rules to say you can’t live out your life in a fantasy if it works for you & you are happy.

[@idget5]

Love is fun, but it won't last without maintenance. The "modern" woman has no idea what that means. I've been married and divorced twice and had a child with the second one. both times I thought it would be forever and treated it as such. I am sure that I am guilty of my share, but I also tried. All they did was make life harder on purpose, as if it was their goal. Loneliness sucks, but loneliness while you are with someone is a different level. Women have this ability, like a super power, to take the things you love/ your ambitions/ your dreams/ your insecurities and destroy you on the inside. Be grateful to not have experienced this, it's a rough recovery. At your age the dating scene is nice, not a whole lot of guys to pick from. Just date, don't get any more involved than that, it just isn't worth it. If you keep that in the back of your mind, any insecurity you have should melt away because you know it's just temporary.

[@timothykuring3016]

I don’t think women dislike men, at least any more than men dislike women. There is inevitably some dislike because of the differences between men and women that make understanding difficult. It helps to consider the accounts of the bible, whether you believe in God or not, because it is an ancient account of what the best thinkers observed. Adam and Eve were differently cursed, meaning they faced different challenges. For men, the curse was about their work, and they were cursed because they listened to women. Basically, they were cursed for being cucks, and we can see how men are still cursed for following women’s advice and acting like cucks. Women were cursed by their desire for men, because they could be tempted to do wrong by something beautiful and “good to make one wise”, believing sex with a man they desire will transform their lives like magic. Men aren’t cursed in that way. Men will have sex with almost any woman and they find the experience to be about the same, and not very transformative. Men don’t expect sleeping with a woman will solve all their problems, we just want to enjoy it, then get back to work. Women live in a social world of extreme sexual competition. It’s nothing like a man’s experience. If you gather a hundred men and a hundred women, most men will think: “Oh my gosh, look at all the pretty women.” Most women will think: “Damn, there’s only one good looking man in the room.” Even after a woman captures the attention of the one man, the other women will be eaten up with jealousy and determined to get the man away from the man they all want. They will continue to ignore the other 99 men as the drama and cat fights begin, and they become as obsessed with the dramas of their competition as they almost are about the man. Their interest in the man takes a back seat to their competitions over him. This is expressed in mythology in the story of the world’s first rock star, and the women driven so mad with desire that they tore him to pieces. Keith Richards describes the horror of it. He and the Stones were trying to sneak out of a concert in an alley when they were attacked by a mob of insane women, and he thought he was going to die right then. They barely got away after being mauled. None of those girls had any reasonable chance of having any kind of relationship with those guys, and most of them probably would have hated it if they did. Their desire was completely delusional. Women often find themselves married to a man they wanted very badly, because other women wanted him, only to find that they don’t even like him. Happily married women, of which there are some, do like the man they married. Lots of women marry a man because everyone they know says they ought to marry and they seem like a good couple. I doubt any men marry because everyone else says they ought to marry this or that girl. Again. It is a delusional sort of desire. Then, they find they are married to a man they hate. It isn’t that they hate men as such, but they are driven by delusional desires to have what other women want, to have what other women seem to have, to please friends and family, or just to not be alone. As my mother told me, lots of women date men they don’t even like just because they don’t want to be the only woman they know who doesn’t have a boyfriend. Contrary to what feminists foolishly boast. Women need men, but men don’t need women. In a predominantly capitalist society, where need puts you at a disadvantage and ends up with you having to pay the highest price, women don’t want to admit their enormous disadvantage. They fear men would make them pay more for the relationship, and they want men to do all the paying. So they bluff and fake, and then they go back to their rooms and cry. Maybe they even cut themselves because their bluffing and faking made them suppress their feelings until they forget how to feel anything. If women begged men for relationships, they would probably find they had more choices and they were happier. Honestly acknowledging your need goes a long way toward feeling better. Have you ever had a woman knocking at your door, begging you to please, please go out with her and not taking no for an answer? They are pretty hard to refuse. I’ve never seen a woman do that, but a teenage girl. I wished I could find a woman who would act like that. The bible uses the exact same term to describe a woman’s desire for a man as a demon’s desire for your soul - unusual terms that aren’t used anywhere else, even n the bible. It is like the desire is so extreme and unnatural that is actually demonic soul possession. This is like a woman who wants you to change your politics or drop your friends and your favorite hobby to be with her. I think they do this because they sense that your interest in them isn’t as intense as their interest in you. A man still has to work. He can’t be obsessed with even his wife. Her attention is all directed inward at her feelings, her life, her home, and her children, but a man’s attention has to be always directed outward at the world and his work. He can’t focus as obsessively on “the relationship” as she does by her very nature. Again, that makes her feel like he has the advantage in the relationship. He can’t need her as much as she needs him. He needs to master his world and do his work as well. Women don’t spend a lot of time thinking about what men need, how they need friendships with other men and involvement with their work, and at least enough involvement with politics as necessary to keep the government from taxing them to death or drafting them. Men need to have their hands on the world more intensely than women do. By failing to make those distinctions between men and women and failing to acknowledge how badly women need men, or even how badly men need to work for their sense of worth and their control over their homes, feminism and society have destroyed the balance between men and women. It causes women to fall face first into their delusional desires, forgetting their needs, and forgetting that the main thing they need men for is to do their work in the world. Instead, women invaded the workplace and destroyed it, preventing men from being able to find jobs and work. The HR departments made women who particularly hate masculine men the gatekeepers of the workplace. I’ve seen it, and it always disgusted me, even as a couldn’t get jobs. I mean girls and women usually hated me on sight and even more when I spoke, because I would comment on women who messed around with men before marriage as disgraceful, shameful, immoral, ruined, etc. I would say outright, in mixed company, that no man should marry any woman who had been touched by another man. I can’t even exaggerate the raving hatred and violence of whole rooms full of women. It frightened even the strongest and bravest men. They had never imagined how violent and wrathful women could be, but I was used to it. This was during the height of the sexual revolution, before Aids, and in the eighties - the Baby Boomer girls. They would spit their hatred at me and curse at me that I sounded like their fathers. So they had been told and they knew how they should relate to men. Their fathers were veterans of World War Two, who had suffered The Great Depression when they were youths. No one in my generation dared speak against feminism and I knew it would go hard for me, but I knew what I wanted. For one thing I wanted a loving woman who hadn’t been touched by another man, so if I didn’t say it, I surely wouldn’t find it. You have to at least be able to speak what you want or you don’t deserve it. But after fighting with feminists, I knew I also wanted a woman with the guts to back me up, stand by my side, and burn down feminists with shame. A woman could pour fire and shame on their heads much more effectively than I could. They tended to disregard anything a man said just because he was a man. It may be that they won’t listen to Cappy’s advice for the same reason. I figured as a teenager that I would most likely end up alone, but I was fine with it. I wouldn’t be cucked by women like that. I even knew that lots of men, who witnessed the arguments, agreed with me, and wanted the same things I wanted, but they were very afraid to say it. They even put it this way, when I asked why they didn’t speak up: “I want to live.”

[@jjstile]

Great comment!

[@andrewpizzino2514]

Never understood why ppl have been so fearful of feminists unless they ignore them like the way you ignore the screaming homeless guy. Otherwise you’d think they would tell them to go F off like the way Americans tell other tyrants to go F off. Guess that type of American is becoming a thing of the past

[@timothykuring3016]

part two Men had been turned into women. Their desire for sex was greater than anything else and it made them slaves of women. I was always free in my mind and in my speech. Even among strangers, even if I didn’t say anything, women feared me like nothing you have ever seen. It was as if they could sense that I didn’t roll over for women at all and I had faced their wrath and thrown it back in their faces. I could be quietly and effortlessly extremely masculine, and I observed that it was masculinity that women had learned to fear and hate. I walked around town with my niece one day, and she observed that women were afraid of me, absolutely terrified of me. I’m a quiet and polite man, and I have never hurt or abused a woman, but she said she too would be afraid of me if she didn’t know me. I had known women to talk about that before. One woman I had known a little was dating a friend and she was amazed to discover that I was a nice guy. (More like a gentleman really.) I wondered what she was talking about and she explained it this way - she was afraid to even speak in my presence because she thought I would think she was stupid. I was the top student by a longshot in most of my classes, and I debated everybody including professors, and won the debates, when they weren’t shut down by violence or embarrassed professors. When there was violence, I always won the fights too. My mother bitched once that women hated, hated, hated men like me. She said it was because I was invulnerable, whatever that meant. But I believe women have been conditioned to hate masculinity. That’s why they usually combine it with the word toxic. All masculinity has become toxic masculinity. I think it only looks that way when women attempt to argue with it - or worse, when women try to act masculine in a clueless and delusional way. The female impersonation of masculinity is toxic. As to the topic of stoicism in dating, I think it is important to know what you want. I usually dismissed most women right away because I didn't like the way they responded to me, or the way they looked at me, or the way they spoke to me. I mentioned that I also wanted a woman smart and strong enough to put feminists under the heel of her foot. I wanted to see her make them cry., or I knew I wouldn't trust her. Such women are rare at best. The only women who liked me were the baddest of the bad girls, and a teenage movie star, and an actual princess. But they didn't love me enough to marry me. I didn't mind. Most people didn't even like me. I could appreciate anyone who liked me. It's simple and natural isn't it. No one had to love me. If I had to desire it or expect it, or even work for it, it wasn't the kind of love I wanted. I never got angry at women as so many men did, because I was being myself, speaking my mind, and doing my best. My type of woman simply wasn't there to be found, but I'm a sort of Christian and sort of immortal. This life is short and you lose everything in the end anyway. I told women what I wanted, but I sincerely didn't want them if they didn't care what I wanted. Once, I found a woman who was close to what I wanted and I tried to cultivate her into a better woman, but it didn't work and it actually made her hate my guts more than any woman ever had. There is the myth of Apollo, a perfect man of a god, who couldn't get laid because he told a woman to change her hair. I actually did things like that. Urging women in college to put more thought into how they would raise their children, telling them to wear dresses, or at least skirts and blouses. Telling a woman who had cut her hair and was garnering compliments all around that she had made a mistake. I was more than women could deal with. Florence King, who was an excellent conservative writer in the national Review, now long dead, explained the phenomena from a woman's point of view in a way that most women can't and never will, because it is a source of deep shame for them that makes them crazy. She was also a lesbian, so she had a different perspective on the behavioral characteristics of women. And she was an enthusiastic historian, well worth reading. She explained the dilemma like this. When she was young, and still heterosexual, she knew a man who she said was absolutely the finest of men. A man who could have stood in the company of the greatest men in history. Very impressive. Fearless, gentle, kind, loving, honorable, intelligent, and noble in character, but she couldn't love him because she didn't find him attractive. The longer she knew him and saw his mastery over things and people, the more she hated herself because he simply wasn't attractive to her. It made her feel like a rat and a fool and way too superficial for such an intelligent woman. She pursued a wild, Bohemian (at the time in the fifties) sexually liberated life, and she was sleeping with a troll in the boarding room next to hers. Not an impressive man, and certainly not a man she would have married, but attractive enough to screw, and convenient. Things are going on that women don't consciously know when it comes to attractiveness. For them, it isn't a question of absolute attractiveness on a single scale. Some women say they are attracted to a man's hands. It's a genetic component that women select for. W woman who finds hands attractive may be from an ancestral line that includes generations of craftsmen who worked very well with their hands. And there is the smell of a man that is almost completely subconscious to a woman. If her genes are a compatible match to his, he will smell good to her. If they aren't a match, he will smell bad, and women are very sensitive about that smell because it would be disastrous for her children if she misjudges or ignores the issue of smell. This is an issue quite apart from how handsome or fit a man is. A double blind study showed that women were repelled by the most handsome men when they didn't like their smell, and women would like the smell of the plainest men, whose photographs they had ignored. But every woman was different, because they had different genes, and it was really the genes doing the selecting. The problem for women these days, especially sexually active women, is that "the pill" messes with their sense of smell. They lose their genetic judgement. (Maybe that's on purpose, if you know what I mean.) Women would marry a handsome man, go off the pill, and find their husband repulsive because of how bad they smelled to them. Like sleeping with a rotting corpse. I don't think there was a warning on the drug labels that the pill would cause women to lose their judgement. But that's what it does to them. You have to pity them when they don't know how much they screw themselves up. Somebody wasn't looking after their best interests. Certainly not feminists. My niece once said of her feckless baby's father that he had exactly the kind of body she was looking for. He wasn't particularly handsome or impressive in any way. Shaggy on Scooby Doo would be the best description. But she was outright speaking about what women are doing regarding men: designing their children. And there is no perfect icon or image of a man. It is physically, intellectually, and spiritually different for every woman, and often largely subconscious. They may not even know why they find a man handsome. There really isn't anything you can do about it, so you be a decent man, do your work, and hope you get lucky. As Florence King was warning, trying to make a woman like you better could make her hate you if she has already decided that you don't have the right kind of body, the right race, the right smell, or the right kind of hands, or an ear for music. Even Apollo couldn't make a woman like him. It is a sort of fate all men suffer from the plainest to the most handsome. It only seems to be better for handsome men in the free for all atmosphere of an orgy, because women behave like idiots, and their focus is short term hookups, and they can't smell when they are on the pill. Before the pill, handsome men had about the same amount of trouble as most men getting laid, and they faced the dangers of violence from fathers, brothers, and uncles. This era has been an historical glitch. And a very destructive one.

[@timothykuring3016]

You almost have to accept the romantic idea of fate, but you don't talk about it that way, and I would be very skeptical of a woman who talked about fate. But as far as the world is concerned, you reject fate because you are supposed to put your hands on the world and tame it. You can't really expect to do that with a woman because biology is a force of its own, and it is more about your children than about you or your woman. You can't change your genetics with the power of your will.

[@jjstile]

You good sir are a deep thinker to find in the youtube comment section. What you write resonates within me.

[@keylanoslokj1806]

Conditioned to hate masculinity. Exactly

[@edenbreckhouse]

Have realistic expectations. Accept that you're unlikely to find a lovely woman who'd accept you. I have.

[@benstone9755]

It’s been over 10 years, get crappy to 100k FFS!

[@tedlogan4867]

Aim at being better, and if that's not good enough, then likely, that person is not qualified to be with you. It is no loss, it is addition by subtraction.

[@FirstnameLastname-wh6ve]

Today 3 years after I dumped my cheating wife, I made my first online dating profile ever. Thanks for this!

[@ModMax69]

glad to hear you got out of that situation. make sure you don't get into that situation again or you deserve it. I've fallen back into the trap more than once

[@brianwaller7383]

Waste of time unless you’re at least a 7.

[@impudentdomain]

When you have done all you can, then just sit back, what happens happens.

[@stevec3526]

To me to many American women had personality disorders. That’s why I married a foreign national. I know 10-15 guys who did the same.

[@dr.vonslifeinvesting6485]

When I look back my first was definitely bpd, my second I married was narcissistic played the bait and switch. My third was quiet bpd, at least she didn’t yell or go outwardly crazy on me. Was involved with at least three other women in my lifetime who are lesbians now.

[@Whitetiger187]

Most women I have met were just bullets to be dodged. The stats are that bad.

[@joaoportugal8618]

@@dr.vonslifeinvesting6485 😂

[@StarkIndustries80]

@@Whitetiger187 comment of the week. Well done sir. 👏 👏 👏

[@joydavis1670]

Ohhh... I love me some good Cary Grant ❤️

[@joeshugabowski1444]

Does lifting in the shower still works?

[@armchaireconomist8648]

Gentlemen if you want to be happy marry yourself a traditional foreign born girl who knows how to be a lady.

[@jonmueller2117]

Sounds good .... until she discovers that she can take half your money because she's feels unhappy.

[@whiterabit09]

And... STAY in her country so you don't get D-raped.

[@armchaireconomist8648]

@@jonmueller2117 when you marry a woman of charecter, you don't need to worry about what country you live in.

[@armchaireconomist8648]

@@whiterabit09 when you marry a woman of charecter, you don't need to worry about what country you live in.

[@JB-qt3wo]

This works until she learns english and learns how to drive 😂 I used to work with w filipina mail order bride. Had the opportunity to bang her but I couldn’t do it to the poor guy. I’d see him pick her up from work bc she didn’t have a drivers license. Hate to tell ya, but women are the same everywhere man…it’s just that overseas we have a little more leverage financially…but get involved with the wrong people in a foreign country and it may make you yearn for American broads.

[@loveincorporated9658]

Yeah a lot of women just aren't that interested.

[@brianwaller7383]

Because unless you’re a chad you’re just a temporary place holder until chad comes around.

[@peterliggett8829]

In countries were there is a heavy culture of family, show up with enough money and reasonably good looks, your chances will increase.dramatically.Stay.away from large cities.

[@ameliaannhouck2670]

I find it interesting that his mother called you not that great fantastic son of hers! lamo! mama called for him, could that be the panies problems?

[@collinbuckley3356]

Women wants the best pokemon trainer they can find if all you have is 1 gym badge or only a low level pokemon team dont expect a date

[@karimlazaar9080]

All the RP content creators genuinely looking for men's interests are left with no choice but to adhere to the BP and no, I'm not talking about Cappy here

[@liaisonguy]

Uh Oh. cappy advocating for MGTOW monk mode. Already there, brothers. If a woman ever expresses interest, I'll make some effort, otherwise, ignore them.

[@ginrummy3996]

Look before control birth pills and after.. women did not always want men. Usually things happens when you don't want or expect it. If you really want it you'll get what you deserve, therfore striving for it.

[@basedmanlett]

Short Man, don't beat yourself over women. They are free pr05#itutes for 6' tall guys. Let them have her.

[@peterliggett8829]

How about trying a non western country Third world,extremely culturally conservative, possibly learn a second language.Basically ditch western culture as far as women go.

[@ms-vv2gg]

Don’t take women seriously.

[@antonionotbanderas9775]

If only it was as easy to banish hunger by rubbing the belly as it is to masturbate. - Diogenes

[@JB-qt3wo]

Lmao good one