Dating the Pastor's Son

[@gayolyguy]

Im 65yo..still your story invokes memory of my teen years ..raised Mormon and denying my sexual orientation..Did the Mormon Mission, Married, Father of 4 Children..after 18 years faced the demon...Came Out..Divorced..Excommunicated..Met..Dated and Married my now husband of 26 years...Thank You for sharing!!!

[@isabelg.2450]

Jim Yatman good for you

[@isabelg.2450]

Jim Yatman

[@rhettmitchell]

Jim Yatman omg that's amazing

[@Roberto72566]

Wow. Somewhat similar story. Had 4 kids also. Except not in a relationship. Not too hopeful either.

[@WebscapesInteractive]

Wow I am not the only one raised as Mormon! Thanks for sharing :)

[@wesleybiggs7530]

I hate making comments. But I had the similar story. I was the pastor's son. Tried the "pray the gay away" camp for 6 full months. Had a lot of negative, hateful, and hurtful things happen to me from my parents. But if your parents truly love you it will get better. It may have taken forever, and I was married for 2 years before my parents were willing to meet my husband. They are in no way accepting of the gay part of me right now but they don't isolate me. We all know where the other party stands on homosexuality and moved on. They realized that it was learn to deal with or not have me in their life. So things do get better with age.

[@burnt.norton]

idk but i like your profile pic

[@JackChurchill712]

We all have a "real" closet story. I dated a guy for 6 weeks. Once at his place, he panics after someone shows up - turned out it was his wife back early from a work trip. I had no idea he was married. He went to a lot of trouble in his house - there were no photos or signs that a woman lived there. Needless to say, that was the last time I say him - did not stop him from calling and texting me though. Odd thing - he passed away from cancer a few years back, and I decided to go the funeral. I had thought I could just say I was an old friend and be in and out, but his wife stopped me. Seems he actually came out to her at some point and they decided to stay married because " it helped their careers" to be a couple. She said she knew who I was and that her husband always talked about me as that "one that got away"

[@gn00623542]

powerful stuff

[@emile6913]

"I wanna just Cersei Lannister those bitches" hahaha love it.

[@kingtoyab69]

My jaw DROPPED when I read that title.. Oh this is going to be good (gets popcorn ready)

[@tylersantos3124]

kingtoyab69 same

[@riellymorton]

where's the gif of Michael Jackson eating popcorn when you need it?

[@sirvivepheonix3147]

LOL same

[@ALightInTheForest]

I'm literally eating popcorn as I listen to this! lol

[@samriwelkeish7981]

kingtoyab69 I hate popcorns smell

[@aval964]

I wonder when gay relationships will be fully accepted by society. Sad that people still have to go through this ....

[@3506Dodge]

I think he's from Arkansas, so this isn't something that's common in the Northeast or West Coast.

[@spellboundprince9748]

The sad truth is that homosexuality will never be fully accepted because it just isn't possible for everyone on the earth to agree on any one point.

[@derjalenrock]

Not until 2050 in the latest, and that’s just when people will be totally comfortable with other gay people

[@ericlasterstar2]

Eva M when the last generation is completely gone

[@toastyegg391]

When all the boomers die

[@JDIMAS2008]

HE SAID "3 HOURS"!!!!! LOL NO MAM

[@garyg6000]

"He'd come over and hang out. We'd play video games, watch TV, and OTHER STUFF." :)

[@spadrine]

Wow, this is like forbidden love which is so exciting at that age. I too dated a pastor's son and we went thru similar trials, complete with sneaking around at odd hours, etc. The only difference is that he was of legal age and I was around 17. Even tried the 'praying the gay away' thing. Religion is a cruel institution filled with ignorant hypocrites.

[@gabriellucas5494]

Paul Tacoma Im bisexual and I love Christ so I definitely disagree

[@xhelixshotx]

They all follow that old-as-fuck homophobic statement from the Old Fucking Testament, meanwhile they ignore everything else in it. OT also tells you not to wear polyester yet no one is polyesterphobic.

[@rosierose7059]

MashupGuy exactly, they’ll be wearing polyester, eating shrimp, doing stuff on the sabbath, cutting their hair, letting women speak... oh, but this one issue of love 😬

[@samriwelkeish7981]

Paul Tacoma My mom thinks atheists are devil believes. I try to explain to her but she just yells at me that I am always right.

[@williamm8240]

So what happened to Tom? Where is he now? What is his life like now? Do not leave us hanging?

[@brunoir283]

i want to know as well!

[@jonathancarswell7209]

Alina Chohte FFS 😂

[@jsal7666]

he became an olympic diver

[@proteus5919]

I’m dating Tom😂

[@Samuel-kk3qr]

Yh

[@rickhays]

Andrew, thank you so much for sharing the Pastor's Son story! Its a reminder that though we've made great strides forward as a community, there remain pockets of hatred and fear. The best we can do is be good role models for younger generations of LBGTQ people and for other people willing to learn about groups different from themselves. You are an excellent role model!!

[@Teddyperelli]

I can't handle the Game of Thrones references... omg 😂

[@miscas_]

Same

[@collinluthman1979]

"He put me back into the closet..." 😂😂 ROFL

[@jeffreyhsu2256]

Most sincere and breath taking story I've ever heard. Thank you so much for sharing. Been sitting on the end of the chair for the whole time.

[@Codymeister99]

I feel bad for you high school boyfriend. If any of you viewers are under 18 and thinking of coming out to their parents I'd recommend you wait if you have any doubts about their reaction. Especially if you go to a conservative church. Sadly many of these parents fail at their most important duty. Loving their kids unconditionally. In some cases with super religious conservative parents it best to just come out by default. Once you on your own live openly. If you parents visit and you have a boyfriend then introduce him, bring him home for holidays etc. After a few years they will get the picture and very likely not confront you. That's what we did with my husbands conservative Catholic Dad. Not having the "big talk" avoided a messy moral confrontation and to this day (We celebrate 37 years this December) I have a great relationship with him. He obviously knows we're gay (We did invite him to our wedding, he declined) but we just don't discuss it. I'd add that my tough guy WWII Marine Dad was awesome. He loved my husband Brian and treated him like a son-in-law. Sadly he did not live long enough to see us get married, but he would have been thrilled.

[@rogeliogonzalezjr7066]

Oh my god. I dated this guy who's parents are super strict as well and they were super religious. Sadly he became super religious and a jerk and I pretty much decided not to see him anymore and he threatened to out me! It was ridiculous and here I was back in high school very scared. But in all honesty if any of you are feeling scared, we all have been there, just don't make any decisions you're going to regret. I'm happy now, still single, but happy that I can be myself enjoying the California life. Do not let anyone choose your path in life, only you can :)

[@gregz3156]

My heart was racing while you were talking. Having gone to bible college in the south, I can relate to that feeling of excitement, danger and get-away. It happens more than people realize within the church community. So much is not spoken of...

[@okimlistening2u]

Andrew, you think you are 'so pissed' about religious-nuts who ruin the lives of young non-str8 people, you should check my blood pressure! As a counselor, I have to deal with these parents every single day. This sort of prejudice, hate, and bigotry is conceived in fear and nourished by ignorance. Thanks, man, for this video.............Ray

[@stevebuck1737]

Andrew I'm "new" to your channel but that story unfortunately 4 years later still happens. Your so much an inspiration and glad you share your advise and council in a world that needs love ❤

[@nutritionmyway2749]

Great story! Growing up the son of a minister I can relate to the other guys story. My parents where never that bad but their religion and the church made coming out a long challenging process. Thanks for sharing. Peace and Love ✌❤

[@jblack6572]

So whatever happened to the pastor son? He fully come out and OK now?

[@crimsonbear22]

Sounds like my coming out. My parents found out I was talking to this boy in high school, had the pastor there in the house and everything telling me I wasn't gay. Mom threatened all my supportive friends with a lawyer haha. Good news though, they eventually they came around. Now I have a husband and things couldn't be more normal. Just takes time.

[@crjetpilot]

I got kicked out of church many years ago. I hadn’t even done anything. I just answered yes when the pastor asked me if I was gay. My parents never came around (it’s been 30+ years now since I officially came out to them), and they’ve never even met my partner of 16 yrs (and never will). Life goes on, and unfortunately without them, but they had a choice. I didn’t.

[@smokey1255]

I remember dropping by my folks place one day and Mom was very upset. In tears. What upset her so much was that she just found out some parents kick gay kids out of their lives. She and Dad were always supportive of my gay brother and I and our husbands. We were very fortunate.

[@joshuamiller-le753]

Im very fortunate to have a very gay friendly church and family. It breaks my heart to hear about intolerance in a church.

[@faerie_fool]

I'm so lucky to have such an open minded church and pastor. Wow. I knew there were horrible people out there, but I've been so lucky.

[@OfficialPrettyLittleLiars]

Do you know how he's doing now days ?

[@Nora-sw6uh]

I want to know the same ;( I hope he mentally survived in this demon's familly ;(

[@dylanfaulkner5886]

I’m okay these days

[@DrakeDraco2000]

It's honestly quite sad, and frustrating. I was raised Protestant (not in a pastoral family thankfully), and grew up listening to my dad's jokes about how any pervert found on the news "must be transgender," and my mother's rants about how there's nothing wrong with gay people "as long as they don't act on it." ... I don't plan to come out to them as long as I live under their roof. It always baffled me how both of my parents could have scientific backgrounds yet style a worldview out of hate towards people they don't know or even understand, purely because they read something about it in a book -- especially when my mother used to pride herself on correcting the condemnations of witchcraft to actually banning poisoners. I'm not religious anymore, but I can understand the role of religion as being a means to hone one's moral compass in an effort to keep society stable. If your beliefs add value to your life, reward you for being charitable and forgiving, and remind you not to kill, harm, rape, cheat, or steal from anyone, then all power to you -- regardless of whether your altar has prayer beads, icons, crystals, etc. But if you throw any of that out the window to focus on telling *other* people they're going to Hell to validate *your* religious practices, even when they're not hurting anyone? Then you've missed the point, and you're responsible for any harm they do to themselves because of your words or actions. Bigots will be bigots with or without religion as a backing. Religion can embolden them, sure, but that's only because their twisted worldview warps it into a hateful message.

[@juliendark4208]

I went through a similar experience when my parents found out I was gay from reading my journal. One of the worst experiences of my life. Religion can be so awful at times.

[@matthewmorris4797]

my father is a pastor, Im 20and I have never tell someone that I am gay :(

[@travisdejong2354]

matthew Morris If they don't accept you, you don't need them. It's really difficult to have confidence when you are in the closet but once you assert your sexuality you get a major confidence boost. Growing up and becoming and independent adult also helps.

[@JG-cs9ig]

As you get older you meet lots of new people. Lots will be accepting and lots won't. It's the sad truth in being part of the LGBT community. We stand together as a group and as an accepting community but homophobes and bigots are always on our asses tailing us saying how homosexuality is a sin

[@JG-cs9ig]

matthew Morris don't worry man. You will find someone who will love you unconditionally and lots of friends who are the most accepting people you'll ever meet in your life

[@archraskal]

Matthew Morris Well, if have a girlfriend cheat on her with a real studly guy. Don't hold back.

[@ternitamas]

run away! unless you know he's an exception and open minded which I doubt...

[@joelbing5244]

I want to know what ever happened to that guy? Is he married to a woman and have kids or is he living the gay dream in some big city?

[@charliefunboy5210]

Great video! Please give us an update on "tom". I hope he turned out okay and his parents didn't screw him up for life.

[@Lupin788]

Andrew, I don't think I've ever seen you so angry and pissed off. Such passion! Do you know what ever happened to your friend? Did he manage to escape those horrible parents?

[@michaelsteward5395]

I love how your videos are so real and personal. No showing off with expensive stuff or doing stuff that regular people can't do. The game of thrones quotes were lost on me as I've never seen it. But other hen that loved it! Andrew, have you ever heard from said pastors son like since? Presuming he's escaped the madness?

[@mapae419]

😂 you're so funny and cute. I always enjoy your story time videos. I hope he is doing well and I hope he found himself and his happy. And I hope you're doing well and that you're happy.

[@jwm34056]

Andrew, I only occasionally respond to videos but always enjoy yours. Of the eight to ten individuals I follow, without question I enjoy yours the most. You have such class and so well spoken. Having followed you for so long I feel I personally know you. Keep the videos coming. Have a great weekend. John

[@MichaelDJ68]

Lot's of people here asking what happened to the Pastor's son. We clearly need a follow-up​ video!

[@jamesalexander4089]

"Other stuff" I died. 😂

[@mikef8846]

I usually can't stand Andrew's lame videos, but this one was actually pretty good. I was interested in the story. Thanks for sharing, Andrew!

[@rbfunzone108]

This brings back memories. I spent a large portion of my youth involved with "the church". I honestly don't think they have any idea of just how much they damage people.

[@timcoxford9206]

Fuck this is really sad, I feel terrible for this kid. I hope he's alright now ☹️

[@ANTDOGG22201]

I can tell you really cared about him and he really cared about you, i am really sorry you had to go through that but this story can help millions of people thank you for sharing bro...

[@StephanieReplacement]

*Pastor's...I love you bestie #kipssips

[@victorcabezas5854]

hey it's the deep voiced lesbian

[@mikeypastrana722]

You're a grammar nazi too like me. We should have rallies.

[@stevenocampo805]

Dillon Kenneth Hogan Steven love you to

[@michaelearendil6843]

Andrew, did the pastor's son ever escape the toxic rule of his parents? I worry for his well being. But thanks for the story.

[@rhettmitchell]

LoveeeBlanc I'm pretty sure it's an inside joke

[@NolanPewe]

I love when you do story time! Something about how you tell a story really captivated me and makes me feel something different every time. I relate to you and so many of the things that come up in your stories. Keep making awesome content man! Ps, you’re really cute.

[@PietyRules]

What ever happened to this poor kid?

[@rafaelt1960]

"We were high-school sweethearts, thats what you do..." 😂 I can't! This is everything but normal. A completely traumatic and sick story about parents being and doing the absolute worst! I'm so sorry for you two and for everyone who ever experienced something like this. I get so angry when I hear stories like that 😭

[@joeygeier]

How is "Tom" doing now?

[@Stephenrsm7600]

Andrew, I just LOVE your "story time" videos!!!! Thank you for sharing your life with us!!!

[@ethan-mylifestartsnowgo5598]

Crazy ass story. That poor guy. Do you know what's up with him now? Love you story time videos. I always get something positive from your videos.

[@jaredlendway5267]

Coming from, not necessarily a pastors kid, but none the less a Christian household who's entire family (surprisingly not my dad) was part of the church, the time and effort you put into that relationship must have meant the world to your boyfriend. I ended being kicked out of my house as a result of my relationship and the effort and love my current boyfriend puts into not only my physical needs (seeing as I practically live with him now) and my emotional needs means the world to me. So, coming from a guy who lived that life, thank you for your patience, love, and honestly kindness, it's not easy living a life with parents like that, but guys like you make it worthwhile.

[@ricardolopez9371]

So do you know what happened to that guy? Have you had any contact with him as adults? I wonder if he married a woman!

[@NormRulesMinecraft]

I love these stories so much! Listening to Andrew talk is so therapeutic. 😌

[@philliparellano1405]

Andrew, I have a fanatic cousin that is very religious. When she found out I was gay she bad mouth me to other family members. I don't really care cause I was not raised with her. Her loss. Even family members turn their back on us. We will find love and acceptance in other people. Many time friends become your family. Hope this comment helps someone reading it :)

[@KCGeno]

That's what I often tell younger LGBTQ+ people ... Once we reach 18, if necessary we get to pick who make up our families. It has nothing to do with our DNA. Value yourself. Spend time with those who value you.

[@charleslayna791]

You cracked me up with that Game of Thrones comment. Too funny

[@craymccray954]

What ever happen to your ex boyfriend?

[@yeskonamiboy]

Point

[@williamhwl]

Thank you for another awesome story time video. Arbor is so cute♥

[@calebzeller4290]

Damn, from all these stories you tell, you've been between more thighs than a dinner napkin.

[@kojeb]

Caleb Zeller I’ve been between as many thighs as a Cathedral

[@daneroberts1996]

Remembering THAT analogy

[@A1441]

I have bedded at least 400 guys. Does that make me a slut?

[@ThomasLarsonpierce2013]

My dad is a Baptist minister and this is the exact reason i didn't come out until college

[@omercarmi280]

Wow thats is a crazy story! there needs to be a film/short film about it

[@Hyperverse]

Your stories are half the reason that I love you

[@andyy.mp4]

omg wait,,, so like what happened later tho?? have you talked to him since? i need more!

[@calvinnwoohoo]

HAHA this video was hilarious and to top it off the GoT references 😂

[@tundratomo]

i love arbor, and his owner of course, hahahaha

[@travisdejong2354]

tundratomo Arbor is a lady.

[@pequemarlon]

even getting all mad and crazy telling the story... you are THE CUTEST!!!

[@dcdortho]

Andrew, you are an amazing and beautiful young man!

[@leonardodavinci3772]

Just recently discovered your channel! Funny enough through Tom Daley, glad you guys collab. Thanks for sharing this story, it's so sad...

[@hcs_hotsauce]

Wait, Andrew!! Please tell me the pastor's kid moved away from that toxic environment and is somewhere safe, I need to know!!!

[@coolcraker123]

But seriously I think these kinds of videos are really important for guys still living at home. It lets them know there's a bigger and more colourful world out there

[@KauaiRod]

Cool story.... but wait what happen to Tom Daley. Did he finally come out. Or did he marry a girl just to satisfy his parents

[@seanhanlon6150]

I love your story time videos, Andrew. This one was absolutely fascinating. It's infuriating, however, that there are people like your friend's parents and that they react the way they do. At any rate, you've got a great channel and I look forward to seeing more of your videos.

[@FilipeLimaGonclvs]

Wait what about the guy you dated? Never talked to him anymore? Do you know how he is now?

[@gaygreen7658]

Love the Game of Thrones references! And I am dealing with those parents... it is rough

[@whatsabiondi]

I think that you're getting more natural/comfortable with the camera.

[@jamiehewitt9586]

this is your most comfortable video yet. You seem so open in this video.

[@tombrooks5933]

so did you ever see this guy again? what is he doing now?

[@jacobhernandez5103]

This was such an interesting story (: we love these, thanks for making them.

[@boyinbed]

I'm interested to know what happened to the paster's son in the end? Have you heard about him now? Lol just wondering if he's been disowned by paster 👊

[@paulandrews298]

Like the best story time ever!!! And it took you two years to tell it?! What a crazy story!

[@JimaniGraphics]

I totally get what you're saying my own family has very mixed views on sexuality and our Christian faith but thank God there are a lot more about grace and mercy and the love of Christ then other "Christian" families..... see I had a really good friend we became friends through a Christian discipleship program designed to use faith in biblical teaching to help people overcome different struggles in their lives which I know it sounds kind of religious dogma but trust me it was really good especially if you're a person of faith already.... we met there and became very good friends and ever since then we've been in contact for a long time we both went through a lot of spiritual and emotional breakthroughs in the program and without found out that we were molested as children we both discovered that we both had feelings for both guys and girls but he was more about Girls but at the time I was just about being pure not trying to have sex with guys or girls and I was thinking that I can choose who I like but later on I found out that God made me bisexual and you love me just like he loved everybody else.... that's a whole Nother story.... I always supported him and his walk of faith but he always had problems with relapsing back in the hard-core drugs I was always praying for him and giving him encouragement telling him he can overcome it through help and through Christ.... after the rehab that we met at either really relapsed and living on the streets his mom contacted me about that she knew I was a close and dear friend and a person of faith so then I try to get a hold of him and both with my encouragement and his parents my friend went back to rehab.... and then he got out and he was doing really good and actually our friendship started to get closer and closer we always had a close friendship like brothers what it started turn into something more I could definitely feel we were connected in that way but we both told each other we wouldn't because we might mess up our friendship and he had really mixed feelings about sexuality in general.... but definitely more and more our bro-mance was turning into something more he relapsed again kind of bad I was trying to encourage him to just get up and get right back on the horse through faith and encouragement and all of a sudden out of the blue his mom message me and said my friend was in rehab and he relapsed really bad and he's not doing good and my friend's mom said that she believes I'm not a good influence on her son that I am going to Hell if I don't repent about my sexuality and I should "get the hell away" from her son..... it felt like I got shot right in the heart I was so emotionally hurt for almost 2 weeks afterwards even to this day I'm thinking about it but yeah there are just some people that are more about religion then faith more about what they can do to earn salvation then the The grace and mercy of the true gift of salvation that Jesus Christ gives to ALL how believes

[@jorgemendez4082]

The Sept of Baylor comment was the best!! I died!!! hahahaha!

[@spencerjace9913]

this would be my story if I came out...its not that they are just terrible people they dont understand gay people. they have such conviction over this subject that they bar themselves from any type of understanding. I dread the day my parents find out um gay it scares the crap out of me...

[@beachesboy1994]

You're in a tough spot. I truly hope you come out OK.

[@stephenleyden9559]

Hey Spencer, you should look how the Mormons are dealing with their gay kids. They have really turned the corner. They have a 'Mormon and gay' page on their website and have some excellent videos - highly recommend them. It might help.

[@beachesboy1994]

Stephen Leyden: Wow! That's something!

[@XyPunk77]

My first “serious” relationship was with a pastor’s son. It was alright. We lived together for a bit. His parents knew about us.

[@beachesboy1994]

Thanks for a very moving story. I'm put off by the negative comments below. As if a 17 year-old has the maturity to decide about the girlfriend. What an awful home he grew up in. I wonder how he is. You do inspire me. And I love GOT. Did you watch Sense8? Alas, it's been cancelled. Just like KyleXY. WAH!

[@marcuspainter4885]

beachesboy1994 there will be a 2 hour final episode to conclude everything so that's something🙂

[@beachesboy1994]

Thanks. I'll keep my attenae polished.

[@firesong7825]

Lol, that should be a meme. "Time to Cersei Lannister some bitches" with the Great Sept explosion as the background.

[@Mican945]

"He would go hang out with her during the day and then sneak away with me at night, it was really sweet." Seriously? Come on, seriously? Like, seriously?

[@garygreely5578]

I enjoyed the story about your past. It is so sad that there are still people like these around.

[@tmichael39]

some of the comments on this video have me smh. I guess everyone judging Andrew have never acted on pure emotion or hormones at that age. Puh lease.

[@jacobmoe1675]

I love how you threw the bit in about Taylor Swift. Soooooooooooo true

[@osmanshah5046]

So you only had your shirt off huh? 😏

[@steventrosiek2623]

Wow, would I love to see it.

[@JJdaPK]

I'm a gay pastor's son and this sort of story is the reason why I didn't come out to my dad till I was 22 (after I graduated college). They had too much control over my life until then and I didn't want them to freak out and try to send me to conversion therapy.

[@alchriss.8998]

Im loving all these experiences. This story is so interesting ang you're so hot! Wew! 😉😊😍😘

[@90Cmart]

Lol

[@stevenocampo805]

Alcey Sassy Steven

[@georgH]

Eye candy it's always a plus in a yt video...

[@KoldingDenmark]

Thanks for shareing your story. It can be awfull growing up in a religious family. By story turned out differently thanks to my Dad, who supported me right from the beginning. It took him 4 years, though, to turn Mother around. But it paid off big time. My parents turned out GREAT. I have, though, over time seen situations like the one of your boyfriends several time and have learned that you never know how people react. You can have the nicest and most understanding parents infront of you way out in the countryside, whereas you can have the most ignorant and horrible city people parents, who have done nothing but reading books - for generations.

[@Powderlover1]

There's no hate like Christian love.

[@essenice]

For👏🏾Three👏🏾Hours👏🏾 lmao idk why that part was so funny😂😂😂

[@gracespring526]

I am a gay pastor. No big deal in my church.

[@tyshuon8786]

Grace Spring what about the part when he dated someone with a girlfriend?

[@miguelsarriamaldonad]

He was so lucky to have you through those hard times though. Your a great person Andrew

[@Codymeister99]

Did he survive his parents?

[@jamespaul8448]

Love your vids. Very entertaining and enjoyable. Love you and Arbor.

[@laneydreams]

Please don't think that all pastors/ Christians are like that. Most of us really aren't. Anyways, I love your videos and I hope you're doing well!

[@bobbyc.6698]

One of your best videos ever!!!!!!!! You brought serious awareness of how we are being treated in the extreme and you were passionate about it Andrew. Thank you.